relations in islam

Sonia Sherefay

شرفايسونيا

I was born and grown up in Cairo, Egypt

Eritrea

Ethiopia

Italy

Oman

Sweden

www.sherefay.se 8/23/2013

I’m an adult teacher

Integration consultant

A writer

And my own parental educations program called The

children of our hurt “Barnen I VÅRA hjärtan!


The books will serve as a basis for discussion in the workshops

Swedish language for immigrants

And parental education program

Or at parent meetings in schools

Etc..

Books I wrote


I am the co-author of following books

Jag ska gifta mig med den jag vill!

(sid 55)

Du älskar ju din dotter! (sid 85)


Other about my work


The parental education program include:

A short introduction of the Swedish history

Democracy

Equality

Religion in a secular society

Fundamental values

How to raise children in Sweden, the “A children society”

Children rights

Women rights

Law against children abuse

The Swedish school system

And so on


Sweden as a multicultural country

Since more than three decades a large number of immigrants/refugees have

emigrated to Sweden.

We are approximately more than one million migrants/refugees

A lot of them are Muslims, not only from the MEA but also even from several

parts of the world

The Arabic language is the third large language in Sweden now

In Malmö, Rosengård live many Arab people, and Mohammed is the most

common name of neonates boys here

The most famous Swedish football player Zlatan Ibrahimovic is from

Rosengård as well.


Some of the problem and opportunity how

immigrant families have to handle with in

exile: Unknown number of illiterate people

Segregations issues

A large number of unemployed beyond the migrant/refugees

Students who finish secondary school without success

A large number of divorce between immigrants’ families

A large number of divorced mothers to a large number of children

Att DUA

Cultural crash

Etc.


Values, culture, religion and tradition!

www.sherefay.se

"Culture is the lens through which we view the world!“Ruth Benedict

8/23/2013

Law against children abuse

”AGA LAGEN”

1 JULI 1979

قانون عدم استعمال العنف

Fysisk misshandel

Psykisk

misshandel

Bristande omsorg


Collective in focus!

الجماعية

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8/23/2013

INDIVIDUAL SOCIETY


1 1= 3ازدواجية الثقافات!

Att pendla mellan två kulturer!

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The Swedish society and the Swedish people

Secular society

Avoid conflict

Like Nature

Environmental friendly

sort like all kinds of garbage separately


"We live and work in a women's land!"

Women

Children

pets

Men

EQUALITY?


The Law of Jante

Are ten rules state usually referred to as a homogeneous unit:

1. You're not to think you are anything special.

2. You're not to think you are as good as us.

3. You're not to think you are smarter than us.

4. You're not to convince yourself that you are better than us.

5. You're not to think you know more than us.

6. You're not to think you are more important than us.

7. You're not to think you are good at anything.

8. You're not to laugh at us.

9. You're not to think anyone cares about you.

10. You're not to think you can teach us anything.


“The people's home”

“Folkhemmet” is a political concept that played an important role in the

history of the Swedish Social Democratic Party

As well as FOR the Swedish welfare state.

A midway between capitalism and socialism.

The base of the “Folkhem”:

The whole society as a small and national family

Everybody must contributes


Is not so easy to be immigrant in Sweden without

understanding “WHAT IS DIFFERENT”!www.sherefay.se 8/23/2013

EMPATHY


ACCEPT

Disagree


Relations in Islam

August 21th 2013

Gregorian calendar

١٤٣٤شوال ١٥Hijri calendar


The Islamic calendar ”Hijri calendar”

The Islamic calendar is a lunar calendar of 12 months and 354 - 355 days a

year.


vid nymåneA month in the lunar calendar is 29-30 days: the time it takes for

the moon to rotate once around the earth!dagar

1. MUHARRAM

2. SAFAR

3. RABI AL-AWWAL

4. RABI AL-THANI

5. JUMADA AL-ULA

6. JUMADA AL THANI

7. RAJAB

8. SHAABAN

9. RAMADAN

10. SHAWWAL

11. DHU AL-QEEDA

12. DHU AL-HIJJAH


Islam

الإسلام

Islam is a monotheistic and Abrahamic religion since 1,434 years ago.

The 1th year of the Muslim calendar counts from the year Prophet Muhammad migrated from Mecca to Medina (in 622 e K.)

More than one and a half billion people around the world are Muslims.

Most of them live in the Middle East, India, Indonesia, Pakistan, Bangladesh, many countries in Africa, China and Eastern Europe.

Approximately 20-25 million Muslims live in Europe.


Children of Abraham

Islam is a religion that follows the Prophet Abraham’s learning, and is related

to Judaism and Christianity.

For Muslims people prophet Muhammad is the last in a long line of prophets

and the Quran is the Muslim holy book.

One who profess Islam are called Muslims, which means one who submits to

God.

Islam is now the second largest religion in the world.


Quran القرآن

The Quran is Islam's holy book and God's own words verbally revealed through angel

Gabriel (Jibril) to Muhammad, gradually over a period of approximately 23 years.

Prophet Muhammad was 40 years old.

The Quran was concluding on the year of prophet Muhammad’s death.

The Quran contains 114 chapters and 6,226 verses and includes 99,464 words.

Besides the Qur'an there is guidance and rules in the “ahadith”, tradition

collections.


Profhet ”Muhammad”

Was born in Mecca, Saudi Arabia, on 570 e Kr. He was illiterate and orphaned, and lived in a culture where there was an oral tradition.

At the age of 40 years old he was chosen by God as a prophet and Godrevelation, the Quran.

The Quran is considered to be the word of God.

Angel Gabriel, learned Prophet reciting Qurans' verses. These revelations came in short sequences over a long period.

Quran came in book form after Muhammad's death,.

According to Islam, it is forbidden to depict all prophets including Muhammad.


Who is a Muslim

Muslim is the one who confesses that there is one God, Allah, and that Muhammad is his messenger.

A Muslim believes in life after death, the day of judgment, the paradise and the hell.

A Muslim believes in all the prophets of God: Adam, Abraham, Moses, Jesus and others.

Jesus / Isa is an important prophet in Islam and is mentioned in several places in the Quran.

Even Mary/ Mariam is mentioned in the Quran


اهل الكتابPeople of the Holy Books

A Muslim believes in the three holy books:

The Old Testament

The New Testament and

The Quran


Sunni and shia muslims

80% of Muslims are sunni muslims.

Abu Bakr was a friend of the Prophet and father of his wife Aisha.

Ali was the prophet’s cousin and son-in-law.

Abu Bakr succeeded prophet Muhammad as a caliph after his death.

Ali did as the fourth caliph.

Islam splits to shia because Ali supposed to be the first caliph and not the

fourth.


(belief or

confession of

faith) (worship

in the

form of

prayer)

(fasting

during the

month of

Ramadan)

(alms or

charitable

giving)

(the

pilgrimage to

Mecca at

least once in

a lifetime)

Al shahada

Al salatAl sawm

Al zakat

Al hajj

”The five pillars of islam”(basic concepts and obligatory acts of worship)


Family relationships in Islam

Islam considers the family as the corner stone of Islamic society.

It bases the atmosphere in the family on sacrifice, love, loyalty, and

obedience.

The traditional definition of a Muslim "family“ means husband, wife and

children. Even grandparents are part of the extended Muslim family.


Husband-wife relationship

The following Quran’s verse portrays the right Islamic atmosphere for

husband- wife relationship:

"And among his signs is this: He created for you spouses from yourselves that

you might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy."

(30-21).


Prophet Muhammad said: “The best among you

are those who are best to their families and I am

the best of you to my family.”


Parent-children relationship

Once a man came to the Prophet Muhammad and asked: who is the person

who is most worthy of my good companionship?

The Prophet answered: “your mother, your mother, your mother then your

father.”


The Quran refers to parents-children

relationships in four main places

Before it asks children to be good and loyal to their parents it requires

parents to be extremely careful in upbringing their children. In other words it

asks parents to do their duty before asking for their rights.


Parents who do their duty deserve a honorable treatment of their children.

When a parent came to the Prophet Muhammad and complained to him about

the ingratitude of his son, the son said:

“He was ungrateful to me O Messenger of Allah, before I showed ingratitude

to him.”

So the Prophet did not blame the son but disliked the attitude of his parent.

This is a message to all parents.


Islam and Marriage

Islam permits Muslims to satisfy their sexual needs only through lawful

marriage.

The man and the woman who are to establish a marriage contract and

relationship must perform a "Request" and an "Acceptance".

Both spouses must have witnesses to testify that marriage contract.

the woman in Islam is also protected by such contract against unlawful and

harmful relationships.

Islam established the basis of a nucleus family that is nourished by the

mother, and supported by the father.


A bridegroom and his bride must enter into this relationship with full

conviction, mutual acceptance, and preliminary satisfaction of the essential

marriage requirements.

A Muslim woman retains her surname at marriage


Divorce in Islam

Islam regards marriage bond as sacred and blessed.

“ The most hatred lawful item in the Sight of Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) is divorce”.

Divorce:

when marriage reaches a dead end between the two spouses and there is no other solution.

1. Divorce may be compulsory when the two assigned referees decide it in the case of the disputed spouses.

2. Divorce is unlawful, if there is no sound and visible reason or ground for it.

3. Divorce is permissible, if the wife is vicious in terms of character and attitudes.

4. Divorce is required, if the wife is not committed to the Islamic teachings, or if she is indecent or vulgar.


Divorce normally is a right to the husband!

The woman has the right to divorce if:

she was beaten by her husband

the man is impotent

the man does not fulfill his dependents


Death

When a Muslim dies, he or she is washed respectfully and wrapped in a clean,

white cloth (kafan) and buried after a special prayer, preferably the same

day.

The dead is then transported to the site of the funeral prayers (salat-l-

janazah).

The funeral prayer is similar in structure to the five daily prayers, with a few

variations


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You can not teach a man

anything;

all you can do

is

to help him

find it himself!

Galileo Galilei

8/23/2013

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Centrum för arabiska familjer i exil, CAFI

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