!male victimisation? some reflections on 20+ years work in field of family violence richard...
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!Male !Male Victimisation?Victimisation?
Some reflections on 20+ Some reflections on 20+ years work in field of family years work in field of family
violenceviolence
Richard WoltermanRichard Wolterman
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation? PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONALPROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL
Since 1988: private practice, Family Court Since 1988: private practice, Family Court counsellor, victim support, Probation Officer, counsellor, victim support, Probation Officer,
counselling contractor to Corrective counselling contractor to Corrective
Services, approved FDV program developer, Services, approved FDV program developer,
groups facilitator and supervisor, spiritual abuse groups facilitator and supervisor, spiritual abuse support, men’s FDV crisis services, early support, men’s FDV crisis services, early
intervention FDV, Child Protection, separated intervention FDV, Child Protection, separated fathers’ counselling service, childhood abuse fathers’ counselling service, childhood abuse
victimisation.victimisation.
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation? DEFINITIONSDEFINITIONS
DVPU definition 1999 and 2000: DVPU definition 1999 and 2000: DV is considered to be behaviourDV is considered to be behaviour
which results in physical, sexual and/or psychological damage,which results in physical, sexual and/or psychological damage,
forced isolation, economic deprivation, or behaviour which causesforced isolation, economic deprivation, or behaviour which causes
the victim to live in fear.the victim to live in fear.
FAMILY COURT definition 2008: FAMILY COURT definition 2008: FV means conduct, whether actual or FV means conduct, whether actual or
threatened, by a person towards a person or property of a member of the threatened, by a person towards a person or property of a member of the
person’s family that causes that or any other member of the person’s person’s family that causes that or any other member of the person’s family family
reasonably to fear for, or reasonably to be apprehensive about, his or her reasonably to fear for, or reasonably to be apprehensive about, his or her
personal wellbeing or safety.personal wellbeing or safety.
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation?
Appear to apply equally to both genders, but do not Appear to apply equally to both genders, but do not consider consider
differential male and female:differential male and female:
help seeking behaviourshelp seeking behaviours services appealservices appeal services access availabilitiesservices access availabilities victimisation experiencesvictimisation experiences perpetration (reporting) behavioursperpetration (reporting) behaviours societal stigmatisationsocietal stigmatisation
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation? PERPETRATOR PROGRAMSPERPETRATOR PROGRAMS
- Involvement with offenders most challenging and - Involvement with offenders most challenging and satisfyingsatisfying
- Facilitators: undervalued, very special - Facilitators: undervalued, very special humanhuman resources resources
- Right mix of specialist knowledge, empathy, insight - Right mix of specialist knowledge, empathy, insight stimulation,stimulation,
individual and group engagementindividual and group engagement
- Facilitators forced to comply for sake of agency - Facilitators forced to comply for sake of agency dependence on funding body requirementsdependence on funding body requirements
- No real change by enforcement, compliance, control- No real change by enforcement, compliance, control
- No therapeutic basis of client dignity- No therapeutic basis of client dignity
- Program content: program only a vehicle- Program content: program only a vehicle
- No such thing as “Best Practice model”- No such thing as “Best Practice model”
- Program validity and success rate questionable, many drop - Program validity and success rate questionable, many drop outsouts
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation? THEORETICAL BACKGROUNDTHEORETICAL BACKGROUND
- Duluth model: interagency patriarchal violence modelDuluth model: interagency patriarchal violence model- Presumption of power imbalance and male oppressionPresumption of power imbalance and male oppression- Claiming exclusive sociopolitical rights to this truthClaiming exclusive sociopolitical rights to this truth- Found an ally in Justice, Family Law, counselling etcFound an ally in Justice, Family Law, counselling etc- Endeavours to enforce ideology unto treatment Endeavours to enforce ideology unto treatment
programsprograms- Complains that programs don’t workComplains that programs don’t work- Applies the very abuse tactics it abhors and accuses Applies the very abuse tactics it abhors and accuses
others ofothers of- Has forgotten where it came from: humbleness, Has forgotten where it came from: humbleness,
empathy etcempathy etc- Denies, silences, pays lip service, minimises, patronises - Denies, silences, pays lip service, minimises, patronises
male victimisation concernsmale victimisation concerns
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation?
- Promotes adversarial “us and them” Promotes adversarial “us and them” positioningpositioning- Labels males and femalesLabels males and females- Because you are a man, you are controlling- Because you are a man, you are controlling- Hence, the man can not be a victim- Hence, the man can not be a victim- Because you are a man, the female is the - Because you are a man, the female is the victimvictim- Hence, the female can not be a perpetratorHence, the female can not be a perpetrator- Males use violence to enforce authorityMales use violence to enforce authority- Females use violence in self-defenceFemales use violence in self-defence- Cannot consider other victimisation Cannot consider other victimisation contextscontexts- Increasing number of female FDV offenders Increasing number of female FDV offenders for whom for whom no treatment no treatment
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation?
Duluth model points out or describes Duluth model points out or describes certaincertain
violent and abusive behaviours quite well.violent and abusive behaviours quite well.
But not in a balanced way.But not in a balanced way.
What needs to occur to recreate balance in What needs to occur to recreate balance in FDVFDV
research and treatment applications?research and treatment applications?
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CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODELCONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODELCONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODELCONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODEL
CORE QUALITY=
what we consistently do very well according
to self and others
CORE QUALITY=
what we consistently do very well according
to self and others
ALLERGY=
what we dislike or can not stand in self or in
others
ALLERGY=
what we dislike or can not stand in self or in
others
CHALLENGE=
what we need to do to balance our
‘Core Quality’
CHALLENGE=
what we need to do to balance our
‘Core Quality’
PITFALL=
how we hurt others and self;
feedback area
PITFALL=
how we hurt others and self;
feedback area
Crossing boundaries or overdoing ‘Core Quality’
may lead to
Crossing boundaries or overdoing ‘Core Quality’
may lead to
opposites
Creating extra boundaries or too much ‘Challenge’ or
feedback may lead to
Creating extra boundaries or too much ‘Challenge’ or
feedback may lead to
opposites right balance + boundaries
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PERSONALISING CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK PERSONALISING CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK ISSUESISSUES
CORE CORE QUALITY ORQUALITY OR
STRENGTHSTRENGTH
PITFALL PITFALL
OROR
DOWNFALLDOWNFALL
CHALLENGE CHALLENGE
OROR
FEEDBACKFEEDBACK
ALLERGYALLERGY
OROR
DISLIKEDISLIKE
LOYALTYLOYALTY COLLUSIONCOLLUSION OBJECTIVITYOBJECTIVITY BETRAYALBETRAYAL
DETERMINATIODETERMINATIONN
BULLYINGBULLYING RESPECTRESPECT UNCOMMITTEDUNCOMMITTED
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CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODELCONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODELCONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODELCONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK MODEL
CORE QUALITY=
pointing out,describing,revealing
CORE QUALITY=
pointing out,describing,revealing
ALLERGY=
covering up, minimising,
denying
ALLERGY=
covering up, minimising,
denying
CHALLENGE=
humble pie,release restraint
CHALLENGE=
humble pie,release restraint
PITFALL=
stipulating,prescribing, controlling
PITFALL=
stipulating,prescribing, controlling
Crossing boundaries or overdoing ‘Core Quality’
may lead to
Crossing boundaries or overdoing ‘Core Quality’
may lead to
opposites
Creating extra boundaries or too much ‘Challenge’ or
feedback may lead to
Creating extra boundaries or too much ‘Challenge’ or
feedback may lead to
opposites right balance + boundaries
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!Male victimisation?!Male victimisation?
CORE CORE QUALITY ORQUALITY OR
STRENGTHSTRENGTH
PITFALL PITFALL
OROR
DOWNFALLDOWNFALL
CHALLENGE CHALLENGE
OROR
FEEDBACKFEEDBACK
ALLERGYALLERGY
OROR
DISLIKEDISLIKE
DescribingDescribing PrescribingPrescribing Release Release restraintrestraint
Covering Covering upup
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!Male Victimisation?!Male Victimisation?
!So, where to from here?!So, where to from here?