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Module 7: Raising Resilient Children
Module 7: Raising Resilient Children
The problem: Our teenagers are experiencing…
Anxiety
Substance
Abuse
Depression
Suicide
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We’re Doing Something Wrong!
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenOur current education system and the prominent messages from society are contributing to raising psychologically fragile teenagers and young adults• Individuals who are experiencing very high levels of
psychological stress, anxiety, depression and substance abuse• Individuals who have little to no sense of who they really are• Individuals who are not well-prepared for the challenges of life• Individuals in their teens and twenties who are asking: Is life
really worth it?
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenThe messages we’re sending our young people…“You need to fit this mold, achieve these things, look like this in order to be successful, to be worthwhile.”
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenThe bar just keeps getting higher…
Weighted GPA’s
Highly Competitive Sports
Extracurriculars
SAT/ACT scores
Community Service
Building a Resume
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Social media
Full-time Job
Fear of Missing Out
Rumors Spread Like Wildfire
Never Off-duty
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My Story…
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenWhat’s our goal?
Fit a Mold Self-actualization
VS
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The Keys
The Keys to Raising Resilient Children
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Let’s start at the beginning…
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The Unique Consciousness – your True Self The Acorn
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The tools of the unique consciousness
Unique Consciousness
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Our two mindsExplicit Memory
Conscious
Implicit MemorySubconscious
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Our Explicit Conscious Memory
● Conscious● Rational (smart)● Info organized logically & chronically
● Small capacity (5-10%)● Slow● Requires conscious
attention● Not present until age 2-4
Our Explicit Conscious Memory
● Conscious● Rational (smart)● Info organized logically & chronically
● Small capacity (5-10%)● Slow● Requires conscious
attention● Not present until age 2-4
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Implicit Subconscious Memory
● Present at birth● No conscious attention
necessary● Fast● Large Capacity● Great at pattern
recognition● Powerful (+ or -)
● Not smart per se - follows programming like a computer
● Info organized by associations (not logic)
● Don’t know when a memory is triggered
Implicit Subconscious Memory
● Not smart per se - follows programming like a computer
● Info organized by associations (not logic)
● Don’t know when a memory is triggered
● Present at birth● No conscious attention
necessary● Fast● Large Capacity● Great at pattern recognition● Powerful (+ or -)
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Priorities of the subconscious mind
Safety
Survival
Procreation of the Species
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenHow our own mind ends up trapping us
When we are first born…
UniqueConsciousness
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenLosing sight of our unique consciousness
UniqueConsciousness
Mental Models Core Beliefs
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Our mind’s trap
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Why is this such a problem and what does it have to do with raising resilient children?
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Self-Worth
One of the most important psychological issues we need to resolve as human beings:
Do I have self-worth?
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The fork in the road
Acorn Database
Self-Worth
Unconditional
Cond
ition
al
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenConditional self-worth
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Unconditional self-worth
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenUnconditional is Unconditional
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Providing Unconditional Love and Acceptance of who they are
The First Key:
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Grow the Acorn
As parents, we provide the soil, water and sun
Module 7: Raising Resilient ChildrenThe Second Key:
Healthy Discipline
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Styles of DisciplineAuthoritative
Authoritarian
FearObedience
Permissive
No LimitsChild in charge
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We are all pieces of the same puzzle
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My wish for you and your children…