Love Class For Total Package Women

How To Get Who & What You Want From Romantic Relationships (Part One)

Dr. Alduan TarttContributing Psychologist To:

• Why I’m Doing This Workshop• Dating Prerequisites• Mindset of Attracting Great Men• Strategy For Baiting, Hooking, & Securing Great

Men (first interaction, phone, date, exclusivity)• Dating As His Wife• Dealing With the Candy Shop

Overview

• Women Hold The Key To Men’s Greatness• Married Men Are Wealthier, Happier & Healthier• Divorce More Adversely Affects Men• Women Who Date Live Longer & Happier Lives

Than Women Who Refuse To Date At All

Mindset To Attracting Great Men

• Must be convinced of your own greatness– Great attracts great– Insecurity attracts insecurity & users

• Must be ready to give versus take love – Ask yourself what you have to give versus

gain– How will a man benefit from knowing you

Mindset To Attracting Great Men

• In order to attract love you must be 100% ready to fully receive love which means getting rid of:a) Fear of Being Hurtb) Attachment To Past Hurt/Painc) Excessive Insecurityd) Love Addictions To Unhealthy Partnerse) Questioning Your Worth

Preparing To Date (Prerequisites)

• In order to find a husband you should have a dating strategy or a plan– Simply wishing for a man is unlikely to work

• Must purposely position yourself around high quality men – Ruth Positioned Herself To “Meet” Boaz

Strategy For Attracting Great Men

Per research, the most effective ways of getting more dates that can lead to marriage are:

•Asking For A Personal Hook-up •Using Online Dating Sites •Networking •Re-Networking - Dating Someone In Already In Your Cell Phone

Strategy For Attracting Great Men

• Men ENJOY chasing women– Chasing a great woman’s love and attention

makes us feel alive, invigorated and excited • Be confident enough to initiate the chase by

being open to men flirting with you

Step 1: Be The Bait For Great Men

• We Are What We Think– Focus all energy & thoughts on what you desire

versus what you fear or dislike

• Flirt, Fascinate & Flee Strategy– The goal of the first interaction is arouse interest,

fascinate him to learn more and allow him the joy of chasing you to earn more of your time, attention and eventually your love

Step 1: Be The Bait For Great Men

1) Become a Professional Networker- Pronetworker.com- Join Chamber of Commerce, Rotary Clubs, &

anything business related- Join social groups that are co-ed

- Tennis, Bowling, Habitat for Humanity, Golf Lessons, Meet Up Groups, National Urban League, Young Democrats/Republicans, etc.

- Volunteer at Men’s Ministry, etc

Where To Meet & Flirt With Men (Bait)

2) Harness The Power of Social Media- Flirt on Facebook- Network on Google + & LinkedIn- Join Dating Sites (Match.com, Plenty of Fish, Black

People Meet, etc.)- Be clever, classy, tactful & intentional

Where To Meet & Flirt With Men (Bait)

3) Always Be Ready & Look Your Best- Look cute to go to the grocery store- Frequent downtown business food courts for lunch- If you like sports, watch it at the sports bar- Work out at best gym locations, take golf lessons- Attend business happy hours, networking events and

Christmas parties

Where To Meet & Flirt With Men (Bait)

1) Pick events and appearances selectively2) Spot him and allow him to spot you3) Use your inner voice attraction powers4) Let your body language and smile speak for

you

How To Flirt With Men (Bait)

5) Be fun, a challenge & use subtle insults/jabs6) Maintain control (tip vs. showing your hand)7) Advertise your greatness (as a future wife)8) Set your expectations high & don’t settle for less than you desire

How To Flirt With Men (Bait)

• Be genuinely interested in him • Smile, laugh, be fun (be his anti-depressant)• Call him by a great name and ego stroke• Be a dynamic listener

Be Fascinating & Arouse Eager Desire

• Encourage him to talk about his dreams, ambitions & future plans

• Talk in terms of his interests• Make him feel important & be sincere about It• Have a dynamic life filled with an active social

calendar already

Be Fascinating & Arouse Eager Desire

• Tease him about asking• Issue a flirtatious yet strong challenge (take

control)• Make him work (he likes it that way)• Social media follow up is more of a norm• Keep interaction short, dismiss him playfully &

“network” & “work the room” (It’s not a date)• Observe from a distance & be subtle

Make Him Excited To Ask For Number

The First Phone Call•Research him before he calls•Don’t answer after 10pm•End conversation if he is rude or sexual•Repeat being interested in him•Be present & focused on him (avoid multi-tasking, distractions, social media)•End conversation early (with exceptions)

Step 2: The Hook (Rules of Engagement)

After First Phone Call•Let him call you next/only return his call•If he doesn’t call it could be because he is:

- Interested but not ready- Not that interested - Unavailable (work, already dating, etc.)- Un-established- Unsure of Fit/Chemistry

Step 2: The Hook (Rules of Engagement)

• Say “No” to the following first dates:1) Drinks 2) House Calls 3) Poor Planning

• Allow him to make the plans• Dress appropriately (tease but don’t show)

Step 2: The Hook (The First Date)

• Be on time (show respect for his time)• Reschedule if he’s late & doesn’t call • Prepare to fascinate & learn about him• Ask about his dreams & aspirations

Step 2: The Hook (The First Date)

• Tell Him That You Are Open To “Process” of Dating (Not Finding A Husband)

• Do Not Tell Him That You Are Celibate (Too early for that conversation)

Step 2: The Hook (The First Date)

• Allow Him Opportunity To Pay - Except incidentals- tip, valet, popcorn, etc.- Be worth the cost of the date- Be appreciative, thankful & present- Men rarely regret money well spent on great company, fun and connection

Step 2: The Hook (The First Date)

Watch Part Two:

Part 3: The Catch (Dating As His Wife)Part 4: Dealing With The Candy Shop (Sex)

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Remain in Control of Your Timea) Move to your rhythm not hisb) Don’t wait on his planning but be open

c) Your social calendar should be full to avoid being too attention starved d) Research indicates women are happiest dining with 3-4 close girlfriends 1x monthly

Step #3-The Catch (Dating As His Wife)

• One Chip At A Time (Keep Him Hungry)– Kiss at door and go in the house– Graduate your affection relative to his effort– Say “No” more but tell him how he could have more in

time (keep him chasing)

Dealing With the Candy Shop

Gain FULL Control Over Your Love Life

Covered In Part Two Part 3: The Catch (Dating As His Wife)Part 4: Dealing With The Candy Shop (Sex)

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