life works, character counts and the friends of the blake library present teen talk speaker: susan...
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Life Works, Character Countsand the Friends of the Blake Library Present
Teen Talk
Speaker: Susan Dockerill Founder of Life Works Parenting Tools
Teen TalkRelationship
Communication
New Direction
RELATIONSHIP
Nothing Works if the Relationship doesn’t work.
POWER
Power Over Blame Others Angry
Power Under Blame Self Guilt/Permissive
Personal Power Take 100% Responsibility
Empowered
In Control of Your Life
FEAR
FalseEvidenceAppearingReal
ACTA Way of behaving when things don’t
go your way.
3 to 5 years old
PAST Being right Attitude It’s not my fault Fighting Anger Out of Control
Blame No Responsibility Life’s Unfair Lying No trust I didn’t do it Fear Anxiety Depression Arguments Hurt I hate you!
Feeling Stoppers Moralize Lecture Humiliate Interrupt Calling names ignoring
Punishing Sarcasm Comparing to others Rescuing Assuming Making her feel guilty
If nothing changes the future will resemble the past.
Default Future
Past NOW Future
RELATIONSHIP Re-Establish The Relationship Focus on what you want to have happen in the
relationship. Clean up your part in why the relationship
doesn’t work What are you attached to? What are you committed to?
Feeling Encouragers
Listen Intently “What Else” Be Curious “Tell me some more” Then what
happened?” Validate Feelings “ I can see you are really
upset about this” Empathy “If I were you I’d feel the same way”
Communication How People Perform Correlates to how the
situation occurs to them. How a situation occurs includes your view of
the past (Why things are the way they are) and the future (where all this is going)
Our actions relate to how the world occurs to us, not to the way it actually is.
If nothing changes the future will resemble the past.
Default Future
Past NOW Future
RACKETS Complaint Act Pay Off Cost
Attatatchments Cell Phone IPOD Computer MY SPACE Being popular Not looking stupid Grades Computer
TV Sex Clothes Weight Sports Friends Skateboarding Drugs and Drinking
What will happen if nothing changes?
If nothing changes the future will resemble the past.
Default Future
Past NOW Future
Learn How To Live Powerfully and Love the Life You Live!
Redirecting Children/Teen Behavior
RCB BOOK and Workbook 5 Thursday Evenings 7:00 9:00pm May 21, 28 June 4,11,18
NOW
WORD
What if you could learn how to communicate in a way…
TouchMove Inspire
Attatatchments Cell Phone IPOD Computer MY SPACE Being popular Not looking stupid Grades Computer
TV Sex Clothes Weight Sports Friends Skateboarding Drugs and Drinking
Word +Action = New Possibilities
Invented Future
Past NOW Future
NOW
WORD
Commitment
Peace in your home
Love Forgiving Taking Care of Yourself Friendship Financial Freedom Mutual Respect
Happiness Listening Love Caring Keeping your word Living your dream Responsibility
RELATIONSHIP Re-Establish The Relationship Focus on what you want to have happen in the
relationship. Clean up your part in why the relationship
doesn’t work What are you attached to? What are you committed to?
TeensUniteUSA.COM New Possibility Website Connecting Teens to Careers Volunteer hours Peer Teen Coaching Teen Tutoring
NEW POSSIBILITES What is possible for you after tonight’s
seminar?
What are you committed to?
What action will you take to keep this going?