WHAT GOES ON INSIDE AN INFJ HEAD?

From a very young age INFJ s think about how to make the world a better place and what their true calling is. Because of this, when they are alone they’re constantly reflecting on the experiences in their lives and try to put those into perspective with their value system. They try to understand how the world works, how their beliefs tie in with the experiences they have and what this means in terms of what they and others really should be doing. Because of their strong Introverted Intuition their minds seemingly can’t stop running when they are alone, which can become problematic when they’re facing a difficult situation. Bad times are analysed over and over again until the reason why something happened and the mindset of the people involved is understood. When things are good however, the INFJ can rejoice in thinking about the positive and how one might develop humanity into one harmonizing force of good.

The sad thing about being an INFJ is you eventually realize that you care about the people in your life probably more than most of them would ever care about you. You remember everyone you get to know and wonder about them and how they’re doing even years after you’ve spent any time together. People accumulate for the INFJ?friends don’t simply cycle in and out of their lives. They feel more of a connection in a hug than many others would feel in a kiss, and a kiss to an INFJ is, in turn, a really big deal. The INFJ needs to learn to be guarded with people so as not to get disappointed when her genuine caring is answered simply with perfunctory fondness from the other party.

INFJ Confession

I usually feel best when I can help someone, make a difference. But right now I’m falling apart myself, and at the same time have at least 3 people in my life who need me, who rely on me and who have no idea what I’m going through. And I feel like I can’t trust anyone with my thoughts and feelings. I am the one who builds others up, who gives them hope when they need it. How can I be weak when they need me?

Date someone who is interested in you. I don’t mean someone who thinks you’re cute or funny. I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant detail about you. Someone who wants to read every word you write. Someone who wants hear every note of your favourite song, and watch every scene of your favourite movie. Someone wants to find every scar upon your body, and learn where each one came from. Someone who wants to know your favourite brand of toothpaste, and which quotes resonate deep inside your bones when you hear them. There is a difference between attraction and interest. Find the person who wants to learn every aspect of who you are.

? (via kushandwizdom)

I want someone who will ask me how my day was when they know it was long and hard, but they just want to keep my mind off it. I want someone who will support me in whatever I do. I want someone who will rub my back and play with my hair. I want someone who doesn’t mind my complaining. I want someone who will go to Taco Bell with me in our sweat pants. I want someone who will listen to my problems. I want someone who’s not afraid to show me off to their friends and family. I want someone who will smile at me, even if we’re just watching TV or eating out to dinner. I just want someone.

- (via wearetheyounganddumb-okay)

INFJ Confession

When I get upset at something, I don’t talk. I space out. It’s hard for me to talk about my feelings and talk about what made me upset, because if someone misunderstands me it will be even more upsetting. It’s easier to mentally drift away, and use “I’m tired” as an excuse. I use it quite often, to be honest.

INFJ Confession

It’s hard for me to get really mad without crying. It’s easier to go somewhere by myself and just cry out all my frustrations instead.

INFJ RELATIONSHIPS AND DATING

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

There is a difference between saying goodbye and letting go. Goodbye is not permanent. You can meet years later and share what happened in your life. You can smile and laugh about all the nonsense that you both went through. However, letting go is being okay with never seeing this person ever again…being okay with never knowing how their life turned out…being okay with fifty or more years of silence…being okay with running into that person at a grocery store and having them not acknowledge your presence. This is the part of life that doesn’t sit well with me and never will. It tears my heart in pieces, robs me of gratitude, drains me of anything positive and eats at the faith that holds on.

? Shannon L. Alder

I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pre-tense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.

? Meryl Streep

The problem about realising that you’re an INFJ is realising that while you understand yourself, no one else probably ever will.

Introverts, man. We’re weird sometimes. Like, “I love you, but I need to go over here by myself right now.

You were the hardest lesson I ever had to learn.

Only those who care about you can hear you when you are quiet.

Lions don’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.

Don’t let the mixed signals fool you. Indecision is a decision.

Isn’t it crazy how you could miss a place more than you miss a person? The same person that held your very hand walking down that same street? That spun you around, that kissed you in front of passing strangers? That looked you in the eyes and told you they love you and for that split second you began to believe it? That same person that keeps your mind awake at 4 am while you write about the way your jaw clenches and your fingertips start to tremble just when you hear their name slip from someone’s mouth. I began to feel sorry for myself because how

could I be so cruel to miss the place you would rest your hand on my knee rather than the feeling of my heart pacing faster and faster the closer you got to my thigh? But a place can’t hurt me. A place can’t make me feel like their “one and only” yet when midnight rolls around they’re telling another girl how sexy she looks with her hair down. A place can’t make every vein in my wrists go cold at the thought of you with someone else. A place can’t hurt me. But you can, you will, and you did.

? Orion Carloto