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Indian Residential
Schools 1876-1996
150,000 children attended.
4,000 died
The Indian Act: The purpose of
education is “to kill the Indian in
the child.”
Intergenerational Trauma
1948 Geneva definition of genocide:
intent to destroy a national, ethnic, racial, or religious group.
“The past is the present, isn’t it? It’s the
future too.”
-Eugene O’Neill: Long Days Journey into
Night
Complex Post-Traumatic Stress
Response a.k.a.
Intergenerational Trauma
• A cumulative
• emotional, psychological, social, and
spiritual wounding
• over the life-span and across generations
• resulting from massive group trauma.-Dr. Maria Brave Heart
Reconciliation: To make two conflicting
things compatible; to bring friendly
relations between two peoples.
Truth and Reconciliation
Events
We find our voices to tell
our stories.
We were ready to heal.
“Nothing is unforgivable.”
“The Book of
Forgiving”
By
Desmond Tutu
and
Mpho Tutu
1. Tell the Story.
1. Speak the
truth.
1. Tell the Story.
1. Speak the
truth.
2. Start with
the facts.
1. Tell the Story.
1. Speak the
truth.
2. Start with
the facts.
3. Start with
trusted people.
1. Tell the Story.
1. Speak the
truth.
2. Start with
the facts.
3. Start with
trusted people.
4. Accept that the
past will not be
changed.-
2. Naming the hurt.
1. Accept all
feelings as valid.
2. Naming the hurt.
1. Accept all
feelings as valid.
2. Connect feelings
with facts.
2. Naming the hurt.
1. Accept all
feelings as valid.
2. Connect feelings
with facts.
3. Use the stages of
grief.
2. Naming the hurt.
1. Accept all
feelings as valid.
2. Connect feelings
with facts.
3. Use the stages of
grief.
4. Be vulnerable;
move on when
ready. -
3. Grant forgiveness.
1. Chose to
forgive.
3. Grant forgiveness.
1. Chose to
forgive.
2. Grow by
forgiving.
3. Grant forgiveness.
1. Chose to
forgive.
2. Grow by
forgiving.
3. Move from
victim to hero.
3. Grant forgiveness.
1. Chose to
forgive.
2. Grow by
forgiving.
3. Move from
victim to hero.
4. Tell a new
story to heal.
4. Renew or release
the relationship.
1. Renew bond
if it is safe.
4. Renew or release
the relationship.
1. Renew bond
if it is safe.
2. Ask for what
you need.
4. Renew or release
the relationship.
1. Renew bond
if it is safe.
2. Ask for what
you need.
3. Look at your
part in this.
4. Renew or release
the relationship.
1. Renew bond
if it is safe.
2. Ask for what
you need.
3. Look at your
part in this.
4. Accept the
bond will now
be different.-
Forgiveness is not…
• -excusing
• -forgetting it
• -what you do for them
• -ending feelings
• -finishing it all
• -continuing contact
Letting go of anger.
The Necessary
Ingredient.
If I need forgiveness
• 1. Acknowledge it.
If I need forgiveness
• 1. Acknowledge it.
• 2. Admit it to those
you’ve wronged.
If I need forgiveness
• 1. Acknowledge it.
• 2. Admit it to those
you’ve wronged.
• 3. Express regret and
ask for forgiveness.
If I need forgiveness
• 1. Acknowledge it.
• 2. Admit it to those
you’ve wronged.
• 3. Express regret and
ask for forgiveness.
• 4. Make amends.
If I need forgiveness
• 1. Acknowledge it.
• 2. Admit it to those you’ve wronged.
• 3. Express regret and ask for forgiveness.
• 4. Make amends.
• 5. Know this is a process, not a destination.-
Walk for reconciliation.
Walk for reconciliation.
Reconciliation continues.
SPIRITUAL
STRENGTH
Generosity - Wolf
Independence - Eagle
Mastery - Raven
Belonging – Killer Whale
Reconciliation and
Healing for all.