personal success through self motivation - module 1

Alan H. Jordan - http:/www.alanjordan.com

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ............................................................... - 4 -

Five Quotes that Inspired Me .................................................- 5 -

Dedication......................................................................... - 6 -

For Additional Resources . . . ................................................ - 6 -

Part I: Goal Setting .............................................................. - 7 -

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Introduction

Welcome! The purpose of this module is to act as a catalyst, to help you identify your goals by presenting you with information to which you may react. The reason for this is simple: I have years of professional software development experience. While every client that I work with has different needs, I have noticed one common theme: People explain their needs better when I present them with something to which they can react than when I just ask them to explain what they want. With that idea in mind, this book includes a variety of different types of goals. It also presents a variety of stimuli. These include words, photographs, art and poetry. It is natural to react in some way when you see these pages. You may or may not agree with the sentiments expressed, or like a particular piece of art. However, there is an excellent chance that you will react. That is this book’s purpose: to serve as a catalyst, to help you identify goals more easily than if you just sat down with a blank piece of paper and started to write out your goals. This book identifies a variety of categories of goals. There is NO right or wrong order to these categories, and what seems important to you at one point in your life, may feel completely irrelevant at another time. Here is why I have included them: Part of the hassle that some people experience with goal setting is that their focus may be too tightly directed. For example, someone looking for a job may concentrate only career goals to the detriment of health, relationship and other goals. When this happens, there is a lack of balance. I suggest printing out the pages that seem relevant, writing one goal in each block, three-hole punching both sides of the paper and inserting the printed pages into a three-ring hole binder. Alternatively, you might want to try printing them on index stock, and GBC binding them from the top. That way you will have created an easel that will stand up on your desk. If you have a category of goal that is not included, but is important to you, consider this idea: Print out an extra copy of a page, cross out the goal that is identified, and write in the goal category that is important to you. From time-to-time, you may wish to review the goals you have written down to see if you are making progress that pleases you. In addition, you may occasionally wish to reprint the pages, list your current goals, and compare those with your previous responses. By the way, this module that is part of a larger system. This particular module is designed to help you identify your goals. It is not designed to track your progress towards reaching them. That function is accomplished by using the day planner modules. Enjoy the process! Alan Jordan December, 2003

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Acknowledgments

There are so many people that I would like to acknowledge, but no one would read a list that long. Therefore, I’ll just acknowledge the people who have had the greatest influence on this work.

I offer my heartfelt thanks to Liz Sheppard and Stephen Hughes for being there to

look at my work from time to time, and for the support that they have offered. I also offer my heartfelt thanks to:

• My aunt, Beulah Walsh, who has always found value in my writing. (I love your poetry.)

• Liz Sheppard and Stephen Hughes, who have taken the time to review many

drafts of this book’s predecessors.

• George Winston, whose music has inspired me, particularly his version of the Pachabel Cannon. For me this piece is a constant inspiration to seek and out prosper from personal growth.

• Skip Bentuzzi, of Northern Light, Raley's Shopping Center, Incline

Village, NV. who believed in my concepts, and encouraged me.

• The writings of Anthony Robbins, many of which I thought were excellent, but which did not provide me with the full solutions that I needed. Hence, this book.

• All of the people whom I know through Toastmasters International,

especially the members of San Mateo Toastmasters, Point of Order Toastmasters and Independence Toastmasters.

• Dr. Jerome Motto, Mr. Len Mayo, Ms. Marti Benjamin and many of my other

friends in Unitarian Universalists of San Mateo.

• Harry Cardaris, Marty Fox, Lee Bollinger, and my other friends through PenNet.

• All of my friends, every one of which has had some impact on this book.

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Five Quotes that Inspired Me

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.

- Albert Schweitzer

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. - Native American Saying

I am only one But still I am one. I cannot do everything, But still, I can do something. And because I cannot do everything. I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.

- Edward Everett Hale

We Shall Overcome

We shall overcome We shall overcome We shall overcome some day. Oh, deep in my heart I do believe We shall overcome some day!

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

If There is to Be Peace

If there is to be peace in the world, There must be peace in the nations. If there is to be peace in the nations, There must be peace in the cities. If there is to be peace in the cities, There must be peace between neighbors. If there is to be peace between neighbors, There must be peace in the home. If there is to be peace in the home, There must be peace in the heart. - Lao-Tse

Dedication

To Liz Sheppard who has provided much inspiration and love. Thank you.

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Module I: Goal Setting

Welcome! The purpose of this module is to act as a catalyst, to help you identify your goals by presenting you with information to which you may react.

The reason for this is simple: I have years of professional software development experience. While every client that I work with has different needs, I have noticed one common theme: People explain their needs better when I present them with something to which they can react than when I just ask them to explain what they want. With that idea in mind, this book includes a variety of different types of goals. It also presents a variety of stimuli. These include words, photographs, art and poetry. It is natural to react in some way when you see these pages. You may or may not agree with the sentiments expressed, or like a particular piece of art. However, there is an excellent chance that you will react. That is this book’s purpose: to serve as a catalyst, to help you identify goals more easily than if you just sat down with a blank piece of paper and started to write out your goals. This book identifies a variety of categories of goals. There is NO right or wrong order to these categories, and what seems important to you at one point in your life, may feel completely irrelevant at another time. Feel free to ignore any of the goal categories that do not seem timely. If you are using the eBook version, I suggest printing out the pages that seem relevant, writing one goal in each block, three-hole punching both sides of the paper and inserting the printed pages into a three-ring hole binder. Enjoy the process!

Sales Success Through Self Motivation

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Spiritual Goals:

Proud, Bold and Happy!

By Alan Jordan http://www.alanjordan.com

CELEBRATION

Like helium-filled balloons I rise to celebrate occasions.

Unlike balloons I know how to fill myself up again!

Affirmations: • I derive pleasure from nature. • I create balance. • I do many small considerate things. • I embrace my everyday victories. • I delight in the deliciousness of the now. • I empower others. • I cherish myself. • I believe in the magic of my dreams! • I allow nature to revitalize me. • I trust my reactions. • I evaluate my expenditures and I am happy

with them. • My creativity gives the world a way to value

me. • I am in alignment with all life, present, past

and future. • I heal myself. • I am rejuvenated: the energy of the Universe

flows within me and around me.


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Health & Wellness Goals:

Bright & Perky By Alan Jordan

http://www.alanjordan.com

PRIDE Without egotism

Is always appropriate.

Constructive Questions • How can I find a creative solution? • How can I convert my feelings of uncertainty

into a feeling of challenge? • Do I need to develop perspective? • Can this problem be simplified? • Whom do I know that can help me with this? • What would I need to feel understood? • Where can I look to find an interim answer? • What opportunities does this problem present? • How can I view this problem as a challenge? Affirmations: • I make moments to cherish the ordinary. • I make time for those things that enrich my

soul. • I make time to meditate. • I move through my feelings! • I note negative thoughts without empowering

them. • I perceive the calm spots in the stressful

situations. • I put procrastination off. • I realize that thoughts are not reality. • I refrain from blaming, others and myself. • I refrain from second-guessing my decisions.


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Relationship Goals:

Stan Brown the Marble Guy

By Alan Jordan http://www.alanjordan.com

An Rx for Overload

Shift your focus. Do something fun. Let the back of your mind find the solution. It doesn't mind working overtime.

Affirmations: • I communicate in clear, non-judgmental ways. • I constantly expand myself by learning. • I take pleasure in my present circumstances. • I convert anger into understanding • I do little things to help others. • I do little things to help others. • I criticize constructively, compassionately and

rarely. • I deal with problems patiently.


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Community Service Goals

Two Lady Bugs By Alan Jordan


For Those Who Sense With more than their eyes Beauty abounds. (Just try and turn off your senses.)

Affirmations: • I take advantage of business and social

contacts. • I realize that my actions motivate others. • I am amply able! • I take advantage of the flow of my internal

energy. • I channel compulsions to my benefit. • I ask myself, "What’s the best way to marshal

the necessary resources?" • I ask people to give what they can, but no

more!

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Relaxation Goals

Lighthouse Dawn

By Teri Jones http://www.alohaart.org/aboutteri.htm

There is Always A Lighthouse

A person, place or thing Something or someone that Grounds me. Helps me find my way.

Affirmations: • I honor the value in each person that I meet. • Walking rejuvenates me. • I benefit from being in the sun. • I know when to walk away. • I get enough rest. • My actions are constructive • I understand that sensations come and go like

the waves of the ocean. • I am open to the magic of the present

moment. • I allow music to soothe my soul. • I appreciate my bodily functions. • I balance avoidance, acceptance and

remediation. • When I am in a creative process, I grant

myself time. • I come back to center. • I can let go. • I relax while I work.

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Artistic Goals

Bottle on the Beach

By Alan Jordan

Truth is Beauty Beauty is truth Beauty is in the eyes of . . . I Behold beauty in you.

(Inspired by John Keats.)

Affirmations: • I gently move into new spaces • I distribute stresses evenly. • I soften, grow and expand. • I allow myself sufficient time to grow. • I automatically realign myself. • I stand straight, proud and open. • I quiet my mind. • I am gentle and compassionate to myself. • I appreciate my body's knowledge. • I know this moment. • I am open to the fullness of my life. • I appreciate other's insecurities. • I am free of suffering. • I am filled with inner peace. • I communicate my thoughts, needs, desires

and feelings in various ways. • I accept that some friction is necessary. • I am honest with myself. • I share my enthusiasm • I appreciate my natural rhythms. • I imagine!

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Exercise Goals

Magical Light by Alan Jordan http://www.alanjordan.com

I Took Today Off

As a snow day First snow day in maybe twenty years. I’ve been snowed in since, but Always worked. On something Or other. Today, I took off. It made the little kid in me happy. I’ve been missing a snow day. Made me feel like My life is getting Back in balance. Thank you, God. Affirmations: • I tell my body to relax. • I press out tension. • I use and direct my internal energy. • I appreciate the joy of mornings. • I have the divine within me. • I alter habits that need to change. • I take advantage of the flow of my internal energy. • I am rejuvenated by walking.

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Life Balance Goals

Sunclock by IQue

The Clock of My Life Glows For it is powered By much more than me. Affirmations: • I regard problems as challenges that bring

satisfaction. • I reinforce my inner peace. • I rejoice. • I rejuvenate. • I relax and give moments to the life source of

my day. • I relax as I truly see the world. • I relax while I am working. • I remember to let go. • I search for the compassion in people. • I search for value in criticism. • I see all as the universe at play. • I see something of everyone I meet in me. • I see something of myself in everyone. • I see the God in everyone. • I set appropriate priorities. • I share my humor. • I share my knowledge and insights. • I smile frequently. • I soften and let go. • I soften my harsh self-talk.

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Work Goals:

Burning Off the Fog

by Susan Lawton [email protected]

Even in a Fog

Each day burns bright With the fire of opportunity! Thoughts, Plans, Observations, Drawings, etc.

• I stay open to possibilities in the face of

adversity. • I strive for harmonious relationships. • I substitute kindness for criticism. • I surrender, let life flow. • I take advantage of my cloud time. • I take advantage of the willingness of others

to teach. • I take adversity lightly. • I tell people how much they mean to me. • I transform problems into challenges. • I trust myself. • I trust others. • I understand that more than one opinion can

be right. • I understand that negative thoughts are

transitory thing. • I understand that thoughts are not reality. • I understand the needs of others. • I use my breath to center myself.

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Just Having Fun Goals

Holly in Hawaii by Alan Jordan


Living in the Present (Summer)

Works for me I know my value Others do too. Affirmations: • I enjoy learning. • I enjoy life! • I experience bliss. • I express my gratitude to myself and to

others. • I facilitate the floating of habitual fears. • I feel needed. • I feel rooted. • I find something interesting in challenges. • I flow around life's blockages. • I focus on doing one task at a time, with

enjoyment and passion. • I foster alliances. • I foster hope, health, and happiness in others

and in myself. • I foster internal housekeeping. • I give compliments freely and sincerely. • I give freely of myself to many people. • I give this moment to love source of my day. • I have confidence in things yet unseen.

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Productivity Goals

Xyligi

by Ray Dix http://raydix.topcities.com

Unique

Though we appear to be the same The richness of Life, Experience and Love Make us unique! Affirmations: • I have good judgment. • I have moved beyond ego. • I have moved beyond greed. • I have the courage to make necessary

changes. • I have the wisdom to know what I cannot

change. • I help my body relax. • I keep my heart wide-open. • I let go of internal judgments. • I let life be a dance. • I let my love shine outwards. • I let negative thoughts to be just that--

thoughts. • I live ethically. • I live in grace. • I live in joy. • I live in the present moment.

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Career Goals

b

Snow Yoda

by Liz Sheppard

Living in the Present (Winter)

Works for me I know my value Others do too. Affirmations: • I live up to my mission statement. • I look as life as a process. • I look for the opportunities in adversity. • I look for the opportunity to relax in each

event. • I lovingly guide myself. • I maintain contact with my friends and family,

especially • I make allowances for other people's

optimism. • I make moments to cherish the ordinary. • I make time to meditate. • I move through my feelings! • I note negative thoughts without empowering

them. • I perceive the advantages in situations. • I perceive the calm spots in the stressful

situations. • I put procrastination off.

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Attitude Adjustment Goals

Rusty Bug by Alan Jordan


I Can't Prove That Taking a positive attitude helps me, but I surely know that Adopting a negative attitude Makes me feel worse. Affirmations: • I see all as the Universe at play. • I see something of everyone I meet in me. • I see something of myself in everyone. • I see the God in everyone. • I set appropriate priorities. • I share my humor. • I share my knowledge and insights. • I smile frequently. • I soften and let go.

Constructive Questions • Am I focusing on negatives or positives? • Have I released my energies by completing

tasks? • Is my focus too __________________ □ tight (narrow) □ loose (wide)

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Financial Goals:

Rites of Passage by Susan Lawton

Constructive Questions

• Just suppose I could do it. How would I go about it?

• Is this good for others as well as myself? • Would _______ would make this task easier? □ tools □ point of view □ group of people □ could encourage others to do that

PERSPECTIVE

Can make all of the difference Try as I might to put myself in someone else’s place I can’t always do it. Makes sense. I haven’t been where they’ve been. Isn’t it wonderful that problems That are so complex to one individual Are so easily solved by another? Perspective, it’s a wonderful thing!

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Career Goals:

The Road of Life (1)

by Alan Jordan http://www.alanjordan.com

The Road Of Life

Albeit full of twists and turns Is filled with opportunity Around every bend lies A new beginning. Affirmations: • I am self reliant. • I feel good about myself. • I listen actively to people. • I react when it is appropriate. • When faced with a dilemma, I ask myself "Where

is the opportunity within it?" Then, I wait for an answer.

• I am amply able! • I channel compulsions to my benefit.


• What ________ would make this task easier? □ tools □ point of view □ group of people □ could I do that □ could I encourage others to do that

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Spiritual Goals:

In the Darkness There Was Light

by Sally Jo Reed [email protected]

With Wonder and Awe

That’s the Way to View Life Like a child. Why not? There is always the child within me. Affirmations: • I appreciate the value of fresh starts. • I use props to motivate myself. • To react realistically, I demote the priorities of

unlikely events. • I ask myself, "Why would this happen today, if

it didn't happen yesterday?" Then, I do what I can do to make a difference."

• I motivate others and myself. • I anticipate the effect of inevitable change. • I limit the scope of my concerns. • I employ leveraged solutions whenever

possible. • I trust in the capabilities of others. • I leverage myself with technology and people. • I take maximum advantage of my moments of

inspiration. • I allow myself to relax.


• What can I do to inspire myself? • What is it that I want? Really want? • When I get to where I’m going, is that where I

want to be?

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Entrepreneurial Goals:

Brilliant Lake Tahoe By Alan Jordan

For your thoughts, affirmations, constructive questions, poems, pictures, etc.

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_______________ Goals:

Carousel Horse By Alan Jordan


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_______________ Goals:

Biking Down a Mountain By Liz Sheppard


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_______________ Goals:

Basset Hound Zebulon By Phillipe Kyriazis, France


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_______________ Goals:

Praying Plant By Alan Jordan


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_______________ Goals:

Poodle Bushes By Alan Jordan


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_______________ Goals:

Gnome in Mint By Alan Jordan
