reed to pillar overview
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RELATIONSHIPS THE FOUNDATION OF LIFE
REED TO PILLAR MINISTRIESIs a non-profit educational program in human behavior from a faith-based perspective. The program helps youth, families, churches organizations through relationship crisis.
WHO IS REED TO PILLAR ?
Malachi 2:15 “. . . Yet had he the residue of the spirit. . . .That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, . . . “
Psalms 139: 13 For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb.Ps 139:14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.Ps 139:15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.Ps 139:16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
Col 3:10 And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him
LIFE HAS A BEGINNING - - EVERY INDIVIDUAL HAS INBORN SPECIAL TRAITS
PROVERBS 22: 6“Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
TRAIN UP: “TO DEDICATE” “TO CONCENTRATE”
IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO: “IN ACCORDANCE WITH HIS WAY” OR “UPON THE MOUTH OF HIS WAY”
“WAY” REFERS TO A CHARACTERISTIC MANNER: WE ARE TO TRAIN A CHILD ACCORDING TO HIS OR HER CHARACTERISTIC MANNER – ARTISTIC, ATHLETIC, ACADEMIC WHETHER THEY BE STRONG-WILLED, COMPLIANT OR ADVENTUROUS – WE ARE TO DIRECT THEM.
“WE RECEIVE EACH CHILD FROM THE HAND OF GOD, NOT AS A MALLEABLE LUMP OF CLAY TO BE MOLDED IN WHATEVER WAY WE SEE FIT, BUT AS A UNIQUE, DISTINCTIVE PERSON WITH A DESTINY. WE ARE TO HONOR GOD’S CREATION OF HIS ONE-OF-A-KIND INDIVIDUAL BY ADAPTING OUR TRAINING TO HIS OR HER CHARACTERISTIC MANNER.”
I SAY TO FIGHT FOR THE CHILD IS TO SUPPORT GOD’S CREATION.
Procrustes (proh-KRUS-teez)
Procrustes was a host who adjusted his guests to fit theirbed. In Greek the word procrustes means "he who stretches“. He kept a house by the side of the road where he offeredhospitality to passing strangers. They were invited in for apleasant meal and a night's rest in his very special bed (theProcrustean Bed). Procrustes described it as having the unique property that its length exactly matched whoever lay down upon it. What Procrustes didn't volunteer was the method by which this "one-size-fits-all" was achieved. As soon as the guest lay down Procrustes went to work upon him, stretching him on the rack if he was too short for the bed and chopping off his legs if he was too long.
Procrusteanism1: of, relating to, or typical of Procrustes 2: marked by arbitrary often ruthless disregard of
individual differences or special circumstances http://mw1.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/procrustean
THE WORLD SAYS:
I believe that everybody should think the way I think, believe the way I believe, and behave the way I behave. If you don’t fit my mold then I will
try to convince, coerce, manipulate, or do anything else I can to get everyone to conform to what I think is correct.
The Building Blocks
GOD-CREATED“TEMPERAMENT”
(INBORN)
MAN/ENVIRONMENT AFFECTED“CHARACTER”
(LEARNED BEHAVIOR)
SELF-SELECTED“PERSONALITY”
(MASK)
When we are conceived our unique temperament is placed within us by the order of God.
At birth, we begin interacting with our environment and our environment interacts with us. This interaction slightly molds and alters our temperament, thereby forming character.
Our personality is self-selected, and is expressed in the way we perceive how we must behave to survive in the world in which we live. This may or may not be part of our temperament or character.
Created in God’s Image Creation Theory
–helps us understand how God created us as individuals
–helps us understand who we are and why we do what we do
–provides reasons for our behavior, not excuses for our behavior
Creation Theory deals with an Individual’s Temperament.
• Temperament is the God-given, inborn nature of each person determining how he or she interacts and reacts with people, circumstances, environments, situations, and the world.
• Temperament is who we are on the inside, what the Bible calls “the inner being”.
TemperamentThe understanding of temperament gives us a special knowledge of the inner workings of ourselves and others. It helps identify the pressures we, as humans, feel which are resulting from:
The world in which we live. Our weaknesses or desires.
Temperament
The understanding also helps us develop a stronger relationship with God by showing us how to let God work in our lives and how to interact with God in ways that are beneficial to us.As we submit to the Holy Spirit we can then be renewed in our thought processes.
Temperament
Temperament is a determining factor in:
• Unity development of teamwork• How we take on responsibilities and make
decisions.• How dependent or independent we are.• Our spiritual development.
Five Pure Temperament Types
• Melancholy• Choleric• Sanguine• Supine• PhlegmaticThere are blends of temperament and these can bedetected with a 54 question APS (Arno Profile System)analysis - - I will be able to help you with an APS report
Three areas of Interpersonal Needs
• Inclusion – Indicates the Temperament Needs for Social Interaction, Surface Relationships, and Intellectual Energies.
• Control – Indicates Decision Making Abilities, Willingness to take on Responsibilities, and the Need for Independence.
• Affection – Indicates the Need for Love and Affection, and the Need for Deep Personal Relationships.
WHO CAN BENEFIT FROM REED TO PILLAR PROGRAM:
Youth having trouble during their maturing years Pre-marriage couples and married couples Individuals having trouble with memories of childhood Relationship with constant emotional dramas Church staff that go through constant turn-over People that are bullied It can be used for personal awareness Churches that want a nationally trained counselor on
staff Bible Colleges wanting a certified approved program
Dr. James (Jim) CraigReed To Pillar Ministries
Counseling and Mediation ServicesBox 665
Elkin, NC 28621