overcoming your derailers. 2/3 of individuals in leadership positions will fail did you know? 2
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OVERCOMING YOUR DERAILERS
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2/3 of individuals in leadership positions will fail
Did You Know?
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Commonly known as derailment
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• Research base• Key derailers for women• Preventing derailment• Questions
Agenda
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Grounded in Research
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Core are overused strengths
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confidence
dictatorship
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Implications for Women
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1. Sometimes feel that you are not sure what you really believe
2. Find that few people have met your expectations
3. Get angry quickly
Is This You?
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This Could be You“Volatile”
Linday Wachner, Former CEO of Warnaco Group
Known as Abrasive and viper lipped
mood shifts are sudden and unpredictable
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• People hold back – a lot of “mood management”• Internal “churn” – then explode• Tense under pressure• Vacillates between optimism and pessimism• Easily annoyed by others
Leadership implications - Volatile
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1. Wonder what someone wants after they’ve done you a favor
2. Believe that people in charge will take advantage of you if you let them
3. Know that there are some people that you will never forgive
Is This You?
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This Could be You
Doubt others’ true intentions
I don’t believe them
for one minute!
Hillary Clinton
“Skeptical”
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• Suspicious of others’ intentions • Argumentative—easily offended• Critical when giving feedback • Obsess over what can go wrong• Prone to cynicism
Leadership implications – “Skeptical”
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1. Feel a bit awkward around strangers?2. Others have said that you are sometimes timid3. Have been told you that you are not assertive
enough
Is This You?
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The next decision may be your first
Sheri McCoy, CEO Avon Products, Inc
This Could be You“Cautious”
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• Risk-averse; reluctant to take chances or make decisions
• Overstudies problems – needs to review all the data• Motivated not to fail – frets over mistakes• May not offer strong opinions or engage in debate• Reluctant to take the initiative or rely on others
Leadership implications – “Cautious”
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1. Know that you’d never take a job that was “beneath” you
2. Believe that you do things better than almost anyone you know
3. Feel that you were born to do great things
Is This You?
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This Could be You“Bold”
Have difficulty admitting mistakes
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• Overestimates abilities• Self-centered and self-promoting• Has strong sense of entitlement• Takes credit for others’ accomplishments• Feedback resistant• Unwilling to give up a fight, no matter what
Leadership Implications – “Bold”
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1. In a group, you are often the center of attention2. Like to have several projects going on at one time3. Sometimes dress so you stand out in a crowd
Is This You?
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This Could be You
Always grab center of attention
“I'm ready for my close up”Desdemona from Sunset Blvd
“Colorful”
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• Dramatic and expressive• Tends to dominate • Misses social cues regarding others’ behavior • May focus on their own behaviors first before others• Tends to confuse activity with productivity
Leadership Implications – “Colorful”
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1. Feel that many of your ideas are ahead of their time2. Believe you have special talents and abilities – can
see what others’ can’t3. People describe you as unconventional
Is This You?
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This Could be You“Imaginative”
It’s fun to be different, just for the sake of it
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• Has a million great ideas that rarely get executed• Enjoys launching initiatives but may not follow-up or
not effective in executing them• It seems clear “to you” but others may not know how
the idea came about• Can be viewed as a bit “off beat” • Dresses or behaves in unconventional ways – likes to
be different/unique• May be easily distracted
Leadership Implications – “Imaginative”
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1. Have been told you set very high standards that are often difficult to achieve
2. Known as a perfectionist3. Fussy about schedules and timing
Is This You?
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This Could be You
You get the little things right when the big things go wrong
“Diligent”
Martha Stewart
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• So focused on the details that the “big picture” or the obvious is overlooked
• Can’t let go of tasks, no matter how small, until it’s perfect
• Tendency to micromanage (delegates reluctantly)• May appear rigid or inflexible• Plans may mimic the past—not be innovative
Leadership implications – “Diligent”
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1. On important issues, dislike making decisions on your own
2. Feel there is nothing wrong with flattering your boss3. Are more comfortable following others
Is This You?
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This Could be You
Eager to please others and obliging
“Dutiful”
Andrea Jung, Former CEO Avon Products, Inc
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• Reluctant to act independently or “rock the boat”• Fails to stand up for others• So flexible, it’s hard to know where they stand• Refuse or delay facing the tough people issues• May prefer to be liked over taking independent action
Leadership implications – “Dutiful”
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Understand Your Derailers
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Know what the buzz is about you
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Know what's holding you back
Jane, you are notquite ready to
move to next level yet….
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Be aware of what your friends & family says
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Get feedback from others about what happens when you are under stress
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1. Know your “stress” – situations or people2. “Rewire” your self-talk3. Replace current behavior(s) with alternative
behavior (s)4. Practice, practice and practice
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Example
Ask
questions
70% of the
time
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“Awareness of your Derailers doesn’t mean you have to dwell on how “bad” you are. When you learn to
manage your self-destructive traits, you allow your strengths to emerge”
Why CEO’s Fail - David Dotlich and Peter Cairo
THANK YOU
Deborrah Himsel