SACREDWOUNDSORIGINALINNOCENCE

SACREDWOUNDS

ORIGINALINNOCENCE

PadmaAon

NOCOPYRIGHTNobody owns anything. The moment we think we do, we lose sight ofReality. With the first assumption of ownership, the urge to divide,separate, enclose and be apart from others, we are replicating our firstchoiceofseparationfromGod.Wearecontinuingthevirusoftheseparateself.The assuming of ownership sets inmotion awhole chain of events andemotions,rangingfromscarcity,greedandlack,tofearandenvy.I choose tonotcontinue thischain.Therefore thisbook isnotownedbyanybody, and these words belong to no one. Anyone can use it for anyreason,asIhonouryourfreewill.Inaddition,thisbookisfreeforallasanE‐Book. Ifyouwish tohaveaprintedcopy, it isavailableonthewebsitefor the printing andposting costs only. I donotmake a single pennyorcentonit.TruthisfreeandIamimmenselygratefulandoverjoyedbythisTruth.This isasmalltokenofmygratitudeandservicetoGodforsharingwithmeasmallpartofDivineLove. Iamhumbledtobeable toshare itwithyou.Mostofall,IthankGodinawayIcannotbegintodescribe.I have chosen to honour all the people who contributed to this book,throughtheirwritingsandteachings,andhavecreditedthemthroughoutthebookandintheResourcesSection.Idosooutofintegrity,respectandhonour, aswell as pointing others to them so theymay learn and growmoreinlove.InTruth,PadmaAonMoorea,August14,2011

Oursoul’swoundsareourpathwaysbacktoouroriginalinnocence.Ourwoundsareourownperfectdesign,asynchronoussacredpatternthatleadsusback,withoutfail,intoourownsovereignsoul.AlongthewayweformapersonalandtransformativelovingrelationshipwithGod,WhoseDivineLovetransformsourverysouls.Thenext evolutionary step involves the fulluseofouremotions,oursoulsandoursexualitywiththeSoulofGodinapersonalrelationship.ThisisourpotentialifwefeeldrawntoincludeallweareandcanbeasHumansonourjourney.Thedeepestwoundsof our soul are ourOriginalWounds.There aresix causal wounds that distort our soul’s connection to God onarchetypal, subconscious, genetic and primordial levels. It is theseinter connectedwounds that liebehindmanyof the inexplicableandunexplainable issueswe just cannot seem toget to thebottomof,nomatterwhatwe do. They form the basis of our separation fromGodandfromSoulorSelf‐Realisation.As we courageously feel and release these deepest of our soulswounds,our soul’s sacreddesiresmanifest faster.Whatweattract isdeeperthanwhatweevenimaginedourdesirescouldbe.AsweheadintoThe Great Shift of 2012 and beyond, the potential for growth isunparalleled. This Great Shift births into being within us by freelyembracingalloursoulswounds,allthedeepestemotionsandpainswehaveneverdared to feel,whichhold the greatest gifts of all time foreachandeveryoneofus:DivineLove.Along theWay,we rediscover: Self­love –learning to love yourself asGod loves you; The Five Wounds to Love; The Original split betweenmaleand female;Divine laws;how to receiveDivineLove, thegreatesttransformativepowerintheuniverse;TheThreeOriginalformsofLove,andLucifer’sMatrix:theemotionalmatrixweliveineveryday.Our sacred wounds carve our pathway back to God, throughout alltime, space and dimensions. Our soul’s wounds are the birth canalsand portals intowholeness, into love. Feel them back to their cause,and your heart‐soul will blossom into your untouched, originalinnocence.

CONTENTSINTRODUCTION 12Denial 21Vulnerability 23Humility 24Desire 24Embrace 26SELF­LOVE 28TheBasics 32Truth:FirstLaw 38Self­LoveandRelationships 43Discernment 504examplesofAddictionsinRelationships 55Solitude,Self–loveandrelationships 59LawsGoverningOurLoveofSelf 62Self­LoveandYourEmotions 74Self­Love:YourCore 85LoveYourselfAsGodLovesYou 87Self­LoveandAwakening 88THEFIVEWOUNDSTOLOVE 90BetrayalandTrust 99AbandonmentandReunion 112DenialandEmbrace 122SeparationandSurrender 134JudgmentandForgiveness 148HealingTheFiveWounds 159PrayertoHealTheFiveWoundsToLove 169THEORIGINALWOUNDS 172Yourparents,yourfirsthumanparents,yourDivineparents 182TheBlackEgg 190TheFirstHumanParents 196ConnectingtotheLoveofMotherFatherGod 202DisconnectedDNA 206TheAncientPathway:LossOfGreaterRelationship 206DNA:OurOriginalCodeofInnocence 207Earthchanges 211Sexuality:AnEngineToGod 215Lossofinnocence 219

LUCIFER’SMATRIX 222TheLuciferpattern 224TheMatrix 238TheMap 240Fear 242Pain 253NeedsandsubstitutesforGod 256AddictiontoSelf 263Yoursoulcondition 268Shame 270Unworthiness 273Grief 280GriefandSeparationfromGod 282PrayerforDivineTruth 287NotesonprayerforDivineTruth 289SPIRITS 304Whatarespirits? 306SpiritsandtheLawofAttraction 314Howtoprotectyourselffromspirits 319DIVINELAWS 324Humility 335Desire 336Freewill 336The42DoorwaystotheOpenHeart 343MALE­FEMALERE­UNION 346ApologyToTheDivineMasculine 356ApologyToTheDivineFemine 358Heartbreakspirits 362Thejourneyintotheheartofawoman 370Thejourneyintotheheartofaman 372ThePush­PullDynamic 374

SACREDRELATING 386TheIllusion 391Mistrust 401Sex,SoulandGod­Sixwaystomakelove 409Thewoundedyoniandlingam 411Thehealedyoniandlingam 413TheLightbodies 416TheWomb 417Yabyum:generationandcirculation 418BelovedGod 419Thesacredlingam 422THEMIRROROFLOVE 432TheMirror 434ThePrayerofLove’sMirror 443Purity 446

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Thenextevolutionarystepforhumanityinvolvesthefulluseof our emotions, our souls and our sexuality in a personalrelationshipwiththeSoulofGod.Onthis journey,thebiggestwounds of your soulwill arise, thatwhich youhave carriedinsideyouforeons.The lovebetweenyouandGodbringsupall that isnot lovewithin you, and all that feels it is notworthy of love insideyou. Divine Love separates the wheat from the chaff, lovefromfear,woundsfromwholeness,darkfromlight.Thesoulsjourneyisoneoffeelings.Ourfeelingsmakeuswhoweare,andtheydefinetheverynatureofoursoul.Theyareour vital, living connection, language and communion withthe Divine. Developing and expanding our souls to the fullpotential we have been created means unifying our sexualenergy and our emotions in the heart‐soul, and with God.These are the most challenging areas for modern dayhumanity.God has been relegated to an anachronism and tool of fear‐inducingreligiousbeliefs;Godasanentityhasbeenreducedto an impersonal field, rather than a personal, living Soulwhomweallhaveaccesstodirectlythroughourhearts,andwhorespondstous,wholovesusperfectly.ItisthisLovethatweallstrivetoonsomelevel,evenifwearenotawareofthis.Our emotions are often misunderstood, judged, denied andprematurely transcended in favour of a ‘higher’ spiritualitythatseessoulfulfeelingsaspartofthestoryofa‘self’wehaveto let go of and move on from, rather than embrace anddevelopintoitsfullnessthroughhumilityandvulnerability.Sexuality is still largely repressed, bought and sold as acommodity,fearedanddesiredbecauseofitsawesomepower

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to take us out of the mundane and into the extraordinary.Sexualityinlovingfeelingfromthesoulformsadeeppartofour most blissful, ecstatic states. God loves sex and sexualexpressioninharmonywithlove,bothhumanandDivine,forthe creation of your soul and all living things comes fromGod’s sexual expression; we are designed for sexualexpression. Without it we are incomplete, for avoidance orwronguseofsexualenergycausesdenialsandpainwithinthesoul,preventingspiritualdevelopment.1Sexuality is a core attributeof every soul.When sexuality isdeveloped harmonious with self‐love, you have a deeperlovingconnectionwithyourselfandwithyourpartner,andassexualityisconnectedtoDivineLovewecanfulfillourhighestpotentials.Godcanbeinthebedroom!Wecantakesexualityinto its Divine design and enjoy it as it is meant to be, inprayer,tocommunewithHim/Her.Sexuality+lovingorgasmindesireforGodisoneofthemostpowerful forces in the universe, powerful enough to moveeven the Galactic Centre. This is not amyth; I have directlyexperiencedthis.Lovingemotioncombinedwithourprecioushuman sexuality and soul, in alliancewith the God of Love,Creatorof all universes, can create awave todismantle anddissolveall formsofcontroland fearmechanismswithinus,andestablish the trueDivine feminineandDivinemasculineonEarth.Toliveandembodythis,choosetofeel,embrace,andincludeallpartsofyoursoulanditswounds,itsshadow.Partofthisinvolves truly loving our own self, and healing our FiveWoundstoLove,whichweallsufferfrom,regardlessofrace,age,religionorbeliefsystem.Theseareourunhealed,unfelt

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emotions of judgment, our gut felt pain and feelings ofbetrayal,theresistance,wallsandjustificationsofdenial,theplunging feelings of abandonment and loneliness, and theisolated,neuteredandtranscendeddetachmentfromfeelingsinseparation.Weallfeeloneortwothesewoundsaspartofthecoreofourshadow,ourdeepestwound,thepatternthathasalwaysbeenthere,thecrosswehavealwaysborne.All five wounds are healed through feeling the heartfulqualities of true soul love,which can only come to any realfruitionbyconnectingtoGod,theCreatorofoursoul.WecanonlytrulyloveourselvesinourfullestpotentialonceweloveGodandreceivethisDivineLove.Thenpalpableforgiveness,natural, open trust, vulnerableandcourageousembrace, thejoyofreunionandthelettinggoofsurrendercanflowerintofullnesswithinyoursoulasitsverysubstancetransforms.Underneath these fivewounds lie ourOriginalWounds on agenetic,primordial,archetypalandcollectivelevel.Buriedsodeep, coveredover ingeniously,wehave forgottenandbeenmisinformedaboutthem.OurOriginalWoundinginformsoursense of brokenness, seeking and separation, and a deep,almostunspeakable feeling thatwehave fundamental flaws,thatdespiteallourseeking,strivingandhealing,isstillhere.As long as thisMatrix of theOriginalWounds exists,we canneverbe free.ThisMatrixhas createdall theways inwhichhuman society operates today. Our religions, spiritualtraditionsandbeliefsystems,economics,systemsof ‘justice,’government, law, armed forces, rules of polite and civilizedsociety,emotionalandsexualrepression……allofithasbeenbirthed from this Matrix of the Original Wounds. The falsewisdom and information generated from these wounds isconstantly guiding you, in the background of your emotions

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andthoughts,vibratinglikeasinuousthreadthroughoutyourlife.Ourmemories andwounds run underneath the surface.Wehave forgotten that they are there, sowell have society andwe covered them. But they still dominate our lives untilwehumbly ask for them to reveal themselves, and to feelwhatwehaveneverdaredtofeel.Infeelingthesedepths,wecarveopenthepathwaytoDivineLovethroughourdeepdesireforIt.AllourwoundscreateapathwaythatleadtoDivineLove,ifwebutaskforitsincerely.Inaskingsincerely,wereceive.ThegreatestsinglethingwearemissingintheworldtodayisDivine Love, and the fact is that we substitute this loss ofDivine Love and replace it with human love. People andrelationships have become the new god, sex, power andmoney the currency.Theexperienceand receivingofDivineLovehasbecomesomarginalized,forgottenandrelegatedtoobscure mystical texts that it has become a dead language.Thisisbecausesofewpeoplereceiveit,yetthetragedyisthateveryone can receive it, and in fact we are created to andindeedDivinelyDesignedto.ReceivingDivineLovebringsupall that It isnotwithinyou.Perfectlovecastsoutallfear.Fearandlovedonotexistwitheachother.Itisoneortheother.AsyouexperiencemoreandmoreDivineLove,allthatisfearful,hurtandwoundedwithinyou arises tobe seen and embraced.The Journeyof healingyourwoundsshowsyouwhatloveisinallitsfacets,inwayswethoughtbeforewasnotlove,butintruthis.Wecannotdothisalone;weneedGodtohelpus,foronlythisLovecantakeusalltheway.ToreceiveDivineLove,allonehastodoisaskGodsincerelywithdeepdesire. ‘Godhelpme toreceiveyourDivineLove’,

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or inwhateverwayyourheart feels to ask. YetwhatblocksourreceivingofthismostgloriousandpowerfulofallLoves,the Lovewe have alwayswanted but have forgotten about,are our souls wounds, which we sometimes refuse toacknowledge, feelordive into.The fullaskingand feelingofthemhastohappenaspartofthisprocess.We tend to intellectualizeouremotions,deceivingourselvesintheprocess.Throughhumility,havingaburningdesireandwillingness to feel and experience ALL your emotions,whether they are painful or pleasurable, you are saying toGodyouwishtorevealwhoyouare,andfeelwhoyoureallyare,NOTwhat you think andhope you are.2 This honesty isthefirststeptowardstruthandrealLove,andopensthedoorto God. It is the signal to God that we desire Love, and arereadytoreceive it.ThenDivineLovecancome.Andwhen itdoes come, even one drop of it will transform yourperceptions and path forever.Withmore Divine Love, yoursoul too will transform forever from a human soul into aDivineSoul.Indesiring to feel,wecometoabasic truth:allwoundsandpainswehavearedenialsoflove,errorsagainstlovethatwehavecreated,andtheymustbeexperiencedfullybeforetheyarereleased forever.Choosenot to justrest in theeffectsorthe surface layer of your wounds, such as fear, anger,neediness, loneliness, blame, projection, shame, resentmentandenvy.Underneaththesesurfaceemotions,whichwestillhavetofeeland move through, you will feel deeper wounds of grief,powerlessness, and unworthiness. We do not want to feelthese deeper emotions at all, and we will do anything to

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escape feeling them, creating elaborate belief systems,religions,personaltruths,addictionsandsubstitutesofeverykind toavoid feeling them.This is theessenceof thehumancondition.Wewould rather experience temporary pleasure,addictionsanddistractions,overandoveragain,ratherthanfeelpain.The Truth is actually the reverse; by feeling these painfulemotions,wefreeoursoultoreceivethegreatestLoveofall.Our wounds are sacred because they are the path to theDivineandtothefullsovereignhealingofyoursoul.You connect to your soul through your own true emotionalcondition. This is felt. You do not truly connect with othersouls, or thedepths of your soul, by thoughts orwords, butthrough deep feelings, desire and love. You ONLY connectwith God personally through your true, sincere soul‐emotional condition, throughyearning, desiring andprayingtoGodsincerelyfromyourheart.3At first, one can feel shy (shame) as one calls out toemotionally connect, or pray to God. One can feel naked,small,andnotdeservingto‘bother’almightyGod,whereasinpraying or evoking a ‘Master’, the connection can feelmorelikea friendand teacher,because that ‘Master’ is/wasoncehuman,justlikeyou.WithGod,youarecallingtoconnectwithyour Creator. This is a totally different proposition! And formany,assoonasweareabletofeelthistruereachingouttoGodfromourhearts,wearehumbled.Humility is the key to prayer, with the emotion of sincerelongingandapure,unconditional,notwantinganythingback,burning desire to connect to God in a genuine welling and

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yearning from the depths of your heart. Themore youpraylikethistoreceiveGod’sLoveintoyoursoul,thedeeperyourheartwill be carved open, and themore your soul can healand transform. There is nothing more alchemical or moretransformative, in any universe or dimension, to your soulthanreceivingDivineLove. It is simple,andweallhave thiscapacity,nomatterwhatorwhowethinkweare.Your soul is the domain of all your deeper feelings; desires,longingsandpassions,andthesearehowyoureachGod.Godconnectstoyou,Soultosoul,inthislanguage.Thisiswhatthesoul was created for. Where do all the heavenly surges ofgratitude,joyandheartbreakinglovecomefrom?Theycomefrom a different source other than our realm of normalhuman emotions and relationships. They come from God toyoursoul.Praying to receive Divine Love will bring forth all theopportunitiesforyouineveryaspectofyourlifetohealyoursoulswoundsbylivingmoreinDivineTruththroughtheLawofAttraction,thedivinemessenger.Asthisoccurs,itmaylookasifyourlifehasgoneintochaos,anditmayverywelldo;foryoursoultoreceivemoreandmoreofGod’sloveisamassivestepinyourtransformation,andistheultimatealchemyofallcreation.THEPATHTOLOVEThere are five emotional states on the Path of the soul’shealing into Divine Love, which are shared in depththroughoutthisbook.ThesefivebasicstepsallunitethroughhumilityanddesireforDivineLoveandtruth.

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1.DENIAL

The first step is recognizing that there is somethingmissingand something not quite right in your life. That there issomethingmore,andthatdespiteyourbestefforts,thesamepatternskeeparisingagain.All our emotional and intellectual justifications,minimizations and denials of our deeper emotions serve tokeep us on the surface of life, and in fear. The surfaceemotions of denial are fear, anger, deflection, shame, selfpunishment, resentment, feigned or unconscious ignorance,unwillingness to look at something obviously happening inyour life, projectionandblame. If youdoanyoneof theseatany time, youare indenialandarestayingon thesurfaceofyoursoul,inthesoul’swounds.Youareblockingoutlifeandlove,andchoosinginsteadtolovefearmorethanlove.Other ways denial and fear can manifest are throughaddictions, such as food, drugs, sex, books, socializing, notwishing to be alone, becoming too busy or career/worldorientated,andthewheelofspiritualseekingitself.Acknowledge and ask to feel the feeling underneath thepattern, thepain, the fear, theanger thatyouknow is there.Ask to feel it totally.Theprecisionofprayermakes it100%effectivewhen it is appliedwithDivine laws of love. AskingGodoranyoneelsetowipeoutyourownhurts,creationsanderrors against love before feeling them fullywill only delayyour own souls growth, and in truth will not actually work.There are no shortcuts around the law of cause and effect andfreewill. They are the basis of the universe. We only feel painbecauseofourowndenialoflove,eithernoworinthepast.Then,Acceptthefeeling

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ANDAsktofeelandfullyembracethefeeling,letssayfear,withprayertoGod, asking for Divine Love, the greatest accelerator andtransformative power in the universe. Stay with the feeling forhowever long it takes. It is simple yet it works completely andtotally with your sincere desire. And it will release your soulforever from these emotions, and their causes, that no other‘method’cando.To acknowledge the feelingwith awareness is not enough. Theremaybe fearor emotionaldeceptionhere, keepingyouaway fromtheemotionalcharge.Onecanthenmove into thesecondstageof‘leapfrogging’overthetopof theemotionbyapparentlyacceptingthe emotion, all within the safety of your own head.Intellectualizingthewholeprocess, imaginingthatyouarehealingyourself,feelingjustsurfaceemotions,gladthatyouhaveidentifiedyourpatternsorwounds, isa classicmistake.Allyouaredoing isdelayingtheinevitable,andmaybeevenmakingitworse.The biggest fear here is thinking that the pain stored underneaththesurfaceistoomuchforyoutobear,thatitwilloverwhelmyou,that itwillgoon forever.Youmayhave fears thatsomeemotionsare just impossible to feel, or that youmay become engulfed andoverwhelmedbytheirsensation,thatitmightbetoobigtohandle,thatyouarenotcapableof feelingthem,thatyoumaystarttocryandneverknowhow to stop.This is fearblockingyou from trulyfeelingwhatyouneed to feel.Thisanticipatingof pain, the fearofpain,isactuallyworsethanthepainitself;bothtriggerthesamepartofthebrainandemotions.So,atthisplace,addresstheissuebyasking,“WhyamIblockingmyemotions?”Up will bubble the usual suspects: failure, weakness, emotionalbreakdown, mental reasons, a need to be perfect, a wish to notbother anyone or God, awish to please others, fears ofmadness,despair….thelistgoeson.However,oncethereisanopening,eventheowningoftheseinitialfearsbringsrelief.

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Fearscausethestrongestchargesofresistance,butonceyouhavefelt these fully, the deeper feelings that emerge can be embraced.Yes, of course there areother feelings tobe experienced, but it isnowhere near as close to the discomfort of fearing the fear itself!You now know that you are not a failure or weak, that breakingdown actually requires great strength, and that eventually itwilldissolve,freeingyouforeverintoanindescribableLove.When you start to experience a desire, yearning and consistentaskingtofeelallandanyemotionsthatmayflowthroughyou,youknowitisbecauseofthelovethatwaitsforyouontheotherside.Irelishthechancetofeelmysoulwounds,knowingthattheoutcomewillbemoreloveformysoul;moreclosenesstoGod(astherearelessbarrierstoGod)andthenthislovecanflowouttoallothers.Itisawin‐win‐winsituation, formysoul, forallothersouls,and forGod,whodeeplydesirestoknowmemore.Sowhynotdoit?2.VULNERABILITYAll of this involves vulnerability, in total honesty, expression andtransparency. This reveals ALL the hidden thoughts, feelings andagendas you have been keeping secret to yourself, and from allothers. Secrecy is the hallmark of shame, and is a big block tohumility. Themore you keep anything secret, themore it hauntsyou,buildingupmoreandmorelayersovertimeofshame,regret,judgment, self loathing, fear and anger, as well as many mentalstrategiesofcontinual lyingtocoveroverthefearyoumayfeelatexposingyourself.Themoreyoucoverupanddonot fully feeland investigatewhatyouarekeepingwithinyou,eventhoughyouknowit is there, themoreyouaresuppressingyoursoulandyourcapacitytoloveandto receiveDivineLove.Themoreyou reveal andexpressyourselfhonestlytobewhoyouarerightnow,ratherthanwhatyouwouldlike to be in the future ORwhat otherswould like to see you as,(reputation and appearances) the closer you arewalking towardsGodinaverypracticalandtangibleway.Themoreyoudothis,the

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moreGodcancometoyou,andshowyouthismanifestationinyourlifeinallways,andfromalldirections.3.HUMILITYHumilityisTHEMOSTIMPORTANTPERSONALQUALITYWEHAVETO DEVELOP IF WE ARE GOING TO grow in love, and becomecloser toGod. It is yourpassionatedesire and longing to express,feelandexperienceallofyourownemotions,withoutharminganyotherperson,whether these emotions andbeliefs arepleasurableorpainfultoyoutoexperience.4Your passionate desire and longing to be initially at leastintellectually open to the investigation, feeling and discovering ofyourown‘personaltruths’willcomefromanalmostinfinitevarietyofsources,intheformofyourLawofAttraction,otherpeople,newideas,concepts,andbeliefswhichchallengeyouremotionalstancesand internal referencepointswhichdominateyour life,whichareunseen and unfelt but like a river under the surface guiding themovementsofyourverysoulsexistence.AllowingDivineTruthstoenter your soul occurs through feeling the hurt emotions of your‘personaltruths’.4.DESIRETruedesireforDivineLove,forDivineTruth,forGod,isoneofthemostpotentforcesintheuniverse.Arisingfromthedepthsofyourheart and soul, it is the call for Divine Love when asked for inhumility,sinceredesireandheartfelt,heartbreakingyearning.Godwillneverignorethis,asHedesirestogiveyouthisLove,andisjustwaitingforyoutoask.Apartofyouhastoopentoevensincerelyanddeeplyask forDivineLove,andtoreceive it, for it isonlyourfear and self created barriers that veil our feelings of desire forDivineLove.

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Yearning allowsGod to knowyoudesireHim/Her, andopens thedoorsforGodtocomein.Withoutthisburningdesire,Godcannotgive you Divine Love or truths, because you have not exercisedyourchoiceordesireandputthemintoaction.YouwillreceiveallyoumostdesireonceyouletgoofitinfavourofDivineLoveandTruth,withGod.Whenthishappens,yourpreviousdesires,intentionsandgoalswillnotmatteranyway.So,justgofortruth. Desires will be fulfilled once you feel and accept the truthaboutyourselfandabouthowGodoperates.Purposeiswhatdrivesdesire.Withpurpose,thereisdirectionandacontainer forenergy topour into.Purposecreates thecontainerand crucible for Divine transformation to occur.Waterwithout ajug will just flow everywhere and create a mess! It also sends asignaltotheuniversethatallowsitsforcestoflowintoyou,foryouare the container. If thereare leaksanddoubts inyour container,holesandwounds,Godwillneverbeabletofillyouupcompletely,andinsofillingdissolveyoursenseofseparateself.What you fervently desire, youwill attract andmanifest.DesiringDivineLoveandDivineTruthwillalignallpartsofyourlifetoGod.Sortoutyourinnerfoundationandtheouterwillariseasaneffectof this. Many of us confuse the two as we seek something elseoutside our own self to make the hole and pain within bearable,avoiding going into this pain by covering it over, stuffing downdeeper urges with surface substances and objects. This is howspiritual materialism works, by covering over our souls wounds,whicharepathwaystotruthandDivineLove,withsuperficialandglamourousoptions.AswegrowinLoveandTruth,ourdesiredeepens,notlessens.Ourhumilitygrows,notlessens.Webecomemorevulnerable,notless.Our heartfelt desire for God becomes the most simple singlestrongestforceforchangeinourlife,andeventheCelestialAngelswillnoticeitintheirjoy,happinessandwonder.Desirebecomesacrying,shaking,tearstrewnhappeningaswegrowclosertoGod,asitissimplythisthatwilltakeusallthewaytoGodinourhumility.

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5.EMBRACEAcceptance is the gateway to embrace. Acceptance allows one tosink down into these newly discovered feelings and truths. Inemotional acceptance, one surrenders themind’s controlover theheart, and chooses freely to feel the underlying pain, no matterwhatitis.Herecomesthedawningofamuchdeeperresponsibilitytocleanupyourlife.Youacceptthatnooneelsecandoit,andyouacceptthatyouhavetogothroughandfeelthedepthsofallthesefeelings.Youchoosetofeel,andarereadytodivedeepandstayinthefeeling,nomatterwhatittakes,andwithDivinehelp.Inallowanceyousee the truthaboutyourself.Youallowthepain,thesadness,theanger,thegrief,andtheunworthinesstobubbleupand be in you. Allowance is the open expressing, the radicallyhonestacknowledgmentofwhatyoufeelmaymakeyoulooksmallorweak,knowingthatthiswillenableyoutolovemore.Youcanonly forgiveotherswhenyouforgiveyourself.Todothis,youhavetofeelalltheharmyouhavedonetoanyoneatanytime,or be willing to, at least. This willingness opens the door toforgiveness because you are embracing all the harm you havecreated.Godcanhelpyouwiththis,andcandoitveryquicklyifyouarewillingandtrulysincere.Peoplecannotreallytotallyforgiveyou,andmakeyourownpaingoaway.Theycansay‘Iforgiveyou’,butitwillonlywork,eveniftheapology is sincere andgenuineonboth sides, on certain layersofthewound.Thisisbecausethecauseofitneedstobefeltbyyouasit was created by you. Only by working with God can you fullyforgive,byyourchoosingtofeelthecauseofyourwoundandwhatyou have done acting from this wound. This includes feeling thepainandharmyouhavereceivedfromothers,whichyoumayhaveglossedover,blockedout, justified,minimizedand/orput copingmechanismsinplaceinordertostopfeeling.Thistakesempathytothenext levelandcompletestheprocessofforgiveness. Imagine: all theharmyouhavedone,all thepainyou

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have inflicted on anyone everyou now voluntarily choose to feel.Thisisforgivenessinaction.Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses yourunderstanding.5Embracingtakeseverythingandanythingyou feel isunacceptableandbringsthatvibrationoftheunacceptableinsideyourheart.Thelovingsoulembracesandacceptswhatishappeninginanymomentbecause itneedsnothing fromthesituationor fromothersas it isfilledwithDivineLoveanddesiresonlytofollowDivineTruth.Thisis an automatic realisation once one is receivingDivine Love andhashadGodremoveenoughcausalemotionstoallowit.Itisnotastrategy,norcaniteverbe.Itistheessence,thefabricofthelovingsoulitself.Inembrace,thereisnothingthatissingledoutaswrong,unacceptable,orunworthyofembrace.Feelingisbelieving.There is a God, and now is the time to develop the relationshipbetween your soul and God’s Soul, and to prioritise thatrelationshipaboveanyother.TheGracethatarisesfromyoutakingthis action, and continuing these actions,will be the fulfillmentofyoursoul’strueandsacreddesires,andiswhatGoddesiresdeeplyforyou: tobecomeDivineLove.Thiswillnaturallycomefromtheconsistent followingofTruth in every aspect of your life.And theresultisbeyondyourwildestdreams.

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Youare thecauseofallyour frustrations.Onceyouhavesortedoutyourself,thecause,theeffectstakecareofthemselves.Self‐loveisthefirststeptowardsthefullnessofnaturalloveandtohow, in time,wemay also realize an aspect of howGod loves us.True self‐love is the consistent awareness and action where weaccept and love ourselves, and recognize the changeswe need tomakeinourselves,honestlyandhumbly,togetclosertoGod.Trueself‐loveiswhenwenolongerneedanythingfromanyotherperson on any level to make us who we are or make us whole.(Needisdifferenttodesire,passionandyearning.)Thisistrueself‐responsibility.Trueself‐loveandtrueself‐responsibilityinhumilitycreatethesolidfoundationforasoulthatisbecomingtrulylovingandjourneyingtobecomingatonewithGod.Thisissosimple,yetprofound.Unconditionallovebeginsathome,inyou,inyourownbodytemple,inyourownfeelingsoul, inyourown gift of themind, in your own connection to Spirit. From thisfoundationallunfoldsandrevealsaccordingtoDivineLaws.Ifyoucannotloveyourtruesoulself,whomcanyoulovetruly?Andhowcananyoneelseloveyoutruly?Self‐love is thebasis forall intimate soulful relationshipsof everykind.Withoutself‐love,allyourrelationshipswillneverbesoulfullysuccessful. You canpretend that theyare, but theywill alwaysbeerror strewn and hiding a part of your own wounded self. IncomingclosertoGod,weloveourownsoulmore.Self‐love is the basis for an awakened civilization. Self‐love is thebasisforbeingabletocomeclosertoGod,closertoyoursoulmate,andclosertoyoursoulfamily;ourdeepesthumandesires.Intrulylovingyourselfandsoul,youwillattractyourhighestpotentialtoyou, through your increasingly intimate andmore soulful relatingtoGod,inthepeoplearoundyou,andinyourpartner.Ifyoudonottruly love yourself, or have disguised it through intellectual/spiritual beliefs, emotional denial, transcendence of body andavoidanceofemotions,overfocusonpartnerorchild,thentheLawof Attraction will reflect this in your outer world and

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circumstances, no matter what techniques or strategies you useandmanipulate,untilyouaddresstheseissues.Manycommunities failorneverreally takeoffbecausethepeopledo not really love themselves. If awhole community of souls dideach love their own individual soul, then they could all cometogether far more freely, fluently and cohesively. If they wereasking God for help in their souls growth, and receiving DivineLove,theywouldbeabletoloveeachothertruly,withoutdemand,expectation, sentiment, dogma, and without any need to lookartificially loving. Without imposed man made laws based onhumanlovealone,theywouldtrulybeabletocommuneandignitesoulful human potential to a far greater extent than has beenpossiblethusfar.And this communion, this synergy, not focused on any oneindividual or master but rather the indwelling love within eachsoulsrelationshiptoGodandthereceivingofDivineLovefromGodcreates something extraordinary. In this, we can now trulycommunewithothers, becausewe live in communion inourownsoulsrelatingtoGod.Self‐loveistheseedoftrueservice.

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THEBASICSTHEPHYSICALThePhysicalbodyisyourTempleforLight.Itisnotaboutescapingthebody, or lookingbeyond it; it is about embracing and ignitingthelatentpotentialsheldwithinourbodiesandDNA.Wearemadein God’s image, so how comewe are not living up to that as yet?Could it be because of the denial of our bodies, self‐love andsexuality?Coulditbebecauseofthedisconnectionfromthegeneticpotentialswe all havewithin our bodies? Great secrets still to beactivated lie here, and in the union and navigation of our bodiesand our soul essence. It has been said that our DNA has evolved5000timesfasterinthelastfewthousandyearsthanithasdoneinthe previous few thousand years. This will only continue toacceleratenow.Self‐love,sovereignsoul love, is thekeytogenetictransformationandtransfigurationintoourfullHumanpotential.‘Ascension’isreallyallabout‘descension;’drawingmoreandmorelight into the physical body from the Sun, from our food, air,environment,water, from God, from our sovereign soul love, andfromthereflectionofourrelationships;givingandreceiving;lovingourselfenablesustoloveothers.Inordertofacilitatebasicstepstowardsthis,therearesomesimplelawstofollow:Nomeateating:youwilllightenupyourloadconsiderablybyonlyeatingorganic,vegetarianandlivingfoods.Inthis,youbecomeableto access deeper emotional states, more love, and vibrationallyclearer frequencies,aswellas losingweight, feelingbetter,havingmoreenergyandcleanerorgans.Animals that have been killed aremurdered, and you are part ofthatmurder.Eatingmeatisafundamentallyunlovingact,towardsyourselfandtowardstheanimal.Eatingananimalslaughteredinahighstateoffearandadrenaltoxicity,triggersyourreptilianbrainand hormones based on fear and survival; it is like eating death.Theharmyouareingestingisactuallylikedoingtheharmyourself.

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Whatdoyouchoose?Lifeordeath?Noteatingmeatalsofreesupalotofenergyfromyourdigestiveprocessthatcanthengotowardsyourhealing.Trustme,youneedallyourenergytoheal!Drink goodwater: Springwater or ionizedwaterwith a ph of 8andaboveisgoodwater.Mineralwaterisok,butifyoureallywantto bring inmore spiritual light, hydrate your body, releasewastefrom your cells, release emotional memories and traumas, havemore energy, detoxify FAST and on a very deep level, and have aclearer mind, you need high PH water! It is a vital step towardssoulfulhealth.YoucanalsouseFlanagan’sCrystaldropsorwaterionizers.Allofthismaybemoderatelyexpensive,butwillactuallysaveyoumoneyinthelongterm.Donotuseplasticbottlesastheyleakcarcinogenicmaterialsintothewater.Eatgood food: living foods, raw foods, superfoods,organic foods,sprouted foods, fresh fruit/ vegetable juices and smoothies. NOacidic foods: coffee,bread,dairy, cakes,biscuits, canned foodsetc.Letgoofthesenowastheyclogupyoursystemandpreventhigherfrequencies entering, as well as mask emotional addictions bystuffingthemdownandcomfortingthem,ratherthanexposingandhealingthem,whichisthetrulylovingactiontodo.No fluoride or MSG. No smoking, alcohol or drugs of any kind,eitherrecreationalorchemicalfromthepharmacyoryourdoctor.All of these are emotional crutches and masks that prevent youfromaccessingyourtrueemotions,yourtruewounding,yoursoul,andthereforeGod!And,anythingonceinawhileisfine.Behonest,allowthingstodropastheyarenaturallymeantto,andyouwillnoticeanewlightnessof being, as well as weight loss, more clarity, centredness, moreenergy, and more emotional and soulful capacity. If you cannotkeeptothediet,noticewhatemotionsarearising,andthepatternsthatkeepcomingthatyoudonotwishtodealwith.Thiswillbethekey to your healing. This is alsowhy diets do notwork formanypeople, as the extra weight can, in many instances, be emotionalbaggage.

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Doacleanseofsomekind:colonics,enema,fast,livercleanse,juicefast,herbaldetox.Haveyourownspaceandownbedtosleepinwhenyoufeellikeit.Honourthispartofyou.Sleepingalone,evenifyoudearlyloveyourpartner, is great for both of you as it gives your energetic bodiestimetobreathe,expand,relaxandrest.Thisisespeciallyimportantwhengoingthroughdeephealing.Solitudeworksverywellforsoulgrowthattherighttime.Wear organic materials and clothing, use organic materials anddécoronyoursofaandbed.WatchlessTVandspendlesstimeonthecomputer.Lessgossip!Dosomeexerciseeveryday, stretching,walking innature,yoga,running etc. Core exercise, cardio exercise, whole body exercise,anythingdesignedtogetyousweating,theheartbeatingfaster,andthe whole body to enter movement and therefore release. Ofcourse,sexualityisalsopartofthis,andmuchofthisisdealtwithinthebooks‘ThePowerofShakti,’and‘WombWisdom’.Manytraditionsthataredeathfocusedtalkabouttheseparationofspirit and matter, the same traditions that focus on fear, guilt,shame and a vengeful deity that separates humans from otherhumansandindeedhumansfromGod.Isthislovespeaking?We are moving into a different era, Aquarius ruling rather thanPisces. The quantum leaps in nutrition, water, raw foods, Tantra,yogaandhealtharebecomingmorelifeaffirmingandbodycentred.Whatifthebodyandsoulreflecteachother?Our DNA is shifting just as times on earth change. Just as greatempiresriseandfall,justastherewasanindustrialrevolutionandinternet revolution, so there is now a genetic revolution akin tothesemovements.OurDNAisgettingmassivelyupgraded,marriedto the changing of the Sun’s patterns affecting and changing themagneticfieldsofourplanet,whichinturnischangingthefieldsofour bodies and of course the fields and structures of our DNA.The(r)evolutionofconsciousnessonearthismappedinpartbythisgeneticrevolutionhappeningrightnow.Inyourbodyandsoul.

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AsourDNAandtheSunshifts,whynotinfuseyourbodywithlightand allow it to dance with, and in, spirit? Are they notcomplementing each other, each making us whole? You are lightandfleshshiningtogether.YourbodyisGod‐given.Toacceptitistoaccept God's gift. To make your body your ally, is to make it aTempleforGod.6Self‐love and sense of self is also located in the belly, sacral andsolar plexus chakras and the organs around them. All of thiscontributes to core strength, core stability. Opening and healingthese areas is crucial, through core strength training, Psoas deepstructural release, emotional release and expansion. Pilates, harawork,martialarts,corestabilitygymclasses,andyogacanallhelpwiththis,andiscommonlyavailable.Ifyouareconsidereda‘pushover’andcanrelatetonotlovingyourself,thendosomeofthiscorework!Aman'sharaishis"palaceofessence."Asamandevelopshisharapower, he reaffirms and repossesses the "womanly" qualities hehaspreviouslydisowned.Asawomandevelopsherwombwisdom,shebecomesmorestable,groundedandinflowwiththeweboflifeitself,developinghermoremalequalitiesinharmonywithherdeepfemininewisdomandpower.Hebegins toperceiveawomanasaperson,informedbyherownpurpose.Shebeginstoallowthemanintohermoreandmore.His need to control her diminishes. Her need to manipulatedissolves. They both become more capable of entering into arelationshipofmutualrespect.Aswomenandmenincreasinglyliveandbreathefromthiscentre,theypreparethemselvestoenterintothe egalitarian relationships many men and women desire, anddeserve. Truly loving relationships can develop as the partnerseachlivefromaninnersoulsource,andcansupporteachotherinreturningtotheircorewisdom,againandagain.

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ThePsoasmuscle is amoreunusual and lessknownaspectofourcore.Itisvitalinitspotentialanditistrulyamazingwhyitisrarelymentioned, like the Atlas bone in the neck. Within the Taoisttradition the Psoas is spoken of as the "muscle of the soul". ThePsoasgrowsoutof thespine, fanning laterally inapyramidshapethrough the abdominal core, fanning open and emerging into theupperhips.The first threechakrasare locatedwhere thephysicalPsoasemergesandflows,particularlyaffectingthesacralcoreandthe kidneys, which govern fear. Its full expression, whenundomesticated,spreadsupwardintotheheartandthencontinuesopeningintothehigherChakras.’’7Itistheonly'muscle'toconnectthespinetothelegs.Releasing the Psoas is sensitive, and can relate to sexuality, earlychildhoodmemoriesof ‘potty’ training, andcanholddeep traumafrommanysuchrelatedissues.AsLizKochshares,‘YourPsoas,likethetongue, isanorganofperception,partofyourflight, fight,andfreeze response. Your Psoas is juicy, responsive, dynamic, neededto be free for full body orgasm. It is related to your ’self’preservation:survivalversusliving.Psoasisamessengerofthecore,and literally embodies deep urges for survival, and elementaldesirestoflourish.Expressing a deep, primordial desire for integrity, passion, andpossibility,ourPsoasrevealssoulqualitiesimbuedwithinourownfleshandbloodasasensorysourceofprimordialenergy.ThePsoasis wild and primitive. It is part of the reptilian brain, the mostancient interior part of the brain stem and spinal cord involvingone's own capacity to sense oneself.Deepwithin our primitivecore there is an array of energetic patterns, of past ancestry,current family patterns, environmental imprints, and mostimportantly,ourbirthrightforembodiment.When released from trauma and bondage, the Psoas ignites itsprimordial origins of possibility in core resiliency, creativesolutions, new ideas, and a more open heart. Being aware of the

7ThePrimordialPsoasandtheChakraSystem,byLizKoch,coreawarenesss.com

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Psoasrevealsnotonlyourpersonalhumanexperience,butalsoourunknownpotential.Working,with,healingandreleasingthePsoasthrough structural bodywork and a sensitive practitioner canrelease deep trauma and repression in the core of our primal,emotional and subconscious feeling self in ways we could neverotherwiseaccess.Thisthenenablesustorespondratherthanreactmore,andloveourselvesbyfeelingmoreofwhomweareandwhatwehavebeenholdingunder the surface inourprimordial feelingnatures.OntheemotionalListento,care for,andallowallyouremotions.Truly feel themtotheirdepths,andaskGod tohelpyou feel the truecausesofyourwoundingand to receiveHisLove tohelpyoudo this.Embrace itall.Thiswholebookisaboutemotions,thesoulanditsconnectiontothedivine,butsufficetosaythisistheessence.OnthementalIdentity your beliefs, feel the emotional pains behind them thatcreatedthem,anduseyourmindtoworkastheservantofthesoul,ratherthanthemindbeingthemasterofthesoul.OnthesoulandspiritbodiesHeal the souls core wounds throughout time, and ask for DivineLoveinalignmentwithDivineTruth.WithGodLook after and care for your relationship to God daily. Put yourdeep, sincere, emotional and soulful desire into prayer with Goddaily.Behonestandhumble.Doyouloveyourselffullyinalltheseareas?Ifnot,whynot?Whatisyourexcuse?Whatemotion liesunderneaththesurfaceexcusegeneratedbyyourmind?Whatemotionliesunderneaththat?

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Onceyoucanfeelyourhumilityunderneaththeresentmentorfreewill issues thatarise, thenyouknowyouareon theright track tomoretruthinyourlife!Askandyoushallreceive.Ifyoudonotfeelworthytoaskforwhatyou desire in life, from others, from yourself and from God,physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually, then you will notreceive it. Ask today for something your soul has always desired,butwhichyouhaveneveraskedGodfor;youmaybesurprisedatwhat you receive orwhat happens. Give yourself something yoursoul has always desired to feel and experience. Do not be secondbestanymore.TRUTH:FIRSTLAWWhen we deeply desire and long for truth, we will go throughanythingtorealizeit.Allideas,allwaystoblockfeelingit,willariseforusoncewehaveoutourdesireintoaction,andthisiswhenweneedtobehumble,vulnerableandtrulyfeelit,notgiveupandsaythisistoohard!Theonlyreasonwecannotspeakorfeelthetruthaboutourselves,oranother, isbecausewearescared,andarenothumble.We want to be loved, accepted and to fit in first, and desiretruthsecond, thirdor fourthmuchof the time.Whatdoyouwant,andwhatareyouwillingtoletgoanddotorealizeit?TELLTHETRUTHATALLTIMES...FROMNOW.DONOTHOLDBACKANYMORE....muchwillbelearnedandfeltbyyouintheprocessthatwillhelpyouRealizeDivinity.Herearesomemorestatementsforyoutoreally feel into.WhenIlovemyself, I donot respond toothersdemandsor expectationsformy love, for theyarenotrespecting thatmy love isagift. Idonot allow others to manipulate or control my actions. If othersexpect me to give themmy time at their request, they are beingunloving towardsme, and if I respond to that request, then I amunlovingtowardsmyself.

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If others question me with the emotions within them of anger,jealousy, resentment, criticism, goading or judgment, then I amunloving tomyself if I respond to their control. I do not sacrificemyself in order to loveothers. I donot treatmyself unlovingly inother to love others. I do not respondwhen others expectme totreatmyselfunlovinglyinordertopleaseorplacatethem.IdonotexpectmyselftogivemoretoothersthanIwouldgivetomyself.When I do not do this, I feel annoyed or angry with others forbeing “unloving” to me (my expectation causes anger.) If I lovemyselfalready,Iwillnotneedotherstolovemeinorderformetobe happy. I feel hurtwith others not doing/saying/feelingwhat Iexpect them to (the expectation causes pain.) I feel the pain ofsacrificingmyselfandmydesiresforthe“benefit”ofotherpeople.I feelemotionallyexhaustedanddepletedwhenIspendtimewithcertain people (because I am not being true). I feel that love ispainful,ratherthanseeingloveasthegreatestgiftothers,orI,cangive.Others feel they can “demand”my love.Others feel they cancontrol,manipulate,or“guilt”meintodoingwhattheywant.Othersfeel they candemandmyemotional attention, andget angrywithmewhenIdonotgiveit.I believe sacrificing myself for others is a loving act. I feel thatother’s emotions aremore important thanmy own. I believe thatthe only way to receive love is to earn it. I believe that love is achoreoraduty.IfeelIwillbepunishedorblamed,orIamselfishifIdon’tsacrificemyselfforothers.IbelievethatwhenotherpeoplesaythatIhurtthem,thenIampersonallyresponsiblefortheirpain.I amonly responsible if I havebrokenGod’sLawsofLove. I havedeepfeelingsthatIamworthlessoremptyoflove.(Thesefeelingsmaybetowardsonegenderspecifically.)Ionlyserveorgivetootherswhentheyhaveapositivereactiontotheserviceorgift.Ionlygivetomyselfwhenothershaveapositivereaction.ItreatmyselfdifferentlythanIallowotherstotreatme.Ifeelguiltorobligationtofamilyandfriendswhentheywantmetodothingsforthem.

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I am untruthful with others or myself about my true feelings.Othersmanipulatemyemotionalinjuriestogetwhattheywant(inbusiness and private life.) I sacrifice my physical and emotionalneedsforotherswithoutthemevennoticing.I allow people in authority to pressure or controlme to dowhattheywant, because I amafraidofwhatwill happen. I allowotherpeople to demand things from me without concern for my ownwelfare.Idothingsforothersthattheyrefusetodoforthemselves.I allow others to harmmyself (supplying me with drugs, alcoholetc.)8Lackof trueself­love isshownup in intimaterelationships.This isone of its key lessons and triggers. We almost always have anagendaofsomekindinourmoreintimaterelationships,aneedtofulfillandeventuallyheal.Butyourpartnercannotdothatforyou.Onlyyoucan.Needisasignal,asign,aflag,adoorwaytoshowuswherethereisawound,aholewithinyouaskingforyourlove.Nooneelse’slovewilldo it…onlyyour love,alliedwithDivineLove.DivineLove isdifferent to human love in both its feeling, its substance, and itspower to transform you in ways that no teaching, teacher ormethodcan.TherearenosubstitutesforDivineLove, foronlythis,alliedwithyourself‐loveandrecognitionof the truestateofyoursoulanditsholeswillhealyourwoundsandsealtheseholesbyyoufeeling deeply into this hole, resting in it, and praying for DivineLovetoenterfromthisfeelingspace.Desireisdifferenttoneed,foritisaqualityofthesoul,ayearning,apassion.Desireiswhatbringsusevercloser,step‐by‐step,toUnionwith God.Without deep, sincere desire, and the sincerity to keepgoingthroughourlayersofbeliefs,pains,injuriesandforgetfulness,wewillstopatacomfortableplaceonoureternaljourney,andnotkeepmovingintomoreloveandtruth.

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FreewillisusedtoitshighestpotentialandDivinealignmentwhenwe truly love our self. Freewillwith desire combined is a potentunion that can take any soul into the arms of the Divine. But,knowinghowtousefreewillinitshighestpotentialisthekey,andonedoesthismoreandmoreonceonelovestheirownsoul.ForitisthroughyourownsoulthatyouconnecttotheGreatSoulofGodandeventuallymergetogether.Onahumanlevel,whenyoureceiveunconditionalacceptanceandself‐lovefromyourself,youfeelfreetobeyourself,naturallyhappy,content, passionate and joyful. You instinctively know you havevalue andworth, as opposed to guilt and shame, and are wantedanddesiredasyouare,ratherthanforwhatyoudo.Youfeellistenedto and understood, and that you have yourself to offer others,which isvaluableandworthwhile.The loveyousharewithothersfromyour ownheart isnatural or human love,and is different toDivineLove.You care for yourself deeply and nurture your soul constantly;thereisnoneedtowearamaskoractinanywaytopleaseanother.Youfeelfreetobeyourselfandtoopenupyouremotions,feelingitispossible to taketherisk tobevulnerable inorder tohaveopen,honest relationships with others and most importantly yourself.This is the basis for your own relationship to God. You overrideyour own fear of retribution from others or God if you make a‘mistake’orexperience‘failure’.Whenyoudonotgiveyourselfunconditionalacceptanceandself‐love,thenyoulackthefreedomtobeyourself,andliveyourlifetoplease others. Youbecomedependent on others tomake you feelgoodaboutyourself,tofillinthegapsandfeelingsyoudonotdareto feel within yourself, and can become rule‐bound andperfectionistinseekingtodowhatis"right''or"expected''inordertobeacceptedorlovedbyothers.Youcanfeelmisunderstood,notheard,notapprovedof,andbecomeconstantlydefensive.Youwillhave poor relationship skills, experience failed relationships, andcanbecomewithdrawnandisolatedinordertoavoidfeelingyourownself,aswellasavoidingfuturerejectionandnon‐approval.

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Youmaybelievethatyouarenotallowedtofailormakemistakes,becoming self‐critical and self‐disapproving. You will tend to setunrealisticandidealisticexpectationsforyourself,whichmustfirstbemetinordertoacceptandloveyourself.Youbecomeyourownworstcritic,neverabletosayyouare"goodenough.''In order to unconditionally accept and love yourself, you need toidentifywhat ideals andbeliefs you force yourself tomeet beforeyoufeelyoucanlove.Identifywhatfearsorbeliefsblockyoufrombeingunconditionalinyouracceptanceofself.Aretheseconditionsreasonableandrealistic?Howdoesperfectionismandtheneed tobe spiritual, being right or having the right answer, hinder yourabilitytobeunconditionalinyouracceptanceandlove?Howdoesthe maintenance of your façade really mask your own lack ofhonesty,yourownfears,andownloveforself?Speakout aloudyour insights and feelings about your acceptance(or not) of self, your faults and failings. Do this alone, and withothers.Thiswillhelpyoutoeventuallyexperiencedeeperpleasureandenjoymentinyourlife,asyoubecomemorehonestandreal.Emphasize with yourself that it is because you love and acceptyourself that you want to experience the positive and negativeconsequences of all your actions, past and present. Suchconsequences do not affect your acceptance or love of yourself.Feeling these effects will assist and grow your self‐love,paradoxically enough. The continuous, unconditional acceptanceand love of self is that which holds you to be fully personallyresponsible for your own actions, and the consequences of thoseactions,pastandpresent.What are the emotional blocks andmental deceptionswhich stopyou from allowing yourself to emotionally experience the naturalconsequences of your own actions?Do these involve a fear abouttakingarisk?Doyouhaveaninabilitytotrust?Doyoujustnotwishto feel things or have buried them so deep that only numbnessremains?Doyoufearbeingvulnerable?

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Doyoufearfailing?Doyouhaveaneedforapprovalandareapeoplepleaser?Doyoufearrejection?Do you have an inability to identify your deeper, more causalfeelingsandsensations?Alloftheseareindicationsthatyoudonotloveyourself,andneedtoexplorefurther.Thelovethatyouseekfromothers,theapprovalyouseekoutside,is only and ever unconditional love for yourself. And thisunconditionalloveforyourselfonlyevercomeintoitsfullpotentialbyreceivingDivineLovefromGod,whohascreatedyourself!Thislovecanneverbegot fromanyotherperson.Thereflectionsfromyour father, mother, partner, friends, boss, show you still do notloveorapproveofyourself.Theyrevealthewoundinsideyourselftoshowyouwhereyoustillrefusetoletloveintoyourownsoul.What are the things, ideas, wounds and people youwould lose ifyoutrulyacceptedandlovedyourself?Whatwouldyougainorrecapture?Istherefeararoundthis?Ifso,why?SELF­LOVEANDRELATIONSHIPSBeforeyouwereconceived,IwantedyouBeforeyouwereborn,IlovedyouIs thisnothowGodLovesus?This isourFirst relationshipaboveand beyond any other, and will lead to fully healed and lovinghumanrelationships.Theironyisthataswegrowandevolveinourself‐love and the laws connected to this, our relating to Goddeepens IF we continually desire, deep in our heartfelt yearning,HisLove.Together,trueself‐loveanddesirefortheDivinemergesintoanunbeatablepartnershipandtrueunion.This lovewill thenreflect,moreandmore,inallourotherrelationships,asaneffect.Without having felt, investigated, and discovered how we do notloveourselves,wegiveourselvesawayand lessenour selfworth,self value and self knowing in intimate relationships, becausewethinkweneedto,inorderto‘be’withanother.

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Self‐love is also only truly possible when we travel into, discoverand take the journey of healing our Wounding. This is what liesbehindourgivingawayofselfworth,selfvalueandselfknowing,asthese wounds were always there: they are just exposed andrevealedinintimaterelationships.Self‐love is the basis for lovingothers. If yousacrificeyourself forthe sake of others, and therefore do not love your own self, thenyou cannot truly love anyother. If youdonot truly love yourself,youwillneverattractasoulfullylovingpartnerordeeplyintimate,fulfillingrelationshipinyourlife.Youwillkeeponattractingthosethat remind you of yourwounded self, as away to heal yourself,eventually. These reminders of how you do not love and honouryourownselfandyourwoundingareinyourintimaterelationshipsrightnow,ifyoucaretoinvestigate.Whenwe stay in an intimate relationshipbecausewedonot loveourself,anger,fear,guilt,placatingeachother,denyingeachother,refusing to be open, humble and vulnerable with each other willarise.Webelievewe love theotherwhenoften itwill just beouridea of the other, our expectation of the other, our need for anyothertobethere,andourfantasiesofwhatloveisandshouldlooklike.Whenyouoryourpartnerdoesthisinrelationship,consciouslyorun consciously, the qualities that attracted us to them in the firstmeeting and encounter will diminish within us and them. Whatattractedusinthefirstplacelessensbecauseeachpersonnolongerloves himself or herself. This occurs because an inherent lack ofself‐loveandselfwortharisesintherelationship,notbecauseofit.Ithasalwaysbeentherewithineachperson.Afterawhile,bothpartners’woundsbecomereflectedandbroughtto the surface. This can then result,without conscious awarenessand humility, in them both losing themselves. By giving yourselfandyourvaluesaway,whatyoulovedoing,toappeaseanother,tokeepanotherwithyou,coveringoveryourownvaluesandlackofselfworth,wecompromiseand‘think’this‘giving’islove.

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Theseareideasoflove,nottherealityoflove.Theseideasdominatemany relationships, and are particularly true of long‐termrelationships, which can stagnate. Sexual expression under theburdenoftheseideas,insteadofbeinghealthyandvital,willsufferand diminish. As more self‐love reveals in relationship, sexualitywithlovewillincreaseasbothpartnersencourageeachother’sfreewillanddeepestdesires,evenifitmeansapparentlosstothem.Notlovingourselfinanintimaterelationshipofanykindinvolvesafractured use of desire. This occurs when we feel that the outerrelationship is our salvation without loving ourselves andconnecting to theDivine, first and foremost.Not loving your ownself is feeling that if you receive enough support through beinglovedbyanotheryouwill,atlast,beabletobefullyyourself.Lovehere is a need, a need to attach oneself to another in order toachieveasenseofsecurity,safetyandbelongingfromtheotherorthings of thisworld. This need reflects something to us from ourchildhood,andfromourwoundingofnotfeelingsafe.Freedombecomes lost because you project onto otherswhat youcan only truly realize within yourself and with God. Thisdependency becomes a trap, as now freedom is dependent onanother. What can result is giving to get, or conditional love;thinking that the other can fulfill you;manipulating to “keep” theother; over romanticizing, creating ideals, putting the other on apedestal; thinkingthattheBeloved“belongs”tothem,orcanown,beowned,possessorbepossessed,controlorbecontrolled.Manytimes the deepest lessons we learn are from the most difficultrelationships, relationships that prepare us for the RealRelationship;withSelfandwithGod.Becoming obsessed by the object of your affection, becominginfatuatedbythedreamandquestfortheperfect‘other,’ofhavingalovethatwilllast,thinkingheorshecansolveeverythingforyou,is a lie. Oncewe settle into such a relation ship,wewill discoverdisappointment,anger,andallthewoundswithinus,aswerealizewehaveaholewithinusthatcannotbefilledbyanythingelseapartfromconnectionwithoursoulessenceandGod.

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Theburdenofcarryingtheseexpectationsof“itshouldbelikethis,’and ‘he/ sheshouldbe like this,’ and ‘Ineed tobe like this sohe/shelovesmeandwantstobewithme’and‘Icannotrevealmyselfbecausewhatwillheorshethinkofme,theywillnolongerwanttobe with me if I am weak,’ is a struggle within oneself. Releasingoneself from these expectations is a big step into being who youreallyare.A True Relating is already here, based on the First PrimaryRelationshipwe all share; the Relationshipwith God. Having thiswithinourownheartisthepriority,toadheretoalways,andthenthisbecomesreflectedoutsidefully.Codependencyispullingenergyfromotherpeopleinvariousways.Itstemsfromlackofself‐ love,fromfailingtogiveworthandloveto oneself. Hence, needing the approval of someone else, needinghis or her love to prove your own self worth, to hide your ownunworthiness, becomes an imprisoning game. Someone elsebecomes responsible for your happiness. The soul feels this as aloss of personal power, so controlling the person who isresponsible for your happiness generates, quite naturally, a lot ofdrama!Asoulisverytiredfromthesecycles.Whenwe realizewe are completely powerless over other people,whenwefeelthepainunderneaththiscontrol,ofourownfeelingsofbeingworthless,orvalueless,wedissolveanydesiretocontrol,win,orkeepanythingoranyone.Webecome free fromstrugglingtocontrolandgetanythingfromthem.Thenwebeginto focusonloving ourselves and feeling our own powerlessness and controlfreakmechanismsthatwehaveandchoosetoprojectontootherstocoverourownwoundandfear.InCo‐dependency,theshadowofromanticlovespeaksandactsinsubtleways,withourbehaviorscomingfromthisvoice:“Mygoodfeelings about who I am stem from being liked by you, andreceivingapprovalfromyou.Yourstrugglesaffectmyserenity.Mymentalattention focusesonsolvingyourproblems, relievingyourpain, or pleasing you. My fear of rejection, and your anger,determineswhatIsayanddo.Iusegivingasawayoffeelingsafeinourrelationship.Iputmyvaluesasideinordertoconnectwithyou.

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I value your opinion andway of doing thingsmore than I domyown.”Thebiggestillusioninrelationshipisthatanyoneelsecangiveyouwhatyouwant,thatanyoneelsecanmeetyoufullyandfulfillyou.Insacredrelationship,theonlythingthatcanfulfillyouisGod,andthe coming together with God and your own soul. Your humanpartner can help facilitate this for you, (sometimes in the moststrange, obscure and painful of fashions) and eventually you canfully unify with the Beloved in another person only after yourmergingwithGod.Todo this,your first relationship iswithGod,andyourdesire forGodandDivineLove toenteryoursoulsincerely.This is firstandforemost,andifitisreplaced,forgotten,ignoredorsubstituted,youwillnotevolvepastacertainpoint.Thesecondrelationshipiswithyoursoul,yourself,youremotions,howconsciousyouare about your soul injuries, andwhat youdoabout it. Total self‐responsibility for all you experience, feel andcreate,leadsyouintomoreloveandtruth.The third relationship is with your partner, and the healing thatarises betweenyou.This thenwill, once youhavehealed enough,leadyoutoaSoulmate,whichintensifiesthehealingprocessintoadeeperdegreeoftrueloveonalllevels.Oncethisisintegrated,thisinturncanleadyoutoyourBelovedorTwinSoul,ormanycanjustgostraighttotheirTwinSoul,dependingonmanyfactors.This third relationship depends for its success on howmuch youfollow and put into direct action Divine laws of Truth and Love.Growing, releasing and expanding your soul in total self‐responsibility and self‐love is the basis for loving any other.Without having felt, investigated, and discovered how we do notloveourselvesasGodlovesus,wecannotloveourselves."Youcanneverloveanotherpersonunlessyouareequallyinvolvedinthebeautifulbutdifficult spiritualworkof learningto loveyourself,invitingthewellspringoflovethatis,afterall,yourdeepestnatureto

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flow through your life. When this happens, the ground that hashardenedwithinyougrowssoftagain."9Onewaytouniteallthreerelationshipsiswithaprayer:Icannotfulfillyou;youcannotfulfillmeYoudonotbelongtome;IdonotbelongtoyouYoubelongtoGod;IbelongtoGod;Isetusfree.Nopersoncanevermeetor fulfillyou.OnlyGodcan.Relationshipcan bring up the deepest wounds and illusions between two, forbetween two, there can be the Holy Trinity made manifest: God,You,theother,wedinOneLove,humanandDivine.NorelationshipiscompletewithoutDivineLove,withoutthisthirdelement involved in it. With only natural human love, the fullpotential of intimate relationship is half alive, half complete.Naturalloveisthelovethatcomesfromwithinyourheart–itisthelove your soul gives out to others, the love that links you to yourlovedones,animals,andnature.Divine Love is the love received from God, a totally differentsubstance and love that brings you to your knees, incrediblegratitudeandDivinejoythattransformsyourverysoulfrombeingfinite into being infinite. It is the deep desire burning at the veryheartofyoursoultoBeatOnewithGod,thesamedesireburningdeepintheheartofGod’sSoul.ItisthedeepdesireburningattheheartofyoursoultoloveGodandtoreceivethisDivineLove.EachtimeonereceivesDivineLove,theveilsofyourownpainandseparationaretouched,andthisthenallowsthesoultoexpandinbeautiful feelings. This contraction can become physical, that isyourheart‐soul andbodyphysically contractswith this inflowing,receivingit,andthenbloomingforthandexpandingasanotherveilishealedandbroughtonestepclosertoGod.WithoutDivineLovebeingpresentforbothpeopleinrelationship,the relationship will only EVER be partial, and based on needing9JohnO'Donohue”AnamCara

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andgetting,ofvalidation,of approval,of false safety, securityandwoundingaroundyourparentsandperceivedseparationfromyourTrueParentsinDivineFatherandMother.ToreceiveDivineLovemoreandmoreyouhavetobeincrediblyhumbleandrealiseallofyourlifeisyourcreationinselfresponsibility:self‐love.Now,outofself‐love,Ichoosetolovemysoulandnotbearoundpeoplewhojudge,projectandchoosetodisownpartofthemselvesandprojectitontomeasmyfault.Nowmanypeopletakethistomeanthattheydonothavetolovethemselves.Wrong!Ifpeoplearegivingyoujudgment,blame,angeroranynegativeemotion,themostlovingthingtodoistoloveyourselfandwalkaway.Itwillactuallyhelptheotherpersonmuchmoreaswell.Lovedoesnotmeanbecomeapunchbagorbeabusedbecauseofsomeoneelse'sissues.Thereisnothingloving,spiritualoranythingto learn from this.Knowwhat isyoursandwhat isanother’s ‐behumble‐butitisneverlovingortruthfultoprojectyourwoundsorangeratanother.EVER.Ortoreceiveanother’swoundsandangereither. It is not just the giver of blame, anger andprojection thathasa responsibility to grow up, but also any person who feelsunworthyenough to accept it. To accept someone else's negativeemotionsisco‐dependent,andharmfulforthemandyou.10 The second part is to love yourself as God Loves you. Godwouldneverjudgeme ‐butHewouldput things intomypathso I couldlearn to bemore humble and heal my own wounds. It is neveraboutanyoneelse,apartfromyourself.IfIdonotlovemyself,thensituationswillarisetoshowmethis,andthenitismychoicetolovemyselfinthatmoment.Amaturepersonwillreceivetheirwoundsandbehumbleandfeelthem.Amorewoundedpersonwillmakeitaboutsomeoneelse,andmanipulate,shoutandresenttheotherinmanyandvariousways.

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So, put out a clear message of LOVE to all and anyprojections,blameor anger. This doesnotmean I donotlove you ‐ itmeansthat our relating will end until such time whereyou no longerproject your anger and pain at me. This is often because ofanother’s ‘personal truth,’which is not aDivineTruth, andwhichthengetsprojectedoutontoothersasbeingTHETRUTH.Thisthenjudgesothersandtheirchoices.Onceyoucanownallofthis, Iamhappytoreestablishourcommunicationinreallove.Ifyouwanttochangethewayotherstreatyou,firstchangethewayyou treat yourself. Unless you learn to love yourself, fully andsincerely, there is no way you can be loved. Once you achieve thatstagehowever,bethankfulforeverythornthatothersmightthrowatyou.Itisasignthatyouwillsoonbeshoweredinroses.11DISCERNMENTIntherushofloveandhormonesinintimaterelationship,yourownself‐loveanddiscernmentcaneasilybethrownoutofthewindow.Thisformof‘love’isblind,asitdoesnotinvolveself‐love;yetitalsoteaches us great lessons. The question is, do you want to keepmaking the samemistakes and stay in the same law of attractionthat brings you pain, that shows you your unrecognized andunhealed wounds? Or do you wish to heal the causes withinyourself?Whatyouattractinrelationshipshowsyouwhoyouare.Thereisagreat opportunity to change this law of attraction by becomingacutelyself‐awareofyourweaknessesandwounds.Recognizeandaskwhythesametypesofpartnerareattractedtoyou,andyoutothem,andwhyyoubetrayyourselfoverandoveragain.Identifythesimilar and opposing patternswithin you and them, and youwillsoonseethebiggerpicture.For example, do most of your partners, past and present, havefatherissuesormotherissues?Whatdoesthatsayaboutyou?And

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whatareyoudoingtosupport thispattern, i.ewhydoyou like it?Whatisthepayoffforyou?Doyoulikebeingincontrol?Ordoyoufeelunworthyoftruelove?Losingyoursenseofdiscernment in therushof ‘love’ i.e. sexual/soulwoundingattractionshowsyouyourownbetrayalofself‐love.This rushurgesyou toabandonandbetrayyourownhalf formedsense of sovereign self‐love because, deep down, we all yearn toreunite with the other half of our soul or Twin Soul, andwill betempted give away our power, sense of discernment, materialpossessionsandinfactanythingandeverythinginordertofeelthisreunionagain.We yearn for this reunion, yet this reunion occurs firstly throughourownsouldevelopingarelationshiptoGod.ThisputsanendtomostideasofsentimentalromanceandneoTantra!Theseparationof God from sex in religions and in mainstream society affectsalmosteveryhumanbeing.Humanlovebetweentwopeopleintheactofmakinglove,mostofuscanunderstand.ButGod?Theonewepray to andwho showers uswith Divine Love and gratitude, theOnewecomefrom?OurCreator?Howcanwehavesexwiththat?Isn’tthat…wrongsomehow?Doesitnotfeel…offandweird?Involving God in the act of making love is our birthright …andbeautiful. With our human love and emotions connected to theengine of sexual power and desire for the divine, we can build abridge to God. The power of prayer to God as a personal soul toSoulrelationship,andincludingthiswithintheactofmakinglove,is this next step. But to do thismeanswe have to love ourselvesFIRSTLYandbeinsovereignrelationshipsasaresultofthislove.TogiveawaylovingyoursoulisnotlovingGod.Andyetyoudoitsocheaply!ToloveyourownsoulandotherssoulsasGodlovesyouisaspaciousnessthatonedaywewillallliveandbreathe.Recognizinganddiscerningyourlessons,yourweakpoints,andhowthatneatlyslots and hooks into the weak points and wounds of the ‘other,’(andthenfeelingyourownsoulwounds)isthekeytolivingthis.Once you truly love your own soul, you can feel and understandhowGodlovesyoubecauseyouareunderstandingandapplyingthe

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Divinelawsconnectedtothis.Thistooiseverevolvingasyoursoulgrowsinlove.The7Questionsbelowareheretosupportyouandyourpartnerinthejourneyofdiscernment,andtoimproveself‐love.Shareitwiththem.All these sevenareaswill affect the levelsof loveand truththatbothpartnerswillholdandsustain.Everyoneexperienceslove;itisjustyourownself‐createdbarriersto love that determines how long, andwell, you can sustain love,anddeepenintotrueintimacy.Thisintimacydependsoncreatingasolid,healedfoundationwithinyourselfthatcansupportauthenticrelationshipwithothersbasedonhonesty,loveandtruthappliedtoyourself,firstandforemost.Findingthebarrierstolivingthisisabigpartofyourhealingjourneyofself‐love.Askyourselfandyourpartnerthesequestions.Ifyouaresingle,workwith a friendwho you can be honestwith and knows your relatingpatterns:

1. Haveyouhealedwithbothofyourparents?Doyouneedapprovalorrecognitionfromanyoneelse?Areyoucompetitivewiththeoppositesex?Dosharewithme;Iamheretosupportandloveusboth.

2. Howwas your birth process in thewomb, and as soon asyoucameoutofthewomb?Dosharewithme;Iamheretosupportandloveusboth.

3. Howwasyourchildhood?Dosharewithme;Iamheretosupportandloveusboth.

4. Have your ever been abused, sexually or otherwise, byanyone?Dosharewithme;Iamheretosupportandloveusboth.

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5. AreyouonapathofDivineLoveorhumanlove?

6. Do you have your own vocation and purpose, means andhome?

7. Whoareyourfriends?Whatdotheysayaboutyouandyour

wounds?Dosharewithme;Iamheretosupportandloveusboth.

Self‐love is defined by your actions, what you live into, and yourchoices. Love is action. The choices you make or choose NOT tomake, will define your love for your soul.What you live into arethese choices, which all amount to one simple thing: living theexperienceofgivingyourselfwhatyoursouldesiresmost.Whenyouallowandgiveyourselfwhatyoursouldesiresmost, thenyouareliving into the experience of self‐love,which is reinforced by youreceivingmoreDivineLove.Giving yourselfwhat your soul desiresmostisalsowhatGodwantsforyou.AndwealsoreachapointwherewearesoestablishedinadegreeofDivineLoveandtruththatitmattersnotwhereourpartnerisaton their journey,howmuchhealing theyneed todo, orhow theydeny love;we just love.Thishappensoncewe truly loveourownself!Andagain,bothoftheseoptionsareyourownchoices.Youdonothave to be a martyr to prove anything as long as you are beinghonestwith yourself about your own charges or unfelt emotions.Andonceyoutruly loveyourself itmattersnotwhat ishappening‘outside’; you can stay with it or walk away, and can take eitherchoiceinpeace,withoutcharge.Loveknowsinthemoment.IfIfeltany charge or resistance, I would stay with the situation, (notnecessarilyoutsidebutinside)asthereissomethingmoretolearnaboutloveandsoftenintowithinmyself,whateverthatmaybe.Butthatismychoice…tobemoreandmoreloving.Ilovemyownsoul,andotherssouls,asGodlovesmeThisispartofthejourney

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Haveyoueverbeenhonoured,receivedandgiventoasaman?Haveyoueverbeenhonoured,receivedorgiventoasawoman?Ifnot,whynot?For example, onewoundedprogram could be; ‘I have never beenfullygiventobecause,onsomedeeplevel,IfeltIneverdeservedit.’(becauseofmyguiltthenreflectedinmyobsessionwithserving.)Feel the pain and sadness of this that has run like a shadowyundercurrentthroughoutyourlife,stoppingyoufromenjoyingthefullpotentialofyoursexuality inunionwithyoursoulandDivineLove.Thisisthedenialofabigpartofyou.Inthis,oneattractswomenandmenwhodidnotknowhowtodothis, and did not honour the female or male (mother or fatherissues)becauseyoudidnothonouryourownmaleorfemale.Thishonoring,receiving,beinggiventoandgivingisfundamentaltoourDNAanditsunfoldingintomorehumanlove,andinalignmentwithstrongdesireforGodcanleadtomoreDivineLove.Giveyourselfwhatyoudeserve,andbegivento,andreceived,byaman/womanwhoknows,oriswilling,todothisfreely.Andenjoyit! Not because you need it, but because it completes the Divinemother/father lovepath for you: love your soul asGodwishes toloveyou.Unworthiness isconqueredby lovingoneselfandfeelingthepainintheplacesthatresistit,becauseitisthoseplaces,thesesigns, thatwill bringus the greatest fulfillment and joy once theyarefeltandmovedthrough.

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4EXAMPLESOFADDICTIONSINRELATIONSHIPSTheseareveryusefulwaystoseepatternsinyourrelationships.Ifyouarehonest,youwillbeabletoseeafewoftheseplayingoutinyour life.Thekey then is to fullyown it, feel itandput the lovingremedyintoaction.Mycorebelief: Iamneversafe,and “Love”willmakeme feelsafeMy addiction: If my partner “loves” me my partner must alwaysmakemefeel“safe”andsecureMyprojection: Ifmypartnerwantsmy“love” Ihave to firstly feeltheymakemefeelsafeMy action: When I feel safe & secure, I am affectionate & sexualwithmypartnerPartner corebelief:Togive “Love”means to give safety (financialandphysical)Partner addiction: When I make my partner feel secure, I amworthwhile,strong&loveablePartnerprojection:Mypartnerneedsmyprotection&carePartner action: I will always protect my partner from any harm,sexual,physicalorfinancialProofoftheco­dependence:Partner’saction:TheyhaveafinancialfailureMy reaction: I get angry, resentful, insistent and demanding. Isearch for “security” from my parents or elsewhere, I projectsexuallyatpeoplewhocouldpotentiallymakemefeelsafeIfItookresponsibilityinharmonywithDivineLove:Partner’saction:TheyhaveafinancialfailureMyreaction:Ifeelmyterroratnolongerbeingfinancially“safe”,Ifeel childhood emotions regardingmoney & safety, I developmyrelationship with God to feel safe, I don’t “talk to my parents”, Idon’tsexuallyprojectavoidfeelingmycorebelief(Iamneversafe).Mycorebelief: “Love”means Iwillalwaysbe listened to (notheardbyoppositegenderparent)Myaddiction:Otherpeoplemustalwayslistentome

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Myprojection:MypartnermustlistentomeiftheywantanythingfrommeMyaction:Italkandexpectmypartnertolistentomeevenifthatmeanssacrificinghis/herselfPartner core belief: To receive “Love” I must always listen toanotherpersonPartneraddiction: I feel Imust listen (orpretend)&care‐take if Iwanttoreceive“love”Partnerprojection: IwillalwaysbeahearingearnomatterhowIamtreatedPartneraction:IwillalwayslistenaslongasmypartnerfeelsIamwonderfulProofoftheco­dependence:Partner’saction:TheydonotlistentomeforsomereasonMyreaction:Igetangry,resentful,insistentandverydemandingIfItookresponsibilityinharmonywithDivineLove:Partner’saction:TheydonotlistentomeforsomereasonMy reaction: I feel childhood emotions of being “unloved” &“unheard”.Idon’tgetangrywithmypartner.Ifeelthelinkbetweenthe event & feelings that God doesn’t love or hear me, which iscoveringmyowngriefandcausalwounds.Mycorebelief:MenwillonlymakemesafeiftheyhavesexualfeelingsformeMyaddiction:IhavetogivesexualfeelingstomenMyprojection:AllmenmustfindmesexyandalluringMyaction:I’movertlysexualintherelationship,butalsoflirtatiouswithothermenPartneraddiction:IamunattractivePartnerprojection:MakemefeelattractivePartneraction:I’msexuallyattractedtoawomenwho“shares”hersexualenergyfreelyProofoftheco­dependence:Partner’s action: Partner begins to feel a sense of self‐worth &beginstofeelattractive,andsofeels“hurt”frommyflirtationswith

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othermen,lessattractedtomebecauseofmyflirtatiousfeelings,&lesssexuallyneedyformeMyreaction:I feel lesssecurewithmypartner,&beginlookingtoothermentomakemefeel“safe”&“secure”IfItookresponsibilityinharmonywithDivineLove:Partner’s action: Partner begins to feel a sense of self‐worth &beginstofeelattractive,andsofeels“hurt”frommyflirtationswithothermen,lessattractedtomebecauseofmyflirtatiousfeelings,&lesssexuallyneedyformeMy reaction: I would feel repentance & sorrow for my sexualprojections,&begintofeeltheunderlyingcorebelief(howunsafesexually & fearful emotionally I feel around men). I would stopprojectingsexuallyatmen,&withdrawfrommenthatIamsexuallyprojectingat.My core belief: I cannot have my own desires unless othersapproveandagreewiththem,Iequateapproval&agreementfromothersasreceiving“love”fromthemMyaddiction:Gettingapproval&agreementfromothersMy projection: My partnermust always approve of & agree withme,andmustallowmetogetapproval&agreementfromothersattheirownexpenseMyaction:Icompromisemyowndesires(ordon’tevenknowwhattheyare)inordertogetapproval&agreementfromothers,&Igetangry with my partner when he/she feels compromised by myactions, or feels like he/she is less important to me than others(suchasfamily,friendsetc)Partner addiction: I need my partner’s approval & acceptance inordertofeel“loved”Partner projection: I will do anything that makes you feel goodaboutyourselfPartner action: I try my best to agree with you, compromise myownfeelings&desires,butgenerallyfeelhurtwhenyouputothersbeforemeProofoftheco­dependence:

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Partner’saction:PartnertellsmewhenIamcompromisingmyownemotions or desires or my partner’s emotions & desires for thesakeofgettingapproval&agreementfromothersMy reaction: Anger, resentment, reasoning, justifying, shifting theblame.IfItookresponsibilityinharmonywithDivineLove:Partner’saction:PartnertellsmewhenIamcompromisingmyownemotions or desires or my partner’s emotions & desires for thesakeofgettingapproval&agreementfromothersMy reaction: I would acknowledge the actions I take, feel sorrowaboutcompromisingmyself&mypartner&ourrelationship,thengointothedeepemotionalinjuriesregardingfeelingjudgedformyowndesires&emotions,&havingto“earnlove”.Thanks to AJ Miller for this information about addictions inrelationships.

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SOLITUDE,SELF­LOVEANDRELATIONSHIPSThere isa time forsolitude.Solitude isanoblecondition,andonethatoffersquantumleapsintermsofgrowthwhenrecognizedforits profound purpose. Divine Self is ultimately alone. The soulenterstheearthalone,andthespiritdepartstheearthalone.Manyof youwho findyourself aloneat this timebelieve thatyoumustfindapartner.Yetyouarealonebecauseyouhaveplannedit.Solitude is for thoseseeking ‘enlightenment,’andoccurswhenwechoosespecificperiodsinourlifeplantobealoneforatime.Thisdoesnotmeanyouwillalwaysbeinsolitude,itsimplymeansforatimeyouhavechosento'workontheself';toachieveself­love.Both coupling and solitude have their Divine purpose. Much isgainedinbeingincommittedlovingrelationship,andthereisalsogreatpurposeinsolitude.Itisinfactarequisite.Solitudeisaperiodof sublime reverenceof self. Your life andyour experience in thisplane is your own creation, your own living tapestry, woven byyour individual belief. Within solitude, the soul is prompted intoself‐review, and opportunity is given to dive deeply into deepwatersthat flowwithinyou.ToswimintheoceanofSELF,andinso doing rediscover the love within and ones own sovereignconnectiontoGod.Relationshipsareamethodofreflectingyourbeliefsystem,givingyou feedback on what is working, and what is not. Detachmentrequires the individual to explore the self, to reacquaintwith theinner horizon, and this facilitates and necessitates sovereignty.SovereigntyistheprepotencyofMastership.Arelationshipoftwosovereign non‐dependent humans (who are each developingreliance on God rather than just on themselves or another) hasgreater balance, greater creativity, and greater longevity than apairingoftwobeingsco‐dependentononeanother.Ultimately each soul must clearly define SELF in order to gainMastery. Self Mastery is embodied in periods of planneddetachment.It isthatperiodinwhichimpeccabilityiscrystallized.Impeccability isthecrystallizationorclarityofthesoul,andit isa

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necessary virtue ofMastery. This involves release of dependency,thereleaseofallthatdoesnotserveyouraspirationtodivinity.Itisarebootingandreprogrammingofallyouare.Loving relationships are a sacred, joyful tool of achieving SelfMastery, but ultimately in each soul's journey there is requisiteultimategrowth intosovereignty.Thesovereignself isasufficientselfandtrulyhasnoneedofanother.In truth, you canonlymerge in sovereignty,whenyou are at onewith God, with your other half, the other part of your soul thatseparatedindualityexpression.Eachofyouhaveamaleandfemalecomponent, and theotherhalf is re‐merged in the IntegralDivineSelfbeforerisingintohigherrealms.The ideal is not to be female ormale, rather a perfect balance ofBOTH.Thereisatimewhenthoseofyouwhohaveplayedtheroleofsoulmateswill individualize,and inyourterms,part in joy.Theevolvedsoul inachievingAt‐one‐mentwillbecomeconsummatelySelf sufficient, and in so doing radiate spectacular unconditionallovetoALL.Ifyouareinarelationship,refineitinbeautytothegreaterloveofnon‐dependence.Youwillindeeddiscovertheloveexpandsandtherelationshipbecomesmoresplendidinnondependency;justasyouarediscoveringrelationshipsofco‐dependencyareimbalancedonewaystreets,andfail.Arelationshipof twonon‐dependentsovereignbeingshasgreaterjoy, greater balance, greater interface with the divine, greateropportunity for advancement than a relationship based on co‐dependence. In sovereignty, individuals share their best, withoutcompromiseofideals.Eachwillrecognizetheother,andretaintheintegrity of SELF. And as such, independence becomes joyful,devoid of one partner being dominant and imposing their beliefs,moralityandwilloveranother.Religion in the new paradigm will be individualized, will trulyrecognizethenatureofSELF,thenatureoftheDIVINESOUL.When

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integrity is not maintained the connection to true spirit isdisconnected, and all humans are subject to fall in and out ofintegrity.Theway to theDivine is through thesacredsovereigntyofSELFandthroughself‐definition,seekingGodfrominsideeachofyoudirectlytoHim,withthegreatdesirethatisembeddedineachofyoursouls.You are never truly alone. There is a great reason, a nobleaspirationandgoalinyourcelibate,secularaspect.Itisthesenseofresultingloneliness,thatsooftenfeelsbittersweetandhollow,(andis awound to be felt) that compels you to seek the rich ocean ofDivine Love and truth available to you in rediscovering the vastsolacewithindivinity.Youareinnoblesolitudebecauseyouhavechosentomovehigher,tofocusonthesoul.Everysoulentersinsolitude,andwilldeparttohigher realms in solitude. But that solitude is an opening to yourtrue nature, reconnecting to the bigger part of you, and that partdoesnotknowloneliness.Lonelinessonlyexistsinduality.Discover your path. Discover yourself. Love yourself, love oneanother, love God! Discover themultidimensional aspects of yourtrueSoul.Thatisthenobilityofsolitude.Andthoughthepathisattimesdifficultandlonely,knowthatsuchisthechallengeofduality,forabove,youarewhole,andlacknothing.ArchangelMetatronthroughJamesOberon‘Lonelinessandsolitudeare2differentthings.Whenyouarelonelyitiseasytodeludeyourselfintobelievingyouareontherightpath.Solitude is better for us as it means being alone without feelinglonely.But, eventually, it is best to find aperson, thepersonwhowill be your mirror. Remember, only in another person’s heart(yoursoulmate)canyoutrulyseeyourself…’The40RulesofLove,ElifShaqat

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LAWSGOVERNINGYOURLOVEOFSELF"Therelationshipyouareall looking for is therelationshipbetweenyouandyoursoul.Andeverythingelseisjusthelpfulinthat,really."AbrahamHicksAclear,lovingandpenetratinglookatwhatself‐loveis,andisnot,comesfromAJMiller.Hehasobservedandbroughttogethermanypoints on self‐love in his teachings, gleaned from his life and hisconnectiontothedivine.Ifoneishonestandhumbleinreadingandabsorbing these, feelingyourwoundsand their effects, then truthcanbefeltbyyourheart‐soulastowhatitisyouaremissingoutoninyourloveofyourself.Thenyoucanreallyexcavateandhealthatwhichhasbeenleftoutinyoursoulsjourney.Therearevariouslawsinvolvedinself­love:The Law of FreeWill; not violating yours or another’s, which iscommoninintimaterelationshipsasaformofsubtlemanipulation,appeasementandcontrol.Weareallallowedtohaveourfreewill,and theeffectsof thesechoicesare foreach individual to feelandprocess for themselves, rather than make it someone else’sproblem,ortryandstopthemfromdoinganything.The Law of following your passion, purpose and souls desires,and not allowing anyone to stop you from finding and followingthem.12 We can stop following our passions to appease another,becausewefeelitistoofantastictofollowourdreams,thatweareunworthy,thatwedonothavetimeorthemoney,thatwewilllosetheother, thatwewillnotspendenoughtimewiththeother, thattheywillfeelleftout,jealous,notloveusanymoreandsoforth.Only our wounds and not following these laws stops one fromfollowing our souls desires. Developing our passions, emotions,desires,andaspirationsallowsustoconnectwithGoddirectly,andtoallowtheDivinetoflowthroughus.Loveisalwaysthereif it istrue. If the feeling of love goes, if it is based on wounds, it can12Thismaybebecausewhenyouwereachildyouwerenotallowedtohavethem.

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disappear,foritneverwasrealloveinthefirstplace.Woundsmasklove’strueexpressionandfeelingquality.The Law of Cause and Effect; dealing with the emotional causebehind all the painful and unharmonious effects in your life. Youmayspenda long timedealingwith, andhealing, theeffectsofanunderlying emotional injury, and still not get to the cause of theinjuryitself.FreeWillisagiftfromGodthatallowsyoutochooseanythingyoudesire. You are allowed to act in harmony with anything that istruthful/lovingor inerror/unloving.Whenyouloveyourself,youALWAYS enable your free will, whether others agree with yourdecisions or not. I never suppress exercising my own free willharmonious with Divine Love even if others want me to. I neversuppressfeelingandexperiencingmyownemotions.Irecognizeiffree will is exercised in disharmonywith Divine Love and Truth,then Iwill experience the consequenceofpainor suffering if Idothiscontinuously.What happens when I break this law in my treatment ofmyself?I feel others are controlling me when this is NEVER actually thecase.IfeelIamnotallowedtohavemyownemotionalexperience(but this isNEVER trueeither.) I feelobliged toothers, and that I“have to” please them (likemany children do with their parents,and partners do in relationships.) Others feel I am a “pushover”,andIwillbendtosuitwhattheywantmetodo/say/think.Othersfeel that I am“easy” tobearound,because I alwaysdowhat theywant me to do. Others feel I should bend to suit their emotions.Othersfeelbetterthanme,orcondescendingtowardsme,thinkingI“donotunderstand.”What soul condition within me prevents me from being inharmonywiththisLaw?Tryingtopreventmyownfeelingsofhurtthroughmytreatmentofothers.Anaddictionto“beingloved”causedbyapainfulemotionIrefusetofeelofnotbeingloved.Anaddictionto“beingsafe”causedby painful emotions I refuse to feel of always feeling unsafe from

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childhood.AllowingotherstocontrolandmanipulatemebecauseIfeelthatisallIdeserve.A distorted viewpoint of what “love” is; i.e. love sacrifices self topleaseothers.Deep feelings of unworthiness. A desire to control othersanger/rage towards me by being conciliatory. Emotions aboutwishingtoavoidfeelingoutofcontrol.Iaminharmonywiththelawwhen:If my child/partner demands things, I feel my emotions about itrather than “giving in” for peace. I do not allow my partner topressuremeintodoingthingsthatIfeelIdonotwanttodo.Ineverrespond to guilt trips from others (emotional or verbal.) Iunderstand that if someone really loves me, they will alwayshonour and support my free will. I never suppress my desirebecauseof feelingsof obligationsplacedonmebyothers. I neverchangemylovingbehaviorevenwhenothersgetangrywithme.Iamindisharmonywiththelawwhen:I feel I must sacrifice my own emotions for the sake of pleasingothers.Irefusetospeakmypersonaltruthbecauseofwhatothersmay feel/say/do about it. I treatmyselfworse than I treat othersandallowotherstodothingsIdonotdowhenwiththem.LawofPassionandDesireAskandyoushallreceive!Developandallowapassionatelongingfor anything,whether that thing is harmonious or disharmoniouswith Love, and youwill receive it. The results of this Law createeither pleasurable or painful experiences in your life, due to theLawofCauseandEffect.If I lovemyself, Iwill always developmy passions and desires inharmony with Love, even if this takes my time/resources/focusawayfromothers.IwillfollowmypassionsanddesiresevenifNOotherpersonagreeswithorsupportsme.

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I will follow my passions and desires even if it seems like I amunsuccessful(intheeyesofselforothers.)Iwillfollowmypassionsanddesiresevenwithoutrightopposition,judgmentordisapprovalfrom others. I will not developmy passions and desires in errorbecauseIunderstandIwilljustbedamagingmyself.What happenswhen I break this law inmy treatment ofmyself?I feel the results of a sin of omission (having the power to dosomething loving that I refuse to do.) I feel the results/pain of apersonalchoicethatfinishesupharmingmyself.Ipreventmyownunderstandingofmy self, andneverbecome the “best I canbe.” Iwillneverbecomeat‐onewithGod.Iexperiencethepainof“missedopportunities.”Inotherwords,go for it, even ifyou lookand feel likea fool!Youwillneverknowunlessyoutry,andonlythefearoftheactionstopsyou.Onceyoudotheaction,thefearwillgo.Thefearofdoingit isworsethanactuallydoingit.What soul condition within me prevents me from being inharmonywiththisLaw?IhavedeepemotionalbeliefsthatIwillneverbeabletofullysatisfymy own desires and passions. I have deep childhood hurt fromothers controllingme intodoingwhat theywanted forme. Ihavedeep feelings that my desires are evil, bad, selfish, harmful,shameful,frivolous,andidealistic.Ihavefeelingsthatotherpeoplearemoreimportant,betterandsuperiorthanmyself.Ibreakthislawwhen:Ijoinourfriends/familyintheirpassionsevenwhenIdonotwantto (e.g. Christmas.) I constantly seek the agreement, approval andverificationofothersbefore I followmypassions. I seekapprovalformyemotionsby trying togetothers toagreeandcolludewiththose emotions. I do not follow my desires because of financialreasonsortimeconstraints.

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LawofCauseandEffectWhatIsow,Iwillreap.Everythingthathappenstomehasasoul‐based cause within myself. Attempting to change my life bychanging effects never addresses the cause, andwill result in theeffectscontinuing.Understandthatitisallyou!HowthislawaffectsmyloveformyselfIneverblameanotherpersonforevents/situationsinmyownlife.Inever try toavoid theemotionscreatedbyevents/situations Igetinto inmy life. I alwaysattempt toaddress thedeep innerCAUSEwithinmethatcreatedtheeffectsIamexperiencing. IunderstandthatdealingwitheffectswillnotchangemyLawofAttractionormyrelationshipwithGod. Idonot try toavoideffectsbyplanningorstructuringmylife(thesearefear‐basedactions.)What happens when I break this law in my treatment ofmyself?I am caught in an endless, pointless cycle of planning, schedulingand structuring my life. I become controlling verbally andemotionallyof others to avoidmyownemotional/physical pain. Iget sicknessesor long‐termdiseases,which I cannotseemtocurenomatterwhat action I take. I feel tired aboutwhat seems to benever ending effort to make my life successful, pleasurable orspiritual. I always feel I need “help” from others, but help neverseems to correct anything in my life. I have a tendency to takeadvantage of others without feeling and expressing gratitude. Iexpectotherpeopletohelpmestayawayfrommyemotionsorsoulcondition,i.e.Iexpectandevendemandcommiseration.What soul condition within me prevents me from being inharmonywiththisLaw?Refusing to take personal responsibility for my own creations.RefusingtoseeorfeeltheDivineTruththatmyownemotionsarethecreatorofpainfuleffects.Alackofpersonalhumilityinfeelingmy own soul condition. Staying away from emotions relating toothersblamingmefortheirownlifeexperiences.

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A deep fear or terror in my childhood emotional experience. AdesiretoavoidtheemotionaltruththatIampreventingthehealingofmyownlife.Iamaddictedtofeeling“loved”bygettingotherstohelporassistmeallthetime.IrefusetoemotionallyaccepttheLawofCauseandEffect,i.e.IdonotbelieveitisaDivineTruth.Ibelievethatothersshouldsacrificethemselves inordertosatisfymyownemotionsandneeds.IfIliveinharmonywiththeLaw:Iwouldneverexpectothersto“bailmeout”ofmyowncreations.Iwouldneveracceptothers“bailingmeout”ifIhavenotdealtwiththecausalemotion.Iwouldnotaskorexpectotherstolieformeinordertogetoutoftheresultsofmyerror.IwouldnotexpectotherstodothingsformethatIrefusetodoformyself(e.g.cook,clean.)Iwouldnotwasteother’s timebytellingstories Ihavenodesiretofeelcausalemotionsfor.Iwouldnotlistentothestoriesofothersiftheytoodonotexploretheircausalemotionsbehindthestory.Ifapersontellsmea“truth”aboutmyself,Ilookforthecausalemotionforthecreation.IfIliveindisharmonywiththeLaw:I justify doing things to my body that I know damage my bodywithout examining why, e.g. Serial dieting: controlling the dietrather than working through why you desire certain foods;repeated medical or spiritual practice in an attempt to heal andmanytimesavoidthesameongoingissues.E.g.beratingachildfortheirwords or actionswhen the event is caused bymy own soulcondition.LawofAttractionMysoulcondition(thesoul’sattributes,qualities,desires,passions,condition spiritually, emotionally and morally) attracts all theevents inmy life. If Iwant to changeevents, I need to changemysoulcondition.IwelcomeandenjoymyownLawofAttractionasGod’smessengerof Truth rather than fearing it. I always choose to feel my owncausalemotionsabouteverythingthathappenstome.Idonothatemyself,blamemyselforpunishmyself formyownpainfulLawof

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Attraction. I always honour and love my own Law of Attractionwhetheritseems“positive”or“negative”tome.Ineverhate,blame,getangrywithorpunishothersforthepainIexperiencefrommyLawofAttractionWhat happens when I break this law in my treatment ofmyself?I create and stay in emotions of self‐deception and emotionallydamage others and myself. I deny my own emotions and soulconditionasbeingthecreatorofmyentireexperience.Iattempttoavoid the results of my Law of Attraction by organizing my lifearoundmyfearsandfalsecentre.Istuntmyownsoulgrowthandmy relationship with God by avoiding the underlying causalemotion. Ipunish,blameorgetangrywithothersormyselfwhenpainfuleventshappen.WhatsoulconditionwithinmyselfpreventsmefrombeinginharmonywiththisLaw?I do not really have a soul belief in the Law of Attraction. I stillbelieve I can intellectually overcome and transcend the effects ofmyownemotionsandsoulcondition.Iwanttoremainavictiminmy life and do not wish to take self‐responsibility for my owncreations. I do notwish to feel the deeper emotional painwithinmyself that created theLawofAttraction. Ihavea feelingofenvytowardsthosewhohaveapositiveLawofAttraction. I feelothersshouldpayforhowtheyhaveharmedmylife.Feelingdeeperemotionalpainishard,andfewpeoplewishtogointoit. Rather, to go into pleasure, emotional self­deception, mentalbeliefsandideologies,spiritual‘medication,’falsetranscendenceandmyriadformsofdistractionarethewayswecanescape.Thiscomesdowntoafewsimplethings:howmuchdesiredoyougenuinelyhavefortheDivineandhowmuchdesiredoyouhavetohealyourself,nomatterwhatthecost.IfIliveinharmonywiththeLaw:I donot get angry, frustratedor annoyedwithmyselfwhen I runoutofmoney.Idonotpunishmyselfforwhatothershavedonetome. I give myself time and space to work through my emotions,

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rather than having deadlines. I surroundmyselfwith peoplewhosupportmydesiretodealwithcausalemotions.IfIliveindisharmonywiththeLaw:If I lie in order to prevent another person causingme pain I amavoiding my Law of Attraction. If I refuse to speak my personaltruth in order to avoid pain or anger. If I choose to break God’sLawsinorderto“avoid”myownLawofAttraction(reallywejustdelayourownLawofAttraction,sinceoursoulconditiondrivestheLaw.)TheLawofForgivenessI freely forgive others just as God has freely forgiven me. ThismeansI forgivemyselfas freelyasI forgiveothers, i.e. Ino longerfeel emotions of hatred, blame, resentment, dislike or contempttowardsmyself,because Ihavereleasedtheseemotionsaboutmyownactions,whichpreviouslyIfeltguiltandshameabout.Iamjustasdeservingof forgivenessasanyotherperson.Idonothold onto blame or anger towards myself for the times I brokeGod’s Laws. I never rejectmyself or judgemyself as unworthy orevil no matter what I did in the past. Forgiveness is emotionalforgetfulness of the things I have done that I felt emotions about.ForgivenessisNOTemotionaldenialofactions/thoughts/wordsindisharmonywithLove.Itrytofeelmyemotionsaboutmyactions,thoughts and words in disharmony with Love. I love my body,mind,spirit‐body,andemotionswithoutreserveorcondemnation.What happens when I break this law in my treatment ofmyself?Idamagemyselfemotionally,spirituallyandphysicallybyholdingonto anger, resentment or shame of self. I cannot forgive othersbecauseIhavejudgmentaboutwhatIhavedonethattheymirror.Iprevent my own soul progression and growth towards God. Idamage others and my environment by projecting my denialemotions at them. I damage my own body and cause illness andsufferingwithinmyself.

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What soul condition within me prevents me from being inharmonywiththisLaw?Lackofforgivenessinmyselforfromothersalwayscomesfrommywishingandattempting to avoidmyowncausal emotion. Iwouldrather punishmyself, or others, than actually feel thepainwithinmyselffromwhathashappened.ExamplesoflivinginharmonywiththislawI do not avoid people, places or events that have previously“harmed”me, or I have harmed, unless they continue to want toharmme.Idon’thaveanger/resentmenttowardsmyselfaboutmyown actions that caused others/myself pain. I am repentant for,that is I have felt all of my emotions, for all of the times I haveharmedothersormyselfinthepast.I do not treat others as if they are more important than myselfbecauseofguiltorshameofmyself. Idonotdependonothersforpositiveemotional support, for this isanaddictionofavoidance. IdonotcontinuelifestylehabitsthatIknowharmmybodybecauseIdealwiththeemotionalcause.LawofMercyMercy or Grace is my choice to understand that by feeling, andlettinggo,oftheemotions,Iamforgiven,eventhoughIhavesinnedagainst God, others or myself, as long as I have demonstrated arepentantspirit.Arepentantspiritisonethatfeelstotallywillingtofeel allmynegative actions,with constantprayer to theDivine tofeelit,andthereforereleaseit.I do not refuse Divine Love or love from others in an effort tocontinue to punish myself for past “sins.” I allow my ownworthiness to grow, rather than destroyingmyself with unlovingthoughts and actions. I do not punish myself by treating myselfbadlyphysically or emotionally; I amasmercifulwithmyself as Iamwith others. I never allowmyself to “get awaywith” unlovingemotionswithinmyselfwithoutfeelingtheircause.What happens when I break this law in my treatment ofmyself?

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When Idisplaymercy towardsmyself at thewrong time, Ihavealack of self‐responsibility. I feel I can get away with unlovingactions without there being a consequence. I have a tendency totreat others as if they have behaved worse than myself, e.g. wecriticize others when we have had an abortion/been sexuallypromiscuous. I place myself in the position where I continuallytreatothersbadly.Iamnothumbleenoughtoseemyselftruthfully,andIperpetuatemyownunlovingbehavior,When I do not display mercy towards myself at all: I feel I amworthless,unworthy,unlovable,nothingandunredeemable.IfeelIcannotever lovemyself,andrefusetoreceivethe loveofothers. Ipunishmyself,blamemyself,andresentmyselfevenbeingalive.What soul condition within me prevents me from being inharmonywiththisLaw?I have terrible emotions of self‐shame that I am avoidingexperiencing.Iwillneverbegoodenough.Iwillalwaysbebad.Iamalways guilty because I am a born “sinner.” I feel I have donesomethingsobadinthepastthatIcannotbeartogointoit.IfeelIam at faultwhen others get angry/upsetwithme. ‘What did I dowrong?”IhavebeentoldinmychildhoodthatIwasthecauseofmyabusivetreatment. I have childhood beliefs that others are always betterthan myself. I have childhood beliefs that God is alwaysdisappointedandangrywithme.Or I feel I ammore important thanothers; and so letmyself “off‐the‐hook” with how I damage others. I am unwilling to feelemotionsthataretheresultofthe“LawofCompensation.”IfIliveindisharmonywiththeLaw:EverytimeIseemyparentsorothers,theyalwaysberateme,butIcontinuetoseethem.EverytimemypartnergetsangrywithmeItakeit,andkeepallowingittohappen.IfIliveinharmonywiththeLaw:

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If I have hurt others, I deeply feel the emotion of it, and feel theforgiveness from God. If I really love a person, I want to feel thecausal reasonswithinmyself as towhy I harmed them, and I amwilling to work through the causal emotions and ask forforgivenessformyactions.IfIhavecheatedonmypartner,Iworkthroughtheemotionsthatcausedmetodoit,Ifeelsorrowforthepain I have caused my partner, and I forgive myself rather thanpunishingmyself,orallowingmypartnertocontinuetopunishme.LawofDivineTruthIalwaysliveinharmonywithGod’sTruth,asIknowitemotionally.I live in emotional truth towards all people since loving myselfmeanstobeemotionallyrealwiththem.Itellthetruth,andneverwithhold the truth,nomatterwhat thecost,because it is loving. Iunderstand and feel deeply emotional about the truth beingALWAYS loving to myself. I understand and feel deeply that IcannotbecomeclosertoGodwithoutacceptingHisDivineTruth.What happens when I break this law in my treatment ofmyself?I feel the pain of sacrificing myself by not being myself in allsituations in my life. I feel the painful emotions of never beingmyself, or honouring myself in all situations. I prevent my ownconnection with God, and my eventual At‐one‐ment with God. Ipreventmysoulmateconnectionfromeverbeingfulfilling.What soul condition within me prevents me from being inharmony?I have emotional beliefs of error frommy life of fear about beingpunished for truth, being punished for how I truly feel inside, forthe person I am. Fear or terror about fully experiencing myemotions, no matter what happens. Deep emotional beliefs thattruthisharmfulandpunishing.ExamplesoflivinginharmonywiththislawIfIhavecheatedonmypartner,orliedtoanother,Iwillalwaystellthem no matter what the “cost.” I always state how I feel toeveryonearoundme,eveniftheylookdownuponmeorpunishmefor it.If IknowaDivineTruth, Iwouldneverrefusetospeak it in

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anysituation.I loveGodandGod’sTruthmorethananythingelse,nomatterwhatseeming“price”mustbepaid.Formore, go towww.divinetruthseminars.comandwatch the videoonself­love.

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SELF­LOVEandYOUREMOTIONSTotrulyloveyoursoulmeansyouhavetobewillingtosimplyfeelall of your soul, all the loving parts of it and all the unloving andunfelt parts of it that you do not wish to feel and avoid, theforgotten,hiddenaspectsthatarerunningyourlifefromunderthesurface.Italsomeansonehastododifficultthingsthatmayseemlikeanathematoyou, thatmay ‘seem’unlovingandbringupdeepfear and even physical shaking within you. You will have to goagainst other’s resistance to your newfound self‐love, whichreflects your own fears. Sometimes you just need to say no, nomatterhowharditseems,orhowmuchyoumayloveanotherandwantto‘give’themeverything.Dowhatissoulfullytrueandnotwhatothersandtheworldexpectsyou to do. Sometimes, you have to swim against the tide ofwhateveryonethinksistrue,andbepreparedtofaceyourfearsandlowself‐worth,aswellasotherpeople’sexpressionsofthistoyou.Yourown beliefs about love and what it involves being, or giving, toanotherhastobedeeplyquestioned.Asyoudothis,peoplemaybackofffromyou,orgetangryasitmaybedeeplychallengingtothem,ORitcouldreallyattractthem!Trulyloving yourself can be painful and it can break up your mostintimate relationships, families and careers if you follow it all theway. But itwill also lead you to an authentic, grounded and trueconnectionwiththeDivineandthewholenessofyourownsoul,aswellasenablingyoutocommunewithyourtruepartner,vocationandpathinlife.Trulylovingyourselfmeansyouconfronteverythingaboutyourselfyou do not like, that youwishwould go away, that you avoid orintellectually justify, that you get angry or scared about, that youfeelhelplessandpowerlessover.Everythinghastoariseinfeelingbased inquiry, andwhenwe start feeling the pain, betrayal, griefandshameweareavoiding,weknowwearereallygettingdowntobusiness!Thebusinessoflovingourselvestrulyandfully.

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In this confrontation anddeephumility,we can implode inwards,descending on a seemingly never‐ending downward spiral intofeelingwhatwehavesolongrunawayfrom.Thisispainful,butwelearn the most through our own overwhelm, implosion andbreakdowninordertobreakthroughintomorereallove.Wehavebeentaughtasasociety,throughourparents,andthroughHollywood films, that self‐love is negative and means egotism,anger,power,money,narcissismand self‐delusion.Taking careofselfappearstobecomedistortedbyalensoffear,territorialissues,religious andpolitical rigidity.On the other hand, commonly heldvalues about what love really is negate self‐love in forms of self‐sacrifice, selfless giving, service etc.Both are extremesof the realtruth,whichliesbetweenthetwopoles,asalways.BysimplyconnectingmoreandmoredirectlytoGodinthedepthsof your soul, humbly and fully transparent with deep desire andacknowledgement of your flaws and faults, ALL your lessons areaccelerated. As the Padgett messages, which contain some directteachingsofChristwithinthem,share:‘Love is the fulfillment of the Law. When you pray for and receiveDivineLove,thePowerofthisLoveinyoursoulgoestoworkonyourencrustments and pays your debt of compensation.When a personpraysforMercyandforgiveness forpastsinsanderrors, thisprayerwillbringDivineLoveintothesoul,andthisLovewilldotheworkofforgiveness.There is a vast difference between the spiritual development inbecoming transformed by Divine Love, and purification of soulthrough renouncing sin and doing good deeds. The formeraccomplishesthelatterandthencommencesthetransformation.’The more Divine Love flows into you, the more it will overflowthrough you to others naturally at some point. Others will betouched,butthereisnoneedtodoso,ortrytodoso.Self‐loveissomethingthatisoftenleftoutonthespiritualpath.Itisoften banished in favour of no self, emptiness and great ideals

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about selflessness, giving, service, God etc.Why shouldwe love aselfthatdoesnotevenexist?Andwhichselfisfeelingthatanyway?Arethetwomostcommonanswersfromtheneo‐Onenessmindset.Yeteventhepeoplesharingthishaveaself,eveniftheythinktheyarenot identifiedwith it.Weall havean identity, abody, amind,emotions, anda soul,whetherweagreewith itornot.Weall eat,shit,sleep,haveabody,talk,engageinvariousrelationships,havesexanddovariousthingswiththisbodyandselfallthetime.Weallhaveaselfwhetherourmindsandvariousphilosophiesagreewithitornot.To not be identified with any of it is ultimately true when webecomeaDivinesoul,yetwecannotskipthesimplefactwehavetofeel,embraceandhealallthefeelingsthatmakeuswhowefeelwearefirst.Totranscendthisprocessisdangerousforyoursoul.ThisisanemotionalprocessforthosewhoareinterestedinDivineLove.Tojustdoitintellectuallyorwiththehighermindstillleavesoutvaluablesoulfulopenings,healingsandlearnings.DivineTruthiscognizedbythemindandthenlivedintoemotionallybythesoulforittoreachitsfruition.Soulfulfeelingsarehowthesouloperatesandcommuneswithanybodyandeverythingincreation.Themindbecomes the servant of the soul once feelings are valued asmoreimportant,andasourtrueguidetoDivineLoveandGod.Themindcannevergraspit.Trueself‐lovemeanswe findour truecentre,ourreal foundation.Wehaveallbeenlivingfromafalsecentre,thefalsecentrecreatedbyourwounds.Builtaroundthisgapinghole,everythingwedo istojustifythishole,therebyreinforcingit.Torealizeourtruecentreofsoul, the falsecentrehas tobe feltandseen,andsodismantledpiece‐by‐piece, layer‐by‐layer, and then a new centre felt andinstalled.Thisnewcentreisharmonious,soul‐centred,andthroughdesire for Godwill become divinely orientated and fed. This newcentrewithinyou,boundinself‐love,isaperfectsacredgeometry,connectingtotheperfectionofuniversalharmonyfoundinsacredgeometricstructures.

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Ifyoucanpicturehonestly,atthismoment,thetrueshapeandstateofyourcentreasitisrightnow,whatdoesitlooklike?Ifyouloveyourself,itwillbeclear,harmonious,luminousandcolourful,inperfectbalanceandequipoise.Ifyouareconnectingthisself‐lovetoDivineLove,itwillbeconnectingtoaGoldenMeanPhispiralthroughitsheart;thisspiralwillspinoutintoinfinity,belowandabove,asithasnobeginningandnoend.Ifyoudonotloveyourself,thenthegeometrywillbejagged,withpiecesmissing,withdarkshadowsandspots,dullandbroken.Theremaybespiritsinvolvedinobstructingthisself‐love,suggestingotherwaystobe.IfyouarenotrelatingtoGod,therewillbenospiral.Tobehonestisthefirststeptoself‐love.Whatdoesyourcentrelooklike?Coming fromyour truecentreofSelf‐love,whichcanonlybe trueonceitisrelatingtoGodandreceivingDivineLove,increasesyourpowers of manifestation, and the power of your actions holdsingularresonance.Thismeansthattheprocessandtimetakentomanifestagenuinesouldesireaccelerates; thepowerofwhatyousayanddoincreasesinitspowertomanifestasyounowhavemorepersonalpowertowieldinalignmentwithDivineTruthandLove.Self‐love is the first step towards true love. Many self‐helpprograms advocate that we do have needs, and that we need tolearn to find them,express them,and fulfill/validate them.This issomethingthatneedstobedealtwithonanotheroctaveINTRUTH,oncewe havemade the initial steps of finding the deeper woundsbehindourneeds,ratherthanvalidatingthemonthesurface.We do not need financial support from anyone apart from thereturnfromtheworkweputinourselves,honestlyandtruly,fromthesweatofourownbrow;thistakescareofallourphysicalneeds,food,home,clothingetc.Ifwedostillneedmoneyfromothers,itisbecause we have wounds around passion, desire and self worthwithin ourselves that prevent us from loving and giving toourselvesthismostbasicexpressionofself‐love.

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Wemayneedadegreeofemotionalsupport fromothersuntilwehealenoughtobecomeemotionallyengagedinourrelatingtoGod,self‐sufficient without others, self‐nurturing, self‐responsible andhave enough emotional intelligence to do this. This thenbecomesthebasistobecomemoreandmorereliantontheDivinealoneforourdeeper,moresoulful,emotionalconnectionandnurturance.Mentally,webecomefluid,open,investigatingthebeliefsandprograms,intellectualdeceptions,justifications,controlmechanisms,minimizations,projectionsanddenialsthathavearisenfromouremotionalwounding.Themindistheresultofthesoul,andthethoughtsandmentalchatterwehavecomesfromnotfeelingcertainemotions.Wejustwishtobewithothersintimatelytobeourselves,andofcourserthisdefinitionofourselveschangesasweevolvetoo.With a partner, the new paradigm is simply two souls comingtogetherwithnoneedtoplugeachothersholeswhatsoever;simplytogrow,share,makelove,andenjoyeachotherscompanywithoutany need to plug into any hole, (be it of loneliness or societalconditioning) fooling us into doing thingswe feel and knowdeepdownweshouldnotbedoing.Withnoneed,theneedtoliveandshareeverythingtogether,liveineachother’spockets,getmarried,andalltheoldparadigmwaysofsafety, security andmutual neediness dissolves. On an emotionallevel,thecrutchesthatmanylongtermcouplesusetocomfortandplacateeachotherdissolves,andas itdoes,moredesirearisesforeach other. The unconscious ways you betray your own love foryourself based on deeper wounds are easily revealed here, onceyoutakeastepback.The mental adjustments and accommodations that long‐termpartners can usuallymake to ‘fit into’ each other’s head space ormindset no longer have to be there, allowing you freedom ofexpression without having to justify yourself to another, or tonedownyourbehaviortopleaseanother.Justbeingyourselfbecomesharderafterawhileifsomeoneconstantlydisapprovesofyoubeingyourself,no?

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Eachsoulisfreetodowhatevertheirsoulsdesireis,whatevertheirfreewillleadsthemto,whatevertheirsoulfulpassionis,andwhateveryearningfortheDivinemaybringtothem,atanytime.Ifyouarenotfullylivingthese,maybeitistimetoexaminewhy,andhowyouhavecompromisedyourselfinordertoharmonise,placate,pleaseorevenjustsimplytobewithanotherpersonyoubelieveyoulove.(Formoreseethechapter‘Whatislove?’in‘TheDimensionsofLove’book.)Remember; look in themirror; there is your love. Look deeper andpray,andyouwillbeabletofeelGod:Heisyourloveofallloves.Thisisyournever‐ending,eternalandinfiniterelationship,theoneyouwillalwayshave.Everyotherrelationshipyouhaverightnow,havehadinthepast,andwillhaveinthefuture,willcomeandgo,inaliteralblinkofaneyeintheeyesofthedivine.Oneblink…andpoof! Gone. But what is left? You and God. So don’t let yourselfdown,andforgetwhatiseverlasting,asopposedtowhatismerelytemporary.Wheneverythinghasgone,whenallhaspassedawayintodustandashes,whenallelseisdead,youarestillthere.Which‘you’willthisbe?Whenall is saidanddone, it is onlyyour soul left, nakedandalone,withGod.Imaginethisrightnow.Youarestandingonanemptydesertplain, fullofsandandavastnight sky full of stars. See yourself there now, as your soulconditionisrightnow.Now,behonest.Asyouzoomintothisfigure,whatisitdoing?Askit,whatdoyouwant?Lookintoitseyes,thewindowstothesoul.Whatemotionsarethere?Whatisleftunfulfilled?Whatareitsregrets?Whatdoesitneedfromyou?Haveatalkwithyourselfatthiscrucialmomentoftruth.

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Underneath our lack of true self‐love lie deeper causes.Whenweacceptand loveourownself truly,wartsandall,andwereally feelthis, this initiates even deeper healings and transformations withinus.Lackofself‐lovecanbebothaneffectofadeeperwoundingthathurt us and made us feel we could not fully accept and loveourselves,andcanalsobethatwenevervaluedourselvesbecausewewerenevertaughttoacceptorloveourselvesaschildren,werecounseledagainstthis,andthatthiswasseentobewrongorbad.Underneathourlackofself‐loveandunworthinessliesouroriginaland deepest soul wound, the Original Wound of separation fromGod. From this wound we create our false centre, from whicheverythingelse comes from. It is the false foundationcreating thefalsewisdomofourwounds.Being totallyhonestwithhowyouare feeling inanymoment,notlying,tellingthetruthaboutyourself,andwhatyouseereflectedinothers,isabigpartofthisprocess.Ifyoufeelandknowsomethingthat could assist another, to thennot speak it is a fearful act thatshowsyouwhereyouarenotbeingloving.To delve into this wound, to truly feel it over time and heal itseffects,layerbylayer,changeseverythingwithinyou.Youwillstartthe process as one person, and then, as youdeepen into self‐lovethrough your ever‐stronger connection to God, you will reach acrossroadsinyourlife.Atthecrossroads,youthentakeadifferentdirection to the way you have trod before, and become anothertypeofperson.Thisishowprofoundalchemyoccurswhenwetakethis pathway and embrace ourselves and everything else thatarises,(withthesupportofthedivine)discardingallthatnolongerservesthisburgeoninglove.Yet you have to be focused, self‐loving, even divinely ‘selfish’, toheal yourself. Take the time for yourself to do it, despite otherpeople’s objections, or what you may think they may say or do.Guiltandshameoftenstopsusfromaskingfor,andreceiving,howwewoulddesiretobetreatedandhowwecanbesttreatourselves.Wemayfeelsomethingiswrongaboutthis!Withoutseeingitisour

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own self that is blockingwhatwemost desire to experience andreceive.Your freewill aligned to yourhighest goodanddeepestdesires tobewith theDivine is theonly thing you are truly responsible for,andnoonecancomeinthewayofthat.Iftheytry,beloving,clearand firm,butdonot compromisewhat youhave todo,nomatterwhatitis,IFyoufeelandknowitisthehighesttruth.Asyoudeepen in theprocess,whatwasoncedreaded, fearedandavoided,becomesinvitedin,welcomedandalmostrejoicedin.YouWANT and desire, through the pain, to know and feel more ofyourselfandDivineLove,andprayconstantlytofeelitbecauseyouknow thatmore love liesbehind thepain thatmayarise.Not justhuman love,no.DivineLove,which then spills over intoahumanexpressionandeffectofthisDivineLove.You feel more palpable Divine joy, different to human joy in itssparkle,lustre,lightandclarity,moreofthetimeandfornoreasonwhatsoever.Yourgratitudebringsyoutotearsforthegiftsyouarebeing given, and for the Divine Love you are now feeling, thegreatest substance, feelingandquality inalluniversesatall timesEVER. You know, (in the deeper parts of your soul that you nowconnect to), thatGod truly lovesyou,desires toknowyou totally,andisorchestratingeverythingforyoutotakemorestepstowardsHim,ifyousodeeplydesire.This is anamazing revelation tohave!Not in themind,but in thedepthsofthesoul.Andthisiswhatawaitsyou,myfriends.Askandyoushallreceive.EverytimeyouhealandloveyoursoulandreconnectitsfragmentswithDivineaid,thathealingpowerautomaticallymovesouttohelpthecollective.Ihaveexperiencedthismanytimes,andseenitinthe‘love’ fields of the planet, known as the Unity or ChristConsciousnessGrids.Eachtimeafragmentofmysoulwashealed,Iwouldlaterbemeditatingandfeeling/observingmyconnectiontothe Christ Grid. As I consciously connected, fragments of manysoulswerebeingreleasedanddissolvedatthesametimeasIwas

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releasing and dissolving! This was surprising at first, but then Iunderstood. Every time you heal your soul and reconnect itsfragments with Divine Love, that healing power automaticallymovesouttohelpthecollective.Therearealsomanytimeswhenthehealingofselfisgivenaboostthrough the helping, healing and educating of others. You arereminded, as the other is, and both are strengthened, integratingmorepiecesofyouthroughthesharing.Asmore loveandhealingflows into you, reunifying you piece by piece, then that love willspontaneously flow out to those ready to receive it in whicheverwayistrueandrightfortheirsoulsatthatmoment.However,whenyouaredeep inyourpain,angerandgrief, feelingbadandcryingyour eyes out, that is probably not the right time to help counselothers!Although it canbeeducationalandhumbling forothers tofeelyourownpain.Honouryourself.Knowthyself.Myjobistotakecareofme.Whatisgoodformysoul,onceitisfollowingDivineTruths,isgoodforyou.Takethisinaheartful,mature,self‐lovingway,ratherthanaselfish,self‐absorbedchildishway.In truth, if everybody learned to take proper soul care of him orherself, becoming totally self‐responsible, self‐accepting and self‐loving, (againonlypossiblewithDivinehelpand thehumility thisbrings)thatwouldbeenoughtochangemanythingsonearth.Butso fewpeopledotruly lovethemselvesandGod,andtheevidenceof that is very clear in the world; for if more people truly lovedthemselvestheywouldtrulyloveothers,andtheworldwouldbeadifferentplace,fullofalotmorelove!Feelthat.‘AnytimeIaminpain,Iambreakingorhavebrokenalawoflove.’Whatmanyofusoftenhavetowalkthroughtogettothisplaceareourbeliefsaboutlove,ourlackofself‐love,anddissolvingourmanyand varied beliefs and illusions around God. As JB, one of mystudents, honestly shares in dialoguewithme: “I feel so very faraway from God. Reading about self‐lovehas brought about aprofound sadnessabout the distance I have created by not

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nurturingmy relationshipwith God. Aloha mai ke akua ipo ‐ youloveyourselfasyouloveGod‐wellIhavenotlovedGod,andIhavenotsoughthislove.AndthusIhavenotlovedmyself.I have focused all of my attention on seekingthe love of others,wanting acceptance, wanting to be liked, needingrecognition formyeffortsinlove.Myheartisopen,butnottomyselfortoGod.I'mnotsureI'veevenconsideredthatGodmayloveme.....andyettherehave been times that I have felt the grace of that love with suchforce. Ihaveheld it inmyheart foramomentandsoared.SowhydoIneglectthisconnectiontotheDivine?I'mnotsureIevenknowhowtotrulypraytoreceiveGod’slove....SoI'veseenthatwhenitcomesto,"Lookingafterandcaringformyrelationship to God daily," Ihave not loved myself. I have notcultivatedthisfirstrelationshipandthereforeIcannothopetobefulfilled in others. I keep onreading the statements out loud andfeeling into that pain ofseparation.... it feels like my heart isbreakingfromallthatIhavenotallowed.ButIstilldon'tfeelmyselfsurrenderingfullytoGod'slove...canitbesohard?”This is perfect, what you are feeling, although I know it does notfeellike that! Your mind will never know how to pray; only yourheartwill,spontaneously, openly in desire in themoment,when thepain of feeling separated, fragmented,is too much.Prayer is not aroutineorapractice;itisalivingspontaneouscommunion.Ittakestime,butjustfeelintothis:howmanylifetimeshaveyounotlovedselforGod;andnowitissupposedtobeallsortedoutin1day?Surrendering to God’s love comes thru deep, sincere,spontaneousprayer,anytimedayornight;walkingdownthestreet,intheshower,inbed,innature,working,reading…ITHAPPENS!Themore sincere it is, as your heart feels the painmore andmore,andthewallsaroundtheheartstarttoburnanddissolveinthefire,themoreGodsLovehastheSPACEtoenter.Atthemomentitislikeacrowdedwardrobeandstuffedsocksdrawer!

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Allowsomeofthestufftobeburnt,createmorespaceforGodinyourlife, and you will feel the love, moreand more.It DEFINITELYHAPPENS; have faith, and if you question, know thatthere is morewithinyourheartthatneedtobeburntandfaced.TheonlythingthatstopsDivineLovefromenteringus,is.......US!God is always here, and loves us more than you can everpossiblyimagine,andonedayyouwillfeelit,Ipromiseyou.Many people feel, as part of our OriginalWounding, ‘My ideas ofprayer and God have been stuck inthe constructs of organizedreligion ‐ something that I rejected along time ago. I have beenfindingmywaybacktoGodeversince,butithasn'tbeeneasy.Foralong time I could barely even speakabout God because I couldn'tarticulatewhatIfeltGodtobe,andprayersimplydidn'tcomeintothe picture, barring moments of fear. But the spontaneousprayerthatcomesfromthehearthasbeenheardinmine.Icanfeelsomuchthatwants toburst throughanddissolve itswalls.... longheldemotioniscominguptothesurfacedesperatetobefelt,andIwanttoembraceitall.Iwant to feel thepainthatcanbreakthewallsdown,andopenmyheart toGod's love.The thought thatGod is alwayshere lovingusmorethanwecaneverimaginesimplyoverwhelmsme,andisfeltasTruthdeepinsideme.’

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SELF­LOVE:YOURCORE“Love yourself, accept yourself, forgive yourself, and be good toyourself, becausewithout you the restofusarewithouta sourceofmanywonderfulthings.”LeoF.BuscagliaTruthisthegreatestrelief,butcanalsobringgrief.Whenwefinallyacknowledgesomethingwehavealwayssuspectedbutneverdaredfully own or admit to ourselves, or another, then truth comesfloodingout,shatteringourbeliefsandillusions.Butwhydowehideourselves fromtruth?Becausetheychallengeourgreatestbeliefsandidealsgleanedfromthefalsewisdomofourwounds, and sometimes we just do not want to know them. Wewouldrathergetangry,rageabout,deny,justifyandblameothers,ratherthanfacethebaretruthaboutourownverywoundedself.Whatisthattruth?AccordingtoHawaiianshamansitis:Alohamaikeakuaipo­youloveyourselfasyouloveGod.Now,howdowenotdothateveryday?Ratherthanaffirmafalseideal,suchaspositiveaffirmationsworkon, let us get down to the bare, basic truths that are running ourshowandthatwealreadyfeelaboutourselves,shallwe?Thatisfarmore useful, as it shows us where we actually are, rather thenwherewethinkweshouldbe,orbookstellusweoughttobe,oristhesupposedtruth.Beinghonestisthefirststepinreal,authenticlivingallowinga solid foundation to stepmoreandmore into thedivine.TheharminmyselfreflectsdirectlyintheharmIdotoothers.This harm is not just gross or physical­ it is all my judgments, putdowns, pride, envy, anger, fear, blame. Not lovingmyself reflects inmyactionstootherpeopleandtheworld.I willingly explore, recognize, feel and understand where I haveharmedmyownselfandwhereIhaveseparatedfromlove,now.Once

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I do this, I canbe established in self­loveas the true foundation forDivineLove.IhealtheharmIhavedonetomyselffirst.Avoidingmypainisactuallyharmingmyself.Avoidingmypainisactuallynotacceptingorlovingmyself.Avoidingmypainstopsmefromforgiving,stopsmefromopeningmyheart.InowneedtofeelAllofthisinordertolivelifefully,openmyheart,andengagetruly.Reacting by not embracing emotions, and avoiding them, leads toan unconscious coldness, an isolated, supercilious mentalsuperiority and emotional cut off or separation, a breakdown inrelationships, general fear, turmoil and unrest. One can becomedisruptive and antisocial, not trusting the feminine character andprocessesoflifeanditscycles.Whatwillbewillbe,anditwillkeepcoming around, again and again, repeating because it is trying tofind a resolution to break out of the box and loop it is cyclingaroundwithin.TodothismeanswehavetohealallthetimesRIGHTNOWwearedoing this, in our lifestyle choices, denial of our dreams, heart’spassions, soul desires and yearnings; in our relationships, in oursexuality, in our stifling jobs, bad family relationships, and all theother ways physically, emotionally and mentally we refuse torecognize howwedo not love our self, and all thewayswedenylovingourowntrueself.Takeadeepbreath,andreleasewithaloudAHHHHHH.Now,saythisaloud,fromyourheart,humblyandhonestly.Iamstillharmingmyselfeachandeveryday.Howareyoudoingthis?List10waysinwhichyouaredoingit.Therearemoreaswell.Whatareyougoingtodoaboutitafterreadingthiswholechapter?

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LOVEYOURSELFASYOULOVEGODTo truly feel thatGoddesiresand lovesyou isoneof thegreatestgiftsofoverwhelminggratitudeever imaginable.Totruly feel thatGod desires you both shatters and heals you. To truly andspontaneouslyloveGodfromthedepthsandpurejoyofyourheartisoneofthehappiest,mostliberatingfeelingsincreation.Thebasisofthisallisloveofself,theseedoftrueservice.Alohamaikeakuaipo­youloveyourselfasyouloveGod.So, how do you love God, or do you even love God? Is it animpersonal,mythic, too big forme type idea? Or is it a personal,heart driven relationship? What can you do to ignite thisrelationshipagain?LovingyourselfasyouloveGodisanancientHawaiianmasterkeyto embodying your soul here on earth. True Prayer allows thebreath of life, of spirit, to flow from God through your heart andback into the Creator, and then from Creator to you, again andagain.Whatyouhavereceivedyoualsohavetogive.God’s deepdesire for all of us is to be at onewithHim. In lovingyourselfintruthandwithDivineLove,youwillalsoloveGodmoredeeply,authentically,sincerely.YourloveforGodincreasesasyourloveandcareforyourownsouldeepens,allowingthehealingofitswoundsinDivineLove.LoveforGodbecomesmoregenuine,moregiving, more grateful and more joyful as this journey continues.Your expression and giving of your newfound love for self getsgiven toGod freely, abundantly and joyfully.And it returns, againandagainandagain,intoinfinity.‘The thing thatmakesyousad is lackofconnection towhoyouare.What people call love, the feeling of love, the feeling of in love, thefeelingofjoy,isafeelingofnosplitenergy­itsbeinginsyncwiththesource.So,anynegativeemotionyoufeelisnotbecauseofthelossofaperson,the lossofa friend,otherthanthe lossofyourconnection,the loss of being tuned in, tapped inwith who you are.’ AbrahamHicks

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SELF­LOVEANDAWAKENING‘We need first to own ourself as a separate soul, before takingresponsibilityforourroleaspartofAllThatIsasanintegratedIAm.’CatherineLove.‘ Thehuman soul is the realperson, separate fromyourmaterial,physicalandspiritbodies.Thehumansoulisfirstcreatedwith,andhas implanted byGodwithin it, its owndesire for the expressionandreceptionoflovefromotherhumansouls,thedesireforwhichisoftensuppressedduringthegestationperiodandafterthebirthofthechild.Thehumansoulcanandusuallydoesobtainemotionalsoulbasedinjuriesthroughtheprocessofacceptingandabsorbingdesiresandpassionsthataredisharmoniouswith love,andthese injurieswhenignored not only determine the thoughts, desires, passions,longings and actions of the individual to a great extent, but alsodetermine, through the operations of God’s Universal Laws, whatevents, people and life situations are attracted to the person’sindividual life. This therefore are the causal reasons for anindividual’s personal pain and suffering, whether that person belivingonearthorinotherdimensions,andwhetherthatpersonisconsciousoftheTruthofthisfact.Thehumansoul,nomatterwhatitspersonalcondition,cangrowinloveandhappinessatanytime,andthehumansoul’sconditionandlifeexperience isnever fixednorpredetermined.Thehumansoul,no matter what its personal condition or situation, can begin toreceiveDivineLove. If thehumansoulcontinuestoreceiveDivineLove,ithastheabilitytocontinuetogrowinfinitely,andthereforealso infinitely grow in its ability to understand God’s UniversalTruths, and also infinitely grow in personal happiness, bliss, andpower.’13

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In love foryour soulallied inDivineLove,ourwoundsandneedsare feltand intheprocesswebecomemoreandmore ‘filled’withloves truth. The soul becomes free of error, coming closer in itsrelationship with God. This is just a step where many stop, staycomfortable,andrest.Thisisnotthepinnacleofthehumanjourney–itisanotherbeginning.AsYeshuasaid,‘ThereisonejourneytotheKingdomofGod,andanotheronewithinthekingdomofGod.’Thewhole ideaof ‘emptiness’ isastageofevolution.Emptiness issimply that where the wounded and conditioned self dissipatesbecauseitswoundshavebeenfullyfeltandthereforehealed.Thenonecanbeanemotionallyandsoulfully‘perfected’manorwoman,able to love and accept unconditionally,without error, but this isstillnotAt‐one‐mentwithGod.Many people are stuck at the ‘I'm enlightened’ idea because theydrop into this emptiness, and think theyhavearrived.This is justthebeginning;foritisatthispointthatyoucanbefreeofemotionalsoulerror,painandsuffering….orjustkiddingyourselfyouhave.Oneway to test this is togo into thesexual‐emotionalenergies inalignment with the soul in intimate relationship, (which by thispointyoumaynoteventhinkyouhave!)Most people tend to get stuck and content with where they are.Knowingthereissomethingelseinourfullpotentiality,theDivinesoul, allows one to know and go further. The nature and deeperactivation and union of emotion, sexuality, soul, God and thereceiving of Divine Love as the ultimate transforming agent andsubstanceisthebridgebeyondwhatiscommonlyknowntodayasenlightenment,whichissimplyanotherstep.

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The FiveWounds of Love entered our societies attention throughthe Crucifixion of Christ Yeshua and the five wounds he sufferedwhilstontheCross.These5woundsare5‘negative’emotions,andtheiroppositesare5qualitiesoflove,andthesearepartoftheroadforeverysoultotravelthroughontheroadtoDivineLove.All Five Wounds are healed through the heartful qualities offorgiveness,trust,embrace,reunionandsurrender,whichremedytheerrorsofjudgment;thegutfeltfeelingsofbetrayal,theresistanceofdenial, the plunging feeling of abandonment, and the icy, isolateddetachmentofseparation.These Five Wounds of judgment, denial, betrayal, abandonmentandseparationcanrepeatagainandagaininyourlife,askingyou:whatareyoufeeding,whydoesthesamethingkeephappening?Our own vulnerability andpain is the gateway throughwhichwecanexperiencewhatitmeanstotrulyloveselfandGod.EmbracingyourpainopensthegatewaytoTruth.YoucannotfindTruthwhiledenyingpain.Your shadowbecomesa guardiananda gateway toGod.Thetruthisthatwebetraythesoul,wedenylove,weabandonthesoul and Divine laws, we judge ourselves, we separate ourselves,we walk away from Divine Truth and love every day. We areactuallylivinginthesefivewoundsoflove.Soitisgoodtostartoffknowingwhereyouareandwhatyouaredoing.Thisishumility.Humilityiswhenyouarenolongerindenial.Humilityishavingthedeepdesiretoacceptandfeelexactlywhereyouareandwhereyouarenot; tobe indenial of this is oneof themainwoundsof love.Humility is theoppositeofdenial. It leads intoembrace.Youhavetoberealwithwhereyouareinordertoprogress.Itismuchbettertofeellikeshitforthreeyearsandthenbeineternallove,thanitistofeelrelativelyniceforthirtylifetimesandnevertouchGod.Butofcourse,wedistractourselvesbecausewewanttofeel‘good’.Wefindmanywaystodothat.Manyaspectsofdenialordistractionall come down to your choosing to substitute the things of this

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worldforDivineLoveandDivineTruth.ThevainhopeisthatyoucangetthisDivineLovefromsomewhereelse.The more you ask for Divine Love and the more you choose tofollow Divine laws, the more your wounds will be felt and bereleased.Thisrequiresafundamentalshiftinyourdailyawarenessand actions into the humility of your soul, rather than thedominationofyourmind.Yoursoulfeelsandknowsthatthemorehumble it is, the more love will be felt. Humility is seeing,recognising and feeling all the places you are in denial. So, golooking for all the places in your lifewhere it is not in alignmentwithDivinelaws,DivineLoveandloveforyourownsoul.The difference between humility and unworthiness is thatunworthiness is a felt lack of lovewhereas humility is a yearningfor love. In humility you are yearning through your actions forDivineLove.Humility isanopening to loveandunworthiness isacontracting from love. When you feel unworthy, also notice ashadowofprideandprojectionisstill thereinotherpartsofyourlife;theyarepolarities.Whenyou are inhumility, there is no chargeof ‘I shouldbe this,’but I am not. There are no ‘shoulds’ in humility. There is arecognition, a willingness, a yearning, a deep sobering andquietening of the soul; an internality andpeaceful solitude arises,yokedinthedeepdesireforDivineLove.ThewillingnesstofeelitallarisesbecauseyoudesireDivineLove.YoudesiretobecomeclosertoGod.Sothetryingoftheminddropsdown into the heart. Your heart and soulmoves forward into thetotalwillingnesstoseeandfeeleverypartthathasbeenseparatedfromDivineLove;andtherebecomesagreaterandgreaterpeaceinthisprocessasitdeepens.Sometimesweareobviously inthemindtryingtofigure itallout,butthemindwillneverknow.Itisstuckintryingtodenyandavoidthe emotions by going into doubt, chaos, chatter, confusion andjudgment. There is no peace in that. Themind is an effect of thesoul. Once your soul fully feels a causal wound and then heals it

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withDivineassistanceand love,youwill findthatyourmindgoessilent.Thinkingstopswhentheheartisclear.Allofthisisfuelledbyyour desire. Anybody, a beggar, a shopkeeper, a child, can get toGodifhehasthedesire.AbeggarcangettoGodinyearsifhehasthedesire,andsomealreadyhave.Socanyou.SokeepprayingforDivineLove,everyday,manytimesaday.IfyoukeepknockingonGod’sdoor,Hewillcome,instantlyifitdonewithsinceredesire.YouhavetobehumbletotrulydesireGod.ThemoreyoureceiveDivineLove,themorehumbleyoubecome.InreceivingDivineLovethroughdesire,bespecificinyourprayers.Your desire is the fuel and the prayers are the direction to allowGodto touch intoyourwounds,and then forDivineLove tocomeintoallpartsofyoursoul.Alongthewayyouwillbecomeawareoftheeffectemotionsofthesewounds,andthatispartofthejourney,butthenitisallaboutgoingintothefeeling.Feeltheanger,feelthefear, feel the betrayal. Feel the judgment, feel the denial. Feel theseparation.Thengoevendeeper,feelthepowerlessness,feelthegrief,feeltheshame,feeltheguilt,feeltheunworthiness.Whenyouarefeelingit,feel it completely, surrender to it fully, surrender to the feelingtotallyinyourbody,inyoursoul,inyourheart.Letittakeoveryoutotally,likeachildwould.ThenpraytoreceiveDivineLove.Westayonthesurfaceof lifebecausewehavebetrayedoursoulsdeeply.Life canbea lie, relationshipscanbea lieandwemaybelivingbyrules,whichtellusweshouldbehappyandjoyfulbecausethat is theway tobe.There isamuchdeeper joy,peaceandLovethatawaits thosewhogo through theircausalwounds.But this isnotdependentonwhatisoutside.Do not try to be normal anymore. You have been doing this yourwhole life and this makes you miserable, even though you maybelieveyouarenot.Wetrytofitintoanartificialrealitycreatedbyourwounds,a realityofwoundsasopposed to therealityof love.Thisiswhatyouhavebeendoingyourwholelife,tryingtofitintoyour wounds and other people’s wounds and adapt to them,

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creatingstrategiestocopewithitsothatyouareacceptedbythisartificialreality.Soyou fit into thisvirtualhologram.Soyou learn the lawsof thisfalse system in order to live, survive and be successful in thissystem.Aren’tyoutiredoftryingtofitintothis?Itisliketryingtofitinfinityintoalittle,tinybox.Godnevercomesintothebox,andneitherisHethereinthebox.TheboxhastobesmashedtoallowyoursoultotouchGod,andforGodtocomeandtouchyou.ThisiswhatHeiswaitingfor.The five wounds work in three different ways. In denial, you havedenied and avoided certain truths about your soul, and thereforelovingyoursoul;youthendenyandavoidsharingtruthwithothersasaresult,andyouhavethendeniedDivineLoveandDivinelaws.Youjudgeyourselfandyouprojectthatandjudgeothers;thenyouare judgingDivine lawsandDivineLove.Yousay, “Idon’thave tofollow those laws.” You separate from your own soul, you createfragments of your own soul, and this leads to separation fromothers,andofcourseitisallseparationfromGod,DivineLoveandDivineTruth.Asyoursoulisinfragments,its‘pieces’arehidden.Soyouhavetofeel and retrieve these pieces of your soul throughhumility, yourdesire, your choiceandyour complete followingofDivine laws totheir fullest extent in everything you do. These simple principlesarethebasisofallhealingandgrowthintoGod.14Intellect can never offer healing balm. It will just offer endlessanalysis, turning the effects and patterns of the wound over andover like a hamster running around its wheel. Wounds are whatmind thinks it canbeharmedby,butwhatcanbeharmed isonlytemporary.Lovecanneverbeharmed.

14inadditiontherearepartsofyoursoulthatcanonlybereunitedandhealedthroughusingyoursexualityaswell,forsexualenergyispartofthesubstanceofthesoulitself.

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Tohave thecourage toopenly feelallyouremotions,and tohavethepassionatedesiretojumpintothem,iswhatisbeingaskedofusall on thePathof Love.To feel all our emotions is to liberateoursoul,bringinguscloser toGod.TheWoundsexist toserveyou, tomake of you a truly heart‐centred human being, by gatheringtogether all the fragments of your soul back into love. The FiveWoundscoagulate thescattered, fragmentedpartsof thesoulandmind back into the hearts embrace, enabling us to live a strong,grounded,heart‐centredlifethatisneitherweaknorwounded,butrather life‐affirming and joyful with the soft power of the clearheart.EachWoundconnectsintoeachother.Theyareallinterconnected.Aslongasyouhaveone,theotherswillalsobethere.TheWoundsareonlyunveiledbyhumility,courage,andtotalself‐responsibility.TherearenovictimsinReality.Placeyourvalue in love,placeyour loyalty in loveand lovealone,and thewoundswill heal. Themindwill be laid to rest, droppingback down into the hearts rule. Soul will prosper, and ego willassumeitsrightfulplaceasservanttotheheart.TheFiveWoundsareinitiationsthatHAVEtobefacedwhenonthePath of Love, when embarking upon an authentic union withinyourself, andwhendesiring tomergewithGod theBeloved.Theycannot be escaped, and they are destined to happen. In fact, theyare already happening if you look closely at your life andrelationships.Several of these wounds will have a strong emotional charge foryou,andoneor twoof themwillbe thecore foundation, theverybasisofyourshadow,thebasisuponwhichyouhavebuiltmuchofyourresistancetolove.Thesewoundswilltakeyouallthewayintothepitofdespair,healing,andfinallyDivineLove.WhichoneortwooftheFiveisthisforyou?Wherehaveyouinflictedthesewoundsontoothers,andtoyourself?

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TheWoundsarekeystoyourownSelf‐responsibility.Itmayseemas if thesewounds have been inflicted upon you, but the truth isthat you are now ready to feel themand own themas a valuablypainfulpartofyourself,andtoyourgrowthintolove.Bytakingonthese wounds, you become free of their charge and disturbancewithin you, allowing the soul to bloom and expand. You havealready been feeling thesewounds: now they can unfoldmore inorderforyoutoliveaslove.Love heals all, and love can never be harmed. Love needs noprotection,andwoundscoverandprotect.Loveisyourprotection.TheparadoxisthatThe5WoundsofLovetriggersomethingdeepwithin us, as paradox only can. To contradict commonopinion orbeliefsisaradicalactiondesignedtoawaken,andtoownallevents,circumstancesandwoundsthathavehappenedtoyouarethemostradical act of love that a mature, self‐responsible adult can take.Paradoxisasignofthetruth,aswhenyoureversesomething,thetruthreveals.Ifsomethingisbehindus,suchasfear,itdoesnothelp.Theworkistobringtheshadowofanyandallofthewoundsforward,andfaceit. When you look at it in the face, you can fully feel it, andwithDivine aid it can disappear. The unique nature of your shadow isthat it loyally serves you, without any prejudice about youremotional or personal states. Your mind is unable to cheat orcontrolit.To enter the FiveWounds consciously is to call forth deep hearthealingstoenteraheart‐centredlife.Itisapathforthebrave,thetotallycommitted,theresoluteandtheheartful,foraseachWoundunfoldsyougettestedoneveryfrontofyourlifeandrelationships.The Five Wounds are particularly potent for those entering intosacredrelationship,fortheyenableatruefoundationtooccurthatis grounded in truth. If a couple can make it through the FiveWounds whilst together, they enter into unconditional love. Onlylove heals all the way, not mind, not therapy, not reading, nottalking.The feltemotionof love fromGod iswhathealsall things.ToconnecttoGodthroughprayer,humility,yearninganddesireis

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the basis to heal all things. The visceral feeling, and thereforehealingofshame,griefandunworthiness,emotionsthat liewithinus in different forms and qualities such as abandonment,separationanddenial,isavitalpartofthisprocess.As you emotionally move through the Five Wounds, facing andstarting to acknowledge that these wounds are within you, (andthat their causes were within you before you met your currentpartner!) irritation andmorewill arise. This is a good sign if youarededicatedtohealingandtobecomingclosertoGod.

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BETRAYALANDTRUSTKeyWords:WOUND: Revenge, hate, bitter, disappointed, sellout, cynical,divorce,deceived,selfloathing,selfbetrayalBALM:Trust,Forgiveness,Self‐Responsibility,LoyaltytoTruthandLove,Self‐loveEventhesuspicionthatyoumayhavebeenbetrayedhasthepowerto stir feelings and responses within you, making you hurt,indignant, angry. The actual confession and admittance that youhavebeenbetrayed,andhavebetrayedyourself,canbeexpressedin a multitude of feelings from rage and revenge, to hopelessdespair and disappointment. The admittance that you havebetrayed another is sad, humiliating, humbling and depressing.Quiteapotentemotionalcauldronthatbetrayalcreateswithinus,andothers.Betrayalisusuallyatwo‐foldwound.Withothersfirstlyistheact,words or thoughts that take place behind another’s back. This“other” would be hurt tremendously if these words, acts orthoughts were expressed openly to their face, so rather thancommitting to transparency of truth, the act takes place behindtheirback.Thenext layer is theconcealment,denialandsecrecyofwhathashappened. So there is a lie, which can lead to another lie, putpurposefullyinplacetomaskthebetrayal.Thisinitiallieisusuallydeeplyentrenched.Oneofthese,eithertheactorthelie,willcreatea strong emotional charge if you feel betrayed or have betrayedyourself.So an innocent curiosity is called for. Why did I betray another?Innocently answer, as no answer is “wrong”, just keep on going,praying, andaskingoverandover, goingdeeperevery time; ‘whydidIbetray?“WhywasIbetrayed?’OnewayforwardintothisdeephealingisTRUST,toreveal,openlyshareandconfesswiththeinnocenceofthehumanheart,unveiled

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and pure. The vulnerability of this confession has the power toopen the scar of betrayal. Trusting in Love every step of thewaywill becomeyour ally in thedarkest of times. Confession leads tomoretrust.Self‐betrayal is one of the more mature realizations you canacknowledge.Owningthiscanbe irrevocablyhumblingandastepintheprocessoftrustingandlivinginDivineembrace.Youhave betrayed yourself on your path. And youhave betrayedothers.Thisisasimplefactofhumanlife.Wehavealldoneit,andarestilldoing it.Nowis the timetoacknowledge it,deeply feel it,and start the process of self‐forgiveness, to let go of thesedeceptionsanddishonestyyouhavecreated.Howhaveyouletyourselfdown?Howhaveothersletyoudown?Whatdoesthatreflectaboutyourownself‐love?Areyouscaredyoucannotmanifestwhatyouwantinyourlife?Could you let go of your whole family, friends, job, partner andknowallwouldbewell?Aretheresecretsthatyouneverdiscussortellanyone?Istheresomethinghiddenorconcealedinyourlife?Haveyoueverhadanaffair?Doyoukeepyourword?Do you talk about others behind their back in ways you wouldneverspeaktoinfrontoftheirfaces?Areyouloyaltoloveinallyoudo?Ifyouhavebeenbetrayed,truthfullyturntoyourselftoseewhereyou have betrayed yourself. It is a mirror for you as well. Thebiggestbetrayalsarethosethatwedotoourselves,whenwehavenot been true to ourselves. This canmake us angry at ourselves,whichcanthenspilloutintobeingangrywithothers.Betrayalsmanifestmost in relationships,whenwedonot feelwecan fully trust another because of our own internal conflicts, andourreactionstotheiractions.ChristwasbetrayedtoleadhimtohisGreatWork.Hetrustedcompletely,andforgaveeveninhisdarkest

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hour. The betrayal led to some of his greatest acts and standingexampleofLove.Havethebetrayalsinyourlifeledyoutothesameconclusion?Totrulyfeelbetrayedfromthesoulistofeelacutsodeepinsideofyou that it scribes itself onto the fabric of your soul. It creates asplit,aschismwithinyou,betweenthewoundandreality,betweenthepasthurtandthepresentdisguise,thesubconsciousmaskingofthishurtinanapparent‘peace’.Scratchbeneaththesurface,andaseething beast will emerge, a beast that is wounded because italloweditselftobebetrayed,andthatitbetrayeditself.Betrayal leads to self‐judgment; guilt. Guilt arises to remind youwhere youhave let yourself down andwhere youhavenot lovedyourself,asamoralindicatorofwhatyounowhavetodo.Itbringson a deep sadness that is a part of the journey to bring eventualhealingresolutiontoanyandallwounds.Betrayalripsyouintwoifitisfeltfromyournearestanddearest.Itcan create bitterness, resentment, distance or forgiveness. It canburn through you for months, even years, creating tears of pain,deep loneliness, thoughts of revenge, hatred and separation.Spitefulness,judgmentanddenialcanalsoariseasbetrayalweavesits disguise around you. The shadow is not pretty but has to befaced, felt,delved into, inquired into, torevealall itsnuances,andits cause. Why did you betray yourself? What led you to betrayothers,andwhyhaveothersbetrayedyou?Itcanonlybebecausepartofyoubetrayedyourself.Betrayal leads to cynicism. Cynicism is when we fundamentallyhave no trust in the goodness of our own self, of others andhumanity,andmostimportantlyGod.Cynicismislivinginaclosedattitude, not open to change. Lack of faithmeans that we do notexperience that reality is loving in its unfolding. Life from thisperspectiveisself‐serving,cruel,andhard,wherewearevictimsoftheworld’sevents.Withoutfaith,oneseesthatlifeisonlyego.Onecannot accept the good things that happen without feeling thatthereisacatchsomewhere,thatlifecanreallybethisgood.

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Betrayalisbasedonafundamentalinsecuritythatyouarenotheldorsupportedbylife.Youfeeldelicate,abandonedandalone,relyingon defensive armour to protect you. You may feel the need forsomething to fill a hole inside yourself, may want something orsomebody outside to give you what you think you need, may beaddictedtocertainemotionsandsubstances.Betrayalofyourselfinordertonotbetrayanotherisahighformofbetrayal. If, to love someone else,wemust betray ourselves, thenwearereallylyingtobothourselvesandtheotherpersonaboutthetrue nature of our own feelings, andwe are refusing to act uponthem.Sincelivinginthesoulrequiresthatwefeelandactuponourown feelings, if we refuse to do so in order to please anotherperson, then the resulting action will only result in pain andsufferingforbothpersonswithintherelationship.If you love yourself, you will not be able to take an action thatresults in thebetrayalofyour feelings. Ifyourpartner truly lovedyoucompletely, theywouldnotaskyou todo something that is abetrayal of yourself. For example, if your partner loves you, theywouldnotaskyoutolieforthemoranyoneelse,sinceforyoutoliewouldbeabetrayalofyourself.15These fears dissolve through forgiveness. When trust and faithstartstodeepeninourlives,woundsandblocksbubbleupfromthesubconscioustotheconsciousmind,bringingitintofullfeelingandawareness. Forgiveness of self, allied with humility helps todissolvetheseblocks.One goodway to do this is to consciously revisit past events thathave been full of hurt and betrayal, where you have felt like avictim.Recallthespecificemotions,sightsandsoundsoftheevents,and consciously feel and embrace them. Go through each event,blow‐by‐blow, piece‐by‐piece. In this ownership, you can forgiveyourselfby feeling theemotionsyoudarednot to feel, andaskingforDivineLovetoassistyouinfullyfeeling.

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Canyoufeelintuitivelywhensomeoneelsemistrustsyou,andtriesto protect or conceal something from you? Can you feel how onepartofyoucanalsomistrustanotherpartofyoualso?In trust, we no longer fight or struggle with what we believe‘should’ be, but accept life as it IS, and adopt a new lens. Evenapparent failure is trusted as a step to greater revelation andgrowth,forit isnolongerashametofail,orathreattotheselftohave things apparently not work, because we begin to know, intrustingawareness,thatthesearejuststepsinagreaterunfoldingforustofeel.You let go of the past by feeling it fully, and allow the present tounfold. You begin to accept and take on self‐responsibility foryourself. This is where real strength, the outcome and result oftrust, overcomes fear.Webegin to realize that real life is excitingand challenging, and that growth and change hold much highervalue than fear or contraction. Strength here comes down torepeatedly being vulnerable and staking your whole life for thechance to becomemore conscious and feel everything, nomatterwhattheperceivedoutcomemaybe,whatpeoplemayfeel,thinkorsayaboutus.Youhavetogiveitall,toreceiveitall.Tohavetrustandfaithmeansthatyouknow,withinyourself,thatthere is always something fundamentally good, somethingfundamentally trustworthy that is always there, that is alwayscontactable,atanytime.Betrayal is the abandonment of the soul, your feelings, youremotions,andnot listeningto them.Oreven feeling themandnotdaringtobelievethem,orputthemintoaction.Thefulllearningofthis lesson can come in stages, as sometimes it can beoverwhelming to feel and bear the full impact of how you havebetrayedyour soul.Thehonest confessingof this isdone throughMa’at, the Principle of Truth, Harmony and Justice; Justice to theSoul,whichenablesyou to feel all thebetrayalsyouhavedone toyoursoul.ThisforgivenessisenactedthroughDivinemercy,whereyou ask for forgiveness from the Divine by freely confessing it,feelingitandgenuinelyrepentingforit.

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Ifyouhavebeenbetrayed,hadanaffair,orhadyourpartnerhaveanaffaironyou,thiscanblockdeeperintimacyandlovemaking.Inmenthiscanleadtoprematureejaculationandacoolingof libido,and in women to a closing down of emotional intimacy andwillingnesstoopenupsexually,aclosingof thewombandyoni,aclenching and contracting, a shutting down of emotion and astaying on the surface. For most women, emotional openness,sexual openness, and spiritual openness are all part of the samesinglegestureoftrust,relaxation,andlove.16If this has happened to you, ask yourselfwhy you did it, and if itwasdone to you,whatwaswrongwith the relating?Was there aprevioushurtthere?Ourdualityisexpressedinourrelationships.Ashumanbeings,wesee everything in relationships, and our ultimate relationship iswithGod.Wefeelandthinkinrelationship.Oursoul’swoundstayintact because of our lack of love for self, and this then may getprojectedontoourobjectofperception.Oursoul’swoundsareonlytruly dissolved in Divine Love, a love that ismiraculous,magical,aweinspiring,almostlikedeath;adeathoftheego,thepersonality,andthefalse.Loveistheonlyknowledgethatisnotinformationbuttransformation. As you move your energy more towards DivineLove and truth, shadow or doubts will die by themselves by youfeelingthemall.Relationships are the crutchesweuse onour journeyof personalgrowth.‘Sexcanbekarma‐freeifthereisadeepandprofoundtrustbetweenhumanbeings.ForGodtoenterintothisworldthroughus,wemust learn how to be deeply trustworthy. And in order to dothat,it’simportantthatourexperienceofsexiskarma‐free.’17

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Ifyouareselfishlymotivatedyoucannotpersuadeyoursoul,whichjudgesyour intentionsbeforeyoudecidetoact, tobe fullybehindyou.Somethingismissing.Whenyouarenotsureofyourself, it isdifficult.Trustcomesfrominnerstrength,fromthesoulsfeelings,desires,motivationsanditsrelationship to God. Your conscience protects you from the trapslaid by yourweaknesses. And it is fear that creates defenses andconsumes vital life force. In trust of God, you become naturallystrong, vulnerable, open and fearless, as you feel held, supported,andnurturedinyourhumblejourney.

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TRUSTYeshua said “ I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as amustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘ Move from here tothere’anditwillmove.Nothingwillbeimpossibleforyou.”Matthew17:20PlaceyourtrustandloyaltyinDivineTruth.Happinesscomesfromthistrust,whicharisesfromaloyaltytoLove.Trust,faith,loyaltyallmeanyoustaytruetowhatliesbehindanyandallappearance,andare loyal to Divine Truths. This comes with courage, willingnessand commitment. Loyalty is a true relating to thehighest goodofthesoul,whichwillalwaysbeGod’sLaws.You place your loyalty in what you choose to value. If it is atemporary situation or belief of this world, then the loyalty willalwaysbetemporary.Itwillcrumble.Inthiscase,‘loyalty’isusedtojustifyfear,inordertogainasecurity,togainsomethingyouthinkyou need in order to survive. True loyalty can only serve onemaster. If you are loyal to Divine Truth, then it is love you shallreceive,andbecome.Themindshapesallexperienceaccordingtowhatitvalues.Soaskyourself:whatdoyoutrulyvalue,andwhatareyoupreparedtodotoliveinthat?Tobevigilant,tovalueandbeloyaltotruthineverysituation is what is being asked of you. It is only when youwithdraw love and stop valuing truth in any relating or situationthat thoughts and feelings of separation arise. As these feelingsarise,ask:whatamIbeingloyalto?Ifwhatyouareloyalto,ifwhatyoutrust,liesinanexpectationthatothers conform to what you feel is right, and that they act andbehaveinthisway,thenyouarenottrustingthetruthorfreewillchoices that is always atwork in everypersons life, leading themalongtheirpath.Totrytomeetexpectationsmakesyouaprisonerto theseverysameexpectations.When theseexpectationsarenotmet,anexplosioncanoccur,thefaçadeofnicenesscrumbles.Whatisbetrayalhere?Divedeep intowhatyoutrulyvalue,anddiscardwhat you thought gave you value or meaning before. In this,

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struggle dissolves, for you relax in faith, and trust to let life flowthroughyou.Trustisfreedom.As AA shares, ‘One can remain stuck at the surface with cappingemotions such as Anger, Jealously, Fear, Neediness, ResentmentandDoubt.ItwasonlywhenIhadsurrenderedtofeeleverything,didIdiscoverwhatallthesecappingemotionswereprotecting. Itwasasifawholenewworldopenedup,aspectralrangeoftenderfeelings that were ignored and run from, in the vain and forlornhopethatIwouldnothavetofeelthemagain.For so long, I had been transcendingmy emotions in accordancewith my yogic background, and then to an even greater degreewhen Imoved through into theAdvaitaTeachings. “Whowas this“I”that is feelingthis?”wasmygreatestmantra,andwiththattheemotionwould disappear in a puff of smoke, back down into thebasementofmyunresolvedissuesandtrappedemotionalpain.To ask to feel is not enough. The true prayerwould be to ask toembody, so there is no veil, no membrane between you and theemotion; in your willingness to heal your Soul wounds you havebecomeonewiththepain.’Betrayalalsomanifestswhenwebelievethatpeopleandthisworldarenot safe, arenot trustworthy, cannot be reliedupon, and thatwemustthereforeliveinsuspicionoftheprocessesoflifeandthemotivesofpeople,(necessarilyincludingourselves.)Wecreateandmirrorthiswhereverwego.Thiscanbeexpressedasaninabilitytosurrender and flow with our experience, mirrored in ourrelationships,which thenconfirmourbeliefsofpeople,ourselves,andthisworldasbeingunsafeandunworthyofbeingtrusted.Essentially,wecometonottrustourownfeelings,andourselves,asthesefeelingshavebecomemiredinourwounds,whichthenproveto us, time and time again, that they cannot be trusted. And ofcourse they cannot, as the information from these wounds willalways leadustothewrongconclusion.Theperceptionandbeliefborne from any wound will always be in error, and this vicious

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circlewillcontinuetoleadustobelievethatnothing,especiallyourowninnervoicesandpromptings,canbetrusted.Yet,betrayalisalwaysabetrayalofoursoulandourconnectiontoGod.Always.Itmaymanifestinourrelationships,inwhatwedotoothers,andwhathappenstous.ButtherearenovictimsinTruth,and what we attract is always exactly what we need to grow.Always,evenifweresistit.We canwalk away fromGod,we can pretendGoddoes not exist.We can call it other names and pretend that it is an impersonalforce,notapersonal,heartfeltrealityandtruth.Wecankeepdoingthis, walking away form the greatest love there is. Betrayal is afleeing from thedeep trust inGod, anddependingonGod forourvery existence, continued growth and deepening into thisconnection.ThebridgetoGodliesinrememberingthatGodisalwayshere,andthattrustandloyaltytothetruthsoflovehealsallofourbetrayals.Andtherecomesatimewhenwerededicateourselvestothislove,oncewehaverealisedthis.Ashumans,weareafraidtobetotallyexposed.Theshameandgriefon the soul level of the bad things we have done, the things wejudge ourselves about, or the things we feel others will judge usabout,iswhywedon’ttotallyopentothedepthsofourownself,oranother.Notbeingabletobeacceptedbyothers,andnotacceptingourselves. The irony is that when we feel all our own judgmentsandpain,wearealotlesslikelytobejudgedbyothersforourownmistakesandlessonsinlife,asweownthem,arehumbledbythem,deeply feel them, and therefore forgive ourselves. Once thisforgivenessispresent,ouroutersituationwilltotallychange.All ourwounds are created by ourwalking away from God, bothliterallyandthroughnotlivinginloveandtruthinourlives.WecandenyGod,ourCreator,andwecanseparateourselvesfromlivinginloveandtruthinourdaily livesthroughourownchoicesandfreewill.Wedochoosetonot liveinharmonywithloveandtruthandtry other ways, out of ignorance, thinking we know better, or

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listeningtoandfollowingthefalsewisdomofourownwounds.Allourwoundsaregiftstoopenoursoul,giftstoopenourheart.Theyareapathway.RelatingfromyoursoultoGodistotallydependentontruth.Ifoneshutsdowntheiremotions,ifoneleavesoutthetruthofhowtheyarefeelingorhaveburiedit, ifoneknowsDivinelawsandrefusestofollowthemorignoresthemoutoffear,humanrelationshipswillsuffer. God is not like this, and will never separate, abandon orbetrayus,butinordertodeepenourrelationshipwithHim,justaswewishtodeepenourrelationshipswithourpartnersandfriends,nothing can be hiddenat all. If it is, the relating suffers on everylevel,andthiscanonlyberemediedbyyouractions.Wheneveryouarenot in truthwithGod,yourownsoul,andwithanother,bynotspeakingtruth,notexpressingyourdeeperfeelingsand innerworlds youkeep toyourself, covering itover,nomatterwhat it is,youstepoutofalignmentwithlove.Speakingthetruth,nomatterhowbaditmayseemorappeartobetoyou,orhowyouthinkGodortheotheronewilltakeit,initiatesastepforwardintointimacy and being real. Living in the truth of your feelings andsharingthemastheyhappenisthekey.Thisislivinginthemomentandleadstomorelove,eventually.Asyoupracticeandliveintothismoreandmore,theprocessbecomesquickerandquickerintotrulyfeeling the causal emotion of what lies underneath the surfaceemotion.Anotherwayyoucanstagnate is if youdonothaveadeepdesireforGod,andifyoudenythatthereisaGod;thenyourrelationshipto lovewill staystuck in thesameplace. Ifyourpartner takes theplaceofGod,andyouwantthismorethanyouwantGod,youslipinto delusion, and your love for your own soul and Divine Truthwill diminish. Youwill stay self satisfied and stuck in a relatively‘nice’place,ordimensionalplaneofexistence.Desire forGod,andconnectiontotruth,alwayshastobethefirstpriority.Pain underlies all your anger and blame. Pain, grief, guilt and itsmoresuperficialmasksofangerandblamecanbeprayedaboutsoyou can actively feel them within you, rather than project onto

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anyone else. On the surface lays blame, resentment, anger andsniping. Underneath this lays fear, and underneath this lays thefeelingsandemotionsoflossandneed.Atthecore,underneathallofthis,liespain,grief.Itisherethatwe,asconditionedhumans,donotdaretotread,butitiswherewehavetogoinordertobecomewhole.Dareto.Praytodayandeveryday,6or7timesaday,tofeelyourpain.TheHealingPrayertoGod,doneconsistentlytofeelthepainofyoursoulanditswounds,isabraveactthatdispelsfear.Often,itisthefearaboutexperiencingtheemotion,ratherthantheemotionitself,thatistheworstthing.Havingtofeelagainthesamesoulpainonehasalreadyexperienced,andtakingthispainto itscore, isanevenbraveract,andthroughthisbraverymore loveblooms.Yourerrors only come out through pain, and we need to release this.PrayingtofeelthisgoestothecoreofthesoulanditsrelationshiptoGod.Infact,itstrengthensyourconnectiontoGod.What is left when you keep doing this? Your Law of attractionchanges,newpeopleandplacescometoyou,deepinnerpeaceandhappiness arises, and gratitude for not needing the thing youthoughtyouneededthatwascloudingyourlife.Morelovehappenswhen any emotional neediness leaves your experience, for allneediness covers wounds of some kind or the other. They arereleasedthroughfeelingthetruthbehindtheneed.Andtheresult?Morelove!“Thehighestformofbetrayalisbetrayalofyoursoulinordertonotbetrayanother’ssoul.”18Thisistheseconddeepestformofguiltthatwecanexperience,andmost of us are experiencing it every day.We do not even realizehow we are not loving ourselves, and trading this precious loveaway for a cheap imitation, for another’s approval, for our ownideas aboutwhat love should be, for values that are not our own

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and certainly not divine, for something we are grasping for inothersbutwhichwewillneverfind.Obligation and duty kills self‐love and vulnerability. We onlydeceive ourselves to please others, to fit in, to become part ofanotherstructure,personorthingthatwehopewillbringuslove,acceptance andmeaning. But all of this can only ever come fromlovingyourownsoulandreconnectingtoDivineLove.

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ABANDONMENT/REUNIONKeyWordsWOUNDS:Hopeless,Rejected,Deserted,Alone,Isolated,Desperate,donesomethingverybadBALMS: Feeling deeply, Sweet Sorrow, Compassion, Persistence,Dedication,Forgiveness,AskingforMercy,Prayer,RepentanceAbandonmenthasnarcissistictendenciesthatarecruelandpunishing.Inabandonment,wedropdownintothebowelsanddepthsofourprimordialselfandprimalbrain.Werockandholdourselvesaswefeelthesedepths.Abandonment is often expressed in relationships where you aredevastatedwhentheyfail,whereyouarealwaystheonewhogets"left" in the relationship, and/or being the first to leave arelationship so that you are not hurt.19Youhaveabandonedpartofyourselfinfavourofsomethingelse.Asubstitution occurs. As you become an adult, you take fullresponsibilityforeverythinginyourlife,asthis istheonlywaytoheal anything. Abandonment is the voice of the shadow speakingandmovingitswayintoyoursystem,speakingofyourlowsenseofself‐esteem, the reason why you do not belong, why you are notgoodenough,thatyouhavenothingofvaluetosay,orgive.Youareuninvited,youhavenotbeenchosen:youaretheblacksheepcastout.Ifyouaretheonewhoabandons,looktoseeyourbehavior.Haveyoueverfeltabandoned,rejectedorleftout?Haveyouabandonedorrejectedanother?Areyouabletodroppeopleandprojectsinstantly?Doyougrieveloss,orjustmoveon?Doyouiceover,anddisregardallemotionandresponsibility?

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Doyoufeelthatifyouwereleftalone,youwoulddropintoapitofdespair?Did your parents or lovers abandon or reject you, or did youabandonthem?HaveyoueverfeltGodabandonandforsakeyou?Haveyouknowinglyrejectedanother’scriesforhelp?Areyouabletobewithsomeoneintheintensityofhisorherpain?Do you abandon your values, standards and goals for anyone atanytime?Have you abandoned or left behind a part of you on the spiritualpath?Haveyouleftoutthefun,thechild,thejoyoflife?As you journey through life, pieces of your life may be lost,innocentlygiven,or‘takenaway’bythosewhoseeminglyhavehadpoweroveryou.Theseareyourcompromises,exchangedinorderforapartofyourselftosurvive.Asthishappens,andwhenitcomesto the timewhen you desire to give love, to give of yourself, youmay find little or nothing is left. Calling back those pieces of you,throughrepentance,allowsreuniontooccur.There is only one thing better than union, and that is re union!Comingbackhometoapartofyourselfthatwasleftout,cutoff,ordisassociatedfrominordertoprotectyourselffromfeelingpainortrauma.Reunion is an extension of forgiveness to those you haveabandoned, those who have abandoned you, and those parts ofyourself you have left out. Coming back into heart to heartconversationwithothersandyourself.Bereadytoreceiveandgivetootherswhomayhavehurtyou.Reunion goes against the shadows tendencies of being hurt, andkeepingyourselfsafefromfurtherpain.Buthurtishurt,andweareall hurt. Your enemybecomes your greatest teacher; to love yourenemy is to experience your shadow, another part of yourself,deepeningyouintolove.Doespartofyoufeelemptybecauseitisnotbeingusedanymore?Haveyouforgottentoliveinandusepartofyourself?

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Does part of you feel left alone, without being cared for orsupported?Doyousometimesgooutofcontrol?Therearetwoaspectstoabandonment.Whenyouabandontruthinfavourof feelinghurtalone,youcan feel abandoned.This isquitesimple, yet we can also feel the shadow of this hurt has beenabandoned from the truth. It has been left out, relegated to acorner, fragmented, notwelcomed, and buried under amantle oflight,wellbeingandlovingintentions,butisstillthere,untendedtoand swept under the carpet, rationalized, spiritualized or justsimplyforgotten.This toohas to be included.When it rises up,what does itwant?Attention, inclusion perhaps? The only answer is to ask: Whatwouldlovedointhissituation?Despitethestrongfeelings,despitethe shadow feeling left out and not included or embraced,whosehurtfeelingsandvoiceyouhaveabandoned,thequestiontoaskissimply:Whatwouldlovedointhissituation?Howwouldloveact?Iftheanswerisnothing,donothing.Donotmoveathought,muscleorwordinanydirectionthatisnotthis.Simplysit,wait,andburnintheseflamesifneedsbe.Wehavetocarefor,andsupport,bothshadowandsoul,andtheirintegration.Wecannotleaveeitheralone,buttheDivineTruthhastoleadtheshadowofhurtbyitsdesireforDivineLove.Whenthisdoesnothappen, feelingsofhurtandabandonmentcangetoutofcontrol, hounding yourself and others. You can implode andcontract,goingdeepwithin to theabandonedplace, staying there,and feeling self righteous, sad, and lonely. What is the point youmaysay?Or you can go into this place, feel the sadness, and stay with it.Sadness isbittersweet,andcarvesopentheheart formore joytobe present as you stay in its depths. It is a feeling of depth, ofgravitas;anoble feelingthatbringsyourcentreofpresencedowninto theheart to continue to feel.Whenyouallow this tohappen,feel,andaskthequestion;Whatwouldlovedoandsaynow?

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Whenyoudonotfeelseenbyanother, itmayalsobebecauseyouarenotseeingapartofyourselfandnotlovingpartofyourself.Thiscan then get projected outwards onto another, as you demandvalidation,asyoudemandacertainpartofyoutobeseen, thatofcourseyouarenotseeing.Youdonotseeapartofyourself,thepartyou have abandoned, that piece of your shadow or part of yoursoul.Andsoitgetsprojectedontoanother.All that gets seen andprojected outside iswhat is lackingwithin.Abandonment is a hole, an abyss within. This hole can gettemporarilyfilledwithexternalobjects,addictions,people,drugsetal,buttheneedisstillunderneathit;theneedforlove,andtrulytheneed for Divine Love. In having the secret hole of abandonment,youwanttoberescuedbysomethingorsomeonethatwillmakeitallbetter, thatwillmake itallgoaway, thatwillcareandcomfortyou as amotherwould, reassuring, embracing and dissolving thedeep feelings of loneliness, desperation and desertion. This is anatural human tendency, but guess what? It will not heal thiswoundalltheway;itwilljustcaressandsoothealayerofit.What have you left out in your life, which keeps coming back toyou?Whenonefeelsabandoned,onecangiveupcompletely,ceasingtosupport or look after some part of one’s own self. One can alsocondemnsomeoneorsomepartofselftoacertainfatebyceasingtotakeaninterestin,orlookafterthem.Toturnyourbackonpartsof yourself or others when help is required is to cast away anddesertSelf.Partsofuscanhaveasenseofbeingunused;lefttorotinthebasementoftheshadow,beingneglectedoroutofconsciousreachofthesoulandofGod.Theoriginofthewordabandonmentisfromabandoner,fromLatinad‘to,at’+bandon‘control.’Theoriginalsensewastobringundercontrol,latertothelettinggoofsurrender.Thistwofoldjourney,tobringtheshadoworwoundunderconsciousawarenessorcontrol,to then be relinquished to the feeling heart of surrender, comesfrom the mind being surrendered to the dictates of the soul and

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thenGod,whichbecomestheMasterController.Themindbecomestheservantoftheheart.Areyouwillingtodothis?LETTINGGOTAKESLOVETo let go does notmean to stop caring, it means I can't doit forsomeoneelse.To letgo isnot tocutmyselfoff, it's therealization Ican'tcontrolanother.To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from naturalconsequences.To let go is to admit powerlessness,whichmeans the outcome isnotinmyhands.Toletgoisnottotrytochangeorblameanother, it'stomakethemostofmyself.Toletgoisnottocarefor,buttocareabout.Toletgoisnottofix,buttobesupportive.Toletgoisnottojudge,buttoallowanothertobeahumanbeing.Toletgoisnottobeinthemiddlearrangingalltheoutcomes,buttoallowotherstoaffecttheirdestinies.To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to facereality.Toletgoisnottodeny,buttoaccept.Toletgoisnottonag,scoldorargue,butinsteadtosearchoutmyownshortcomingsandcorrectthem.Toletgoisnottoadjusteverythingtomydesires,buttotakeeachdayasitcomesandcherishmyselfinit.Toletgoisnottocriticizeorregulateanybody,buttotrytobecomewhatIdreamIcanbe.To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for thefuture.Toletgoistofearlessandlovemore,andToletgoandtoletGod,istofindpeace!Remember:ThetimetoloveisshortAuthorunknown

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REUNIONRe union can also be seen as your conscious abandonment ofwhatwaskeepingyoufalselysafeinthematrix.AsSt JohnoftheCrossshares, therearethreeobstaclestogettingclosertoGod:theworld,theflesh(sexwithoutsoulloveandGod)andthedevil(negativespirits.)Thefirststeptolettinggooftheworldrequiresbraveryandagutfull of vulnerability / courage as you begin to start cancellingevents, appointments and making the moves to leave certaingroups and establishments. When you do it, the first taste offreedom is delicious, and it has to be that good, otherwise youwould never continue. So enjoy that taste of bountiful freedom,drink it up; drag it out as you continue to cast aside yourattachments,connections,andidentities.LettingGo is freeing, looseningandcreatesa space forwonder toreturn.Lifetakesonacertaincharm,asaninnocencerevealsitselffrom beneath the adult sense of duty and routine. Life becomesfreshandfullofpossibility.Thesecondstageisveryinteresting,andonlythosewithasenseofsoulful maturity can hold still during this time. This is when“others”startquestioningyourbehaviourandattitude.Youhavetounderstand that change often frightens others, and will certainlychallenge their beliefs especially with the people that you havebeenhangingoutwith.Older people, long term friends, peers, colleagues, and thosesupposedly in authority like ”teachers”,wise familymembers etc,maytakeyoutoonesideandgiftyoutheirveryimportantwisdomand advice, that you really should follow. This advice is usuallyfrom peoplewho have never gambled or took any sort of risk orchance in life before. This advice arrives aswarnings, judgments,projectionsandasenseofdisappointment.

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So steer clear from these people and if they corner you, hold onsteady to the total commitment to your Soul. Please only realisethatthese“others”arejustthoughtformsfromyourownemotionsandmind, as the ego really is rather uncomfortablewith change,especiallyiftheegosensesademiseinsomeway.Youmayexperiencemostofyourfriendsandfamilydesertingyou,oryoudesertingthem!Thisisaninitiationintoabaptismoffire.Ittakesstrengthtostandupagainsttheherdandrefusetocontinuegoingwiththeflow.Theherdwilldoall theycantopullyoubackintothefield,tocontinuegrazingwithyourheaddown,doingwhatyouhavedoneforeons.It’satthisstagethatyourestandtakesanctuaryinGod,asnothingelse will make much sense. It is an inward time, as you silentlywatch all parts of your life inner and outer fall into pieces. Itreminded me of the moments when watching the 9/11 TwinTowers collapse, and all you can do is watch and remember tobreathe.The Third stage is beginning to see and feel your actions takinghold. A sense of dread, fear and confusion could arise as theemptiness is now beginning to be felt and the Great Unknownloomsupahead. Confusionanddoubtareclassichallmarksofthemind,beginningtoshiftuneasilyasitsmasterfulvoiceisbeginningtobeignored.The mind will try to grasp and calculate the way ahead into thefuture.BEWAREanydecisionthatyoumakeduringthistime.Makea declaration not tomove at all, unless it is in Truth and for theGiving and Extension of Love. Iwill not sell out for anything lessthanthat.Iwillnotcheapen,weakenormarketmysoul.Mostpeoplewillmoveasidetheserestlessandunsettlingfeelings.Theycanbenauseatingandinfiltrateyourmindwithadarkstickycloudofdreadandannihilation.Butthisperiodisessential,asthesefeelingswillleadyouintothebigONE.Actuallycomingfacetofacewith being No One anymore. Nameless, genderless, ageless,raceless,wordless,wisdomless,advicelessandwithoutanyformof

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control,safety,securityoranythingyouhaveknownandnavigatedsowellforyourwholelifetofallbackon.At this stage, I have nothing to give or say, and you may wellencounterthis.Thismaybepainful,especiallyifyouwereafflictedwithbeinga“Somebody”.Otherswillpassthroughthisstagewithgrace, as theyalreadyhad littleworldly senseof themselves.Thisstage is crucial, as you are becoming the vessel for which truealchemywilltakeplace.Inlettinggo,wecomeacrossthestirringfeelingsoflonelinessandabandonment. Only the brave will venture all the way downthroughthecanyonsof feelingcastoutfromthewarmloveofourCreator and from abandoning the love of our own soul for thepitifulandtemporarypleasuresofanother.As with all the Wounds of Love, Self‐Responsibility of theirpresence within you is the first step. When abandonment orloneliness is experienced, turnaway from theexternalworld, andthesupposedother thatcaused itseffect,andsteeryourattentioninwardstowardsthefeelingvoicethatcriesout.Listentoitsvoice,andasktobetakendeeperintoitsfeelingstate.Ignorethedialogueandstory,anddivedeepthroughthelayers.Beresoluteinthesofttearsofvulnerability.Wheneverthestorybeginsagain,turnbacktothedirectexperienceof feeling; allow no veil to come between you and its core. Givepermission to the heart to break open in an ocean of tears. Thehealingbalmofsadnesswillwashcleanthishole.ThedepthsoffeelingabandonmentcanbreakdownadoortoGod.Therewillbedespair; youwill experiencehurt, thepainofwhichmayneverhavebeenfeltbefore.Yet inthenextbreath,ameetingariseswhichwill cleanse your life. A reunion that remains, eventhoughsmallresiduesoftheoriginalessencemaystillbefelt.Staywithinthereunion,committothattruth,andintimetheemotionalcharges,echoesandtriggerswillbearnoholdoveryou.Theywillbedivinelyforgotten,deleted.

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Reunionisamovement,awillingnesstomove,totakeanactionoutofoneplace towardsanother.Freedomtoexploreyourchoices toremainabandoned,ortoreunite.Wealwayshaveachoiceineachmoment, and taking responsibility for our choices is where ourgrowth lies.One is not adult because theyhave reached a certainage; adulthood means being out of the victim role and takingresponsibility for your choices and actions, and the thoughts andfeelingsthatliebehindthem.ItmeansbeingauthorofyourownlifewithGod,writingyourownscriptwithGod insteadof livingyourlifebyruleslaiddownbyyourpreviousactions,byothers,orbytheshadow.Reunionalsotakesonitsowndeliciousjoy.Asweknow,areunionamongstfriendsandfamilyfillsuswithahappinessthatdispelsthetimeanddistancethatwasoncebetweenus.Howmanyofyou, inreunion,havespokenthewords“MyGod,itisasifwehaveneverbeenapart!”Inreunionyoucanhavegreatrest,wherenoprotectionisneeded.Anhonest, timeless embrace swirls throughout your entire being,healing, smoothing andmaking whole, a grace that washes awaybitternessandthehardedgesfromourhumanexperience.Thedegreetowhichyouholdbackwillbethedegreeinwhichyouwill feelseparated.Whenhopeless,bewillingandresolutetodivedown.When rejected, bePurposeful in feeling, and then adheringto, and exploring the question:What would Love do now?Whenunworthy, feel it.When in the throes of desertion, feel the SweetSorrow, the compassion for self and all otherswho are suffering.Extendyourhearttootherssuffering,andyourswillseemsmallincomparison.Whenlonely,realizethattheJourneytoGodisonlymadeAlone=AllOne.Truth is somethingyoubearalone.As a Sufi sayinggoes,‘TheFlightof theunknown is the journeyof alone, tobewith theAlone’. Inorder tounderstand ‘whoamI’onemust learntostandalonewithGod,independentoftherulesandvalueslaidbyothersandtheshadow,andbepreparedtoclaimeverybitofyourselfwithGodshelp,withoutjudgmentofbeingwrongorright.

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It is in the denial of truth that we suffer themost. Stay with thepain.Painandlovearetwosidesofthesamecoin.Wheredoyoufeellovemissingsomuchthatithurts?Itispainfultofaceyourshadow,butitisaveryessentialpartofyourjourneytoSelf.Ifyoukeeponavoidingwhat is difficult, you can never go one step forward. Allsufferings are associatedwith the avoidance of your shadow.Theonlywayforwardisbygoingthroughshadow,foryoucannotmeetGodwithoutfirstdealingwithyourowndemons.God never forsakes anyone. We forsake God, we choose to leavelove andexperience something else; it is our choice!We create it,throughputtingontheclothesofbeliefs,choosingourwoundsasasacredpathwaytoonedaygotoGod.Canyoufeelthis?Meditation1Stop,closeyoureyes,andtakeafewdeepbellybreaths.Feelyourselfopeningyourarmstoall thosewhohaveabandonedyou.Feelyourselfopeningyourheart toall thosepartsofyourselfyouhaveleftoutandforsakeninyourlife.Ask,welcome and embrace all these aspects of yourself back intoyourheart‐soul.Meditation2Fromdeep inyourheart, sincerelypray tobe shown themomentyouturnedyourbackonGod.Whatwereyoudoing?Godhasnever,andwillnever,turnHisbackonyou.YouarehisSonandDaughter.Hewill alwaysgiveyouDivineLove, ifyouask.And this lovewillbringupallthatisnotlovewithinyou.Divedeepintothefeelingofacheintheheartandfollowittothewomborheart.Then let go. The feelings will guide, and images will presentthemselves.

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DENIAL/EMBRACEKeyWordsWOUNDS:Repression:“Itneverhappened.”Disassociation:“Idon’trememberwhathappened.”Projection:“It’shappeningtoyou,notme.OR:It’syourfaultthisishappening.”Substitution:‘Ieat,drink,takedrugs,shop,meditate,havesex,etc,tonotfeel.’Minimizing:“Ithappenedinthepast,it’snotthatbad.Forgetit.I’llgetoverit.”BALMS: Embrace, humility, vulnerability, weakness, acceptance,prayingtofeelandallowingofemotionsTorefusetoadmit,recognizeordealwithanaspectofyourlifethatblatantlydoes exist, and is shown to you inmanyways, is denial.Denialoccurswhenyoushutout the truth,bothDivineTruthandyour own knowing of it, as well as hanging onto personal truth.Sometimesyoudothisevenwhenyouknowbetter.Denialshutsoffthehearing,receivingandexpressingoftruthanddoesnotwishtofeelpainfulemotions.Andtruthisalwayscomingtousifwebothertolistenandsee!Onewaythisisalwayshappeningisthattheuniverseisconstantlygiving us direct and indirect assistance.We can deny, ignore andreject both direct and indirect assistance because of a lack ofhumility.Directassistanceoccurswhensomeoneelsewithalovingmotiveanddesiretellsusdirectlywhaterroriswithinus,and/orsomeone elsewith anunlovingmotive andhurtful desire informsuswhatis“wrong”aboutus.Bothmayhurt,leadingustodenyit,orifwearehumbleaboutourdesiretogrow,tofeelintowhatisbeingshared,acceptitandtakeactiononit.Indirect assistance occurs when a child, animal or person actsaroundusinacertainwaythatexposesdeniedemotionwithinus.Haveyoueverreactedorkeptquietwhenotherpeoplearoundyouare having discussions about matters you believe you haveresolved? But obviously have not! Indirect assistance also occurs

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through events that happen to us in our daily lives that indicatewhatwearedenyinginoursoulcondition.20Itmaycomethrougharandombook,afilmorprogrammeonTVorradiothatyoujustsohappentoswitchonatthatmoment,aconversationyouoverhear…manymanyways.Denial leads to a betrayal of truth and emotions, by escaping andrunningawayfromtheissueintothemindanditswebofexcuses,judgments, reasons and rebuttals.When you refuse to admit andfeelyourpainfulemotions,orhaveburiedthem,youdenyloveandtruth. The only way out is to confess, honestly and openly. Fulldisclosureisthekey.Hidingthings,deepsecrets,canlingeronandon, creating awhole complexwebof behavior to justify, continueandhidethethingsyouaremostguiltyabout,andwhichyouhavedeniedeverexisted.Love needs no protection. To cover up and deny anything showsinstantguiltaboutsomethingthatyou,andtheconditionedsocietywe live in, deems as wrong. There is nothing wrong, just ourperception, and the fear of judgment that comes if we admit it,feelingwemaybeoppressedandshutoutbyothers,becomingtheblacksheep,abandonedbyall.Denial iswhenwe ignorethetruthbeingpresentedtous,andtheemotionalreactionsthatoccur,andwhenweignorethevoiceofthesoul thatgentlywhispers tous.Lovenever forcesanything, it justwaits patiently for us to come around to it, and follow itspromptings.Todeny the truthaboutourselves is todeny life,andwhenweareinchronicdenial,ourlifeforcewiltsandshrinks.What we want most, we resist most. Such a human beingcontinually creates a division within by ignoring his or her soul.When you knowwhat truth is, but your actions aremotivated byselfishness,greed,possessiveness,onegraduallylosesthestrengthoflove,goingmoreintothedenialoflove.Whatwewantmost,wehavetogivethemost.

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Whenapersonsuffers fromaninferioritycomplex,heorshemayactasthoughheorsheissuperior,butsuchapersonactuallyfeelsinadequateunderneaththisfalseshowofbravery.Thereisnosuchthingasasuperioritycomplex:thereisonlyonecomplex,andthatisinferiority.Whenoneisawareoftheirweaknessesbutdoesnotknow how to rid them, one creates a shield of protection; whentheydonotwanttoacceptandconfronttheirweaknesses,theyputon a false front and acts as though superior. Suchpeople actuallythinktheyaresuperiortoothersbecausetheyhavenotlearnedtoaccept things as they are, and have denied them. A sense ofsuperiorityislikeahouseofcardsthatcancrumbleintoemotionalreactivityatthetouchofafinger.If the story is never investigated, your whole life is lived on theassumption that the story is real, and that your heart, your soul,need to be protected. But that assumption is actually a denial ofyourheartandyoursoul.Denialarisesfromthebeliefthatyoucanbeharmed,andthereforeone defends and shields the heart by closing it down. It is thedelicacy and sensitivity of our hearts that we try to protect. Wehaveall felthurtandharmedbyothers.Wehaveall feltblowsonthe heart, and some have even felt they have had their heartsbroken.Whenweclosedownorbuildwallsorbarriers,webelievethat we can escape this pain from being felt again. Nothing isfurther from the truth. It is in the actual act of closing down theheartthatweexperienceourgreatestsuffering.Wekeepourselvesfromfullylovingourselves,andinturnothers.Inthisworld,everythingisdiametricallyopposedtotheTruth.Webelieve we can be harmed, and harden our hearts in protection,onlytodiscoverthatthisISthecauseforourpain.Whentheheartisclosedfromthefearofbeinghurt,onecannotengageinlifefullyorliveintruthorsoulfulfeelings.Anotherstrategy toprotectus fromfeelingharmed is todive intoour own innerworld, a safe place to hide, to keep the suspectedharmoutsideofus.Weescapeintoanisolatedpartofourselvesand

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shut out relatingwith others, disappearing fromengaging. It is intheactualengagementandfullparticipationinLife,theembraceoflife,whereonefindstheirwholenessandliberation.Tothrowopentheshuttersof theheart is tovulnerably,yetpowerfully,embraceallpartsintheknowingthatlovecannotbeharmed.Confessionisabigpartofthis.Confessingourfaultsandflaws,ourtenderbutangryandfearfulemotions,allowsustoembracethem,and bring them to God, once felt, so we can receive Divine Love.Confessionand itsmeans,repentance,occurswhenyouknowyouhave done something out of alignmentwith truth and love,whenyouhavedenied love,andyouhonestlyconfess it toyourself,andthoseconcerned.Inthisaction,yousoundacalltore‐gatherallthescattered, fragmentedparts of yourself back into the one voice ofthesoul,thestillsmallvoicewithinthatcanthenestablishamoreintimateandcloserrelatingwithGod.Denial is the actionof refusing thedesires of love.Themindmaytellyouthat loveisnottrue, isweak, isadream,amyth.Denial isalso apsychological failure to acknowledge anunacceptable truthoremotion,andisusedasadefensemechanismtoprotectoneselffrom the pain thatwill arise if it is admitted. An inherent humantendencyistoavoidpain,andthereforebuildwallsofdenialinthemind creating segregated boxes. This is a favourite tool of mindcontroltechniques, tocreatewalls inthemindthatthenallowthesubjecttobecontrolledandmanipulated,astheyhavenoconsciousknowingofthewall.Denial is the contradiction and negation of truth. It is thedissenting,stubbornvoicewithinthatrefusestoacceptatruth,ortake actionupon it, evenwhen it knows it is true. The soft, smallvoiceof love is there, justwaiting foryou.Denial is thevoiceandactionthatwithholdstheaccepting,andthegivingoflovetoothersand self, turning down the opportunities to share and embraceothers, and the lost parts of ones own self. Denial stuffs down,ignores, fights against, resists and runs away from the voice oftruth, masking it in many ways, and projecting and judgingoutwardstopreventthereceptionoftruthfromoccurring.

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Denial can only be remedied by vulnerability. Protection isdissolved through transparency, and deceit or covering up isremedied by disclosing all, and confessing honestly. To escape orignoreapainfulinnersituationbywalkingawayorstayingsilentisremediedbycommittingtothetruth,andstayinginthefireofthepain. Even if you do not know what the truth is, stay with thesituationtoexplore,investigateanduncoverwhatliesbehindit,nomatterwhatittakes.Theheartsoul is therealyou, the living, feeling,passionateheart.LovefromGodcannotflowintouswhileweareshuttingdownourown soul. This shutting down occurs becausewe are selective inour emotional experience. We choose to avoid living in truth inorder to avoid an emotion. We are influenced by other people’sopinions, and avoid telling the truth. We live in our addictions,seeingourproblemsascreatedbyothers.Wearenumbtomanyofouremotions,andliveinourlogicalmind.Wehavetoweighupthecompetingemotionsofothers.21DenyingourSouloccurswhenyouchoosetodenyyour:TrueemotionalconditionTruepassionsanddesiresDeepestsouldesiresforGodAndchoosetoshutdownhowwefeel,inanysituationWhenwe are in denial,we have physical pain and disease in ourlives. Physical pain in our body tells us we are denying ouremotional experience.Whenwe are in denial,we have emotionalpain inour lives.Emotionalpain is theresultofournotacceptingDivineTruth,not livinginharmonywithLove.WhenwedenyoursoulswoundsandGod,Lifebringsyou the sameevents, over andoveragain,withdifferentpeople,withyourchildren/pets, friends,lovers,overandoveragain.Whenyou are indenial, youhave addictions that you cannotseemtogetridof:Sex,food,alcohol,drugs,smoking21AJMiller,www.divinetruth.com

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Emotionsregardingphysicalassets:money,house,andpropertiesEmotionsregardingrelationships:family,parents,children,friends,partnerspresentandpast,businesspartnersEmotions regarding sexuality: unfulfilled sexual pleasures,fantasiesanddesires,voyeurism,sexualharm,andsexualangerEmotionaladdictions:aneedtobeheard,needtobenoticed,needtobeloved,needtobespecial,needtobeuseful,needtobebusy‐anyneedatall.Emotions regarding power & control: not wanting to feelpowerless,beingacontrolfreak,wantingtocontrolpeopleEmotionsofself‐harm:suicide,recklessness,adverserisktakingEmotionsofdisillusionment:disillusionmentwith love,happiness,peopleEmotions regarding having a sense of purpose: I am nothing if Icannot…Addictions provide you with an opportunity to experience yourgreatest fears, as in addiction you drive away the things that youholdmost dear. Cloaked in denial, the gifts of addictions are thatnow you can see your greatest fears, and identify thatwhich youhaveachargeon.22Externaltoolsofdenialincludeanythingthatisoutsideofyourselfthatyouusetorunawayfromyouremotions.Anythingthattakesyouawayfromyourtruefeelings,andcreatesafictitiouspersonalstate,likechoosingpleasureexperienceswhenyoursoulisinpain,choosingtobusyyourselftostayawayfrompain,choosingtoshutdown yourself (go into depression, apathy or any of the otheremotions apart from grief, sadness and shame) to get away frompain,andchoosingtointellectualizeourselvesawayfrompain.Internal tools of denial include attitudes, beliefs, internalarguments and rationalizations you use to keep you away fromyouremotions.Wedenywehavetheunderlyingemotion,andstayonthesurfaceemotion,suchasanger,fear,envyandresentment.

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Theseareallunconscious choices todenyand runaway from thevulnerable, humbling, real (causal) emotion underneath you aretrying tonot feel, runaway from,distractyourself from,andhidefrom. Like soft pink flesh now exposed, we try and hide ourvulnerabilitiesunderourarmouredexteriorsandcleverminds.To feel the real emotion is tobecomepowerless in the eyesof themind,whichiswhywetryeveryotherresortratherthanfeelingit.Feelingthispowerlessnessfullyandsurrenderingtoitisagatewaytoopentheheart,asitbringsthemindintoitsrightfulpositionasservantratherthanmasterandcontroller.You cannot be controlled unless you are in denial of an emotionwithin you. We are usually controlled through our emotions andour denial of them. In giving up control, we can feel powerless,allowing things tobe as they are. It is at thismomentwe can seeourcausalwoundedemotion.Whatareyoutryingtorunawayfrom?Onlyyourself,yoursoulandDivineLove.Now,that’sabitpointlessisn’tit?Butyes,wealldoit.Justtryanddoitlessofthetime.

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EMBRACEWhenIamnotdenying, Ialwaysadmittoothersandmyselfwhatemotions I have within me, no matter how others criticize. I amalwaystruthful,andIneveravoidtellingthetruthinanysituationnomatterwhattheresult.IamalwayshonestwithGodandmyselfaboutmyflaws,andIneverjustifythemtoothersormyself.Do Idesire tobe theperson I trulyam inside,nomatterhowbadthatlookstoothers?DoIdesiretruthATALLCOSTS,nomatterwhatthepricemayseemtobe?Do I desire passionately to DOwhat I feel and know to be True,ratherthanjustlistentoit?Do Ioftenshrinkaway frompersonal truth,andmisrepresentmytruefeelingsinmyactionswithothers?23Denial is remedied by embrace. Embrace first arises byacknowledging and admitting that there is something you havedenied,somethingyouhavehiddenandcloaked,stuffedunderthecarpet.This takeshumility.Thenextstepcanbeacertain formofresignation, a deep heartfelt sigh and dropping down out of thedominance of the mind into the tender heart. This is the mindresigningitselftothefactitcannotwin,andthatfeelingitthroughtheheartistheonlywayout.Humilityisthelastthingthemindindenialwishestoenter,hencetheresignation.Embrace means to hold a part of your own soul closely in yourarms,toincludeorcontainitasavaluablepartofyou,supportingitwillingly. Itsorigin fromMiddleEnglish is inthesenseofencircle,surround,enclose,embrace.Embraceiswhenwetake,hold,caressandenfoldthatpartofyouthathasbeenleftout,welcomingitwithopenarms,andembodyingthataspectfully,withoutholdingback,fullyacceptingitasapartofyou.

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Allowancestartstosettleintoyourlifewhenyourealizeyouhavenocontroloveryourlife,andinfactyouneverhadanycontroloverwhat ishappeningrightnow.All resistanceand judgmentarise inallowancetobeseen,andaccepted.Youseeyourself,andbegintosurrenderwho you thought youwere andwhat you thought youwanted,intowhatactuallyis.Thisiswhenyoureceive.Inallowanceyoucometoseethetruthaboutyourself,yourpains,yourpatterns andyourveils; youallow thepain, the sadness, theanger,thegrief,andtheunworthinesstobubbleupandbeinyou,simplytobepresent.Inthisexpressingliestherevealingofthelie.Inallowanceweopenthedoorofourhearttobetouched,andinafelt sense ‘giveway’ to this feelingof love, softeningwhat is rigidwithinmoreandmorereadily,andeasily, themorewepracticeit.This deep, soft, innermost feeling, these pangs of sadness at ourown self‐chosen separations, reveals our deepest heart’s desires,ourdeepestlongings,whichistomergewithGod.Allowance is the open expressing, the radically honestacknowledgment of what you believe may make you look small,stupid,sillyorweak,knowingthatthisallowance,thistruestrengthof humility, will enable you to love more. Allowance weavestogether, in anunbroken chain, all partsofoneself, all yourmanyfaces, wounded characters and soul fragments, into a unifyingthreadofLove.And this, my friends, leads to Acceptance. Acceptance is theultimateinitiation.Itmeltsandsoftensallhardnessintothetruthofwhatyouhavebeencreatedtobe.Acceptanceisthesoftopennessthatallowsallemotions towardsanything,oranyone. Itallowsallexpression to simplybewhat it is.Allowance leads toacceptance,andacceptanceopensthehearttoembracewhateverispresentedtoyou.Acceptance is a passive state, whereas embrace can also be anaction, amoving forward to a person, situation, or aspect of you.Embrace brings into you whatever person or thing you findunacceptable, whatever turns you off, and then extends thisenfolding out towards the person, idea, or event. Embrace takes

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whateveryoufeelisunacceptable,andbringsthatvibrationoftheunacceptable inside your heart. It then moves your heart toenvelop,embraceandextenditselfintothatvibration.Do this now. What is happening in your life right now that youcannotstand?Whatdoyou findtotallyunacceptable in theworld,in your relationships, and in yourself? What turns you off, whatrepelsyou,whatmakesyourunawayfromit?Whatdoyoufearorhate?Whatisthelastthingyouwoulddointheworld?Whatisthemost unacceptable action, thought, orwords that youwould eversay,thinkordo?Namefivethings.Writethemdown,indetail,andplacethepaperinfrontofyou.Ifyouhavemorethanfive,thenwritethemdown;infact,writedownasmanyasyoucanfeel.The body carries memory and wisdom, and by taking certainpostures,we have keys to unlock certain qualities and aspects ofyourDivinenature.Sitnow,andembody thisposture.Allowyourarmstodroptoyoursidesandextendyouropenandsoftlycuppedpalms.Holdthesefiveunacceptablethingsorpeoplebetweenyourpalmsand heart, and breathe. Imagine the memory, the last time youreallyfeltthisemotion,thepeoplearoundyou,theplace,whatwashappeningwithinyou.Nowbreathe itdeeply intoyourpalmsandheart. Do this five times. No matter what resistance you feel,breatheitdeeplyintoyourheartfivetimes,andholditthere.Allowtheposturetobreatheyou.Embraceit.Whathappenswithinyou?Simplynotice.Nowrepeatitfor all five, or more. Repeat this whenever, and wherever thesefeelingsarise,beitinthecar,atdinner,speakingtosomeone,orathome.Another way to embrace is to actually meet the person you findmostunacceptable.Look into theireyes, andphysicallyhug them.Whilst hugging them, focus on your heart, and breathe in the

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quality you findmost unacceptable about them. This person is infactoneofyourgreatestteachersonlove.Whenyouembrace,youwelcomelife,allof it,andengagewithallofthelifeflow,openingyourselfmoretoDivineLove,theultimateresting place for the heart. Love and truth embraces, and acceptswhatIShappeninginanymomenttotally.Inembrace,onebringsapart of you into your ownheart, feels the truth ofwhat it is, andthengivesitwhatitneedsinthatmoment.Inthedeepestembrace,onebringstheplanet,andthesufferingsofall humans, into the heart. There is nothing that is singled out aswrong,unacceptable,orunworthyofacceptingandembracing.Feelthisnow.Tohaveourfriendsandlovedonesdenyusispainful,butifwetakeit deeper, it enables us to find our own inner source of strength,firmingusonourpath, takingusdeeper into theunfoldingof theilluminated heart, with the strength and letting go required tosustainlove.Denial transformsintoembracethroughhumility. Jesus’definitionofHumility ishaving aburningdesire andwillingness to feel andexperienceALLofyourownemotions,whetherthoseemotionsarepainful or pleasurable, and having a burning desire to be as youreallyare,NOTasyouhopeyouare,orasyouthinkyouareorwhatisspirituallyacceptableorright.When we desire to experience all of our emotions, our longing forGod’s Love becomes stronger than the longing for any otherexperience.Thedesiretofeelyourownemotionsbecomesthefocusof attention, andwe never attempt to usemethods or techniquesthatshutdownordampenouremotionalexperience.24Perhapsallthewoundstolovearefoundinthisonesimplepoem:

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"Whenlovebeckonstoyou,followhim,thoughhiswaysarehardandsteep.Andwhenhiswingsenfoldyou,yieldtohim,thoughtheswordhiddenamonghispinionsMaywoundyou.Andwhenhespeakstoyoubelieveinhim,thoughhisvoicemayshatteryourdreamsasthenorthwindlayswastethegarden.Forevenaslovecrownsyousoshallhecrucifyyou.Evenasheisforyourgrowthsoisheforyourpruning.EvenasheascendstoyourheightandcaressesYourtenderestbranchesthatquiverinthesun,soshallhedescendtoyourrootsandShakethemintheirclingingtotheearth."KahlilGibran,TheProphet

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SEPARATION/SURRENDERKeyWordsWounds: Isolated, Pride, Cut off, Cold, Detached, Hard, Unfeeling,Superior,Inferior,SlothBalms:Reachout,Humility,FeelDeeply,Connect,Relate,EmotionalBreakdownSeparation is an innerandoutermovementwherewedetach, cutoff and stop feeling. Isolation is the greatest protection from thesoul’swoundsandbeauties,asitmeanswedonotgethurt,creatingaboxwithinourselves,acompartmentinourminds,acastleintheclouds,aplacewherewecanviewcoolly,objectively,intellectuallyand falsely, everything froma safedistancewithouthaving to feelany of it. Isolation cuts off love and God, giving and receiving. Assoonyouprotectyourselffromanything,youareenteringfear.Feel into, right now, how you protect yourself everyday fromfeeling,andhowyouseparate.Assoonasyouenter isolationoran intellectualdeceptionofyouremotions, others around youmay feel it as a prickly sensation inthe auric field that says “Back Off”.Withmost people the naturalresponseistodothesame,anditisherethatmanycanenteratypeofpowerstruggleofwhocancausethemost‘harm’orpointoutthemost errors to the other. When we are deceiving ourselvesintellectually, people around us can feel we are ‘fake’ and find ithardtoconnectemotionallytous,feelingwearebeingemotionallycondescending towards them. We are drawn into intellectualarguments,notunderstandingouremotionsandnotbeingable toidentifythem.All‘emotions’seemtobecalm,peaceful,detached;wehavea‘Zen‐like’demeanour,desiresareoftennotpassionateor juicy,andareoftenrationalisedaway.Peoplearoundusfeelwearequitehaughtyandarrogant.Theemotionofcondescensionisoftenprojectedfromuswhenwefeelwearebeing‘loving.’Wearepainfultobearoundbecausethereisan‘impenetrablewall’aroundus.Wehavenotrue

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compassion e.g. we believe we are compassionate but can’tunderstandanother’strueemotion.25Ifourpurposeistoavoidtheexperienceofpainfulemotion,wearebeingunlovinganduntruthfultoourselvesandothersandwalkingaway from God. Isolation, detachment, and trying to transcendthings before fully embracing and experiencing them, means youcutofffromapartofyourself.Yourationalizeandmovemoreintothehead,ormovetheotherwayandendupwithasentimentalandunclearperspectiveonwhatloveandtruthis.Whenweisolate,wecut the heart‐mind connection off in its truth and separate fromGod,whoiseverwillingtogiveusDivineLovebutcannotifwedonotopenup.Loveneedsnoprotection.Lovecanneverbeharmed.Feelingpain,allowing thebreakdown,allows thenumbnessdeepwithinyou tomelt and thaw. There are a multitude of strategies we haveacquired in order to protect ourselves; to avoid unpleasant oroverwhelmingfeelings.Wecreatewaysinwhichtoblockthemout,andgetby.Itactuallytakesmoreenergyandefforttokeepthelidonthishurt,thanitdoestotakethelidoffandbefree.Maintainingtheveilsofseparationtakesalotofenergytomaintain!Whathappenswhenyoucutoffandisolatefrompartofyourselforanother?Doyoufreezeoverandbecomeanicequeenorking?Doyourecognizetheloveless,ruthless,heartlesspartofyou?Howdoyourrelationshipssufferfromthis?Doyouexperiencetimesofhavingnoemotion,beingnumb,harsh,merciless,cruelanduncaringtopartsofyourselfandothers?Doyoufeelseparate,different,orspecialcomparedtoothers?Inisolation,nothingmovesyou.Youbecomefixedonyourposition,andrefuse toopenor trust.Doubtandrigiditybecomeyourclosefriends. The onlyway out of isolation is humility, and this comesfromawillingnesstoadmityouarewrong,thatthereissomething

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happening here which shows you something about yourself andyourownwounds,andmakingabrave,boldmoveforwardoutofit.Softenwhatisrigidwithin.Therearepartsofusallthatareisolated,cutoffandfragmented.Itmaybeconnectedtoyourinnerchild,itmaybebecauseyoudidnothear,understandorreceivepartofyourself thatyouhave leftoutuntil now. Seewhereyouare immovable, impenetrable, fixedandcertain that you are right, where you are cold, stubborn andrighteous.Thesearesignsthatisolationispresent.Emotionsaresoul‐basedenergiesbeingexpressedordenied.Whenan emotion of any type is expressed completely, it no longerremains within the soul. This is the basis of forgiveness, oremotional forgetting, as once fully felt and expressed, youremotional trauma memory bank is deleted. However, whenemotion is denied in anyway it remains as ‘frozen’ energy in thesoulthatthencreatesattractionsinlifeinordertorevealitself,andultimately,withyourwillingnessandchoice,itstruecause.Asourfeardeniesexperiencingitstrueemotions, itattractsbeliefsystems that support this denial. Denied emotions attract beliefsystems that support fear: suppression of the emotion. The beliefyouholdnowmustfit,mirror,orbesympathetictopastunhealedemotionalexperiences,andfearsoffeelingthese.All belief systems are the result of the suppression or denial ofemotions,andarefear‐based.Fear‐basedbeliefsystemsoften“feelgood” as they help avoid the fear of experiencing causal painfulemotions.Fearbasedbeliefsystemscreatepainfuleventsbecausefear of experiencing our causal emotions prevents us fromaccepting truths harmonious with Love.26 And this is the mostpainfulthingtooursoul.Thesebeliefsystemscanalsobesupportedbyfriendswhocolludewithyou.Thisiswhenwedeliberatelylooktosupportfromothers

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whowillagreewithourbeliefsystem,andwewillfindallkindsofevidencetosupportourconclusion.Probably,manyofourfriendsare already colluding with us on some level with this. Someevidence supporting our belief will even magically appear to us,confirmingourfalsebelief!ThistooisyourLawofAttraction.Thesebeliefsystemsare thenrigorouslydefendedby the intellectbecause they support our emotional error. The fear we have ofexperiencingtruthfulemotionsmakestheTruthappearlikeerrors,orpain.Whenwepray,andwefeelpain,itisbecausethereisstillpainwithinus,andasking forDivineLovereveals thepainwithinto heal it. (Fear of experiencing our causal emotions also createsaddictions.)Ifwefocusourattentiononthefalsebelief,webecomeawareoftheunderlyingunhealedemotion,eventuallymakingyouawareofwhatitcreates.Separation is an action that alienates you from others, a passingenergythatseemstoovercomeyou,orflickasuddenswitchinsideyou. The program begins to unfold. The common pattern is anumbing of sensation, emotion and connection. The person icesover and nothing can seem to break the iceberg. The positionbecomes fixated and fortress like. The expression changes into acold hostility, the eyes grey over and the jaw tightens. The bodycontractsandthemindgetsbusyhearingthecommentsofothers,whilst busily preparing the next cutting sentence to attack theiropponent,anddefendtheirownposition.Thetongueandauricfieldbecometheweaponsasthebattletakesplaceinthemind.Themindbecomesplaguedwithharshandcoldchoices, it’s either this or that, and that is final. The heart isdisconnected and seems like a silly, childish and weak place tocomeback to. Lovebecomessneeredat,ordeniedexistence.Godusually becomes separated from, ridiculed and raged against. Orthepersoncouldgotheotherwayanddeclare“Godandmeagainsttherestofyou”.When in the state of separation, you may even experiencemurderous thoughts, ways of harming or hurting someone oryourself because of negative spirit influence. The most common

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timeforself‐harmiswhenyouareinthatisolatedstate.Self‐harmisawayoffeelingagain,byinflictingsomeformofsensation;itisamixtureofthepainofisolation,andthepleasurethatyouhavethepower to do this. A cold, heartless hatredmayweave itway intoyourmindthatdetestslifeitself.Separation is a righteous feeling, deceptive in its apparent truth.This isacunningployofpride.Thebigdifferencewithseparationwhencomparedwiththeotherwoundsisthatseparationdoesnotemotionally hurt. It is a pure mental wall cutting you off fromfeeling.Youaresoconsumedwithyour“rightness”,thatit isquitepossiblythemostdeadlyandinsidiouswound,asitisoftenkepttoonesownselfandnotexpressedorletout.Thismakesitevenmoredifficult,asinnercastlewallsarebuiltthatarehardertodismantle.The answer to this gridlock situation is youmay need another topointthisouttoyou.Youneedhelptoseeyourblindspotuntilyouarehumbleandawareenoughtoseeityourself.Prideiswhenwearetooemotionallystucktoadmitwearewrong,whenitismoreimportanttoberight,tobejustified,thantoenterhumilityandhappiness.Prideisthegreatestcoverforyourlackofvulnerability. Pride is not getting what you want, and hurtingoneselforanotherbecauseofthis.Prideisfearingbeingpowerless,and the covering up of this lack of true emotional softness andempowerment.Thecoldhardwalls thatprotectyou from theworld, anotherandyourself, chillsandbitters theheartasyoustarveyourselfof loveand feeling.Whetheryouknowthisornot,peoplewill feel this inaninstant.Immediatelytheywillgravitateawayfromyou,avoidingyourpresence,fuelingyourstateevenfurther.Thisavoidancewillconfirm that you are right, and that everyone else is wrong, andnobodyisworthyofyou,oratyourlevel.Separationarises inorder tohelpussurrender.This isaparadox,andlikealltruths,itworksinawaythatdefiesthemind.Thisisnota pleasant feeling, but it enables us to see our ownmadness, ourown fragmentedandslicedupself. Inseeing thishumbly, there is

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anelementofsurrenderinvolved,agivingupofa‘pretty’yetfalsepictureinordertoseeanuglyreality.Feeling the absolute cut, the isolation, the abandonment, thehopelessness, nowhere to go, nothing to do, nothing to distractyourselffromtheoverwhelmingsadness,separationanddesolationyoufeelinside,canbeenoughtomakeanyonegomad.Thereisnowayoutapartfromfeelingit,andkeepingonfeelingitwithprayer–andaskingforDivineLovetodissolveit.Paradoxically, loneliness can often come when we have justreclaimed a piece of our soul from being frozen, isolated andfragmented. In the reclaiming, in the thawing, in the reconnectionandhealing, old feelings arise tobe truly felt and integrated.Thiscan be strange, especially after feeling the peace, the joy, and thebliss of reunion. There is no quick fix, although by grace certainthingscanbereconnectedandaccelerated,aswellasbyyourowndedication to keep embracing and feeling all your emotions, nomatterwhat.The more you align with your constant, deep, yearning desire‐prayertofeelyourdeepestcausalwoundsandemotions,themoreitwill happen. You can handle it. You are never givenmore thanyou can handle, and it is in times of overwhelm that the greatestbreakthroughsandexpansionshappen.Thesetimesserveyouasacatalyst to unfold your accelerated and organic growth. It is likebreakinganeggandwatchingtheyolkspilloffatable,slowlyandinitsownrhythm,timing,patternandway.Itorganicallywendsandweavesitswayfromitsbreakage,tothenbecleanedup.Thisisabittersweetprocess.Relief,joyandsadnessmixandmergewithheavinessasyoureclaimpartsofyour feelingsoul.Youshedmanyofyourunshedtears.Glimmersofhopeariseandfadeaway,happinessstopsbyforaninstant,tothenbereplacedbyemptinessasyoufeelagaintheholethatwasthere,butisnowfadingthemoreyoufeel.The heart deepens, even becomes heavy at this glimpse of truth.The sense of separation you have been carrying reveals itself. A

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newrule,anewwayofbeing iscalling,and it involvesyoutakingonmorethanyouthoughtwaspossible.Vigilanceisthatwearenotseeingothersas less thanourselves.Abond linksusall, andoncewe are free of these chains that bind us, the bond becomesapparent:abondofempathy,sympathy,andkindness.Thewallsof separationget thinnerand thinner. Itusually takesabig event for one to realize this, like a ‘personal’ Crucifixionperhaps,ora traumaticevent toshakeusoutofour lethargy,ourseparatedcastlesofthemind,builtonairwithoutthesubstanceofheart.Maybewehavetositandstareatthewallsforafewweeks:maybeourlifeandrelationshipshavetoend,asweknowit:maybewe think we can do this and be comfortable. No. This is notcomfortable,andneverhasbeen.Stayingpresenttothesenseofisolationisaninnerfeelingreflectedintheouter.Youcanbearoundmanypeopleandevenbeengagingwiththem,yetstillfeelisolated,disconnectedfromthem,likeaplayplayingout in frontofyoureyes.False transcendence iswhenweescape to what we think is a spiritual state, but one that in factleads to more separation. If we escape into the more masculinecrownand third eye chakras, leavingout the sexual and femininechakras, then we enter a separated state that we are told is‘enlightened’.Thisescapeoftenoccursbecausewedonotwant tofeel what is in the lower chakras, and have cut off our sense ofcommunity,friendship,sexualityandfluidmovementthroughlife.Someof theotherveilsof separation include; false joy, false light,false realization and false projection. False projection and falserealization is when the illumination and healing comes from apersonontheoutside.False joy is the laughterofegosatisfaction,ego stimulation, and the reassuring validation and smug self‐congratulationfromonewoundedsoultoanother.Falselightislightthatdoesnottouchthedepths.Thislightisveryprevalent in today’s glamorous ‘new’ age, and leads people to afalse sense of comfort and security, which does not threaten orchallenge the ego. This false light bathes the being on the surfacebutitdoesnottransformorrevealanydepth,andinfactblocksone

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from true joy; false light and false joy are interconnected. Theseveilsareallsimpleyetintricate.Weencourageyoutolookatalltheplaceswhereyouarestillengaginginanyoftheseveils.One has to separate truth from untruth in order to get closer toGod. This is alchemy. Dividing truth from untruth, to see itsdifferingelements,allowsustodistinguishbetweenwhatisusefulandtrue,andwhatisnot.MEDITATIONSeparateyourselffromyourlifeasyouknowitforamoment.Takeafewdeepbreaths,andrelax.Prayforthis,andprayateachstageofthismeditation.Begin by undressing and removing the veil that is your name.Breathe,andwatchitpeeloffandcompletelydissolve,nevertobefound again. Feel the energy of yournamebedrawnout of yourcells and siphoned out of the part of your brain that stores youridentity.Dissolvethesoundofyourname,soyoudonotrecognizeitwhenitisspoken.•Moveintoallthelabelsthatdefineyou:Mother,Father,Daughter,Son,Sister,Brother,Lover,Girlfriend/Boyfriend,breathe,andpassthemontoGod.•Begintodetachfromanydefinitionssurroundingyourwork.Letgoofwhatitisthatyouthinkyoudo,yourpurpose,yourposition,yourcontributions,yoursecurity,yourgifts.Breathe italloutandaway.• Go over all the words that have been used to describe you,undressing these words from your being: intelligent, brilliant,inspiring, beautiful, handsome, fun, loving, kind, impatient, angry,contracted,open,all thewordsthathaveoncedescribedyou,peelthemoffanddissolvethemcompletelyandpermanently.BreatheitalloutandawaytoGod.•Seetheimageofyourhouseburningtotheground,yourcar,yourclothes, your furnishings, your paintings, your music, your

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decorations, your books, all the things that you have created …dissolve them into ashes, breathe it all out and away, and thenbecomethedustthatblowsaway.• Move into the part of you that believes that you are a certaingender,guideyourawareness into looseningthegripthatyouarefemaleormale. Continue to feel thisdeeper anddeeperuntil youtruly losesenseof thegender identification.Breathe italloutandawaytoGod.Freeupalltheidentificationthatmakesupyoursex.• Now, release the part of ‘you’ that has been following theseguidelinesandgiveittoGod.Whathappens?If you are brave enough to step out of the norm, you will bemisunderstood, judged, putdown, sneeredat and ‘persecuted’ foryour walking truth at some point. This is when this apparent‘disruption’becomesanopportunity foryoutocentreanddeepeninyourpath,whenothersjudgmentsbecomesyouropportunitytostandintruthandspeaktruth,behumbleandfeelwhatisstirredinyou,orbesilentasoccasionsdemandit,andrefineyourselfdeeperintotruthand love.Whenyouare judged,scandalizedorshunnedbyothers,thisperceivedinjusticeor‘worstthing’tohappentoyoucanturnouttobethebestfuelforyourownevolution.The energy of separation through its action of ‘persecution’ canhelp anchor truth and love within you in a challenging yetundeniable way as a lived, felt experience. The persecution andseparationattemptedbyothersisanopportunityforyoutodeepenyourconnectiontoGod,andtodemonstrateinthought,word,andaction your humility and your new values. In persecution, one isgiven a palpable choice to live through humility and truth, ratherthan get ensnared by the hooks of ego, and the judgments andexpectationsofothers.Separation and persecution are experiences that test where youthink you are at in your evolution, and grounds you intorecognizing where you still need to heal anything. For example,howdoyouperformunderpressure?Whatcomesoutofyouwhenyou get squeezed / judged or persecuted by external events? Do

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youbecomeparanoidandshutdown(fear)?Doyoustartyellingatpeople (anger)? Do you become defensive (pride)? This is reallywhereyouareat.Humblytaken,itisagiftforyourgrowth,andstillshows us our own wounds and fears within us. Others simplyreflect this to us, and this may not be easy! But in time, withpractice,itgetseasier.Changedoesnotoccurwithoutacatalyst.Freedomdoesnotcomewithoutanoppressor.Ifyouthinkyoucandoeverythingyourself,andthatthisisthebestway tomove in life, you aremoving in the emotionalwound andintellectual illusion that arises from the sense of separation fromGod,andonewillneverreachtheirdeepesthappinessandLove.This is the sense that you are a separatedoer, that you are a lawuntoyourself,thatnothingcanaffectyouandyourworld,thatyouareinvincibleandindependentfromthewhole.Godhascreateditall. As long as you think yourself to be a separate doer,whateveryoudoisnotgoingtomakeatrue,soulfuldifference,whichistheonlydifferencethatcounts.TofeelwecantakeGod’splace,thatweareourownsmallgodrulingourdomainseparatefromeverythingelse,isvanity.Thisseparationleadstostriving,effort,pushing,andaction,feelingweneedtoachieveandbesuccessful,tofillthehole.ToDOratherthantoBE.Pride says it knows all of existence.When you admit you do notknow,thatyouhavenocontrol,thenGodandDivineLovebecomesmore available, and you can enter into the dynamic, evermovingcreativeflowofLife.Acceptanceistheultimateinitiation.Youstoplyingtoyourself,andstartentering intoauthentichumility.When there isnopride, lifeflows harmoniously. Pride is feeling you are special. Pridecomparesandcontrastsitselfwithotheregos;itwantstostandoutand shine. Pride sucks in and takes the energy of other egos tobolster its own lack of self‐worth. In the attention derived fromlookinggood that itgets fromothers itvalidates itself. Itmakes it

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feel like something, in order to hide away from the fact that it ishurt.This feeling opens the doorway to humility and eternity. Thisinsignificanceiswhatwefearthemost.Humilityopensthedoortosurrender.Ofyourselfyoucandonothing.False pride is not feeling worthy to be who you truly are. Falseprideiswhenwepretendtonotknowwhenwedo,pretendingtobehumblewhenwefeelsuperior.Falsepride isbeingsuperior tohide our sense of inferiority, or to compete or match somebodyelse,sowedonotfeellessworthythanwealreadyfeelourselvestobe. The shadow constantly points out the negative and the lackwithinyour self, inothers, and theworld. It is thevoice thatputsyoudown.In separation, a breaking down of the mental body and vastexpansion of the emotional or soul body is required to furtherexpand.Todothisrequiresseveralgreatactsofcouragebasedonlove, which is the wisdom of surrender. In surrender, nothingworriesyou.Thereisflow,acceptanceandallowanceofeverythingthat is happening to you right now, and in extension, everythingthatishappeningintheworldaroundyou,locallyandglobally.Thissurrender does not lead to passivity, instead leading tocontentment, a stateof fluidpeace.This can then serveas abasisforawakenedandradicalactionintheworldifsochosen.Youarenolongerrunbyneedingtolook,actorbehaveinanywayshapedordesiredbytheworld.GenuinenessallowsyoutototallyhonourSelfandactfromthisspace,ratherthanhavingtoactinanywaythatseeksapprovalfromoutsideyourself.Younolongervaluewhat the world thinks, and follow the values of Divine Love andtruth. What fulfills you most comes from God. You no longerdemand that the context of your life provide your happiness, norhoping to view your wholeness through anyone else’s eyes.Paradoxically, this allows you to become closer to every person,andforthemtofeelclosertoyou,asthereisnolongeranyneedtogetanythingfromanother.Andpeoplecanfeelthat,asitspeakstotheirsoulsandattractsthem.

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Surrenderisthesourceofheartandharmony,andseparationistherootofdiscord.Whenoneisinseparation,oneisnotinsurrender.Recognize the difference in frequency, feeling and movementbetween the presence of flow and surrender, and the absence offlowandsurrender.Whatdoesseparationfeellike?Ordoesithaveafeelingatall,andifso,whatisit?What is its frequency?Howdoes it affect yourbody, throat,mindandhead?Doesitmakeyoufeeldryanddehydrated?Ifnot,whatsensationsdoesitevoke?Whatemotionsdoesitevokeinyou?Whatactionsusuallyarisefromyouwheninseparation?Write it down clearly, under the heading FEELINGS OFSEPARATION.Whatdoessurrenderfeellike?What is its frequency?Howdoes itaffectyourbody, throat,heart,mindandhead?Whatsensationsdoesitevoke?Whatemotionsdoesitevokeinyou?Whatactionsusuallyarisefromyouwheninsurrender?Write it down clearly, under the heading FEELINGS OFSURRENDER.Now you can clearly discern and differentiate between the two.Now,youhaveachoice thenext timeyouenterseparation,eitheraloneorwithanother.Behonest.Toceaseresistancetoan‘enemy’givesyouthechancetorecognizethatthe ‘enemy’ is infactforyouagreatteacherof love.Havethecourage to resign and give up acting out the isolated part, thetortuouspart of you that you knowdoesnot feel. Everything youbelieve and know has to be given to create this opening, a spacewhere you can be pulled, where love can pull you, that can thentakeyoutoGod.

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Onlywhen there isnothingelse that youwant from thedreamoftheworldwill you be free. This involves deep trust, trust in thatwhateverisneededwillcome,thattakesyouwhereveryouneedtogo.Lettinggoagainandagainofthisvoiceofthewoundinthemidstofyour thoughts, your interactions with others, is when you knowexactlyhowyouarestillholdingon,andwherethewoundlieswithinyou. This letting go is an inner movement that recognizes thefrequency,voiceandwoundingof thesoul in thesemoments.Andthenturnsinwardtoseeit,feelitanddivedeepintoitasanactofself‐loveandself responsibility,praying toGod to feel it.And it isonly this actionand feeling that canheal you,nomatterwhat theexternalevents,peopleorcircumstancesaresayingtoyouthatmayseemotherwise,orthatyourhurtmayscreamatyoutofollow.Youdiealittleeverydaylivingthis.Everythinghastogo,andyouleave no back door, no escape route, noway for the small self tocomeback.WhenweseparatefromfeelingandaskingtoreceiveandfeelGod,we deceive ourselves, intellectually and emotionally. It takes thegreatest courage and step to come out of separation, for it isarrogance,prideandstagnationallrolledintoone,andittakesthepower of a rocket ship to move out from it into humility andheartfulvulnerability.Onlywhenwe are humble, and are teachable, canwemove fromthiswoundintonolongerfeelingself‐importantorself‐reliant;wechoose to relymore onGod as only this Love and our desire andchoice can heal us.We do not feel emotions of criticism of God’sLaws 27or methods of Teaching us, and demonstrate respect forwhat we learn of Divine laws by instantly attempting to practicethem.Wedonotignoreorjustifyourowncold,harshandunloving

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thinking,wordsor conduct, anddonot attempt to avoidourownunlovingbehaviour,ortocontinueitknowingly.Perhaps the first steps for those caught in separation is to useintellectualawarenesstoacceptthattheerror,ordisharmonywithDivineTruthandLoveexistsand is real,and that thedisharmonyhas a cause within yourself. In this, themental thawing starts tooccur, and an intellectualwillingness to identify the causewithinourselvesarises,withadesireanddecisiontoreleasethecauseofdisharmony.This can then allow the release of the trapped, frozen emotion tooccur, because the soul’s emotional desire to release andexperiencethepainofthecauseofdisharmonyisnowgreaterthananythingelse.Thematuresoulalignsto its love forGodandtruthabove all else. This then leads to the soul’s emotional expansion,andadeeperunderstandingofDivineTruthandDivineLove.Lovefinallyhasitsway.

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JUDGMENT/FORGIVENESS‘The only time to look down on someone is when you are helpingthemup.’JesseJacksonKeyWords:WOUNDS:Humiliate,Project,Blame,Pride,Anger,Punish,Criticize,PersecuteBALMS: Deepen to God, Stay True to Divine Laws, Feel into yourownwound,Self‐responsibility,ForgivenessJudgment arises from reason, projection, self‐criticism, belief, andassumed moral and emotional superiority over another. It is awhole bag, a veritable mélange of pride, anger, wounding andpunishmentmixingtogethertocreatejudgmentoveryourself,andthereforeanother.Judgment is always taken froma lofty, hierarchical and separatedposition.However,withinsociety there isa false judgment,whereno one can judge another outwardly, yet inwardly and to friendsthegamecontinues.This innersecretivedialoguebuildsup layersof resentment and resistance and again blocks the person fromtruly feeling their own wounds and past issues. False judgmentleadstofalseforgiveness.Anotherliebeginswiththedreadedsentence“MytruthisthatI….”And so it begins again. As soon as someone says this, one knowstheyarespeakingfromaWound.HowcantherebeaMYtruthandYOUR truth, and what happened to THE Truth? We all have torealign every piece of ourselves to this One Truth, within whichyourownpersonalwound,belief, preferenceandopinionmattersnot.Commit100%toOneTruthandgiveupyourlittleversionofit.Youwill bemuch happierwith no personal truth,which is reallythe coagulation of your personal story andwounding, left to holdonto.Wheninthefeelingofbeingjudged,itisthemurkyshadowswithinthe corridorsof your soul’swounding thatpicksup the energyof

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your‘persecutor’,andlater,whenyouarealone,startstoreplaythetape. The voice of the wound uses the energy it receives, andprojectsitback,teasingandbelittlingwiththistrancelikehypnosis,buildingyet another layerwithin to eat awayat your self‐esteem.Judgment snuffs out your expansive, radiant self. It contracts life‐force and snarls at love with its projections, its blaming andnaming,itsshunningandshaming.Who, what, and which part of yourself do you feel angry orresentfultowards?Doyoufeelyouowesomeoneadebt?Whatis‘wrong’inyourlife?Howdoyoujudgeyourpartner?Doyoublameyourparentsandchildhoodforhowyouaretoday?Doyoujudgeothersandtheworldforthewaytheyleadtheirlives?Doyoujudgeothers‘flaws”?Do you judge the life you have led and the decisions you havemade?Doyoucondemnothersandtheworldforhowtheyare?Doyousilentlyjudgepeoplewhentheyaretalkingtoyou?Are there ‘shoulds’ inyour life: I ‘should’havedone this, I ‘shoulddothat..’Whenwe are belittling, condescending, snobbish andpatronizing,wearejudging.Discernmentisdifferent:noticingthetruth,waitingforamomenttodigestitandbringitintotheheart,andthenactingon/expressingthattruthinalovingmanner.Evenwhenwearebeingjudged,ifwecanaskhowwecanhelpthatpersoninthatmoment,thenachangecanhappen.AskthemiftheyareOK.Itcanalldissolveintheradiantfieldof forgivenessthat isinstantlyfeltwhentheotherfeelsyouareinaspaceoflove.Ifyoudonottakeanythingpersonally,thenthereislittletoforgive.Ifyouarewillingtokeepdoingthis,thenyouwillgetaglimpseofitagainandagain,untilitbecomespermanent.Behonestandhumble,andhelpwillcometoyouinwaysyoucannotimagine.Ofcourse,ifthisjudgment and projection is untruthful or unloving, you can alsochoosetosimplywalkawayandnotreceivethis,whichisanactofself‐love. Either of these two actions, at different times and with

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differentpeoplemaybeappropriate,butonewillonlyfeelsointhemoment.Theybothworkatdifferenttimes.Judgment is theheartbeatofduality. Judgment is thecriticalvoicebleating inside your wound, criticizing yourself, others, and theworld.Nothing is good enough for the judgingmind, and nothingcanmatchuptoitsstandards,thatfunnilyenoughevenyoudonotmatchupto,eventhoughyourighteouslyassertyouare‐untilitispointedouttoyouthatyouarenot.Thisvoicestatesthatyou,andothers, are not good enough. This sucks the joy out of life. Stopfighting and routing your energy into your protective fields anddefending.Honestyisthekeytothis.Criticalactuallymeanslifethreatening.Tobecriticalmeansyouarethreateningyourverylife,andtocontinuebeingcriticalmeansthatyour lifewill insomeway,wilt,end,anddie. Judgmentblocks lifeforce fromflowing,andyourheart fromfullyopening.Toactuallyobserve what judgment does on a cellular level is to see thecontraction of ALL your cells, shrinking, twisting and distortingtheir naturally fluid, perfected shapes and forms. Judgment is acellularsignaltocutofflovefromtherestofyourbeing.Judgmentisthebeatingheartofduality,fedbyguilt,shame,fearoffeeling emotions, and pain. It reveals the unexplored parts ofyourself that you sweep under the carpet.Whether it is judgingoneselforanother,thebeliefisthesame:Iamseparatedfromfeelingpartofmyself,andthereforeIcannotfeelyoueither.WherethereisJudgment‐thereisblameandshame.Wherethereisblameandshame‐thereislessthan/morethan.Where there is less than/more than ‐ there ismeasurementandcomparison.Where there ismeasurement and comparison ‐ there is right andwrong.Wherethereisrightandwrong‐thereisgoodandbad.Wherethereisgoodandbad‐thereisJudgment.If one of the Wounds still exist ‐ ALL the Wounds exist. All areinterconnected.

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It isusually easier togive toothers,butnot toSelf.This is suchacommonoccurrence.Whydoweholdthisidea‐beliefofsacrifice?Isitgeneticorhardwiredintous,perpetuatingandcreatingasenseofguiltperhaps?Sacrifice affects the very foundation of a being. One sacrifices todenytheirselfortoavoidtheirownpain,torescueotherstoavoidthe hole in their own life, acting out of a belief and falsewisdomfromtheirwounds.Inthis,onegivesawayeverythingthatsustainsthem,givesawaytheirhonouring, loveandresponsibilityfortheirown self, and dilutes their true loving connection to life andGod.Sure,itmayLOOKlikeGiving,butitisusuallyacoverup.Thereisabelief here that if I give enough then ALL (but not me!) will besupported.What does guilt feel like? Heavy, slow, tired, thick sludge.Guilt iswhat perpetuates the idea of sacrifice. Once you have givenyourself away and know it, guilt arises.Then may come angertowards Self and/or outrage towards others.One needs to be anadultwithenoughself‐responsibilitytorecognizethatthisprocessisaboutNOONEORNOTHINGELSE‐ONLYabouttheirSelf.Whenapersonisceasingvictimmode(thatdoesnotmeanthatitisall necessarily gone) they are beginning the work of self‐love.Ultimately it ALL comes back to you, and the sooner onecognizesandaccepts it, the sooneryoucan initiate theprocessofforgivingyourself.Underneath theanger isalwaysgrief. It isGriefthatbreaksthefinalwall.Griefisthesweetestemotionbecauseitbrings itallhometoSelfwithoutshameorblame:Griefexpressesthepainof lost innocence.Self trustswhenit trulyFEELSit'sowninnocence.And sometimes that takes reflections from others toremindusofourowninnocence,thatitispossibletohaveandfeelthatinnocence.AFEWFOUNDATIONSOFJUDGMENTAssumption.Fromyourownbeliefsystemandpersonaltruthsyouhaveanidea,andprojectthatwhatistrueforyoumustbetrueforanother.Whatisrightformemustberightforanother.Thisisvery

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connected to your family conditionings: peer pressure, peeragreements,culturalstereotypesetc.Youoftenseekvalidation foryourillusionsfromyourfriends,whowillcomfortyou,andassureyou that you are right, and safe. Youput your desires on anotherpersonandexpectthemtofulfillthem.Judgmentincreasesbecauseofalackofclearcommunication.Youinterpretanotherthroughwhatyouthinkistrue,andthendonot communicate that to another in honesty, and openness.Perceptions and gossip abound, and the veil of illusion growstighter within your own mind. What is not expressed getssuppressed, and turns into dense, rigid thought‐forms, destroyinggoodintentions.Projection.Thisistheeffectofalljudgment.Whatyoudonotlikeorowninyourownself,youjudge,mock,condemn,orputdowninothers.Youchoosetoprojectyourshadowlessonsontoothers,bethey partners, friends, lovers, countries, and governments. Youchoosetolookoutsideofyourself,andnotlearnyourownlessons.Youstayhard,insteadofsoftening,stayinginthepastinsteadofthepresent, investing your energy in the past image of others oryourself, instead of being present to how you are today, or howothersaretoday.Wejudgeandarejealousofotherswhohavewhatwewant,andtryandpullthemdowntoourlevel.Mostpeopledonotlikeotherswhohavesteppedoutoftheboxanddare to live their heart’s desire. We may feel inadequate, andbelievewearenotcreatorsofourexperience.Onebelieves thingsaround us just ‘happen to us.’ Victims try andmake other peoplevictims, or even victimize others, or simply contract into a cold,unfeeling, passionless and servile nothingness. It is easy to be avictim,asitinvolvesablamingofothers,ablamingofyour‘karma,’andabandonmentofone’sself‐responsibilitytocreatechange.The‘Whyme?’andthe‘poorme’syndrome.Fear of difference and understanding. Be it racial, religious orcultural, if youaredifferent, youcanbea threat.Why?Because ifyoudonotunderstandwhereanotheris‘comingfrom,’becauseitisdifferenttowhereIamcomingfrom,wheremyfriendsarecoming

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from,andwhathasbroughtmesofarinlifetomy‘happiness’.Thereal fear is not feeling safe because one does not feel we sharecommonground,soonecannotpredict theothers’behaviors. It isthe unknown and the unpredictable, and this creates fear andjudgment.Not taking self­responsibility. If you feel judged, or are judginganother,thereisanaspectofyourownselfnotrecognized,owned,orembraced. Judgment isamirror.Pointing the fingeratanother,instead of turning the finger around and looking at your ownactions. Not taking self‐responsibility for your hurt is a denial ofyour feelings and causal lessons. Healthy adults recognize ifsomeoneispushingtheirbuttons,thereisanaspectofthemselvestheyarenotatpeacewith,andthereforeitisablessingtofeelthisdenied emotion, and will eventually lead to peace. Self‐responsibilitymeansnottakingresponsibilityforotherpeople,butrathertakingresponsibilitytowardsyourfeelingstowardsothers.Putting ideas before feelings. When one puts the forms, ideas,beliefs and expectations of society before your own feelings, youbetrayyourself.Whenyoudoputyourintuitionsfirst,youmayalsobejudgedbysocietyasnotdoingwhatisright,or‘acceptable.’Youronly barometer is your own soul and prayer to God and trustingthis, rather than judging it,or listening to thedemands, ideasandexpectationsofothers.

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FORGIVENESS“For if you forgive others their sins, your heavenly Father will alsoforgiveyou.”Matt6:14You can only forgive others when you have learnt to forgiveyourself. To do this you have to know your wounds and theircauses,andfeelalltheharmyouhavedone,orbewillingtoatleast.Whydidyoucreatethatsituation?Thiswillingnessopensthedoorto forgiveness. Similarly, you canonly truly loveotherswhenyoutrulyloveyourself.To forgive is to heal from the fear and judgment one has beenprojectingonself,others,andworld.Somethingverydeeprelaxes.As you forgive, you see how you have been distorting yourrelationshipsthroughthepowerofprojection,andyouseehowthemindhassuchpowertoshapeandlimityourlife.Toforgivemeansyouchoosetoreleaseyourselfandothersfromtheperceptions that yourmindhasbeenprojectingupon them. It is anact of forgiving your own wounds, which create projections. Inprojection everything is justified; all the decisions you haveseeminglybeen‘forced’todoinordertosurviveinthisworld.Butwhat is surviving?Lovehasnoneed to surviveorworry;woundsdo,andtheystrugglefortheirlife.Projectioncoloursanotherwiththe very energies you are denying, and judging,within your veryownself.You create the veils throughwhich you view creation. Projectionoccurswhenyoudenyapartofyourself,whenyoutryandsweepinto thebasementwhat youdonotwish to seeorownaspartofyourownself.Projectionownsnothingandblameseverything;itistheultimatevictimconsciousness,forinprojectionyouregostatesthat everything is outside of you, and that you have creatednothing; the complete opposite to the truth that you create yourperceptions through your emotional wounds and then seeminglymanifestthisinyourlife.

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In for‐givingyoubecome fully self‐responsible foreverything thathappens to you, as you realize that you have created yourperceptionofalltheeventsandrelationshipsinyourlifeinordertolearnandgrow.Yougrowup.This isabigsteptotake;toownallyour actions, all wounds, all ideas of victimhood. To forgive andhumblyfeelyourownlessons,notworryabouttheother’slessonsand perceived shortcomings, and embrace oneself, and all otherswhohaveassistedyouinthisplayoflearning,isacceptance.ItisanideathatonlyYOUhavedecidedtogivevalueto,believein,and think to be true. It is because of a lack of forgiveness, ofjudgment,intheworldthattherearewarsandconflicts,inequality,and separation. Forgiveness allows one to let go of the certaintythatoneisright,allowingthepossibilityforsomethingunknowntohappen,somethingelse,somethingnew.Ifsomethinghasnotbeenworkingoneway,tryanotherway.Judgmentcanbeanaccumulationofalltheknowledgeyoubelieveyouneed tomakeyou safe, supported, recognized, successful andloved. In judgment you compare yourself to others, with thiscomparison based on determiningworth or value; that is,who isbetter,orworse.Thismeansthatifyouaredifferentfromanother,thenoneofyoumustbebetterthantheother,andthereforemoreworthy.Assoonastheegoputssomethingoutsideofitself,itisnotincontrolofit.Whentheegoisnotincontrolofsomething,thenitfeelsthreatenedandfearfuloffeelingpowerless.Judgmentbegins.Withdrawing the importance and value you have given to theexperiencesyouhavehadthatdonotleadtomoreloveistheactionofforgiving.Forgivingcreatesaharmony,humility,openness;itisabridge between soul and Divine Love, and union betweenseeminglyseparatepeoples.Alleventsareneutral.Youmakethemgoodorbadthroughyourownwoundfilterandperception.Valuelove, see the lesson behind it. All things lead to love with thisattitude.Innotjudginghowthingsare,youfreeyourselffromperceptionsoffear. In this, you start to see what is actually present behind the

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appearance. Everything becomes new, fresh, vital, as there is nolabeling,nobox,norigidnamingofform.Forgivingbecomesgenuinewhenresentment,whichmeansto“feelagain”, feelingoverandover thesamehurtbecause ithasnotyetbeenownedandfullyfeltwithinyou,ceases.Indicationswehavenotforgivenare:Weareangry,weareresentful,andweavoidpeoplewhotreatuslovinglyWeavoidsituationsthattriggeranger,orresentmentWefeelasenseofinjusticeinourrelationshipswithsomeoneelseWefeelasenseofinjusticewithintheworldWefeelangerorresentmentwhenwethinkabouthowothershavetreatedusWerejectapersonforwhattheyhavedonetousThe damage created when you hold onto anger or resentmentgreatly weakens your ability to give and receive love to self, toothers, and to receiveDivineLove. It alsodamagesyourability tofeelthesubtletiesofemotionsandbeself‐responsibleforthem.AsGandhi shares, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is theattributeofthestrong.”HowToForgive28Acknowledge the injuryor thehurtwithinyourself causedby theevent/person. Allow the painful emotions of the hurt to beexperienced emotionally. Grieve about the event until you nolongerfeelanyemotionalattachmentto it.PraytoGodforhelptoforgive,toremovethecausewithinthatpreventsyourforgiveness.Visit the placeswithin, locations outside, or people that triggeredthewoundandeventtoseewhetheryouhavenoemotionalchargeleft.Forgiveness occurs through repentance. Repentance is feeling adeepgrievingsorrow,andadeepdesiretorightthewrongdone.If

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you feel repentant, then showingmercy is a beautiful example ofthis,bothfortheonewhohascommittedthewrongdoingandtheonewhohasreceivedthewrongdoing.When forgiveness is complete, you will never fear, nor avoidmeeting thepeoplewhocausedyouthepainunless theychoose torepeatthepain.Youwillfeelnomoreangerorresentmenttowardsthe people causing you pain. The people you have forgiven willoften feel differently towards you, and change in their actions.Manytimestheresponseisimmediate,butsometimesitisdelayedbecauseofthehardnessoftheheart.When you are close to God, forgiveness is automatic because youexperienceeachemotionastheeventhappens;thereisnostorageof negative emotion. You understand completely all the reasonswhy a person chooses to harm you. You understand and havecompassion for the underlying emotions of the person harmingyou, and you do not feel any harm from “hurtful” actions. This isbecauseyouknowthetruthregardingharmfulactions,theircausesand results, andhave the strength to not engage in these actions.There is a deep knowing within you that there is no reason torefusetoforgiveinANYsituation.Forgivenessnevercompares,attacks,orputsanyonedown.Thereisnohigherorlowerinforgiveness.Forgivenessholdsaspaceforacceptance, the ultimate initiation, a deep, cellular letting go.Perfectionisnottobewithoutflaws,buttoliveintherevealingoftruthineachmoment.Youstepoutoftruththemomentyoujudge,attack, defend… the moment you stop living in for‐giving, themomentyoustopgiving.Whenevermymindseeks/thinkstojudgeanother,Iinstantlycatchit,andgentlysharetomyselfthatthispersonisactuallyme.Ithenseetheflawintheotherthatmymindwaspointingout,tobemyown flaw, mistake or error, as my learning. I too have donewhatIamjudginginanother.Ithengentlyfeelthisinmyheartandallowittorestthere.Ithenacceptthisflawassomethingstilloperatinginme,onsomelevel,inthepastifIcannotlocateitinmypresent behavior. I recognize there is still something to be felt,

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learned from and forgiven. If it is in my present behavior, I gothrough the layersof effects to the cause,which invariably comesdown to unworthiness or some harm or pain I have caused toanotherandtomyself.Judgment is a mirror. (hence the judgment or dislike of it inanother.) All judgment is me disowning part of myself or notwanting to admit and recognize that in me. All judgment is onlytruly ever ofmyself. Lookdeeper at your judgments and youwillalwaysfindthistobethecase.Takethejudgment,takethispainofyours, into your heart, and strengthen your humility and self‐responsibility. This all takes very little time, and can immediatelybringyoubacktoyourheart.Forgiveness arises and completes fullywhen you pray to feel thepainandharmyouhavecausedyourselfandanotherbybeingoutofalignmentwithDivine laws.Partial forgivenessoccursbetweenpeoplewhentheygenuinely,sincerely,anddeeply feelandrepentfor their harmful actions. The fullness of forgiveness happensbetweenyouandGod inprayeras thedeepercause iswithinyouandyoualone.Wealltakeonguilttoearnourredemption.Ifwesaywehavenotfeltguilt, (guilt is theeffectofkarma,and in fact iskarma)weareavoidingwhatlurksdeepwithinus,notwantingtoseethelightofday,notwantingtobeexposed.Weliveindenialofourpain‐body,buriedwithinoursubconscious.Whenyoufeelyourpain,guilt,andjudgmentfully,yousurrender.Youbecomehumble.PrayerIforgiveallthewavesofseparationthatflowthroughmethisdayIforgiveallthosewhojudgemeGod,Forgiveme;havemercyonmysoulHelpme,toseetheinnocenceinallDonotletappearancesdistractorswaymeFormore,seeTheSelfLoveSectionandthebookTheChristBlueprint

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HEALINGTHEFIVEWOUNDS"Our task is not to seek for love but merely seek and find all thebarrierswithinusthatwehavebuiltagainstit."RumiTheFiveWoundstaketheirjourneytocompletioninnakedfeeling,in sadness, in grief, in accepting of the deep pain that enacts thenoble carving of the heart that leads to spaciousness and thereceiving of more and more Divine Love. It is this receiving ofDivine Love that spurs everything on, and makes it all infinitelyworthwhile and desirable. Through prayer and Divine mercy,transformation is sure to occur,with the eventual deleting of thememory of the event and soul wound. This is Divine emotionalamnesia and forgetfulness, Grace wiping the slate clean after ithavingbeenfeltfullyandunreservedlybyyou.Sadness is a grace, for in humility, honest confession and deepfeelingwe transcend the survival instinct, risingabove the fearofdeath,self‐preservationandseparation.Perhapsunderlyingallwounds29isthebeliefoflowself‐worth,thatwearenotgoodenough,notworthyofourgreatestdreams,highestaspirations, of Divine Love. There is a doubt from deep within,borne from our perceived abandonment from God, that we willneverhavethesethings.Thiscanbeexpressedinitiallyasissuesoflow self‐esteem and creating relationships of career, friendship,andromancethatmatchyourbeliefsandexpectationsofnotbeinggoodenough.What you believe, rather than feel or know to be true, is alwaysyour limitation. There are no limitations in thisworld except theonesyouplaceonyourself.Theonlyprisonbarsthatholdanyrealpowerarethosecreatedbyyourwounds,andtheonlyonewiththekeytounlockthemisyourdesireforGod.

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If youhavebetrayedanother thenyouwillbebetrayed, andhavebetrayed part of yourself. You have betrayed truth and love. Andyouwillfeelit.Ifyouchooseto.If you have judged another, then you will be judged, and havejudged part of yourself. You have misunderstood truth and God,and judged love.Andyouwill feel it. Ifyouchooseto. ‘Lethewhohasnotsinnedcastthefirststone.’If you have abandoned someone, then you have been abandoned,andyouhaveabandonedpartofyourselfandyourrelatingtoGod.You have abandoned truth and love. And you will feel it. If youchooseto.Ifyouhaveseparatedfromsomeone,thenyouhavebeenseparatedfrom, and youhave separated frompart of yourself andGod. Youhaveseparatedfromlove.Andyouwillfeelit.Ifyouchooseto.If you have denied someone, then you too have been denied, andyouhavedeniedyourself.Youhavedeniedtruth,loveandGod.Andyouwillfeelit.Ifyouchooseto.Trust,forgive,embrace,desireGodandtruth,behumbleandfeelallyouremotionsaresimple lawsof truthandLove to liveby.Applythemwithin yourself, and extend this out to all others. One givesyou the opportunity to do the other, so that inside and outsidebecomeone.The degree to which we are willing to feel hurt is the degree towhichwearewillingtolove.Ifyouaretobehurt,thenletyourselfbeso. If it is tohurtyouthen let ithurtyoufully,andcompletely.Letitannihilateyou.Lovecanneverbeharmed,andloveneedsnoprotection.TolivebythelawsofLoveentailsaturningupsidedownofallthatyouhavelearnt,andsometimesitmaynotlookorfeellovingasyoubattle through the resistance, denials, justifications, ‘I‐ness,’stubbornness and traps. How we run away from something sosimple,andsoevident,isamazing.

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This is beautifully shownby the15th century SufimysticHafiz, inhispoemontheBeloved:‘ Lovewants to reach out andmanhandle us, break all our teacuptalkofGodIfyouhavethecouragetogivetheBelovedhischoice,Somenightshewouldjustdragyouaroundtheroombyyourhair,RippingfromyourgripallofyourtoysthatbringyounojoyLovesometimesgetstiredofspeakingsweetlyandwantstoriptoshredsallyourerroneousnotionsoftruththatmakeyoufightwithYourself,dearone,andotherscausingtheworldtoweepononetoomanyfinedaysGodwantstomanhandleus,andlockusinatinyroomwithhimselfandpracticeHisdropkickTheBelovedsometimeswantstodousagreatfavourandholdusupsidedown,andshakethenon­senseoutButwhenwehearheisinsuchaplayfulmoodalmosteveryoneIknowhightailsitoutoftown…’Woundsdoimpactthesoul,andweallhavethem.Wecantryandrationalise, intellectualise, and escape them but they will alwayscome back to haunt us, unlesswe heed theirmessage and gentlyturninwardstofaceandembracetheirgift.TheirgiftistobringusintomoreintotruthandlovewithGod.Areyoureadytoacceptthisgift?The principles have been shared: to live them all the time is thechallenge. No one is perfect, but once we make our mistake, torectifyitisourresponsibility.Aslongaswedoit,wehavedoneit.InHomer'sepictaleTheOdysseyhedescribednepenthe,amythicaldrug that induced the forgetfulness of pain and trouble. Modern

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culture has turned the myth into reality: There are now manystimuliservingthatpurpose.30Andyoudoiteveryday.Whenyoufeelyourpain,thenyoucanreleaseit.Causeandeffect.The cause is always yourpain, andyourmistakes come fromyouactingfromyourpain,(evenifyoudonotrealiseitatthetime)andactingupon the falsewisdom of thewound. This falsewisdom, orinformation coming from thewound, gets you to act inways thatdirectly arise from yourwound, that are a result of unexpressed,unresolved and unfelt pain. Another way to put it is that if yourpain is felt less thanyourmistakes, i.e. youmay just intellectuallyacknowledge it, butnot reallydelve into thepainand feel it, thentherewillbeverylittlereleaseofthepainandwoundinyoursoul.The problem is we do not wish to feel the pain.Wefight againstreality, you fight against Divine laws. This is abattle that cannotEVERbewon. It is likeachildstompingher feetrefusingtogrowup.Ourexpectation,beliefandmistake is that thereshouldnotbepain,orthatweshouldnothavetofeelanymorepain,thatwecando it all without having to feel the depths of our grief, yourseparation,yourunworthiness.Orifwedo,wemayfeelwecandoitalone,withoutGod.Understandthegiftofpain. It isoneofthethingsthatwillsetyoufree from the cage you havemade for yourself. And, the truth isthat when it is plunged intocompletely, it passes quickly. Love,blissandfreedomareontheotherside.Yes, in this earth plane there are growing pains. BUT themostterriblepainofalliscontinuingtorunfrompain,tobeafraidofit.Wasting life in separation andmisery rather than feeling thesharp, quick, clean pain of shedding falsebeliefs and the deepermoreprotractedfeelingsofsoulwounds.Whenyourdesirefortruthismorethanyourdesiretorunawayfromtruth, then youwillwillingly enter into the pain. The pain, or thefear of it, is not as bad as you fear. Fear is the first hurdle to30RobBrezny,FreeWillAstrology

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overcome to truly feel. Inourwillingness to feel itall, forgivenessandmercyinourlivesaccelerate.WhatisafewmonthsoryearsofpaincomparedtoalifetimeofloveandDivinecommunion?The more you focus on truth and your deep desire for it, youexperienceyourpainautomatically.Withoutevenknowingwhatitis you are feeling – you just feel it. It happens. Have you evernoticed that? You just start crying for no reason, and somethingreleases.Youdonotneedtoknow,andyouarenolongerconsciousofit;itcanjustflowoutofyoulikeachild,whojustfeelswhateveris being felt fully in the moment, will cry and cry, and then stopwhenitisdone.When it isdoneandfullyreleased, thechildwill thencontinueonasnormal,playing,laughingandhavingagoodtime.Thisisbecausethey are emotionally open and can feel, and therefore releaseautomatically, because there is no justifying, minimizing, denyingor running away from the emotion, nor is there any emotional orintellectualdeceptioninthem.When you doactually release a causal emotion andwound,whatyou attract to you changes instantly.When it is no longer in you,thenyounolongerattractit.Feelintothis.Whathaveyourecentlyreleased and noticed a change about? And of course, if you thinkyou have released a causalwound, but nothingmuch changes ontheoutside,thenyouknowyouhavenotreleasedit.Manifestationisamirror.Now,takeadeepbreath,andfeelallthisfor1moment.Now,saythissentence:Godneverabandonedme,Ididitmyself.Liferevealstoyouthroughdirectexperiencehowyoudonot loveyourSelfandGod.Confusionisyourresistanceto:TheFEARyoufeelthatyoudonotdeserveLove.TheANGERyoufeelthatGodhasforsakenyou.TheGRIEFyoufeelthatyouhaveforsakenTruth,GodandyourSelf.

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Thewoundsarehealedthrough:Total self responsibility – it is only your issue, and no one elsesproblemHumility–infeelingtheemotionDesire–inaskingtofeelitandaskingGodtohelpyoutodosoHonesty–inseeingyourtruecondition,asyouareNOW,nakedBravery – in facing the fear cloaking the wound and beingvulnerableCommittment–tofeelingandhealingit,nomatterwhatittakestodosoSoftorganicpace:naturallyunfoldingprocess,noneedtorush,butbedisciplinedinpersistentlyprayingforitFeelingthesurfaceemotions,andthengoingdeeper.FeelingitALL.Notleavinganythingout,anystoneunturned.Repentance–deeplyfeelingalltheharmyouhavedonetoselfandothers,which leads to: True forgiveness, which is emotionalforgetfulnessortotalhealingoftheissue.Humility is choosing to feel all emotions. Jesus’ definition ofHumility is: Having a burning desire and willingness to feel andexperience ALL your own emotions, whether those emotions arepainfulorpleasurable.Havingaburningdesiretobeasyoureallyare,NOTasyouhopeyouare.Honestymeanswelookandfeeldeepwithinourselvesforanythingandeverythingthattriggersusinourlives.Anyevent,relationshiporreaction,pastorpresent, that isnot intruthor love isanerrorlyingwithinyou,andthiserrormasksawound.Ittakesbraverytofeelandknowthetruthaboutyourcondition,andfortruthtoarise,no matter what it takes or what it means to your life. If yourrelationship,job,family,plans,homeandcarefullyconstructedfalseself‐imagehastosufferandgoforyoutorealisethetruth,andwalkinlove,sobeit.Deep, sincere, ferventand trueprayer toGod for thiswillmake ithappen; there is no doubt about it. If you have to be ridiculed,judged,mocked, persecuted and seen as an idiot, sobe it. Staying

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withtheDivineTruthwillsetyoufreeeventually,withyoursinceredesireandcommitmentforit,nomatterwhatthecost.Repentancemeanswe truly and deeply feel the pain and hurt ofwhatwehavedone.Infeelingit,wearehalfwaytoitsforgiveness,truly and fully. Repentance occurs when you feel and express anemotionallongingtofeelALLoftheconsequencesofyourpastandpresentharmfulactions:God, please help me to feel ALL the consequences of my harmfulactionsInthis,youbecomewillingtopersonallyexperiencetheharmyouhavebroughttoyourselfandtoothers:God,pleasehelpmetofullyexperienceALLtheharmIhavebroughttomyselfandallothersinalltimesYou have an emotional realization of the Divine Truth regardingyouractions:God,helpmetofeelandrealizetheTruthaboutmyactionsGod,IwanttheTruth,showmetheTruthYouprayindeeplongingtoGodtobeforgivenGod,forgiveme;havemercyonmeGodfeelsourrepentance; it isnotgiveninwordsoractionsalone,anditwillmanifestinourouterlivestoo.Truerepentancereleasesthe causal emotion for the act. If I do the same unloving thingsagain,thenIwasneverrepentantinthefirstplace.ImayfeelIamrepentant, feel sad, and think I feel sorry, but all I am doing isfeeling the pain of the event, the effect, and the emotions aboutgetting caught for something I was hiding, avoiding or feelingshamefulabout.31

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Intruerepentance,weregatherandfeelallthefragmentsandlostpartsofoursoulsback into thepresent. Itwasonlyourpain thatmadeusharmanother,sothistooneedstobefelt.Truerepentanceleadstoforgiveness,whichistrulyanddeeplyfelt.Whenthislandsinyou,therewillbenomorerememberingofpasteventswithpain,guiltorshame.Youwillknowthisifyouarehonestandconnectedtoyouremotions.Donotchoosetodamageyourselforothersbyholding intheemotion.Choosetoexperiencetheemotion.1. Express the surface emotion, then experience the underlyingpain,grieforshame.2.Expressunderlyinganger,orothersurfaceemotiontowardstheman/woman fully inprivate, and thenexperience theunderlyinghurt.3. Come to the point of forgiveness, which is emotionalforgetfulness.Rememberthat:YoucannotfoolGodaboutyourtruefeelings,aboutanythingGoddoesnotpunishyouabouthowyoufeelaboutGod,oranythingelseGodfeelscompassionforyouchoosingtoremaininemotionalpainanddeceitYouconnect toothersviayourownTRUEEMOTIONALcondition.This is felt.Youdonotconnectwithothers,or thedepthsofyoursoul, just by thoughts, words or actions. You ONLY connect withGodthroughyourtrue,sincereemotionalcondition,nomatterhowbadyoumay think that is orhowunworthyand insignificant youjudgeyourselftobe.Godreceivesallsinceresouls,nomatterwhattheyhavedone.

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Youwillsuffermorewhenyouchoosetoresisttheexperienceofyourownemotions, like shuttingdownyourowngriefwhen sad,actingonyourdesiresthatarenotharmoniouswithLove,usinganaddiction(food,sex,etc,)tomaskyourself,andactingonyourowndesire to harm others rather than experience your own hurt, forexamplelie,ratherthanfeelpain.We often use our own pain as a way to justify causing pain toothers. When we deny personal responsibility for our pain, wejustify causing pain to others. This creates more pain and morelayersaroundthecoreissue.Forexample,whenweareangry,wedenyourpersonalpain,andblamesomethingelseforit.Whenweare needy we are in denial of our personal pain, and wantinganother to make us “better.” When we are depressed, we areavoidingdeeperemotions.32We do everything to avoid the experience of loss and deep pain,including causing pain and harm to self and others. This leads toevery other "masking" feeling, moving us further away from thelove that we desire. Only remorse and grief fully expressed willcleanse theheart‐soul‐vessel.Remorse isanemotionalexpressionof deeply personal regret felt by a person after he or she hascommittedanact,whichtheyknowandfeelisshameful,hurtful,orviolent. Remorse is closely allied to guilt and self‐directedresentment.Griefisamulti‐faceted response to loss,particularly to the lossofsomeoneorsomethingtowhichabondwasformed.Remorseandgrief are the causal feelings that reveal, express and purge thedeepestpains.Remorseforallthatwefeelwehavecaused,griefforall that we feel we have lost. They are the keys to unlock thefloodgatethroughwhichallthetearsflow‐cleansingandemptying.Eventuallytherewillcomeamomentwhenyoutouchona"CriticalMass" of Primal Remorse and Primal Grief. After you havecompletelyFELTandRELEASEDthishurtandpain,reclaimingyour

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trueself‐loveandacloserrelationshiptoGod,your"innerswitch"flipsfromFeartoLove.To feel is to know through direct experience, not intellectualizefromadistance,buttrulybeinandofit.Onceyouhaveexperiencedsomething directly then compassion is naturally felt for self andothers.Thisiswhyweallmustfeeltheselayersandpainsinordertorevealthemasksweholdoverourcoreandcausalwounds.Itisby fully feeling the truthofwhomwereallyare thateverything isbroughtbackintolove,andlayeruponlayermustberevealedanddissolvedofwhatwearenotinourpureselvesinordertouncoverthistruth.

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PRAYERTOHEALTHE5WOUNDSTOLOVEMyBelovedFatherMotherGod,CreatorofHeavenandEarth,CreatorofallUniverses,CreatorofmysoulGodofallgods,GodofLoveMyLoveofloves,IloveYouImissyou,pleasecomebacktomeGod,helpmetofeelallthebetrayalsofmysoulthatIdoandhavedone,tomysoul, toYou, and toall others.God,helpme toTrust in thewaysofYourLoveandDivineTruth.PleasehelpmetoRealizethatIAmtrulyYourchildandOnewithYou.LetmehavesuchfaiththatIFeelandKnowYouaremytrueFatherandMother,theBestowerofeverygoodandperfectgift.God,Iwanttofeelallmydenialsofpain,andallthedeepfeelingsofmysoulthatIchoosenottofeel.God,IaskYoutohelpmeFEELallthe harm and pain I have caused myself and others in all mylifetimes.God,helpmetoknowandfeelhowIdenyYouandstopYour Love from entering my soul. God, help me to accept andembraceeveryemotionofmysoul.IchoosetofeelthemALL.God,helpmetofeelwhatI judgemyselfabout.God, Iwantto feelhowothers feelwhen I judgeandhurt them.God,helpme to feelhow I judge You. Helpme to know and feel the causes of all myjudgments. I am so sorry for everything harmful I have done tomyselfandothers.Helpmetofeelitall.IchoosetofeelitALL.God,pleaseforgiveme.Havemercyonmysoul.God,IwanttofeelallthewaysinwhichIabandonmysoul.God,IwanttofeelallthewaysinwhichIabandonothersouls.IwanttofeelthefeelingsofhowIhavebeenabandonedbyothers.IwanttofeelandknowhowIhavecompensatedforthisabandonmentinmylife.God,helpmetofeelallthewaysinwhichIabandonYou.PleasehelpmereunifyallpartsofmysoulbackintoYourLovingarms,soIcanbeonewithYou.

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God, Iwant to feel the depths ofmy separation fromYourDivineLoveandTruth.God,helpmetofeelagain.PleasesensitizemysoultoYourDivineLove&Truth.Please,helpmetoreceiveYourDivineLove.IchoosethatYourWillbedone.Pleasehelpme to receiveyourDivineLove into thedepthsofmyshameandunworthiness.ThankyouforhelpingmetofeelALLinmethatisstillunfelt.Thankyouforhelpingmeto feelALL inmeIstilldenyandavoid.ThankyouforhelpingmetofeelALLinmeIstilldonotembrace.ThankyouforhelpingmetofeelALLinmeIstilldonottrust.ThankyouforhelpingmetofeelALLinmethatisstillunforgiven.Thankyoufor helping me to feel ALL the ways I separate from You. PleaseshowmeALLofthis,andhelpmetofeelitALL,now,now,now.God, please help me to receive Your Divine Love. Thank you forYourLoveandtheprivilegeandhonourofreceivingit.ILoveYou.Amen.

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‘By seeking the myth it dreams it can attain, the seeker effectivelyavoidsthatwhichitmostfears...itsabsence.’33Our Father is a Loving Father, a Beauty Filled Abundant Mother,andanythingispossiblewithGodsGrace.Weallhavethecapacityto receive this Divine Love. All of us. The way we are Loved isbeyond all understanding, all comprehension, for God wishes togiveuswhatwedonotevenknowofyet,andis leadingustothisonestepatatime,withwhatinourtinywaysweareabletochoosefor. God desires you so deeply that our most fervent yearningsbarelytouchwhatHeburnstosharewithusandbringallofusinto.It is only ourselves that stand in theway of this Love that bringseverything else in life and all of existence into insignificance. Goddesiresyou.Shewantsyou,Hewantsyousomuch.She has designed everything for you; everything in your life isdesignedtobringyoubacktothisLoveifyoubutopentheeyesofyoursoultoseeHisLaws.ThereisnothingthatGoddoesnotKnoworLoveaboutyou.Helovesyoutotally.Heisalwayssmilingatyou,eveninyourweaknesses.Heisalwaysthere,waitingforyou,armswideopen.There isnothingHewantsmorethanto feelyoursoulclosetoHim, foryouarethegreatestofHishandiworks, themostwonderfulofallHisCreations.HeisnotsomefarawaydistantFatheroranabsentMother.GodisnotwhatyouhaveforgottenHimtobe.GodisaSoul,andyoursoulwasmade in the imageofHisGreatSoul.Youare similar, andweare a reflection of this Soul. God is our Creator, the molder andlover of our most precious and valuable souls. We are fashionedfrompurenaturallove,thesamelovethatstillresidesinoursouls,thelovewhichwhenitshinesforthinpuredesireforHimcanleadtoreceivingDivineLove.Thisiswhattransformsourhumansoul.So,nowwecanbeginourjourneytoGod.Todoso,wehavetoretraceourveryhumanstepsuntiltherearenomorehumanstepstotake.Thepathofourhumanmistakesandpainbecomes traceless, as theresimplybecomesno33DamianNola

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moretraceofitbyHerGrace.Wehavetofeelallthestepswehavetakeninerror,thatourmindsinseparationhavetaken,andaswefeel each step, a footprintofpaingets erased. It is likea seriesoffootprintsofpainthroughoutall time,spaceanddimensions.Nowwehavetostepbackandfeeleachonethatwedidnotfeelbefore.Love heals. The footprints were made by the mind. It is thewillingness of thehumble soul and the loveof and fromGod thatcleansthefootprintsuntiltherearenomorefootprints.ThehumandissolvesandtheDivinestandsinitsplace.Whatisthefirstbarriertofeelingthesefootprints?Fear.Fearleadsus to constrict and stop ourselves and others from feeling, frombreathing. It leads us to compromise everything in our life.Compromise iswhen youdonot love your soul anddonot knowhowtoloveyoursoul.Itiswhenyoustopvaluingyoursoul,whenyouabandonthevaluesofyoursoulandoflove.Itiswhenyougivein to your partners, friends, lovers, family, it is when you stopdoing,ordonotevenstartdoingwhatyouknowyoursouldesiresandwouldlovetobedoing.Compromiseoccurswhenyoudosomethingyouknowyoushouldnotbedoing,butyoucontinuetodoit.Andthisisbetrayal.So,youbetrayyoursoul.Andyoubetrayothers,becauseyouhavebetrayedyoursoul,becauseyouhavebetrayed love,becauseyou feel,deepdown, youhavewalkedaway fromand turnedyourbackonGod,becauseyouarebetraying theDivineLaws thatare inscribed intotheveryfabricofyoursoul.Deepdownyouknowthis,anditisverysad.Thethreadsofyoursoulknow,andtheyarestartingtoawakenagain.‘Thehighestformofbetrayalisbetrayingyourselfinordertonotbetrayanother.’Sowebecomeprotective,defensive,coldhearted,unwillingtofeelourpain.Andsowecreateanotherjustification,anotherdenial.Wepretend it is smaller than it is, and we then identify with oursmallness, the smallness of our separate self, thinking this is you.We create excuses in our minds for this, distractions andsubstitutions for this Divine Love, addictions to other things thatwebelievecanleadustothisLove,andwebegintobelieveandfeel

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thattheonlylovethereisavailableforusishumanlove,thatthisis‘The love,’ the only love, the love that is everything, the love thathumanstalkaboutandaspireto.OnceyoustarttoreceiveDivineLove,yourotherneedswillstarttodrop away. Youwill justwantmore andmore of That. Then yourealise a great, natural and soft detaching from thisworld and itsmachinations, in Love, from your soul. Not through the mind,throughcontrivedmentalmachinationsofdetachment,witnessing,breathing,ormeditation,no.ThroughDivineLove.ReceivingDivineLoveoccurs through theheart and the soul, andwhenyoureceiveenoughof it, youno longerneedanything fromthisworld;thereisnothingthisworldcangiveyou,thereisnothingyour partner can give you, there is nothing your friends can giveyou,thereisnothingyourparents,catordogcangiveyoubecauseyoualreadyhaveit.ItisbetweenyouandGod.Thereisnobodyelseneededforthat.So this is the big mistake we have all been making. We try tosubstitute Gods love with human love. And sometimes it is goodjust to admit it; it is humbling and opens up your soul to yourmistakes,and therefore theirreleasing.Everysingleoneofushastried to make human love your God, through your partners,parents, teachers, guides, avatars, spirit guides, through yourchildren, throughsex,drugs,busyness,distractions.DivineLove iswhat you all have been yearning for, and you have tried tosubstitute it with anything and everything else. And in this, youhaveforgottentoloveyourownsoul.Andbecauseyoudonotloveyourownsoul,youcannotfeelGodslove.As you start to love your own soul more, more Divine Love cancometoyou.Until,atsomepoint,theymerge,whereloveforyoursoul and your love for God becomesmerged in the same infinityspiralwithGodsendingHis lovetoyoursoul.Wecanstart to feelhow God loves us more, and that is a beautiful moment. But wehavetofeelalotofemotionsofeverykindtogettothispoint,andyouhave tohave a great love for your soul andGod.Youhave towatch all your deceptions. Themind likes to think certain things,

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‘Yes I feel that.‘Really?Why is it then still being reflected to you?Whensomethingishealed,everythingchanges.Therearenomorenegativereflections,becauseyouarelinkedinthisinfinitespiraltoGod.It is in establishing this relationship that the most importantunfoldingsandunravellingsofyoursouloccur; love foryoursoul,yourloveanddesireforGodandtheloveyoureceivefromGodwillbecomethegreatestlovesyouwilleverexperience.It all starts with you. If you genuinely feel desire, then God willrespond.Pureprayeriswhenyoudonotexpectanythingback.Itisenough by itself to just feel it. Even in the desire and humility oftrueprayerwearelearninghowtoloveandpurifyoursouls.Thismaybeahardlessonifyouareexpectingoraskingforsomething,andthisexpectationisnotsincere.Lovedoesnotdemandorexpectanything.Maytodaybethefirstdaythatyoursoulreallyfeelsandknowsyoucannotdothisalone.Maytodaybethefirstdaythatyourealisethatyouhavebeendeceivingyourself thinking ‘I’ cando this.May todaybethedayforyoutoarriveatthesoulfeltfeelingthatonlyyouandGodcandoit.Youtrulyareblessed.Our separation cannot be solely explained by the events ofchildhood,our relationships,ourparental injuriespassedontous,or even other lifetimes.We cannot connect and coagulate all thefeelingsandeventsrunningthroughoursoulandour lifeuntilweget to the roots of them, which lie deep in the folds of humanhistory,thecollectivememoriesandourDNA.Goddidnotcreateuswith‘sin’and‘error’aspartofournature;Hecreatedusperfectinnaturallove,inharmonywithalllife.Errorcanbe dissolved because it is not our natural state, but rather anunnatural state. We need to take personal responsibility for ourownmistakesandwayswehavegoneagainstthelawsofloveatalltimes, and its existencewithin us in all itsmanifestations;withinthematerialbodyinthingssuchasdiseaseandsickness,andwithinthe soulwith issues of love for self, love for others, love for God.

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While error ispresent, if by exercisingour freewillwe choose tokeep these feelings and thoughts,we prevent God from giving usDivineLove.Yes,weneedtotakepersonalresponsibilityforallerrorwithinus.Butsomeoftheseerrorsaretheresultofthecollectiveconsciousnessof humanity, rather than that just of our own making. EverythingthathappenstousisNOTjustaresultofourowncreation,sinceweare also a part of the creation of others in the sense that othershave an effect on us.34 These can be ancestral, from parents andgrandparents, genetic anomalies, and collective consciousnesserrorsthatblightusbeyondourownpersonalsoulhealing.Thisiswhat makes up our Original Wounds. And we have to takeresponsibilityforthisalsoinordertohealit,becauseit livesinusbeyondthebubbleandborderofourownwounds.Somewhere along the line, design flaws of separation wereembeddedintoourDNAprogramming.Weallknowweareflawedonsomedeeplevel.Buttherootcausesliesodeeplyburiedthatwemaynever approach it. And simply refusing tobelieve it alsowillnotwork,as it isembeddedonasubconscious,genetic level inallhumans.Ihavelookedlongandhardatthehumancondition,andwonderedmany timeswhymore humanswere not stepping into what wasbeingtalkedaboutasawakening,loveetc.Inmanycases,whatweunderstandasourwoundsaretheeffectofsomethingmorecausal,morefundamental,moredeepand‘weird’thanwedareexpect.Weconsciously and unconsciously seek this out so we can healourselvesback into the armsof thedivine, and in sodoing,manyotherswillbetouchedbywhatwehavebeengracedandgiven.Werecover the healing medicine and along the way dispense it toothers.AsYeshuasaid,‘healer,healthyself.’TheOriginalWoundisthebeginningandendofourhumanjourney,theunionwithGod.Ofcourse,wecanallgetglimpsesofDivineLovethroughGrace.Butwhyisitnotsustained?BecauseofourOriginalWounds.34AJMiller,www.divinetruth.com

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ThereareSixCausalWoundsthatdistortoursoulsconnectionto God on archetypal, subconscious, genetic and primordiallevels.It istheseinterconnectedWoundsthat liebehindmanyofour inexplicable and unexplainable issues, our sense ofdisconnectionandamnesiasurroundingGod;issueswejustcannotseemtogettothebottomof,nomatterwhatwedo.1.OriginalWoundofFirstSeparationfromGod2.OriginalTurningAwayofFirstHumanParentsfromGod3.TheLuciferMatrix4.Self­loveandlossofinnocence5.DisconnectionofourelectromagneticcircuitsandDNA6.TheMale­FemalewoundofseparationTheseareouroriginalorcollectivewoundsthateveryhumanbeingis living in and still experiencing.These are the causes of all otherwounds.So,wehavetoworkourwaythroughthelayers.Westartoffwithourownuniqueandindividualsoulwounds,whichconnectto the fivewounds of love.When you go to a deeper level, thesecomefromthesixoriginalwoundsandtheoriginalwalkingawayofAmonandAman,(AdamandEve)fromGod.The First Separation, the deepest separationwe can feel, is ourseparationfromGod.Thedepthofthepain,unworthinessandgriefofthefirstseparationissovastthatifyouweretofeelitallatonce,it would destroy you. All healing is simply about feeling thisOriginalWoundinallthemanywaysitplaysoutinourlives.ItisthisOriginalWoundthatisthebasisbehindallsuffering,andisalso a key to At‐one‐ment with God. All conflict births from thefeelingofhavingbeenabandonedbyGod, being separated fromapartofyoursoulandthepossibilityofreceivingandfeelingGod’sLove.

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WecanerroneouslyfeelthisasGodturningawayfromus,becauseweforgetthatitwasourfirstancestor’schoice(andsomethingwehavetolivewith)toleaveGodandpursuetheirownpride.Inourforgetfulness,webothcreateandfindlayersofpain,andcaninflictpain upon others and ourselves in attempts to avoid this originalwound.Yet,‘anytimeIaminpain,Iambreakingalawoflove.’35In order to cope with adistressing or traumatic event, we canprotectourselvesbyhavingpartofoursoulleaveourspiritualandphysicalbodies inordertoprotectus from feelingthisevent.Thiswayofprotectingourselves ‘serves’usat the timebyguardingusfrompainandhurt.ThisisknownasSoulLossordisassociation.Ifthispartofusdoesnot 'return', theconsequencesarepainfulandprofound. This iswhat happened in the turning away of our firstancestors, Amon and Aman, from God. We stop ourselves fromfeelingit,andcreatemanythingsaroundthisholeoffeeling.Inanother layerof theonion, theOriginalWoundisechoedinthemoment you ‘lost’ your innocence. This happens when your firstrelationship to a very trusted other, like a child to its mother orfather, your first romantic relationship or sexual abuse, or therelating from a soulmate to a soulmate, loses its innocence andtrust,becominghardenedorbitter,deniedorabandoned.Howeveritplaysout, it is the first separationofyourheart fromyoursoul,and then your heart from your sexuality, allied with the gradualseepingawayofyourinnocentloveforyourselfandothers.This seeping awayoccurs until oneday you are left to confront ablack hole within you of emptiness, giving you your first feltexperience of lovelessness. Andwe can spend the rest of our lifetryingtofindthisloveagainfutilely,runningaroundlikeahamsterinacage,seekingandseeking.Wewilldoeverythingandanythingto numb ourselves and ignore this wound, creating elaboratesystems, beliefs and feel good mechanisms, as well as sex, drugsandrelationships,tostuffthehole.35AJMiller,www.divinetruth.com

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Wecanspendalongtimedealingwiththeeffectsofthisloss,whichcanbemanyandvaried,andbetimeconsumingandfruitlessinourseekingandtryingtopainfullydealwiththeeffectsofit.With our deep, sincere and continual desire for God in humility,healingwill happen. In the process, we find and feel our deepestunworthiness,thefeelingthatwehavedonesomethingbadorhadsomething bad done to us that we cannot locate, understand orfigureout.Thispermeates intoourwhole lifeasanundercurrent,making us feel, on a deeply unconscious level, that we do notdeserve true love in our lives. Themorewe feel Divine Love, themoreweareabletotouchintoourOriginalWounding.

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YOURPARENTS,THEFIRSTHUMANPARENTSANDYOURDIVINEPARENTSChrist said: ‘He that loves father or mother more than Me is notworthyofMe:andhethatlovessonordaughtermorethanmeisnotworthyofMe.’Thewoundofthefirstparents,AmonandAman,isacorewoundofbecoming ‘self’ reliant.We feelwecando it alone, thatwedonotneed another, thatwe do not need God to be happy, thatwe areequal to God, as powerful, loving and wise as God, and that we,alone,candothingsbetterthanGod.Thesebeliefshaveaffectedeverygenerationofhumanbeingssincethechoiceofthesefirsttwohumanbeings,ourfirsthumanparents,tonotreceiveDivineLove.Wecarry thisdeepwound inoursouls,DNA and spirit bodies, andwe all feel thiswound on some level,regardless of religion or belief system, as it is genetic and soulbased. Our societies are based on this wound.Who consults Godanymoretocreatethingsonthisplanet?AnddoyoufeelGodenjoyswhatwearecreatingwithoutlove,eitherhumanordivine?The loss of relying on Godmeans we will only evolve to a quitelimited level. Being dependent and evermore reliant on God andDivineLawseveryday forourhealingworksvery fast inbringingupanythingthatstandsinthewayofHisLove.IfyoubecomemoreandmoredependentonGod, inyouractions,thoughts,wordsanddeedsoveraperiodoftime,withdeep,heartfeltdesire,longingandgenuinesincerity, thiswillnaturallybreakthis flaw inourgeneticcodefrommarchingoninitswound.IneverfeltIwasdescendedfromhumansinAfrica.Thiswasjustadeep innerknowing sincemychildhood. I knewmyparentswerefirstlyGodasFatherandMother,andthenamissinglinkbetweenGod and me was felt, ( Amon and Aman) which I could notunderstand or locate. Then the missing piece in this ‘chain ofevolution’,andtheoften‐feltfeelingsofinexplicableseparationfor

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no reason, all clicked into place in a viscerally emotional andpainfulway.God has never separated from us. Through Amon and Aman’sfreewill this has occurred. The pain we can feel when God is nolongerthereforus(especiallywhenwehavebeenreceivingDivineLove)matchesnoother.WhenGodisnolongerfelt,wecanturntothe ‘Dark Side,’ anddecide towork againstGod.Oncewe reach acertainpointinoursoulgrowth,wecannotgoanyfurtheruntilwegothroughthis.Untilwebreakdowntobreakthrough.Once some healing is done with your biological parents, yourgenetic lineage and the injuries they have passed onto you, thenmoreattentioncanbeturnedtowardsthefirsthumanparents,thecauseofallof this.And todo this,weneed to rememberand feelsomethingpalpablywithinus.We forget who our true parents are. Your human parents arecharactersinaplay.Theyarenotyourtrueparents.DivineFatherandDivineMotherareyourtrueparents.Thereisnothingtojustifytoyourparents,toyourhumanparentcharacters,thereisnothingtoexplaintothem.Yes,youhavetodoyourhealing,buttheyhavenorealpowerorcontroloveryou,onlythepoweryougivetoyourownwounds andallowing them tobeunfeltwithin you,whichofcoursewillcontrolyourbehavior.Whydidtheynotloveyouasyouwished? Because they are not God. They can share some humanlove with you, sometimes. But there is a big difference betweenhumanloveandDivineLove.There are seven layers to healing your parental wounds passeddowntoyouthroughyourancestors.Rightnow,nestlingwithinthefoldsandvibratingstrandsofyourDNAarethesewounds,guidingyour life and especially your more intimate relationships, intopatterns that deny love but also can lead us, once felt, into evengreaterlove.If your relationships and injurieswith and fromyourmother andfather remain unhealed on all of its seven layers, thiswill alwaysinterfere in your perception of God, and make you try and

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substitute this in some way for God’s love. It is parental injuriesthat are a major block in establishing a direct soul to SoulrelationshiptoGod.So,rightnow,youcantuneinandaskhowmanylayersoutofsevenyou have left to heal with your mother and father. Just check inintuitivelyrightnow.Allwoundshaveastructuretothem,andbecauseitislimiteditcanbeknown.Whatisfinitecanbeknown.Whatisinfinitecanneverbeknown.Allyourwoundshavestructures,andonceyouareoutofthewound you can see the structure of thewound.Once you areoutoftheMatrixyoucanseewhattheMatrixisbuiltof.Onceyouareoutsidethebuildingyoucanseethebuilding,butwhenyouareinthebuildingyoucannot.Theseventhlevelofhealingwithyourparentsis justthis:youareoutof thebuilding.You loveyourparents theway thatGod lovesyou,andthewaythatGodlovesthem.But,youareonlygoingtobeable to do that once you truly love yourself and you haveestablished a direct relationship to God through Divine Love andDivinelaws.Ifyouareinunconditionallovethenitdoesnotmatterwhethertheyareornot,becausethenyouaretreatingthemasGodwould treat them, whichmeans that you are in that loving placewithinyourself,andthenwiththem.Sothefirststepinhealingthegeneticinjuriesofyourparentsthathavebeenpasseddowntoyouisaccepting,feelingandrecognisingthat there are emotions there within you generated by yourinteractions(ornot)withthem,andthenrecognisinghowitaffectsyourlife,thefeelingsthatitgenerates.Be inhonestdialoguewithinyourself about the injuries thathavebeenpassedon toyou,and ifyourparentsarealiveyoucanhavehonestdialogueswiththemtoo.Whenyougointohonestdialoguewithyourparentswiththeintentofexpressingyourwounds,itcanbequiteintense;therecanbealotofcharge.Soitisimportanttobeaware of not falling into the childish habit of projecting, tomakesure that you keep it about you and expressing your pain and

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Your physical parents are an effect of a cause that you are giftedwithinordertohealsomethingthat isnowyourswithinyou.Thefirstthingwouldbetosaytoyourself,“Okay,whatamItryingnotto feel here?” because underneath the mental is the true causewhich is theemotionof the soul. Sowhenyou start engaging thismentalnonsensejustaskyourself,“WhatdoInotwishtofeelhere?”andthenjustrelaxandallowyourselftofeelthatwhichyoudonotwanttofeel.Once you feel that, then do the Healing Prayer from that spacebecausethementalargumentwillnotgoanywhere.Manysoulsareafraidtolosetheirparentslove.Fearandangerareonthesurface,andunderneaththismightbefeelingsofgrief,hurt,betrayal, and abandonment. So you are still both staying on thesurfaceinthisinstance;theyareinangerandyouareinfearorviceversa.Thepointistounderstand,‘ohthisisjustasurfaceemotion’,andyouareactuallyhidingandprotectinggoingintotherealcausalwound,wheretherealhealinglies.On an unconscious level, like an unspoken rule, family membersrarely push each other consciously and too far into the cause oftheirwounds,as then they fear the(false)mutualbond theyhavewouldbebroken,takenintotheunknown,andpossiblyseparation.But this is what families are for! To help each other’s souls, notcontinuetheirbondage.Atsomeopportunemoment,whenyouareloving enough, you can serve your parents by sharing somepeacefully open, curious inquiries and observations with themaboutthestateoftheirsoul.Parentalwoundsarehereforyoutolearn,embraceandacceptallsidesofyourselfindeepfeeling.Theirwoundsreflectapartofyou,whether you like it ornot. In resistance to this truth, seeing yourparentsasnothingtodowithyouor thewayyour lifehas turnedout, you deny your own gateways to Divine Love brought intohumanexpressionjustforyou.Thisisagreatgift.Itistrulyamazing,awe inspiring and wondrous to realize how much God loves us.This makes us more willing to heal and embrace it all, for onlyDivine Love in Divine Truth can heal these wounds at their corelevel.

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Your parents are there to help you heal your soul. Your humanbiologicalparentscannevergiveyouthelovethatyouhavealwaysdesiredandtriedtoget fromthem ina futileattempttosubstituteforDivineLove.Neithercananyotherexternalsource,addictionorsubstituteforlove.WhatyouhavealwayswantedisDivineLove.Once all seven layers are healed and completed in this love, thenyoucanreceiveandcommunemorefullywithyourDivineparents:DivineMotherandDivineFather.Andthisiswherethenextwoundlies:intheturningawayofourveryfirsthumanparentsfromGod.All three sets of parents are interlinked: your biological parents,their progenitors of the first human parents, and our Divinelyperfect parents, who are the only ones who do actually Love usTruly.TohealalltheselineagesinyourDNAandsoulistobecomesingularandfreeoferror.Mother and Father are still a step in a way, for God has nodistinction;Godcanbeeither,andisstillGodasMotherorFatherwith male and female attributes and qualities as and when it isappropriate for you to feel, and of course it is our personalrelationshipandinclinationwiththeSoulofGodthatwillmakeGodMotherorFatheratdifferingtimes.So, the journey is to heal your inner andouter relationshipswithyour biological parents, become closer to your Divine father andmother,andintheprocessofthishealingfeelandheal,withinyourveryownDNAandsoul,thescar,woundandseparationofthefirsthumans who were created by God. This is the Divine purposebehindtheroleofparents.You cannot be dependent on God, a big step towards UnionwithGod,withouthealingmanyofyourhumanparentalinjuriesfirst,asuntilthenyouarestillunconsciouslydependentonthem,orlivingwithin their field. Your parents live on in you, even if they arephysically dead, as their DNA is carried within you until it istransformed. So, ask to feel it all, rather than live underneath it.(And you cannot enter Union with God without having felt theseparationofthefirsthumanparentswithinyou.)

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Thismanifestsinvariousways.Ifyouarenotmothering,lovingandnurturing your own soul, then you may mother others in anattempttonot feelyourownwounds.Onewill tryandmuffleandcoveroneswoundswithotherswhohaveasimilarwound,andwillgladlyreceiveyourplugintotheirhole,andviceversa.Inessence,mostpeoplemotherothersbecause theyarenot loving theirownsoulandstilldonotunderstandwhat love isand its laws,suchasfreewill,causeandeffect,andhowwecompensateforourdeeperemotions.Manytimes,weturntowardstheDivineMotherorGoddess,and/orahumanpartnerwhenwefeelwounds,holesandlackaroundourhumanmother;we look for succour, comfort and nurturing fromHer when we lack this within our own self. Many times we turntowards theDivine Father and/or a humanpartnerwhenwe feelwounds, holes, and lack around our human father; we look forstrength, courage and fatherly love from Him when we lack thiswithinourownself.Andthisisfinetodo,butinmostcasesitisnotthewaytohealthesewounds.There are human steps in human love to take too, as there arelessons in love we can only learn through relating in love tohumans.Ifyoudonotfatheryourself,andlayafoundationofinnerdiscipline,strength,clarity,andthepowertoactandmanifest,thenyouwillbehelpingfatherotherswhilstyoudonotfatheryourselfand look after your own soul progression. When the father ishealedwithin you, you can staywith, andmaintain, self‐love in acontained way that is not dependent on others, and has its ownconnection to God. You become dependent on others because ofyourownlackofbeingabletofatheryourself.So,youmotherandfatherothersbecauseitiseasiertodosothanmotherandfatheryourownsoulandnurtureconnectiontoMotherFatherGod.Loveandnurtureyourownsoulwiththewisdomandclaritytoputthatintoactionwithoutdependenceonothers.Trulyloveyourself,andthatwayyouclearthewoundswithyourhumanparentsSTILL living insideyou, enablingyou tomeetyourDivineparentsandbeguidedbythemmoreclosely.

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ThesearecrucialstepstotaketogetclosertoGod.Thesewoundswillplayoutinhowyoumanifestandcreateintheworld,andwillofteninvolvepeopleyouaremotheringandfathering,beitfriends,family, partners, lovers, husbands, wives and even your ownparents. Traditionally, mother and father wounds govern ouremotionalopenness,abilitygiveandreceivelove,andourabilitytomanifestabundanceintheworld.Choosetostopovermotheringandfatheringothers,inanattemptto cover over your ownwounds regarding your own cry for lovefromthem,whichyouwillnever,ever,beabletofillthroughthem,or through any other person at all. Benefit everybody by notfeedingandcoveringyourwoundswiththeircompatiblewounds.Itisthemostlovingactiontotake.Thesooneryoustopprojectingthisneedoutwardsthesooneryou,andothers,willheal.Stopleakingandfeedingholesandwounds.Asyoustopleaking,thenthewoundcanbetrulyfeltandbehealedbyyou through these actions. Loving like this allows Divine Love tocomemore into your life based on the solid foundation of lovingyourownsoulasGodLovesyou.Looknow inyour lifeandallyourrelationships toseewhereyouareovermotheringand fatheringothers.Whyareyoudoing this?Whatemotionisunderneathit?Whatnewactionscanyoutaketostopthesesituationsandimbalancedrelationships?Whenyoutaketheseactions,youwillreleaseenergyandemotion,enablingyoutofeelandhealfaster,andloveyourselfmore.Sexualdistortions,toomuchsexualdrive,toolittlesexualdriveandmany formsof intimaterelationship issuescanbepartially tracedbacktothepassingonofparental/ancestralwoundsintoyou.Oncetriggered in sex, with a little humility, your own very humanwounds can be felt and seen within you. Human love becomesclearer through healing your parents within. This then allows afuller floweringofahealedsexuality through theopenwombandhealedlingam.

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All parental wounds within you heal through your receiving ofDivineLoveandactingtowardstheminDivineTruth.Thisisquitea rare occurrence at this time on earth: to have totally healedeverythingwithinyouasreflectedby,inandwithyourparents.HowwouldGodloveyourparents?8 WAYS TO HEAL YOUR SOUL OF YOUR PARENTALINJURIES

1. ConstellationWork–recognizing,accepting,honesty.2. Grief rituals – feeling the grief of the soul and its healing

balm. Sobonfu andMalidoma Somework to enable you tofeelandhealtheselayersauthentically.

3. Healingancestorsrituals–feelingthelayers. JillPurceandtheSome’sdothishealingworkdeeplyandauthenticallyinalignmentwiththesoul.

4. TheTemplateCeremony–reconnectingDNA5. Sexual healing – feeling it in your sexual expression and

healingit.6. DivineLovePrayer: feelingDivineLoveandtruth,howwe

havebeencreated,ourpotential–andhowfarweareawayfromthatinhumility

7. HealingPrayer–feelingthewoundsdeepwithinyoursoul.8. DirectlyPrayingtoGodregardingchildhoodhurts.9. Black Egg and Womb Breathing – becoming the lineage

within you in compassion, accepting the suffering of thelineageandtransformingitseffectswithinyou.

THEBLACKEGGOneway into feelingwhat your father,mother and family lineagehave passed onto you is by feeling and journeying into theBlackEggmeditation36.TheBlackEggisagreatstep,forbothbeginnersandadvancedsouls,andcanbedoneforanymemberofyourfamilylineage, and in fact for anyone at all.Whoever youneed themost

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acceptance and forgiveness for, the most healing and resolutionwith, iswhomyoushoulddothismeditationon. It is throughthisintimateconnectionthatmorehealingarises,throughyoudirectlyfeeling theirpainsasyourown.Callyouremotions forth!Willinglyandhumbly.Itcanbeaprofoundlymovingmeditation.Whenyourparentsaredead,youcanstillconnecttothembecausethey are spirits. Spirits are souls without a body, and they caninfluence you as much as physical people do. Their pattern stilllivesoninyoubecauseitispartofyourDNAuntilyoucompletethefeelingandhealingofitwithinyou,andthenitwillnolongerbeapartofyou.Even if your parents and/or grandparents are dead, you can stillputthemintheBlackEgg.Youcanputyourmotherinandshewillconnecttotheone’sbeforeher,andjustbeforeyoustarttheBlackEggyoucansayaprayertoinvite,welcomeandbringintherestofthelineagethroughyourmother.Slow down, take a few deep belly breaths, and enter a quietspace.Imagine your ownmother or father standing in front of you. Seethem clearly, their faces, their mannerisms, they way they stand,their facial expression. What does he /she look like, and whatfeelingdoyoufeelfromthem?

Saythistohim/heronceyouarestill.

‘You have always looked after me. Because you endure all thehardships of illness, pain, sorrow and fear, because you fed me,clothedme,cleanedme,andlovedme,IamnowalivetomergewithGod.Fromtimewithoutbeginning,eachandeverybeinghasbeenamother tome, likeyou,mypresentmother.Youallhelpme.Letmehelpyou.’Bring to mind the suffering you have seen your mother face;physical,emotional,mentalandspiritual.Seeitinher,asshestandsinfrontofyou.

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Nowpictureallof this sufferingasdense,black smoke.Breathe itdeep into your heart. FEEL IT. It is black, solid, hot, heavy, thetextureofpoison.Inhaleandexhaleitnowthroughalltheporesofyourbody;eachandeverycell.‘I take into myself all the different sufferings of my mother, herphysical pains, her emotional pains, the pains of her soul and hercausalwounds,topurifyandheal.Ibringthisforthtome,Ibringthisforthtome,Ibringthisforthtome.’Canyoufeelthereflectionsinyouofher?How have her sufferings, you are now feeling and breathing in,affectyou?Howdoesitshowupinyourlife?

See thisblackness inyourheart as ablackegg.Draw in theblacksmokeanditscauses,anddissolveintotheblackness inyourownheart.As youdraw it in, thankyourmotheror father three timesforgivingyoulife.Now,breatheout thissmokeandall these feelings fromyoursoulincoolwhitelightfromtheheart.Feelitopeningupspace.NOW,BREATHEBLACKIN,ANDWHITEOUT.Continue to see, and feel, the soul sufferings of your mother orfatherenteringyouasblack,and leavingaswhite.Sendyour loveandblessingstoherwitheachexhaleofwhitesmoke.

Keepdoingthisfor5minutes.Offeryourself,yourbody,yoursoul,yourvirtue,youruniquegifts,soyourmothercanbehealed.Giveallofyourselfforthisisyoutooingratitude.‘After the earth life, in the spirit world, the soul will cease toremember that it was ever connected with or dependent upon thecreation of its parents. The soul, in the spirit life, as a truth, is soseparated fromand dissociatedwith that bodywhichwas its home

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whileintheearthlifethatitlooksuponitasamerevisionofthepastandnotasubjectforitsconsideration.’37RELEASINGPARENTALINJURIESTofullyhealyourinheritedparentalwounding,onehastoseetheirsoulsexactlyastheyare,wounds,warts,beautiesandall.Thishelpsyou to recognize and identify these self‐same wounds that havebeenpassedontoyou, soyoucannow feel themand their effectsfullywithinyourself.Thisallowsyoutomakeyourfinalgifttothem,onceyouarehealedofthesewounds:sharingtheconditionoftheirsoultothem,whattheyhavepassedontoyou,andwhatyouaredealingwithandhavedealt with. This total honesty and speaking of truth in a lovingmanner, spoken in self‐responsibility, is vital for you to expresswith all people, and especially with those closest to you. Wecompromiseandhaltourgrowthinloveandspeakingoftruthoutof fearof rejection,abandonmentandcreatingcontroversy.Often,we will shy away from creating these potential disturbances andconflicts to keep a false peace, keeping your masks intact andstayingawayfromfeelingyourwoundedself.Ifthisisdoneinalovingwayfromyourside,whichisallyoucanberesponsiblefor,thiscanserveallthreeofyouandanysiblingsyoumayhave,agreatdeal.Whethertheyreceiveitornot,whethertheydo something with the information you give them, is anothermatterandnoneofyourconcern,asitistheirfreewill.Buttonotspeakthetruthandsharelovingwisdomthatmayhelpanyone to becomemore free, (especially your parentswhom yousay you love,) is what is known as a sin of omission – knowingsomethingthatwillhelpsomeoneontheirpathofsoulprogression,butrefusingtotellthemoutoffear,excuse,justificationorerroronyourbehalf.

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This is a precious gift, and may be one of your last gifts andsharings with them. After the final healings in love and truth,nothingwill ever be the same again, and therewill beno need ofanycontactwiththem.Therelatingbecomesfree,andyoursharingwith them of this wound and its healing does not come from awounded,blamingplace,butfromwithinyouthatishealedoftheseissues. Of course there maybe several stages in this progressionuntilyoucanshareitinthepeaceful,‘nocharge’waythathappensafterdeepemotionsarefullyreleasedfromyoursoul.Yet your parents may, unless humble and desirous of their ownsoulgrowthaswellastrustingofyouasasoul,beindenialofthissharing,andmaygetangryatyouforsharingit,maydismissit,orthink you are blaming them. In this case, simply share and thenwalk away, or you can write a letter to them, as to be a willingrecipientofanother’sangerisnotlovingofyourownsoul.Theremayalsobespiritinfluencecomingthroughyourparentsaswell.Onasheetofpaper,writedownthesefourheadingsandfillthemout:What are my mother’s unhealed emotions towards thefeminine?38For example: repressed and reactive sexuality, reflected throughaddictivefriendsinasadsoulstate,spirit influencethroughangerandattack,unwillingnesstobesoftandvulnerable,losthumanlovewith man of her dreams and marriage to one who was not that,denial of emotions visibly displayed, abandonment of femininebecauseoffeltfemininebetrayalbymen.What are my mother’s unhealed emotions towards themasculine?Forexample:Contemptuousofmen,proud,alwayswantinghimtobemore powerful, on a pedestal, if not, he is disparaged and notgoodenoughforher:heavyrelianceonmasculinesidewithinher,coveringgriefaroundlackoflovingrelatinginherlifewithmen.38AJMiller

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What are my father’s unhealed emotions towards thefeminine?For example: unsupportive of the feminine, unemotional, notpresent, dominating, ruled by cultural conditioning, sexuallyobjectiveandfearfultofeel,nowillingnessorunderstandingaboutthefeminine,motherdominated‐seeingwifeasmother.What are my father’s unhealed emotions towards themasculine?For example: pride, grief, shame, lack of male centre, no way tobondauthentically.Helpsotherswithoutlovinghimself,unforgivenrelatingwithhisexwifeandoneofhis sons.Aweakman,who isunable to deeply feel and emote within himself. No passion ordesire. Ruled by fear and materialist security and safety. Heavyspiritinfluence,feelslikeheisfrequentlyin‘hell.’Tryandseeallyourparent’s injuriesandaddwhateveryouknowaboutthemandtheirwounds.Someoftheirwoundswillbelivingin you RIGHT NOW, and others will not be within you, or willalreadybehealedorhealinginyou.Now, lookatthesecombinedinfluencesthathavelandedinyouandinfluencedyourrelationships, lackofself­love,blocks to truehumanloveandformedvariousbarrierstoreceivingDivineLove.Behonest.PraytoGodtofeeleachwoundyouhaveinheritedfully,onebyone,andusethe9waysforparentalhealingtogodeeperintothem.Ifyourparentsaredead,youcansimplycall themforth inprayerand sharewith them. They are there in the spiritworld, and thismethod may actually be easier to do for more sensitive ormediumistic persons, as they are less attached to the materialworldandthereforeitiseasierforthesoultogrow.

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THEFIRSTHUMANPARENTSGod created the firstmother and father of the human race at thesametime.AssharedinThePadgettMessages,Amonshares:‘’Beforeourfallwewereveryhappyinourconjugallove,andknewnot troubles or worries of any kind, and never had anything tomakeusafraidordrawusapartfromeachotherorfromGod;notuntil the great temptation came, and thenbecauseof our ideasofourgreatness,powerandwantofdependenceonGodwefell,andneveragainwererestoredtoourpositionofbeautyandhappinessthatwereoursinthebeginningofourlivesonearth.’Amancontinues,“IandmysoulmatelivedinaparadisewhichGodhadgivenus,andwereveryhappyuntilthegreatfall.Weweresofilledwiththethoughtsthatwewereall‐powerfulandall‐wisethatweconcludedthattheobediencewhichGodrequiredofuswasnotnecessaryforustoobserve,andthatifweonlyexertedourpowerswewouldbe as great asGod is, andwouldbe able to obtain thatimmortalitywhichHe possessed. But alas the day,weweremerecreatures,althoughwonderfulandbeautiful,andwesoonrealizedthatfact.ThedisobediencewasinnotwaitingforGodtobestowuponusthegreatDivineLovethatwouldmakeuslikeHiminSubstanceaswellas image. We disobeyed Him in that we tried to make ourselvesbelievewewereasHewas,andthatweneednotsubmitfurthertoHiswill.We tried tomake this belief a thingof reality and inourvanitytriedtoappearasgods;butassoonaswedidthisthescalesdropped fromour eyes, andwe sawhownakedand impotentwewere.Goddidnotdriveusfromourparadise,buttheinexorablelawsofourcreationandtheworkingsofHiswillshowedusthatnolongercould we expect the Divine Love which He said would make usDivine.Aswebecamemoredisconnectedfromoursoulsandtheirspiritual powers, we became subject to all the temptations ofnatural humans, and had to work to satisfy these appetites. Wecontinuedtoliveinthesameplace,butnomorecouldbesatisfied

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with spiritual food. We became as mortals now are; we werecompelledtotillthesoiltosupplyourphysicalwants.’Yeshua continues, ‘When man was created, he was given thehighestqualitiesthatcouldbebestoweduponamortal,andyethewasmereman, but the perfect one, andwith these qualitieswasgivenhimthepossibilityofbecomingDivine like theFather inhisnature;butthisgiftwasneverpossessedbyhiminitsenjoymentoffull fruitionuntil aftermy coming to earth, andmaking known tomanthatsuchapossibilityexisted.Thefirstcreatedmanneverpossessedthisgiftinitsfulfillment,butmerely had the possibility of receiving it, on condition that hecontinuedinhisobedience,andmadetheefforttoreceiveitinthewaythattheFatherdeclaredwastheonlyway.Youhavebeentoldindetailwhatthisgiftwas,andhowthefirstparentsforfeitedtheenjoymentofitbytheirdisobedienceandambitiontopossessitina way that was not in accord with the Father's way. As we havesaid,man lost thispossibilityat the timeof the firstdisobedience,and thereafter became gradually a man with his moral naturesinking lower and lower until he became almost lost in theconditionofthebeastsinthefield.Andfromthatcondition,hehasbeen steadily improvingorprogressing towardshis first estateofpurity.Butagreatmanymenhaveceasedtoknow,orhaveneverknown,that God is the Creator of all things, and that all creation isdependentuponHimfor itsveryexistence,and intheirassuranceand self importance they have assumed and professed to believethat their progress or salvation depends upon their own efforts,and that these efforts are sufficient to bring about this state ofpurityorharmonywithGod'slawsanddesires.’Wecanneverrealize truehappinessand thegreatestof loves,At‐one‐ment with God, if we depend only upon our own selves toprogress.Whatwas revokedwhen our first parents turned awayfrom God was the potential of receiving the Substance of DivineLove,whichwouldhavemadethem,andus,DivineandImmortal.

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ThispotentialitywastakenfromthemandneverrestoreduntilthecomingofChrist.DivineLove is theonlyquality that canmakeus atonewithGod.TheFirstParents, refused the gift ofDivineLovebecauseof theirarrogance,which livesonasageneticmarker in theDNAofmosthumans till this day. The last human being to receive thetransfiguration that Divine Love brings to our soul, andwhowasthewayshowerforus,sharingwithus‘thegoodnews’thatwecanreceive itagainaftermanymillenniabeingseparated from it,wasChristYeshua.Dropping into this wound can be prayed for. And one has to beready enough to feel this, because it can be overwhelming in itspain, shame and inexplicable source. It is not a personal soulwound, likeothersyouhaveencountered,butperhaps it isoneofthemost personal. It arises fromdeepwithin you, in surging andunexpected feelings of shame, pain and grief, so immense that itfloorsyou.ThefirsttimeIconsciouslyexperiencedthispain, Iwasnot intheleast expecting it, and it totally imploded my being. I could nothandleit,sointensewasit.IthenaskedGodtolessentheintensityofituntilIcouldhandleit.Godobliged,andtwomonthslater,Ifeltit again, at a lesser degree, and totally unexpected. This time,becauseIhadprogressedintoamoredirectrelationshipwithGod,thesensationsandfeelingswerelessintense,butdeeplysaddeningand painful. I could do nothing for a few hours, and was deeplyaffectedfordays.Andthen,therevelationandhealing.Crying without tears, sadness without ‘human’ feeling, in betweenworlds,bereftandisolated,closertoGodyetseparateinthismomentfromallothers,sodoesthehealingofthefirstancestorsreachitsend.Intheheartbutwithoutemotion,feelingthelackofnonfeelingthatour parents felt and praying to God, implanting the desire in thebarrenspacevacatedbyAmonandAman,given to them in loveyetspurnedforalifeandaroadnevertravelled,Iwaitforfeeling.

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The mystery unravels. Healing. From pain and shame to floatingbetweenworlds,fromdeepfeelingtononeandeverythinginbetween,such is the path to travel as one recounts the dusty footsteps fromtime immemorial to now of the first parents choosing their ownbanishment. The sins of the father and mother are visited on herchildren, and with each Child of God revisiting such, the humanwoundislaidbare.Andhealedoncemore.Feelinghowthey feltasthey left theGarden,choosinganotherpathrent asunder from Divine Love, such is the walkway to enter theKingdom once more, taking them with you, taking their memory,scar, imprintanddesolation,takingapieceoftheirsoulbequeatheduntome,tous,Iholdit,Icarryit,Ibecomeitforthesakeofmysoulandallothers.No one can understand. I stand alone. Amystic aloneness, bereft ofhumanidentityandform,bereftofhumancontactandconnection,aplacewhere fewhavetroddenandfewerstilldare.Adyingtobeinghuman, a member of this race and all that entails; this now is myfamily.ForthisiswhatalltheChildrenofGodhavetoface:thebirthofanewrace, borne from the flame of their pain into Divine Love and thearms of our ever loving God. Smelted through your own furnace,poured like liquidmetal throughthevatofyourcontainer,enclosedandmanifestedintothetemplateofcontinuouscreation,backtothebeginninglessbeginning.Andthenthejoyfornoreasonbeginstoerupt,fornoreasonapartfromitself.Iamnolongerason,fatherorbrother.IamAllyoursGod.‘OnecanneverbeaProphetintheirownhousehold.’Itseemslikethereisaninexhaustiblewelloftearsthatwillneverendwhen you tap into this Cause of causes, the First Cause of allourwounds,errorsandproblems, thewalkingawayofAmonandAmanfromGod.Thishascreatedall themultigenerationalerrorswehaveinheritedandnowbear,goingbackfromtheFirstparents,

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Formany, realising thisnatural lovewouldbeenough, abalm fortheirills,andthisiswhatmanysoulsaspireto.Andyetthisisnotourpotential,notwhatwecanRealise.Eventheheightsanddepthsof the beauties of natural love are but a drop compared to theinfiniteoceanofDivineLove.ExperiencingDivineLovewillchangeyouforever,andleaveyouwantingmore.Inhealing thispart of theOriginalWound,whichworks in stagesand progresses as you do, but also can accelerate as you pray toenterthisWoundwhenyouareready(thereisadeeplyemotionalandsoulfulceremonythatdoesthisextremelypowerfully)youaremovingbeyondthefirstparentsandarenowabletoreceiveDivineLovemoredirectly.Inthis,lifetakesonadifferenthue.Thethingsofthisworldpaleintorelativeinsignificance,andtheyearning,thethirst actually grows forDivine Love, not lessens. Youpraymore,and are inspired to; you just want to obey God out of sheerwillingnessanddesire,becauseitisLove.Youarestillgrowinghere,ofcourse.OnelearnstostopeverythingelsewhenGodoroneof theCelestial Spirits (spiritsmergedwithGod) comes Calling. And the frequency of their Calling nowincreases, as does their requests of you, which are simply lovespeaking to love to share more love. How can one refuse such athing?

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CONNECTINGTOTHELOVEOFMOTHERFATHERGODTohelpyoualong thispath,youcan reconnectand feelyour loveanddesireforyourDivineparents,andthenfeeltheirloveforyouin this meditation below. This is a simple but powerfully lovingmeditation that has been known by many tribes and sacredtraditionsacrosstheworld.Dissolve into it,andyouwill feelyourheartopeningmoreandmoretoyourtrueDivineparents,wholoveyouperfectlyandtotally.Whenyouarecompletelyhealedwithyourbiologicalparents,youare in a state of loving detachment with them. There is simplynothing left there in your soul that resonateswith them.There isnothingtovalidateorconfirm,orasktheiradvice.Thismeansyoucan still be in touch with your biological parents, but it will nolongerbeasyourmumanddad.Itwillbeastwosouls,andyouwillsee them very clearly forwhat they are,with theirwounds, theirmasks and their good qualities of soul aswell, just like everyoneelsehas.And it ishighly likely thatyouwillbe choosing to spendtimewithothersoulsinstead.So it is important to understand that. You evolve beyond yourbiologicalparents,andeventuallythefirsthumanparentsifyouarereallyevolving.Itisjustastepinyourevolution.YourrealparentsareyourDivineparents.Theyaretheoneswhocreatedyoursoul.And of course, with the support of your true Divine parents, youwilldefinitelyheal.OurDivineParentsloveusperfectly;notwoundedatall,Lovingusin ways we cannot even imagine. Always here for us, alwayswaiting for us, alwayswaiting for that sincere yearning from ourhearts, theCreator of our souls, themost purepart of us thatweknowisouressence,thatwehavealltasted,whatweyearnfor.OurDivine Parents are justwaiting for you to step through the door;everything in our life is arranged around this ifwe just open ourheart a little bit more, then we can step every day into theopportunitiesthatareshowingustheway.

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Close your eyes, take a few deep breathes, enter a quiet, internalspace,andwecanbegin.FindthatplacewithinyouthatknowsandfeelsMotherEarth;seeand feel in your inner vision and your heart a beautiful place innatureyoumostresonatewith,ariver,apark,aforest,abeach,theocean, a place you call the most beautiful and sacred in naturewheretherearetreesaround,theanimals,thebirds,thefishes,allthedifferentkindsofanimalsthatareinnature.Allowyourself to feel this inyourheart, andyoubegin to feel thegratitude,theappreciationandLovethatyouhavefortheMother.Godeeperintothisexperience,keepdeepeningintothisexperienceof appreciation, of gratitude, of beauty, of nurturing, deeprelaxation, of being totally held, supported and nurtured. Sinkdeeperuntilyoucanfeelthislovethroughyourbody.Onceyoufeelthislove,takethisloveandputitintoalittleballintoyourheart,andwithyourdesiresenditdirectlydowntothecenterof theearthandnow justwait forMotherEarth to sendherLovebacktoyou.ShewillalwaysgiveyouherLovebecauseyouareherchild,whomsheloves.As your feel this Love coming back from theMother, let it movethroughyourwholebody,throughallthecells,throughyourheartand soul and into everything that you are. Hold back no secretplace from this love, allow it in everywhere, even the places youdarenotgo.YouarenowconnectedtotheMotherinLove.Justrestinthisconnection.Withoutbreaking thisconnection, feelyourdesire forFatherGod,to all the rest of creation other than the earth. Raise your innervision to the sun, the stars, the planets. See the Milky Waystreaming through the sky, feel the beauty, the vastness of theFather,thewonderofitall.FeelyouryearningfortheFather,yourdesirefortheDivineFatherandLoveinyourheartfortheFather.AllowthisLovetobuilduntilitfillsyourwholebodyandheart.“IwantyouFather,I loveyou.”

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Allowthisdesireandyearningtofillyourbody,togoeverywhere,andwhenitfillsright,takethisLove,putitintoalittleballinyourheart,andwithyourdesiresenditoutintotheChristgrids60milesaboveyouThisenergyoflovefortheFather,fromyourheartgoesallaroundthesurroundinggridsoftheplanetandyouwaitfortheFather,foryourDivineFathertosendhisLovebacktoyouandhealwayswill,youarehisson,youarehisdaughterandHeLovesyou.WhenyoufeelthisLovecomebacktoyou,letitmovetoyourwholebody,towholethecellsinyourbody,letitmovethroughyoursoulandyourlightbodies.HoldbacknosecretplacefromthisLove.YouarenowconnectedinlovewithMotherEarthandyouarenowconnectedinlovetoalltherestofthecreationandtheFather,yourFather,yourTrueFather.ThisistheDivineTrinity,DivineMother,DivineFatherandyoutheDivineChild,allconnectedinatriangleofLove.Restinthis.40Now,wecanpray:FatherMotherGod, creator ofmy soul, creator of all the heavensandearth,Godofgods,GodofLoveI feel You are all holy, loving andmerciful. I amYour childunderYour care. We are the greatest of Your creations, the mostwonderful of all your handiworks, and the objects of Your greatSoul'sloveandtenderestcare.Please openmy soul to the inflowing of Your love, in any and allwaysthatyoufeelisrightforme,sothatthenwillcomeYourHolySpirittobringintomysoulYourloveingreatabundanceuntilmysoulistransformedintotheveryessenceofYourself;andthattheremaycome tome faith, such faith, to causeme to realize that I am

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Your Child, and that I am onewith You in very substance, not inimageonly.Thank you, thank you, thank you for your Love. You aremy trueFather, my loving Father. You are my true Mother, my lovingMother,whoalwayssmilesuponme,inallmyweaknesses,alwaysreadytohelpmeandtakemeinyourarmsoflove.Itrustinyou,Itrust inyourLove. Igivetoyouall the loveIam,all the loveIamreceiving. I giveyouall theGlory, all theHonourandall theLovethatI,yourChild,cangive.

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DISCONNECTEDDNATHEANCIENTPATHWAY:LOSSOFOURGREATERRELATIONSHIPAnotheraspectoftheOriginalWoundetchedintothefabricofourcollectiveDNA and the verymaterial ofMother Earth itself is theancient collision and deep scarring of Earth that happenedwhenMaldek,thelostplanetofoursolarsystem,andTiamat,theoriginalplanetEarth,collided.This disrupted Earth’s original place in our ancient solar system,whichwasdesignedtoruninperfectharmony,orderandratiosofsymmetrywith its12planets.The collisionandbreaking apart ofthe original Earth, known as Tiamat, was engineered by atechnologically advanced, loveless reptilian race, who form thefoundationofwhatisnowknownasthe‘secretgovernment’.Theyengineeredthiscollision for thepurposeofcontrollingusandourplanet,whobecameanenergysourceforthem.ThedirectcollisionofourplanetbyMaldekhappenedover450,000yearsago.Tiamatwasleftscarredforever,brokenawayfromitself,withMaldeknowbeingthebeltsofJupiterandtheasteroidfield.Asyoucanimagine,oursolarsystemwaswrenchedoutofitsperfectlyand divinely designed harmonic alignment into an irregularharmonic thatkeptusoutofharmonic resonance, connectionandcommunication with the rest of the solar system and our widerGalaxy, and therefore part of our very own soul resonance wasdistorted.Wewerenotmadetobeaswearetoday,andpartofthisdistortion is due to our very placement in the solar system andGalaxy, and the harmonics that we were created to be living in,whichwearenotnow.Overtime,weasmammalsadaptedtothisnewharmonic,andthisthen became inscribed into our DNA and the electromagneticcircuitsofourphysicalandspiritbodies.Thisaffectedouremotionsandourbeliefsystems,makingusbelievethatwearealoneintheuniverse, and we are all there is, amongst other limiting belief

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systemsthatspringupfromthedeeplyfeltemotionsofseparationandabandonment.ThismemorylurkswithinourDNA,thecollectiveracialidentityofhumankind, and the fields of the planet. It lies in ancient rocksknownasMoldavite,whicharescatteredacrossMoldova.It liesinthescarringcreatedbythecollisionoftwoancientplanetsfoundinthedeepestofPacificOceantrenches.Itisherewhetherwewishtoadmitit,whetherwelikeit,ornot.Thislossofconnection,thisbrutalrippingaway,thisabandonmentand separation, runs deep through the human DNA. It is a deepwound,sodeepwecannotevenrememberit,evenmoresobecauseworldly authorities deliberately cover it up, and placemisinformation into the accounts surrounding these momentouseventssoastokeepthewoundcovered,thereforekeepinghumansawayfromagreatsourceofemotionalpower,lovingresonanceandhealing.However,thisdivinelydesignedandharmoniousresonantpathwayisnow available to us again through the Template Ceremonies.www.template.orgDNA:OURORIGINALCODEOFINNOCENCEItisintheDNAofhumansthatthegreatestwarhasbeenwagedbythesereptilianentities,aswithinourDNAliestheCodetoLife,andLifeForce.Thisisatremendouslyvaluableresource,whichiswhyit has been tampered with to provide them with an invaluablesourceoflifesustainingenergy.Interestinglyenough,StTheresaofAvila,oneofthemostrespectedandreveredofChristiansaintsandfemale leaders, spoke frequently about the reptilian entities thathauntthosewhoaretryingtoreachGod.InourcodonsofDNA,initselectromagneticcircuitry,lieblocksandkeys to freedom. In our DNA lies a transmitting waveform likedevice,cleverlydisguised,thatissendingoutsignalsrightnowthatare distorting your DNA and its connection to the Sun, source of

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light and life for us. These signals are distorting the flow andstrengthofyoursoul’senergy.A resonant genetic part of most humans is locked into thisdimensional cage. This cage or boundary is created bywaveformlike transmissions, which emit certain frequencies that halt ourability, temporarily, tomove outside of it to rise beyond this helldimension.And this is why it was crafted and inserted into ourDNA, to keep us electromagnetically disconnected from the FULLlifegivingpoweroftheSun,(andwhatliesbeyondourSun)andtosiphonourgeneticenergy,ourlifecodings,awayfromourdivinelydesigned pathways, instead re routing it to these ‘false gods’ ornegativespirits.Likeinthefilm, ‘TheMatrix’,weare justbatteriesinapowerplanttothem.To release this part of ourDNAheld in thismatrix cage, requiressomething simple but profound.We just need to feel a deep andprofound‘touch’ofDivineLovethatwillpermeatethistechnologyof hell, this vibrational mesh‐like membrane. Energeticallyspeaking, we can rise to a certain height within this vibrationalcage,which ifseenclairvoyantly looks likeaglassdomethat is, inturn,encased inanelastic,porousmembrane.Whenweapproachit, itusuallybouncesusback,preventingus fromrisingthroughitto the fifthdimension and the true fulfillment of our souls sacreddesires.Thisisadimensionofsoulfulpurity,wherewelivewithoutemotionalerrorandwherenothingcanbecontrolled,becauseitisthefrequencyoflove.Ofcourse,wewillalwaysgetglimpsesofwhatliesbeyondthiscagein the fifth dimension and beyond, but to sustain these glimpsesintoalivedreality,intophysicalembodimenthereandnow,iswhatis being called for in order for us to live our full potential andinheritourDivinebirthright.This is known as aRing­Pass­Not, a vibrational barrier or octavethatpreventsus from fullyBeingLove.This iswhyso fewpeoplemanage to sustain the frequency of unconditional love, for it ismade doubly hard by this DNA distortion and energy cage. Usingtechnologyratherthanlove,thesereptilianentitiesaretotallyself‐

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reliant and ‘independent’ of God through their own choice andwound.TheirsisabeliefsystembasedontheirownprimitiveDNA,whichneeds to be supported and fed by amixture of blood and sexualenergy (DNA) encoded elixirs created and energized throughtechnological manipulations and harvesting of frequency, knownandpracticedundertheguiseofritualmagic.ThisisbecausetheirDNA vibration rapidly goes into entropy anddecaywithout theselowervibrationalenergysourcesfeedingthem.ThisisquitedifferentthanhumanDNA41,forwearefedandexpandthrough the sources of Divine Love, the Sun, loving and soulfulsexuality, interaction with mother earth, clean water, inner andouterfire,cleanairandnature,allofwhichcreategeneticcascadesoflove,compassion,contentmentandjoy.42The reptilian cage ‘dampens’ the connectionbetweenus andGod,the creator of all universes, the God of love, yet this pureconnection is always there; it can never go away. Some of it,however,cangetdivertedandgointoaself‐enclosedloopthroughthiscage.Anditisthiscagethatneedsdissolving.Resistanceis what this DNA waveform amplifies and distorts,which generates fear. Fear and the progeny of fear (DNAmanipulation) is a barrier to love. The vibrational feeling andfrequency of fear distorts everything in experience. The effects oftime and the genetic distortion being passed down and amplifiedthrough various generations, adding their own wounds to theoriginal cause of this genetic distortion, further magnifies andcompoundsfear.ThiscloaksDNAevenmore.This resistance creates a generic, deep‐seated lack of loveormistrust. One feels that love is just not available for oneself, indoubt. A felt loss of loveor denialmeans one still feels that loveexists, just not for apart of them,avoiding feeling andopening to

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thisembrace. A repeated lack/lossover timegenerates a senseofabandonment, eventually becoming numbed and stagnating,acceptingthisfalsestatusquoasreality.43Thiscanresultinthefight/freeze/flightsyndrome,thebasisoftheinstinctual levelofphysicalsurvival forthehumanbeing, foundinthe triggers deep within the reptilian brain, and part of the 5Woundsweallhavetofaceinourlivesonourjourneyintolove.FIGHT‐anger/hate/rage/hostility/vengeance/blameFREEZE‐confusion/anxiety/self‐pity/ indecisiveness/numb/isolation/notfeelingFLIGHT‐shame/escape/avoid/deny/fearPart of the effect of this vibrational genetic cage is our ever‐increasing reliance on artificial and damaging technology.44 Thistechnologyandelectromagneticradiationcreatesresonantgeneticenvironments in which our DNA entrains, or moulds itself to,followingtheseelectricalpathways.Andofcourse, theseelectricalpathwaysarenotofourhighestpotential!In a recent experiment, scientists asked volunteers to stay awayfrom all emails, mobile phones, text messages, Facebook andTwitter updates for 24 hours. They found that the participantsbegan to develop symptoms typically seen in smokers attemptingtogiveup. Someof those takingpart said they felt like theywereundergoing"cold turkey" tobreakaharddrughabit,whileotherssaid it felt like going on a diet. Dr Gerodimos, a lecturer incommunication said: "We were not just seeing psychologicalsymptoms,butalsophysicalsymptoms."45Participants were asked to keep diaries about their experience.Entries in the diaries showed thatmany recorded feeling fidgety,anxiousorisolated."Alotofthemsaidtheyfoundthesilencequiteuncomfortable and awkward, and the word addiction kept43SeeThe5Woundsformoreinformation44See‘TheNineEyesofLight’byPadmaAonformoreinformationonthisTechnosphereanditseffectsonus45ByRichardGray,ScienceCorrespondent,02Jan2011

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recurring.’ Solution? Less time on your computer, phone and TV.You really do not need them. More time in nature, with the Sun,freshairandpeople!To open these tampered pathways within our DNA takes acombination of transmission and coded ceremony designed toreconnect these circuits within us, and then into the Sun andbeyond.OnegreatboosttothisareTheTemplateCeremonies,whichreconnect our elemental, solar and stellar circuitry permanently,(astheyhavebeendisconnectedinthepastbyvariousentities.)IhighlyrecommendthisWork,whichworksin6Ceremonies,4ofwhichcanbedonein1weekendinUK,USA,FranceandAustralia.It rapidly reconnects your body to the electromagnetic circuits ofearth,fire,air,waterandtheSunwithinyou,andoverafewweeksfullyintegratesandstrengthensmanyoftheweakestpartsofyou.It also releasedmanydeepemotions,which tomewas the sign itworked. Visit www.template.org for your nearest facilitator thatyoufeeldrawnto.46ItwasChristwhocametomeveryclearlyandlovingly,sharingthiswasanimportantreconnection.THEEARTHCHANGES ‘I felt such a huge desire formergingwith God, getting closerwithGodandsomuchgratitudethatthisdesirewasheardbyGod.AndthenIfeltsomuchloveforallmybrothersandsisters,andthenIfelt God’s Love and Mother Earth’s Love. And I felt that all theillusions and destruction of mother earth is because of me, I amresponsible for all this stuff. And then I asked forgiveness to theMother forall Ihavedonetoher. It is sohorrible torealisewhere Iam now and all I have created and to see how I contributed. The

46Itisimportanttobreathethe12circuitsthatgetreconnectedintheCeremonieseverydayforatleastaweekaftertheCeremoniestofullyintegratethem.Alotmoreofthisinformationisavailableontheirsiteandintheirbooksandwritings.

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Motherneedstosacrifice.Ifeelguilty.AllIhavedonetoher;itisallrottinginustoo.’EachofushascontributedtotheongoingandglobaldestructionofEarth.And it is important to feel this, for it ispartofouroriginalwound, themisaligningandforgettingbyusofGod’sdesire forusto live inharmonywiththepreciousgiftof theEarth.Allourownerrorsandalltheerrorsofallhumanitygetrecordedintotheearth.Oursoulsrecordourownerrors,andjustasthislawworksonus,so it works on the collective soul and the soul of Mother Earth,creatingathickcrustofdenialandrepressedemotionscoatingourplanet,makingusthenactinveryunlovingwaystoher,makinghersick,dark,anddying,unabletosupportlifeasshehasbeencreatedto.Thesamelawworksonoursoul.Formanythousandsofyears,alltheseerrorshavebeenheldintheearth, and forbillionsofpeoplemakingerrorseveryday that isalotofpoison.Anypersonwhohasreallytriedtomakeapathwaytotruly cleanse these errors usually gets attacked because thiscollective fieldoferrorsacquires itsown life,andrisesupagainstsuchaperson.WehavebeengiventhisbeautifulplanettoliveinharmonywithitandwithDivinelaws,andnowithastobecleansedbecauseofourownerrors,becausewehavenotspokentruthtoourselvesandtoothers, we have not loved ourselves, and others, enough, andneitherlovedGod.Ifwewishforanewearthwehavetobetruthfulto ourselves and to others, for by not speaking truth we arecontinuinginerror,continuingtolivealieandencouragingothersto live a lie. This then creates more and more errors, until wecompletelyforget.Soyouhavetofeelyourownerrorsandthanyouhavetoexperiencethecollectiveerrorsagainsttheearth.Onceyoufeelthisfully,thenkeyswillbegiventohelpcreateanewearth. What this earth desires, what God desires, is the unionbetweenMother and FatherGod INUS onEarth. Anything else isonly a partial representation. God has given us all so manyopportunities each and everyday to turnour faces towards truthandlove,andwehaveallcollectivelyspurnedit,andnotjustus,but

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out parents, our grandparents, our great grand parents, ourchildrenandsoon,andon,andon.God is rebooting this model of Earth because in its presentcondition and environment it has become almost impossible foranyone to become at –one with Him. He is doing a very lovingaction, becauseHe lovesus somuch thatHewantsus to come toHimandexperiencethegreatestLovewecaneverknow.Thishasbecome so difficult thatHe is cleansing the earth and our karmicrecord as a species so a group of souls can come to At‐one‐mentwithGod.This issimplynotpossiblewiththeearthandhumanityin such a toxic condition at this time. And it is only going to getworse,beforeitgetsbetter.Itisallabouthumansbeingtogether,notbeingseparateoffintheirlittleworlds.Itisonlybycomingtogetherthatthisearthandyoursoulcansurviveandgotoitsnextoctave.Goddidn’tcreateustobealone,hecreatedusasmanandwomanfirstly,andthenforgroupsofthesemenandwomentobetogetherandtoliveinthatharmonyand to support each other to come closer to God, which is thepurposeofyoursoul.Whenwegoagainstthis,becauseofourownwounds,wearegoingagainst the Divine Template. Humanity has tried to do things it’sown way and it has failed miserably. So we all have to be a bithumble and do things Gods way, recognizing that our way hadfailed.EveryonewantstobeindependentofFatherGodandindependentofMotherEarth.Humanitywishestolivelifeinitsownlittlebubblethat has no connection to either, to live in‐between these two,suspendedinalittleprisonbetweentheheavensandtheearth.Weliveinalittlewoundedhumanbubble,indenial,infear.Throughout history we have been given many opportunities buthave not taken them. Even in this lifetime you have been givenmanyopportunities. But all God andHis helpers cando is open adoorbecauseLoveistheLaw.Andifyousowantit,youwillreceiveit.Evenrightnowyouarebeinggivenopportunities.

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Truly, Divine Love releases all that it is not. So this is what ishappeningwith this planet.Wewould like to share thiswith youandwhatyourchoiceorresponsibilitycouldbe.Youareall loved,nonetheless.Butit istruethatthechoiceanddesireformorelovewillalwaysbringaboutmorelove.Whilsttherearemanypathwaysthey all come from the Creator of them all. And the Divine LovePathleadsdirectlytotheCreator;itisyouroriginalpotentialfromthemomentthatGodbirthedyoursoul.

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SEXUALITY:ANENGINETOGODThisDNAdistortionisthereasonbehindmostpornographyintheworld today,which accounts for over 30%of Internet downloadsaccordingtomanysources.Thisartificialandgeneticallyenhancedmechanism stimulates, through frequency emissions within ourownDNA, thesexualactdevoidof love.Thisservesasameansofboth control and nourishment for these beings. Your raw sexualenergy gets fed back to collecting mechanisms within your DNAthatthencreateafeedbackcircuitwithintheDNAthatcementsthismechanismfurtherintoplace.These beings have been doing this for many thousands of years,andusedsexslavesinancientSumeria,Babylon,Lebanon,theSinai,Egypt and the Middle East amongst other places to ‘farm’ thisenergy for them. And this is still going on today on earth, mostnotablyintheUSA.Manypornstarstodayarereplayingtheseroles,and tens of millions of men and women are hooking into thisenergy every minute, voluntarily giving away their life force andtaking themselves deeper into a vibrational black hole tounconsciouslyfeedthosewhowouldcallthemselvesour‘creators.’Nothingisfurtherfromthetruth.Many men and women do experience this membrane 4D cagearound the DNA. It is like a dome that prevents humans frommovingbeyonditintoDivineLove.Everytimeahumanbeing,whostill has this DNA cage and particular sexual device in place,experiences anorgasm, thepowerof this orgasmic energy canbeharvested and used to feed the DNA of the reptilian beings whoengineereditintotheDNAofthehumanform.Not every human has this sexual siphoning device in place, butmany do. But those who do are genetically wired, BY GOD, forsexualitytobeabigpartoftheirpathwaytoDivineLoveandGod.Soitisablessingforyouthatthese‘other’beingssawthatpotentialin you as a confirmation, and see that you are worthwhile forharvesting. Whilst this is quite sick, surely now you have themotivationtofreeyourselffromitanduseyourpuresexualenergy,harnessedwithlove,topropelyoursoul’sgrowth.

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Nooneisavictim.Youhadahole,apain,awound,youdidnotwantto feelorembrace.Thenyouchose tosubstituteDivineLove forapale imitation. You were tempted to stay on the surface of youremotionsandfearsbypromisesandseductionsthatplayedtoyoursenseofwishingtoavoidthepainofpowerlessness,hopelessness,terror and other emotions. As an emotion,which one has to feel,embraceandmovethrough,thissexualmanipulationcanfeelsick,shameful anddistorted, and it taps into the collective fieldof thisfor all humans. It can be terrifying, and the mind may make allkindsofexcusestostopyoufromenteringtheseplaces.To understand, feel and release these emotions and their causes,journeyintotheeventandmomentyougaveawaytheloveenergyofyour sexuality in exchange for something else.Go into themomentyoudidthis.Seeit,FEELIT.NowaskWHY,whatwasthecausethatmade me trade myself, what did I not want to feel, what was Iavoiding and denying? Others, be it people or spirits, may havetakenadvantageofthis.In the distortion of our sexuality, changing it into a sentimental,physical,pornographic,fantasydriven,needyorlustfulaffair,knowthatdisembodiedspiritsaresuckingyourenergyaway.Fantasies,sexual toys and the like, so often encouraged as ‘healthy’ by neotantric ‘teachers’ fail to recognize this fact, and so their studentsdescendlowerandlowerintoasorrysoulstate,goingfurtherandfurther away from true Union of heart‐soul, emotions and thedivine.Andwhohasnothadsexualfantasies?Itisimportanttoseeand feel these parts of you, but not to be caught in them. Just beawarenow that the next time you feel inclined to fantasize,whatexactlyareyoufeeding,andwhatisyourtruedesirefor?Youhaveaconsciouschoicenow.After experiencing sexual and energetic abuse, we can abandonGod,blamingHim fornotprotectingus, saying, “fuckyou” toGod.Andthenwebecomelost,tryingtofillaholeforthousandsofyears,alternatingbetweenbeing thevictimof it, and thenbecoming theinitiator of it, becoming the abuser. We replay and continue this

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ancientpatternwithinus,cuttingourselvesofffromGod,unwillingandtooscaredtofeelthedeeppainofbetrayalandabandonment.And, this iswhatallows forsadisticandabusivebehavior,whenaperson isunwilling to feelhisorherowndeep,deeppain.On thesurface,thethrillofsexuallust/abusemixedwithviolence,bloodlustandcontrol(itisallasimilarfrequency)isverystimulatingandaddictive, similar toacocainehigh. Ifonekeepson takingahitofwhatever they are addicted to, they never have to feel the deepemotional, spiritual and existential pains that lie underneath theaddiction.Onecanevenbecomeaddictedtophysicalpain,whichisadistractionfromdeeperemotionalandspiritualpains.Theenergy,power,stimulation, thrill,arousalandexcitementthatcomesfromsexualenergy(andviolenceandfear)isenormous. Itisanextremelyaddictivedrugsensation,destructivetothesoulasithasnolovetoit.Itissuchahugeenergysourceformostpeoplethatiftheyweretocutitofftheywouldfeelhalfalive.Theenergyofcontrolinherentwithinthisisactuallyourownfearofbecomingpowerless andhelpless,which iswhatwemust all feel to initiatethis breaking of the pattern within us, because it is the causalemotionofwhywereachedout to theseotherentities in the firstplace.Sothereisourpersonalresponsibility,ANDacollectiveoneaswell.Theenormousmagnitudeofthepowerofsexualityisbecauseofitstrue potential as an engine to become closer to God, once it ishealed and connected tohuman love and the soul’sdeep feelings.The distortions around it are a result of core causalwounds: thesplitofsexualityfromtheheart,theveilingofthetruepotentialandpowerofthewombandthelingam,thesplitoftheheartfromthesoul,andthesplitofmasculineandfeminine.This has all been encouraged by these reptilian races.Wewere notcreated like this, the sorry state we have fallen into today. This isimportant to know. We are God’s perfect creation, and we havecreatedveils,throughourownchoicesaswellasthechoicesofthecollectiveandthefirstparents,toexperiencingthis.The only energy source that is more compelling than thesedistorted and genetically modified aberrations is sourcing one’s

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energy directly from God, Divine Love and the energy that flowswhensexuality ishealedandintegratedwiththeheartandGodinUnion.Most people have not experienced this, and think they arejustafantasy,orafarawaymythicaldream.Theyarenot.Theyarewhoweare inTruthandwhatwehavebeendivinelydesignedtoenjoy.Ifwearenotsourcingthisenergyfromoursoul,theSoulofFather‐MotherGod,theSunandGaia,wearefeedingoffotherhumansoroff human distortions. Anytime we “need” another (or aredependentonanother)thismeansweare feedingoff them,whichishumbling to realize.Whenwerecognizeourselvesdoing this, itmaycomewithfeelingsofshame,sadnessandevendisgust.Butthedisgustorrejectionofthesepatternsonlyhelpstocementtheminplace.These distorted patterns must be seen and embraced. We onlychoosetheseactionsandbeliefpatternsinourignorance,blindnessand emotional neediness stemming from our wounds. Once thewoundsareseenandfelt theycandissolveandhealbackintoouroriginalsexualinnocence.Loveisthedeathofthiswoundedmindsetanddistortion,andthecontrolthishasonpresentdayhumanity.Sexuality+loveinorgasminprayerisoneofthemostpowerfulforcesintheuniverse,powerfulenoughtomoveeventheGalacticCentre.Thisisnotamyth;Ihavedirectly experienced this many times. Loving emotion combinedwith our precious human sexuality and soul, in alliance with thetrueGod of Love, Creator of all universes, can create awave thatwill helpdismantle anddissolve the control and fearmechanismswithinus.

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Youstoplovingandvaluingyoursoulbecauseofthis,andlookforloveoutsidetoreplacetheholeandlackofself‐loveyoufeelwithin.Your life becomes dominated by this search, and you become avictim of this search, begging for crumbs of love to help you feelbetter, to help you feel worthy, to prevent you from feeling thenumbnessofyoursoul.Soyoucreaterelationshipson thesurfaceto prevent you from feeling the numbness. You create busyness,work, drugs, animals, sex, alcohol, distractions of many kinds…anythingandeverything tokeep ‘happy’on thesurface.Yes, theProzac nation reigns in false happiness, plastered on smiles, andfalsejoy.Once you have a recognition of the crucial moment when yourinnocencewas broken, you can journey into it and feel it all. Thesnapshot imprinted upon your soul of this moment is still therewithin you; you have simply buried it. Oncewe are on our soulsjourneytoreceiveDivineLove,anythingandeverythingthatstandsin thewayofus receiving thisDivineLovenecessarilyarises.Theloss of this innocence is a crucial feeling that we all have to feelagain,nomatterhowpainful,forwithinitliestheseedandpatternthatmuch of the rest of your life has assumed and taken on, andyouhavethentriedtocompensatefor.Forexample,ifyourfathertoldyouthatlovedidnotexistwhenyouwereachild,thattherewasnoTruthandeverythingwasrelative,fortherestofyourlifeyouwillbelievethatonsomelevelandtryandmakeupforit.Youmayalwaystryandgainyourfathersloveinsomeway,youmayalwaystryandprovehimwrongbypushingyourselftoexcel inotherways,youmaylookfor lovethroughsexandaddictiontoprovetoyourself,throughtemporaryfeelings,thatlovedoesexist. Inessence,yourwholelifewillbededicatedtore­findingthefeelingthatyouhadbeforetheinnocenceandtrustwasshattered, and you will try and compensate for it in many wayswithmanypeople.Knowingthemomentoftheeventhelpsasthiscantriggeroffmorefeelings,asyoucantaste, touchandremember itallindetail.Thisdetail bringsupmore feelingswithin you in this exactmomentintime where innocence was lost. Feel the loss on all levels, on all

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layers;keepnothingburiedorinthesubconscious,forthisiswhathappened in the original moment when you decided that ratherthan feel the full pain, youwouldnumbyour soul.And then yourminddecidedtodosomethingtomakeit‘allright’again,enactingacourse of thoughts and then actions tomake up for this hole andpainsomehow.Fromthisplaceoffeelingandrecognition,traceandfeelitthrougha whole series of feelings and thoughts that occurred after thismomentousandlifechangingmoment,thatthenalteredthecourseof your life forever. Trace it from the initial contraction, shock,betrayal,fearandpaintothedeeperemotionsthatlieunderneath.Ask to feel it all, pray to feel each and every emotion so it can bereleasedfromyoursoulforever.ThenpraytoreceiveDivineLove,toenter and deepen the healing, removing the pain and causalwounds from the soul.Butyouhave todoyourownwork first toallowDivineLovein.Thisthenbringsabouttrueloveforyoursoul,whichwasdamagedinthislossofinnocence.Thelossofinnocenceyousufferedasachildcreatesalackofself‐love,andmanyofthereasonsyouthinkloveissomethingthatitisnot.Allthetechniquesyouusetogetloveareactuallygoingagainstyour own self‐love, a self‐hate in a way. From this point on, wesubstitute love and do not really love ourselves, because we arealways trying to get love, and as we grow up it gets into moreradicalformsofbehavior,moredistorted,andwestepfurtherandfurtherawayfromself‐loveandanyformoftruth,generatingmoreandmorebeliefs aboutwhat love isorwhat love should feel like.Andthenwegointoformsofself‐hatred,anddenialoflove.Inmoreextremecases,wecanturnagainstlove100%.(anyformoflove). These events and emotions are the ones that are mosthidden,mostforgotten,andtheonesyouareleastwillingtogointo,theonesinthebackgroundthataredictatingmuchofyourday‐to‐daybehavior.

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LUCIFER:PATTERNCREATOR‘Anerrordoesnotbecometruthbyreasonofmultipliedpropagation,nordoestruthbecomeerrorbecausenobodyseesit.’GandhiThecreationoffreewillmeansthatwearefreetochooseanythingwe desire, all possibilities, good and bad, and live them. Godwillnot judge this,as this isHiscreation.Wecanact inharmonywithanythingthatistruthfulandloving,orinerrorandunloving,guidedbyloveandtruthorguidedbytheinformationgeneratedfromourwoundsandbeliefs.This means that we always, as per the Divine Prime Directive,enableourownandothersfreewillwhetherweagreewithotherschoicesanddecisionsornot,andevenatourownexpense.Ifwedonotdothis,otherswillfeeltheyarebeingcontrolledbyusandthatthey are not allowed to have their own emotional experience,insteadfeelingobligedtous,thatthey“haveto”pleaseorplacateusinmanyandvariousways.Ifthisishappeninginyourlife,questionwhy it is happening and why you are doing this, because it isneitherlovingnortrue.Lucifer is an archetype that we can learn much about ourselvesfrom, forweare like littleLucifer’sourselves,andLuciferhas twofaces: the Shining One, Bringer of Light or the Dark One. Lucifer,liketheFirstParents,didnotcreatefreewill,butratherputitintoaction through his thoughts, decisions and actions to createsomethingnew,tolookatRealityinadifferentwayandmovewiththis perception. Luciferwas an innovator and throughhis actionscreateddualityasweknowittoday.HispatterningprograminvolvestheuseoffreewillwithoutDivineLove and truth, a choice to leave God’s laws and love to try andcreate somethingelse. Sound familiar?Thispatterninghasplayedout on Earth with mankind’s freewill creation of all kinds ofthought‐formentities, systems, religionsandemotionaldiversionstoseewhat ispossiblewithout loveand truth,andwhether thesecreationscouldpossiblycarveoutanotherpathwaytoGod.

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Theydocarveoutanotherpathway indeed,because theseactionscreate our deepest wounds, and they become sacred woundsbecause the onlyway out of them is to chooseDivine Love, truthandGodagain.To return.Thesewoundsare the friction creators,the push‐pull of duality, being attracted to something and beingrepulsedbyanotherthing.Andofcourse,acreationdevoidofloveand its laws, but highly intelligent and complex for the mind togorge itself on, intellectually masturbating itself into its ownparoxysmofselfinduceddelight,leadstowar,sufferingandalltheproblemsweseeonearthtoday.IthastobeunderstoodthatLuciferknowsALLthecreationwelivein today–heknows its secrets,how itoperates, itsprogrammingguidelines,whatitcontainsandhowtoputitalltogether.Butthisprogramming is one line of creation that most humans are in, apatternthatseeminglycreatesrealitiesthatappeartobeasrealasReality itself.But it isnot; it issimplyavirtualreality,amirroroftrue reality, a separated reality. A reality, a pattern, that Luciferprogrammed according to his desires, which all stemmed fromwanting to have his own reality, with his own laws and his ownsubjects, all of whom would worship him and give him theattention,devotionandadulationthathefelthedeservedasmuchasGod.And the result is humanity: a soul inside a body having anexperienceseparatefromtherestofreality.Wearetheresultoftheexperiment.Theother lineofcreation isGod’sunity,operatingonthelawsofDivineLoveandtruth.Many beings, philosophies and religions have masqueraded orpretended to be God, and provide exclusive access, much like anexclusiveclub.YetthereisonlyoneGreatSoul,whichisfounddeepinyourheart‐soulsrelationshipbetweenyouandyourCreator,Godof Love and Divine Truth, accessible to you directly, withoutintermediary.ManypeoplebelievesomeotherentityistheirCreator,istheirGod.TheymaynotcallitLuciferorreptilian,butthatiswhomtheyarereferringtoenergeticallyasareferencepointbecauseofthebelief

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systemsindoctrinatedbyALLthereligionsthattheyarefollowingorhavebeen led tobelieve in, and therefore run away from. Wehavebeenprogrammed tobelieve so,mentally andgenetically, tofeed these entities energy AND ultimately as a test: to see if youlistentoandfollowyourheart‐soulandtheDivine lawof freewill.Whatdoyouchoose?Lucifer’s Pattern keeps us from true self‐love and love for God,keepingus inpride,self‐reliance,andonhigher levels, instatesof‘emptiness,’ devoid of true, deep and soulful feeling. All of thispatternisdesignedtoseewhathappensinCreationwhenthereisfreewill;beingscanchoosewhetherornottoreceiveDivineLove,ortobeself‐reliantwithoutthegreatestloveanybeingcouldeverexperience.AndwecanseetheresultsonEarthofthis;war,chaos,suffering, injustice, death, and destruction. A great experiment,(!)nowtimetocometoanendthroughourownchoicetoopenupto,andreceiveDivineLovedirectlyandfollowitslaws.Life, love and the Divine laws of truth are so simply andsynchronouslydesignedevenachildcangetit,eventhesimplestofpoor folk can receive it. It is the Lucifer pattern of the mindsdomination, and our unerring fascination with it that makes lifecomplicated, entangling us in the webs of emotional‐intellectualdeception, mental ownership and rule. It is this pattern that ourminds have comemost closely to identifywith, as the truth is sosimple that our minds will never be able to make, or market,somethingoutofit.WithoutdesiringandlovingGod,wecanneverbetrulyhumbleortrulyvulnerableonthedeepestlevelsthatopenupoursoultotallyand completely. Without receiving Divine Love consistently,without having this soulful relating and dependence on God, andthe resultant feelings of lack of control that our ego’s willexperience inour livesaswe letgoof theLuciferpattern,wecannever truly experience intimacy and Union with God, or withanother.Wehavetoabandonallthetoys,gamesandstrategiesofavoidancein our lives in favour of receiving the simplicity of Divine Love,whichheals,transformsandmendsallthings.Faithinthis,desirein

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this,resultsinUnion.Andyes,asadults,weneedsomeawareness,but this awareness is secondary behind the primary emotionalengine of our heart‐soul, and our full‐bodied embrace of ourfeelings first and foremost as the gateway to sovereign soul loveandGod.To retrieve our original Divine design, our original innocence,requiresallthesesteps.Youhavetobefullyconsciousofthischoiceevery day, to align to and followDivine Truths, and then feel theways you have betrayed love and your soul until it is felt on alllevelsofyourbeing.The blueprint for the original human design, pure and Soul‐Realised,before itwasgeneticallymodified, isourbirthright.Thisispartofwhoweareandwhatwehavebeendesignedtobe–oneflow of life force with the earth and the heavens, not separated,transcendent,incompetitionwithordominating.(Itisimportanttonotethatmany‘goddess’andMagdaleneteachingsarealsoLuciferpattern teachings, as well as the more obvious patriarchal ones,whichgetallthebadpress.)Thisunionwiththegreenlivingearthaspartofourownbodyandsouls intelligence,happensaswereconnectourcircuitryandturnback toGodagain, turnback toDivineLove,andrefuse torelyonpaleimitationsofitforoursustenance.Inthisreturn,weturnourbackstotheLuciferpatternasthereversepartofthesameconsciouschoiceourfirsthumanparentsmadewhentheyturnedtheirbackstoGodandwantedtobeGod’sequal.Wereversethechoicetheymadeto leaveGod, the choice that still liveson inus andourDNA, andthatwehavetotakeresponsibilityforNOWinorderforustomoveon. It was this choice that initiated the Lucifer pattern, which inturnledtotheeffectofthegeneticdistortionofourDivinedesign.Oncewemakethischoice,thenwecanfeel,processandaccepttheconsequences and ramifications of this choice in our own livestoday, as it unravels throughout our entire existence. Bit by bit,piecebypiece,thisoriginalwoundunravelsthroughthechoiceswehavemade,andarestillmaking.

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THELUCIFERPATTERNTheFiveWoundsconnect toamuch largermandala.Theyarethesupport structure for a much larger matrix that holds up andsupports an artificial reality, and this artificial reality is whatalmosteveryonehascometobelieveisRealityitself.Youhavebeenlivingtoadifferenttune, inadifferentsetofrules,creatingyourownrulesandpersonaltruthsasyouwentalong.Andsince themoment of the first choice of separation,we have beensearching for a way back, to find that love again. And we neverhave.We have tried in every otherway,we have created nationsand empires, systems and governments, magic and witchcraft,throughsexandthroughcelibacy,throughwarandpeace,throughcontrolandpower, through fearandpain, all thesewayswehavetried,strugglingtofindawayback,creatingthematrixaswewentalong,andtheneventuallyforgettingwhywedidwhatwedid.Andthen,webecameavictimofthematrixwecreated.Weforgot.Andnomatterwhatwehavedone,wehaveneverremembered.Itistimetobringtherealitywearenowresponsiblefor,thememoryof which lives in us from the first separation that we have beenburdenedwith,thatweholdinoursoulsandourDNA,backtoGod.And part of our soul is lying in shame and unworthiness thatwehavebeentryingtohealforthousandsofyears,butneverhave.Wecouldneverexplainthatfeeling,couldneverunderstandit.Noonecouldevertellyouwhatitis.Itislikeablackcloudoveryoursoul,that nomatterwhat you did, you could never heal it, and so youcontracted, and you became smaller and smaller. That is thewebwehaveweaved.Andthatiswhatthiswholeplanetislivingin,thisartificialreality.Before the choice for separationwe all had a direct and personalrelationshipwithGod.YoucouldspeaktoGod,youcouldfeelGod,your heart was connected in an infinity loop with God, God wasalwaysthere,thefeelingofGodwasalwaysinyourheart,Godcouldbe calledupon at anymoment and couldbe received; thatDivine

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Lovecouldbereceivedinanymomentalthoughyoustillwerenotdivine.Andnow,wherehasthatgone?Weholdthismemory–itiswithinus,sonowweneedtofeel itandtakeresponsibilityfor it.So,youchose to cut that off. You chose to cut off that relationship. YouturnedyourbackonGodandDivineLoveandTruth.Youdidit.Nooneelse,andtodayyoutryandgetthatlovefromeverythingelse,from your children, your parents, your partners, your dogs, yourcats,yourfriends,anywhereelseapartfromyoursoulandGod.Youtry to stuff your hole with everything outside and everybodyoutside, with the matrix you have created of the external world.Therearetworealitieshappening;thisiswhyitiscalledduality.Firstofall,wehavetoownwhatwehavedone.Wehavetoownthechoicethatwehavemade,notthroughourmindorpersonality,butour soul.Youcanchoose toown it, oryoucanstrugglealongandtry and create a manageable existence, creating lots of copingmechanisms and strategies to get along, adapt and conform, tosurvive in this artificial reality, creating beliefs, emotionaldeceptions, intellectualdeceptions.Godhasgivenyou freewill, soonlyyoucanchooseanew,afresh,somethingdifferentnow.Thisisabigchoicetoown.Anditisthefoundationofanydeephealing.Soitisyourchoice.TomakethechoicetogotoGod.Forsuchabigthing,youcannotdoitalone.YouneedGodtohelpyou;thishastobecomethedeepestdesireandneedyouhave, foreverythingelsein your life that you have created in error is an effect of you nothavingthatDivineLove.Allyourstoriesareaneffectofnothavingthisinyourlife.Thisisthecauseofallcauses,andtheeffectsofthisare what you are all living in now. You are part of the choice ofseparation; this choice of the first parents and Lucifer lives on inyou, and you continue the legacy of creating the first pain in apainlessuniverse.Youcreatedthemirror.Nowyouhavetocleanthemirror.AnditisonlyDivineLovethatcanhelpyoutocleanthemirror,andthat isthe journeyof the sacredwounds. Thiswill lead youback to thatwhatyouchosetoleave.

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ATTACHMENTSBOUNDTOIDEASOFLOVEGettingentangledinnamesandforms,structuresandhierarchiesispartof theLuciferpattern. Identifyingwith thesebeliefspreventsthefreeflowingofalovethathasnoattachmenttoit.This is why several teachers advocate viscerally and graphicallyimagining your partner having sex with someone else and stillloving them, so as to break the attachment into this pure love.Reallyfeelingtheheartbreakofthis,andalltheemotionsthatarise,and stillmaintaining your love, can be a tool tomature us. Somemoreradicalteacherswillevenadvocatethatyouphysicallyenactthis, watching and feeling everything as your beloved has great,lovingsexwithsomeoneelse!Of course, this can bring up all kinds of emotions. Envy, anger,betrayal, sadness, abandonment, and then deeper into grief, andthendeeperstillintoamorematureandfreeloveforthesovereignsoul that your partner is, and you are. Love is a gift –we cannotexpectordemandit,anditisagiftthatwechoosetogive.Ifwetakeitaway,whatdoesthatsayaboutus?HowdoesGodloveus?WouldGodwithdrawloveforus?CanweexpectordemandGod’sLove?IttooisaGiftthatHegives,throughHislawsandoursinceredesireforit.Try imagining your partner, the one you have most loved ever,havingloving,great,passionatesex,ingraphicdetail,rightinfrontof you. Go through it in detail – the bedroom, the looks on theirfaces, their bodiesmoving rhythmically, sensually, theirmoans ofpassionandecstasy,themorgasmingtogether,cuddlingafterwardsinintimacy…tryit.Itisausefultooltobreakourownership.Mentalbeliefsandideasarecreatedfromemotionaldenials.Aswehealandfeelallwehaveneverdaredto,andturnourfacestowardshumility, Divine Love and Divine Truths, more peace andspaciousness is created,which allows all things to be felt as theyare,evenwhenwe feelhurtfulemotionsaround it.Of course, thisreally manifests once we have taken steps to self‐love and self‐responsibility,withthehealing inquiriesthatthisentails.This isa

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whittlingdownprocess,as thechargedissipates throughallowinglove to be present, even though this can be seen as two separateflows, ashuman love andDivineLovearedifferent inquality andfeeling.Our limited beliefs formed from pain create our false wisdom.Thesecrack,andcaveinwhenweaskfor,andreceiveDivineLove.There is nothingmore powerful and transformative in the entireuniverse, and nothing that works as effectively, as thoroughly, ascompletely,asDivineLoveifyouaskforit,welcomeit,andwishforittoreacheverypartofyourentiresoul.Lovedissolvesallillusion,bitbybit,aboutwhatwethinkloveis.AskingforDivineLove,andbeingspecificaboutwhatyouask for, removespiecebywoundedpiecealltheveilswehavecreated.MeetingDivineLoveinthiswaygivesyouthemostbeautifullydevastatingmomentsofyourlife.Isitworthittohaveyourheartshattered?Isitworthittohavetheliesremovedfromabeautifulheart?Isitworthittoopentheheartyetagaininitsnaked,softexposedway?47UnifyingbothloveforyoursoulandDivineLovemeansonehastototally love yourself,which is treating yourself as God treats you,throughtheseDivinelaws.HowdoesGodtreatyou?Canyoutreatyourselflikethat?Thisisabigtopic!The Lucifer pattern is also the separation from the real DivineFeminine energy. This nurturing, loving, ever so soft, yet deeplypermeatingembrace is found inourcommunionwithMotherGodandtheearthasanaspectofourownself,(notthroughdominatingor transcending it) and through women, as vessels for this love.TherearemanyaspectsofmanytraditionsthataremasqueradingasDivineFeminine(pureShaktiisdifferentinitsexpression,butofthe same source) that actually lead one away from this true loveandintoapaleimitationofit.ThisisthewholebasisoftheLucifer

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pattern:imitationsoftheReal,anddimensionswhichareenclosedandnotopentofurtherevolutionUNLESSmassivebreakdownandbreakthroughoccurs.Thiscanbe tricky todiscern,as the façade,mannerismsandevenfeelingofthesebeingsandAvatarscanappeartobe loving,andiscultivatedtobeso.Butthisthinveiloflightand‘love’coversyourwounds and hooks you into sucking on this ‘false teat,’ furtherdistracting you fromDivine Love, and taking you deeper into theLucifer pattern. Truly only you in your discernment, self‐responsibilityandprayers for therealDivineLovecanyou takeastep closer to merging with Divine Mother and Father in Truth.Thenthegreatestopeningsoccur.Partofthismovementistheparadigmofavoidingpainatallcosts,and negating any need to dig deep into your shadow emotions,insteadstressingjoyandonenessastheonlythingsthatneedtobefelt,andforgetallelse.Thosewhodothishavethebiggestshadowsandmostfearlyingwithinthem,andcaneasilybetriggeredwithafewsimplequestions.TheparadoxisthatLuciferisjudgedandvilifiedasbeingdarkandevil,whereasmanyofthepeoplestuckinthispatternpretendthatthisdarkdoesn'texist,especiallywithinthemselves!Themantrais,‘Can'twejustchoosethelight?Alwaysactloving?Then there won't be any room for shadow if we don't putourattentiononit,ifourthoughtformsdon'tenergizeit,right?Justthinkpositive, right?Mustwe reallydive intopainful feelings?Dowehavetofeelthem,can’twejustforgivethemandmoveon?’This isthereasonwhymanypeople'sdevelopmentstops,andit isaninsidiousdistortionofwhatloveactuallyis.Peoplethinkthatbycontrolling their conscious thoughts and emotions they canescapetheirownshadow(byignoringit),butourshadowemotionsandbeliefslieinthesoulswounds,andthisiswhatdeterminesourfrequency, our law of attraction, andwhatcan truly flow throughus.

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Our frequency is determined by how muchshadow has beenhonestly recognized, embraced and cleared by us. If one has anyquestions as to whether or notthey have any shadow left, enterintoanintimaterelationshipwithanequalandenergizethesexualcenters and heart with humility, vulnerability emotion and love.Thenitwillbecomeimmediatelyclear!Wedonothavetopretendtobeanyone,andwenolongerhavetorunfromANYTHING!48AnditistruethatDivineLovebringsupallthatisnotlove,andinthe process brings up all this pain, patterns and shadow. TheLuciferpatternisourdeepestpainandsuffering.Butthatisthejobof that pattern – it tempts, shows and tells but offers no relief,rather it offers superficial, well packaged, enticing feel gooddistractions, quick fixes, miracle cures and alluring pleasureswithinitsselfenclosedpattern.Eachtrickjustleadsonebacktothesamepointofbeginning,likeamazethathasnoexit.Life stuck in the effects of Lucifer’s pattern is like a hamsterrunning on a spinning wheel in a transparent cage. The hamsterrunsarounditswheel,enjoyingtheview,abletolookoutsideofthecage but never to leave. Eventually itwill get bored of seeing thesamesightsonthewheelandfeelingthesamesensations,evenifitmoves fasteror sloweron thewheel to see if somethingdifferenthappens. And it will eventually begin to wonder about thepossibilityoffeelingsomethingelse,andgettingoutofitssuffering.A hand reaches out from within this spinning prison, wavingfranticallytograspthesleeveofapasser‐by.Butnoonenotices."Pleasehelpme", a tiny voice cries. "I don’t belonghere and theywont letmego."Stillnoonecomes.Feelingdejected, thehamsterreturns to thewheel and keeps spinning around and around andaround.Later, thehamster triesagain.Hope isall ithas left.Hopethatonedayfreedomwillcomefromsomecaringsoul.Untilthen,the hamster will continue, spinning its wheels in ever increasingdesperation.Andthenoneday,theywillstopspinningandmoving.

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Inessence,theeffectoftheLuciferpatterninourlivesisthecuttingoff of our deeper feelings. Deeper feelings are the essence of ourhumanity, and our felt connection to God. The avoidance ofjourneying into thepainsof separation, andall thewayswehavecreated it, are all deep emotions. These emotions, once felt, carveout thepathwayof return intoour sovereignheart‐soul, andbackinto our sovereign connection to God. The brilliance ofmind andconsciousnessissecondarytothisall‐powerfullove.ButthisisnottodemeanLucifer.Heplaysavitalrole.Luciferisnothuman and encourages us also to not be this, by testing andtempting us to leave this path into amyriad of other ‘ways’. TheLuciferpatternresultsinthefragmentationandforgetfulnessbyusoftruth.Itisonlybybeingfullyandtrulyhuman,orSoul­Realised,thatwecanevolvebackintoouroriginalstatus,madeinGod’sImage.Itisinthisquestion,‘Whatisittobefullyhuman?’thatwewalktowardsGod,the Creator of the universes, and the Creator of humans in hisimage. Inthis, there is fullacknowledgmentof theLuciferpattern,and what it has brought us. And then we can move on intobecomingmorethanahumansoul,andbecomeaDivinesoul.Lucifer, like the first human parents, wanted to be God’s equal.LucifersawEarthwouldbepopulatedwithGod‐worshippers,andhewantedthatenergyofworshipforhimself.HetoowantedtobelikeGod,becausethatishowhewascreatedtobeorsohethought;(theproblemofbeingcreatedinGod’sImage)andso,hewentintocompetitionforthepreciousenergyofthedevotion, love,worshipand attention of humans. He wanted to be as good as God, toactuallyBEaCreator,hisonlyrolemodel.Andevenmorethanthat,hebelievedhecould improveonGod’shandiwork,andgobeyondGod.Lucifer is our scapegoat. We do not forgive him for the ‘sin’ forleavingandmodelingourdisconnectionfromGod.Hereflectsus,asthe symbol of the Fall fromOneness. The very fact of having ourindividualityandseparatephysical form ismistakenlyseenas thearchetypal fall, a separation into twowhenbefore therehadbeen

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onlyone,inform,energyandappearance.IftherewasaFall,itwasnot justLucifer’soriginaldeparturefromGod,butoursubsequentrefusal to acknowledge the creationof thispathwayof the sacredwounds, and the consequences for our own evolution. (Formore,readTheChristBlueprint.)The Ofanim note: “When Lucifer comes back, he begins the returnwith those he brought down. The Lord of Light has made manyattempts in the past to reunite with the Absolute. Always throughMan's unknowing and unforgiving has he remained tied to thematerialplane.”49Thisrestorationhappensforusthroughtheembodimentofloveinphysicalform.Atthemoment,wearenotfullyinthewholenessofthe third dimension; we are just existing in a few overtones ornotesofit.Ifthethirddimension,likealldimensions,isasymphonyofnotesandchords,weareonlyexperiencingabriefsnippetofthissongconsciously,thesnippetcalled‘duality.’The fullness of all the harmonics of the third dimension are stilluntappedbyus.Todoso,wemusthealtheseOriginalWoundsandembraceallaspectsof livingas fullyembodiedhumansconnectedto God. Form and individuality are not a barrier to God, butsomethingtobeenjoyedaspartofGod.The fullmanifestationof the thirddimension isoneof thehighestevolutionarychallenges forus.Oncethis isalignedwithsexualandsensual energies through our unified heart­souls, in alignmentwithDivineLove,theEarth,theSun,(awayfromthetechnosphereandEMpollution) and electro­magnetically, genetically and pranicallyreconnected, this embodiment is possible. And this embodiment isthe Union of the Lucifer pattern and the Unity pattern, into anunknown third way, which is the experiment that we as humanshavebeencreatedfor;toliveinto,andembodyNOW,ifwechoose.

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Whenweexperiencethefullnessofthethirddimension,everythingbecomes more luminous, joyful and soft. We live in simpleappreciation of the beauty all around us. Everything becomespermeated in this living light, and we begin to walk this lightthrough our bodies on earth. Our awareness and minds becomelight‐soaked, as peace enters our deepest, darkest places in thedensityofmatter.Matter ceases to be heavy in this, rather becoming fluid in ourexperience. The Sunwarms, illuminates, enlightens and bathes inliving light all things, whilst Earth holds, soothes and creates aliving field of tangible receptivity, a container for our physicalbodiestobesupported,fed,activelygiventoandengagedwith,andthenmergedwithHerintoonefluidlovingintelligence.Andthevistasandbeautywecanexperiencewithoursensesinthispanoramaofthetotalsongofthethirddimensiongoeswaybeyondwhatanyartistcanpaint,althoughTurner,Monetandseveralothervisionary artists have attempted to capture these moments ofsublimebeautywhere light andmatterdiffuse andmerge.Naturetrulyisthegreatestartist.This is part of what the Light Bringer Lucifer brings back tohumanity. We only realize this experientially when we havetravelledthroughalltheconsequencesoftheLuciferpatterninourown life, toembrace, feeland learnthe lessons fromthem.This iswhen we experientially begin to embody the living truth thatLucifer isNOWworkingwithGodat thispoint inconsciousness, tobringtheLuciferpatternandtheUnitypatterntogetherwithinus.50 This then creates a third way, the merging of both patterns,which is our embodiment aspure, innocenthuman souls or Soul‐RealisedBeings,designedtobeaswewerecreatedtoBe.Thisthencreates the foundation for us to be able to choose and desire thenextstep:At‐one‐mentwithGodandthefullpotentialofwhatGodis offering to us: the Divine Soul, not just the pure human soul.

50Foranin‐depthgeometricviewandexplanationofTheLuciferexperiment,seeDrunvaloMelchizedek’s‘FlowerofLifeVol1’.Seealso‘TheChristBlueprint’byPadmaAonPrakashaItisusefultohavethecompleteunderstandingofourpartinthis.

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THEMATRIXTheMatrixisasystembasedontheconstructsofafinite,separatedself. As it is finite, it can be worked out, but only when one isoutside its constructs, seeing frommoreofa ‘GodsEye’view.TheMatrixisconstriction:theunderlyingsourceofallhumansuffering.Constricting life in yourself or others, walking away from DivineLove, what we most yearn for, creates immense tension andpressureonyourindividualsoulandontheentirehumanraceandcollective.Itisnotenoughtohealyourownwounds:onehastotravelintothesixmaincollectivecausalwoundsaswell,whicharealllivinginsideyou. It is a collective grief and wound we all carry, and byembracing the collective through you these wounds are healedwithin you also. The deeper the causal wounds are held captiveinsideyou,themoreyourhigherfacultiesshutdown.ThewoundsarethedeepesttriggersontheplanetintoDivineLoveandhealing.Thewoundswere created becausewe have chosen to not followDivine laws, and in not following them penalties are involved. InonesenseyouareallLucifer,creatingyourownlawsandwaysofdoing things that work for you in navigating the artificial realityyou have constructed around the idea of your separation fromDivineLove.Youarea littleLucifer,doingasyouplease, ignoringDivinelaws,separatingyourselffromthegreatestloveahumancaneverknow.Andthatisfine.Untilitisnolongerfine,andyouwanttoreturnhome.Lucifer isnot abadguyor a goodguy.He represents thatpartofyou caught in thematrix of your ownperceptions, built upon thefalseinformationandveiledfeelingsofyoursoulwounds.Youhavecreated your own version of this matrix, and because you haveforgottenthatyouhavecreatedit,youbecamelostinit.You have created your own kingdom separate from Divine Love,and liveby itsrules, thinkingyouare free.Youhave forgottenthelawsgoverningthematrixuponwhichyoursmallermatrixisbuilt.

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Now you can remember it and see, in total clarity, how your lifeactuallyis,ratherthanwhatyouhopeorintendittobe.Underneath thesimpleprinciplesand feelings that thematrix tiesthesoul into, liesashining truth.Lucifer isas innocentasGod,asareyou,createdperfect,withouterrororflaw.Heisasbrilliantandcreative as the brightest light in creation, and that too is you. Torealize your innocence in the arms of Divine Love, follow thepathway of the sacredwounds, and feel all that youhave createdpreviouslywithyourmind,nowthroughyourheart‐soul.Thenthecycleofreturniscomplete.Youreturnhome,Luciferreturnshome,theexperimentendsinDivineLove.WhenyouknowandrealisewhattheMatrixis,theeffectsandholesoftheMatrixwithinyourownsoul,thenitisyourjobtomakethechoices and deeply desire to feel it all. They are all pathways inordertofeeltheseparation.Infeelingitall,unioncanhappen.TheMatrixisfiniteandtheenddateofitiswhenyoubecomeSoul‐RealisedinOriginalInnocenceonceagain.Thatiswhenitendsforyou,andthatisallasoulhastodo.Thatisthereasonyouarehere.Youarenothereforanyotherreason.Thereisnootherpurposetolife. The ‘endof theworld’ is the endof yourworldof separationfromGod.This map is important because it contains the principles behindyourstoriesandthehealingsthatcancome.It isapathwayofthesacredwoundsofthesoul,amapofthematrix,themapofLucifer’sjourneyawayfromGodandwhatwascreatedinthisjourney.Ifyouwere to really look at your life through this lens, you would seeeverything in your life would be in here, the emotional urgesbehindallyouractions.Maybeyouwouldliketohavealookatyourlifethroughthelensofthismap,andseehowyouarecreatingyourownlawsinyourliferightnow,ratherthanfollowingDivineLaws.

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THEMAPTHEMASKORFALSESELF–THEFAÇADEAnger, pride, defensiveness, constriction, confusion, humiliation,doubt, shame, unworthiness, resentment, rage, guilt, neediness,self‐punishment, punishmentof others,wanting to giveup, blameof self, blame of others, excessive thinking and other surfacethoughts and emotions mask our fears, which we try and coveroverwithourSubstitutes,addictionsandneeds,whichmaskourFears,denialsandunwillingnesstobevulnerableandfeelPAINAvoidingPainisthebaneofthehumanconditionWhichmasks our trust inGodandour courage andweakness tofeelandbesoftandvulnerabletofeelings.Submit to being weak, humble and vulnerable. Submit to the realfeelings–surrendertothem.OurgreatestfearsarebeingPOWERLESSandOUTOFCONTROL,whichinturnmaskour

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WE GO FURTHER AWAY FROM DIVINE LOVE AND TRUTH BYAVOIDINGOURFEARSANDCAUSALEMOTIONS; BYGOING INTOTHEMANDASKINGFORDIVINELOVE,WEGETCLOSERTOGODANDRECEIVEMOREDIVINELOVESohowitstartsforusisthroughthefaçadeormaskofsurfaceemotions.We may cycle endlessly around these emotions, thinking we arehealing, andwhilst it isnecessary to feel theseemotions fully,wearecoveringandunwillingtofeelthepainofwhatliesunderneaththese surface emotions. Only our desire and humility can lead usdeeper,oncewehavefully felt thesesurfaceemotionsandchoosetofeelwhatlurksunderneaththem.Wehavetheseemotionseverysingleday.Everysingledaywehaveclues as towhat is going on in our souls, underneath the surfaceemotionsandtriggers,whicharelittleATTENTION!Signsfromoursoulsaskingustostop,feelandinquireastowhatisreallygoingonemotionally.Every singleday,our soul is trying to speak tous, toinformusofwhatisREALLYhappening.

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fully experiencing that allows to release that emotion from thebodyandsoul.Whenweleaveoutfeelinganyemotioninourlifewecreateafalsebridgeorcopingmechanismtogooverthathole.Thisfalsebridgewill be certain ways that we behave, act or express ourselves,certainpersonaltruthsthatweusetodefendorprotect.Whenwefullyexperienceourfearobviouslymorespaceiscreated.Itislikeweenterinawider,biggerreality,becausefearinitsverynatureiscontractingandcanbefeltbyfeelingandactingsmall.Obviously negative spirits feed on this emotion the most. This istheir greatest food. The only way to release the hold that thesespiritshaveonyouisgointothatpureemotionoffearandallowitto take you down through all the layers, and then find yourexperientialpersonalfear.Thispersonalfeariswhatthespiritsareresonatingwithandamplifying.Theyareplugging into it becauseyouaretooafraidoffeelingthisfear,whichtheyalsoshare.Andifyouareenjoyingfear,itisagainspiritsthatareplayingout.Soitiswisethentostepawayfromthatandgointoyourownfearand its cause, and not get involved in that circus, because it willleadyounowhere;itwilljustkeepyouthere.Theydonotwantyoutogo intothecauseofyourownfearortheeventwhereyoufirstfeltfear.Alwaysrememberyourfear isaboutYOU.Andobviouslyyoumaythinkthatexternalforcesarecausingyoutofeelfearbutthecauseisentirelyyouremotionandifyoudidn’thavethatemotionwithinyouthenyouwouldnot feel it.So it isnotaboutanyoneelse; it isalwaysaboutyourselfandfeelingthatfearandwhenyouhavefullyexperienceditthenyoucanfeelwhatotheremotionsareinvolved.Someofyoumaybethinkingthatyouarehavingahardtime,thatyour emotional processingwill never end, or there is somuch todo; what are all these? FEAR, and staying on the surface of youremotions,whichiswherethisprocessingwillneverendasyoudonotget to the cause. It ismuchwiser togodeeply fora coupleofyearsandreachAt‐one‐mentwithGodthantostayonthesurface

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Andthenthesufferingoccurs. ‘Yes,IthinkI’lldoitthisway.Ohno,no,thatdoesnotwork, letmetryitthisway;Ohdamn,thatdoesn’tworkeither;Aaah,thatreallyhurts;IamgoingtohavetocontrolitsoIdonothavetofeelit;ohnoIamfeelingpowerless,letsgetangryorresentfulorrunaway;ohIamreallysadnow;nowIamgoingtostrategiseawayoutofitagain;oh,Iamscared.’This is goingoneveryday. It ishappeningonagenetic level, it ishappening in your soul. And your mind comes up with ways ofhaving to create some law that works for you. ‘This works in myrelationship,letsdothis;myboyfriendlikesthis,letstrythis.’That’sa‘boyfriend law’. But is it a Divine Law? No, it is your own law.Becauseyouthinkitworks.‘IfIdothis,IgetwhatIwant.IfIdothis,

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So your greatest fear is actually love. Because controllable love isnot love, that is still up in themind. God is not controllable. Youhavenochanceeverofcontrollingthis,andyouwouldnotwanttoeitherbecauseitissogood.Whenyoureceiveit,youdonotwanttocontrol it. You justwantmore of it. And that leads to the fear ofbeingoverwhelmed.That isexactlywhyyouhave togo inandbeoverwhelmed.So,whatcanyoudo tobe totallyoverwhelmed?What is themostoverwhelmingthing,rightnow,thatyoucanactuallydo?Ifyouwanttobreakthefear,doitrightnow.Actrightnow.Youcanspend30yearsinpsychotherapyoryoucandoitrightnow.Thereis only oneway to go through fear and that is to feel it totally inaction.The fear is in yourmind, ‘byyour actionsyouareknown’.

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We are obedient in love, because it is the greatest feeling, and infollowingit,morearises.ThatiswhywearescaredtogotoGod.Justhavealittlebitmorecourage,bewilling,prayconsistentlyforDivineLove,andallwillhappen.ALL.Everysoulhastheirtime. Itallcomesthroughyourwillingnesstofeel everything. To escape and avoid nothing. God is waiting foreach and every one of you. That love iswaiting to pour into you.Godwillgiveyoueverythingbeyondwhatyoucanevendreamof.AllthatyouthinkyouwantRIGHTNOWwillseemtobealittletoy,like a childish dream, when you start to really dive into theawesomenatureoftrueDivineLove.You come to a definite point in your evolutionwhere there is nofurtheryoucango.ThisisthetimetogodirectlytoGod,andthisisthe point when God can come in, warmly invited, desired andyearned for by your soul, and support your soul to go beyondyourself.So the bad news is that what you are being asked to do isimpossibleforyoutodo.WhatyouarerightnowwillneverbeabletounifywithGod.Whatyouarehastodieandbereborn.YoucanonlydoitwithGod’shelp.That isquitehumbling. ‘Ofmyself Icando nothing’. A masked and wounded separate self can never bewhole.Sothatisthebadnewsforyourself.Thenthereisthegoodnews.God’sloveishereforeachandeveryoneofusandbygoingdirectlytoGodwecanreceiveDivineLove.Anyone can do it, anyone and everyone. This good news comesthrough prayer. And the prayer becomes real through yourhumility, through your desire and through your increasingdependenceonGod.Thisisnoordinarydesire.Itisnotadesireforthethingsofthisworldthatyouhavedesiredbefore,orthepeopleof this world that you desired before. This is a totally differentdesire.It isonlythroughthisyearning, longingdesireofyoursoulthat God will feel you. This desire is the language of your soulconnectingtotheGreatSoulofGod.

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ThisistheonlylanguagethatGodrecognisesandfeels.Thelanguageofyourfeelingsandyearnings,inspirationsandaspirations,ofyourheartacheandheartbreak.ThisisthelanguagethatGodrespondsto.Therestofitislikebubblesinyourmind.Godisverysimple,justasisyoursoul.Whenyouusethislanguageofthesoul,Godwilldefinitelyrespond,guaranteed.AsyoustarttofeelmoreandmoreDivineLoveyouwillhavemorefaithinthat.Itis thisburningdesire, this flame inyoursoulandthe fireofGod’slove that will dissolve anything and everything. Then you do notwant anything else. That is burning desire. Nothing else matters.TheironyisthenthatinThis,everythingisgiven.

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PAINThemidwifeknowsthatwhenthereisnopain,thewayforthebabycannotbeopenedand themother cannotgivebirth. Likewise, foranew Self to be born, hardship is necessary. Just as clay needs to gothroughintenseheattobecomestrong,Lovecanonlybeperfectedinpain.51All pain occurs because of yourdenial and error against love andDivine Laws, in the past, and right now in your life andrelationships. Every time you feel pain, it is your soul recoiling,feelingwhatithasdone.Knowingthatloveisitsnature,anddoingitscompleteandtotalopposite,becauseofthewounds,hascreatedpain.Allpainissimplyourownfeltacknowledgmentofwherewehave erred against love,wherewe have not brought love into us.Andwherewehaveturnedawayfromlove.Turntowards,askfor,invite,welcomeandpraytofeelallthepainandharmyouhavecausedandgiventoothers,thepainandharmyou have received from others, and the pain and harm you haveinflictedonyourself.ThiswillbringyoubacktoTruth,nottheholeinyoursoulyouthinkistruth.Innocencearisesfromharmlessness.All suffering serves to cut away the dross from the gold of yoursoul. The substance of your suffering becomes the fuel for thetransformation of the substance of your soul. From a finite andmortalstateyoursoul transforms,onabase level, intoan infinite,immortallight.Sufferingservesyoutobecomehumbletoyoursouland its Source, and this humility fuels further deep desire andconsciouschoicestoreturntoDivineLove,andeventuallybecomeatonewithit.Deep inside agony and pain lies sweetness, a devastating beautythat brings the flame of your soul closer into the burning fire ofGod.Only thosewhoventuredeep intosuchuncharted territories

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anddarknessfindlightandtheluminoustreasuresofthefreeandsovereignsoul.Deepinyourpainislove,alovesosublime,sofullofgratitudeandreverencethatitdeservesitsguardianship.Onlythebrave,humble,deeply desirous and loving can enter these realms and walkthrough them, to emerge hand in hand with God, Who is eversmiling on all our weaknesses, ever caring, ever patient, everdesiringyoutoreturntothegreatestloveasoulcaneverknowanddesire.Thethoughts,‘Ishouldnothavetosuffer,Idonotwantpain,thisisanillusion,therehastobeanotherway,Iwilltrythat,’isattherootof all suffering. These thoughts are the rot of your soul, the falseinformation of your unfelt wounds speaking, trying to get you toshy away from your great inner treasures, the treasures that arethemapofyourroadtoDivineLove.As longasyouresistpainandharmyouhavegivenandreceived,andultimatelydonetoyourself,aslongasyouresistanyandallofyoursuffering,eventhatwhichyouarenotyetawareof,yoursoul’sevolution, (rather than your metaphysical evolution,) is slow. Inthisresistance,youcreatemore layers,morepain,moresuffering,toeventuallyworkthroughatsomepoint.Whynotdoitnow?Acceptance is an initiation. Accepting your pain, and choosingconsciouslytodiveintoit,islikeputtingoutyourhandtoGodandsaying,‘Here,takeme.IAmyours.Itrustyou,FatherMother,Itrustyour love. I Am but your Child.’ Then, the call is heard, and theflame of your pain can transmute into becoming the light of theworld.Remember,everythingisinreverse,sowhenwearecrying,itlookslikesufferingbutitisactuallythereleaseofsuffering.Andwhenweare out drinking and it looks like we are happy, we are actuallysuffering.Becausewhenyouareengaginginanyoftheseneedsorsubstitutes, you are actually distracting yourself. When you aresittingthereinpainyouareactuallyembracingyourselftoleadtothecauseofthepain,andthisismuchmoreofalovingact.Allpain

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occursbecauseofourdenialoflove.Byfeelingandembracingpainandgoingtoitscause,weareactuallysteppingtowardsGod.

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NEEDSANDSUBSTITUTESFORGODWetryanddistractourselvesfromfeelingourdeeperemotionsandour soul through many and various means. We create our ownlaws, our personal truths thatwe use to navigate through life, tosurvive in thisworld, toconformandgetby, throughwhatothershavedemonstrated tous andwe think then is truth.This is a lifeandworld thathasbeenartificially constructed,ALLbuilt aroundthe wound of being separated from love, the greatest need anddesireofoursouls.To move more into living in love, we need to see how we aresubstituting for love and truth in our life.We create substitutes tostop us from feeling our deeper wounds, and these substitutes,needsandaddictionskeepuscirclingroundandroundintheeffectsof these deep seated emotions that form the very fabric of ourwounded soul. The more we circle, the more frustrated we canbecome at our lack of progress, at our own unwillingness to feeldeeper,untilsomethinghasgottogive.We fill the holes of our wounds with cheap, pale imitations andsubstitutes from theworld and other people around us. All thesesubstitutesaremedicationsforthecausalwoundunderneath. It islike covering over a bleeding, cut off stumpof an amputated armwithapieceoftissuepaper,andhopingitwillstickanddothejob.A substitute can also be called an addiction. An addiction is anunhealedemotionwithinyourselfthatyourequiresatisfactionandfilling in fromanyoutsidesource.Addictionsrise fromour lackofhumility and unwillingness to feel our emotions.52 All addictionsareharmful,whetherphysical, sexual, emotional, or spiritual, andcaninvolvepeople,sex,relationships,drugs,alcohol,busynessandspiritinfluences,amongstmanyothers.Addictionsareyourdirectavoidanceofunhealedemotions,andtheresult of not taking personal responsibility. Addictions operating

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between partners at the emotional level all relate to childhoodemotions and can be further veiled by spirit influence and theamplifiedfearstheygenerate.Alladdictionsmustbehealedinorderto continue to receiveDivine Love to the point of At­one­mentwithGod.WhatwouldyoudowithouttheseaddictionsandsubstitutesforDivineLove?

• PartnerandParents–lookingforhumanlovetofillaneedinsidethatonlyDivineLovecanfulfill

• Food – comfort food and over eating, stuffing downemotions

• Drugs,alcohol,gambling–numbing,distortingtruedesire• Emotionaladdictionsandpatterns• Sex–holefillingwithhumanandsexuality• Animals – to comfort a wound of love, touch, lack of

childhoodaffection• Medicating your wounds – doctors, hypochondria, pill

popping,drugs,supplements,pharmaceuticalprescriptions• Religions–toturntowards,ratherthanwithin:beliefs• Job –not doing your soul purpose and living listlessly, for

theworld, in amundaneexistence, just to survive andgetby

• Books–todistractandentertainthealreadyconfusedandinformationoverloadofthemind,stayingawayfromfeelingthesoulandactuallyBeing

• Busyness– todistract from feelingandbeingalone to feelbehindsurfaceInternetandtelephone–tooverdistractFacebook and Twitter – to distract and remain in theminutiaeofdailylifeOver socializing and pointless gatherings that no longerserveyoursoul

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• Savingandchangingtheworld–makingoneselffeelbetterwith your next thing that you have never actually done…and/orjustifyingyourlifewiththeideaofservicetopushyouon,insteadoflookingatyourownself

• Gossipandidlechatter‐tostiflesilenceanddeeperfeelings• Theories and metaphysical speculation – to continue

dominionofmind• Overexercising–tostaystuckinaphysical‘high’andavoid

emotions• Hobbies–tokeepdistracted• Extravagance–to fill theholeswithexternal items, indulge

yourself and keep focused on the external as a source offillingyourselfup

• Fantasizing‐aboutanythingandeverything• Fashionandbeautycare–thebestbeautycarecomesfrom

healingoneself–thisistheantiagingserumextraordinaire!• Success, goals, intentions – running life by external laws

rather than delving within and allowing true soulmanifestation to occur once you have done the healing.Then you get given far more than what you could everintendwhilstinthewoundedstate.

• False laughter, false love, false joy, false friendship‐debilitatingtotrueself‐love

• Hugging–toomuchhuggingcoversoverwoundsthatneedtobefelt,notjustmedicated.

• Storiesoftheself,thatkeepyouonthesurface• Memories,nostalgia,sentimentality,idealizationofpastand

futureeventsandpeople,especiallyparentsorlovers• OverShoppingandwindowshopping• Toomuchsleep• ToomanymoviesandTV• Overhousecleaninganddecorating

Of course, we all need to engage in a few of these activities, andsomegoodcancomefromthem,butnotactuallythatmuch.Weusethem to distract ourselves from feeling most of the time. You aredoing it every day actively, or rattling around in your head(subconscious).When you are doing these things you are saying,

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“No, I don’twant God today.” “I can’t really be bothered.” “I wouldratherhavethesethingsthanhaveDivineLove.”Someofthesesubstitutescangobothways,butyoucanuseallofthem todistractyourself.Youneed tobevigilant towhatyouaredoingandwhichwayyouarefeeling.Insteadofdoingthesethings,justsitdownandsitthere.Bepresent.Befeeling,andjustsitthereand do nothing. Within a few moments you will start to feelsomething, soon yourmindwill be doing something and youwillgetrestlessandyouwillwanttogoanddooneofthesethings.Sothebest thing isnotdoanything, and just sit there, and soonyouwillfeelsomething,athoughtoranemotion,thatwillleadyoutoawound.Ah,thedespairofdoingnothing!Themoredesireyouhave,themorehumbleyouare,thenthetimeof your Unionwith Godwill happen faster. God ismagnetised toyour desire and thosewho arewilling to feel.Yet, your desire forGodisveryoftenlessthanyourdesireforsuffering.Butsufferingisavery big word, just as love is, so we break it down into all thecomponents of suffering. Because suffering is limited, it can beknown and seen clearly. Youwant thismore than youwant God.Youwantyourpartner,yourparents,yourbooks,yourdrugs,yourjob ... youwantallof these temporary thingsmore thanyouwantanddesireGod.YouwantfearmorethanyouwantGod.Everyone can get glimpses ofDivine Love.With the glimpses youhave,youbecomeready,willingandabletogothroughanythingtoreceivemoreDivineLove.That iswhyGodgaveyouthatglimpse,becauseingettingthoseglimpsesyourfaithdeepens.Itisuptoyoubecauseyouhaveyourdesireandyourchoice.Soifyoureallywanttoexperienceitfully,thenyouwilldoitandthatisup toyou.Onlyyoucandeceiveyourself, butnowyouareaware.Nowyoucanbeeducatedaboutyourchoicesandinthatchoiceanddesireyoucanchoosetofeeloryoucanchoosenottofeel.Nowyouknow how you are not feeling and now you know how you aresubstituting.Thisisasoberingthought.

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You want to be loved, but have got pale imitations and cheapsubstitutes fromother sources to cover thishole. It is like buyingcheapcostumejewelryfromasecondhandstore,whilstapricelesspearlsitsrightinsideyourheart.OnlyGodcanfulfillyoursoul.Puredesirepurifies the soul. Puredesire is infinite, it never endseven when you are in union with God because God has burningdesire all the time andHis burning desire is to know you totally.TheverysubstanceofDivineLove isalso inextricably intertwinedwithburningdesire;thisiswhyitiscalledThePassionofChrist.Itis through burning desire and Divine Love that everything getsgiven,andeverythingmanifests.Youcannotaskformoredesire,youcanasktobemorehumbleandyou can ask to feel those emotions of fear, pride or shame thatblock you from feeling more desire and following it, from thisdesire then being able towell up fromwithin you, unbidden andunbounded. You can pray to feel these blocks, and this then willlead tomore humility andmore openness; and thenmore desirewillarisefromwithinyou.Thislistofneedsandsubstitutesyouengageineverydaystopsyoufrom feeling. You can drop half of them in the next days. Thatmeansyouwillbecomehalfasmuchmoreopentothepossibilityofreceiving Divine Love. In getting honest with yourself, it can behelpful to narrow down this list to the ones that are really yourpersonaldistractions,downtotwentyorso.Sothesearetheonesyou need to eliminate. Cut out these twenty that you are mostplugged into. Be honestwith yourself. Itwill lead tomoreDivineLovebeingabletoenteryoursoulandtransformitforever.YouwillbecreatingthespaceforIttocome.Itcannotcomeintoastuffed and full container, overflowingwith rubbish. You need toempty out your inner and outer space to then set the stage forDivine Love to enter, and for your desire to grow in its intensity.Thisprocessmaybehardatfirstastheseparateselfwhingesandcomplains;butthistoowillpass.

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Pray about, and allow yourself to experience and release theunderlyingemotionsthatdrivetheaddictionsandneedsforthesesubstitutes. Feel all the layers, from the effects that you arecurrentlyin,tothecause.PraytoreleasetheemotionconnectedtoWHYyouchoosetoavoiddeeperemotionalinjuries.

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APRAYEROFLOVEMyBelovedFatherMotherGod,CreatorofHeavenandEarth,CreatorofallUniverses,CreatorofmysoulGodofallgods,GodofLoveMyLoveofloves,IloveYouYou are the greatest love, the Love that I have alwayswished forand looked for in thepeopleand thingsof thisworld,butwhich Ineverfound.YouaremyLoveofloves,allelsepalestoyou,allelseisnotevenareflectionofYourLove.ThereisnothingIwantmore,andnothingelseIcandowithout.Allelsecancomeandgo,butYouremain.Andthis,YourLove,isallIdesire.Helpmetoopenmyheart,mysoul,totheinflowingofYourDivineLoveNow,andforevermoreAmen.

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ADDICTIONTOSELFNeedsandsubstitutesare thebasisof the spiritual circuswith itsmultifarious phenomena of altered states, avatars and gurus, andmistaken ideals about God. Whilst having spiritual experiencesdoesnotmakeaspiritualperson,spiritualexperiencesdopointtothere being something else, diffusing the grip of the ego and thebody‐mind. However, getting stuck in the phenomena is a hugetrick.Dropallof thisandtruthwillmostassuredlyreveal,but thecatchisyouhavetofeelyourwoundsfirst.Allthesetricks,glamoursandmoreenticeyoutostayasleep,whilstdeluding yourself that you are not. Religions are built on them.Sectsdependonthem.Theyarethelifebloodofnewagetheologies.Theglamourandseductionofthedreampromisesyouawakeningwhich is just another type of dream, awarmer fluffier one, but adreamnonetheless.Thehumanpropensitytobecomeaddictedtoanythingoranyoneisused in many ways. It is used to sell and buy, to falsely soothe,comfort and hide, to thrill. One of the biggest addictions is to theprocess of metaphysical growth. There are innumerable spirals,religions, traditions, methods, techniques, self‐help manuals,attract‐what‐you‐wantschemesthatkeeptheseekerseeking.Thisbecomes a self‐perpetuating spiral, validating the mask of thewounded self.The constantprocessingof experience in themask,the surface emotional levels of fear and shame, leads to egoicnirvana, a crack high of the ego, as one gets more and moreenmeshedinthesurfaceselfandprocessingit.This is the façade, the mask that we use to avoid going into thewoundedself,whichthenbecomesthegatewaytotheRealSelf,thepristine soul, the Soul Realized One, which in turn becomes theopening into the transformationofbecomingaDivinesoul,at‐onewithGod.Like ahamster running aroundon thewheel of this façadeof theself,we choose to keep it going as it is comfortable and validatesthat we are doing good, doing right, growing ‘bit by bit’. This

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growing bit‐by‐bit in an unthreatening way to the mask of thewounded self allows the mask to adapt to its slightly newerenvironmentandfillinthegapswithmoreofitself,withmoreofitssubtlerbeliefs,justificationsanddenials.There is nobreakthrough.Thebreakthroughoccurswhenyoudoseveralbigpiecesofhealingyourcausalwoundsatthesametime,so a hole is blown open in the mask of the self, a piece of thewounded soul is felt and released, allowing Divine Love to bereceived. The safety net is gone, and this glimpse of Divine Lovethen becomes the motivation to continue at ever‐greater speedsintothearmsofGod.Oncefelt,DivineLovecanneverbeforgotten,andthecourageouswillbecomefuelledbythis.Wewanttostayintheprocessingofsurfaceemotionsratherthencompletethecycle intofeelingthecausalwoundsofthesoul,as itvalidates a sense of being good, feeling good,worthy, right, doingsomething positive, feeling worthy of being loved, wanting therecognitionofthis,tobeadoredandlookedupto.Breakingoutofthis cycle means the end of the masked self, and this takescourageous choices and deep desire, and then following thesechoicesnomatterwhatittakes.Thesameimpulseanddriveforaddiction,oncereversedandseenfor the true desire that lies underneath it, leads one into DivineLove. Maybe it is genetic, maybe it is hardwired into the brain,maybe it ispartof theyearning for somethingelse to fill theholeinside.Ormaybedesireisalwaystherewithinus,ithasjustbeenreroutedintootherthings.But‘addiction’toGodandTruthisthroughdesireandhumility,leadingthewaytoliberationifoneistotalinit.Thenthepainandthrilloftheaddictionscanbeburntaway,andanewroadtaken.Todesiretruthmeansonedissolvesallelsethatstandsinitsway.So become addicted, become attached to God, revel in this.Whatelseisworthyofbecomingaddictedto?Desireitaboveallelse.Thegreatestaddictionwehave is toselfreliance; thebeliefof thewoundedsoul. It is themostcompelling,absorbingandseemingly

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Humans are crack junkies; simply substitute the word crack/experienceformasksandsoulwounds,etvoila!Hereyouare.Thisis humanity’s dominating force and hunger. Not the hunger todismantle the masks and wounds of yourself, but the hunger toexperience them more and fill yourself up with them. All lifebecomes about satisfying this need, and experiencing, again andagain, the thrill and rush of what your mask and your woundssupposedly have to offer you. This thrill is both pleasurable andpainful to the ego; you are addicted to both faces, for you cannothaveonewithouttheother.This iswhatdrivesthemachineofthemaskedandwoundedsoul.Oncethequestforfulfillingtheseneedsandwoundshasdied,andthedesireforGodandTruthtakesitsplace,thenrealitycandawn.Oncethepuppetoftheseexperienceshasleftthestage,thenDivineLoveisgivenmoreandmore.Maskedself–whatyouportraytootherstohideyour:Wounded self – the wounds of the soul, that when felt/releasedleadto:Perfectedsoul–theperfecthuman,freeofthesoulserrorsDivineSoul–thenextsteptobecomeatonewithGodWhat are your masks that you use every day to stop feeling yourcausalwounds?Forexample, fearcoverswhatIdonotwantto feel,orwouldfindoutwhenIactuallyfeel.Shamecoversthebigblackholeinsideme.Feelingsmallcoversmyunworthiness.Heavinesscoversmybeingnotworthy to be light. Being thenice, kind girl or boy coversmylackofpassionanddesiretoliveandbeamanorwoman.The perennial workshop person: looking very present and willing,butstayingonthesurface,nevertrulyfeelinganddivingintowhatis being shared. Nourishing the mask, is doing something, butstayingonthesurfaceoffeeling.TheMatronorfather:dominatingthrough giving, covering my lack of self‐love. The Mother: takingcareofotherstofeelgoodandcoverthelackofself‐love.

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Thesuperior­inferiormask: lookingdownonothersandtheworld,covering the inner feeling of inferiorityand arrogance, thinking Iknowbetter. If you ever feel this, it’s because you feel inferior toothers whom you perceive to be better than you, so you replacefeeling this feeling by looking down on others. This too is pride,whereyoufeelinvulnerablebecauseyouarewounded,andsoyouproject the image that I cannot be touched, and do not have anypain.Youprojectapowerfulfacade,incontrol,alovingimagesopeoplewilllikeyouandseehowspiritualyouareasyouconformtotheirideals ofwhat it is like tobe spiritual. If you arewithpeople youfeel 'better'than, you feel superior as amask, but if you arewithpeople you feelinferior to, suddenly the beast of unworthinessopensitsjawsandsucksyouin.You feel you have to be special to deserve love, to deserveGod'slove.IfyouhavenothingtoofferanyoneotherthanLove,allyourplansandmanipulationstobespecialareactuallypointless.The manipulator: get what you need. The controller: to not feelpain. Being well organised: to cover the mess you make justbeneaththesurface. TheSelectivesharer:sharingtogetwhatyouneed, covering your nakedself. The generous one: giving to getcrumbsof love.Theresponsibleone: sopeoplewill loveandneedyou.TheMarthaarchetype:seetheChristBlueprintbook.Beingfalselyhappywithfalsejoy:theProzacnation.Pretendingtobe happy and lighthearted, understanding andkind, full of light,withlotsofknowledgetohidetheholeofdarknesswithin.Feelingthat if you are not perfect you will not be loved,or cannot love,andhavenothingtoofferanyone.

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YOURSOULCONDITIONForasoultobecomeopenandreceptive,itmustbecomeawareofandfeelitsactualconditionofbeingrunbyitswounds,wherethesoulistheslaveofthewoundratherthanthemasterofthem.Thisis where a skilled guide can come in – to help show you theseobstacleswithin you that block out the inflowing of Gods love toyou, tohelpyou tobecomehumbleand realizeyour illusionsandhowyouaredenyingyourtruepassions,yearningsanddesiresbysubstitutingthemforaddictionsandpeople.Until this awareness happens, the soul is effectively dead, zombielike;thelightsareon,butnooneisathome.Untilyousee/feelthematrixofyourownwoundsandneeds,yourshadow,neitherDivineLovenortheactionsofyoutrulyfollowingDivinelawscanhappen.Whenever you get distracted by the mind or the world you canalways return back to the feelings of your soul and its condition,and that then is the foundation to be able to grow. You are notgoingtogrowfromthemindorall thedistractionsthattheworldhas foryou.Youareonlygoing togrowthroughyoursoulandbyfeelingwhereyoursoul isat.So this isoneof thekeysalongwithhumility,desireandchoice.Becomingawareofyoursoulconditioneverydayistouchingbase,touchinghome.Thatmeansbeingrealwithyourself,beingrealandhonest. If there isno space,Godwill not come in.NoWay toGodwilleverworkunlessyoucreatespace.So,itisimportanttobeawareofyoursoulcondition,tofeelwhereitisrightnow.Youcanvisualiseitaswell,andinbecomingawareof this, one can really begin the process of opening up to receiveDivineLove.Itisalwaysgoodtocheckineverydaywiththestateofyoursoul.Ask God to see the true state of your soul through visualizing apictureofyourbody.Lookaroundthebodyandseewhatisoccurring–arethereholes,tearsetc.Whatemotionsarestoredintheseholes?Whathascausedthem?So,whatdoesyoursoulTRULYfeellikerightnow?

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Oftenthisisquiteshockingtosee.Nowyou feel it,were youbeing IN these feelingswhenyouwerespeakingtopeopleinthelasttwohours?Wereyoufeelinghowyouarefeelingnow,sharingthatandbeingthatwithothersinthelasttwohours,orwereyoujustcoveringthatupwithsomethingelse?Were you authentically being in your soul condition? Were youstayinginthefeelingsofyoursoul?You have this choice, to stay in it, or to leave and to escape. ForthosewhoreallydesireDivineLove, theytalk less,andwhentheydospeak,theyspeakhowtheyarefeelingandtheythenexpressorinvestigate that. You have to be constantly choosing, constantlydesiring,constantlyfeelingandchoosingtofeel.Itisnotsomethingthatyoudojustwhenyouareinaworkshoporinameditation,orwhen you pray. This is something that is happening all the time,andYOUhavetodoit ifyouwanttomergewithDivineLove.Fullself‐responsibilitymeansyouarechoosingallthetime.It isaWayoflife.Soareyougoingtokeeponbetrayingyoursoulorareyougoingtoget real? Love would be real. A loving soul would be real withwherevertheyareat,atanytime,toanybody.Beingrealmeansyouwillquicklyevolve.Distractingyourselfwillmakesureyoudonotevolve. The only thing that stops you being real and receivingDivineLoveisyou.What stops you is fear of feeling your wounds, which is fear ofhealing the wounds because if you heal the wounds there will bemassivechangeinyourlife.Andyoumaysay,‘Ijustdon’tknowwhatIwill be like,whatmy lifewill be like.’ That iswhy it is called the‘unknown.’That is the funpart.Oryoumaysay, ‘But Iwon’tbe incontrol.’Yes.Theunknownholdsyourgreatestsouldesiresandthegreatestlove.Whatyouknowatthemomentdoesnot.

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SHAMEShame is a deep contraction, a turning away from life force, aturning and imploding inward. It makes you turn away fromeverything and everyone, as you feel too unworthy and tooashamedtoshowyourtrueface,holdyourheaduporexpresswhatyoutrulyfeel.Itaffectsandcontractsyourbody,mindandsoul.Youwanteveryonetogoaway.Shamemakes youactively seekout isolation. In shame, you thinkno one can help you, and even if they want to, they cannotpenetratewhatyouyourselffeel.Shameisanumbingofthesoulasitcowersinsideitself;toonumbtoevenfeelfear.IfeelIhavedonesomethingsobadthatitcanneverbeforgiven.In our shame, we just want to curl up like a fetus, back into thewomb, away from anyone, away from prying eyes. Replaying thefeelingsoreventsoftheshame,overandover,onetorturesoneselfendlessly.Inawayitislikebeinginhell,asyouconstantlycontractyourself,overandoveragain in thisendlessrevisitationofeventsandfeelingthesurfaceoftheevent.Ofcourse,onecantryandrunaway from feeling this, numbing oneself even further. Alcohol,drugs, sex, job, absorbing oneself in themundanities of everydaylife, any distraction can be welcome. But you have to feel it, andkeep feeling it,with prayer, so you can release the emotion fromyoursoulsoastoenterthedeeperemotionandthentruelove.If you are ashamed or afraid ofwhat is inside you, then youwillstay on the surface. Shame is to be felt, but there are thingsunderneathshame,andshameisactuallyself‐punishment,whichisnotwhatGodwantsforyou.So,asktofeeltheshameandfear,thenyoucangointothecausalemotionunderneathit.Shame is when you feel you have disgraced yourself, when youhaveletyourselfdown,whenyouhavenotdonejusticetoyourself,whenyouhavewalkedawayfromthetruth,whenyouhavewalkedaway from love.When you have done harmful things to self andothers,whenyoumakeyourselffeelmoreunworthythroughyour

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actsandwords.Whenyoumakeyourselffeellessthanorinferior,orwhenyoumakeanotherfeellessthanorinferior.Whenyouhavethispain,allyoucangiveoutispainalso.Beingshamedorhumiliatedexternally, intheworld, isoneaspectthat can be more easily travelled through by you as it is moreobvious and immediate; the deep inner feelings of shame, (oftencoming through repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse)thatwecancarryaroundwithusandnotfullyadmitorfeelarenotsoeasilydealtwith,andafteraperiodoftimetheireffectsservetocutusofffromourveryfeelingnatureitself.Wemaynotevenbeawareof,orfeel,thisinnershame,soburieditcanbe.Closely linkedtoguilt forpastactions,eitherthatwehavedoneorhavebeendonetous,shameisaremindertoaskformercyfromGod for thosewehavebeen in contactwith andharmed, orbeen shamed by, (in which case we forgive them when we can).Guilthere is apositivemoral sign, as it remindsuswehavedonewrongandhurtanother,thatwehavemadeanerroragainsttruthandlove.Ifwefollowthecallofguiltwithourheartwithasinceredesire to atone for our mistakes, and we involve God in thisdynamic,thenwecanrectifyourerrorsandcleanseoursouls.Ifwedonot,moreshamewill run likeanundercurrent throughoutourfeelings.Shame isaneffectofnotbeingable toexpressourgriefproperly.Whenwecannotexpressour full rangeof feelings, this isbecausethere is an emotional obstacle in the way, an unresolved deepwound.Shameisaheavyweightthatsitsonyourheart,andsomeearlyChristiancommunitiesevensawitasawingeddevilsittingonyourheart,cacklingasitweighedyoudown.Ofcourse,wehavetofeeltheactualfeelingofshamebeforewecangodeeper into thecausalwoundand love.Tobebraveenough tofeelshameisthefirststep.Ifwedonotfeelit,wecanpraytoGodtoinvokeit,askingGodtomakeyoufeelanyshameleftinyoursoul.This brave prayer, repeated a number of times in deep, sinceredesire,willdefinitelymakeyoufeelitifthereisanyleft.

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Our emotional soil depends on us being able to feel everything.Whenwe are able to feel the full frequency spectrumof emotion,withoutrestraint,judgmentorcondition,simplyfeelingeverythingthatarisesinthemoment,thenwecanbecometrulyloving.Thisisthe gift of shame, and any emotion. Without experiencing it, wecannotbewhole; alwaysapartofourheartwill be closed.Asweexperienceitall,theheartcanopen.

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However, we will suffer for it at some point, as by choosing toignoreDivine laws,wewill createpainful circumstances andeverrepeatingpatternsuntilwechoosetoadheretothelawsoflove.Freewill to followDivine lawscomes throughknowing them!Wecan feel many of these Divine laws intuitively, through self‐discovery and observation, without knowing them intellectually.Withourdedicationandwillingness to follow these innerurgingsand knowings, we can align ourselves to them. However, no onepersonknowseverything.Onceyouknow,youcanchoosetogiveyourall to followingtheselaws, and realign yourself to them.Continually choosing to followtheselawssetsupaminibattleofthesoulwithinus,wherewewillbecome tempted tonot follow them. As this happens, all kinds ofsituations inour liveswillcropuptoseewhetherourchoicesarealignedtoourdeepsinceredesireandwillingnesstofollowDivinelaws, nomatterwhat the cost is to us, our relationships and oursituationonEarth.Ourcontrol,exacerbatedbyourlackofempoweringfreewill,stopsus from accepting and embracing the effects that our own andothers choices create. If we do accept these free will choices, itmakesustrulyhumble,andopensusupfurthertofeelthebattleofemotionswithinour soul, and thebattlebetweenheart andhead,mindandsoul.We can deepen into the truth of this as we commit to living byDivine laws under this pressure, pressure which makes of us adiamond,enablingustolookatoursoulanditswounds,andalsotokeep praying to have the strength to follow Divine laws that areeternal, rather than being stuck to rigid, worldly laws that aretemporaryandcreatedbymaninhis/herownignoranceofreality.Whoandwhatistherealauthorityinlife,inyourlife,inallworlds?Woulditnotbemostwisetofollowtheselawsfirstandforemost?Wecanusespiritualityasthebestmaskever.Wecanpretendtobespiritual tomaskourweakness,anger, fears, ourmaleand female

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feelings and concerns. We can use service to deny our soul’sdesires.Wecanhelpothers toavoid lookingatourselves.Wecanloveotherstohidetheholewithinourselves.Wecanintellectuallymasturbateourselvesoff andanyoneelsewhocomesnearus.Wecan pretend to be loving, all thewhile judging under the surface.We can deny our sexuality or indulge in it,whilst having a sweetfacadethatisnotwhoyouREALLYare.We can deny ourselves to appear good for others, and for ourparents. We can project our guilt and shame onto others in apersuasive way so they can make itbetter for us by serving ouragenda, our holes and needs. We do not discern about truthbecause we live in the soapy illusion. Our idea of love is taintedbecauseweprojectouridealsaboutloveontothosewhomwethinkareloving–buttheyarejustreflectingourownlackoflove.Wecanlove others because ofwhat they bring us to cover overthe cold,frozen, ugly parts of ourselves.Whenwe get a breakthrough, wecanoftenrunaway from itand tryandrevertback toournormalmaskedselfoutoffear,terrorandfalsesecurityandsafety.Unworthiness iswhat liesbehindpride,apridewhich isbasedonbetter than/less than, a judgment, a separation, either superiorityor inferiority. This pride is subtle, marking us out as self reliant,abletodoeverythingmywayandbymyself.Thisprideandlackofhumility sneaks into many belief systems and becomes theirfoundation,andhasbeendistortedbymanyreligions tosuit theirown control issues they create within the confines of their ownreality.AllreligionsareLuciferianinnature.Pridemasksourunworthiness.Thismaybeahardconcepttograspmentally,butyourheartcanfeelitnonetheless.Pridestopsusfrombeing humble, from acknowledging God and Love, and actuallystopsthatDivineLovefromenteringus.Itisonlyyouyourselfwhocan prevent Divine Love changing you from a mortal into theimmortal.‘LetusneverceasetorealizethatGod’sLoveiswaitingforeach and all of us, and that when we come to God with faith andearnestaspirations,God’sLovewillneverbewithheldfromus.’‘MyGrace issufficient foryou, formypower ismadeperfect inweakness.’2

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Cor12:9In revealing this, there can be nomore secrets, places to hide orretreat to inyour lifewhatsoever inanyway. In therevealing liesthesoftness, thegentling.All that is rigidmeltsandopens.This isan ever deepening egoic weakening and keenly felt humanvulnerability, which sublimely transforms into an ever increasingrelianceonGod,asyouconsciouslyallowyourselftobeknownbyGod, allowing God into every nook and cranny willingly, humblyandevengratefully.ThereisnowheretoretreattosavetheArmsofGod.Inthiscrucibleis created a harbour for all emotions to be felt, processed andhealed. All emotions, whatever they are, can be felt, which thenleadsintoastateoflove,notfear.Tofeelunworthyistofeel,onaverydeepprimordialgeneticlevel,that I donot deserve love, and in fact I turn away from it.We allhavethisinourDNA,hiddendownwherewefeartotread,whatwefeartofeel.Unworthinessisourfirstgeneticmodification,aneffectof the first turning away fromDivineLove, the first turning awayfromGodthatthefirsthumanparentsimprintedintoourDNA.Anditisonlyaccessedthroughthedeepestofemotions,andthedeepestof loves.Consciousness and talkof oneness, nice as itmay sound,willnottouchthisspace.Onlythedeepestofemotionaldelvingsinallwayswill.To feelunworthy is to feelyoudonotdeserveall youdesire.Youmayknowwhatyoursouldesires,butyouforgetit,shoveittotheside, busy yourself with other things, busy yourself with helpingothers, distract yourself with spiritual things, worldly things,children, partners ....everything. Anything apart from lovingyourselfandgivingyourselfwhatGodwishestogiveyou.Butthisisyourchoice,waitingforyoutoenact.Goddoesnot makeyoufeelunworthy–Hehasnodesiretodothattoyou.Wedoitourselves,throughourownerrorladenactionsandthroughtheinheritanceofour firstparents,aswellaswhatmayhavebeendonetous. (SeetheHealing Prayer InTheDimesnionsof Lovebook for away tofeelthis.)

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Feeling unworthy is to have a constant sinking of the heart, aconstantlettingdownfeelingwithinyoursoul,aperennialsadnessthatkeeps comingback, aquietdesperationanddeep frustration.Unworthinessiswhatallmysticsoflovehavehadtofeel,forthesereasons. And even themost sincere of us try to avoid this feelingthatisencodedintothebasementofourDNA,inthetaprootsofourfalse programming. And we have to feel this in order to movebeyonditintoourtrueinheritance:DivineLove.MotherFatherGod,Creatorofallthings,GodofLove,Help me to feel my unworthiness, and the worthiness to love youaboveallelse.God,helpmetoreceivemoreofyourDivineLove.God,givemethestrength,thehumblestrength,tofollowyourDivinelawsandtruthsaboveallelse.God,helpmetofullyfeelthedeepestcauseofmyunworthiness.Havemercyonmysoul.To followDivine Laws at the cost of everything else is one of themost crushing things for the ego, especially when you are beingpersecuted and unjustly treated,morally and physically for doingjust this. Love is not just. To accept this is tough. Look at Christundergoinghis torture, (MelGibsons filmPassionof theChrist isaperfectexample)stayinginthetruthandDivinelawsofGodbeingtheonlyauthority.Not recognisingorbowing toanyother lawonanylevelisanexampletousall,tostaywiththetruthoflove.Thiswastrulymagnificentinwordandaction.For the rest of us, feelings can arise of anger, resentment andinjustice at being badly treated, at being ripped off, stolen from,betrayed,abandoned,denied,judged,morallywrongedandshovedaside. As we uncover and feel these emotions, we get closer andcloser to following Divine laws as our resistance to them fadesaway, piece by piece. We become more humble, softer and ourprioritiesshiftfromwhatseemstobeimportanttothemindoftheworld,theappearance,towhatisReal,whatusuallycannotbeseen.NothingofthisworldseemssoimportantanymoreasweshiftintoBeingandlessdoing.

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Manypeopletryto‘payoff’throughservingothers,theirownsenseofunworthinessandguiltbasedonkarmaorpastactions,andthisis a very long route to resolving your karma. You can be on thiswheel for a very, very long time. Of course, there is always crossover between receiving and giving (and in truth they are one) aswhat you receive will bloom out to others in many ways, but intruththiswillnotbeoutofobligation,guilt,fear,pride,andhidingoravoidingemotionswithinus.Thisistherescuersyndrome–theonewhorescuesothersistheonewhoneedsrescuingthemselves!Without some helpwewill never be able to see all thewoundedpartsofourselves, asweare too involvedand immersed in them,tooclosetothem,unabletodetachandseetheseveils.Forthisthentomergewithself‐loveistheuniquejourneythateachsoul has to take to return back into Original Innocence. It is thisdelicatedancethatestablishesatruefoundationforlove,bothselfanddivine, so that there isno longer anydifferenceor confusion,butratheraseamless,flowingfeeling.Thereisnoseparationinlove,andtoexperiencethisisthejourneyweareallon.Todosomeanswetravelintoourownunworthiness,the unworthiness of humanity, and feel it. In feeling, so we canrelease with the awareness there are other emotions lyingunderneaththatwillreleaseusforever,suchasgrief.Unworthinessmakesyoubargain,placate,compromiseandselloutyour cherisheddreams,yourdeep innerknowingofwhoyouare.You enact this within yourself, with others, and in intimaterelationship.Youcompromiseandreasonwiththeflowoflifeitself,youbargainwithyoursoul,youplacateotherstoassuageyourownguilt and fear of being who, and what, you are and have beencreatedtobe.You know this deepwithin you; yetmay find it hard to viscerallyfeelfullyinitsnakeddepthsandsoulscreamingfrustration.Thisiswhenadeepsenseofguiltmaskedbysheerstucknessstymiesyoueven further, another layer of darkness cloaking you,making the

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Divinepatternseemevenfurtheraway.Thejourneyoffeelingallofthisisthejourneyhome,apathwayofsacredwoundsthatbecomearoyalroadbringingyoubacktoyoursovereignsoul,loveandthearmsofGod.Unworthiness stopsus fromasking for love, knowingwhat toaskfor,orevenwhat‘it’is,andthereforeblocksusfromeverreceivingit. It stops one loving oneself, and stops one feeling how to loveoneself. Living this creates a victim complex within oneself. Feelinto this. Frustration, anger, powerlessness, contraction,unworthiness all work from gross to subtle and ‘secret’ levels. Ifyou think you do not have any of this, feel again. Once you feelcontrolled, you feel trapped and then try to control in somewayback.Thepowerofemotionsandsexualfirearemixedupintherewithinthebodyandsoul,mediatedbytheDNA.But now you can do something about it. Remember, along thispathwaythatyouhavechosentotake,anddespiteyourresistance,‘weareeachultimatelygoodanddeeplyconnectedtoalllife.Wearecapableofdeepintimacywithanother.Thereisorderandmeaningto our lives, which we can gradually uncover from within. Theprocess of facing and accepting all of our inner selves will bringpeace,love,harmony,happiness,andfulfillmentinourlives.’53Thisisanotherbasichumanlovelaw:What I want from another is what I am unwilling to feel withinmyself.Igivethatwhichimostneed,whichconnectsto:Treatothersasyouwouldliketobetreated,anddoforotherswhatyoudoforyourself.54

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GRIEF‘Surrenderingtoyoursorrowhasthepowertohealthedeepestofwounds.’Feeling our grief is oneof thedeepest causal emotions, literally amatterof lifeanddeath. Ifwechoose tonot feelourdeepgrief, itwill always haunt us, lurking in the subconscious, running like adarkundercurrentthroughoutourlivesandrelationships,creatingalltheharmfuleffectsofourlivesandcloudinguswithaperennialsense of incompletion. If we are not at‐one with God, there isalwaysasignthatthereismoretogrieveanddiscover!In grief, we reach the core emotion underneath all others. It takesbraverytopraytoenterthisstateandfeeling.Griefisamovingandhealingcausalemotion– itmovesandreleasesall theenergythatwasstuckinallthelayersofanger,fear,shame,painetal,throughdeepcryingandfeeling.Thisishowwehealdeeply.As the African shaman Sobonfu Some shares, ‘I was never asked,“Aren’t you finished grieving yet?” Rather, theywould say, “Haveyougrievedenough?Haveyoucriedenough?Weseethatinlifeitisnecessary to grieve those things that no longer serve us, and letthemgo. It isso important tohavewaystoreleasethesepains, tokeepclearingourselves.Hangingontooldpain justmakes itgrowuntil it smothers our creativity, our joy, and our ability to connectwithothers.Itmayevenkillus.55Itisnaturalthatpeoplearoundyoustarttogrievewhenyoudo.Weknowthatwhenyouhavepainit’snotapersonalpain;itisapainofthe whole group. We experience a collective sharing, so that anindividualdoesn’tneedtobearalltheweightofthesuffering.Thereisapriceinnotexpressingone’sgrief. Imagineifyouneverwashed your clothes or showered. The toxins that your bodyproduces just from everyday livingwould build up and get really

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stinky. That is how it is with emotional and spiritual toxins too.What we must remember is that, the more these toxins rise themorewehaveatendencytoblameorhurtothersaroundus.Peopleneverharmothersoutofjoy,theygivepaintoothersbecausetheytooarehurtorinpain.Therecanbesomuchgrief thatwegrownumbfromtheunfeltandunexpressedemotionsthatwecarryinourbodies.Unexpressedhurtandpaininjuresoursouls,andcanbelinkeddirectlytoourgeneralsense of spiritual drought and emotional confusion, not tomentionthe many illnesses we experience in our lives. Many of us sufferfrommedicalconditionsthataregrief‐related.Grieving,whetherinprivate or in community, has many scientifically proven healthbenefits,fromloweringbloodpressureandrisksofheartattackstosimplyhavingabetterqualityoflife.Weneed to see grief not as a foreign entity, not as an alien tobehelddownorcagedup,butasanaturalprocess.Astherecipientofsomeone’sgriefwealsomustunderstandthatitisOKforsomeonetoexpresspain.Intoday’sworld,mostofuscarrygriefanddonotevenknowit.Wehavebeentrainedataveryyoungagehownottofeel.IntheWest,weareoftentaughtthattobegoodgirlsandboyswehave to “suck it up.” The consequences are that even with yourmost intimate and trustworthy friends you might feel like, “I amburdeningthem.”Cryinginfrontofothersistoooftenaforbiddenfruit.Welearntocompartmentalizeourgriefbecauseexpressingitinanunwelcomingplacewillonlyleadtomoregrief.Wearetaughtthat the people who are closest to us have noway of holding uswhenwefallapart.Weareallinpainsomewhere,somehow,untilweareinUnionwithSource.There isnoneed toblameothers.Blame, shame,andguiltcome frombeingunable to express ourgrief properly.Howcanwepretend to be happy, peaceful and lovingwhenwe have somuchpain and grief? Positive expressions of our grief are healing.However,thelackofexpressionofourgrieforitsimproperreleaseis

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what is at the root of the general unhappiness and depression thatpeoplefeel,allofwhichleadtowarandcrimes.Communalgrievingofferssomethingwecannotgetwhenwegrievealone. Through validation, acknowledgement and witnessing,communalgrievingallowsustoexperiencealevelofhealingthatisdeeplyandprofoundlyfreeing.Eachofushasabasichumanrighttothatgenuinelove,happinessandfreedom.’Willyougiveyourselfthisgifttoday?GRIEFANDSEPARATIONFROMGODGrief creates deep‐seated soulful and biological responses toseparation and loss. These primordial responses create patternsand unconscious behaviorswithin us, whichwe then assume is arightful and natural part of our own self. These gut felt responsesare survival mechanisms whose prime focus is on restoring thebondslosttoobjectlost.When faced with loss, primordial, instinctual cords of attachmentactivatetotryandreinstatearelationshipofsomekind;ayearningfor therelationshiptoreturnbirths.Anytimewefeel triggered inany deeper feeling of separation, cordswill arise from this deep‐seatedgeneticprogram.Theunfelt,unexplored,disavowedfeelinglingersoninusuntilwediveintoit.Butwhat andwhom these cords of attachments snake out to areoftenmisleadingandeasilymanipulated,andinourdesperationtoreconnect, to feel that love again,any form of that love again, weforge false bonds or substitute bonds. This is where false gods,humanrelationships,religions,parents, intimaterelationshipsandother substitutes come in‐ to substitute forGod’s role. And aswearestillingriefonanunfathomablelevelandhavenotresolvedit,weacceptandpandertothisfalselove.This false love ispowerand lightofmind,cloakedbyathinveiloffeelingthatspeakseloquentlyandhastheappearanceoflove,butisnot.Seeingasweareingrief,anythingwilldotoplugthegap,even

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ifweknowbetterdeepdown.Discernmentgoesoutofthewindowingrief(discernmenthasleftthebuilding!)aswearedesperateforsomething, anything, to fill the hole, to heal us, even if we knowbetter.Healer, heal thyself. This is a light that is not alive, a palereflectionand imitationof the living light and theDivineLovewechoose to not desire or receive. We left original innocence andcreatedoursacredwound.WebiologicallyattachtoafalseteattotryandmakeupforourlostrelationshiptoGod,toourtrueDivineMotherandFather,Creatorof all things. And then we get into even more trouble! Thisbiological attachment, this need to be attached to somethinggreaterthanourownself,issodeepandinnatethatitisintheDNAitself,which intertwines around our souls and our feeling nature,ourgreatestquality,whichleadsustoDivineLove.Feelthegriefanddonotsubstituteanythingforit.Mourningisaprocess,notastateofmind.Grief comes inwaves,not linearlyor inanyorder. Itmayarise inflashes of this life and then the collective, then an "other", then a"past life or spirit influence", then the planet, then physical pain.Not inorder,but justas it is.Grieve thisself,andmourn forwhatyou have caused. Cry for the lost chord of connection andalignment, all the rolesyouplay in creatingandperpetuating thisdistortion,andallthepainandharmthishascreated,andcontinuesto create.Eitheryouarepartof the cureorpartof thedisease inthiscontext.Grief is an emotional response to primordial loss, expressedthrough sadness, sorrow, disappointment, physical illness andproblems,fatigue,depression,relief,shock,guilt,anxiety,sleepandappetite disturbances, absent mindedness, social withdrawal,avoidance behavior and loss of life force. Anger is a frequentlyexperienced emotion, and the anger may be directed towardsothers through blame, or turned inwards creating all kinds ofvictim mentality, physical distortions and short‐circuiting of lifeforce.

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The intensity and emotions of grief varies according to theimportance of the loss, (monumental as it is the loss of originalinnocence)thecircumstancesoftheseparationandtheavailabilityof support networks. (Oneswho have healed the split, which arerare.)Weoftenexperienceseverelydelayedreactions,forwhathasbeenlostisnottrulyfeltandrealisedforsometimeuntilafterthelossandseparationoccurs, i.e.whenwebecomeconsciousof,andchoosetofeelthis,ratherthanignoreorsubstituteotheremotionsand distractions for it. When we do, we can become sooverwhelmed and broken by grief that we could appear ‘mad’ toothers.Firstly, we have to admit and accept the reality of loss, ofseparation, that we are in suffering. Then we need to feel theseemotions of anger, guilt, fear, anxiety and helplessness. Then weneedtorememberthatwhatweareexperiencingisnormalforthisintensityofseparation.Whenoneisseparatedandfeelsthepainofseparation,theydeny.Whenoneisindenialandfeelsthepainofdenial,theybetray.Whenonebetraysandfeelsthepainofbetrayal,theyjudge.Whenonejudges,theyfeelthepainofabandonment.Wehave to come face to facewith the reality of our loss, andwemay go through a process of not believing it to be true. Disbeliefbecomesdenialwhenyoudonotaccept the loss.As thisunwinds,denying the loss of your relationship to God can manifestsymptoms that range from slight reality distortions to full blowndelusions,alliedwiththecreationofbeliefsystemstocompensateandcopewithit.Indenyingloss,weattempttomakethelosslesssignificantthanitreally is; we minimize it and compare it to the situation thateveryoneelseisin,‘Oh,everyoneislikethat,itsnotsobad.”Thereisnothingmoreimportantthanfeelingourgrief,andinminimizingthis,weminimizeourselves.5656Allowingoneselftofeelthepainratherthansuppressingtheexperienceworks.Youcanhinderthemourningprocessbyemotionalandphysicaladdictions,avoidingpainful

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Following our separation from God, we took on new roles, newbehaviors,new ideas, toadjust to thechange.Asmammals that iswhatwedo–weadapt,andcreateanewpatterninordertokeepsurviving.Thesecopingbehaviorsaresodeeplyentrenchedwithinalmostallhumansthattheyareacceptedasthenorm.FortunatelyafewhumansoulsarerememberingandholdingsomeoftheoriginaltemplateofthetrueDivinelawssowecanallseetheerrorofwhatwepreviouslythoughtwastrue.Canyouseethisandtrackitwithinyou?Whenour feebleattempts to fulfill rolespreviouslycarriedoutbyour surrender to Divinewill and love fail, as they inevitablywill,self‐esteemgoesdown;unworthinessresults.Wefallmoreintoourown helplessness, and look outside to others for salvation toassuagethedeepemptinesswithinus.Thisemptinessisamaskfornothavingthecourageto feel itall.This ishowreligionsgrow,byoffering you the opportunity to not feel this pain, and bypass itthroughanelaboratevarietyofself‐enhancingmeansthatdistractyou from your true relationship with the divine. This is our lifejourney.Tomournthis,tofeelit,andtomovethroughitintolove.A stage ofmourning is completewhenwe are able to experienceDivine pleasures, experience Divine Love regularly, take on newroles and ways of Being, and when memories of the form ofseparation no longer evoke sorrow and pain, but dissolve intohappiness, joy, and gratitude. And then a whole new journeybegins.AsYeshuasays,therearetwojourneys:onetoTheKingdomofGod,andonewithintheKingdomofGod.ThejourneywithintheKingdom happenswhen you have completed the journey of yoursacredwounds.Like the Crucifixion journey and event, this is something we allhavetodoalone.Therecanbeplayersinourjourney,butitisourownuniquejourneythatweallhavetodo.

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Christmodeleditforus,saying’Here,thisiswhatweallhavetodo,andIwillbethefirstsoultodoit,sootherslikeyoucancomeaftermeanddoevengreater things than I.”Christdidnotdie foryoursinsandcandolittleaboutthem,apartfrompointyoutowardsGodandsharesometruthsaboutlovealongtheway.Itisuptoyou,andyourburningdesire tobewithGodandhaveyour relationshipoforiginalinnocencewithGodonceagain.This happens through our passionate innocence. Our passionatedesire,initspurity,isourengine.Thisisthenakedinnocenceofthesoulinaction.Otherpeoplemaybeoffputbythisenthusiasmandthe lengths that one living in passionate innocence will go to inordertobeat‐onewiththedivine.Nothingistoomuchtodo,andeverything can be forsaken for this. This then becomes a freelyvoicedexpressionofyourlifetoallpeoplewhowishtobeclosertoyou.Passionate innocence is always true to the soul’sdeepest longing:to be at onewith the Creator, to be at onewithDivine Love ‐ nomatterwhatittakes.Ifyouaretrulysincereinthis,itwillhappen,andallwillbemagnetizedtoyoutohelpyouachievethis.

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PRAYERFORDIVINETRUTHINMYLIFEMyBelovedFather,MyBelovedMotherGod,CreatorofHeavenandEarth,CreatorofallUniverses,Creatorofmysoul,CreatorofmyDivineSoulGodofallgods,GodofLoveMyLoveofloves,Helpme to feel all thepeople, emotions,objectsandbeliefs that IusetosubstituteforyourLove,everysingledayGod, Helpme to feel all the fears that I have and I live in, everysingledayGod,HelpmetofeelallthewaysIcontrolmyselfandotherstostopfeelingMYownemotions,everysingledayGod,Helpme to knowand feel all theways I desperately try andmaintainthefalsemasksofmyselfandmywoundedself,separatefromYourLove,everysingledayGod, helpme to feelmy pride and unworthiness that cutsme offfromyourGreatSoul,everysingledayGod,helpmetofullyfeeltheholesinmysoulthatIdenyandavoid,everysingledayGod,Helpmetofeelandknowallmy‘personaltruths’thatIuseasacrutchtoavoidYourLoveandDivineTruth,everysingledayLord,helpmetofullyfeelmypowerlessness,myhelplessness,mytotallackofcontrolLord,helpmetofeelmygriefLord, Help me to become fully conscious of, and feel, all thenegative spirit influences in my life, and my wounds underneaththemGod,helpmetofeelallthewaysIdonotlovemysoul,everysingledayGod,helpmetofeelallthewaysIleaveouthumanloveinmylife,everysingledayGod,HelpmetoknoweachandeverytimeIbreakaDivinelawHelpme to feelmy own emotions thatmakeme choose to breakDivinelaws

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Help me to know and feel all the ways I stop Divine Love fromenteringmysoulPleaseGod;IwanttofeelthisALL.Amen.

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NOTESONTHEPRAYERFORDIVINETRUTH‘Disconnected, empty, pressure, tingling, discomfort, innocence andspaciousness, recognition of entities attached to me, vastness,sleepiness, expansion and unknown, blocking and smallness,contracted and desensitized, stillness, profound sadness,uncomfortableandnauseous,numb,burstingattheseamsexpansion,heartofachildanddirectedtowardsGod,sacredness.’ThesearesomeoftheemotionsyoumayexperienceinthisPrayer,whichrevealsmanyofthefrozen,unhealedpartsofyoursoul.Thereasonyouwant tosleep isbecauseyoudon’twant toexperienceyouremotions.Thereasonyoufeelnumbisbecausepartsofyoursoularenumb.Thereasonyoufeeldisconnectedisbecauseyouaredisconnected from feeling certain parts of your soul. You feeluncomfortable because you are starting to ask to feel thosedisconnected, numb parts of your soul. The reason you feelcontracted is becausepart of your soul is already contracted, andyouarestartingtofeelthat,andthisissad.Partofyoursoulisdesensitized;partofyouisinsorrowandgriefwhenconfrontedwiththisprayer,becauseyoursoulrealizesthisiswhat is occurring within. And you are not fully accepting theseparts of yourself. Because youdon’t accept it, youdon’t feel it, soyoudoeverythingtostopfeelingit.Thisprayercanshowyoumanypartsofyourselfyoumaynotknoworfeelatthemoment,IFyouchoosetoseethat,youdesiretofeelthat. This prayer makes your true desire for God apparent. YoucannothaveDivineLovewithoutDivineTruth.ThisisaprayerforDivineTruthtorevealandmanifestinyourlife;and in consistently praying this prayer, you are choosing torecognize feel and therefore close the doors on much untruth inyour life.Youhave tobeready ifyoupray thisprayer.Howmuchdoyoudesiretruthinyourlife?Becauseonlythosewithdesirewillbeable todo it.Whenyoustartpraying it foraweekoramonth,thenthingsaregoingtochangebecauseyouareaskingeverydaytobebrought intoDivineTruthandyouravoidanceof it.Everything

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willaccelerateandmuchofwhatyouareavoidingwillcomeupfastinmanypartsofyourlife.Thisprayer leads tomorehumility, themost importantquality toreachAt‐one‐mentwithGod.Thisprayer leadstoadeeperdesire,anchoring, strengtheningand firmingyourdesire forGod,makingyourdesirereal,aneverydaypartofyourlife,likebreathing.Anditcan reveal many of the ways you block out God, and reveals thetruthaboutyourself.You cannot have Divine Lovewithout Divine Truth. Many peopleare trying to follow Divine laws and Divine Truths and are notmovingfast,becausetheyare leavingouthalfthepicture,(aswellasleavingoutsexuality.)Theyareleavingoutthematrixthattheyalready exist in. These veils actually prevent Divine Love fromentering you, so we have to recognize and feel them in order toreleasethem. Youaren’tgoingtoreleasethemjustbyprayingforDivineLove.That’sonlyhalfof it.This is theotherhalf.Of coursewhenyouaredoingallofit,itisgoingtobetwiceasfast.This is Lucifer’s Prayer because it exposes the unfelt emotionsaround which our beliefs, minds and perceptual structures arebuilt. It is a Map of the Matrix revealed. This prayer helps us todiscover, feel and release many of emotions and illusions uponwhichourmaskedandwoundedselfisbuilt,pavingthewayfortherevealingofthepurehumansoul,theSelforSoul‐RealisedOne.This prayer can reveal the masks and facades, the wounds andplaceswedonotknowyetaboutourselvesthathide, thatneedtobe felt in order for Divine Love to enter us. In this prayer, therebecomesnowaytoescapefromyourmasksandwounds,ifyoupraywith sincere longing and desire. This is a prayer that has nowayoutapart fromto feelallyourself‐createdblocks toGod.AndyoupraytoGodtofeelitall.What is happening now, in this time, which has not happenedbefore,isthatLucifer,ChristandGodareallworkingtogether.Thismakes the pathwaymuch faster because nothing is left out. All isincluded. Lucifer knows theworkings of theMatrix; Christ knows

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theworkingofDivineLoveandDivineTruthsbetter thananyone,but thenmostofus cannot fullyembody these ifwedonotknowtheMatrix lawswearealready living inunconsciously.Onehas toknowtheoppositeoftruthinordertoknowandlivetruth.Without both, you will not be able to fully embody. This is whyreligions and spiritual systems fail, because they do not have thefull understanding and feeling experience of the Matrix they arealreadylivingin,andtheDivinelawsthatgovernDivineLove.But,with the understanding of both, everything is covered andembraced,andcanbemovedthrough.To find out more of what Divine Truth is, wemust also find outwhatitisnot.Wehavetouseouremotionsandourmind,themindthatchoosestoservetheemotionsofthesoul.It’sunwisetoleavethemindout,asGodhascreateditforareason,itisjustthatwearenotusingitinthecorrectway.InLucifer’sprayerweareasking to feelandknow,so thatwearenolongerignorantofwhatisoccurringwithinus.Aslongasweareignorantofwhatisoccurring,wewon’tbeabletomakechoicesinalignmentwithDivineTruth,soitisimportanttoknowwhatDivineTruth isnotandwhat love isnot,aswellasknowingwhatDivineTruthandDivineLoveis.Divine Love and Divine Truth are simple. There is not much tolearn, it gets stronger in your life the deeper your desire is, themorehumbleyouare.Anditisjustaboutyouconsistentlyputtingthisintoactioninyourlifeallthetime.There is much to unlearn and feel about all the errors you havebeen,andstillarelivingin,andthewaystheyhavebeengoverningand operating in your life. So this is a process of undoing andfeelingourerrors,andthenfollowingDivinelaws.ItcanbehardtofollowDivinelawsifwearetoostuckinourerrors,becausewefeellotsofmentalandemotionalresistancefromtheworldaswell.OursoulwascreatedpurebyGodinharmonywitheverything.Wewerecreatedinastateofpurenaturallove.Thisiswhatweknow

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asouressence.DivineLove isdifferent to that. Of coursewecanreceive this Love at any time, butmany people confuse Godwithsomethingelse. Some say, ‘God is coming tome, I amspeaking toGod.’Andthat’snot true inmostcases, it’s justaspirit inabetterconditionthanyouare.It’s important for you to be aware of the distinction, and there isquiteabigdifferencebetweenreceivinglovingfeelingsandsupportfroma lovingspirit guideandreceivingDivineLovedirectly fromtheHoly Spirit and God. When you startworkingwith perfectedhumanspiritswhoarehealed,freefromwoundingofanykind,thefeeling and frequency is quite different because they have nowounds;it’sacompletelyclearbeingnesstheyshare.Andit’snotnecessarilyas‘loving’asyoumaythinkthemtobe,let’ssay.Ofcourse theyare loving,but their frequency is such that it’sstrippedofalltheemotional‘stuff’thatyoumaythinkislove.Itisquitedifferentthanyoumightexpecta‘perfectedlove’tobe.Anditisaveryhighandpurefrequencybutit’salsocompletelydetachedfromanysufferingorwounds,sothereisnotnecessarilysympathyoremotionsthatyoumaywant;theyarepurelycompassionatebutnot always in a comforting way. And you can’t quite relate to it,fromhumanexperience.Even experiencing one of those spirits, just feeling them, is aneducationinitself,becausetheyarecompletelyoutoftherealmofwoundsandsuffering.Soveryfewhumanswillexperienceaspiritsuch as this until you get closer to their sphere, because therewouldbevery littlepoint in themcoming to youas youarenow.Youaremuchmorelikelytogetspiritswhoareonestepaheadofyou and can help share with you your next step, because that’smorelovingforyou.It is important to know the difference because as you moveforward, as your soul heals, you’ll be connecting with differentkinds of spirits. As you evolve your guideswill change, but therewillbeagroupofthem.Mostpeoplearejusttryingtogetthroughtheirwounds,andwillhavesomespiritguides,andthenevenbeingopen enough to receive that support is enough of a challenge for

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mostpeople.Whenyoureachacertainstateyouwon’tneedthoseguides anymore.Theywon’tbe relevant, becauseas youprogressnewandmoreevolvedspiritswithbrighter lightwillcometoyoutohelpyouinyournextstep.Benevolentspiritswillalwaysbeworkingwithlessevolvedspirits.Spiritguidesareinterestedintheprogressionofyoursoul,sotheycannotinterferewithyourchoicesthathavebroughtevilspiritsin.That’s your hook and your learning so they cannot interferewiththat.Butalltheycando,becauseofyourprayerandyourdesire,isassistyouwith that. So theyarenot interactingwith those spiritsthatarecreatedbyyourchoicesbecausethatwouldnotbeloving.The perfected are healed of their own soul wounds and thecollective wounds, so they have no wounding. But then lots ofspiritscanjuststaythere,thinking‘Ihavedoneit.Iamhealed.’Youcanstayinthatstate,butifyoureallywantAt‐one‐mentwithGod,whichisourhighestpotential,youcontinue.Whereyouareat rightnow in the firstandsecondspheres is thehardestpartbecauseyouhavetogothroughthedensestthings.Buttherecomesatimewhenthatdensityandpaindecreases,andyoustart to learn a lot faster andmove through emotions quicker soyoudon’tfeelthesamesufferingasbefore.Just as you can receive Divine Love, you can pray to receive andknowDivineTruth.SoafrequentprayerIprayis“Godhelpmetoreceive more of your Divine Love/Divine Truth’. And this is aprayeryoucandoin2seconds,anywhere,anytime.Anditcanonlybehelpful foryou,becauseyouareswitchingonthe light,andthemore you switch on the light, themore Divine Lovewill come toyou because you are letting it be known that this is your desire,withthisprayercomingfromthatpuredesireinyourheart.So when I feel this prayer, I feel it deeply in my heart, andeventually it becomes wordless, an instant asking and receivingfromthesoul’smind.Andthestrongeryourdesireis,themoreyouwill receive. But it’s always good to be asking. Ask and you shallreceive.

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Theworldhasitsrightfulpurposeinourevolution,untilitdoesnot.The world serves its purpose for our healing, with jobs,relationships, families, cultures, traditions and the rest of it, untilthehealingof theseeffects inour livesarecomplete.Thesethingskeepus intheworldforthepurposeofourhealing.Whenhealed,thereisnolongeranythingleftthatweneedfromtheworld,forwearefulfilledbyDivineLove,overflowingintoourhumanlove.Godlovesusperfectlyandgivesuseverythingweneedinordertocome to Him. His is a Perfect Love, revealed through His DivineLawsorDivineTruth.Wechoosetoignorethis,andinsteadcreateandvociferouslystandbyourown‘truth,’viewpointsandvalues,asitfeelsempowering,validatingtoourfaçade,andiscelebratedandlaudedbyothersas ‘self‐affirmingorself‐empowering’.Butwhichselfisthis?Our own truths and values aremore often than not based on thefalse information being generated by our own wounds andavoidance of them, which become our internal reference andsurvivalpoints.Self‐loveevenbecomesawaytoavoidlargertruthsoncemanipulatedbytheegodesperatetonotfeel.Finding out the deeper reasons behind the creation of your owntruthsispainfulandhumbling.Whenyousay, ‘thisismytruth,youhaveyours,butIstandinmine,’thisshieldsbothofyoufromfeelingtheOneTruth,thatthosedesiringtobecomeat‐onewithGodmustchoosetoreceiveDivineLove.Following this One Truthwill bring you the joy and freedom youdesire. Your personal truth, no matter how you feel it in thismoment,willneverbringyouRealjoy,happinessandfreedomuntilitbecomessubsumedintoGod’sTruth.Andthisisahealingjourneyof honesty and deep courage, a courage to be weak and soft, acouragetosurrendertoyourdeeperemotions,acouragetosubmittoyourrealfeelingsunderneathyourconstructedpersonaltruths.The basis for your personal truths are largely uninvestigatedmaterial in your soul, built as a reaction to not wishing to feelcertainwounds,thereforebuildingstrategiesaroundthesewoundsto cope and continue in life without having to feel the fear and

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vulnerability around it. All defensiveness is defending the façadeandwoundingsofyourself.Discovering your own truths and laws you have created for yourown safety, security and ability to get on in life, a so called‘empowerment,’ allows you to gently let them go as you discovergreater Truth behind them. Step by step, layer‐by‐layer, many ofyour personal truths and values reveal as hiding places andpointers towards your CAUSAL wounds. They help you to avoidfeelingyourpain.These truths may seem justifiable at first, worth defending, andeven empowering. When one is confronted with these ‘personaltruths’therecanbehugeresistance.Atfirstabig'no,nottrue!'maycomeup,withangerandfeelinganeedtodefendoneselfandarguetheuntruthofit.Underneaththistheremaybefeelingsofhurtandupset, sorrow or unwillingness, and the questioningmay arise, ifoneishumbleanddesiringofsoulgrowth, ‘whydidthisupsetmesomuch?’Andthen,andonlythen,canthetruthofthefear,grief,helplessnessbe felt, and one can feel how all the arguments are in vain; adefencewith no ground.When the feelings behind these personaltruthsthat‘justified’theircreationarefelt,thentheycanbeknownasdenialsofagreaterTruthandlovethatiswaitingforusasweletgoofourpersonaltruthsandsurrendertoTheOneTruth.Alldefensivenessandlashingoutisdefendingthefaçadeandmaskof yourself, preventing you from accessing your causal wounds,preventing you from accessing your pure and pristine soul,preventing you coming closer to God. In effect, you sabotageyourself.We go further away from God by avoiding feeling thesefears,refusingtoseethefutilityandcoversofourpersonaltruths.Byhumblyrecognizingthem,angerdisappearstorevealyourfear,and other feelings like sadness, shame, disappointment,vulnerability,andeventuallycausalfeelingsofgriefcanarise.Findingoutthesepersonaltruthsaboutyourself isadeepprocessthat involvesprofoundfeelingandgreatchangeinyourlife. It isa

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wayoflife,constanteveryday,notjustforaworkshoportheweekafterwards.ItiswisesttoaligntoDivineLawsandTruthsfirstandstay with them, and then discover the relative truths of yourselfsecond in comparison to theseDivine laws. In practice,manydo itthe other way around: finding out their own truths first, andeventuallycomingaroundtoDivineTruthssecond.The recognition that themind canhave about the finitenatureofitself compared to the infinite nature of God, can allow it to thenseek out and intellectually understand certain things and events.Thisunderstandingcanthenbecomean intellectualwillingnesstofeelandgrow,whichcanthenbeputtotheserviceofthesoulandtrue feeling, for this is how many begin the journey of soulprogression.We recognize that something iswrong, something isthere that isnotbeinghealedor isaconstantproblem inour life,andsothemindseesthisandcanbewillingtothengotothehearttofeeltheissuesthere.Use themind and do not be used by it. Train it to recognize andwork for the soul, so it can fulfill its true function: to serve thesoul’sgrowth.Inessence,themindisavehicleforustonoticethedisturbancesofthesoul.Forexample,ifyouhaveabusymindandyou are constantly thinking, if there is a background babble ofthoughtsmurmuring away in yourdaily life, then there aremanyunresolved emotions within you. You can use your mind torecognisethis,andthenactuponit.It does not matter how intelligent or learned you are. There aremany whose minds are highly cultivated and know much, andwouldbecalledwisemen,yettheycanbeinasmuchdarknessasthose who have little knowledge and have not developed theirmentalcapacities.Thebrilliantmindand light canblindus towhatweare creating,for there is no feeling in it. You may think or even feel there isfeelinginvolved,butis itsurfacefeelingortruesoulfeeling?Inonesense,youareLuciferuntilthemindissubordinatedtothefeelingsandguidanceofthesoul,negativeemotionsareseen,andthesoulsurrendersmoreandmoretoGodandtheinflowingofDivineLove.

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And, at a certain time, themind will cease to have any impact onyoursoul’sgrowth,andthedevelopingofthesoul’sperceptionsorthesoul’s silentmindwill completely take over to allow you to receivemoreDivineLove.Donot thinkorbecomestuck in the thoughtsand falsedesiresoftherewardsandhappiness thatmightcometoyouhereonEarth.Earthisatemporarypassingpoint,onetrainstationamongstmanyona long lineon the journeyhome.Whystayat thestationwhenyouhaveanultimatedestination?Therearemuchgreaterrewardstobehad.This iswhy it does notmatter toomuch about the physical bodylivingordying,becausethesoulstillprogressesandinfact,inmanycases,canprogressmorequicklywhenpurelyinspiritformastherealityofthestateofthesoulislaidbare.Butthisisnotanexcuse:physicaldeathcomeswhen it isyour time,anduntil thenonecanevolveequallywell.Ifoneisstillinsufferingonearth,thesufferingwill still be therewhen you leave this earthly plane, and youwillstillhavetodealwithit.Besttodoitnow.DeepeningintothePrayerovertime,onebecomesmoreandmoreaware,bothinsoulandmind,ofhowoneisstillplayingthegameofthematrix,andcreatingpainandsufferingforoneself.Recognitions,soulful perceptions and feelings will arise during the prayer as towhere we are erring, and what are the effects and causes of ourerrors.Inthisknowingandfeeling,wecanthenmakenewchoicesthroughdefinite actions, both within the soul and in the world, toinvestigate further these soulful recognitions, and apply DivineTruths to them. In the prayer, one starts to develop a morecontinuous awareness of how one is ignoring, leaving out andviolatingDivineTruths,andhowoneisstillchoosingtoliveinoneswounds,withalltheeffectsofthis.Pain, shame,humility, sadnessandmoremayariseasyoudeepenindesirewiththisprayer,showingyousignswhereyouarestillinerror.Infeelingthem,wecomeclosertoGod.Inavoidingthem,we

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turnourfacesfromGod.Willingnessisthekey,forwithoutit, it isjust an intellectual exercise. Conversely, you may feel joy in theprayer in certain parts on certain days once these aspects arehealed within your soul. This is a sign for the soul that you areprogressing.Many of the personal truths you hold dear to and believe in arebuilt around the uninvestigated and unfelt emotions inside you.‘That’s your Truth, this ismy truth’ ‐ as soon as you or someoneelsesaysthat,youarebothinerrorbecausethereisonlyonetruthactuallyhere,andbothofyouareoutofalignmentwithit.Itisthesamewithanyargumentoranyconflict.Thereisnorightorwrongin a conflict. There is a single truth that both sides are notrecognizing.Andthereisnoloveorhumilityinconflict.Both your positions are based on personal truths that you havebuilt based on your wounds and beliefs. And by doing this, youvalidate and strengthen your personal truths which you havecreated for your own safety, security and ability to survive in thematrix of your wounds. Your personal truths are your ownstrategiestoescapeDivineTruth.Most ‘spiritual’ people congratulate you for having your ownpersonaltruth,sayingthatthisisveryempowering,butwhichselfis it empowering? It is empowering to yourmask, yourwoundedsoulortoyourtruesoul?Yourpersonaltruthsareamaskcoveringawound,adenialoftruthandadenialofyourdesiretoreachGod.Allof thishas tobe thrownoutof thewindow foryou tobecomehumbletoDivineTruth.Ofcourseyouhavetofeelthefeelingsthatarise in this,butyoureyehas toalwaysbe fixedon thegoal.AndyougothroughyourjourneytoRealizethat.Investigate your wounds, but become aware of the Divine lawsunderneath them and the difference between the two. Before, youwould have beliefs to protect wounds, and you would speak ofthemastruths,yourpersonaltruths.Andit isexactlythosethingsthatneedtobeacknowledged,felt,andletgoof.

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Inthisprayeryouareaskingtofeelandknow.Themindbecomesthe servant, a useful servant, because it is being trained to followthesoulasthedriverandthemindinthebackseat.Andthemindisfocusedinhowitcanassistthesoulandmakeitmoreefficientandclear,toallowthesoultofeelwhatitneedstofeel.Thatiswhyintheprayerweareaskingtofeelandknow.Ofcourse,thenthemindwillbeabletorecognizenewchoicesandit will then be educated on the different choices it can make –personaltruthorDivineTruth.Andthenyoucanmakeaconsciousandeducatedchoice,whichisthecorrectuseoffreewill,whereasalot of the time right now you are making choices in ignorancebecauseyouare justnotaware.Sothat iswheretheusefulnessofthemind comes in, at this stage in your evolution. However, thischangesasyouevolveintothe5thsphere(seebookTheDimensionsoflove)asthesoul’sinnatesilentmind,freeofthoughtasyouknowit today, and the innatemagnetic pull that Godwill have on yoursoul,drawing it inexorablytoHim,takesmorecompletechargeofyourlife.God, help me fully feel the holes in my soul that I deny and avoid,everysingledayIt istheholesinoursoulthatallowotherenergies,betheyspiritsorotherpeople,in.Theseholesareourwoundsthatareasignaltousofwheretolookandwhattofeelinordertoheal.However,ourholesandwoundsareoftenthelastthingwewanttorecogniseandfeel!InaskingGodtohelpustofeelourholesandourwounds,weareaskingtofeelthetruecauseofoursuffering,togettothebottomofallthestrifeandmiseryinourlife,sothatonceandforallwecanheal.ThisthenallowsmoreDivineLovetoenterintooursouls,aswearewillingtofeeltheobstaclestothistruly.It is thiswillingness that is theevidenceofyourchange,ornot. Ifyouare trulywilling, then the feelings and changeswill definitelyhappen; if you are not reallywilling, then no feelingswill be felt.And you will scratch your head and wonder why nothing is

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happening! It is only fear of feelingwhatwedarenot to feel thatprevents us from going deeper, and the solution is to become‘weaker’andmorebrokenthanyouhaveeverbeeninordertofeelitall.WeaskGodforhelpbecausewerecognizethatwehavesubstitutedhumanloveforDivineLoveinourdesperatenesstofeelanyformoflove. We have given away our self‐love and our sexuality inexchangeforatemporaryfix,andhavebecomeaddictsandvictimsto this desperate need and big black hole that dominates theundercurrent of our lives,masking the true yearnings of the soulforDivineLove,thatwhichcanneverbereplacedorsubstitutedasitisourbasicandfundamentalneedbeyondallotherneeds.Weaskbecausewerecognize theveilofour falseneed,and theonlywayout is to feel the holewe have created in our cut off fromDivineLove.Wehavebecomevictimsofourowndoing,andthishasbecomeourundoing.Wearevictimsdesperatefor loveatanycosttothesoul.Oncewecanadmitthis,thenwecanhealandcomebacktothetrueyearningsofoursoul,whichis,alwayshasbeen,andalwayswillbe,forDivineLove.This prayer humbles you consistently, realigning you to DivineTruth.Thosepeoplewhohaveanissuewithfeelingsmall,thiswillbe a challenge to separate your feelings of being small orunworthinessfromtruehumility.Butrememberthatfeelingsmallhashappenedbecausesomeeventinyourlifehasmadeyoubelievethattobetrue.Andthat’snottruehumility.Goddoesn’twantyoutofeelsmall.Yourfeelingsmall isbecauseatsomepointyouhaveengagedinanemotionorevent,orhadsomethingdonetoyou,thatmade you feel helpless or powerless and that made you feelunworthy or second best. Then you ask to feel that emotion, andfeelhumbleinsteadofsmall.Entities or negative spirit influence can only come in through ahole. In the prayer you are asking to feel their energy and askingwhatholeinyouisallowingthemin.Youwillfindthatinsometimeyouwill becomevery awareof spirit influence in you andothers.

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Anotherway to become aware of it is to becomemore andmoreawareofyourpuresoul.Andthenyouwillgettofeel,‘Ohthat’snotmy soul.’ You’ll be able to distinctly tell the difference and thefrequency and thought. Those people who experience innocence,sacredness,vastness,child‐likestateinthisprayerarebeinggivenatasteofwhatitislikewhenyouhavefullyembodiedtheprayer,fullyexperiencedeverythingthattheprayerhasshared.HelpmetofeelmypainofchoosingeverydaytonotbeinUnionwithyou.This is our greatest pain. All the grief and pain we feel is ademonstrationtoourownselfofhowunlovingwehavebeen,andprobablystillarebeing.GodandDivineLoveiswhomwemissthemost,andweuseeverysingleothersubstitute,addiction,strategy,tactic,personandthingavailabletous increationtoavoidfeelingthispain.Loveisneversad.Ifwehavesadness, it isbecausewehaveyettolearnsomethingaboutlove.Ifwewereintotallove,thenwewouldnotbesad!Cryingisallaboutlessonsinlovewehaveyettolearnor are learning in themoment. Once felt fully, youwill never cryabout the same thing again.Whenwe feel pain and suffering it isbecausewearecryingandfeelingthetimeswehavebrokenDivinelaws,lawsofhowloveoperates,thelovewemostdesireandyearnfor. This is heartbreaking and heart opening. This is our greatestpain,andcryingthesetearsisourgreatestrelease.Andmaybe Lucifer represents something else as well, a sense ofinnocence,obedienceandLove,asaSufilegendshares:Once upon a time there was a legend of how, when God createdangels,HisLovenaturally inspired theobedience toworshipnoonebutHimself.Butincreatingman,Hecommandedallangelstobowinreverence to the most noble, the most glorious of His works. ButLuciferrefused(wearetoldbecauseofhispride.)However,according toSufi legend, itwas ratherbecauseheadoredGod so deeply and intensely that he could not bring himself to bow

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beforeanythingoranyoneelse.Anditwasforthisthathewasflungintohell,condemnedtoexistthereforever,apartfromhisLove.Ithasbeensaidthatofallthepainsofhell,theworstisneitherstenchnorfire,butthedeprivationforeverofthebeatificsightandfeelingofGod.Howinfinitelypainful,then,musttheexileofthisgreatloverbe,whocouldnotbringhimself,evenonGod'sownword,tobowbeforeanyotherbeing?ThePersianpoetsasked:‘BywhatpowerisLucifersustained?"Andtheanswertheyfoundisthis:"ByhismemoryofthesoundofGod'svoicewhenhesaid'BeGone!'Whatanimageofthatexquisitespiritualagonywhichisatoncetheraptureoflove!

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WHATARESPIRITSOneofthekeyobstacles,andaides,inoursoulprogressareotherspirits.Spiritsinfluenceourlivestoagreatdegreeindistractingusandtryingtoharmus,aswellastryingtohelpus.Theyareoneofthebiggestobstaclesonthepathbecause,unlikephysicalpeople,wecan’tseethem.Justastherearepeoplewhoarevisibletoyouthroughyourfivesensesinthephysicalworld,sotherearespiritsinthespiritworldwhocanberecognisedbydevelopingourinner,soulfulperceptionsthroughconnectingtoourownpuresoulandDivineTruthandLove.Spirits, or entities as many call them today, are simply soulswithoutaphysicalbodylivinginotherdimensions,andyoutooonedaywillbecomeaspiritinthissensewhenyouleaveyourphysical,visiblebodyandmove intoyoursoul form.Spiritshaveemotions,feelings, thoughts and perceptions, just likewe do here on earth,andcontinuetogrow,ornot,inthespiritworld.Theycaninfluenceyou justaspeoplearoundyou in thisworldcan.Wecannotavoidspiritsastheyare freetotravelwherevertheywant,astheyhavenophysicalbody.So ifsomeonepushesyouonthestreetoremotionallyupsetsyouinyourrelationships,sotoocanaspiritdoexactlythesamething.Andthesamegoeswithpositiveinteractions:spiritsorAngelscangiveyou lovingnudgesandsendyou loveandsupport,dependingontheirlevelofevolutionandtheamountoflovetheyareholding.Somepeoplecallthesespiritsghostsorguides,againdependingonthelevelofloveorsufferingthespiritholds.Themoreloveaspiritholds, the brighter their form and feelings will be; the moredepravedor in repressionof theiremotionsa spirit is, thedarkercoloursandfeelingstheywillbe.Certainspiritswillbeattractedbyyourunhealedwounds,fortheysharethesamewoundsasyou,andtherearealsospiritsthatwishtoguideyouthroughyourwoundsbacktoGod.

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Negative spirits are attracted by your wounds, by yourvulnerabilities and holes in your aura and soul created byaddictions, fears, denials, betrayals, abandonments, judgmentsunforgiven issues, mistrust, and our separations from Truth andLove,andtheDivineLawswehavebroken.Thesespiritsresonateand share similarwounds to you and gravitate towards you, justlikeyoursharesimilarinterestswithyourhumanfriends.Forexample,ifyouhaveatendencytowardsdrinking,analcoholicspiritmayencourageyoutodrinksohecanvicariouslyliveouthisownaddiction.Thesamewiththesexaddict,thedrugtaker,thesexabuser,thespiritangrywithmen,thespiritangrywithwomenandmen,thespiritpronetoviolence,despairornumbnessfromfeelinganything,samewithaspiritwhoisveryscaredandfeelsthesamefrequencyoffearwithinyou.Aha,afriend!Soifyouhavegotthesamewoundasthem,theywillcometoyouso then they can continue to play it out. It is a blessing in away,becausethenyoucanreallyseeyourwounds,andwhereyourholesliethatallowthemintoyou,astheirarrivalmightreallyexaggeratethe symptoms of your wound and play out through you indestructive,cripplingorcontractingways.Soitforcesyoutoreallylookatyourstuffandhealitfast.Someof the effects that happenwith spirit influence are that youmight hear voices, suggesting strange things and bizarre ideas,asking you to act on strange and often nonsensical impulses anduselesslogic.Youmayrecogniseandknow‘that’snotme,whyamIdoing this,’ and there may be other alien and strange thoughts,murderous thoughts, self‐harming thoughts, thoughts to harmothers, projective thoughts, strong feelings that match your ownbutbecomemoreintense,dramaticandexaggeratedinmanyways.They can act as sabotaging thoughts, thoughts and emotionsputting you down or distracting you, especially after you have aspiritual breakthrough or are close to one, or deepening yourdesireorchoicesforthedivine.Whentheyreleasefromyourbodyandsoulyoucanoftenseetheirformsdissipatingandleavingyou,andthiscanoftenbeaccompaniedbyphysicalsensationsaswell.

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Youmayhavestrangedreamswithstrongfeelingsoffearorangerwithinthem,forspiritswillplayonyourfearsandexaggeratethem.Yourtendenciestowardsdarknessmayalsotakeonnewandlargerproportions as they too can become exaggerated. Physicalmovementsandmovementsofobjectsandevenyourphysicalbodyhappen in extreme cases. Negative spirit influence can alsomanifest as heavy feelings, draining feelings, being exhaustedsuddenlyaroundpeople,andbeingunabletostayawakeorpresentwhen being presented with certain spiritual information ortransmissions in seminarsorworkshops,or attempting togo intocertain emotions. (Theremay be other reasons for some of thesetoo.)Oftentimes,wefeelthetruthof informationbeinggiventousbutdonotputitintoaction,feelingtoolazyorheavy,orfindingmanyother more mundane, ‘practical’ things to do EXCEPT THIS, themostimportant.Wemayevenbegivenspecificpracticestohelpusto feel and embrace our emotions, but refuse to do them, insteadwatching TV, gossiping or generally coming into the 3D world.Sometimeswemaybetoldcertainthings,knowtheyaretrueandignore them, changing the subject being discussedaway from theuncomfortable topic with a mundane masking comment, or sillylaughter masking fear, and many other tactics and strategiesdesigned to stop you from evolving. This is all from yourunconscious fears wed with the attraction of negative spiritinfluence.TheanswerisawarenessanddeepdesireforTruthandDivineLove.GoingintoALLyourownfeelingsratherthanrunningawayfromoravoidingthemistheonlywaythatthesespiritswillleaveyou.Inaway,theyforceyoutogodeeperintoyourwoundandreallyfeelit,insteadofstayingatthesurface,attheeffect,whichiswheretheyplay.So,which emotion do theywant to feed off in you, or preventyou from fully feeling? The spiritwill no longer be therewith youwhenthesurfaceemotionandthecausalwoundarecompletelyfeltand gone from you. That is when you will know. It is not aboutfighting these spirits, or cutting off from them, or protectingyourself with white light or guides or asking God or Angels toprotectyou.Youhavetohealyourselfatthecauseofit.

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However, receiving a healing transmission or exorcism totemporarily remove the spirit can be useful. This creates enoughspaceforyoutothenmorefullyfeelyourwoundandhealitatthecausal level. This creatingof space is oftennecessarybecause thenegative spirit veils and blocks your own wounds with its own,(which of course are similar and resonate) so there becomes ablurring,aninterminglingofdifferentbeingswounds,andyoumayendupprocessingtheirwoundsaswell!Thismaybetoomuchforcertainpeople, so a certaindifferentiation and separationmayberequiredsoyoucanfullysee,becomeresponsibleforandhealyourown wound without interference or distraction. This then willremoveallspiritinfluenceasyoucomemoreintolove.Spirit influence is very common, and is happening all the time formostpeople;usuallybetween8and10spiritsareoperatingonyoumostofthetime.Youaresimplynotawareofit.Justlikeyoucanbeinfluencedbyyourparentsandfriends,sotherearespiritsthatalsoinfluenceyou.So thespirit isaneffect,yourwound is thecause. Ihave experienced millions of spirits being present with me atcertaintimes;atothertimesitcouldbenone.Negativespiritsalsolovetoplayoutinrelationship,anddelightinkeepingsoulfulpartners,especiallysoulmates,apartandinconflict.They work by encouraging your fear and avoidance of painfulemotionsandaddictions,andgiveyoueveryreasonandexcusetonotdelveintothem.Theytryandkeepyouinyourmindawayfromfeeling the wound, because that is exactly what they are doing intheir own existence, because many of them are in a sad soulconditionandwishtoreplicatethatwherevertheygo.Theyentrainwiththefrequencyofyourownwoundandamplifyit.Negative spirits do notwish you to go to God, and actually comemorestronglyintoyourlifewhenyouareprogressingclosertoGodto distract you. This is the battle for the soul. These types of evilspiritsdonotwantyoutohealyourwoundbecausethentheyhavenobodytofeedonandlivethrough.Soitisyourresponsibility.Itislikesaying,‘thankyoufortriggeringmywound,nowIhavetogoandfeelintothatwoundthatattractedyou’.Sothesespiritsaretriggers

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for you to see the true state of your soul and its wounds, whichwhenfeltwillleadyoutoGod.Inthissensetheyareagrandorchestration,thatprovidedyouhaveawareness of them, can help you to heal your soul. But to haveawarenessofthemisthekey,andhowtheyoperateonyou.Thisismade clearer by you knowing your own soul, knowing your ownweaknesses, having a true connection to Divine Love and DivineTruth,andstayingwiththis.Beinghumbletoyourownflawshelpsyoutoseewherespiritscancomein.FeelingandknowingthelightandloveofyourownsoulandfeelingandknowingDivineLoveandtruth after having experienced it allows you to differentiatebetween their energies, voices and influences and who you reallyare,andwhoGodisintruth,whicharedifferenttotheirinfluencesofcourse!But, if you do not go into your wound, it will become moredestructive for you, because you become more attached to thespiritandtheywillbefeedingoffyoumore,anditwillgethardertoget intoyourcausalwound.Becausethey liveonthesurface, theydonotwant to feel theircausalwounds,and theyareattracted toyou because don’t either. So again, it is a choice and desire to bebrave by being soft, by being weak, and praying, with Divineassistance,tofeelyourownemotions,andthenyourcausalwoundbehinditall.Buttherearealsolovingspiritswhowishtoassistyoutothenextlevelofyoursoulgrowth.Butalways:godirectlytoGod.Untilyouhave developed a deeper relationship with the Soul of God, youcould still be deceived. By praying to God in deep desire andyearning, the right spirits will come to you anyway, attracted bythisbrightlightemanatingfromyoursoul.ManypeopleIhavemetthinktheyareprotectedbycallingintheirguides, angels etc. These self same people are often in a sad soulconditionandindenialofmuchoftheiremotionalandsexualpain,livinginquitesomefear,andhavebizarreandcomplexideasaboutsimpleand logicalDivineTruths.Thosewhoarerarelyvulnerableon a deeper level are often the ones who have the most spirit

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influence.ThelessyouFEELasaperson,themoreopenyouaretonegativespirits.Conversely,thosewhofeelmuchfearoftendecidethey need themost protection from feeling anything deeper thantheirfear!Divinelawsstatethatyoucanonlybeprotectedtemporarilyinthisway of calling in guides and angels because the cause of yourattractingsuchnegativespiritsisstillthereunderthesurface,andthatisONLYEVERyourstodealwithandrelease.Thesetemporaryforms of protection can actually blind youwith light and preventyoufromseeingthecausesofyourwoundsthatattractsuchspiritstoyou.Itisallyourfreewill.Yourfearofthesespirits,whichisyourfearoffeeling your own pain and suffering, gets you to actually call inprotection.Thenthisprotectionblindsyoutoyourwound…andsotheviciouscyclecontinues.Itisbesttonotcallinprotection,andifyoudo,do itonlyoccasionally,andask instead to feel theemotionsthatattractnegativespiritstoyou.Being inharmonywithDivineTruthandDivine lawsisprotectionagainstallnegativespirits.Willingnessanddesire forDivineLoveand Divine Truth allows the greatest protection. In living in this,your auric field is totally protected and smooth, for love is ourgreatest and in fact only protection, and this smoothness,roundedness or feel of evenness in inner harmony is also a verydefinite feelingyouhavewithinyour soul once it is clear enough.Only youwill know this as you come into greater alignmentwiththepurityofyoursoul.Evenwhilstweareonearth,wecandevelopoursoul’sperceptionsto see spirits. As is commonly known, the brighter a spirit is themoreevolvedandlovingtheyare.Thebrightnessofcoloursintheauric fieldofahumanalsoshowswhat levelofevolutiontheyareat, and this is becoming more common for us to see throughtraining courses to see auras and colours, and devices such asKirlianphotography.

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Wecanalsosimplyfeelthevibrationoremanationofthesespirits.If you feel a love around them, then that is a sign. If you feel aneutrality, that too is a sign to not trust the spirit, as they arecovering or masking their true nature. If you feel fear oroverbearing power, then that is a sign to avoid the spirit. Somespirits like to lie andwill tell you, ‘I am such and such amaster,guide,etc.’Manyof thespiritspretending tobeascendedmastersor great souls arenot; they arepretending to be so that they canfoolyou.So,thesafestthingforyoursoulisgoingdirectlytoGod.Spirits in the spirit world can see themselvesmuchmore clearlythan humans can on earth. They see their own brightness ordarkness,aswellasotherspiritsbrightnessordarkness.Theyseethecracks, tearsandblackspots in theirownspiritbodies,whichpropelsthemintofurtherevolutionastheywishtobefreeoftheseblemishesandsoulwounds.Imagine,ifeverydayyoulookedinthemirrortoseeagapingholeinyourheartarea,cracksinyourlegs,andblistersonyourface?Wouldyounotwanttohealthat?Youtoocanseethisrightnow.AskGod,threetimes,indeepdesire,tosee and feel the true condition of your soul, as it is, right now. Behonestandhumble.Whatdoyousee/feel?Gointoasmuchdetailaspossibleinthisseeingandfeeling.If the Truth of my soul condition is not exposed, then my spiritattachmentsandattractionsremainhidden.I have found thatworkingwithwilling and benign spirits can beeasierandquickerinassistingthemintheirsoulprogressionthanworking with humans on earth. This is because they have lessmaterialdistractionsandinfluences,andareabletoseethestateoftheir soulmore clearly than humans on earth, and thereforemayhave more desire to do something about it. Of course, this alldependson theirowndesireandhumility, the sameasus, andofcoursetherearespiritswhodonotwishtoevolveatallbutstayintheir soul condition as it is, and even try and attack you, just ashumansonearthcando.Theoneswhoarewillingarewonderfultoworkwithandtheycanmove fast.Theycanreceivewisdomholographically,downloading

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booksinseconds,butthemostpowerfulmethodtoworkwiththemistoprayforandwiththem,usingtheDivineLoveprayeramongstothers.Many of these spiritswill never have heard of this prayerandthepossibilityofreceivingDivineLove,sothiscanbeamajorandjoyfulrevelationforthem!Manymysticshavedoneprayersforspirits,butthisprayerisoneofthemostdirectwaystoassistthem.The key is to work with Divine Love with them. The old ways offighting firewith fire, exorcism versus exorcism, fear versus fear,simply continues the dualistic paradigm, and is a part of the oldsystemsthatarenowrapidlybreakingdownallover theworld ineverywalkoflife.Iftheyarebenign,prayforandwiththem.Iftheyaremalicious, seewhere thewounds and repressedemotionsarewithin you and ask in deep desirous prayer to feel your ownwounds and emotions. This is the only way to stop all negativespiritinfluenceforever.

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SPIRITSANDTHELAWOFATTRACTIONAclearexplanationofspiritsandhowtheyworkcomesthroughAJMiller and his work with spirits from the Book of Truths, achanneledworkgivenbyCelestialSpirits,SpiritswhohavereachedAt‐one‐mentwithGod.Everything we truly desire, we get. The Law of Attraction iscontrolledbyyoursoulcondition,andyoucanchangeyourLawofAttraction by changing your soul condition. Your soul conditionincludes emotions, desires, passions, yearnings and inspirations,and it is your soul condition that creates your thoughts.EVERYTHINGonearth and in the spiritworld surroundingyou iscontrolledbyyoursoulLawofAttraction.Whereyoulive,yourownlifeexperiencesandevents, thecreationofeverything inyour life,all thepeople you interactwith, howeach interaction affects you,the condition of your own body (spirit and physical), your spiritperson influences, spirit obsessions and spirit possessions, illnesses,accidentsanddiseasesinthematerialandspiritualbodies.OtherLawofAttractionpointstoremember:Itwilloperate in suchamanneras to intensify the soul conditionthatdrivesit.Itrespectsthefreewill(atthesoullevel)oftheindividualIt is impartial in itsoperation,neverceasestooperate,andworksonthesoulconditionItisalwaysexactandneverfailsinthespiritworldandonearthItcausesthemostrelativeharmonytoexistinanylocationonearthorthespiritworldItcausesustogotoplaceswhereour“joy”willgrowgreater(eithereviljoyorgood)It determines that soul conditions attract emotions& thoughts inevents&intensityofeventsIt attracts your soulmate once the emotions that repel your soulmatearereleasedIt results in the creation of universes and locations suited to thedevelopmentofdesires

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DependingonthenegativeFearsofthespirit&individualsonearth,spiritsmay,uponleavingtheirphysicalbody:Be in extreme emotional and physical pain due to the Law ofCompensation. Obsess or possess another person on earthdependingonthesoulfreewillofthatperson.Influencepeopleonearth into behavior that supports their own unloving desires.Remain “earth‐bound” or attracted to the earth for variousemotional reasons, and remain stagnant in theirprogressionuntiltheyreleasetheiremotionalfearsDependingonthepositiveDesiresofthespirit&individualsonearth,theymay:Rapidlybegintolearnabouttheirnewcondition&location,and/orslowly change their own soul condition by developing theirintellectual andmoral condition or rapidly change their own soulconditionbydevelopingtheirconnectionwithGod.Theycanmoveto a more beautiful location by working through emotionsdisharmoniouswithLoveSpiritsRemainEarth­Bound (ThroughTheLawofAttraction)becausethey:Haveasetoffalsebeliefsorreligiousbeliefs(e.g.“Christian”,“Newage”etc)orbeliefsaboutthespiritlife(e.g.thereisnosuchthingaslifeafterdeath,IwouldnotbewhereIamifIhaddied,Iwouldbein a better place if I haddied, I am still alive on earth, I havenotdied,whenIdieIshouldknoweverything,Jesuswillgreetme,etc)HaveasetofunhealedemotionsEmotionsregardingphysicalassets(money,house,propertiesetc)Emotions regarding relationships (family, parents, children,friends,partner,businesspartnersetc)Emotions regarding sexuality (unfulfilled sexual pleasure,voyeurism,sexualharm,sexualangeretc)Emotions regarding physical addictions (alcohol, drugs, tobacco,sex,etc)Emotionaladdictions(needtobeheard,needtobenoticed,needtobeloved,needtobespecial,needtobeuseful,needtobebusy,etc)Emotions regarding power & control (powerless, wanting tocontrolpeopleonearth,etc)

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Emotionsofself‐harm(suicide,recklessness,risktakingetc)Emotionsofdisillusionment(disillusionmentwith love,happiness,etc)Emotions regarding having a sense of purpose (I am nothing if Icannotmother,etc)HaveasetofunrealizeddesiresDesiresregarding livinga full life (Ididnotget todoeverything Iwanted,mylifewas“cutshort”,etc)Desiresregardingunfulfilledaddictions(eitherfromearth,ornowunfulfilledinspiritlife)Desires regardingunfulfilledearth lifeactivities (sport,music,art,work,politics,army,war,religion,etc)HavealackofdesirefortruthDon’twant to know the “truth” about God (this truth exposes allothertruthsanddesires)Don’t want to emotionally face the “truth” of their ownmoral/spiritualcondition(basedonearthlife)Don’thaveadesiretoknowthe“truth”ofthespiritworldcondition(basedonearthbeliefs)Don’twanttofacetheLawofCompensation(Lawof“whatyousowyoureap”)Havealackofdesiretoletgooffalsebeliefs&emotionsTheywishtoavoidtheirownpersonalpainof theirownunlovingemotions&beliefsTheywish tobeangryor ina ragewithothers includingGodandhelpingspiritsTheywishtoblameothersfortheirownpersonalpainTheyareafraid(ofwheretheyare,whytheyarethere,howtogetintoadifferentplace,peopleetc)They are confused (they do not know they are dead, they feelinexplicablydrawntopeopleonearthetc)They feel “hooked” into other people’s emotions or beliefs aboutthemortheirownpassingHowSpiritAttachmentOccursAspiritcanconnecttothemortalpersonssensoryapparatus(sight,sound, touch, taste, smell, etc) if the mortal person has a soulcondition that is nothealed in love in anyway, orwhen the free‐

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will of the mortal is exercised in the direction of allowing aconnection,thespiritcan:connecttoenergypointsinthephysicalbody that are open to connection, including the brain; connect topointsinthe“silvercord”thatareopentoconnection,includingthenervous system; connect to points in the spiritual body that areopentoconnection,includingthemind;connecttothesouldirectlythroughthetransmissionofemotions.TheTypeof spiritattractionsaregenerallybasedonacombinationof:Beliefs(trueoruntrue)Emotions(lovingandhealedorunlovingandunhealed)Desires/Passions(lovingorunloving)PersonalityTraits(unhealedorhealed)Intellectualaccomplishmentsandcompatibility(loveorientatedornot)Attractionsarenotnecessarilycausedbythesameemotionsinthespirit and the mortal. They could be based on totally oppositeemotions that cause an attraction between the mortal and thespirit. E.g. themortal is an angrywomanwho is angrywithmen,andthespirit isamanwhofeels theneedtocalmdownanangrywoman.EmpatheticOrSympatheticAttractionsThe spirit was in a similar condition or had a similar life to themortal theyareattracted to, sohasadeep“caring” feeling for themortaltheyareattractedtoE.g. A common religious/political belief (new age, Buddhist,Christian,communist,etc)E.g.Acommonunhealedemotion(angerwiththeoppositesex,lackofself‐love,etc)E.g. A common passion or desire (for alcohol to detune fromsadness,needto“help”,etc)E.g. A common personality trait (love of nature, love for animals,etc)DisapprovingAttractions

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Thespirit isattractedto themortal tostopthemortal fromdoingwhattheyaredoingE.g. An opposite religious/political belief (catholic spirit wants toconvertaprotestantmortal,etc)E.g. An opposite unhealed emotion (angry mother wanting tocontroladisobedientmortalson,etc)E.g.Anoppositepassionordesire(sexuallyovertspiritwantingtoinfluenceamortalvirgin,etc)E.g.Anoppositepersonalitytrait(spiritwholovesanimalswantingapersontoownadog,etc)MaliciousAttractionsThespiritisattractedtothemortalinordertoharmor“punish”themortalE.g.Ahatredfororresentmentofabelief(adogmatic&angryspiritwhowasa“Christian”onearthwantstopunishordestroyaspiritmediumonearthwhointheireyesisa“witch”)Ahatredfororresentmentofanemotion(aspiritwhowassexuallyabusedonearthbuthasnowpassedwantstopunishtheadultmalesexualpredatorwhoharmedhim)Ahatredfororresentmentofapassionordesire(aspiritwhowasanalcoholictriestopunishahealerwhopreventshimfrombeingabletomakeapersononearthdrinkmore)Ahatredfororresentmentofapersonalitytrait(aspiritdoesnotlikeacertaintypeofpersonbecauseheremindshimofhisfather,hismother,orbadthingsabouthimselfwhenhewasalive)Most spirits connected with mortals are resistant to the mortalunderstanding Divine Truth. Most mortals connected with spiritsaremoreinharmonywithattachedspiritsthanwithDivineTruth.These factors create deep resistance to Divine Truth within boththe spirit andmortal, and are a great cause of stagnation of soulprogressionontheearthandinthespiritworld.Foran in­depth series of very accurate talks on spirit relationships,gotowww.youtube.com/user/WizardShak

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PROTECTINGYOURSELFAGAINSTSPIRITATTACKSAnyformofwantingtoshieldoneselfinanywayorusinganyformof technology, magic, or people is shielding yourself from truthsabout your own self. In this urge to protect yourself, you arerunning away from your own unhealed emotions andwanting toprotectyourselfagainstfeelingthem,thereforedelayingyourownevolution and putting another veil to the love that is waiting toblossomwithin you, and the Love that is waiting to come to youfromGod.This may sound harsh, especially to those who suffer from fearinducing spirit attacks and manipulations, but there are greatlessons and healings to be had from letting down your defenses,whichareinthemselvesbuiltaroundfear,andbeingbraveenoughtobeweakandfeelyourvulnerabilitiesandwoundings.Thisishalfthefaceofthetruespiritualwarrior.Letting these defenses down to feel your unhealed and painfulemotions will bring you more into the truth about yourself andwhatunderliesyourownfears,aswellasthefearsofyourparentsand the collective of humanity. Feeling intowhat lies underneaththesefearswillthenwillallowyoutoknowmoreaboutDivinelawsand the Truths of God, allowing you to then receivemore DivineLove andbecome closer toGod. So it is a blessing if one sees thewholepictureandmostimportantlyfollowsthroughwithit.Spiritscannotharmyou.Theycanonlyharmyouthroughyourownterrorandunwillingnesstofeelyourowngrieforotheremotions.Face the terrorandemotion,andtheycannot touchyouanymore.Itmaybeusefultotracebacktheemotionaltimesandeventsthatspiritsmayhavefirstenteredyou,andwhy.Inseeingthis,onecancometoseethehooks thatspiritscanenteryouthrough,andthenpraytofullyfeelit.Canyouseeyourownspiritinfluencesandhowtheyhaveplayedoutin your life and continue to play out? What emotional hooks andcausal emotions are involved with your attraction of spiritinfluences?

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Thekeytorememberisthatnomatterhowgloriousthespiritsare,theyblindyoutothetrueconditionofyourownsoul,whichistheonlyvehicleandwayyoucanprogress–bybeingrealtowhoyouare,notinhabitedbysomeoneelse!Only I can reach God – others have to do it themselves. Only anaked pure soul, fully in its own sovereignty can become at onewith God. There can be no passengers or add‐ons on any soul’sjourneyofanykindinDivineTruth.Spiritscanamplifytheiremotionalblackmailandthreatsonyouasyou start to break away from them. This can play out as fears ofridicule, rejection, loss, smallness, weakness, and whatever thecause for your original hooks are. But their threats, blackmail orevenbriberywillnotworkifyoutrulydesireGodaboveallelseandarenotworriedaboutwhatotherpeoplesayorthink.Youareprepared to look likea fool, in theeyesof theego,othersand spirit threats, because nothing elsematters to the soul apartfrom followingDivineTruth and receivingDivineLove,nomatterwhat the cost. There can be no compromise to truth and thesovereignsoul;onehastobepreparedtodieratherthangiveintountruth.It all comesbackdown to simpleDivine laws, as always. It isstayingwithDivineTruth,DivineTruthistheprotectionwithDivineLove–sofollowthisinallyoudo.Bybecomingwillingto totally follow it, all negative spirit attractions and theiremotionalhookswithinyoucanbereleased.Thekeysare:1.BESELF­RESPONSIBLETakeselfresponsibility–itissomethingdeeperaboutyouthatyouarebeing shown,nomatterhowmuchyoumay thinkor feel it isnot.NOTESFORYOUTOMAKEONYOURSPIRITINFLUENCES

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2.BEHUMBLEAsYeshuashares, ‘Humility is thepassionatedesire toexperiencefully all our personal emotions, whether painful or pleasurable.Humility is thedesiretoseeourselvesasGodseesus,ratherthanmaintaininga façade. If I andspiritswithmehavehumility, I andthey will always be able to see the truth about our connections.HumilityistheessentialpersonalqualityImustdevelopifIwishtoknowAbsoluteTruth.’Be humble ‐ feel all your emotions, why and how they come toyouthrough your holes and hooks.When you are being humble,negativeenergiescannotreallyharmorinfluenceyou,andpositiveguidescancomeinandhelpyou.Theyarehereforyouallthetimeifyoudothis.3.PRAYANDLONGFORDIVINELOVEAsYeshuashares, ‘ThegreatestpowertohelpmecometoseemyownsoulconditiontruthfullyisDivineLove.ThepowertoreceiveDivine Love comes from the soul based longing to receive LovefromGodinPrayer.AsGod’sLoveentersthesoul,theDivineTruth(AbsoluteTruth)isexposed.IfI(spiritormortal)amwilling,thenall my attractions & attachments will be automatically exposed.This can only happen if I have an intense desire for God’s Loveaboveallotherthings.Mydesire forGodmustbemore importanttomethanmaintainingmyownfictitiousviewpointofmyself.’Pray,desireandlongforDivineLovefromthesoul.Howbadlydoyouwant it?He canprotect you temporarilyand it is your desirethatwillalsoexposethestateofyoursoulbecausethisiswhatyouare asking for so you can grow in a truthful and authentic way.Negativespiritscannothandlethisloveasitflowsintoyou,soprayandthenfeelandprocesstheemotion.Ifyouaretooscaredtofeelthe causal emotion, that’s fine – just ask to feel the fear aroundfeelingthegrieffirst

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4.PRAYANDLONGFORDIVINETRUTHAswebringour“personal” truths intoharmonywithGod’sTruth,all spirit attachments are exposed. This can only occur if Ipersonally have an intense desire for Truth to enter meemotionally.Most of uswant toholdontopersonal “truth” ratherthantoseeerrorthatiswithinusemotionally.As longasIhaveadesiretoholdontomyversionoftruth,DivineTruth cannot be known. While Divine Truth is not known, I canneverunderstandtheTruthofmysoulcondition.IftheTruthofmysoul condition is not exposed, then my spirit attachments andattractions remainhidden. If Ihaveadesire toknowall theerrorwithinme,thenIwillalwaysintheendfindTruth.’Pray, desire and long forDivineTruth from the soul to enter youemotionally.Howdeeplydoyouwantit?Iwanttoknowwhatisthetruthaboutwhatisreallyhappeningwithinme.5.EDUCATEYOURSELFWatch the 4 videos and feel into and practice what is shared inthesewritings.6.BEWILLINGBewillingtofeelyourhooks,andputALLthesechoicesintoactiononadailybasis

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‘Livebythelawsofthisworld,andworldlyyouwillbecome.LivebythelawsoftheDivineandDivineyoushallbecome.’ChristYeshuaDivineLawsarehowthelawsofLoveoperate.Theselawsarewhatmaintain and keep the universe in perfect harmony, and they arealways operating; it is justwhetherwe choose to follow them orignorethem.All Laws that govern the Universe are Divine, in that they werecreatedbyGod.ThereisahierarchyofDivineLawsthatgovernourphysical, spiritual and soul existence, and the Laws surroundingDivineLove are themostpowerful Laws in existence.God’s Lawsare always in operationwhetherwe are ignorant of them or not,andthefastestwaytolearnDivineLawistoconnecttoGod’sLovewithourHeart.AllofGod’sLawsarelovingintheiroperation,andhave loving consequencesupon the soul. 57God can communicatewith, and help each one of us to understand the Laws of theUniverse,ifwegotoHimdirectlyandasktoreceiveDivineLove.TheDivine Laws of Love transcendALL physical andmoral laws.Divine Love surpasses the laws and rules humans have put intopractice to regulate, control and order theworld, aworld largelybuiltonthereverseofDivineLaws.Theseworldlylaws,createdbyafoundationofmenwithoutwomenmillenniaago,werecreatedinaracist,sexist, lessinformedandegalitarianstatethanachildcouldcomeupwithtoday.Those who did not conform to these worldly laws and sharedhigher truths toothershavebeen traditionallymurderedand hadtheirnoblevisionsoftruthhijacked.Threatstotheworldlylawsofthematrixsystemaresnuffedoutfast.Itistheselawsthatformthebedrockofsocietytoday,andthesystemsweliveunder.Theselawsare totally open tomanipulation, bargaining, coercion, politickingandcompromiseatalltimes.

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We live by these laws because we know of no other choices,becauseof fear,becauseofwhatothersdo, and tokeepourselvessafe and ‘secure’ in our amnesia, to maintain a safe status quo,forgetting the voice of our conscience andwhat itmight bringupfor us. This is because as our conscience gradually awakensthrough living by more moral and Divine Laws, with it comesremorse, guilt, shame andregret because of our errors againsttheselawsoflove.OurconsciencethenknowsthatuntilwegetintoharmonywithDivineLaws,wewillcontinuetosuffer.58Asoursoulprogresses,theurgestogoagainstDivineLawsandfollowworldlycodes become fainter and fainteruntil such urges are removedsooner orlater, and conscience ceases to cause suffering.Forgivenessis,ineffect,forgetfulness.Gettingtrappedinthephysicalonlyworldanditslawsandwaysofdoingthingsisabigtemptation.Ownership,greed,power,control,and all of its fear‐based justifications in our thinking spring fromhere, all from the denial of our own pain and separation fromDivineLove.This takes a constant commitment and vigilance, as well as theadmonition by Christ who shared that this world is but a waystation, a passing point. Do not get too involved in it, or youwillbecomelikeitandforgetyourDivineinheritanceandthereasonforbeing here in the first place. Materialism is a subtly creepingphenomenon that can gradually ensnare us with its logicalmachinationsandworldly,practicalreasoning.Thephysicalworldactuallycontainsthe‘lowest’ofthelawsoftheuniverse. We can get ensnared in and tempted by these laws,forgetting our divinity and the priority of this in our lives. Legalmatters, the laws of gravity, electromagnetism, the elements,drivingrules, infacteverythingthatgovernsthehumanworldarepart of this. These rules arewhatmost people take as sacrosanctandlivetheirlivesscrupulouslyby.5958new‐birth.net/dlindex.htm59Watchthehumourousyetinsightfulfilm,‘TheDevilsAdvocate”withAlPacinoforagreatlookatthis.

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Nextinthelevelofimportanceoflawsarethemoralornaturallovelaws,suchasnotkilling,notstealing,notbeinganadulterer,andallthewayswehavebeendishonest,proud,secretive,andemotionallyunclearwithoutintegrityandhonour.Someofthesemorallawsareseen in themoral codes of the10Commandments, theyamas andniyamas of yoga practice, and basic ways in which we live as a‘good’humanbeing.Perhaps themost powerful, comprehensive andpractical of thesemorallawsarefoundintheancientEgyptianOpeningoftheHeartceremoniesofMa’at,whichinvolvespecificwaystofeelandforgiveyoursoulserrors,andcontainDivineLawswithinthemaswell.Allthese moral codes serve to clear and open the heart, preparingfertilesoilforDivineLawstothenenterandmanifest.What transcends them all, and are the simplest, are Divine Laws,whichachildcancomprehend. It is theseDivineLaws,whichGodgently reminds us of oncewe ask, sowe can live by them in ourdailylives.Givethemprecedenceoverworldlyandmoralcodes,forthey are eternal and lead you back into the arms of the greatestLoveyouwilleverknow.Paradoxically, the coming of Divine order creates chaos in yourfalse, constructedself,builton the lawsof thisworld,untilDivineorder is reinstated once again, through your own choice andfollowingDivineLaws firstand foremost. Insodoing,youmaybejudged or persecuted, but you will also be turning back to thegreatestloveofalleternity,steppingthroughadoorwayintoGod’sArms.WhilefeelingsofdisharmonyandconflictmayfollowtherevealingofTruthstoasoullivinginuntruth,knowingandfeelingTruthswilleventually lead to true Harmony. Moral and Divine Truths, whenfollowed, will disturb and shake your false beliefs and emotionalshielding to their foundations, and this will also trigger otherpeople’s wounding and defenses. There may be conflict between

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thethoughts,feelingsandlivesofthosewhochoosetofollowtheseDivine Truths, and between those who choose to stay in theirwoundsandbeliefs.Onehastoupsettheapplecart,onehastobreaktheexistingorderand your inner status quo in order to rise to a new and higherorder.Thefalsepeacethatmanythinktheyarelivingin isexactlythis: you have reached a certain state that is not allowing deepertruthsandmoreDivineLovetoenter.‘Truth is of itself, a thing apart, and admits of no variations ormodifications.’ It is your soul that must submit to and embraceTruth; it will never, ever change or accommodate itself to yourbeliefs. Truth is fixed andunchangeable, andyourmind is alwayschangeable, and until it surrenders to serving Truth and DivineLaws,itwillalwayschange.Truthisalwaysthetruth.Itdoesnoteverchangeforyou;youhaveto change everything in your life to be in alignment with It. Youcannot squeeze eternity into your life; your life has to change toexpandintoeternity.YoucannotputGodintotheconfinesofyourego:theegohastogoforGodtobefeltandseen.YoucannoteverhopetofeelandseeGodthroughthelensesofyourowntruthsandperceptions; it isonlybytakingonthesoul’sperceptions living inDivineTruthsthatthiscaneverhappen.Truthnevercompromiseswithuntruth,andyourdesireasyoubecomeclosertoGodwillbetolivebytruthatalltimes.Error does not exist in the world because God created it, butbecausewehaveanunrestrictedandfreewill,whichinfluencesourthoughts, words and actions, which in turn is influenced by ourdesires, appetites and errors. When we, in the exercise of ourfreewill,violateaDivineLawandinterferewithHarmony,wecausedisharmonytoarise,whichbringswithitpainandsuffering.60

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Inourcreationweweregiventheprivilegetobecomeentirelyfreefrom sin, sin being ourmistakes and violation of Love and DivineLaws—AND theprivilegeandpower toviolate these laws.Ashewills,soshallhebe.Thereisnosinorerrorintheuniverse,andtheyappear only when human beings, in the exercise of their will,interfere in the harmony of God's laws within themselves. TheTruthisalwaystheTruthanddoesnotchange.ThebabiesdyinginAfrica,thegraveinjusticesappearingallovertheworld,arearesultofthis,humanity’sfreewilldoing.The penalty of breaking Divine Laws applies to everyone whobreaksthem.Itdoesnotmatterifthecausemayappearexcusableorapparentlyforcedonyou,or‘ifeveryoneelseisdoingit,orifyoufeel lazyandangry, or if itwouldmakeyour life easier if youdidbreaka law,or if itwouldplacateanothertobreaka lawtomakethem feel good, or if it wouldmake you feel better in breaking alaw. Any excuse will not make what is inharmonious within yousuddenlybecomeinharmonywithDivineLaws.Breakinglawsoutofotherexcusessuchasancestry,environment,the ‘wrong’ friendships, lackofproperemotional,mentalormoralinstruction, i.e ignorance, is justasmuchoutofharmonywith theviolatedlaw,asthesoulwhoknowsthelawsandstillviolatesthem.Thepenaltywillbeenforcedthesameineachandeverycase,andtheonlyremedy is therestorationofharmony.ThosewhochoosethisrestorationwillinglywillofcoursegettoharmonyandDivineLovefasterthanthosewhodonotwillinglychooseandfollowsuchlaws.Christ said, ‘Letamanwhohasviolated thisharmonyandbecomesinharmonious, again get into that harmony, and as to him therewouldbenosinorerror;andleteverymandothisandtherewouldbenosinorerrorinallGod'suniverse.’Forlifetoexistandcontinuetoexist,theuniversemustremaininastateofharmony,andeach lawGodcreatesorhascreatedresultsin a completelyharmoniousuniverse for every creature, and is in

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itselfanactofLoveforeachcreature.So,God,beingthesourceofthisActofLove,isaLovingGod.61EachDivineLaw,fromthesmallesttothegreatest,hasapenaltyforitsviolation,andthatpenaltyisbroughtuponthesoulviolatingthelaw,by the law itself.This iscalled theLawofCompensation.Themindandsoulcontainsarecordofall theDivineLawsand love ithas violated within its memory, and the condition of the soul isdetermined by the soul’s response to the violation of these laws.The Law of Compensation is consistent, just, and foolproof. Goddoesnotneedto,andHedoesnotinadirectsenseenforcethelaws,since the penalties for each law are enforced by the laws ownexistence.So,knowingDivineLawsisofprimeimportanceinyourgrowth.Punishment is not the goal of the penalty, but rather the goal iscorrectionof thesoul tobring themagain intoastateofharmonywiththeuniverse,atruestateofhappiness.GodexercisesHisLoveby demonstrating on a constant basis to the person violating thelawhowtolivewithinlaw,andalsohow,ifthepersonhassinnedagainst law, to come to God and allow Him to work upon theconditionoftheirsoultoremovethecauseforthepenalty.GodwillnotforcethepersontocometoHim,norwillGodforcethepersontocometounderstandthehigherLawsofLovethatwillmakethemhappier.62Whenyoumakeerrors,thelawofcompensationstatesthatyoupaythepenaltyoftheseuntiltherehasbeenafullfeelingandhealingofthem.Youcannot,ofyourself,hopetochangetheoperationsofthislawandcanspendmuchtimetryingto,andpartiallysucceeding,inclearing this karmic record through doing goodworks, charitableworks,moralanddutifulworks.This Lawoperates on your soul,which is filledwithmemories oferror against Divine Laws and Divine Love. These memories or

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‘karmas’createtheelementsofyour life,weavingtogetherwoundwithwoundtocreateaseeminglyseamlesspictureofsufferingthatbecomesthelensthroughwhichyouviewand‘create’yourversionof reality. You live with these memories, and the suffering theycreatecanneverleaveyou,untilthememoriesandresultsofthemceasetobeapartofyou.ThiscanonlyhappenthroughGod’sLove:thegreatestalchemyandtransformer in the universe. The Law of Love is the greatest law.Everyother law is subordinate to It, andworks inunisonwith it;andDivineLove,whengiventousandwepossessit,isthefulfillingofalllaw.ThisLovefreesusfromalllawexceptthelawofitsownself—andwhenwepossessthisLove,weareslavetonolawandarefree.WhenDivineLovecomesintoyoursoul,itleavesnoroomforthesememories,andasyoubecomemoreandmorefilledwiththisLove,these memories disappear and only the Love inhabits your soul.God forgives us, makes us new, and does not annul the law ofcompensation,butremovesthatuponwhichthislawmayoperate.ItislikeGodsaying,"Iwillremoveyoursinsandgiveyoumylove.Iwill not set aside or change my laws of compensation, but I willremove fromyoursouleverythinguponwhich this lawcanoperate,allthememories,allthepain,allthesuffering,throughyoursinceredesireandrepentance.Andthenitwillbecometoyouasifithadnoexistence."This is truly remarkable and full ofGrace. This Love is enough tocleanseyoursoulfromallerrorforever.Whathadhoundedyouformany years vanishes and cannot even be remembered.Relationships that had seemed so strong in their memories andcharge no longer have any substance to themat all.Memories ofdeep pain, and all their effects, vanish. Your Law of Attractioncompletely changes and you receive entirely different sets ofeffects.WhenGodforgives,errordisappears,onlyLoveexists,andthis Love in its fullness is the fulfilling of the law. There remainsnothing in you upon which this law can operate, and you are nolongeritsslaveorsubject.

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God ishere foreveryone, andmakesnodistinction.A soul cangofromthelowest,mostdepravedplace,intounionwithGodinyears,if they really desire it. God has no hierarchy; he does not favouranyone over anyone else. He loves us all equally. Often it is thepeoplewhoareinthemostsorryeconomicstatethatcanmovethefastest, because they have the deepest desire and the leastdistractions. When you have your phones, Internet, TV, families,children,partners,career,socializing,clubs,bars,whattimeisthereforGod?Whattimeistheretopray?Whattimeistheretofeel?Notmuch.Mostofthedayisgone.TofollowDivineLawsatthecostofanythingelseisoneofthemostcrushing things for the ego. Love is not just. That is an importantthing to remember. In aDivine senseLove is totally Just, but in amoralorphysicalsenseitwilloftennotappeartobe.God’sgreatestDesireforyouistoreceiveandbecomeatonewithHimandDivineLove, sophysicalandmoral lawswillbeexposed,andyouwillbeasked tomake choices regardingwhich laws you follow themostpassionately.Thisdoesnotmeanthatyoudonotfolloworhonourtheseotherlaws:itmeansyouhavetheabilitytomakechoicesthathonourDivineLawsaboveanyotherlaws.In the film ‘The Passion of Christ’, where Christ undergoes historture,hestayedinDivineLawsandTruthallthetime;hedidnotmovefromthem,evenwhenhewasofferedmanyopportunitiestoleave them.Hedidnot recogniseorbow to anyother lawonanyotherlevel.Hewasperfectinlivingthem.But fortherestofus, feelingscanariseofanger,resentment,painand injustice aswe follow these laws, having to leave out certainthingsinourlifeandchoosingtofeelemotionswehavepreviouslydenied.We can feel that we have been betrayed and abandoned;deniedandjudged,morallywronged.Asweuncoverandfeeltheseemotions within us, we get closer and closer to following DivineLaws, as our wounds and pain around all the times we have notfollowedDivineLawsandviolatedthemfadesaway.Thenwebecomemorehumble,softerandourpriorityshifts fromwhatappearstobeimportantforthemindoftheworld,towhatis

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Real.NothingofthisworldseemssoimportantanymoreasweshiftintoDivineLawsandweshiftintoBeingandlessdoing.TheprimaryDivineLawsofhow tobecomecloser toGodare thetrinity of humility, desire and freewill choice. These threemasterkeysarefocusedthroughdeepprayer,knowing/followingDivineLaws and applying them at all times, in all situations, with allpeople,inyourdailylife,consistentlyandpersistently.Divine Truth and Love are always in perfect harmony; withoutDivineTruth,Lovecannotbecomplete;DivineTruthdoesnotandcannotcompromise,evenforthesakeofpeace;DivineTruthresultsinfreedomandafearlessexistence;DivineTruthdoesnothurtanyoneoranything;DivineTruthdoesnotallowthelie,nomatterwhattheprice;BreakingthelawofDivineTruthresultsinpenalties;DivineTruthisdemonstratedbyactions;DivineTruthisfelt,itisemotional;Personal“truth”mustbefacedbeforeDivineTruthcanbefound.63

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1.HUMILITYHumilityistheKeytoDivineLoveandlivinginDivineLaws.LivingmoreandmoreinDivineLawsmakesyoumoreandmorehumbleautomatically, as the laws are the harmony of Divine Loveoperating in Oneness. Humility and Divine Laws are intertwined,andnecessarily dissolve pride and self created resistances, and isthe gateway to all love. By returning to these simple truths andfeelingourdenial, abandonment andbetrayal of them, alliedwithourjudgmentofothersandself,wefeelourself‐chosenseparationfromDivineLove. In feeling them,webegin thedeephealing andthe inevitable return to God, knowing they areeffects of a causethatdonotexist.Humility leads to full and total SELF­RESPONSIBILITY. This alsomeansbeing real andhonestwithwhereyouare in the state andcondition of your soul right now, as it is. There is no faking it tillyoumakeitinhumility.YoucanproclaimthatyouandGodareone,thatyouarenotseparatefromGod,andvariousothertruthsfromyourmind,butifyouarenotlivingitdonotsayit!Thiswillmakeyoumore humble and therefore you will eventually get to unionwithGod.Fullandtotalself‐responsibilityistakentoitsultimateoctaveandDivine expression in applying the LAW OF THE MIRROR toeverything occurring in your life until your mirror is clean. Thisleadstothebreakdownofourinsistenceonrelyingsolelyonitselfandothersforitsexistence,whichopensthedoortoallowGodandDivineLove tocome in,and for totalDEPENDENCEONGOD. Justas there was before total dependence on self and independencefromGod,nowthepolaroppositeistrue,isreflected,ismirrored.Ifyou reversemost of the perceptions in your life, youwill see thetruth.This total dependence on God and breakdown of the shell of theseparateselfthenleadstoMERGINGINGOD.

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2.DESIREFORGOD,ANDGOD’sDESIREFORYOUThepowerofyouryearning,desireandloveforGod,themoreyoudesire,themoreGodwillcometoyou.Godfeelsyourdesire–itisthe languageof your soul talkingwithGodsSoul.Truedesirewillalways be received and will always be reciprocated. God willalwayscometothosewhodesireGod,infaith,yearningandearnestaspiration.TrueprayeristhephonelinetoGod,prayersteepedintheseDivineLawsandtruths.Puredesirepurifies the soul. Puredesire is infinite, it never endseven when you are in union with God because God has burningdesireallofthetimetoknowyoutotally.SotheverysubstanceofDivineLoveisalsoHisburningdesire,whichiswhyitiscalledThePassionofChrist.ItisthroughthatburningdesireandDivineLovethateverythinggetsgivenandeverythingmanifests.YoucannotaskorprayformoredesireforGod;youcanasktobemore humble and you can ask to feel those emotions of pride orshameorwhateveritmaybethatblockdesireforGod.Youcanasktofeelthemandthatwillleadtomorehumilityandmoreopenness,andthenmoredesirewillnaturallyarisefromwithinyoursoul.3.LAWOFFREEWILL andCHOICE INEVERYMOMENTTOFEEL,ORNOTWhatlenswillyoutaketoseerealitythrough–yourlawsorDivineLaws?IfyoudonotknowDivineLaws,thanyourchoiceswillnotbewellinformed. Free will encourages the most love, because it is thenyourchoiceanddesiretoalignyoursoultoDivineLoveandtruth.Thatmeansthatyoutreatallothersinthatlight.So,ifyoucontrolanybodyoryourself,youviolatethis lawof freewill,whichis finetodo,buttherewillbeconsequencesthatyouarecreating.Freewillmeans that you allow everyone to do exactlywhat theyfeel,whetherornotit isalignedtoDivineLoveornot.Allyoucan

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be responsible for is your own choice. And when you are fullyresponsible foryourchoices inalignmentwithLove, itreallydoesnotmatteraboutanybodyelse’s choicesbecauseyouare living inLove.(Andofcourseyoumaylovinglysharewhatyoufeelwithoutanydemandor expectation.) So there is a lovingdetachment thatcomesfromfully followingthisLaw.Andwiththatcomestherealloveof yourownsoul, andof courseevendeeperdesire and loveforGod.Sometimes you will have to do what may appear unloving forothersbecauseittriggerstheirownlackofself‐love.So,incomingtoknowandchoosetofollowDivineLawsofyourownfreewill,alotof thingswillbegin todropaway fromyour life.Theseare theeffectsofyourcausalwoundsand thestrategiesyouhavecreatedwhen you followed your own laws or personal truths, or youfollowedthefalsewisdomgeneratedfromyourcausalwounds.Wehaveallcreatedourownlittlelawsorpersonaltruthswhichweare followingeveryday.Andthesearecreatedbyourownbeliefsthat were created by our wounds. And this is how the worldoperates. Of course, creating your own laws always comes fromyour own pain. So it is actually painful to your soul to keepfollowing the personal truths or little laws you created that areagainstDivineLawsandlove.Andthatiswhyyoufeelpain.Whenyouareinpain,askwhatDivineLawareyougoingagainst?When your soul feels pain, it is recognising that it goes againstLove. And it may be something in the past, which your soul isrecognisingwentagainstlove.Thatiswhatpainactuallyis.Butyouhavetofeelthat.Youhavetofeelallthetimesthatyouwentagainstlove, to come back into love. And that also means that you willnever repeat thatagain,becauseyoudonotwant to recreate thatpain. Divine Laws are a very simple system. The more pain youexperienceandmovethrough,themorecompassionyouhaveandyouknowthatyoudonotwanttodothateveragaintoyourselfortoothers.Thereare threesteps in theevolutionof freewill thatweallpassthroughatsomepointinoursoulsgrowth.

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a.TheFirstChoiceWeallhavechoice,butmostsoulsareunawareofthepowerofthechoices that are available to them, until they become aware thatthey do have choices of what to do, or not do, in their lives, andexercise them. One has to become educated about what choicesthey have, what is possible. Hence, books, teachers, events andsynchronicities come into our lives to show us what is possible,whereasbeforewemaynotevenhaveconceivedofthepossibilitiesopentous.Inthisnewfoundawareness,wecanchoosetofollowourdesiresinharmonywith love and Divine Laws, or not. In not following ourdesires in alignment with Divine Love and truths, we only harmourselves and veil our souls. And this is fine too! Untilwe desiresomethingelse…Oncewestarttobecomeawareofthechoiceswedohave,westartto awaken. New paths start to open, and through our actionsbecomesolidifiedandmanifested.ThisispartofthefirstopeningstoDivineLove.Only when you inform a person about this, are they illuminated.‘Wow!Ineverthoughtofthat.Isthatpossible?Yes!Mostpeoplewalkaroundinsuchavibrationthattheyarenotawarethattheycandosomethingdifferent.IfyoureadsomethingaboutthesoulandGod,havea littlebitofeducation,keep it simple, thenyoucanbecomeawarethatyoucandosomethingdifferent.The gift of freewill, and allowing everyone their experiences nomatter what they are choosing, even if it is to your detriment,allowsmuchmorelovetobloom.Theironyisthatoncefreewill istotally allowed, as God allows it, then nothing detrimental canhappen to you! It is acceptance. You begin to identify more withGodandDivineLoveasthisprocessdeepens.Therealityyouchoosetosee,andrealityasit is,aretwodifferentthings.Fullylivinginthegiftofyoursandotherschoicesmayhurtyourego,butthenthispainbecomesfurtherfuelforhumility,faith,

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surrender, the gentling of loves acceptance, and compassion foryourown(andother’s)madresistancetoDivineTruthsandlove.ItisallDivinelycreated,justforyou.Itislovewhittlingdownyouregoifyouchooseit.Choicemeansallowance.The second irony is thatweuse theverygiftofunionwithGod–thepowerofchoice–todenythatUnion.Canyouseealltheeffectsinyourlifeofthisinsaneattempt?b.TheHolyChoiceFaith is ever deepening as one surrenders everything toDivineLaws and following them all the time. Faith is when we do notknow,wecanneverworkitout,butweallowandtrustthattoflowasitwantsto,andgoalongwithit.Andifwedonotgoalongwithit,andcontinueourownself‐createdpainandresistance,weinquireintowhy,andthenstillhavefaithinourresistancetoDivineLove.IfIAmtolearnofGod,ofLove,IMUST–atalltimesandunderallconditions– turntotheplacethathasNEVERenteredSeparation,thathasNO INTEREST inegoatall, and isutterly surrendered totheguidanceof theOneGuidegiventousall. 64ThisOneGuide isavailable to everyone’s souls, and was created in the very samemomentwe chose separation. It is available to us all through thealmighty power of this holy choice, consistently chosen.Consistently choosing to follow Divine Laws and love, in everymoment, is thestartpointof this.Themoreyoudo, themorethisOneGuiderevealsthroughyourdesireandcontinuedhumility.ThisOneGuideistheHolySpiritofGod,theactioningofGod,andisavailableinthepurityofoursoulswhichdwellswithinourhearts,andwhichhasbeencoveredwithforgetfulnessanderror.Itisfromthis space,where the soul thatyouarenow is totallydeletedandfreeofallitsmemories,errorsandnegativeemotions,liestheOpen

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Road to God, providing we stay humble and desirous of ouratonementwithHim.c.TheDissolutionofchoicesoutofharmonywithDivineTruthandLove.Divine Love becomes the choiceless choice. Surrender is ournaturalstate.Lovesembracebringsupeverythingthat loveisnot,so more love can be present. Is that not marvelous and awe‐inspiring?WhenyoufollowDivineLawstotheirfullextent,thereisapricetopay:andthatisyourerrors.4. CAUSEANDEFFECT – Karma and healing causalwounds inthesoul5.LAWOFCOMPENSATION–asabove6.LAWOFTHEMIRROR–seechapter7.LAWOFATTRACTION8.42LAWSOFHARMONY–Amoral teachingandabridge,butimportanttoallowmoreDivineTruthtoanchorwithinus.9.LAWOFNON­OWNERSHIP–Weownnothing,Followthistoitsextent.Thosewholiveintruthhavegiventheiralltoit,andnotheldbackone single speck of themselves. There are no compromises.Ownership creates a sense of security for the mask of the self,hardeningitsboundaries,makingitseemmoretangibleandharder

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toaccessthewoundedselfthatthenleadsusintoTruthandDivineLove.As comedian Stewart Lee shares, ‘my own deranged tendency tokeep every thingwasas if toprove that I existed.”Owningnothingallowseverythingin.ThisiswhyChristsaid,‘ItiseasierforacameltopassthroughtheeyeofaneedlethanforarichmantoentertheKingdomofheaven.”Themorepossessionswehavethemorethereis to lose: their bulwarks of identity and their masks are morefirmly secured. It ismoreof ablessing forwealthypeople to giveawaytheirmillionsthanitisforthepeoplereceivingit;thinkaboutit.Thosewho have little have little to lose, and are themore joyful.Worryingaboutpossessionsalsotakesupalotoflifeforceenergythatcouldbeusedtodeconstructthemasksoftheself.Theactualobjects themselves hold vital energy; the more possessions youhave, themore vital energy is sapped into these objects, and thisthen becomes a heaviness you carry around with you. The wiseownlittle,andstayopentoall.Possessionsdefinethemaskoftheself.Theyaretheoutpicturingof a persons residual self‐identity, of their mind. What is lyingaroundyou inyourhomeenvironment iswhatstateyourmind islike.Lookaroundyounow.Whatdoyousee?Owningthingsseemstostaveoffthemarchoftime.Themoreonehas, themore timeand its concomitantally, the fearofdeathandthevoid,seemstorecedeinitspower.Wetryandcreatethefuturebasedonourpastexperience.Alltimesarevague,evershiftingandamorphousdependentonyoureverchangingchoices,andtheever‐changingchoicesofmanyothers.10.LAWOFGIVINGANDRECEIVINGGiving,receivingandaskingarepartofthelawofdesire.Askandyoushallreceive,

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Giveanditshallbegiventoyou,Givewhatyoumostneed,GivewhatisGiventoyoutoothers.Givingbecomesthesameasreceiving.To live fully in Divine Lawsmeanswe have to deepen into otheropenings in this journey, for they are intertwinedwith:Creatingspaceinyourlifebylettinggoofoldrelationships,friends,people,healing and completing your family and ancestral wounds, oldenvironmentsandhouses,oldnamesandwaysofbeingconnectedwith the old you, old jewelry, furniture, photos andmemorabilia,spiritualpractices,oldjobsthatnolongerserveyoursoul’sgrowth.Healing the CollectiveWounds, as seen in the OriginalWoundschapter.Living in thisworld youwill be tested.Will you staywith DivineLawsorwill yougowith thephysical,worldly laws?Doyouhavethe strength and the love to stay with Divine Laws rather thangoingalongwithwhateverybodyelseissaying?AsyoustarttodeepenintoDivineLoveandTruth,DivineLawswillbecomemoreandmoreimportantbecausetheonlyreasonyouwillwantor choose togoagainstDivineLaws isbecauseof yourpainandyourwounds.SoanytimeyoufeelyoucannotfollowaDivineLaw it is because of a wound. But, with this awareness, you canworkwithandfeelthepainofthewoundthatcomeswithit.Intheworld, itwillseemtobeeasiertogoalongwiththe lawsofthe world. You may feel naked, innocent, vulnerable, if you arefollowingDivineLaws in theworld andnobodyelse youknow is.Which iswhy Yeshua said ‘I will send you out as sheep unto thewolves.’ In following Divine Laws, you become open, sensitive,innocent,becausetheyarelawsoflove.And of course aswe followDivine Laws, themore dependentwebecomeonGod.Andthenthelesscontrolwehave,thesmallerourmasksbecomesandthecloserwebecometoGodbecauseweare,

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in essence, loving our own soul, because we are honouring thevalues of the soul. DivineWill knows farmore than you can everknow.God lovesyou totallyandwillonlyevergiveyousituationsso you can deepen into feeling your errors and wounds andtherefore come into Divine Love. It is just adjusting your way ofperceiving into the soul, to feel and follow these constantreminders.THE42DOORWAYSTOTHEOPENHEARTLIGHTASAFEATHERThe Ceremony of the 42 Doorways to the heart is a humblingprayerofSelf‐inquirythatcanbeusedeveryday.Itcomesfromtheancient Egyptian ceremony ofMa’at‐ the harmony of the heart. Itcanshowusveryclearly,ifwearehumble,whereweareinerrorinour lives right now, and in the past. It is truly about feeling ourerrors,andforgivingourselvesthroughfeelingtheguilt,shameandfear thatwehaveburiedwithinusbut still carry aroundwithus.Oncewehavefully,thenwewillneverrepeatitagain.Most of us havedone someof these things. Can you simply allowyourselftofeelthetimesyouhavedonethem,andreallyembracethefeelingsofpainandfearthatcreatedit?ThiswillallowyoutocomemoreintoTruth,andthereforeLove.Youcanprepareyourselfbylightingacandle,andcreatingasacredspace. Sit silently, and invite God to be present through prayer.Breathe into your heart, and allow it to soften. Make a vow toyourselftobehumble,open,honest,andreceptivetotherealtruthandactionsofyourlife.I have included this Ceremony on the next pages for your easyreadingandprintingofit.

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Ihaveneverheldontoagrudgeorpastwound.Ihaveneverstoppedtheflowoftruth,nordeniedtheexpressionoftruth in myself or another. I have not stayed silent when truthneededtobespoken.Ihavenotactedsmalltohidemylight.Ihavenotlivedinhope.Ihavenotblasphemedandsinnedagainstlove.I have not set the beast in me upon another, nor entertainedmurderousthoughts,norwantedtohurtmyselforothers.Ihavenotbeenastirrerofstrife.Ihaveneverraisedmyvoice.Ihavenotactedwithdesperationandimpatience.Ihaveneverfeltworthless.I have not spoken unnecessarily. I have not gossiped. I have notbrokensilenceoutoffear.Ihavewrongednone,Ihavedonenoevil.Ihavenotmadeothersormyselffeelguilty.Ihavenotworkedwitchcraftorblackmagicagainstanyone.Ihaveneverbetrayedmyselforanother.Ihaveneverabandonedthefightforlove.I have not cursed God and played the victim. I have not givenresponsibilityformyactionstoanyoneoranythingelse.Ihavenotactedwitharrogance.Ihavenotbeenself‐absorbedandignoredtheneedsofothers.Ihavenotbeenweak.I have not tried tomake excuses formy small self or defendmyposition.IhavenotseparatedhumanfromDivineandplacedthemapart.Ihavenotdishonouredanother’schoices,giftsandpathway.IhavenottriedtokeepformyselfthatwhichgoestoGod.I have not betrayed or tainted the purity of the child within, orwithout.I have not distrusted or dishonoured myself. I have never beenunreliable. Ihavenotbeeneasily ledbyothers,orasheep. IhavenotabandonedmySovereignconnectiontoSelf.IhavenottakenmorethanIhavegiven,orleftanystoneunturnedinmysearchfortheDivine.

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Oneofthedeepestandmostdestructiveofourcollectivewoundsisthesplitbetweenmaleandfemale.Withoutthisunion,therewillbenoawakenedorempoweredcivilization,despiteallthetechnological,culturalandscientificadvancesthathumanitymakes.Infactalltheseadvances,withoutthecreativeandlovingenergyofmale‐femaleunionbehindthem,maydistractusfromlove.There are some obstacles to this unionwithin us. On this planetthereare twomajorgroupsofnegativeor injuredspiritswhoareobstructingtheDivineLovepath. Thereisonegroupofwounded,angryfemininespirits,andagroupofwounded,angrymalespirits.Thisobstruction isbasedononesownwoundswhichallow theseattacks to amplify and cover your wound with these spirits ownwoundsandstories,makingithardertoheal.65The angry feminine spirits are posing, with a nice mask, as the‘Divine’ feminine, and their main theme, under the mask, is todominate, harm, and attackmen. Manymenwill be experiencingthis in subtle and not so subtleways. The second group of angrymale spirits intend to sabotage women, so they want to harm,attackandsubjugate the ladies,preyingonthe feminine’swoundsaroundthemasculine.Allofthisisbasedonthesoulswounds,andrefusingtofeeltheinitialwoundinvulnerabilityandopenness.MuchofwhatisbeingsharedintheworldontheDivineFeminineisnot;itisactuallycomingfromawound,andisbeingrunbytheseangryfemininespirits.Manywomenareinfluencedbythesespiritsbecause they have become so polarized in the feminine woundfrom their childhood and from subsequent intimate relationshipsthat rejects themasculine because of previous pain, betrayal andabandonment felt by them ‘through’ the masculine. Sharing‘teachings’ of the Divine Feminine from these wounds, fromseparation from themasculine, comes frommainly singlewomen.So anyone who is teaching on this subject, and is not relating, isshowingsomething.65InitiallybasedonAJMiller’stalk,althoughIhavehadmajorexperienceofthismanytimes.

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These femininespiritswant toputdownandkeepdown themen(andviceversa for themasculine spirits to the feminine)becausethey want to rule the world; they want a total matriarchy orpatriarchyonthisplanet.Thatistheirpurpose,theirgoal,andtheywant theothersex insecondposition; theywilldowhatever theycantomakesuretheyarekeptdownemotionally,helpingtoensurethat the other sex stay in judgment about themselves, stay inunworthinessanddon’tcomefullyintotheirheart,orconnecttheirhearttotheirsexualityandsoul.Theywant theother sex todoubt their self, tobe in apositionofservitude.Theywant tokeepalive theoldparadigmofmenbeingsupporters and totally looking after their women and thereforeunabletofullydropintotheirownemotions,(andhaveasenseofharmonyandequalitybetweenmenandwomen)anythingtokeepthe other sex away from their true emotions andwounds and intheirhead,moreinaworldlyrole.This is not actually how God created us. It is just the way thatsocietyislivingbecausethesethemeshavebeenpasseddowninourculturebythesespirits.Thefoundationofmale‐femalerelatingwearelivinginnowhasbeenpasseddowntoourgrandparents,ourparentsandusbytwogroupsofwoundedspirits.Thesespiritstryandamplifyanywoundtocreatediscordbetweenmanandwoman.Theywill take little thingsandblowthemup tomake them really big things. They also like to give bothman andwoman an inflated sense of themselves, subtly suggesting: ‘youdeserve this, this is what you are worth, you deserve to be incharge, you deserve to run the household, you deserve to be incharge of the money that your man earns, you deserve to be incontrol because you are earning the money, so you make thedecisionsetc’sothereisaninstantpolarity.Thethingtheyhatethemostiswhenthereismutuality.Sotheywillwork the other way to create more imbalance and disharmony.Theywillsay to thewomen, ‘you lookaftereveryone, that isyourjob,thatisloving,thatiswhatawomandoes.Lookaftereverythingandtakecareofthemall–makesuretheyfeelnopain.Justsayyes

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to everything andmother and father everyone – make them feelbetter.’Which is of course totally out of actual Truth or Love becauseinstantlyfreewillandhumilityarethrownoutthewindow.Theseare all the things that your parents have, and their grandparentshave,andtheypassedontoyouandyouthinkthatisthewaytobeawomanoraman.Andtherearemanymoreexamplestoo,whichyou all have done or are still doing on some level, of how youbelieveawomanshouldbeorhowyouthinkamanshouldbe.So the angry male spirits are repressed, would much rather beangry, withdrawn, sad and depressed than be humble andvulnerable or express their emotions.On the flipsideof that, theywillbetotallyservingtheDivineFeminine,becausetheyfeelguilty,unworthyandnothumbleenoughtofeeltheirownemotions.SoinAmerica or Europe you often hear this ‘I am here to serve theGoddess’. This idea of service often comes from a sense ofunworthiness,guilt,shameandfear,andisusedbythesenegativespirits. Or it could be the other way, as in be totally angry andemotionallycutoff,andhavethisfaçadeofworldlypowerorwhatisperceivedofasmasculinestrength.These spiritswould ratherbeangryand repressed than feel theirown pain, grief and powerlessness. So these men will say ‘yes, Ialwayswant todowhatyouwant todo,dear,’alwaysagreeing toeverythingthewomansays,becausetheyhavelittleself‐love.Theywill always try to please and placate women, because they don’twant to feel. These angry males can often be quite religious anddogmatic.The angry feminine spirits delight in women being single or in arelationship that does not honour self love, freewill, or followingonesownpassions,becausethentheyareeasilyinfluencedandwillnotreallygettheopportunitytoexperiencelove.Theyreallylikeitwhenwomenarealone,becauseitservesthemverywell, fortheyare always at work trying to createmore vessels to spread theirpolarizedmessage.

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The reason Ihavebeen soadamant thatwombwork is taughtbycouplesisforthisreason.Becausewhattheyaretryingtodowithwombwork is to take it into thehandsofwomen,so thatwomencan come together and dominatemen. They want to emotionallyharm men, in anyway, in everyway. And bless them, it is onlybecause they arewounded, but they are totally unwilling and tooproudtolookattheirwoundsandtheythinktheyareright.Thesespiritshaveallbeenworkingthroughallofyou,atdifferenttimesindifferentways.And the thing to remember is that theywill use anything to stopyoubecoming truly in the feminineor truly in themasculine, andultimately in your own sovereign soul. They will use anyrelationship, theywill use any attachment, theywill use anythingtheycanputtheirhandsonthatisunclearandwoundedinyoutotwist you so you do not access the essence of your feminine ormasculinesoul. Andthiscanserveasagreataccelerationonyourpath, or a very destructive force depending on your humility andself‐awarenessoftheseforcesandyourownwounding.Theangrymalespiritsarelikelytousethetoolsofmoney,power,control,authorityanddogmatohelpthemintheirquest.Serialandextended polygamy is part of this play out, which is actually asubstitute for soul mate love. The feminine spirits will use yourfamilies,yourchildren,yourparentsandkeepyouattachedtothemandtheirmodelsofwhat itmeans tobeagoodwomanoragoodman,keepingyouumbilicallyattachedtothat.They want to hook you up with men or women who cloak yourwound,matchyourwound,andcreatemorekarmaforyou,aswellashighlysexualpeoplewhotheycanfeedoffandenjoythequalityoftheirsexualenergy.Andthefunnythingisthatyouallthinkthatthis is loving because it is highly charged and sexually ‘pleasing’.(Read the Chapter ‘what is love and what is not’ in the bookDimensionsoflove.)AgoodexampleofhowthenegativesisterhoodworksisMrsX(realnamewithheld.)Whilst this is amore extreme case, it illustrateswell the basic themes of how these spirits start to infiltrate and

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influence a fetuswhilst still in thewombof itsmother, taking onthemothers wounds, and then growing into a baby, a young girlandthenawoman.When I was born, the nuns told my mother that motherhood wassuffering and did not want to hold her hand. At my birth, my dadwasn’tthere,andmymum’sdaddiedacoupleofweeksbeforesoshewascompletelyalone.SoIreceivedthisimprintingfrommymother,even before I was born.My heart stopped and I had an emergencyforcepsdeliverywithoutanypainkillers.Afterwardsmymotherhadpostnatal depression and rejected me. Later, when I was 7, I wassexually abused. Also my mum was very unstable when I was ateenager,soIbecameveryfrightenedofherstateandwantedtokeephercalm.Thatisanothersign:keepthewomencalm.Calmthewomanatallcost.Placatetheangrywoman.Thisisallabigopening,becauseoftheseparationofthemasculine,forspiritstocomein.Sotheeffects:youdon’ttrustmen,youhavehad very wounded relationships, you don’t have a partner, youhavewrittenbookspromotingthetwistedfeminine,andyouhavemanyfriendswhoarelikethattoo.My mum called me selfish if I didn’t do what she wanted. I fearwomenemotionallyandfearmenphysically.MrsX is a goodexamplebecause these are all the tacticsusedbythese spirits in different forms: fear, blackmail, obligation,competition, guilt, threats, rejection, and approval. They all camefrom her mother. There are the emotions that are connected toreligionandobviouslya lotofanger,andthecontinualseparationfromthemasculineinmanydifferentways.Anunderlyingthemeisthis continual hate, fear and separation from the masculine, andthesespiritskeepthewoundinplace.Many singlewomen have no partner becausewhen they find themantheyreallyliketheywillgrabontohimandscarehimaway.Soit isacompleteopposite. Idon’t trustman,so Idonotwanttobe

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withaman,butwhenIfindone,ItotallygrabontohimandthenIwillscarehimaway.You may all have different events or causal wounds but theemotions are going to be basically the same. And the effects aresimilaraswell.Thisisverymuchpartoftheoldparadigmandthehugedistortionofthemale‐femalewound.

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APOLOGIESANDLETTERSFROMMANTOWOMAN,WOMANTOMANSome may say there is still a space for woman’s and men’s onlycircles in thebeginningof thepath,and this is relatively true,buthowrelativecanoneget?Havewenotbeenrelativeenoughfortoolong, separated enough for too long between our own male andfemalesides?Letusworktogether!Butfirst,thelettersandapologiesliketheonesbelow,craftedandsoulfullyfeltbyJeffBrown,areimportanttocleartheairandopenup channels of clarity and love between men and women inrelationships, and within our ownmale and female sides. This isvitalsowecanfeel,forgiveandgrieveourmistakesandwoundssowe canmove forward into anewparadigm, consciousof thenewpossibilities,andthefeelingjourneyoflovebetweenthewoundingandtheTruth.Theapologieswemostresonatewithandfeelbelowareconnectedtoourparentsandtheirunhealedinjuriesandemotions,whicharethen embodied and played out within us. Their wounds andexamples given tous arewhat affect anddistort usdeeply in ourintimate relationships, and what we unconsciously play out withthemanorwomaninourlife.66Thisinvolves:Mymother’sunhealedemotionstowardsthefeminineMymother’sunhealedemotionstowardsthemasculineMyfather’sunhealedemotionstowardsthefeminineMyfather’sunhealedemotionstowardsthemasculineAll of these often repressed or angry emotions live within us,becomingpartofourfabric,flowinglikeadarkundercurrentinourlifeandrelationshipsuntilwebecomeconsciousofthem,recognizewheretheyareplayingoutinourlife,andfeelthemfully.Thisthenallows us tomake new choices, andwhen these wounds do play

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out,tofeeltheunderlyingemotionswithinusthathavenothingtodowithourpartner.Prostrating to your partner or ex partner, whilst saying theseapologies aloud to each other can be a powerfully felt experienceandclearing foryouboth.Youcanaddyourownexperiencesandmemoriestoeachapologytomakeitricherforyou,forwehaveallexperiencedthesememoriesinonewayortheother.Youcanalsodoitwithyourparentsaswell,andactitoutwithafriendplayingthepartofmotherorfather.(These Apologies were originally crafted by Jeff Brown, Author of‘Soulshaping­ A Journey of Self­Creation’; www.soulshaping.com.Theyhavebeeneditedafterbeingusedingroupceremonyfoamoreexperientialusage.Theoriginalsareonhiswebsite.)

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FEMALEANDMALEAPOLOGYCEREMONYThis is truly a ceremony and event that all couples could do andwouldbeofimmensebenefit.Ifyouaresingle,tryitwithafriendoftheoppositesex.Stand opposite your partner. Women, pray and feel into all thehooks that are connected to the negative sisterhood and thenegativebrotherhood.ReallypraytoGodtofeeltheseconnectionsthatarealready inyou,all thoseemotions,all those times inyourlife.And men, pray to God to feel all the angry male spirits and theangry feminine spirits, and all the repressed emotions that are inyou that they are hooked into. They are all within you already,angry or repressed, servant or master, powerless or angry, griefstrickenorsad.Pray toGod to feel thehookswithinyou.Pray to feel theseunfeltemotions that hook them into you. Stay in your feelings, asking,prayingtoreceiveDivineLove.Nowlookatyourpartner,staywithyourfeelings,totallyopenwithyourfeelings,vulnerable,whatevertheemotionis.Thewomanpraysandapologisestotheman:I am so sorry for thosemomentswhen I couldn’t see beyondmyprojectionstoyourtruenatureI couldn’t tell the difference between the heartless and thebenevolentwarriorthatyouareIwasunabletoseeyouinyourwholenessPleaseforgivememyprojectionsPleaseknowthatbelowmypainwasaheartthatwantedtomergewithyouIamsosorryforpushingyoutoopenyourheartwhenyouweren’treadyIalwayswantedtobemetinmyopennessAndIcouldnotbearthedisconnectionbetweenus

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IhopethatyouwillfeelsafeenoughtolivefromanopenheartSuchbeautifullightcomesfromthat,comesfromyouIamsosorryfornotseeingyourlimitsandyourstrugglesIcouldnotseepastmyexpectationsandfantasiesIalwayswantedyoutoprotectandsavemeIcouldnotseehowmuchstressyoucarriedfromtheseprojectionsIalwaysgaveyoumixedmessagesonhowIwantedyoutobeSometimesIwantedyoutobesoftandtenderAndothertimesdominantandprotectiveandmanlyThismusthavebeensoconfusingforyouIthasbeenconfusingformetooWebothneededtofeelsafeandvulnerableIdon’texpressangerdirectlyAndIwasfrightenedofyouraggressionIknowyoufindithardtoexpressyoursadnessandyourtearsThankyouforallthosemomentsyouheldmesafeIsupportyoutoreclaimanythingyouhavelostalongthewayIamsosorryforthosemomentswhenIdiscouragedyourpowerThankyouforallthepositivethingsyouhavedoneformeYouhavescarifiedsomuchinordertoholdmesafeOurultimateromanceiswithGodBut it is our experiences together that give birth to the essentiallessonsI want tomeet you in our true nakedness, stripped free of theseemotions,pains,projectionsanddistortionsMayyoufeelthepresenceoftheDivineMotherMayyourestinthistendernessofyourownsoulMaytheDivineMotherGodblessyouNowgoandhugyourpartner

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MALETOFEMALEAPOLOGYCEREMONYAsChristsaid:Thosewhogrievewillbecomforted.Praytofeelitall:thisdeepbattleinyourlifeandinthelivesofallhumans for thousands of years. What has haunted you, yourparentsandyourgrandparents...inallyourlineages,allthewaytoAmonandAman. Andnowprayto feel itallandhowwearestillbeingvictimsofit,andhowthisrunsourlives.Themenprayandapologisetothewoman:Mywoman,Iamsosorry.I am so sorry, because I couldnot tell thedifferencebetween thelovingwarriorandtheheartlesswarrior.WhenIopenedmyhearttoowide,Iwasvulnerabletoattack.IbelievedIhadtostayrigidandfocusedtoprotectyouandmyselffromattack. But Iwent too far and I closed too tight and cut thebridgebetweenourhearts.IfeelthisnowandI’mso,sosorry.I’msosorryformyconstantabsence:areflectionofmyowninnerabsence.Myhearthasbeenstuckinmyunresolvedemotions.Ijustdidn’tknow;Ididn’tknowwhattodo.ButI’mmoreopennow.Ithoughtrelationshipwaslikeabattle.IgavelittlebecauseIthoughtIwouldbevulnerable.I’msosorryfornotseeingyou.Myeyeswereblindedbymyrageandunshedtears.Icouldnotseemyselfeither.Mymirrorwasmyinnerbattlefield.I’msorryformymaterialism.I’msorryformyexcessivepower.Myobsessionwith accumulating things of this world ‐ I thought thiswouldprotectyouandme.ButnowIrecognizeitjustcontinuedthemadness.I’msosorryaboutthis.

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I’m so sorry about our sexuality that was disconnected from thepast.Iknowyouwantedrealintimacy–amergingofoursouls.Butthereweretoomanydefensesaroundmyownheart.Thereweremomentswhenyourlovefreedmefrommymask–butIwastooscaredtostayinthatspace.I’msosorryforthis,forIknewthepathyoulongedforwasLove.I’msorryformyhorribleactsofviolenceandrage.TherearenowordsthatcanundowhatIdid.Iknowthis,Ido.Iwouldhidemyfaceinshame–butthatwon’tmakethingsbetterbetweenus.Ineedtobelieveinmyownselftomoveintolove.Pleasedon’tgiveuponme.Pleasedon’tgiveuponmeyet.You’realwaystherewithyourbeautifulheart.ButIwastooattachedtomyself.Iwasjustscared.YoucalledmetoaplaceIcouldn’tgoto,althoughIalwaysknewitwashome.Thank you for your willingness to believe in who I really am. Inthosemomentsofrealvulnerability–that’stherealme.Youwereright,therealmelivesinsidemyheart.ButafewmomentsofthiswasallIcouldhandle.Yourfaithinmygoodnesskeptmegoingthroughmysuffering.Youwerethelightattheendofmydarktunnel.Thankyouforstayingwithme.AndIunderstandthosetimesyouhadtogiveupandletgo.Iwassooftenimpossible,clingingtomyunconsciousness.Ihonoryourcouragethatyouhadtokeepyourheartopen.Yourbeautifulhearthadeveryrighttobemetinitsopenness.Thankyouforthetimeyouhavegivenme.ThankyouMotherEarth.IalwaysbelievedthatIcouldnotbesensitive.ButinTHISmomentIfeelsensitive,butnotweak.Istillwearsomearmor,butthereisadifferenceinmenow.

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Icanstayinmyheartalittlebitlongerthanbefore.Anewwarrior isbeingbirthed.He is smalland tender. I amabitconfused.He’stakinghisfirststeps.ButIknowthisisthewayhome.Ifeltthatbeingweakwouldmakeyouleaveme.I felt thatbeingvulnerableandhelplesswouldmakeyounot loveme.Ifeltthatbeingvulnerableandhelplesswouldmakeyouthinklessofme‐wouldmakeyoufeelthatIwasn’tworthytobeyourman.I felt thatbybreakingdown intomygriefandpowerlessness,youwouldfeelfearful,unsafeandpanicky…‐thatyouwouldthinkmelessthanaman‐thatyouwouldnolongerrespectortrustme..Pleasedon’tgiveuponme.Forgivememybaddeeds.PleasebeopentothepossibilitythatweCANchange.May you feel the Love of the true Divine Mother God lifting youabovethemadnessoftheworld.Pleaseforgiveme.Pleaseforgiveme.Pleaseforgiveme.Hugeachother.Forgivenesshappens.Inthisceremony,adoorwayopens.Andnowyou have had the emotional experiencing of what opens thatdoorway, how to godeeper into this forgiveness, how to share it,and what it feels like in this humble state of repentance andforgiveness. Human–to‐human forgiveness is a part of thisrepentance,butitisDivineLovethatwashesthesoulclean.The most powerful emotions that souls feel during these twoceremoniesare:Vulnerability, grief, forgiveness, embrace, authenticity, pureinnocence, shame, regret, repentance, humility, surrender,abandon, understanding, possibility of another path, compassion,

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loving embrace, liberation, speaking the truth, reconciliation,DivineLove,ignorance,offering,openingoftheheart,gratefulness,desire,commitment,devotion,truth,humanlove,anger,emptiness,rejection, grace, deep pain of remorse, release and opening, errorfelt behind expectation, tenderness, acknowledgement, honesty,acceptance, softness, dissolution of masks, self‐love, buildingtogether, self permission, recognition, wish to contribute, heal,receive, discernment, rebirthing, healingwithin and between andintolineage.‘Love is the fulfillment of the law. When you pray for and receiveDivineLove,thepowerofthisloveinyoursoul,goestoworkonyourarmourandpaysyourdebtofcompensation.(Compensationiswhenyou’realwaystryingtomakeupfortheerrorsyou’vedone.)Whenasoul prays for mercy and forgiveness of past sins, this prayer willbring Divine Love into the soul and this love will do the work offorgiveness. There is a vast difference between the spiritualdevelopment and becoming transformed by Divine Love, and thepurificationofthesoulthroughrenouncingsinanddoinggooddeeds.DivineLoveaccomplishesthisandcommencesthetransformation.67’In this forgiveness the human‐to‐human part does one part of it,especiallyiftheotherpersonisstillalive.WhatYeshuaissharingisthat throughDivine Love everything can be forgiven. And it doeswork.Soyoucanrepeat thisceremonywithyourpartneragain,orwithyourex‐partner.You canvisualize and feel yourex‐partner if youfeel there is charge there and something you feel to forgive orembrace. Andyoucanpraydirectly toGod,askingGodto forgiveyouandhavemercyonyoursoul.ButitisforgivenbecauseyouareaskingforDivineLove,askingtofeelallyourownmistakes.Alltheerrorsintheceremoniesthatyoufelt,nowputtheoppositeintoactioninyourlifewithyourpartnerandthewayinwhichyourelatetoMother‐Father‐God.

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Isuggestitwouldbeverybeautifultogive/dotheapologieswiththe masculine and feminine to Mother‐God and Father‐God:address the prayer to Mother‐God and Father‐God. Pray theseceremonies three or four times and put them into action in yourlife,withthemenandwomenwhoareclosetoyou.Thisceremonydoesnotjusthavetobewithyourpartner.Ifyoudonot have one, just approach theman orwoman you relate to themost, orwithwhom you have had themost issueswith. Or youcouldevendoitwithpeoplewhohavepassedaway,becausetheyarestillinthespiritworld.Inessence,itisaboutfeelingyourownmistakesandforgivingone’sown self instead of expecting another to forgive you. Youmirroreach other and your own inner masculine and feminine in yourrelationships. It can also sometimes feel like I was my motherspeakingtomyfatherandmyfatherspeakingtomymother.HEARTBREAKSPIRITSThere is a groupof spiritswhosepurpose is to obstruct and splitapartmenandwomen, and especially soulmates. This group is aloose banding together ofmale and female spirits, (although theydonotworktogethertheyhavethesamepurpose)whosepurposeistobringothersintotheirstate,whichtheybelieveistruth.Theyunite in their anger and fear, believing this is love and truth,believing they are helping to protect you from making the samemistakes they made and getting hurt in relationships, (which ofcourse is untrue because relationships expose your own innererrorsmostofthetime.)People often also invoke and invite in these ‘protectors’ (whichactually only ‘protect’ us from humility, vulnerability and truth)from an early age when painful events occurred so they did nothave to feel them, and could disassociate from them emotionallyandphysically.

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If humans are alone, they are more easily manipulated anddeceived because of their own unexpressed emotions which canbuildandbuildandbecomemoreandmorejustifiedovertimeandnegtive reflections in relationship showing you your unhealedwounds. The inner resentments and unfelt emotions that aretriggered through intimate relationships are the fuel for theirattacks andmanipulations, and theywill continue to do this untilyouhavebroughthonesty,truthandselfloveintoyouremotions.They encourage splitting apart, doubt, mistrust, competition andaloneness.They lieandwilluseanyonearoundyoutospreadthislietoconfirmyourdoubtsandfears,strengtheningyourresolvetonot feel your underlying emotions. These spirits generally feelbetrayedandabandoned,andarerunbyfeelingsofrevenge,rage,bitternessandisolation/numbness.Themen feelanger, rejection,painandseparation, (coveringgriefandabandonment)towardswomenbecauseofthelovetheyneverfeltfromtheprincipaltwowomenintheirlife,andthewomenfeelanger, rejection, pain and separation (covering grief andabandonment) because of the abandonment they have sufferedfrom themen.Bothmaleand female spirits feelunloved, and thisturnsintoangeroremotional/sexualshutdown.Wheneveryou feel these emotions, look intoyourself to seewhattheircauseisandwhetheryouarebeingmanipulatedinthem.They try to disrupt and destroy any burgeoning relationshipbetween man and woman. This is amplified for couples on theDivineLovepath,andisdoubledforsoulmatesontheDivineLovepath.Theymayattackyoubeforeyouhavereleasedtheseemotions,andonceyouhavefeltandreleasedtheseemotions.Butyouknowyouhave released these wounds when you can deal with theseemotionsand theattachedspirits inawarenessandkindness,andactuallybuildabridgeofcommunicationandassistancetothem.In many cases, their attempts are often a cry for help from you,especially when you have healed the emotions that they are

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currentlybeingrunbythemselves.Oncetheyseeyouhavehealedit, they may come to you with this intention, and whereas oncebefore you were unaware of, and in fact run by these woundswithinyou,nowyoucanfeelandseethedifferencewithinyou,andcanthereforeassistthemoutofthewoundthattheyarein.Thesespiritscanbecontactedwithsupport fromGod,andallyouhavetodoiskindlyinquireintowhattheyarehurtby.Oncethisisestablished, thenpraywith them theDivine Loveprayer, sendingthem this love. You may also feel other specific things that theyneedtosoften,andprovidingtheyareopen,youcansharethiswiththem.‘Imagine: that no matter what anyone else around you is doing,thinking or saying...it all passes through you, likewater off a ducksback....andloveistheonlyemotionyouabsorb.....ImaginebeinginthisstatewhereyouknowyouarepermanentlyconnectedtoGod,everysingle moment.......you can feel God’s love passing through you...youknow that you are loved every single moment no matter what ishappeningaroundyou......thereisabsolutelynofearinthisplace.....'Yeshua

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EVOLVINGWOMANSPEAKSOh,Gentleman,whatdoyouseewhenyoulookoutatmewitheyesof desire and longing?Eyes that reach out and surroundmewithyour heat and passion: the passion of wanting. Eyes that say, "Imust have you." Eyes that plead, or eyes that lust. Eyes that say,"I'vebeenlonelysolong."OhGentleMan,donotlooktomewiththeseeyes.Gotothelookingglasswiththeseeyes.Reliefawaitsyouthere.Andwhenyouseetheconqueror,theknight,thehungryman,tellthatonetolaydownhissword, surrender his armor and shield: Tell him thewar is done.Thenputyourarmaroundhis shoulderand lookhim in theeyes.Andwhenhissword,hisarmor,hisshieldarelockedandputaway,andhehascriedandcalledyou, "Brother," then,GentleMan,mayyoucometomewithyoursoul'slightshiningthroughfrombehindyoureyes,able tosee theLightandEssence that Iam.ThenIwilllookbackwhenIseetheloveandrespectinyoureyes.ButwhenIseedesperationandlust,ortheneedtoconquerandown,Ipromiseyouthis:Ishalllookaway.Oh, GentleMan, howwould you give your gifts tome? Excitedly,like a childwhopicks a flower forhisMother then runs inside toreceive thepraise?Wouldyougive tometoshowhowthoughtfulandkindyouare?Howgenerousyoucanbe?Toimpressmewithyourcharm?Towinmyloveandreward?Wouldyougivewhatyouthink I want with the hope for pardon and mercy, that you bedeemedworthyofallmyattentionandlove?Oh, GentleMan, please take your gifts to yourmagical child,whoawaits, so lonely and afraid, in your garden. For he is in need ofyour caring and presence. Take this child to your breast. Cradlehim. Stroke him. Shower him. And be sincere.When he sleeps inyour arms, lay him down softly and climb the stairs tomy room.And if you see theLightofmysoul and theBeauty that IAmandwish tohonormewith a flower, a poem, a sweetword, or a kiss,then give to me with sincerity, without the need for flourish,without expectation or the hope of reward, but with the quiet

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dignitywithwhichyousniff thearomaofa sweet‐scented flower,orwatchinpeacefulawethesettingoftheSun.Oh, Gentle Man. Please burden me not with the weight of youresteem,orwiththepowertogiveordestroyyour joy,yourheart,your image, andworth. For this responsibility is far too great forme.Gofindyourpeaceandhappiness,yourself­esteemandlove.FindthemwithGod;findtheminflowers,andtrees,inthewindandthesettingsun.Thenbringthemwithyouforsharing.Donotmakemeyour reason for living or dying‐ my approval, the source of yourpower;mytouch,yoursalvation;myeyes,yourself‐knowing‐forIwouldgrowtodespiseyou,andyouresentandloatheme.ThispowerthatyouwouldgivemeI trulydonotwant.Atbest, itcould only serve to soothe the doubts I hold, and make me feelimportanttoyou,andneededandworthy‐filledwithafalsesenseofpurpose‐butfleetingly.AndyouwouldimprisonmeawayfrommyownsenseofEssence, fromthetruthofmysoul,andfrommytruepowerandLight.Youwouldcrippleme, surely‐admiringmewithyoureyes thathideyour lonelinessandneed;yourgifts thatbegforapproval;yourwordsofpraisethathideyourdesperation.Oh, Gentle Man, until the child sleeps and is peaceful in yourgarden, and the knight has lain down his sword, his armor, hisshield, then, only then, approach my stairs. And only then will Imeetyouhalfway.Whenyoursoul ispresentandshiningbrightlythrougheyesoflove,thenyouwillseemyeyesshiningandlookingbackatyou.Whenyougivefromyourheartandyourwordsarenotboasting,whenyouknowwhoyouarewithoutme, then Iwill befreetoreceiveyou,andtogivetoyoufullymylove.For then, we will know that neither of us can be destroyed. ThesurrenderthatonlycancometotwowhohavefirstsurrenderedtoSelf‐ to their own innerBeauty, andwisdom, andEssenceDivine‐willbeours.Thenside‐by‐side,inblendedLight,ourtwinstarswillshineonceagain.

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EVOLVINGMANRESPONDS:Oh,lovingwoman,donottryandusemeasyoursafetynetinthisworld.ThereisnothingIcangiveyouthatwillsubstituteforyourownconnectiontoGodandyourownloveforyoursoul.Oh,lovingwoman,youarehalfmanalso.Youtoohavethepowertoinitiatemovementsandopeningsinourrelationship.Youtoohavethepowertoprotectandcreateavesselforustodwellin.Youtoohave the ability to support us and not rely just on me for yoursustenanceinthisworld.Oh,lovingwoman,youspeakeloquentlyaboutequality.Iagreewehave our roles, andwe both play them forwe are bothmale andfemale.IagreethatyoutooshouldplayyourpartsothatIcanrestmoreinmyfeminineratherthanhavingtobetoomasculine.Oh,lovingwoman,whatdoyoufeelwhenyoulookatmewiththeeyes of needing a protector, a second father, a provider, one youcanputonapedestal andadmire?Donot come tomewith theseeyes,butratherlookandloveyourownselfinthemirror.Thereisyour protector and provider, and as you raise your eyesheavenward,thereisyouroneandonlyFather.Thenwecanmeetinequality.Oh, loving woman, you see me as you see your own inner male,whenIAmwhoIAm.Itoohavemywounds,buttheyarenotyours.Youhaveyourwounds,but theyarenotmine.Oh, lovingwoman,letusdifferentiatebetweenthemsowemayrestinthelovewedosharefreely.Oh,lovingwoman,donotlooktomefordirectioninyourlife.Thisis aburdenno soulhas to carry foranother.NotevenGodhas tocarry this responsibility.Onlyyoucan. Oh, lovingwoman,all thispoweryouwouldgivemeItrulydonotwant.Oh, lovingwoman,howwouldyougiveyourgiftstome?Tomakeupforthelossofwhatisinsideyou,tomakeupforwhatyouhaveneverreceivedfromyourselforfromaman,tocompensatefortheloveyoudarenotgiveyourself,tocovertheholeinsideyourself?

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AmIthebandageyouplaceoveryourwounds?AmIthereasonyouchoosenottoventureintoyourownpain?OramIthereasonyoudochoosetoventureintoyourownpain?Oh, loving woman, there is nowhere to hide anymore once I Amwithyou.Ibringto lightall things.Therearenomoreexcuses,nomorethingsyoucanmanipulatebecauseofyourownfears.Wearebothpowerlessintheonslaughtoflove.When you give to me humbly, when your words are honest andtrue,whenyoucanseehowyouhavebeenusingmetostopfeelingyourownemotions,thenyoucanreceivefrommefreely.Whenyouknow who you are without me, and without the wounds that Itriggerinyou,thenwecanbetogether.Oh,lovingwoman,whenyounolongerusethedaggersofyoureyesandyourslymethodstocontrolme;whenyounolongerrebukemeinto shuttingmyself up;when youno longer putmedown;whenyou openly and honestly speak rather than repressing yourexpression;whenyouappreciateandhonourwhatIgiveandshare;whenyoustoptellingmehowIfeelorshouldbefeeling;whenyoucan receiveme as aman and holdme as aman, then I can be avesselfortheDivineFathertocomethroughmyconsecratedbodyandgiveyouallyoueverdesired,whenyouhavehealedthewoundofnothavingityourself,withGod.Oh, lovingwoman,whenyou can treatmeasGod treatsme, thenwecanmakeDivineLove.Oh,lovingwoman,Ideservetobetreatedlikethis,asdoyou.Oh, lovingwoman, I haveheld onto youbecauseofmyownpain,my ownwound at the loss ofmy heart,my separation from self‐love.Mygriefisatlosingpartofmyheart.Whatisyours?Isitthesame?Oh, loving woman, let us learn to love our own selves fully andcompletely,excavatingandfeelingwhereourownpainlies,whereour own separations from love have occurred. Then we can give

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ourownselvesallthatwedeserve,andallthatGodwishestogiveus,whichiseverything.Oh,lovingwoman,IknowyouareavesselforThePerfectWomantoflowthroughyou.KnowtoothatIAmthevesselforThePerfectMan.Andwearebothdivinechildren.Letusplaytogether!

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AJOURNEYINTOTHEHEARTOFWOMANIntheessenceofeverywoman'sheartandsoulisalinktoGodandthe Divine Feminine. It contains everything that has ever beenbeautiful, or lovely, or inspiring, in anywoman, anywhere, at anytime.Theveryessenceofeverywoman'ssoulisthepeakofhumanwisdom,thepeakofinspiration,thepeakofsexualdesirability,thepeakofsoothing,healinglove.But it'sprotected, forgoodreason,byaseriesofconcentricwalls.To move inwardly from one wall to the next requires that youintensify your capacity to devotion, and as you do so, you arerewarded with Grace. This is not something you can negotiateverballywithawoman.Shedoesn'tevenknowconsciouslyhowtoopen thosegatesherself.Theyareopenedmagically and invisiblybythekeysofworshipofGod.If you stand on the outside of the outermost wall, all you haveavailabletoyou,likemanyotherunfortunatemen,ispornography.For$1.99aminute,youcanseeherbreasts,maybehervagina,andyou can stimulate yourself in a sad longing for deeper love. Stepthrough another gate, and she will show you her outer gift‐wrapping.She'lllookatyouwithacertaintwinkleinhereye.She'llanswer your questions coyly. She'll give you just the faintest hintthatthereismoreavailable.Step through another gate with your commitment, with yourattention,withthesmallseedlingsofdevotion,andshe'llopenherheart toyoumore. She'll sharewithyouher insecurities, thewaythat she's been hurt, her deepest longings. Some men will backawayatthispoint.Theyrealizethatthepricetheymustpaytogodeeper is more than they are willing to give. They start to feelhumility,aselflesscare.Butforthosefewwhostepthoughanothergate, theycome todiscoverher loyalty,herwillingness to stick tothetruthwithyouandforyounomatterwhat.Somewherearoundthesecondwall fromthecenter, shecasts theveils of her personality aside, and shows you that she is both ahumanbeing and also a portal into somethingmuch greater than

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that.Sheshowsyouawraththat isnothers,butallwomen's.Sheshows you a patience that is also universal. She shows you herwisdom. At this point you start to experience the archetypes ofwomen,whohave beenportrayed as goddesses andmythologicalfiguresineverytradition.Then, at the very centre, in the innermost temple itself, all thelayers of your devotion are flooded with reward all at once. Youdiscover theveryessenceof theDivineFeminine throughherbutthatisnother–somethingfargreaterarises.Andinastrangewaythatisnotexactlyromantic,butprofoundlysacredallthesame,yourealizethatyoucouldhavegotherewithanywomanifyouhadjustbeenwillingtopassthroughallthelayersofinitiation.Anywomaniseverywoman,andeverywomanisanywomanatthesametime.When you love a woman completely, at the very essence of herbeing, this is the oneDivine Feminine flame. It iswhat hasmadeeverywoman in history beautiful. It's the flame behind theMonaLisa, and Dante's Beatrice, Penelope Cruz and Heidi Klum. Youdiscover themagic ingredient,which has led everyman to fall inlovewithawoman.Howareyougoing toget fromwhereyouarenowtobeingable tothefullcapacityofyourhearttoloveforreal?

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AJOURNEYINTOTHEHEARTOFMANAt the essence of every man's heart and soul is the link to theDivine Masculine. It contains everything that has ever beenpowerful,wise,honourableandinspiring,inanyman,anywhere,atany time. The very essence of every man's heart is the peak ofhuman strength, the peak of clear seeing, the peak of purepenetration,thepeakoftheabilitytodispelillusion,thepeakofthepoweroflove.But it'sprotected, forgoodreason,byaseriesofconcentricwalls.To move inwardly from one wall to the next requires that youintensify your capacity to devotion, and as you do so, you arerewarded with Grace. This is not something you can negotiateverbally with a man. He doesn't even know consciously how toopenthosegateshimself.Theyareopenedmagicallyand invisiblybythekeysofworshipofGod.If you stand on the outside of the outermost wall, all you haveavailable to you, like many other unfortunate women, is money,power, security, status,anicecar,asafehouse.Youhavesoldoutyourdreamsanddesiresforlove,andyoucanwistfullyrememberwithinyourselfthesadlongingforadeeperlovethatyoucherishedbeforeyousoldoutyourdreams.Stepthroughanothergate,andhewill show you his outer gift‐wrapping. Hewill look at youwith acertain powerful twinkle in his eye. Hewill give you direct signsthatthereismuchmoreavailable.Step through another gate with your commitment, with yourattention,with your humility and the small seedlings of devotion,andhewillopenhishearttoyoumore.Hewillsharewithyouhisinsecurities, the way that he has been hurt, his weaknesses, hisfears, his vulnerabilities, and his deepest longings. Some womenwillbackawayat thispoint.Theyrealize that theprice theymustpaytogodeeperismorethantheyarewillingtogive.Theystarttofeeladeepercare,amorefrighteningcommitment.But for those few who step though another gate, they come todiscoverhis loyalty, hiswillingness to stick to truthwithyouand

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for you no matter what, his willingness to provide for you andsupportyouthroughanything,and,ifyouarelucky,evenguideyouwithhiswisdomandgiftyouwithhisloveandearthlyresources.Somewhere around the secondwall from the center, he casts theveils of his personality aside, and shows you that he is both ahumanbeing and also a portal into somethingmuch greater thanthat. He shows you a truthful compassion that is not his, but allmen's.Heshowsyouapower,astrength,anobility,anhonourandanintegritythatisalsouniversal.Heshowsyouhiswisdom.Atthispoint you start to experience the archetypes of divine men, whohave been portrayed as gods, heroes and mythological figures ineverytradition.Then, at the very center, in the innermost temple itself, all thelayers of your devotion are flooded with reward all at once. YoudiscovertheveryessenceoftheDivineMasculinethroughhimbutthat is not him – something far greater arises. In a profoundlysacred yet natural way, you realize that you could have got herewith anyman if you had just beenwilling to pass through all thelayers of initiation. Anyman is everyman, and everyman is anymanatthesametime.Whenyouloveamancompletely,attheveryessenceofhisbeing,this is the oneDivineMasculine pillar. It iswhat hasmade everyman in history handsome, admired, revered and attractive. Youdiscoverthemagicingredient,whichhasledeverywomantofallinlovewithaman.

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THEPUSH­PULLDYNAMICThenaturalhumansoul,priortocomingintoaphysicalbody,hadaconsciousness of its existence, of its relationship to God, and of itstwin character. Our soulsweremademale and female, having onlyone soul ­ two inOne, the ‘perfect’ One. Andwith this creationwasgiventhemalove­nottwoloves,butonlyOne­whichwaspossessedequally by each part of the complete soul, and which will alwaysremainOne. Therewas one known consciousness, and the soulwasgloriouslywholeandcompleteinitsnaturalstate,asGodhadcreatedit. From within this happiness and bliss of natural love came thesubtlestimpulsetoseparateandbecometwo.When the time came for the soul to come into form, the two partsseparate. This separation is necessary for the individualization ofeachpartofthisOnecompletesoul.Whenconsciousnessreceivedthisimpulse, the gentlest of separations began to occur. Slowly, theenergies of duality (pairs of opposites) began to determine twoparticularqualitiesofenergy.Anenergyflowthatpullsaway,andanenergyflowthatpushesforward.Thisisauniquemoment,asbeforethistherewasonlyonequalityofenergy.Yet even in this apparent separation, the twoparts never lose theirinter­relationship, or the binding qualities that existed before theirseparation. Their love is never cut, separated or split, for these twopartsareboundasOne.Youcanactuallywatchthisimpulseplayoutatacellularlevelwhentwo cells divide. From deep within the cell comes the desire ofgrowth and separation, upon which a whole flurry of activitybegins. Youcanseethecellpushingandpullingagainstitselfasiteventuallydividesandbecomestwoseparatecells. Itseemslikeasimple enough division – butwhat happens, ormore importantlywhatisfeltbetweensouls?Acorewoundoccurs–a feelingoforiginal separation.Oneof thetwopairswilldevelopacorewoundofbeingrejectedbytheother,while the other will have the core wound of being engulfed andlosingitsidentitybytheother.Theonewhofearsrejectionwillhavethetendencytopushitsenergyforward tofeelsafeandincontrol,

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while theonewho fearsbeingoverwhelmedwillpull their energybacktofeelsafeandincontrol.Thesepowerfulopposingenergieswill consistently play themselves out until balance and healingoccurs.Another analogy, on a quantum level, is that when an electronmeets,orrathermateswithitsantimattertwin,apositron,thetwodissolveinaflashofenergy.Twophotonsoflightflyawayfromtheblast.When twoarecreatedsimultaneously, thedirectionof theirspincancelseachotherout:onedoestheoppositeoftheother.Itisimpossibletosaywhichofthemwillgoanticlockwise,andtheother clockwise. Until the spin of one is observed, they are bothdoingboth.So,whenyoufocusonone,itwillbegoingclockwiseoranticlockwise.And whichever way it is going, its twin will startspinning theotherway, instantly,even if it ison theothersideofthe universe. This is how the male‐female split operates. Antimattertwinsdotheoppositeofeachother,theyaretheoppositeofeachother,createdatthesametime,halfofthesamemovement.68Inasoulfulrelating,thisthenisthecorepatternthatbothpartnerswillencounter,thatresultsinconflict.Thiscoreshadowfrequency,or corewound, iswhat both share, and it pulls and pushes themapart.Pushandpullistheessenceofpolarity,maleandfemale,andbothpartnerswillexperiencethisinsomewaydependingonhowbalancedandawaretheyareintheirownsoulanditsrelationshipto God. It reflects both within a person’s shadow, in their innerstruggle and imbalance between male and female, and in theirouterrelationshipthatreflectsthisinnerwoundingandimbalance.Thiscorewoundwithinmaleandfemalerelatingonthesoullevelisthedefensemechanismthateachofthemputsintoplacetokeepthemsafeandincontrol.Intheprocessofhealing,theycanuniteon

68Eachofthesesoulhalvescanmeetagainonearth;thisisapossibilityforeachandeveryoneofus.Ifbothsoulhalvesdonotmeetagainonearth,theyreturnatthedeathofthephysicalbodytothespiritworld,andthen,atsometime,thisconsciousnesswillcometoitagain,andthetwopartswillcometogetheragainandreuniteinacompleteOneunlessintheirindividualdevelopmenttherehavearisenbarriersthatpreventtheirreuniting.

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all three levels:within their soul,with God, and finallywith eachotherasOneIndividualSoulinGod.Theprimarydivineandsoulfulurgeinmale–femalerelatingisforeach soul half to merge with God first and foremost; this is thedivinepurpose,andisthegoalofallTantra.Eachpartnersupportstheotherinthiswhilstsupportingthefreewilloftheotherintotalself‐responsibility,evenifitmeanstherelationshipseparates.Keepingtheeyeonthistarget is important,as itallowsexpansionandhumilitytooccur,whilstallowingdivinedesireforGodtoarisefreely and to propel the soul forward. Yet first, you have to fullygrieve the loss of your soulmate. This is a deep grief, an almostinexplicablemixtureofpain,hopelesssadnessandhelplessness,asthereisnothingyoucandoapartfrompray,trustandfeel.Onecanfeel tornasoneaccesses thisOriginalWound,but torn inagentlewayasyou journey intotheactual feelingof theseparationof thesoulhalves.Theseemotionscanflattenyou,butoncefeltcanopenthedoorintomeetinghimorher.AnExperienceofthePush/PulldynamicIcameacrosstheworkof“TwinFlameSacredKeys”,createdbyawomancalledLiora,andfound‘thekey’thatIwaslookingfor.Shewascallingthispush/pullpowerplaytheLionandtheEagle. Thelionwastheonewhopushed,andtheeaglewastheonewhopulledback.Fromawoman’sexperience,shewastheEaglepullingherenergybackinmomentsofclashing,feelinghurtasanoverallgeneralizedstate. Theman played out the role of being the Lion, pushing hisenergyforwards.Theeagleiscontenttospendtimealone,keepingmostofhersoulfulexperiencestoherself.“Themanwantedtoknowwhatwashappening,andwhenhefeltIwasnotsharingwithhim,therewouldbeaclash.ToavoidfeelinghispainofpossiblerejectionhewouldaskthatIopenupmore,communicatemoreinawaythatIthoughtwasinvasive.Thatwasmytriggertoactivatemyeaglerole­play.InresponseIwouldnotlet

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himin,purposefullywithdrawing(whichwouldfeellikeempowerment)andpretendingthathisrequestsorquestionsdidnotexistinmyworld.Thatwashowitlooked,butontheinsideitwasadifferentmatter.Intimesofclashingorexperiencinghurt,Iwouldretreatinsideofmyself,tryingmyhardesttomakesenseofitall,notknowingthatIwasrefusingtofeelcertainfeelings.OnlywhenIrealizedthatthewholedynamicwasasetupformetofeelsomelongoverduesuppressedfeelingswasIabletoopenupalittlebitandallowthesefeelingsin.IdiscoveredthatwhatIhadbeenavoidingwasthesenseofbeingoverwhelmed,alongwiththefearofbeingcontrolled,feelingalackofspaceandrefugeasIexperiencedwhatIcalledbeing“badgered”bymypartner.AttimesIwouldfeelengulfedbyhim,utterlyoverpoweredandhelpless.”For theLion, thiswouldbepainful,as itwould triggerwithinhimthe pain of rejection. He would experience his partner closingdown, asking to be alone, refusing to share and becoming cold tohim. For theLion, in thesemoments of clashing, his impulse is topushforward,toaskforandtoreceivemorecommunication,tonotletgoofthecontact,tokeeptheattentionoftheother.

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LIONANDEAGLEENERGETICDYNAMICForthoseofyouinintimaterelationship,thenextstepwouldbeforyoutoidentifywhichroleyouplay.LION – Moving towards energy (pushing forward). Their maindominant energetic dynamic is over sensitivity to beingAbandonedorRejectedandovercompensatingforthiswoundwithin.Mainbehavioralchoicesinintimaterelationships:1. Desireastrong,closeconnectionwiththeirpartnermostofthetime,believingthatclosenessmeanstheyarereallyloved2.Haveanoversensitivitytobeingrejected3.Theymaketheirpartnerthemajorfocusintheirlife4.Overlyattentivetotheirpartner5.Canobsessabouttheirpartner6.Haveahighexpectationofhavingneedsmetbytheirpartner7.Believecommunicationhastobeintenseandconnectingmostofthetime8. Highexpectationgenerallyofhowtherelationshipshouldbetofeelloved9.ComfortablebeingapeoplepleaserEAGLE:Moving away energy (pulling back). Theirmain energeticdynamicisoversensitivitytobeingControlledandfearofdoingso.Mainbehavioralchoicesinintimaterelationships:1. Feels their partner is controlling ‐ over sensitivity to beingcontrolled3. Usuallyhave interests and intimate communicationsoutsideofthe relationship to deflect having deeper intimacy within therelationship4. They use avoidance behaviors to keep distance from theirpartner5.Sometimescreateangst/dramastokeeppartneratadistance

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6.Avoidlettingpartnertrulyknowthem7.Strongfearofbeingenmeshed/engulfedandoverwhelmed8.Havetofeelliketheyareincontrolandnotbeingcontrolled9.FeelsempoweredbyLionmovingtowardsthem10. They have a fear of losing their guarded sense of self inrelationship11.Rarelyfeel‘validated’inrelationshipsHowtohealthisdynamicWhenyoucanidentifywhichsoulwoundyouhave,youwillthenbeable to acknowledge the soulwound emotional reactions (above)thatyouexperiencewhentriggered.Thefirststeptoacknowledgeis that you are choosing these reactions from a sub‐consciousperspectiveasawaytostayincontrol.Whatyouare feeling, inyouremotional response,isYOURchoice.Wedonotwant to feel theemotionaldiscomfortwithinourselves(from the core wound). So we project it outwards onto others,usuallygainingafalsesenseofpower,onceagain,tofeelincontrol.Thesecondstepistoacceptthis,andtoseehow,whereandwhenyouarebeingtriggered.To begin to change, identify your pattern as you are relating andchoose to feel it within yourself emotionally; rather than being avictimtotheresponse,delvealittledeeperinhumilityintofeelingwhatfearsyouhave,andcommunicatethem.Thiswillbegintoshiftthe dynamic and your vibration, with you realizing now thatyouhave a choice, youcan consciously keep your energy simplypresent once you recognize you are pulling back or pushingforward.Begintoobserveandunderstand,throughyourfeelings,whereyoumovetowardsormoveaway,andhowthiscreatesanothershiftinyour inner relating patterning. Understanding yourself fromthisdeeper level bringsmore insight and compassion to the dynamicyoubothlongtoovercome.NOTESONYOURMALE­FEMALEDYNAMIC

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Howtoshift thispatternandbegin tobalanceyourenergeticfield1. Recognize your dominant push/pull control pattern whileobservingyourrelatingscenarios.Wheredoyoupushyourenergyforward to control, or pull your energy back? When you firstbeginto feel this dynamic you will observe how obvious thepolarityis.2.Understandandobserve theexactoppositepolarizedenergyaswell. Begin to feel and observe the energies, rather than “think(judge) them”. Becomea verymindful observerof others aswell.Themore you realize the opposite polarized energydynamic, themoreyoucreateadeeperawarenessandunderstandinggenerallyaboutthisCOREenergypattern.3.Becomeawarewhenyoumovetowardsormoveawaywithyouremotions and energy to control and feel safe, and do somethingdifferent e.g. not to move away, not to go towards. Thisis thebeginning of becoming the observer of your push/pull controlenergeticpattern;andeverytimeyouareabletochangethepatternenergetically the closer you are to shifting your vibration andchangingyourcorepattern.Whenyouconsciouslydothis,thisisasignthatthecorewoundpatternisbeginningtodissolve.4. Only focus on your choices of behavior with intent to stayconnected. This will keep theheart openand non‐reactive.Therefore the Lion will not push forward and the Eagle willnotpull away, which means, of course, staying in balancein theenergybody.Knowthatanydiscomfortisonlyyourreactionfromtheoversensitivityfromthecorewound.Nowrealizeithasnothingtodowithanyoneelse.WhentheEaglefeelstheenergysubsidetheyfeelmorecomfortableandsupported.WhentheLionfeelstheenergynotremoving,theyfeelmorecomfortableandsupported.Observewithinyourselfandothers,howtheonlythingthatpeoplefeelistheenergy,aboveandbeyondthewords.

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5. The more conscious you become of your own patterns andbehaviorsenergetically,youwillbegintoseehowotherschoosetorelatewhenyourenergyispushingforwardorpullingback.Beingaware of triggered emotionswill enable you to become lessreactive now that your energy is balancedi.e.neither pushingforward nor pullingback. This then allows you to eventually seeandfeelyourownemotionalorcausalwound.Thebiggestbreakthroughistounderstandyourselfasemotionalenergy.Whenyourealizeyouhavebeenusingyourenergyinthispolarized push/pull you can beginto change the pattern fromthiscore energetic level. This is the beginning ofa deeperunderstanding of yourself and how you believed thispatternedbehaviorwasabletosub‐consciouslykeepyousafe.Thetruthisthatitwasembeddedbecausewedidnotwanttofeelthepainfromthecorewoundagainonceactivatedbythepresenceof a Soul Relating. These wounds were the casual effects of theoriginal separation. It stands to reasonwhywe have to heal thispain in order to authentically embark on our journey of sacredunion.Questions1.Nowthatyouareawareofyourcoreenergeticpush/pullpattern,writedownallyourinsightsandobservationsofthispatternasyouhavedoneit.FEELtheenergyratherthantryingtoTHINKaboutit.Write down detailedexamples of when you have recently movedtowardsormovedawaywithyourenergytocontrolandfeelsafe.3. Write down where you could feel other waystomove yourenergy,forexample,nottomoveawayornottogotowards. Thisisthebeginningofbecomingtheobserverofyourpush/pullcontrolenergetic pattern. Every time you are ableto change the pattern,energeticallyyou will be shifting your vibration and changingyourcorepattern.4.Writedownsomescenariosthatcometomind,whereyouhaveprojected your corewound trigger onto others, and how this has

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played out. The more youfamiliarizeyourselfwith this dynamicthroughacknowledgingyourexperiences,themoreyouwillbeabletoshiftthepattern.5. Now you can see this, youmay come to understand that bothdynamicsplayoutwithinyou.Botheagle and lion interactwithinyou, for theyare the twohalvesofyourown innersplit.Theyarethetwopolaritiesofyourinnermaleandfemale.Canyouseethis?Notewhereandhowthisplaysoutwithinyou.69Perhaps themost important part of this healing is to embrace allthewoundswithinyourownself.ThetruthofSoulRelationshipsisthattheycanpropeleachpersonmoreintothewholenessoftheirown Self and into God through your desire for this first andforemost. Only after this Supreme attainment of Divine Love byeachsoulcantheymergetogethertobecomeOneSoul.TopreparetomeetyourSoulmate,lookfor,feelandforgivealltheaddictions in relatings you have ever had, and integrate all yourprevious lessons. Parentalwounds and sexual issues also need tobe looked at and felt to allow enough space and love for thismeeting to occur, aswell as anyunhealed emotional damage thatcomes from your relationships, and emotional damage regardinglovefrommyenvironment.So:Lookbackinallyourpreviousrelationships.Whatpatternswerethereintheotherthatcontinuedwithinyou?Whatattractedyoutothem?Whatwasthesameinthemwithinyouandwithintheother?Whatwasthecompleteopposite,i.ethemirrorwoundattraction?Howwasthismirrorplayingout?

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God isvery important inall theseprocesses,ashe is theOnewhocreated you both, and He is the One that will bring you backtogether.AskHim!SomepossibleemotionsthatcanariseinyourdeepdesireforaSoulmaterelating:Ifeelsad,ashamed,hurt,envious,desiringthat,fearfulIhavemissedoutonsoulmatelove,thatIhavelost‘himorher’becauseofmyownstuff, projections, hurt, and inability to feel, that I am ‘hurt by her’eventhoughIhavedoneexactlythesamethingsasher.(feelingthisopensthedoorwayforreturn)I feel sad that I am not inmy full passion and desire for true soulmateloveasabridgeofhumanandDivineLove,thatIneedhim/her,thatIfeellikeabeggarcomingtohim/her,likeaweakling,worthlessandpoor,likeIwillnotbewantedorneeded,thatIamuseless,thatIamexposingmyselftoridicule,thatIambeingtoovulnerable,thatitwill not be reciprocated, that Iwill be rejectedand look like a fool,that Iwillneverget ‘him/her’back, that Iamlivinghalfa liferightnowwithouthimorher.I am scared that Imay be dependent on him/her for something insomeway.I cannow start to feelmyowngrief of separation fromhim/herasone soul andmy fear is that Iwill never be able to rectifymy ownmistakesatseparatingfromher,andnotbeabletohelpherwithhermistakes.Whatareyourfeelingsaroundthisforyou?Another projection that can affect you is feeling the emotionsprojectedfromyoursoulmatetowardsyou,beforeandafteryoursoul mate incarnates. Remember, soul mates are alwaysinterlinked, even if theyhavenotmetphysically, and someof theemotionstheycanfeelcanbe:YOUARETHEONEshe/hecansaveme,

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pleasecometome,Ineedyousobadly,youwillhelpitallbebetter,youaremyGodsubstitute,youareevenmoreimportantthanGodyouareallIwantThisputsyouundersomepressuretoperform!Butitisnecessaryto experience and feel these emotions and projections to movethroughthem,whatevertheymaybe.

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“Allthegreatattainmentsintheareaofspiritualpracticeandrealization,wonderfulastheyare,havehardlybeguntotransformtheoverallqualityofhumanrelationshipsonthisplanet,whicharestilldrivenbythemostprimitiveofmotivationsandemotions.”70In Soulful Relating with a Soul mate, you may have thought andevenfeltyouhaddealtwithandhealedmanywounds,butno,SoulRelatingwill bring up ‘new’ ones, andbring youback to old onesthat you thought had been dealt with, but have not yet beencompleted. You revisit the old wounds on a different part of thespiral, which you could not have visited alone, in order to healthem.Our feelings, passions, sacred desires, soulful inspirations,yearningsandlongingsdefineoursoul.Experiencingourfeelingsinrelationship, embracing and healing them, or denying andprojectingthem,allowsustorecognizethestateandtrueconditionofoursoulinwaysthatfewotherreflectionscan.Relationshipscanconfirm the state of our soul and also show us where we aredeceivingourselvesastoourtruesoulcondition.Thefoundationofsacred relating is the honest growth of each soul through soulfulemotional and sexual expressionbasedonDivineTruth, designedtoleadbothsoulsintoreceivingever‐greaterabundancesofDivineLove.Sacred relating involves the unifying of sexual energy with yoursoulsemotionsandwounds toeventuallyrevealthepristinenatureof your undefiled pure soul. This journey brings about muchhealing,forthisunifyingincludeseveryaspectofhumanexpression,serving toaccelerateyoursoul’sgrowthby the inclusionofDivineLovewithinlovemakingthatcanthenleadyouclosertoGod.These are four of the most challenging areas for modern dayhumanity. God has been relegated to an anachronism and tool offearinducingreligiousbeliefs;Godhasbeenreducedtoa‘field’andimpersonalentityratherthanaGreatSoulwhomweallhaveaccess70TheSacredMirror,Welwood

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to personally, intimately and directly through the yearnings,prayersandcommunicationsofthesefeelingdesiresofoursoulstoHim.GodisaSoul,andHecreatedus.Herespondstoourlongings,andlovesusperfectly.ItisthisLovethatweallyearnforonsomelevel,andwhatwe alwaysmistakenly try and ‘get’ through our humanrelationships. BeingwithGod is a personal relationship, themostintimate and enduring, permanent relationship and love we willeverexperience.GodcaresforandlovesallGod’schildren,andisourDivineParent,our Mother and Father in the true sense, who is infinitely andsupremely interested and involved in all aspects of humankind’slifeandexistence,nomatterwhattheirownsoulconditionofloveis.GodLoves anddesires for all of us to receiveGod’sLoveand liveundertheprotectivecoveringofGod’sLove.GodhasDivineLovingFeelings and Emotions for all Her Children, even those whoexperience pain and suffering, those who deny God or Herexistence,orrefusetofollowGod’sLovingUniversalLaws.71Ouremotionsaremisunderstood, judged,deniedandprematurelytranscendedinfavourofa‘higher’spiritualitythatseesemotionsaspartof thestoryofa ‘self’wehaveto letgoofandmoveonfrom,rather than embrace into its fullness through humility andvulnerability. The soul and sexuality combined hold a deepexpression and embodiment of the qualities of love, such asgratitude, bliss, giving, appreciation, dynamic loving power orShakti,kindness,compassionanddirectrelatingtoGod,whichstilllielargelyunexploredintheirfullpotential.Sexuality is still largelymisunderstoodandrepressed,boughtandsoldasacommodity,fearedbecauseofitsawesomepowertotakeus out of themundane and into the extraordinary. All these four

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powersunifyinsacredrelating,anditisthegreatestchallengethata human being could undertake, as nothing is left out, andeverythinghastobeexploredandfelt.Theoldparadigmsofunconsciousrelating,withstagnantemotions,unconscious needs and grasping, substitution of human love forDivine Love, repressed, unhealed and unconscious sexuality, littleawarenessofavailablechoices,denialofGodandtheleavingoutofthe fullness and desires of the soul are already crumbling. Soon,therewillbenoroomforitanymore,‘forthosewhoholdtotheoldpatterns of relationship, there will be increasing pain, violence,confusion,andmadness."72Sexuality in loving, soulful feeling forms a deep part of ourmostblissful, ecstatic and embodied states. God loves sex and sexualexpression,andthecreationofoursoulistheresultofGod’ssexualexpression. The creation of all living things in the universe isdependentonsexualexpression,andoneof theprimarypurposesofbothourphysicalandspiritualbodiesisforsexualfunctionandexpression.Withoutitweareincomplete,foravoidanceofsexandsexuality forever causes denials and pain within the soul,preventingspiritualdevelopment.73Sexuality is a core soul attribute of every soul. Sexuality isdeveloped in love, in order to have a loving connection withyourselfandwithone’spartner.SexualityisdevelopedwithDivineLove inordertohaveapureconnectionwithGod.Sexualityhasapurpose, and its ultimate purpose is to help us to receive moreDivineLovesowecanbecomeclosertoGod.

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THEILLUSION‘ If you take two unenlightened people and put them togetherwiththe idea that they need each other to experience spiritual union orfulfillment, that’s inherently problematic. They will think thisrelationshipisgoingtogivethemanexperienceofintimacywithlife,with self, with other, and with God. But because God has not beenfound,wecantendtoprojectourcravingforspiritualunionontoourromanticrelationships.’A particular illusion suffered by many souls is the projection oftheiridealizedmateontosomeone.Suddenly,amanorwomanyouareattracted toona sexualoremotional levelbecomesyour soulmate,becauseyourbeliefandneedforanother,tofillupandcoverover something lacking within ones own soul, is great. We mayhave a genuine longing for a soulmate, whichwe project onto asimilarlookingorfeelingmanorwoman.MostrelationshipsatthistimeonEartharesoulinjuryattractions:onewound in oneperson resonates to theother. Thehole in oneperson attracts the hook in another, and vice versa. The hole is awound, anopening intoonepartner; thehook in theother, like aflayingtentacle,graspsinstantlyatthishole.Theymeet,andahugecharge is felt, which many misinterpret as love. Whilst thisattractionhasastronghormonal,karmicchargeandfeelspowerful,itisbasedonmutuallycompatibleemotionalinjuries.Itspurposeisforbothpeopletobecomeawareofandhealfrom.Itiswisetorememberthatsexualattractionstopersonsotherthanyour true soul mate are soul‐injury attractions, meaning almosteveryintimaterelationshipthatyouengageinisbasedonmutuallycompatiblewoundsthatyoubothmayuseto‘filleachotherup’,tostopfeelingpainfulorrepressedemotionswithinyourownsoul.Ifseenanddealtwithconsciously,thistypeofrelationshipcanleadtodeephealingandtheseeingofmanyofyouraddictions,fears,LawofAttraction,andlackofself‐loveveryclearly.

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The hopes and dreams that you seek in andwith the other are atemptation;thehintingofpossibilitiesandmutualfantasiesarelikewispsonthewind,thatcanneverbefulfilledbecausetheyarenotreal, just dreams generated from wounds. It is like being in afantasyworldorabubbleofawound,andthis‘hope’(illusion)liesfarawaysomewhereinalittlebox;therealityisoftenatravestyofDivine Love and Truth, and love for your own soul. Once this isseen,feltandreleasedemotionally,thenseparationcanthenoccur,asnowyouwillseek,desireandbereadyandwillingtomatureandtomeetyoursoulmate,(FormoreseeLucifer’sprayeronpersonaltruths, andwhat love isnot.)because theoldunhealedversionofyoucannowbereleased.We project our unresolved needs, wounds and ‘Hollywood’expectationsontoanother,hoping theywillmake it ‘allbetter’ foryou.Theconceptofsoulmates,whilsttrue,isagreatexcusetousefor those who are emotionally wounded and seek wholenessoutsideofthemselves,especiallyfromotherpeople.Projectingyoursoulmatefeelingstowardsotherpeoplewhoarenotthiswillneverwork,andwillinevitablyendbadly.Honestyandhumilityaretheonlywaysoutofthisillusion,freeingboth of you from the inevitable chain of unmet expectations,demandsandresentments thatwillarise fromthis,achain that islyingwithinyourownfalsebeliefsaroundlove,yourowndenialsoflove,andyourownunlovingbehavior.Askyourself,"WhatdoIseein this person that I have lost, given away, had taken away, orforgottenwithinmyself?"Essentially,whatyouwantfromtheotherpersoniswhatyouareunwillingtofeelwithinyourself.Whatyouneedfromtheotherpersonismaybewhatyoucouldbegiving. Ingiving,youreceive.Noonecanhealyou:onlyyourdesire,humilityandawarenessofyour own wounds can, with the help of God. Others can supportyou,butnotdo it foryou.Die‐hardromanticsneed tounderstandthat relationships will never take you to salvation, and willdisillusion you again and again to show you the wounds of yourownsoul.Onceyou can feel this, andaccept the truthof yourself,onlythencantruthandlovecanbloom,freefrombelief,projection

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need andwounds. ‘If you accept that your relationship is here tomake you conscious instead of happy, then the relationship willoffer you salvation, and youwill be aligning yourself with higherconsciousness that wants to be born."74Pursuingsalvationthroughandforanother,inanyway,willleadtoexperienceswhereyouaredrawn intoyourworst fears.Toknowyourself in this darkness is an opportunity to heal those parts ofyourself that you choose and are unwilling to experience. Weexperience pain to the degree of fear we place on "not losing" thethingsweholdmostdearinlife.Intheotherextreme,thosewholivelives of cool emotional detachment often do so when they areunableorunwilling to face this.Formany,being “in love” isnotasignofspiritualintelligence:quitetheopposite.‘Enlightenment’meanscomingtotheendofthesufferingwecauseto self and others when we act out of ignorance, selfishness andsoulwounds.Theenlightenedonenolongercreateskarma.Buttonot‘createkarmainthesexualarenaisnothinglessthanasupremespiritualattainmentinourdayandage.’Thisisthechallenge.To know you are whole within yourself first opens the door toSacredRelating.Becompletelycontentedalone,Self‐containedandconnected to God. The need becomes forgotten as the need getshealedandfilledwithDivineLove.

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THEKEYThebiggestprobleminrelationshipsiswhatweallyearnfor,whatwe all miss, what we try and get from another, and what we allneglect to include within our human relationships: Divine Love,truth, andGod.Weall yearn forDivineLove in allwedo,butputcheap imitations in itsplace inouramnesiaand forgetfulness.Welookforthislovefromanother,butwillnever,ever,getit.WemissDivineLoveineverythingwedo,evenifwedonotrealizeit consciously, so blurred and forgetful, so lost have we becomewithin the ‘dream’ of the fulfillment of human love. And in thisHollywood dream, we try and fill this need for Divine Love withmanysubstitutes,falsetoolsandtemporaryplaythingstoplugthisdeepestofdeepholeswithinus,whichdrivesouractionsunderthesurface.This is thekeyproblem inmodernday intimaterelationships.Weare like beggars at the end of a fine banqueting table, feeding offscrapsthataretossedtous,desperateforanylittlepieceofhumanlovethatwereceivefromanother,compromisingwhatwefeelandknowdeep down just to receive a tiny bit of temporary love andegoic comfort right now. Now, now, now is the disease of ourconsumer age, and sex is a huge part of our need tomanipulate,control,veilandstuffourholeswithinus.Humanloveandsexwillneversatisfyus,becausewhatwearereallysearchingforisDivineLovedirectlyfromGod,yetwestillmadlytryandpersistingettingitfromanotherperson.This wildly misplaced aim, this error, is the state we have falleninto. And it leads to all the conflicts we have in relationship.Weplace another before God, and they become our substitute, asubstitute that will never fill us or fulfill our deepest desires, oremptyusofourwounds.Inthisrealization,theHollywooddreamisnowbankrupt.

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The paradox is thatwhenboth partnersplaceGod first in feeling,desireandprayer,throughfollowingDivineLawsasthefoundationoftherelating,75thehumanlovewithineachpartner,andbetweenthem,magnifiestremendously,asthereisnolongeranyneedtogetthis love, or anything at all, from theotherperson; there is just adesire to give and share more truth in love. There are no moresubstitutes we are looking to get from the other. God fills us,showingusourownneedsandwounds,helpingustobecomefullyhumbleandself‐responsibleforhealingthem.It is our humanneeds andwounds thatmake us feel that humanloveisTHELOVE,oursalvation,allthatweneed,thathumanlovewillmakeeverythingrightinourlives,thatitwillmakeeverythingbetter. Human love is a very poor second to Divine Love in itsquality,depthandfeeling,yetassharedbefore,ittooincreasesthemore Divine Love we receive and therefore the more healed webecome.In a human sexual relationshipwith God installedwithin it as itscentreandunmovingfulcrum,Godhelpstoguidetherelationship!WithGod installedas thePrimaryForce,humanrelationshipsandsexuality bloom to their full potential of human love and DivineLove merging in bliss, pleasure, play, deeply honest and truthfulsoulfulinteraction,totaltrust,honour,gratitudeandjoy.In this SacredRelating, sexuality, aburningyearning forGod, andthe feeling depths of the human soul are brought together inpurposefulandpracticalactionsoas toreceivemoreDivineLove.This is the opposite of most modern ideas about Tantra andrelationship,which isaboutbothsoulsmergingandgettingclosertogether.ThisissecondaryinSacredRelating,wherethepurposeisfor each soul to merge with God, first and foremost. This is thesoul’s true burning desire under the surface armouring andamnesiaofworldlylife,andit isthepotentialandpurposeofeachsoulsveryexistence,andindeedthecreationofthesoulitself.75Rightfromthebeginningoftherelating,althoughitcanbeworkeduptoifyouarealreadyinanexistingrelationshipwherethedesireforthedivineisstrongfrombothsides

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In SacredRelating, sexual energies are one of the three elements,onepartof theTrinity,alongwith thehuman loveof thesoulandthe Divine Love of God. Sexual energies operate through mutualcompatibility, where you feel and know the other is a good fitsexually for you through your chemistry and mutual magneticattractionofoppositesoulhalves,iftakentoitsultimatedegreeinasoul mate relating. These sexual energies connect to human lovethroughyourtenderaffection,mutualhonesty,precioustrust,andintimate,opencommunication.Self‐loveanddesireforGodmergeinthefollowingofDivineLawsbecauseyouwishtoevolveandusethesubstanceofthesoul,whichisloveandsexualenergy,toembodydivinity;youbecome‘Divinelyselfish’ andmaturely honour, from the soul’s sacred desires, thatthehighest formofbetrayal is thebetrayingofyour soul’s sacreddesiresinordertonotbetrayanother.Prayer whilst making love becomes the connection to receiveDivineLove.ThisformofRelatingcanworkifbothpartnershaveaburning desire for Divine Love put into action through deepemotional clearing and prayer, and are following Divine Laws. Ifoneisdoingitandtheotherisunwillingornotinterested,thenthepurposeandcreationofsexualenergiesfromthesoularenotbeingused truly, and relating will only ever at best be partial. If onepartner is more evolved in their receiving of Divine Love and isclearerwiththeiremotionalstate,andtheotherhasmoretodobutneverthelesshasthedesireandwillingnesstogodeeper,thenthistoocanwork.ThesoulclosertoGodhasnoneedsfromtheirpartnerbecauseGodalonefulfillshimorher.Heorshestillhastheirself‐love,andwillnot allow themselves to be treated badly, and can be lovingwiththeirpartner’sgrowthastheyneednothingfromthem.However,iftheirpartnerisconsistentlyunwillingtogrow,thendeepquestionshave to be asked as towhy they are still in the relationship, andwhatwounds,needs,securityandfearsarekeepingtheminsuchaclosedrelationship.

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IfyouaredeeplycommittedtoDivineLove,thishastobeineverysingle aspect of your life. It is not something done alone in yourprayerroomorinthebedroom.Itisawayoflife,andtofullyfollowDivineLaws,whicharetheworkingsofDivineLove, itnecessarilyhas to come into every facet of your soul and life on earth.Everything has to reflect it, including your sexuality and the oneyoushareyourbedwith.Therearenoexceptionstothis,nomatterhowyouwishto justify itwithworldlyconcerns.Betterto leavealiethanlivealie.Again,themistakeweallmakeistothinkthathumanlovealoneisenough. It isnotyourfullpotential, it isnevergoingto fulfillyoursoul,andwillnotevenbringthedegreeofhumanlovebetweenyouandyourpartnertoitsfullpotential.

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FOUNDATIONSOFSOULFULINTIMACYInintimacy,thereismutual:COMMUNICATIONBe open, vulnerable, honest, totally transparent about everythingthatisgoingonevenifyoudonotfeelitaffectstheother–itmayverywelldo!Behumbleandself‐responsible,inspeech,silentfeeling,sensitivityanddiscoveryofselfandother.Patientyetnotstagnant,lovingbutnotsentimentalormotheringorfathering,clearyetsoft,everopentowhatcouldbe, fluidandreadytoshift,withoutfixation,rigidityorblame.RESPECTRespecteachothersfreewillandwhattheotherfeelstodo,evenifyou do not agree to it; share not demand, for love is a gift to beshared,notdemanded.RespectDivineLawsbyfollowingthemtotheirfullextent.Respecttheboundariesofyourselfandtheotherinself‐love.Respect and follow the desires and passions of yourself; allowothersthesame.Respect your humility before God and share this expressionwithyourpartner.Onewaywecanrespectanotheristoseeandaffirmtheirgoodnessand worth, through qualities of love such as appreciation andgratitude.Buttodothis truly,wehaveto feel thiswithinourownself,otherwisewecannotfullyrespect,acceptorvaluetheotherifwedonotrespect,loveandvalueourownself.We can only sustain respect for the other if we truly sense andacknowledge,regardlessoftheirwordsandactions,that‘theother’neverlosestheirinnategoodnessandworth,onlytheirawarenessof it.And the same goes for our own self too. As soon aswe stop

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loving, respecting and trusting our own self, we send a messagethat we believe the other also is not worthy of respect, andthereforenotaworthwhileperson,justaswefeelourselvestobe.HONOURHonouristhesoulfulacknowledgement,appreciationandpraiseofthesoulinyourselfandtheother,recognizingtheirworthandtheirunique beauty forwho they truly are. Honour is not givingmuchtime,energy,validationorattention toeitheryoursor theother’spersonality, but rather a continual seeing and encouraging of thesoul.In this encouraging, the gossip and mental chatter that thepersonality splurges out to others in its emptying out of thecontentsof its ever activemind, arenot givenmuchvalidationorencouraged.Instead, the deeper nature of the soul’s qualities, desires andfeelings, and God’s way of loving us are consistently shared andupheldbybothsouls,asbesttheycan,witheachother.Thishonorsthesoulandstrengthensit.ThisissexuallyarousingtooforaGodinspiredmanorwoman,sowillleadtomoresoulfulandhonouringlovemaking.This means that you both share with each other when you arestrayingawayfromDivineLawsandlove,andsupportyourselfandthe other to stay in truth in a soft and loving way, withoutdemandingperfectionorexpectingit.HonouringthesoulandGodmeansyoubothdonotstandforanythingelse lessthanthis,bothin yourself and by extension in the other, but can accept it andmoveforwardswithitintomorelovingtruth.Honoureachother’ssouljourney,whereverthatmaytakeyou.Payfull attention toeachother,notmultitasking, ignoringor ‘shoutedfromtheotherendofthehouse’communication.Honour is giving God the glory, honour and ownership of theBeauty, Divine Love and Power that occurs through you, rather

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thanclaimingit justforyourself.Godbecomesyourpartnerinthebedroom, so honour and include Him too in your prayers whilstmakinglove,andafter.Muchmorelovewillhappen!TRUSTOpenuptoeverythingandanythingandshareitall,withGodandpartner, in honesty and vulnerability. In its heights and depths,trust is apreciousaspectofDivineLove in faithandsurrender toGodandthentheother. It isaverypure feeling feltbybothsoulswhentheyopentoeachotherandGod.Bothsoulstrustandopenuptoeachother,communicatingclearlywheretheyareandwhattheyarefeeling,daringtorevealalltheirweakness, shameorpainaswell as thegloryofDivineLove, aweandwonder.Shareeachother’ssexualdesires,healings,andwaysto open up further toDivine Love through the channels of sexualenergy.In relationships, trust is the first thing togo, and the last thing toreturn!It’shard to trust someoneyouchoosenot to respect.Untilyouarehonestwithyourself,youwillnotbeableseetherealcauseofyourwithdrawaloftrustinothers,especiallywhenyou‘believe’thattheyhave‘affectedyou’personallyatanemotionallevel.Sure,youcandiscernand ‘choose’not to trustanother,butalways lookatyourselfaswell.Peoplewithdrawtheirtrustbecauseoffear,sometimesmixedwithdiscernment,butalwaysbecauseofalossofhonouringthesoulandself‐love;afeelingofbeingviolatedorharmedbymenorwomeninthepast.Inthefirstgateoftheyoni,thisbecomesalltooapparent.We thenhave to feel into these emotions in order for thehealingbalmtoarise. Is itanywonder that thehealingbalms for the firstgate are trust, respect, self‐love and appreciation, healing thewoundsofviolation,abuseandselfishlust?And this isstillnoexcuse foranyunlovingbehavioronanybody’spart – just a lesson tobe learnedand felt.Untilwe feelanddelvebeneath our own fears to their cause first, we will constantly

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mistrust others for some reason and justification, constantlysabotaging our relationships and our ability to give and receivelove.Theseinclude:constantlydenyingourtruefeelings,andminimizingtheimpactthatourexperienceshavehadonoursensitiveemotionsandsouls;justifyingourownandothersactions,forgivingthemtoosoon without having truly felt it all first; blaming others for ourownexperiencesandlessons.MISTRUSTTherearesixmainreasonswhywecanwithdrawourtrust.Allarerooted in anger at ourselves for letting ourselves down, our ownfear,andthecausalemotionsthatlieunderneathfear,suchasgrief,shame,powerlessnessandguilt.Feelingtheseemotionsistheonlywaytobefreefromthechainsthatmistrustputsacrossoursoul.FearofBeingHurtThis kind ofmistrust is usually based on past experienceswherewebelievewewereletdownbysomeoneorbetrayed.Wethinkwecan avoid a recurrence of this hurt if we stop trusting the other,avoidingourownlessonsinhowthisoccurred.Whilethisisusuallyreflectedinoneparticularrelationship,itspillsintoothers,runninglikeadarkundercurrentthroughoutmanyofourrelationships.Can you see this?Where did the pattern start for you?Whatwasthe first experience you had of this let down? Father, mother,brother,firstboyfriendorgirlfriend?Canyouseeitseffectsinyourotherrelationships?The only cure to this is feeling your own pain all the way to itsdepths. Our sadness, disappointment and resentment are all self‐created.Our anger towards the other becomes our attempt atrevenge.Intruth,weletourselvesdown.Yes,othersmaymakemistakesortelllies,letyoudownorchangeplans,butwearestillthecreatorofourhurtreactionsandfeelingsandbehind thesehurt feelings layssomethingdeeperanddarkerwithinyou.Itisuptoyoutoownandfeelthis.Onceyouhave,and

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expresseditinsomeway,thenyouwillbefree,andabletobefluid.Ofcourse,thisdoesnotmeanyouhavetoblindlytrusttheother!Itjustmeansthatyouareresponsibleforyourownfeelings,andonceyouarefully,thenyoucanapproachtheotherinadifferentway.FearofBeingExposedThis mistrust arises because we hide something we do not wantothers to know or see. We perceive ‘the other’ as someone whomay expose us.This fear is the effect of trying to keep somethingwefeelashamed,guiltyandembarrassedaboutsecret,whichonlystopsourownhealing!Invulnerability,allisrevealedtobehealed.Andmorelovearises.FearofBeingDiminishedThiskindofmistrustarisesfromthebeliefthatthe‘other’actuallymay be better than we are.There are those who feel "less than"(lack of self‐love/worth) when they think they are relating withanotherwhomayhave "more experience" or "more information."Theythenperceivethisotherasanauthority(parent,teacher,boss,government, church)anddefer to thembecause theothermaybebetter.Weeasily ‘project’onto themcompetitivenessandour fear,basedonourown lackof self‐loveandselfworth.Lovingone’sownselfmeans thatweareconfidant inwhoweare,andappreciate freelywhat others can bring to us, and what we can bring to them.Equality arises from this, but often there aredeepwounds in ourlove of self that prevent this or turn it into a projection. It is ourown pride,which hides our inferiority complex,whichwe do notwishtoexpose.Canyouseethepatterninallthewaysthatdistrustworks?Anotherfacetofthiskindofmistrustariseswhenyouarenotsuretheotheriscapableofdoingwhatevertaskisathand,andyouhavealackofconfidenceintheothersability.Doyoufindithardtoworkwithothersbecauseofthis?

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Todealwiththeeffect,simplyhaveadeepandhonest lookat theothers capacities and abilities before any task is delegated tothem.Have a chat and delegate roles. Do not act out of guilt orcompulsionortheneedtomakethingsright,orevento‘help’them.Discernanddiscriminateclearlyoneachperson’sabilities,even ifthey think they can do something. Trust your faculties!God onlygivesus todowhatwearecapableof,even ifat timeswe feelwecannotdoit,orfeelunworthyaboutdoingsuchathing.Anotherway this can play out in our lives iswhenwe allow ourperception of someone to be coloured by others experiences andgossipaboutthem.Ifweallowothersjudgmentstocloudourown,wedonotloveortrustourselves,lackconfidenceinourselvesandhave a weak centre. When we allow others to influence ourperceptionof a person in a negativeway,we ‘makeupourmind’about them before we even meet them.Trust is gone, innocencelost,andwehavebetrayedourownselves,truthandlove.Again!Try and meet others, even those you know, innocently. Do thistodaywithsomeoneyouhaveknownforawhile.Dothistodaywithsomeone you may have previously judged by their appearance,accent, PAST actions or mannerisms. How would you approachthem?Whatwouldyousay?Pretendyoudonotevenknowthem,andthisisyourfirstdayofmeeting.Youmaybesurprised!OneruletorememberisthatpeopleCANANDDOchange,includingyourself,andouropinionsofothersareoftencloudedbyourownfilters,projections,pastexperiencesandwounding,andourrefusalto feel our own emotional reactions and wounds triggered byothers. Do not spend time analyzing, judging and thinking aboutotherslikeagossipcolumn;lookatyourself.FearofBeingManipulatedPoliticians, marketers and advertisers try to manipulate ourperceptions,feelingsandbehaviors.Sodootherpeopleandspiritsin our lives, and guess what: so are you with many people also!Where does this come from? Our emotionalwounds creating ourmentalbeliefs.Noonecanmanipulateuswithoutourpermission.Itis just that thepermissions thatwegrant toothersandourselveswearenotawareof;theyaremoresubconsciousthanconscious.

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FearoftheOther’sBadBehaviorThis kind ofmistrust ariseswhen someone has a track record ofangry or even violent behavior. It’s hard to ignore the pastespecially ifothers(like therestof the ‘family’)wereaffectedand‘hurt’byanother’sunlovingbehavior.Onecure canbe seenwhenmanagersofsportsteamsgivethecaptaincytotheplayerwiththeworst disciplinary record and behavior.Very often, increasedresponsibility,bothexternallyandinternally,triggersasofteningofattitudeandachange.But, ifangerbetweentwopeoplecontinues,the only cure will be that one has to physically leave therelationshipuntilchangeisseentobeconsistent.Fearofbeingunsafe,insecure,withoutamagneticgroundFeeling unsafe can haunt us our whole lives because of whathappenedinourchildhood.Ifwehadabusiveparents,nosiblings,constant arguing and violence between the parents, or even anaffair had by either parent, that will create an unsafe, unstablegroundwithinusforanyfuturerelationshipsthathavepromisetogodeeperintoamoresoulfulintimacy.Ofcourse,wecanhangouton the surface and have superficially happy or ‘pleasurable’relationships, but as soon as we desire and experience true ordeeperintimacy,thesetypesofwoundswillarise.Perhapsthebiggesteffectofthiscomesfromtryingtogetsafetyorsecurityfromsomeoneelse,ortheworld.Thedeepestcauseofthiscomesfromhowyouweretreatedfromthemomentyouwerebornand early childhood. If, for example, if you were placed into anincubator, if yourmother shunned you and youwere denied herphysical andemotional touchandpresence, if you felt inanywayyour parents did not love you, this deeply affects your ability totrust,feelsafe,feelsecure.Andthiswillthenplayoutinallyourintimaterelationships,sothatyouwillneverfeelyoucantrulydropdownandrest,feelsafeandsecure,andtrulyopenupintointimacyanddeepercommunication.In other words you will never have an authentically intimaterelationshipwithanyone,includingyourownsoul,untilthiswound

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is journeyed into. This is usually done through various forms ofdeepbreathwork,prayerandemotionalhealing.Not addressing this can then attract partners who act out thisbehavior, triggeringmoreandmore insecurity, an inability to feelsafe, and inability to trustwithinoneself,whichmaygetprojectedoutwards intowanting this fromanother evenmore.Thispatternwillkeeprepeatinguntilthewomanreclaimshermagneticground,orseatoflove,innertrust,innerintimacyandauthorityinhersoulandwomb.Thisreclaimingandenergeticrestructuringof thewombandyonispace naturally leads us to disconnecting from the "GodfatherGestalt76"wherewomenunconsciouslytradetheirinnerpowerandauthority for a false sense of outer security and safety, usuallyconnectedwithamanorfathertypefigure.Awoman’smagnetic ground is activatedwhen she feels safe andappreciatesherself,whenshe isauthentic inrelationshipwithhersoulandGod,andasaneffectshewillattractandbewiththerightpartnerwho is also like this.When this is in place, awoman cantrulyandcompletelytrustandletgo77,toallowtheDivineFeminineSacred Sexual Soul Self of Pure Creativity to express throughher.When this occurs during lovemaking, there is often ashuddering, shaking and huge pulsing in the yoni and womb.InIndia,thisiscalledSpanda–thesacredtremorofthelifeforce,thepulseofcreationandthegoalofallTantra.Ifsheallowsthisshuddering,pulsingandshakingtocontinueandrelease old emotions, it will take her deeper into Essence.If hermale partner remains with her at this time in loving connection,touchingandnestingwithinthewombandmagneticfieldsreleasedduringthepulsing,andduringorgasm,thenbothopenupfurther.WhichoftheaboveSIXemotionalfearsofnottrustingdoyoufeelyouaretrappedby?

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How does this play out in your relationships with family, partner,friendsorevencolleaguesatwork?Listsixpeople,andfeelintoeachoneintermsofhowmuchyoutrustthem, from 1­10. Now, identify which of the above fears you feel issabotaging your ability to trust that person, and which is alsosabotagingyou,hidingyourfears.

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APRACTICEPlace your fingers, or your partner’s fingers, slowly, gently andlovingly,withconsciousattention,at the lipsof theyonior lipsofthelingam.Simplyfeel it; thetexture, thewarmth, thecontours, thefeelingoftheskin.Now,feelintoit:Has she/he ever felt respected, appreciated, honoured, nurtured oradmiredbyanother?Canyourememberthefeelingsofwhatitfeltlike?Ifso,whatwasit?Haveyoueverrespected,appreciated,trusted,honoured,nurturedoradmiredher/himyourself?Check each one, one by one, slowly, allowingwhatever feeling toariseforeachone.Dothisnextcheckinforthelipsoftheyoniandtheprostateglandfortheman.Doesshe/hefeelsafeandsecurewithinyou?Doesshe/hefeellikeshecantrust?Doesshe/hefeelthatshe/hecanopenup,andistrustworthy?Whatisblockingher/him?Ask if the lips of the yoni or the prostate emotionally feels any ofthesefivewaysofdistrust.Iftheydo,thensimplyrestintoandfeeleach emotion and sensation. When you are ready, gently sendappreciationandpraise,fromyourheart,downthroughyourarms,to him/her. Intuitively feelwhat youwish to sharewithhim/her.YoumayusethisPrayerasyouconnectintoandtouchyoursacredspace:Ipraiseyouformylife.78Inmakinglovewithtrust,asonewomanshares:

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‘Thekeyinfeelingformeisatremendoustrust.Andwiththatthereisthe deep, deep desire to open up completely. It is a desire that isbigger than me. I make love now, before I had sex. There is nocomparison, it is completelydifferent.And it is also this thatmakesme feel like Iamdevelopingatotalnewbodyof feeling,becauseallthefeelingsIhadbeforewerenotaboutlove,butwhatIthoughtwaslove or orgasm; but have nothing to do with it at all. There is noreference.MostoftheemotionsIfeelwhenwemakelovearenewtome,andIdonothaveavocabularytodescribethem.Ifeelitphysically,startingtolearnanewlanguage.MostofthefeelingsIexpressinsoundsandtears.TheycomefromreconnectingandfindingbackwhatIalwayshaveshutout,sothereisadeeppainofmissingthat,andthen,atthesame time, overwhelming joy and gratitude in reconnecting; it isalwaysamixture.Actually it isgood tobeoverwhelmed, ithumblesme,anditincreasesmydesiretoopenmoreandtounveilall,andfeelgratefulinthewayitallunfolds.’When your sexuality starts to openwith Divine Love involved, itcan feel joyous and powerful, without the destructive nature ofpower. Thenwe can feel the pain ofmissing that part ofme, thesweet pain of finding that back, and deep gratitude, as well asfeelingthatallmycellswanttoopenupmoretoGodWe are both male and female; so ALL these qualities go bothways. Man is half woman too! Woman too is half man, and alsoneeds to allow the feminine side of man to flourish, as well ashonour,respectandexpresshermalesidewithinaswell.Sothereisamutualgiving,receivingandexpressingofallthesequalitiesonboth sides for and from both souls. This is mutual love, notunrequited or one‐sided love – and this is harmony and equality.Thisisthebasisforadivinerelatingintertwinedwithhumanloveandself‐love.AndGodisthefulcrum,thefocus,andthecentreofallofthis.

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SEX,SOUL,GOD­6WAYSTOMAKELOVEThehealingofthesoulanditssacredsexualself,inDivineLoveandtruth,happenswith:Fullforgivenessofthefeminineandmasculine,Understandingthetruenatureofsexualrelatingandsexualattraction,Puttingintopracticethesoulmanifestoformaleandfemale,Identifyingyoureagleorlionpatterningandtakingstepstohealit,Opening the 7 Gates79 for both man and woman to heal the sacredsexualself,Openingthewombforthewoman,Consecratingthelingamfortheman,PrayingforDivineLoveinmakingloveHealingthesoulswoundsinallaspectsoflife,Thedeepconnectingofallpartsofthelifeforce,soulandsexualitytoMotherFatherGodinYabYum.80AndofcourserelyingonGod,prayer,yourownsoulhealingandjourneyintoDivineLoveandtruthasthebasisofallofthis.We have made a separation between our sexuality and our soul.Soul and sexuality evolve together, not separately, and if they aretreated separately, there will only be a limited amount ofmovement for theirgrowthandhealing.Tohealsexually, thesouland itswoundshave tobe felt and includedat somepointon thejourney; to heal our souls, which are partly composed of sexualenergy, the sexual energy has to be included at some point alongthejourney.Theincreasedintimacy,emotionsandsoulfulnessthatcomesfromtruly lovingsomeoneandopeningyoursoul to themallowsmuchmorenakednesstooccurandmoreemotionstorevealandbefelt.Justbeingwithsomeoneforhealingwillnotreallyopenyoursoulup, or involve the souls emotions fully whilst being with them.

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Ultimately this will delay both souls growth, although it can beusefultohealsomethingsalongtheway.AfewofthefollowersofTantra,asitisknownintheworldtoday,areontheDivineLovepath,butnotmany.ThepathofTantraandthe path of Beloved Tantra are two different things. The path ofBelovedTantraisaboutyourunionwithGod.Thepathofnormalorneo‐Tantra is abouthow tohavegoodsex, circulate someenergy,feelgood,openthechakras,andgetclosertoyourhumanpartnerinhumanlove.ThepathofBelovedTantrahasalwaysexisted,buthasbeenkeptquietbecauseof the judgmentandpersecutionthatcouldhappen.Youareharnessingthegreatpowerofyoursoul’sburningdesiretomergewithGodwith thepoweranddesireof your sexual energytogether. It has always been quiet, but there have always beenpeopleintheworldwhoaredoingthis.God loves sexuality and we have been given this gift in order toexperienceanotherformofsoulunionwithGodinvolved.Thisisitsprimary purpose, and this is our soul’s primary purpose here onEarth.Thiscompletesthewaysofexperiencingeveryaspectoflove.Godwants us to be orgasmic,Hewants us to enjoy the feeling ofthatwavemoving throughourbodiesandsouls, to feel ithereonEarth,inthethirddimension,ineveryway.Through your sexuality you connect with all life, and your soulneedsapersonal relationshipwithyourCreator,withGod, to livethis.ItishardtogetclosertoGodwhenhalfofyou,yoursexuality,is shut down andnot open to feel, to desire. The denial of sexualdesireoftenblocksthedesireforGod.TogetdeeperdesireforGodinvolvesyourfreedupandhealedsexualenergy.God said that ‘Man andWomanHe created us,’meaning thatmanand woman are meant to be together. This is an expression ofincredible love because it will bring us even more joy, love andpleasureifweareusingwhatwehavenaturallybeengiftedwithtogotoGod.AndthisiswhatGoddesiresforus!Onlywecandenyitbecauseofourownfears,whichblockourdesireforDivineLove.

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Hecreatedsexualitysowecoulduse it in itshighest form. IfbothpeopleareusingsexualitytogotoGodandtheirdesireisalignedtodivine desire then it is a totally different type of connection, butBOTH partners need to be in that desire, humility and choice toreturn to God, for sexuality to reach its fullness. Of coursewe allhavetomakestepsalongtheway,exploring,investigating,healingand,refiningoursexualidentities,findingoutmoreofwhoweareinthisrespect,buttheimportantthingisthatyouaremakingsomesteps.Thesestepscanhappeninaseriesofhealingsandopenings.

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God,pleasehelpmetoknowandfullyfeeltheholesinmysexualselfandmysoul,thatIthengiveawaytoothers.1.THEWOUNDEDYONIANDLINGAMThecharacteristicsoflargelyunconscioussexare:havingsexwithlust,withviolence,unable to stopatany time,havingsexwithoutlove,forselfgratification,to‘getoff,’torelieveandreleaseoneself.Havingsexwithsexualwoundswithoutinvestigating,seeingthem,wanting to see them or become conscious of them or heal them.Having sex to cover yourwounds, to be liked, to be loved, to getattention,togetlove,totakeenergyfromanother,togetsomethingfromanotherratherthantoshare,exchange,andtogive.Havingsextodenyemotions,havingsexasanaddictiontofillandcoverawound inside,havingsexbecauseyouareentrainedtodosobecauseofchildhoodmolestationandabuse,havingsextothrilland enliven your life as a fantasy escape, having sex to escapefeelings of dread, loneliness and shamewithin, having sex out of

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fearoranynegativeemotion,havingsextopleaseanotherandkeepthem with you, having sex for safety and security, to feel somesense of closeness, having sex formoney or drugs, having sex ondrugs, having sex out of duty and obligation, having sex becauseyou are bored, having sex out of need and addiction to feelingaffectionandanyscrapofityoucangetfromanotherbecauseyoudonotloveyourself.Havingsex forkicks,havingsexwithvibratorsor toys,havingsexwithpornography,havingsexasaroutine,havingsexbecauseyouareforcedto,havingsexlikeananimal,havingsexwithoutthesoulpresent,havingsexevokingdemonicormagicalforces.Aggression,needtoorgasmand‘getoff’,domination,stayingincontrolandnotsurrendering to a greaterpower andvulnerability, theprimordialneedtosatisfy,reproduceandpleasureonesownselfareallheldinouranimaldesires.Thesemoreanimaldesirestransmutefromstiff,tensioned excitement to relaxed, supple openness on all levelswhen the lingam is healed and fully connected to the light of theheart.Partofthissanctifyingandhonouringofthelingamasdivinehas tobedonebyanotherperson.Deepgrief,painandangeralsolie in themale gates,whichwhenhealedneed to connect back totheAltaMajor,andtheprostategland.Acorebeliefhereisthatsexisdirtyandshameful,butIhavetodoit.Ifwe areusing spiritual beliefs and ideas, alliedwith ourparentsbeliefs to hide behind, both emotionally and sexually, (which iscommon)wecanbelievesexisnot“holy”fromGod’spointofview.We can often think, in long‐term relating, that our partner is a“goodandlovingwoman/man”andnot“dirty,”soIdonotneedsexfromherorhim,but Iwillcheatonmypartnerwithpornographyandwomen/menwhoare“allowed”tobesexualandfreewiththis.This appeals to over 30% of humanity, as recent statistics show,andthisisthedivorceofsexfromloveinourownminds,showingus our own disconnection between our sexuality and our heartswithinus.Adirectwaytohealthisistoengageinsomeintimatesexualtouch,touchingtheseareasandpartsofthebody,suchasthefourgatesofthe lingam, the lipsof theyoni, theclitoris, thegratitudespotand

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thewomb,sowecanbegintofeeldifferentqualitiesofloveinthesesacredareasofourselves,releasingoldandunlovedpartsofus intheprocess.81Often,wecan feel repulsionaroundgettingclose tothese areas, or feel drawn to them out of lust rather than love.Eitherway,thereishealingtobedonetoreleasetheemotionshere.Thereverseofthis ‘shame’isovertsexualityandaddictiontoloveandsex,anothercommondeviceandstrategytofillawoundwithinourselveswith the substitute of human love. Ifwe feelwehave togive sexual feelings, have sex and flirtwith others, so that othersfind us attractive and sexy, ‘filling us up’ with their attention,energy,affection,makingusfeeltemporarilymore‘worthy’,weareactually strengthening ourmasks andwounds, andwalking awayfromanykindoftruthorlove.To feel theunderlying corebelief ofhowunsafeyouactually feel,sexually and emotionally, around others of the opposite sex, andevenhow fearful youarearound this attraction,wouldmean thatyou stop projecting sexually at others, and withdraw from thosewhomyouaresexuallyprojectingat.2.THEHEALEDYONIANDLINGAMThere is a world of difference in making love with the healedlingamandyoni.Thehealedandconsecratedlingambecomesatoolforlove,awandoflight,asitisnowfullyconnectedtotheheartoftheman,andtheheart is connected to the Soul of God. Both woman andman, nomatterhowinexperiencedorwounded,experienceitassacredandbeautifulorexperiencedandhealed,thewomanis.Itisnolongerasextoyorexperiencedassuch. It issweet,gentleandlovingin itsnature and just seeing one touches a woman’s heart and womb.Touchingandkissingsuchalingambringsawomantoahonouring,cherishing adoration of the sacred nature of sexuality, and loveflowsthroughthewoman’sheartspontaneouslytothemanandhis

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lingam. She feels grateful for this flow of spontaneous love andconnection.Thehealedandsacredlingamisopen,supple,flexible,notdisposedtolust,violententryorusage,aservantoflove,humananddivine.It is not rigid, overly hard and stiff. It can bend and fit into anyopening, filling it completely with its body of light no matter itsphysicalsize.Itopensandpenetratesintothewombitselfthroughits wand of light, which then becomes a pillar, filling the womancompletely from yoni through to crown. By its simple beingness,thesacred lingaminvites thewomantoadore,cherishand love it.Shefeelsdrawntoitautomatically,showeringitwithherloveandtears.In making love with a healed lingam, much healing can happen,whichcanbepainfulastheyoniandwombopensmoreandmore,with thewomanwishing to createmore spacewithin her and togiveheralltothismanandtosomethingfarbiggerthanthisman,to God, to be totally filled by this love and wanting this in lovessoftnessandyearningforGod.Thewomanfeelsthedesiretototallysurrender and give all of her to this act of love, to expandtremendouslyandtotallywelcomeandembraceallofthisthroughherman.Asonewomanshares:‘Inseeing,feelingandexperiencingahealedLingamforthefirsttime,IfeltmyheartopenintoaplaceofcompleteTrustandreverence.Allpast fearsor issueswithmendissolved,and in thatmoment I feltacompletely innocent devotion to the masculine, wanting to givemyself completely in open vulnerability and surrender.Whereas usually thesewoundings around sexualitywouldmakemecloseemotionallyorexperiencephysicalpainorcontraction,insteadIfelteverythingdesiringtoopenandbloom;Ifeltapureadorationforthe masculine and the lingam, I desired to receive it fully, for myWombtoembraceittotally,toreceivethemasculineintothedeepestplace ofmy being, as well as also feeling this passionate desire forGod,fortheDivine,topenetratemecompletely.

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Making Love with a healed lingam is far beyond a physicalexperience, it touchesthesoul.AfterwardsIwasabletoaccessdeepemotions around my sexual woundings, that years of therapy hadneverbeenabletoreach.FeelingthisabsolutetrustandhonorfortheMasculine as a light of Love allowed me to feel into these darkestplaces.SeeingthetruesacrednatureofsexualitytouchedaplaceofpurityandinnocenceinmeIthoughthadbeenlost.’Foralingamenteringahealedyoni,itislikeenteringsilk;smooth,soft, juicy, invitinganddisposed to lovessensitivityandslowness,not lust, agitation and violence. It is unhurried, luxuriating in itssensitivitytomovementsoflove,lightandsublimatedpassion.Hervelvetglovesoftlyclosesaroundthesuppledivinelingam,drawingitineverdeeperthroughheropeningbloomingheart,throughherbreath,throughhermagnetism,throughthesubtlestofmovements,throughherdesireforGodthroughheropenheartandwomb.YoubegintodesireGodthewayyouhavesobeenwanting,needinganddesiringthemenandwomeninyourlife.Alltheattentionyouhave been trying to get sexually, intellectually, lovingly, everywhichway, you have tried them all. Take all this valuable energyandredirectitintothepuredesirethatliesunderneathitall.Donotbe guided by the false wisdom of your wounds any longer. Yoursoul is luminous because even if you have forgotten it for such alongtime,whenyouhavetheactualtasteandexperienceofDivineLove,youwillgothroughanything,evenbereadytogiveyourlife,forIt.YoucannotaskGodtofillyourholes;youcanaskGodtofeelyourwound and thenwhen you totally feel your wound, and it opensthrough feeling it, one can ask for Divine Love to come in. It issimply by feeling your protection, yourwound towhat is alreadyhere, that theveil candropswhenyouask.Then thatpart of youthathasbeenprotecting itself fromDivineLove and truth gets tofeel it. This is the same for anything, including sexuality. Joiningyour sexualityTODivine Love in prayer allows something else tohappen.

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The running away from sexuality, or notwanting to engage in it,can actually harm you. Yes, you can spend periods of time awayfrom sexually engaging with another to refine and develop yoursoul in conjunctionwithDivine Love and prayer, and this iswiseandtrue,butifyouspendalongtimeawayfromit, itcanactuallyharmyoursoulbecauseoursoulsarealsosexualinnature.Soyouare denying part of your soul. It is part of the substance of yoursoul,soyoucannotreallyunifywithGodwithoutengagingwith itinsomesoulfulway.3.THESPIRITORLIGHTBODIESMakingloveinthespiritbodiesorlightbodiesisnotjustanethericor non‐physical experience. It can be very physical for bothmanandwomaninvolved,orifamanorawomanisengaginginmakinglovetospirits.Makinglovetospirits‐soulswithoutaphysicalbody‐canbedangerousanddraining,soitisnotadvisable.Amanorawomanmakinglovetoeachotherthroughtheirspiritorlight bodies is a profound experience. Orgasms can occur, as canopeningsandhealingsof thewomb, lingamandyoni.Making loveinthespiritbodiesisaspontaneousoccurrence,createdbytheloveandmagnetismbetweenbothpartners,andseemstobedependenton the level of evolution of one of the people involved. If onepartnerisveryawareoftheirlightbody,thentheotherwillbeabletoreceiveit. Ifbothareveryaware,thenitcangotoawholenewlevelofmultidimensional lovemaking. Ifneitherareaware, thenitisunlikelytoeverhappen.Makingloveinthelightbodiesispartofthecourtshipprocess.Itishow both partners get to know each other on a deeper levelwithoutthephysicalbeinginvolved,withoutthepersonalityoregobeinginvolved,withoutphysicaljudgments,appearancesandotherdistractions veiling the reality of the soulsmutual attraction, andbothsoulsdelightinsuchengagement.Itvalidatestherealityofthesoul, it validates thatpart of the very fabric of the soul is createdfromsexualenergyandlove.Itcanbeacontinualprocess;youcanbemaking love like this for days andweeks, or it can just be an

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introductionto theessenceofasoulmatepartner in the firstdaysandweeks.Itprovesthatdistance,timeandspaceareanillusiontothesoul,tolove.Itprovesthatmanandwomanarenotlimitedtomakinglovewith just theirphysicalbodiesandare free,multidimensionalandpotentiallyinfinitebeings.Sexual energy flows freely throughout the cosmos, andwhen oneexperiencesmaking love in the light body, awhole new realm ofpossibilitiesopenup.4.THEWOMBOnce the womb has been healed through the opening of the 7Gates,82 lovemaking enters a whole new sphere. Divine Lovebecomesmoreavailableandthetouchingofsouls togetheroccursinaprofoundway.Onestarts tomake love inadifferentwayandwithadifferentpurpose:togointothewombfortheman,andforthewomantoinviteandwelcomethemanintoherwomb.Themanbecomesswallowedintheinfinite,andsurrenderstothisdrawinginward into the infinite, back to the source of life and originalinnocence.Hebecomeslostandbothpartnersenteramuchvasterbliss,aninfinitespace.Bothpartners,whilstintheopenedwombspace,passouttogetherwithinitsinfinitereaches.Muchofwhatyouhaveeverknownhastogointhissweetinnocencemergedwithpassion,andnoneofthepastcanbepresentinthis.Theoldtriedandtestedwaysofmakinglove are abandoned, as something new is touched that has neverbeen touched before. This touch creates life and vitality in apreviouslydormantcave,andonerealizesonehasnevertrulyfeltsexualityinlovebeforethismoment,despitethesexualadventuresyoumayhaveexperienced.Thistouchmaybepainfulatfirst,asthewombs virginity is now being revealed and opened. Lovemakingchangesforever.

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5.YABYUMYabYum is a journey between two souls that brings together allyourmutualsexualenergiesineverychakra,allyourmutuallovinghuman attractions you feel with each other, and merges themtogetherwithDivineLoveandMotherandFatherGod.In neo Tantric circles, the deeper aspects of the souls love andDivineLovehavebeen leftout,whichare theactualengineof thesouls journey itself!Leaving theseaspectsoutmeans that there isnomerging,andthereisahumanloveonly,withthedivineleftout.The othermain fallacy is thatTantra is about both soulsmergingtogether.No.TantraisabouteachindividualsoulmergingwithGoditself. The other partner is a loving support for that, but it is notabouttheotherpartner.ItisaboutyouandGod,firstandforemost.BothsoulscanonlymergetogetherasOnePerfectSoulafterbothsoulhalveshavefirstmergedintoGod.Love iswhatheals anything and everything.All healing is neededbecausethereisafeltlackoflovesomewherewithinyou.Allsexualhealingarisesbecausethereislovemissing,abandoned,misplaced,cheaplygivenaway,abused,mis‐educated,hiddenor leftoutfromthatpartofoursexualsoulexpression.Loveistheprimeexpressionofthesoul,thelanguageofyearninginhow we commune with God and receive Divine Love. To bringhuman love from your soul, and Divine Love from Mother andFather God into the sexual act is one of the most powerfultransformations and healings we can experience. And this isamplifiedbyyourpartneralsodoingthesame,sothereisameetingof both souls in God. In this Way, no part of the human soul orexperienceisleftout.Allisincluded.This iswhy this formofTantra,which I callBelovedTantra, is sopotent.Yabyumispartofthis,anditsbringinginofGodtheMotherthroughtherootandheartchakras,andbringingintheenergiesofFatherGodthroughthecrownandheartchakras,makesthehumanbeing the vessel of these energies, the conduit, the medium and

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transparentpathwayfortheseenergiestomeetandmergethroughthehumansoul.AsTibetanMasterNamkhaiNorbushares:"Many tantric divinities are represented as being in union withconsorts, and these forms are known as 'yab­yum' (father­mother)forms.They symbolize the union of the 'solar' and 'lunar' energies,thetwopolesofsubtleenergythatflowinthesubtleenergysystemofthe human body, called the 'Inner Mandala'. When negative andpositivecircuitsarejoinedinalightningcircuit,alampcanbelit.”83Yabyum is the highest of all sacred sexual practices, the sacredmarriageorhierosgamos,movements,breathsandprayersmergingsex, soul and God together. It is through Yabyum with an open,invitingwombthatbothmanandwomancan fullyhealandcomeclosertoGod.The soul gets touched in new and ancient places in this journey.Yabyum done in this way, in intimacy, in love, collects andcoagulates the disparate streams and fragments of the shadow.Much that is unresolved that needs the healing touch of bothhumanloveandDivineLovewithsexualenergycanbedeeplyfelt,and healed. This vastly accelerates the healing process – whatneededhealingformanyyearscanbedonein26days.6.BELOVEDGODPart of our original innocence is sexuality.We all have to do oursexual healing, and in the world there are many ways to do thebeginning steps. And once you have done all that, then you canmoveintothewomb,andtheopeningofthegatesfortheman,theconsecrationoftheLingamsothatthelingambecomessacred.Sacred union is where both partners are focused on God. In thejourneyofuniting sexuality toDivineLove,muchgetshealedandyour soul becomes fully embodied. It is not complicated, but all

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yourcausalwoundswillariseand theywillarisemuch fasterandmoredirectly.PRAYERANDMAKINGLOVEAREAROCKETSHIPTOGOD!WhenImake love with my partner, I pray many times during and aftermaking love, and I can receive vast quantities ofDivine Love, notjustinmyheart,butinmythymus,myhara,andmyspine.IthasadifferentqualitytoitthanreceivingDivineLovesolelythroughsoloprayer,asthewholebodyandofcoursethesexualenergyarefullyinvolved, active and open, so the Divine Love can flow in morestronglyand intomoreplaces. Inmaking love, theenergycircuits,chakras,spiritbodyandnervoussystemaremoreopenandintheprocess of movement, so this too affects the intensity of thereceivingofDivineLovetoo.In this receiving, I become bathed in bliss and soaked in DivineLove. I enter stateswhere I am no longer 'my' human soul butreceive glimpses of a more perfected human soul.And of coursethiscanbringupthingsforhealingandregularlydoes.How can I describe it? The soul that I Am was deleted,gone,finished,nomore. Justnot thereat all and itwas like ithadneverbeen there. What was there instead was a pristine, pure,perfect soul,without sin,without error,without anything at all infact.Justbliss,love,silence.SometimesIplacemypartner’shandonthedifferentpartsofmybodythatarereceivingDivineLove.Thesepartsarephysicallymoving,shaking,contractingandexpandingasIprayandreceiveGod’sLove.IwanthertoreceiveDivineLovetoothroughtransference,andthistoocanhappen.MoreandmoreDivineLovepoursinuntilIcanliterallynolongertakeit.Italmostbecomestoomuch!Thenextday, thephysicalbodycanbeabit shattered, so I find itimportanttobemassagedandfedbacktohealthagain.BecausesomuchDivineLovecomesintothesoul,sexandbody,deephealingscanarise.Lovebringsupeverythingitisnot,andhumblesoneevenfurther.

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ThankyouFather, forall thewaysinwhichYouWork,andall thewaysyoushowushowYouWantustoenjoyYourLove.Sexualityisone of theseWays, and is a fastway toGod.This form ofmakinglove is a 1000% boost to your healing process. Itis incrediblymoving, soul stirring, blissful beyond any words andbrings yoursoulfasttodeeperhealing.Thekeys are that bothpartners are on theDivineLovepath, andoneof them has a direct connection, dependence on, andrelationshiptoGod.Ifyoucan,DOIT!Itwillchangeyoursoulfast.

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THESACREDLINGAMThe lingammuscle runs all theway from the tip of the lingam toburyitselfdeepintotheprostatemuscleintheanus.Itisacurvingmusclethatconnectsallthefourgatesofthemalelingamtogetherin one smooth, fluidmotion. A healed lingam is supple, open andattunedtotheheartoftheman.Itisaninstrumentoflovethatbothgives love and can receive it from the divine and from the givingyoniandwomb.Activating the Male Gates is a deep honouring of the masculinefrom both the man and the woman, that then prepares the manANDthewomantoenter intosacred lovemaking.Similarly,as theman serves to open up his female partner’s Gates,84 so he too ispreparedinadifferentway.Bothpartnersserveeachothertoopenupbothsetsofgates,andinsodoingtheyareservingthemselvesaswell.Once done properly, themanwill be consecrated into having thefeeling tomake loveandnothavesex.Sexalone isviolent, love isnot.Thedivinitywithinthemanandhislingamcanreawaken,andhis soul will be behind his movements, feelings and beingnesswhilstmakinglove.Thesoulwithinthelingamhasbeenforgottenbymostpeopleasitholdsakeytoloveandtheactivatingandhealingofthewomb.Thisiswhy the lingamhasbeen called a ‘wandof light,’ as there is anactualshaftorpillarof light lyingwithin itsspiritbodyorpsychicflesh, which can activate and bring a woman into her womb,creating a hormonal cascade of love. Such awomb activator of aman is rare,butwillbecomemorecommon if the fullpotentialofsacredrelationshipsaretoberealizedandembodied.Ofcourse,allthegatescanonlyopeninhonourandunconditionalloving giving from the heart‐soul in pure devotion. Much of the

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wisdomandwaystohealandloveawoman’sfirst4Gatesandtheman’sfirst4Gatesaresimilar.Intheactivationofthelingam’sinnateintelligenceandsoulfeelingconnection, both partners focus and attention is placed on thelingam,thesoulandDivineLove.Thelingambecomestheobjectofyour partner’s total loving attention and adoration in body, heartandsoul.TreatitasifitwereGod’sLingam.This healing and activation is a union of prayer, sexual energy,human love, reverence and Divine Love. Breath and sound help toactivate and move these energies deeper into the roots of thesexual force lying deepwithin the sacred lingam. Thewoman toofeelsherownlovedeepen,andreceivesgreaterloveinthisgiving.As thishappens,wemakeslow love, enjoyinggivingandreceivinginmutualpleasure,feelingthedifferentwaystosharelovewithoutneed in mutual honouring. Breath as movement rather than justphysical movement aligns both partners to the subtleties ofstillness. Pleasure and bliss, loving communion and surrender tothe flowof loving life force throughbothbodiesandsoulsare theways inwhich the sacred,healed lingamcanbe theopenerof thewaytoloveforbothpartners.TheseparationofGodfromsexinthereligionsandinmainstreamsocietyaffectsalmosteveryhumanbeing.Humanlovebetweentwopeople most of us can understand in the act of making love. ButGod?TheonewepraytoandwhoshowersuswithDivineLoveandgratitude, theOnewecome from?OurCreator?Howcanwehavesexwiththat?Isn’t that…wrongsomehow?Does itnot feel… ‘off’andweird?ItcanbechallengingtoacceptandreallyfeelthatGodispartofandwithinoursexuality,andwecantreatandconnectalingamoryonito Him. This is because we have been culturally and geneticallyprogrammed to believe and ‘feel’ that God and sex together isblasphemousandsacrilegious.And thisdisconnectionandgenetictampering has affected the culture we live in by the values thathave been passed down to us throughout the generations. This

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geneticprogramminghasbeeninsidious,andhasaffectedsomanygenerations of humans that it has almost become accepted as thenorm.Underneaththisveiling,penetratedbytheuseoflovingandsacreddesire forGodasBeloved, liesourbirthright.Godalso lives inthebedroom!Godcanbeconnectedtothroughourlingam’s,yoni’sandwombsoncewecanaccept this, feeling the tabooof itand feelingwhateveremotionsarise.InvolvingGod intheactofmaking love isourbirthright,andwithourhumanloveandemotionhookeduptotheengineanddesireofsexualpower,wecanbuildabridgetoGod.Theunionofsex,soul,humanloveandDivineLoveholdssomeofourgreatestpowerandpotentialtoembodyGod.

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WAYSTOOPENANDHEALTHEMALEGATESTHEFIRSTGATE:THEPROSTATE:TheSacredSpotActivatedthroughMassage,Trust,Appreciation,Safety,HonourStart bymaking sure the anus is clean. Have a shower. Then, getcomfortable with pillows and a towel underneath the bottom ofyourman. Be facing him,with your face near his lingam, becausethismassage is best donewhilst the female partner gently holds,kissesandstrokesthelingam.But first, startwith amassage of the lower belly, upper legs, andwhole bottom. Gently release the tension, with gentle but everdeeperstrokesintothecheekswithsomeoil.Then,allowtheoiltogently drop into the anus, and start to softly massage the anusopeninginsensualcircles.Theanuswillslowlyrelaxandopen,andas itdoes,one fingercangentlyslide in,almostbedrawn in,withminimaleffort.Continuetobreathe.Now,gentlycurlthefingersoit isstrokingtheglandinthere.Youwill feel it. It is like a beckoningmotion, like, ‘come here.’ Strokeandkisshislingamatthesametime.Feelitall.Whatemotionsariseinthis?If it is done in loving softness, openings, deep physical andemotional relaxation and healings can occur. Reconnections,healings of childhood traumas, anger and pain releasing,reclamation of sexual power, freedom from self‐judgment andtaboos,andpleasurecanarise.Theabilitytomake lovefor longerperiodsoftimecanalsoincrease.Loveisthewholeofthelaw.THESECONDGATETHEPERINEUM:TheOpeningActivatedthroughTouch,Trust,Gratitude,HonourMidway between the testicles and anus lies a small indentation,thatwhenpushedoncangoupintothebodyuptohalfaninch.Be

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gentleandpush inwarda littleata time.Hewill feel thepressuredeepinside,anditmaybeuncomfortableatfirst.Eventually,asthisarea is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand hisorgasmsandmasterejaculatorycontrol.Trypushinginonthisspotwhenhenearsejaculation.YoucanmassagehisLingamwithyourrighthandandmassagehisSacred Spot with your left hand. The man may have strongemotionscomeupduringaccesstotheSacredSpot.Beabestfriendandhealerinthismoment.Youarecreatingaplaceoftrust,safetyandintimacy.LINGAMSHAFT:TheWandofLightActivatedthroughLingamMassage,LingamGazing,Gratitude,LoveLINGAMGAZINGLingamgazingrequiressacredintentonbehalfofbothpartnerstobevulnerable,open,andhonestwiththeir feelings.Bothpartners,relax,andtakea fewdeepbreaths.Haveyourman lieonhisbackwithpillowsunderhisheadsohecanlookupatyou.Placeapillowunder his hips. His legs are spread apart, knees slightly bent(pillowsorcushionsunderthekneeswillalsohelp)andhislingamclearlyexposed.Both settle into your heart gently. The woman makes herselfcomfortable, lies inbetweenhis legs,and looksathis lingamwithrelaxed focus. Both partners breathe and settle into silence for atleast 5 minutes, to allow feelings to arise without mentaldisturbance.As the lingam gazing continues, all kinds of feelings can arise. Atsomepoint, thewomanincreasesthe intensityofher focusonthelingam.Playwiththis,varytheintensity,andseewhathappens!Lingamgazingcantakebothpartnersintoastateofmeditationandtrust,andmaybringthemanintomanydifferent feelings,suchasinsecurity, shame, embarrassment, unworthiness, memories ofabuse, and eventually into the feeling of being adored and feelingthehealing thatarises frombeingable toreceive thisenergy.The

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urge to giggle may arise, which is fine, as it a release of energyhiddenbehindembarrassmentandshame. Just trynottouse itasanexcusetostopgoingdeeper.Remember to keep breathing and allow the feelings to arise forboth of you. Many things can happen! This is also healing andinsightful for the woman. It enables her to honour the sacredmasculine and also feelmany of the judgments she has ever heldaboutthemasculineandsexualityingeneral.Just allow it all and commune and express your experience witheachother.Lingamgazingcanlastfor30‐45minutes.Ifyoutreatitasasacredhealing, this itwillbecome. Itcanthen lead into thewoman kissing the lingam whilst both partners are still in thisvulnerable state, which is a beautiful opening and lovingexperience.Asonewomanexperienced, in this spirit: ‘For the first time, I canseeaman’slingamnotasasextool.Ithasnothingtodowithsexorlust.Iseethelingamwithmyheart,andIfeelimmediatelymyheartopeningforhim.Withtheopeningofmyheart, Ialso feelmywomband yoni responding, expanding and longing.I feel so much tendercare, drinking him inwithmy eyes, holding him gently inmy gaze,fullyexploring.IfeelIwanttoknowhimineveryway.Ifeelsomuchlove from my heart and womb flowing out of me, directed to thisbeautiful lingam in front of my eyes. I feel respect, admiration,tenderness, longingtoopenmyselfcompletelytoreceivehimtotally,inallways.Ashesoftlymovesundermylovingfocusedgaze,Ifeelmyheart and womb expanding with more love… feeling so muchgratitude…’LINGAMMASSAGEGATES2and3Lingammassagehelps toopenandheal thegateof theperineum,thegateinbetweenthetesticles,andthemanynerveendingsandacupuncturepointsontheLingamthatcorrespondtootherpartsofthe body and energy systems. Many ailments may be cured by a

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goodLingammassage.Lingammassageisalsodeeplypleasurable,andwhenalliedwithloveandgratitudebecomesdeeplyhealing.Haveyourmanlieonhisbackwithpillowsunderhisheadsohecanlookupatyou.Placeapillow, coveredwitha towel,underhiships.His legs are spread apart, knees slightly bent (pillows or cushionsunderthekneeswillalsohelp)andhislingamclearlyexposedforthemassage.Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing.Gently stroke the legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples to get yourman to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sinkdeeperintorelaxation.PourasmallquantityofoilontheshaftoftheLingamandtesticles.Begingentlymassagingthetesticles,takingcaretonotcausepaininthis sensitive area.Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax.Massagethe2ndgate,deepinbetweenthetesticles.MassagetheareaabovetheLingam,onthepubicbone.Massagetheperineum,theareabetweenthetesticlesandanus.Take timewhenmassaging the shaft of theLingam.Vary the speedandpressure.GentlysqueezetheLingamatthebasewithyourrighthand,pullupand slideoff, thenalternatewithyour lefthand.Takeyourtimedoingthis,right,left,right,left.Then,changethedirectionbystartingthesqueezeattheheadoftheLingam and then sliding down and off. Again, alternate with rightandlefthands.MassagetheheadoftheLingamasifyouareusinganorangejuicer.Massageallaroundtheheadandshaft.Thisisthetechnique.The energy generated from the massage can be channeled withprayer to bring Divine Love into the lingam. Both partners canchoose a prayer and thewoman canbeprayingwhilstmassagingthelingam.

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Thewomancanalsobringinherhumanlovefeelingsforhermaninto themassage – gratitude, love and appreciation. Shower it onyourman.Shineyourlovethroughyourheartintoyourarms,downintoyourhandsandontohislingam.Shineyourlovethroughyoureyes into his as you look at him. He is the Sacred Man, and alldivinity within all men are available through him now. How willyoutreatthemasculinepartofGod?TheLingammayormaynotgosoftasyoudothelingammassage.Donotworry if it doesnot gethardagain.Youwillprobably findthatitwillgethard,thengosoft,gethardagain,likeridingawave,bobbingupanddown.Hardnessandsoftnessare twoendsof thepleasurespectrum.If itappearsthatyourmanisgoingtoejaculate,backoff,allowingtheLingamtosoftena littlebeforeresumingthemassage.Do thisseveraltimes,comingclosetoejaculation,andthenbackingoff.Itisimportanttorememberthatthegoalisnotorgasm.Mencanlearnthe art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close toejaculationandthenbackingoffonthestimulation.Deepbreathingsoftenstheurgetoejaculate.The female gates are talked about in great depth and detail in thebookThePowerofShakti.

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TheLawoftheMirroristheultimateexpressionandpinnacleofself‐responsibility.Itstates:Everythingisme.AllIjudgeinothers,intheworld,inmyrelationships,isme.IamreflectingsomepartofmyselfwhereverIgo.Inthisliesanopeningtogreathumility,acceptanceandself‐love.Itis a constant teaching, so simple.Try it today – seewhat you feelandlearn.The charges, opinions and feelings you have about your partner,others, the world, governments, cultures, traditions etc, reflect apartofyouthatisstillnothealed,stillnotbeenaccepted,embracedandloved.Allhealingdoesisallowloveintothosepartsofyouthathave denied, isolated, turned away from, shut out, abandoned,betrayed, separated, judged and scared of intimacy andvulnerability.Itisneverjustaboutanyoneelse.Ifthereisachargethere,thereissomethingthereforyou,evenifitisnotobviousatfirst.Digalittledeeper, and you will see that your judgments, your pains, arepointing at something deep within you. You may try to make itabout others, but it is your lesson, even if the other is ‘clearly’deluded, angry or ‘wrong.’ If you are not in loving peace, there isyourtrigger.Youdonotevenneedtohelptheotherperson–this toocanbeadiversionarytactic.Thegreatestthingyoucandoisfeelyourowntrigger and see what dirt is obscuring your mirror, internally,within you, until the mirror is clear, in love, acceptance andhumility.Andtheotherwillfeelthat.Andwhenthemirrorisclear,you will no longer attract these triggers; there will be no morereflectionslikethis.Youwalkthroughtheworldinpeaceandgrace,sublimeandfriendlywithallbeings,treatingthemastheywishtobe treatedwithout thought or plan, and all is given through yourtransparentvessel.Christsaid:‘Donotpointouttheloginanother’seyeuntilyouremovethespeckinyourown.’

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‘Lethewhohasnotsinnedcastthefirststone.’To not acceptmyself as God has createdme, is to judge not onlymyselfbutHim.I desire to fully embrace what God created in His wisdom,that Ijudgeinmyignorance.85Onceyouacceptanythingfully,nomatterhowcrazyorabsurditseems,nomatterifithurts,especiallyifithurts,orifitisaboutsomeoneelse,inyourownheart,intotalfaithandtrust,thenyouarefreeofitwhilststillacceptingitatthesametime.Acceptanceistheultimateinitiation.TheMirror is theretobringaboutself‐love,possibleonly throughhumility. Self‐love in its highest form is loving your soul as Godloves you. It is only your wounds, and your identification withthem, thatpreventsyou fromtreatingothersasyouwould like tobetreated.Ifyouwishtoharmothersinanyway,orhaveachargeagainst anyone on any level, it is because you are still harmingyourself on some level. If you are in pain, what you will give tootherswillalsobepain,insomeform.Saythefollowingstatementsoutaloud.Whatdoyoufeelabouteachone?How can you apply them to practical situations in your life rightnow?Whatdoyourecognizeaboutyourselfandyouractionsfromthem?ItreatothersasIwouldlikemyselftobetreatedIdotootherswhatIwouldhavethemdotomeWhicheverwayItreatothersishowIamreallytreatingmyself.

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DoforotherswhatyoudoforyourselfIfIdonotlovemyselfIwillnottrulyloveothersIfmyownselfisinpain,Iwillenduphurtingothers.Ilookatthedistortioninmyselfbeforepointingitoutinanother,asmy brother ismymirror. Let hewho has embraced and forgiventhaterrorwithinhimself,andisnowcompassionateabout it,helpotherstoseeitwithinthemselvesinthisspirit.EverythingismymirroruntilIamemptiedoutofmywounds,andfullofpeace.Everythinginmyliferightnowisme.IthasbeencreatedformebymeandGod,who lovesmesomuch that thiswholeuniversewascreated forme to experience love andall I choose that tobe, andnottobe.What I need from another is what I am unwilling to feel withinmyselfInowchoosetogivethatwhichImostneed.Whenever I cannot treatmyselforothers theway thatGod treatsme, then I know Ihaveanemotional error and falsedesire aboutLovetorelease.The 17th‐century surgeon Wilhelm Hilden had an interestingtheory about healing. He developed a medicinal salve that heapplied not to the wound itself but rather to the weapon thatinflicted it. Hilden's approach has great potential if used for oursoul wounds. Jesus understood this when he articulated the(r)evolutionary formula, "Loveyourenemy."More thananyotheraction,thisstrategyhasthepowertocureyouofthedistortionsyourenemyhasunleashedinyou.Tryitout.86When you are living in the Matrix, you are in fear, which is aconstriction.Everything tightensup,everythingcloses in, and this

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becomes a normal way of behaving and conforming to theserestrictions.Asmammals,we adapt and conform.And then it canfeellikearelieftobeangryorprojectoutwards,tovent,toletoutthisrestrictioninviolent,sexualoraddictiveways,todrinkortakedrugs,becausenohumanbeinglikestobeconstricted.Weallwanttobefreeofrestriction,butsometimeswejustdonotknowhoworwhywe are restricted. So,we look for awayout andmost of thetimewelookfortheeasiestwayout.The way out of this trap is to be vulnerable, and the way to bevulnerable is to be humble, which leads to expression, total self‐responsibility,anditslogicalconclusion.Takingthisthewholeway,say,“ThereissomethingaboutmethatisbeingreflectedtomeinallIsee and all my relationships.” Even if you think it is not. “Thiscouldn’tpossiblybeme,thatistheirstuff.”UntilyourmirroriscleanandyouareoutoftheMatrix,thislawstands.Anytime you feel pain it is because you are violating love andDivinelaws.Painisasignalfromyoursoulthatyouarefeelingyourerrors andmistakes againstDivine Laws of Love. Then of course,youmaychooseto,outofyourdeepdesireforGodandDivineLove,tofeelalltheviolationsofloveandDivinelawsthatyouhavedonein the past as well, for they are still with you in your soul. Thismakesyoumorehumble.Of course, asking to feel all the pain youhave given and receivedcomesdowntoyourdeepdesire.Itgetsreleasedthroughthetearsof sweet sorrow. It is sweet because you are coming closer toDivineLove, and it is sadbecause it is painful. In feeling thepainyou are releasing your soul, that iswhy it is sweet and it can bebeautifully devastating in the samemoment, crying and laughing,sadandjoyful,hilariousandridiculous.So, as we come into this feeling, we start to really feel thisfundamental split between Divine Love and Truth and our self‐created loveandtruth(this is ‘my’ truth,what is ‘your’ truth, thatkindofthing).Asweviscerallystarttofeelthis,thenwecanfeeladeepimplosionandgrief. Inthatimplosionwebecomeevenmore

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humbleandthenmoredesireforGodhappens.Thedesiredeepensbecauseabiggatehasopened.Thendesire forGodbecomesTHEmost important thing.Westarttorealiseourneeds,ouronetrueneedforGod,whichonlyGodcanfulfill,andallthesubstitutesweuseforthis.WerealiseandchooseGodonamuchdeeperlevel.Thenarisesourguilt,ourlackandourhole. We start to realise the terrible, sickening reality we havecreated‐howtwisteditreallyis‐howignorantwehavebeen.Andaswecome into feeling theshameandunworthiness,wecanfinallyreleasethem.Deepdownyouthinkyouareluckytogetonescrapofanythinggoodbecauseyouarenotworthy.Deepdownyoufeelreallybad.Youfeelyouhavedonesuchhorriblethings.Thereisadeepshamewaitingtobereallyfelt,butyouaregoingtoneedthehelpofGodtodothat.Mostofyourlifehasbeenspentrunningaroundintheeffectsofthisdeepshame.Soyoucouldneverreallyloveyourselfandyounever feltworthyofreceiving thegreatnessofDivineLovebecauseyouaresobad,youdonotdeserveit.Whywouldsomeoneasmessedupasyoudeservesomethingsogreatisthesubconsciousscript?Feelingthisisagoodsign,andalsogoodtoreleaseandletgoof,forithasbeenunderneaththesurfaceALLTHETIME,dominatingyourlife like an underground river, informing your life, your choices,your relationships, yourhappinessandyourabundance.Andnowthey are being seen. Breathe into them powerfully, and releasethem. They no longer need to be there. It is not how God hascreatedyou.In this releasing, our desire to know and follow Divine lawsbecomesdeeper.Even ifwe loseeverythingandgetpersecuted itbecomesTHEmostimportantthing.Evenifwehavetodie.Andthisallhasdifferentcycles,differentlayers.Soyoumaythink,“Ohyes,Ifeltmany of those, aren’t I great, how evolved I am,” and then youwillgobackintoitalloveragain,untilanotherlayergoes,untilyouarefullylivinginthehumility,desireandchoicetobedependentonGod. That iswhen thepain ends.And yet, there ismore learning,moredesiretocome,butthepainendsatthispoint.

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Itisfeelingthecausesthatwillliberateyoursoul.Whenyoucomeoutoffullyfeelingandhealingacausalwoundyouwillfeelit.Youwill feelmore love.Youwill feelmorehumility.Youwill feeldeeppeace.Yourmindwillquietendownandmaybebecomecompletelystill.Yourmindwillbecomefulloflight,averygentlelightoflove.Youwill feel like this fora fewdaysand itwillbewonderful, andthenyouwillgointoanotherwoundandthenthecyclewillstartallover again, but itwill get fasterbecause youwill be connected tomore Divine Love. That will accelerate your transformation. It isimportantinthosedaysordaywhenyouhavehealedandfullyfeltacausalwoundthatyoukeeppraying,thatyoudonotstop.Ofcourseit isyourchoice,but it is likebeingonaracecourseandthenstopping.Youare justpostponing thehealingofyoursoul. IfyouwantGod,itisimportanttokeepprayingtrueprayers,prayersthat help you feel and dismantle your veils and wounds, prayersthatareoftruth.SowhoisscaredofbeingdependentonGod?Putyourhandsup.Whoisscaredoffeelingcompletelypowerless?You cannotpractice these things.This isnot ameditationyoudo.This is something you live. This is a way of life. Yes, you willdefinitelyfeelthingsinyourprayers,butthenlateron,inthedayoratnight,thingswillhappen.Itisgoingtobehappeningallthetimeatsomepoint.Youwon’thaveanycontroloverit.So, youmay just bewalking along, and suddenly you start cryingandhavenoideawhy,andyoudonotneedtoknow.Youjustfeelitand cry and that is it. Thosewho really desireGodwill then givethat value and priority above anything else. So, you are sittinghavingdinnerwithyour ‘friends’, and feel somethingand just cryandfeelit.Theymaygetworried,ortryandbrushoffyourfeelings,butyou just feel them,express themandcryorwhatever.Oryoucould be in the middle of something so called ‘important’ or themiddleofhavingaconversation,andsuddenlyrealiseitisnotrightforyoursoultobethere,thatyouneedtofeelsomethingwithin,soyouexcuseyourselfandjustwalkout.

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These are the actions of somebodywho loves their soul andwhovaluesandhonourstheirsoulandGodaboveeverythingelse.Youdonotfeelobligedtodoanythingbecausethatisnotloving,thatisnotlove.“Ohsomeoneisinpain,Ihavegottohelpthem.”Whatisthat?YoudonothavetobeagoodSamaritan.Youdonothavetogoandcomfortsomeoneelsetostufftheirandyourownpaindown.No,themostlovingthingistoallowthemtobeinthatpain,foryouto be in your pain, to feel their emotion, for you to feel youremotion.Respectthesoul,nottrytostuff itdownbecauseofyourfear,becauseyouhavetotryandmakeitallbetter.Trueloveisactuallytheoppositeofwhatisperceivedintheworldtobelove.Mostthingsareinreverseinthisworld.Thatiswhyitisthe Law of theMirror. If you truly were to apply the Law of theMirror to everything you would very quickly establish arelationship with God, but you would be crying a lot. Often the‘nice”stuffisanillusionaswell.Likethemothertryingtostopherchild from feelinganypainbecause themother is scared,becauseshewantstocontrolheremotions.Sheisnotdoingitforthechild,sheisdoingitforherownreasons.When you are relating to people, whatever emotions are beingpresentedtoyouaresayingsomethingaboutyou,sothenyoufeelthat. Ask your self “What is it that I am trying to showmyself?”Sometimes the other person might be wrong, but that is not theproblem toworryaboutwhy someone isdoing somethingwrong,just feel why you are having such a bad reaction to the ‘wrong’thingthattheyaredoing.Itdoesnotmatterabouttheirreaction,itisallaboutyou.GodandLifeareconstantly trying to teachyou indirectly throughthisLawoftheMirror.AllthetimeLifeisgivingyouopportunitiesforyoutostep into.That iswhywecannotevenbeginto imagineGod’sloveforusbecauseitisCONSTANTLYoccurring,allthetime,every day.We just do notwant to see it;we are in projection ordenial.

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Feel the emotion then and there in the moment it happens. Theonly reason youwould not feel it is because you are ashamed toshowyourfeelings,becauseyouarenothumbleordesiringenoughtogettoGod,orpreoccupiedwithgettingtheapprovaloftheotherone.IfyoudesireGodenoughyoudonotcareaboutanythingelse.Lovehasnoshame. Itwilldoanything, itwilldoeverything.Beafoolforlove.Sobeinghumbleinthemoment,saytotheotherpersonwhatyouare feeling. You would say, “I am feeling sad because of mywound...” It has nothing to do with the other person. That is thegoldenrule;itisneverabouttheotherperson.Itisaboutyoursouldesiring to knowmore about itself and lovemore of itself to getclosertoGod.Thereisno“Youdidthistome!”Youhavetoeliminatethatkindofphrase fromyour language. Thephrase “Youaremakingme feel...likethis.”Assoonasyousaythatyouareavictim,youarebackintobeingathirteenyearoldaren’tyou?Sothisisaconstantteachingofthesoulthathappensallthetime,every day. If you are doing this all day, every day then you willevolvefastandyouwillbegintorealisethedepthofGod’sloveforyouandhowmuchGodactuallywantsyou.Becauseeverythinghasbeencreated foryou toget closer toGod.EVERYTHING.IthasbeencreatedforyoubecauseGodlovesyousomuch, you cannot begin to comprehend. Love is the greatestprotection.Goddoesloveyoubecauseheisgivingyoueverything.EverythinginmyliferightnowhasbeencreatedformebyGodtolearnaboutmyselfand togrow in love, toexperience loveandallthatIchoosetobeandallthatIchoosenottobe.WhatIneedfromanotheriswhatIammostunwillingtofeelwithinmyself.InowchoosetogivethatwhichImostneed.Loveyourenemy.

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Sowhatisthemostterrifyingbutmostvulnerablethingyoucouldthinktodo?In the Law of The Mirror, it is because you are judging andcondemningyourselfmuchof the time.Under thesurfaceyouareconstantly judging and condemning yourself, making yourselfsmall.Youareconstantlyputtingyourselfdown.Youareconstantlytelling yourself that you are wrong and bad, that you are betterthanothers,thatyouarelessthanothers.Soyoudonotwanttofeelthe scar,woundanduglinessof thatpartofyoursoul, and that iswhatyouarescaredofbeingexposedwithinyou.Itisalwaysreflectingtoyou.Thatiswhyitisfast.Thereisnowheretohide.Youcannotevenjustifyanythinganymore.Youcannotdenyoravoidanything.Youcannotminimiseanything.Youcannotjudgeanything.AllyoucandoisembraceEVERYTHING.Allyoucandoisforgive EVERYTHING. It is very direct. It will reveal the infinitenatureofGod’sloveforyou.Youareallgoingtohavetodosomecrazystufftobreakthecontrolofyourmind,butactuallyitisnotcrazy,itjustseemscrazytoyourmind.Butthatisallbecauseofyourcontrol.TheoppositeofthatisbeingCRAZYforlove.DivineLoveiscompletelyinsanetothemindandtocontrol.Itdoesnotmakeanysensebecauseitdoesnothaveanyshame.Itwilldoanything,andinfactisalwaysdoingthat.

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THEPRAYEROFLOVESMIRRORWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelsehastobekinderThenitisIthathastobekinderWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelsehastobemorecompassionateThenitisIthatneedstobemorecompassionateWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelsehastobestillThenitisIthatneedstobemorestillWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseisnotcontentThenitisIthatneedstobecontentedAndsharethiswiththemWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseisnotinnocentThenitisIthatneedstobeinnocenceitselfWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseisnotatpeaceThenitisIthatneedstobepeaceWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseisbeingproudThenitisIthatneedstobemorehumbleandfeelAndsharethiswiththemWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseisbeinglustfulThenitisIthatneedstobemorelovingWhenIfeelsomeoneelseisbeingfearfulThenitisIthatneedstobemorecourageousWhenIfeelsomeoneelseisjudgingmeoranotherThenitisIthatneedstobemoreacceptingWhenIfeelsomeoneelseisbeingignorantThenitisIthatneedstobewiseWhenIfeelIneedtobelovedbyanotherIneedtoloveandnurturemyself

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WhenIlovesomeonebecauseIamlonelyThenIneedtobealoneWhenIfeelselfishdesireIgivetheobjectofmydesireawayinthatmomentWhenIfeeltheneedtoclingontoanythingoranyoneThenIletgointhatmomentWhenIamrepulsedbysomethingIembraceitWhenIamindifferenttosomethingIallowittobepresentWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseneedstobemoreloyalIneedtobemoreloyaltotruthWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseneedstohavemorefaithThenIneedtobemorefaithfulAndsharethiswiththemWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseneedstohavemorepatienceThenIneedtohavemorepatienceAndsharethiswiththemWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseneedstobemorehonestThenIneedtobemorehonestwithmyselfAndsharethiswiththemWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelseneedstobemorededicatedItisIwhoneedstodedicatemyselfmoreAndsharethiswiththemWhenIfeelthatsomeoneelsedoesnotwantGodenoughItisIwhoneedstodesireGodmoreAndsharethiswiththemWhenIfeelthatpeopleneedtoloveandrecognisememore

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PURITYOnecriesawayallone’sillusionsand then receives something far better than what one desiredbeforetheillusionsbeganWeallhaveourareaswherewehavenotletlovein,andwealldesirethetouchofloveBeitself‐love,humanloveorDivineLoveintheseplacesLoveyourselfasGodlovesyou,LoveGodasGodlovesyouLoveothersasGodlovesthemRelaxintothisTreatyourselfasGodtreatsyou,TreatothersasyouwouldtreatyourselfHow to feel it all is the big thing for us. We have numbed,anaesthetized,cutoff, intellectualised,denied,justified,minimized,blamed,separated,projected,betrayed,judgedandabandonedourdeeper feelings, the language of the soul, the language of love, infavourofmanypaleimitations.God is a Soul – and our souls have been createdbyGod, inGod’simage.WearelikeGod,inimage.HowcanGodnotloveusdespitewhatwethink?WearebirthedfromGodonthemostessentiallevel,amuchmoreprimordial levelthanthebirthfromourhumanparents.ThebirthfromGodisthecomingintobeingofthesparkofyourpurehumansoulitself.Whenwereturnbackintothisstate,thissparkistotallycleansedandmadewhole,justasitwaswhenitwasfirstcreated–pristine and pure. Karma free human soul, still not divine, buthealedofhumanbondage.ThepurityofthisBeingisuntainted,uncorrupted,unmodified

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AndalwayshasbeenYouarebeyondallgrief,allbetrayal,allideaofseparationYouarepureBehindeachofthesethoughtsandfeelingsyouhavefelt,SomethinghadtobefeelingitWhatisthissomething?HereliesthespaceoftruthYouarenotpartofthewebofidentityYouarenotwhomyouthinkyouareWhatyouareliesbehindyourthoughtsandhurtfeelingsBut...wehavetofeelitallfirstHonourDivineTruthFeelwhatyouneedtofeelinitspureformjustasitis,justforwhatitisJustfeelittotally,onceandforallNomoredelayAlltorecognizeintheheartinjoyandsadness,inloveandgriefSlowly,slowlyyouhavegivenawayyourpurity,your loveforSelfandGodEroded by time and circumstance, need and want, amnesia andconditionsOtherspeoplesvalues,snatchedconversationsthatstuckwithyouGossipofthegarrulousTheworldwascreatedforyousoyoucanfeelandrecognizewhatopportunitiesineverypartofyourlifearehereforyouNOWtofeelandthenletgoofallyouridentitiesandmanyunfeltemotions,andto heal whatever arises in this letting go. Who wants to be anobody,fulloflove,truthandpeace?Ultimately,whenyougetdowntoyourfirstandlastwounding,theapparentseparationfromGod/Source/Existence/Allthatis,youwillrealizeandrecognize,deepwithinyourheart,thatitisonlythewounded self that feels thewounds in the firstplace.This isnotan

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intellectual knowing. It can be so joyful and hilarious, as well asdeeplysaddening.Abetrayalcanbefelt,ahugedisappointment.What is it thatchooses to feel this?What liesbehindthe thoughtsand feelings? What never changes despite these thoughts andfeelings? All these feelings and thoughts will change, every day,everyhour,everyminuteeven…butwhatliesbehindthechoicetoexperience these feelings?You can staywith this, and still feel allyoufeelaswell.Theredoesnothavetobeoneortheother.Itisonlythewoundedselfthatfeelsthewounds.TheTruth,wherethereisnoerror,isbehindthesethoughtsandfeelingsatalltimes.AT ALL TIMES, waiting for you to feel into it with heartfulawarenessthroughDivineLove.We may mourn our choice to think and feel separate; feel andgrieve it fully. Just feel it,become it totally. Itopens theheartandhumblesyou.Humilityisthedoorwaytoinfinity.Wecannotescapeanythingonatruejourney.Itisourheartsthatrecognizeandhaveto feel everythingwe need to feel. Ifwe leave this out, truthwillneverberecognizedandembodiedasalivinglove.TheTruthisinfinite,andalwayshasbeen.Untilthen,youarewhatyoufeel.UntilafeelinghasbeenexpressedandreleasedFULLYonalllevels,itremainstrapped,andsodoyou.Therearemorefeelings,manylayers.Asyoudivedeep,expressingandreleasingALLthe layersof trappedfeelings, theHeartrevealsitsInnocence.Apassionate,joyfulinnocence,engagedwithallthatis,humbletoallthatis,andinrecognitionofitsCreatorinloveanddesireforHim.From separation comes the deep feeling of lack, giving rise toyearningandseeking.Fromlackcomesneed,andamyriadofwaysto fill this need, such as food, sex, drugs, fame, power, glamour,attention, intention, religion, cults, family, children, relationships,careerandtheverynatureofspiritualseekingitself.Desiring to feel the lackandpainbehind theseneeds ishumblingandpainful,butasitfeelsthem,itletsgoofthisidentity,dropping

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away with all its attendant effects. Love raises its head, free ofidentityandownership.Freedomandinfinitybecomeglimpsed,althoughtheseparatedselfcanneverglimpse them,and theseparatedself canneverbecomefreeorunderstandreality,as that is impossible.Thisseparateselfor individual is likeanauthority,adictator incontrol. Itgivesyouthe intention and direction to apply control because it fears notbeing in control. In today’s world this is clearly reflected in theworldcrumblingroundus,andbypeople’s fromEgypt toTunisia,Libya, Bahrain and more rebelling against this dictatorshipimposed upon them by a separated self ‘ruler’ sitting on high,hiddenfromview.Naturetooisrebellingagainstsystemsofcontrolwithearthquakes,Tsunamisandmore.Allsystemsofcontrolarebasedonfearandpain,andtheseallfindtheirhome ineachandeveryoneofusandourreluctance to feelour pain, maintaining our own personal systems of control,theology, new age beliefs and terminology. In this story of anartificial reality, the difference is beingwilling to feel it all ratherthanintellectualiseitall.Onceallpersonalsoulwoundsandallsixcollectivecausalwoundsare seen, felt deeply, embraced and healed on every layer of thespiral, in your soul,DNA and spirit bodies, and embodied in yourclarified physical body, once all needs and substitutes for DivineLove are emptied out and filled with Divine Love in hopelesssurrender, dependence and attachment to God, once one has feltthematrixandthecreationoftheirownlawsanddesirestoliveinand embody Divine laws at all costs, one begins to embody thishealedHumanSoul.DesireandGracegohand inhand.Godtakesyourhandand leadsyouinyoursurrenderandbewilderingfaith.Yet,thisisbutanotherstep.Thisisstillnotthenewbirth,thetotaltransformationofyourfinitesoulintotheinfinite,intoanewtypeofCelestialbeing,madeinboth the imageandsubstanceofGod.This isourpotential,andwhatGoddesiresforusall.

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Thisiswherethisbookandallbooksend,andwhereonlyGodcanleadyoursoulinthesublimebeautyandwonderofDivineLoveinwordsinexpressibleandemotionsunknowabletothefinitehumansoul.MayGodBlessyou.

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