pants on fire: advising students who lie to themselves and others
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Pants on Fire: Advising Students Who Lie to Themselves and Others
Katie McFaddinBrandeis University
1500 people responded to a survey on WebMD.com in 2004
44% of them admitted outright lying to their doctor or “stretching the truth”
38% - following drs' orders32% - diet or exercise 22% - smoking17% - sex16% - alcohol12% - recreational drug use7% - getting a second opinionhttp://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=46985
1500 people responded to a survey on WebMD.com in 2004
44% of them admitted outright lying to their doctor or “stretching the truth”
50% - didn't want to be judged31% - truth was just too embarrassing21% - doctor wouldn’t understand9% - none of their doctor's businesshttp://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=46985
1500 people responded to a survey on WebMD.com in 2004
44% of them admitted outright lying to their doctor or “stretching the truth”
Social PsychologyCriminology
ParentingPhysician/Patient RelationshipsTherapist/Patient Relationships
LYING & ACADEMIC ADVISINGPsychologyCriminology
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Lie: A successful or unsuccessful deliberate attempt, without forewarning, to create in another a belief which the communicator considers to be untrue. – Vrij, 2008
Lying is a developmental milestone of childhood.
A child who is going to lie must recognize the truth, intellectually conceive of an alternate reality, and be able to convincingly sell that new reality to someone else. Therefore, lying demands both advanced cognitive development and social skills that honesty simply doesn't require.
Bronson & Merryman, 2009
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In a 1996 study, 77 American college students were asked to keep a diary for one week and record all lies told in social interactions that lasted longer than 10 minutes.
The undergraduates lied to 34% of the people they interacted with over the course of a week.
50% of the lies were self-serving and around 25% were told in the interest of others.
Participants overwhelmingly reported that their lies were not serious.
DePaulo, Kashy, et. al, 1996
People tend to lie less to those with whom they feel close.
In a notable exception, one study found that undergraduate students lied in almost half of the conversations they had with their mothers.
DePaulo & Kashy, 1998
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False Excuse: A lie of self-defense. A common protective method used by people to get out of any major or minor trouble that is thought to have unpleasant consequences. - Hsieh, 2004
“We tell false excuses to others largely for fear that knowledge of our wrongdoings will damage the good opinion in which others hold us. We do not want our friends to think us inconsiderate, our family to think us ungrateful, our coworkers to think us lazy, or the police to think us criminal.”
Hsieh, 2004
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Self-Deceptive Excuse: Not simply an erroneous internal explanation of our actions, but an erroneous explanation that we know or suspect to be false.
- Hsieh, 2004
“When coupled with lies to other people, self-deceptive excuses reinforce the corresponding other-deceptive excuses by rendering them more plausible, consistent, and sincere.”
Hsieh, 2004
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Future Truth: An exaggeration that reflects the deceiver’s positive goals for the future. - Carey, B. (2008)
In a 2009 study, researchers found that college students exaggerated their GPAs a significant amount, but that exaggeration correlated with improved academic performance in subsequent semesters.
Willard & Gramzow, 2009
Similar studies have shown that when reporting exaggerated GPAs, students are calm and positive. They do not display any of the physical indicators typically associated with lying.
Carey, 2008
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How can we tell when someone is lying?
LYING & ACADEMIC ADVISINGPsychologyCriminology
We can’t.
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Truth Bias
We encounter more truths in a day than lies
People lie most often about feelings and opinions, which are hard to disprove
Disbelief requires more effort
Social conversation rules discourage suspicion
Vrij, 2008
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Lie-Detection Myths
Meta-analyses show minimal correlation between beliefs and reality regarding non-verbal signs of deception.
- Vrij (2008)
In a meta-analysis of 206 documents and 24,483 individuals, the average accuracy rate in separating truths from lies was 54%.
- Bond & DePaulo (2006)
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Strategies for dealing with students who lie
Lying requires intelligence, empathy, and maturity.
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We are not police officers.
Explain this to advisees.
Ask “what else?” to help students avoid lies of
omission.
“Double the number of drinks” (i.e. signal a range
of answers).
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Help students focus on what they can control.
Deceptions are often propped up by more
self-deceptions. Questioning one can
disrupt others.
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