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InnerVoice Respect uniqueness Bhushan Kachru [email protected] I t is an irony that we meas- ure our success and happi- ness by comparing with what others have. This causes unhappiness and dissatisfaction. We tend to develop a mind-set of knowing ourselves based on what oth- ers are and how they view us. Thus we get caught between two worlds. The outer world is an out- come of our social comparisons, desires, social status and the outer world is slowly guiding the inner world. Paramahansa Nithyananda of Dhyanapttem says, “Whether it is beauty or intel- ligence, we are unique. It is only when we don’t respect our uniqueness that we start com- paring ourselves with others.” We don’t appreciate our own garden because we take it for granted. Each one of us carves a separate path to travel the life journey and convert our dreams into reality. Some are lucky to walk the journey fast while for some the journey may be tedious. The key ingredients of happiness lie in knowing ourselves and appreciating our life as it is. Some people compare their weaknesses with other’s strengths and look for approval from others. For instance, we feel good on buying a new flat and feel jealous when our neigh- bour buys a bigger flat. There is no end to compar- isons and often these are done without realising the total pic- ture. If others are richer, it may be because of their hard work, better education, sacrifices, and family background. The Bhagavad-Gita suggests that happiness and distress are part of our material life and keep coming and going. Be con- tended with what we have rather than what we don’t, prac- tice gratitude and appreciate self worth. A study found Olympic bronze medallists happier than silver medalists. The bronze medalists com- pared themselves with those who competed but won no medal, while the silver medal- ists compared themselves with gold medallists and felt unhap- py for losing the gold. And then haven't you heard, “He is richest who is happy with what he has”. THE KEY INGREDIENTS OF HAPPINESS LIE IN KNOWING OURSELVES AND APPRECIATING OUR LIFE AS IT IS

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04 | metro | HINDUSTAN T IMES, MUMBAIWEDNESDAY, JANUARY 13 , 2010

FAR SIGHTED Vision impaired Kenyan athlete to run marathon to help prevent avoidable blindness

InnerVoiceRespect uniquenessBhushan Kachru■ [email protected]

It is an irony that we meas-ure our success and happi-ness by comparing with

what others have.This causesunhappinessand

dissatisfaction. We tend todevelop amind-set of knowingourselves based on what oth-ers are and how they view us.Thus we get caught betweentwo worlds.The outer world is an out-

comeofour social comparisons,desires, social status and theouter world is slowly guidingthe inner world.Paramahansa Nithyananda

of Dhyanapttem says,“Whether it is beauty or intel-ligence,weareunique. It is onlywhen we don’t respect ouruniqueness that we start com-paring ourselves with others.”Wedon’t appreciate our own

garden because we take it forgranted. Each one of us carvesa separatepath to travel the lifejourney and convert ourdreams into reality.Some are lucky to walk the

journey fastwhile for some thejourney may be tedious. Thekey ingredients of happiness liein knowing ourselves andappreciating our life as it is.Some people compare their

weaknesses with other’sstrengths and look for approval

from others. For instance, wefeel good on buying a new flatand feel jealouswhenourneigh-bour buys a bigger flat.There is no end to compar-

isons and often these are donewithout realising the total pic-ture. If others are richer, itmaybe because of their hardwork,better education, sacrifices, andfamily background.TheBhagavad-Gita suggests

that happiness anddistress arepart of our material life andkeep comingandgoing.Be con-tended with what we haverather thanwhatwedon’t, prac-tice gratitude and appreciateself worth.A study found Olympic

bronzemedallists happier thansilver medalists.The bronze medalists com-

pared themselves with thosewho competed but won nomedal, while the silver medal-ists compared themselveswithgoldmedallists and felt unhap-py for losing the gold.And thenhaven't you heard,

“He is richestwho ishappywithwhat he has”.

THE KEY INGREDIENTSOF HAPPINESS LIE INKNOWING OURSELVESAND APPRECIATING OURLIFE AS IT IS

yourspaceREADER OF THE WEEK:A column with a picturebyline from an HT reader, ona topic announced before-hand.

THIS WEEK’S TOPIC:Fourteen people committedsuicide in the city in ninedays. What steps can we taketo stop this?

YOUR BEST AND WORSTMUMBAI MOMENTS:Your list of one thing you likedabout the city that week, andone thing you didn’t.

WANT TO BE HEARD?:[email protected]

Purva Mehra■ purva,[email protected]

MUMBAI: Joseph Kibunja, a car-penter employed in ruralKenya’s Kanjeru slums never-imagined a life outside Kenya,let alone one of greatness.In the last decade Kibunja

has seen parts of the globe hedidn’t know existed.Kibunja owes this privilege

to fellow Kenyan, HenryWanyoike, a visually impairedathlete and record settingmarathon runner currently inMumbai to run the halfmarathon at the StandardChartered Mumbai Marathonon January 17.The twohave beenboundby

a thread for 10 years, the termduring which Kibunja hasserved as Wanyoike’s trackguide. “I was scared andshocked when Henry offeredthat I run with him. I had noexperience. I started trainingand in about two years caughtupwith his pace,” saidKibunja.However,Wanyoikehis child-

hood friendhasdreamedof run-ning since he was 12. As a boyhewould run to school thatwasfive kilometres from his hut-ment.Butaminor stroke in 1995left Wanyoike (then 21) with adamagedopticnerve. “I becamea champion because of myblindness. It keptme rooted tomydream,” saidWanyoike,whowon his first gold medal in the5,000metre run at the SydneyParalympics in 2000.Afterhis sudden lossof vision

neither Wanyoike’s family norfriends knew how to supporthim. It was in rehab, sur-rounded by people with otherhandicaps thatWanyoike gath-ered the courage to pursue hisdream again.“The first five kilometres of

any marathon is the hardest,

because I have to get accus-tomed to the route. I couldn’thave done any of it withoutJoseph.There is power in part-nership,” said Wanyoike, whobagged the gold and broke the5,000metresand 10,000metresworld record at the 2004Athens Paralympics.WhileKinbunja’s senseshave

to be doubly alert for two peo-ple, he also relies on Henry tospur himon through the lengthof the run. “We have to keepmotivating each other. Therearemany times in the run thatour energies run low. Henry isvery patient and very deter-mined,” saidKibunja,who con-siders himself a championthanks to Henry.The duo has attended the

Mumbai Marathon six timesbefore and has set a target ofanhour and 20minutes for thisyear’s run. Wanyoike is on amission to complete as manymarathonsaspossible tobeableto raise $20 million for 20 mil-lion visually impaired people in20 cities across the globe.

Running for a cause

Bhavika Jain■[email protected]

MUMBAI: The suburban districtcollector’s office hasbeenwork-ing on identifying lakes andreservoirs in suburbs that canberestoredandusedasanalter-natewater source for the future.Over the last three years, 102

water bodies in the suburbshave been identified but mostof these are full of debris andhave encroachment aroundthem. After mapping and pho-tographing the city, among thefew lakes identified, 11 are inManori, nine in Kandivli, fourin Malad, seven in pahaadiGoregaon and four in Bandra.VishwasPatil, suburban col-

lector said: “Wehave identifiedthese lakes so that they can becleanedand restoredbefore thecoming monsoons. Water col-lected in these lakes canbeusedfor non-potable purpose.”

The Development PlanningAuthority (DPA), under the col-lector, has begun restorationwork on eight lakes: AshishCinema Talao in Chembur,Lotus Talao in Marve Road,ShantaramTalao inMalad (E),Shivaji Talao in Bhandup (W),Charai Talao in Chembur,Eksaar Talao in Borivli (W),Ghatla Talao in Trombay andGaneshVisarjaTalao inMulund.The cost of restoring one lakeis between Rs 50-80 lakh.Citizengroups and residents

havewelcomed the idea. “Oncea lake in our neighborhood is

restored,wewillhelp theauthor-ities tomaintain it,” saidNandiniSingh, a Mulund resident.More than 75 per cent of

water is used for non-potablepurposes. Water from theselakeswill helpminimise the useof fresh water for non-potablepurpose.One of the biggest lakes in

the city with an area of morethan one acre is near Juhu andfalls under the AirportAuthority of India (AAI). A let-ter from the collector’s officehas been sent to AAI seeking aNo-ObjectionCertificate for itsrestoration.Patil said they were talking

with Municipal CommissionerSwadheen Kshatriya for theBMC’s help so that the workcouldbecompletedbeforemon-soon.In the first phase of restora-

tion, the lakeswillundergoclean-ing, widening and de-silting.

W E A T H E R F O R E C A S T

ACROSS1Writer’s work published aftertide turns (5)4 Port: chap drinks a litre, reeling (3,6)9 Arranged page layout for nonglossyedition (9)10 Develop low, gruff sound (5)11 Times reporter’s additionalitem on English rural region (6)12 Great Dane, perhaps, ensnaredwith difficulty (8)14 Show how to speak in public? (4,5)16 Lover of Eastenders perhapssaid to be a cad (5)17 Cabs return to right place (5)19 Cows just entering marshy areas (9)21Women finally admitted to trendy,cultured get-together (3,5)22 Description of teetotaller hooked bylarge amount of claret? (6)25 Exposed in public, defeatedleader is removed (5)26 Hoarding money acquired bycompany directors... (9)27 ...extremely charitable type isprone to giving half away (9)28 Artist releases his second single,a colossal one (5)

DOWN1 Film director flared angrily,having difficulty with leadingmale (6,9)2Most see alcoholic drink aspotential shot in the arm? (5)3 Under pressure to pass the ball

in important match (4-3)4 Reluctant to appearin underclothes (4)5 Vintage form of transport putnewfangled car in shade (5,5)6 Almost everyone scoffs noisily in thisforeign location (7)7 Still responsible for such silly talk? (9)8Mum’s precious saw (7,2,6)13Money-spinning idea firstly adoptedby academic board (10)15 Supporter welcoming team’snew fashion in US town (9)18 Caught in footwear that’s a disgrace(7)20 Fishy sort a politician’s hidingin shelter (7)23 Extended area of land withpaths? One might say so (5)24 Note pad (4)

ACROSS1 Offering landscape views (6)5 Remove lumps from (flour) (4)8 NZ flightless bird (4)9 Sad, regretful (8)10 Napoleon’s final defeat (8)11 Carry; betting system (4)12 Style of architecture (6)14 Songbird (6)16 Repulsive (4)18 Trigger for trap/bomb (8)20 Canadian province (8)21 (Of land) very dry (4)22 Unemployment benefit (4)23 Action not requiringconscious thought (6)

DOWN2 The Windy City (7)3 Inexperienced (5)4 Difficulty (12)5 US/Roman politician (7)6 Goethe’s two-part tragedy (5)7 From nowhere (3,2,4,3)13 Erratic, out of control (7)

15 Small pilchard (7)17 Fertiliser from seabirds (5)19 Quay for loading/unloading (5)

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Urvi Mahajani■ [email protected]

MUMBAI: Despite security con-cerns by theBharat PetroleumCorporation Limited (BPCL)refinery inMahul-Chembur, theBombay High Court hasrefused to stay the construc-tion of a 13-storey building —Mamatadeep Heights — com-ing up in its vicinity.The under-construction

building is 33meters away fromthe compoundwall of the refin-ery. There are nomulti-storiedbuildings around the BPCL,whichwas one of the initial tar-gets of 1993 bombers.ThedivisionbenchofActing

Chief Justice J.N. Patel andJusticeB.R.Gavai admitted theBPCL’s petition but refused togrant a stay on the construc-tion of Mamatadeep Heights.The HC has clarified that

although the developermay goon with the construction, itsfate will be subject to finalorders of the court.The tussle over the security

of BPCL started after the dif-ference of opinion of theMumbai police and theBrihanmumbai MunicipalCorporation (BMC).The police had opposed the

building’s construction nearBPCLciting security threats tothe refinery.However, the BMC had

shrugged it off saying, “Nothingis going tohappen,weare safe.”The BPCL approached the

high court in 2008.Dilip Sawant, DCP zone VI,

had filed an affidavit confirm-ing threat perceptions.The Ministry of Home

Affairs has listed the BPCLrefinery as ‘A’ category for thepurpose of adopting securitymeasures, states the petition.M.M. Vashi, counsel for the

developer, opposed thepetitionsaying that the BPCL couldapproach the government andget it declared as ‘NoDevelopment Zone’.

“The government hastermed it as residential zone,”said Vashi.

‘GIRL ADOPTEDBY U.S. COUPLEIS STILL INDIAN’HT Correspondent■ [email protected]

MUMBAI: Jennifer Haynes, the28-year-old who was adoptedby aUScouple in 1989 andwasdeported back in 2008, contin-ues to be an Indian citizen.Additional solicitor general

DariusKhambata informed theBombay High Court onTuesday that althoughHayneswas adopted by aUS couple in1989 she is still an Indian byvirtue of birth.Born in Mumbai on July 29,

1981,Hayneswas adoptedas aneight-year-old byUS nationalsEdward and Melissa Hancox,and flown to the US inNovember 1989. In 2008, theUS government deported herand her minor child allegingthat she was not a US citizenandwas staying there illegally.It was later learnt that heradoption procedure had notbeen completed in the US.Haynes’ advocate Pradeep

Havnursaidsomethingneedstobe done urgently as the womanisstatelessandcould faceactionfrom the Indian governmentsincesheceasedtobeIndiancit-izen after her adoption.“She is not stateless. By

virtue of birth in India, she con-tinues to be an Indian citizen,”said Khambata.Advocate for the Americans

for International Aid andAdoption and Clarice D’Souza,trustee of Kuan Yin CharityTrust, theAmericanandIndianagencythat facilitatedtheadop-tionsoughttimetofiletheirreply.A letter was sent by the

Ministry of Home Affairs stat-ing that theyhadnot issuedanytravel emergency documentsfor her deportation to India.After the deportation, she

approached the HC.HChas kept thematter for

hearing after three weeks.

Collector finds alternative water sources

Court refuses tostay constructionnear refinery

Twoworkers rob Juhu doctor of Rs 40 lakhHT Correspondent■ [email protected]

MUMBAI:Twoworkers robbedRs40 lakh from a doctor’s housein Juhu on Monday evening.According to the Juhupolice,

Dr Sarla Ramesh Desai (71), aresident of the AdhiyabaadEstate at AB Nayar Road wasnot at homewhen the two stole

the money.“The accused knew that

everymonth thecollection fromDesai’s clinic is brought to herhouse to deposit in the bank.OnMonday,Desai had broughtthe collection homeandkept inthe locker before leaving,” saida police inspector.Thedomestic helpshadbeen

working for Desai for five

months and were identified asJayanti and Dinesh, said thepolice.They saidDesai had not reg-

istered the two domestic helpswith thepolicenordid sheknowtheir last names and address-es.“The two took advantage of

Desai’s absence and robbed themoney,” said the police.

Desai returned home onMondayevening to findhercup-board open and the cash andher domestic helps missing.Desai then approached the

Juhu police and lodged a com-plaint. “Wehave registered thecase and sent two teams to dif-ferent places to search for theaccused,” saidDeepakKatkade,senior police inspector.

Flyingsafe

■A kite seller shows his collection as the city prepares for Makar Sankranti on Thursday.Reliance Infrastructure Limited has advised kite flyers to refrain from flying kites near thehigh-tension overhead power transmission lines as it may prove dangerous to life and property.

PRASAD GORI / HT PHOTO

■ Henry Wanyoike (centre) will participate in the Mumbai Marathon 2010 as the ambassador for“Seeing is Believing” — Standard Chartered’s global initiative for preventing avoidable blindness.

HEMANT PADALKAR / HT PHOTO

Susamma Kurian■ [email protected]

MUMBAI: The Rabodi policearrested a 19-year-old forallegedly rapingadomestichelpon Tuesday.Rakesh Ranade, a resident

of K-Villa in Rabodi, raped the21-year-olddivorceeonJanuary6. “I have been working as adomestic help for two-threemonths and stay with myemployer. The accused, wholived nearby, would follow meand pass lewd comments but Iwould ignore him,” she said.“On that night, Iwas return-

ing homewhenhe stoppedme.He said that someonewas lyingunconscious in a room at theK-Villa garden.When I accom-panied him to the room, therewas no one.He caught holdmyhandandcoveredmymouth.He

then forced himself upon me,”said the victim.The victim said he had

threatened her saying that hewould kill her if she told any-one. “Since he had threatenedher, the victimdidn’t come for-ward with a complaint. OnMonday, the accused threat-ened her again.We have regis-tered a case of rape and crim-inal intimidation againstRanade,” said police inspectorSopan Nighot.Ranade’s family alleged that

he is being framed by SeemaSaraf, for whom the victimworks.

“My son is innocent. Hefailed inhisS.S.Cexamlast year.Saraf isbehindall this.Hermar-ried son had raped my minordaughter last year. So, she justwants to take revenge,” saidRanjana Ranade (40).

19-year-old rapesdomestic help

HT Correspondent■ [email protected]

MUMBAI: Mayor ShraddhaJadhav has once again opposedthe one-day-a-week water cutfollowing the state’s assuranceto help the municipal corpora-tionwith additionalwater fromits dams if required.Jadhav, at a meeting at

Mayor’s bungalow on Tuesday,saidofficials couldgoaheadwiththepilot project on zoning in theeastern suburbs but imple-menting it would be needless.Sena Executive President

Uddhav Thackeray and civicchief Swadheen Kshatriyaattended the meeting.On Monday, Kshatriya had

metChief Secretary J.P. Dangeand asked the state to releaseadditional water from Bhatsa

and Upper Vaitarna dams.“If we get additional water

from dams, the civic officialsshould not stress on one-day-a-week water cut,” said Jadhav.

Solving crisis■ A meeting will be chaired bystate Water ResourcesMinister Ajit Pawar, city unitpresident of NCP NarendraVerma and BMC chiefSwadeen Kshatriya onWednesday to discuss thewater crisis in Mumbai.■ The agenda will be to find asolution to get additional watersupply from state-owned damsof Bhatsa and Upper Vaitarna,as demanded by BMC’s waterdepartment.

Mayor opposes water cut

I was scared and shockedwhen Henry offered that I

run with him.J O S E PH K I BUN JA

DISTRICT COLLECTOR’SOFFICE IS IDENTIFYINGLAKES AND RESERVOIRSTHAT CAN BE RESTOREDAND USED AS ALTERNA-TIVE WATER SOURCES