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Managing worries and anxieties through coronavirus
Neill Boddington – Mental Health Advisor, Disability Support Team
www.open.ac.uk/
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Introductions
Format for todays session
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01Understand what worries are, and consider your own.
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Learn some in the moment strategies and consider longer term coping strategies.
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05Plan some defined actions to help manage your worries and stressors.
07 Be aware of further guidance and support available.
Session outcomes
Appreciate, based on psychological models, why you could be feeling as you have.
Be aware of the stress response and how that affects our body and mind.
Learn and practice some simple ‘check in’ exercises.
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GROUNDING CHECK IN ACTIVITY
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Where are you right now?
0 10
As bad as it could
possibly be
As good as it
could possibly be
Consider everything that is going on right now. Where
would you rank (out of 10) your quality of life right now?
Again, consider everything and think of what number
you would need your quality of life to be so it is ‘good
enough’.
What has contributed to your quality of life being higher or lower than
your ‘good enough’ level?
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How are you doing right now?
0 10
As bad as it could
possibly be
As good as it
could possibly be
If your quality of life score is lower than your ‘good enough’ level:
• Why? What is contributing to this score? What actions need to be taken? What
easy wins are there? What bigger issues can you identify? What positives in
your life could be enhanced to raise your score?
If your quality of life score is the same or higher than your ‘good enough’
level.
• Do you sometimes focus on the negatives and that drags down your mood?
How can you remember the positives to not let one negative take over? Are
any negatives growing and need to be kept in check?
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What are you worrying about?
Reflect and write down some of you worries (they don’t need to be coronavirus related)
CHANGE, STRESS AND ANXIETIES PLUS COPING MODELS
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Time of uncertainty = change = stress
• Sudden changes to our ‘normal’ lives - Little or no warning and preparation time.
• New situations we have little to no experience of to help guide us
• Direct challenges to ours and others health and wellbeing.
• Increase in stressful situations – i.e. children fighting.
• Decrease in calming behaviours – i.e. going to yoga, clubs, social time.
“It ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep
moving forward.”
“It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get back up.”
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the
ones most responsive to change.”
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How change affects people
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What is stress?
‘you perceive’ – How you view the situation, are you thinking rationally, previous bad experiences?
‘cannot cope’ – Self-efficacy and confidence. Learning from past experiences and learning new skills to cope.
‘the demands’ – What is being asked of you? What can you control, time management, support structures, etc.
Pressure becomes stress when you
perceive that you cannot cope with the
demands placed upon you.
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What is stress?
PRESSURE
STRESS
RELAX
Deadlines
Blinkers on
Focus
Workload
I am anxious
It’s all too much
I feel Ill
Demands
I’m so angry
Hobbies
SleepSocialising
Family Watching TV
Exercising
ReadingMusic
LE
VE
L O
F…
TIME – minutes / hours / days / weeks
I don’t have any control
I’m overwhelmed
I cannot cope
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Amygdala Hijack
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A-B-C Coping Model
Aware – Am I stressed, pressured, relaxed?
Buy time – Be still / Be calm / Be present
Choose – What to say, do, feel
STRESSED – PRESSURED - RELAXED
ABC Model
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Anxiety Based - Irrational Thinking
Thinking style Description Example;
Catastrophising Seeing only the worst possible
outcome in everything often
when other options or solutions
are offered.
• You cough = I have coronavirus =
I could die.
• Problems getting some food =
we will not be able to get any
food.
Threat
scanning
Searching the environment for
what you fear.
• Checking yourself and loved
ones for symptoms.
• Frequently reading & watching
corona related news stories.
Emotional
reasoning
Deciding that your emotions are
reality.
• I’m scared so there must be
danger present.
• I feel guilty so I must have done
something wrong.
Fortune telling /
Leaps in logic
Taking some facts and then
deciding on the outcome even
though there are missing steps
and then often acting as if the
perceived situation has already
happened.
• The Government has not said
when schools will go back, so
that means it will not be until next
year.
Stress levels with demands exceeding our ability to cope, can alter our perceptions,
especially when our brain is being hijacked!
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THINK Coping Model
True? – Is this worry factual? What evidence is
there?
Helpful? – Is it helping me or others right now?
Inspiring? – Does it inspire me or creates
negative emotions?
Kind? – Is it offering kindness to me or others?
Do I need to be kind to myself right now?
Necessary? – Is this what I need right now? Is it
necessary (or appropriate) to engage it right
now?
Anoth
er w
ay to
‘Check in
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TYPES OF WORRIES AND HOW TO MANAGE THEM
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What are you worrying about?
Is your worry realistic and likely to happen?
Can you directly do something about it?
YESNO
Practical worries Specific, defined and often
rational
Hypothetical worries‘What if’ in their nature. Often
un-specific, not based in (much)
evidence and often irrational.
Establish positive actions to help
manage your thoughts about
these worries…
Can you do something
about it right now?
YESNO
When can you?
Plan for when you
can act.Emotions focused copingRoot cause
solving
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Breathe - Breathe in for a count of 7, out for 11.
Imagine your worries in a bubble – They float away on the wind, while others can be popped.
Tighten, then relax - Tighten all your muscles for a count of three, then let go. Repeat.
Do a 5/5/5 mindfulness exercise - Pause and notice 5 things you can see. Acknowledge 5 things you can hear. Take note of 5 things in contact with your body.
Movement - A quick walk, going up and down stairs, stretching – it doesn’t have to be strenuous. Any sort of movement will help you de-stress.
Step out of the stressful situation - Literally walk away and give your attention to something else, even if only for a moment. It gives you a chance to calm down and regain control of thoughts and emotions.
Break the cycle - When you find yourself caught up in a cycle of negative thoughts, deliberately turn your attention to something positive (e.g. a good memory, something nice you’re going to do).
Talk to someone about it - Talking about thoughts and feelings can help to release tension. Putting things into words to another person gives you distance. It can also offer a different perspective.
Imagine it’s your friend - Pretend is a friend or loved one bringing you this problem, what advice and support would you offer them?
Be picky with your social media - Consider who is in your social media news feeds and whether their post encourage anxious feeling or help you to cope with your worries. Use THINK to help here.
Rank your worry – On a scale of 1-10, how bad really is it? Consider in relation to your ‘good enough’ score.
Worries before bed? – Write it down on a paper to get it out of your head and reflect on it using THINK. If your worry can be ignored, thrown the paper away. If you need to action it, keep it to remind you tomorrow.
Strategies to manage ‘in the moment’ anxiety & stress
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Schedule in news time - Timetable in when you will watch/read the news regarding coronavirus.
Get reliable info – Use trusted sources of information such as national news channels rather than what appears in a google search or on social media.
Look for positives within the negatives – Don’t focus on the negative aspects, we often zone in on the stories and people that align to our beliefs and thoughts. Explore different perspectives and search out good new stories.
Can do’s not cannot’s – Think about what you can do and not what lockdown means you cannot.
Have routines – along with other routines you can create, make sure you have an ‘end of work day’ routine to clearly separate work time from home time. What repeatable action will help to say to your brain; ‘works over’?
Creating a calming zone - Stability zones can have a calming and stabilising place that helps you to relieve stressful feelings just by being there. In your house this could be somewhere like the bedroom or the garden. These zones could also be just outside, a local park or familiar place you walk. A stability zone must
have positive and happy associations attached to it.
De-clutter - If you find yourself with added pressures now, try the 3D’s approach. Drop – Delay - Delegate
Have some goals – It can be very easy for days to have less meaning when we a lockdown limits work, social, personal time. Create some weekly goals to help with motivation and a sense of achievement.
Be healthy – Never a better time than when a virus is around to consider our health. Eat well, move more, sleep plenty, limit alcohol, quit smoking, moderate screen time, reduce time spent sitting.
Re-focus on priorities – Now is a great time to re-establish what is important to us. What have we had to go without that we can actually live without? What do we miss the most? What is truly important to us?
Corona and lockdown longer term coping:
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Gratitude Journal
Spend 10 minutes considering what you are thankful for currently, recently and coming up.
I am currently thankful for……
I will be thankful for….
I was thankful for…..
Circle of influence
Practice these 2 strategies;
Within my control
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Root cause solving
Top tip:
Rather than thinking; “I’m worried about….”. Re-phrase as; “If I care about….”
This can help with motivation and decisions to make a positive change
7 Step approach:
1 Write down what you’re worried about (just the practical worries)
2 Decide on what one you will action firsti. Urgent-Important principle
3 Think about what success looks and feels like
4 Write a list of possible solutions and consider each ones
advantages and disadvantages.
5 Choose an action or actions.
6 Plan how you will carry out your action/s – the how, where and
when’s.
7 Do it!
“… grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot
change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom
to know the difference.”
Worries are mental events that will pass, just as other
events in our life do.
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• Consider everything we have covered.
• What changes would you like to make?
List down 2-3 things you could do to make a positive change
Re-framing exercise
Reframe one of
these as;
“I want….
I will…..”
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NHS ‘Every Mind Matters’. Coronavirus advice.
Public Health England. Guidance on the mental health and wellbeing aspects of coronavirus.
Mental Health Foundation. Coronavirus advice.
Mental Health Foundation. Talking to children about Coronavirus.
Rethink Mental Illness. Specific advice for anyone with a MH condition, or their carers,
Mind. Various advice and further links to wellbeing through coronavirus.
Action for Happiness. Covid-19 coping calendar.
Shout. Free text service for anyone after immediate support for their mental health.
Anxiety UK. Increased helpline coverage, online support groups and webinars.
Sport England – Staying active while you’re at home.
Citizens Advice. Coronavirus and benefits.
ACAS – Coronavirus advice for employers.
The OU’s free learning platform, OpenLearn also offers short courses in related mental health and wellbeing topics.
Free mental health tips and resources from the OU.
www.open.ac.uk/
Resources – Web sites
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Resources – Apps (from trusted sources)
Calm – Mindfulness, meditation and breathing programmes to help lower stress, anxiety and promote more restful sleep.
Catch It – Learn to look at problems differently, turn negative thoughts into positive ones and improve your mental wellbeing,
Feeling Good – Improve your thought, feelings, self-esteem and self-confidence using the principles of cognitive therapy.
My Possible Self - Pick from 10 modules to learn how to manage fear, anxieties and stress, and take control of your thoughts, feelings
and behaviour.
Stress and Anxiety Companion – Guided breathing exercises, relaxing music and games made to help calm the mind, and handle stress
and anxiety on the go.
Reflectly – Simple personal journaling ap, mood tracker and daily gratitude journal for self-care.
Action for Happiness – Daily companion for a happier life. Receive simple, daily actions designed to boost your wellbeing and
happiness.
Cove – Create music to reflect emotions like joy, sadness and anger to help express how you feel.
SilverCloud – An eight week course to help manage stress, anxiety and depression at your own pace.
Thrive – Use games to track your mood and teach yourself methods to take control of stress and anxiety.
Ten Percent Happier – Get better at feeling good with guided meditations, videos, talks and sleep content.
UCLA Mindful – With this easy-to-use app, you can practice mindfulness anywhere, anytime with the guidance of the UCLA (University
of California, Los Angeles) Mindful Awareness Research Centre.
THANK YOU
Additional Resources
Not covered fully in the workshop but may be of use to you.
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Social support
Emotional
Support
Expressions of empathy,
love, trust, concern and
caring.
Listening and
empathising, being a
shoulder to cry on and
helping to manage their
emotional response.
e.g. Partner hugs and
listens to them as they
get emotional talking
about their car
accident.
Esteem This type of social
support is shown in
expressions of
confidence or
encouragement.
Pointing out a persons
strengths and abilities,
drawing on past
successes and offering
encouraging words and
guidance.
e.g. Work colleagues
points out how
tenacious they are in
work and they can use
this to deal with the
insurance company.
Informational Gathering and sharing
information or offering
advice, guidance and
suggestions.
Providing information and
advice that often has the
potential to help the
person problem-solve,
supporting them with the
next steps.
e.g. Friend sends a link
to a web site that
explains your legal
rights when involved in
a car accident.
Tangible This form of support
includes the concrete,
practical and direct ways
people assist others.
Taking on specific
responsibilities, direct
help or other applied ways
to help someone manage
a problem they’re
experiencing.
e.g. Mum drives them
to and from work while
their car is being
repaired.
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Ways of Coping – Folkman & Lazarus
Negative Approach
Detachment - Psychologically remove oneself from the possible solutions.
- “I don’t want to know.”
Keep to Self - Internalise and avoid people.
- “It’s my problem to sort.”
Wishful Thinking - Wishing and dreaming about changing the situation or self.
- “It will all be okay in the end I’m sure.”
Self Blame - Critical of self.
- “This is all my fault.”
Positive Approach
Problem Focused Coping - Dealing directly with the problem.
- “Let’s get to the route of this issue.”
Seeking Social Support - Sharing thoughts, feelings and seeking help.
- “What do you think I should do?”
Focusing on the Positive - Look for positive outcomes and focusing on true personal values.
- “I have my family and they still make me happy in tough times.”
Tension Reduction - Using methods to help distract mind and manage emotions.
- “I have a great book to read to take my mind off it all.”