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Cacdac, Fucoy, Sumido, UlayUniversity of the Philippines, DIliman


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Cohabitation is living

consensually with another,

without the benefit of a

legal marriage (Census2000).

It may be seen as a

time during which a

partnership can be

tested on the way tomarriage. It may alsobe an alternative form

of union, and is seen as

indistinguishable from

marriage (Williams,

Kabamalan, &

Ogena,2007).


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COHABITING COUPLES


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To give voice to a marginalized sector; toprovide an in-depth look on the

processes and experiences that occurwhen cohabiting; thus facilitate a deeper

understanding on the subject matter.


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Why do couplesin an urban

setting chooseto cohabit?

What are theirrelationshipdynamics and

experienceswhilecohabiting?

How do they see

themselves

perceived by

others? How do

they react to

these

perceptions?


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Participants

Heterosexual couples living-infrom middle and low SES8 couples (4 couples each SES)Age range is from 17-47Residing within Metro Manila

Relationship status: Currentlycohabiting/ Used to cohabit butare now married

Procedure

Purposive and SnowballsamplingIn-person interview with theparticipantsSemi-structured interview with

2 partsRecording and transcription ofinterviewContent Analysis


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LIVING-IN

MOTIVATIONS DYNAMICS

ATTITUDES

EARLYPREGNANCY

CONVENIENCE

GENDER ROLES

FEARS AND

ANXIETIES

DECISION MAKING

ACKNOWLDEGEMENT OFJUDGEMENTS AND NORMS COPING MECHANISMS


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nag-usap kami na magsama na langkami kasi syempre, pag may nangyarisakin wala naman akongmakakatulong. Eh buntis pa ko nun.Yun nagsama na kami, nag-usap kamina magsama kami

(F, Low SES, Young Adult)

Hindi naman parang decision langtalaga naming yun dahil number 1cheaper. Tapos pag ganun mas... yunnga sabi niya mas... take care of meKasi parang magkasama kami sa check-

up and all tapos pag-grocery masnakikita niya yung needs ko...

(F, Mid SES, Young Adult)

...the prevalence of cohabitation might be a consequence of economic necessityrather than a preferred lifestyle for the least educated.(Carter as cited in

Kabamalan, 2004)

Social scientists have long suggested that both men and women are looking fornew, alternative models of the traditional family (Sassler & Miller, 2011).


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I consult with her first. Its best na weboth make the decision para walangmaga-argue. I dont like arguing. Sokukunin ko din side ng partner kopara okay.

(M, Mid SES, Young Adult)

...pag siguro, pagka gawaing lalaki, gawaingano bagay na panglalaki, ako na. Sa mgasimpleng lamesa lamesa, design design sabahay, dalawa na kami, atsaka mga billsganyan, dalawa na kaming nagdedesisyon

dyan. (M, Mid SES, Young Adult)

Oo naman! Ako takot pa rin naman naiwinan niya rin . Kasi yun nga sa kanyaako nakaramdam ng pagmamahal....

Yung lambing niya, yung pagmamahalniya, yung pag-a-asikaso niya rin.Masakit rin yun diba. Oo masakit dintalaga.

(F, Mid SES, Adult)

Cohabitors with marriage plansare involved in unions that are notqualitatively different from thoseof their married counterparts(Brown & Booth, 1996) .


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Hindi ko na sila iniisip. Walaakong pakialam sa kanila.

(M, Low SES, Young Adult)

Ang tao kasi palahatol. Nakita pa lang nila,hinahatulan na.... Lahat sila hinatulan nila ako,tingin ko. Tingin ko napakasama ko sa kanila.Yun ang talagang pumapasok sa isip ko. Kasisasabihin nila, ganyan ganyan ganyan, dibadati may asawa yan eh..

(M, Low SES, Adult)

The couples exposure to todays media may also be a reason for their passivereaction to prejudice; since the media portrays cohabitation in a more positive way(Williams, Kabamalan, & Ogena, 2006)


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MOTIVATIONS

LOW SES ADULTS:

CONCEPT OF LOVE

MID SES YOUNG

ADULTS:TEST BEFORE MARRIAGE

DYNAMICS

LOW SES:

POOLED INCOMESPONTANEITY

MID SES:

BREADWINNERSTAGED TRANSITION

ATTITUDES

LOW SES:

FATALISTIC

ADULTS:CONCEPT OF STABILITY


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ATTITUDES

Participants agree on negative attitudesof others towards cohabiting unions.

To address these negative attitudes, theydevelop a mechanism where those theyconsider other to their relationship aredisregarded.

TheOther

Family andFriends


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MOTIVATIONS

While responsibility considered to be agreat motivator across all SES and agebrackets

Responsibility/Convenience

Test of compatibility priorto marriage

Legally unable to marry dueto prior marriage

Interaction effects

between socioeconomic

status and age are salient.

Participant from the younger age bracketviewed cohabitation as a test beforemarriage.

Participants from the older age bracketcited prior marriage as a major motivatorto cohabit.


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Brown, S., & Booth, A. (1996). Cohabitation versus Marriage: A Comparison of Relationship

Quality.Journal of Marriage and Family, 58 (3), 668-678.

Carter W. (1999). Attitudes toward premarital sex, non-marital childbearing, cohabitation and

marriage among blacks and whites. Retrieved from

http://www.ssc.wisc.edu/cde/nsfhwp/nsfh61.pdf

Sassler, S., & Miller, A. (2011). Class differences in cohabitation process. Family Relations, 60 (2),

163-177.

Williams, L., Kabamalan, M., & Ogena N. (2007). Cohabitation in the Philippines: Attitudes and

behaviors of young women and men.Journal of Marriage and Family, 69, 1244-1256.

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