Welcome

Have you ever thought Have you ever thought about why we like about why we like Hershey Kisses?Hershey Kisses?

They taste good. They taste good. We feel better when we eat them.We feel better when we eat them.They are predictable. They are predictable. They meet our expectations.They meet our expectations.

The Magic of a Box of The Magic of a Box of ChocolatesChocolates

Sometimes we don’t know what is in the box.Sometimes we don’t know what is in the box. For some there is love and excitement.For some there is love and excitement. For some there is good along with the bad. For some there is good along with the bad. Sometimes they meltSometimes they melt Sometimes the choices do not meet our expectations.Sometimes the choices do not meet our expectations. Sometimes the choices exceed our expectations!Sometimes the choices exceed our expectations! Sometimes we just can’t say “No”Sometimes we just can’t say “No”

“Life is like a box of

chocolates”

  Hopes and Goals:

•Provoke thought!

•Share some meaningful skills.

•Enjoy our time together

•Be more like Mama! (Forrest)

Identify something that makes you smile!

Identify something that makes you laugh

Something you are Something you are thankfulthankfulA priority

in your life

Identify something you are proud of

Things you are

thankful for!

Something you do to Something you do to recover from the day.recover from the day.

“Stuff HappensForrest Gump

Which of these affects your life?

 

Rate of Change

Loss of controlLoss of control

Relationships are Relationships are complicatedcomplicated

Communicating effectivelyCommunicating effectively

Money Money IssuesIssues

How expensive is your chocolate?

Media Influences

Culture ChangeJob Loss

Divorce

Death

Relationship issues

Financial Issues

SYMPTOMS SYMPTOMS ANXIETYANXIETYMUSCLE TENSIONMUSCLE TENSIONSLEEP RELATED ISSUESSLEEP RELATED ISSUESSTOMACH PROBLEMSSTOMACH PROBLEMSDEPRESSIONDEPRESSIONIMMUNE SYSTEM IMMUNE SYSTEM

How many of these do you have?

Headaches

Heartaches

Backaches

Sadness

TensionANXIETY

““Life is like a two Life is like a two minute warning”minute warning”

“Forrest Gump”“Forrest Gump”

Make ChoicesMake Choices

FACTORS TO REDUCE ANXIETY

• NUTRTIONAL CONCERNS

• TENSION RELEASE AND DIVERSION

• COPING RESPONSES

•BELLY BREATHING

How many of you have sleep problems?

Actions you can take!

Prior to SleepCREATE RITUALS SLOW DOWN ONE TO TWO HOURS

BEFORE BED AVOID HEAVY MEALS & SNACKINGAVOID ALCOHOL And CAFFINE SLEEP IN ONE PLACENO TV,FOOD OR COMPUTER IN BED ROOM

TROUBLE GETTING TO SLEEP

AVOID IRRITANTS DO DEEP BREATHING OR DEEP MUSCLES

RELAXATIONS. LIMIT TIME TO BE RESTLESS.LIMIT LIGHT AND SOUNDSTILL CAN’T SLEEP GET UP – BE

POSITIVE

TROUBLE STAYING ASLEEP

DEEP RELAXATIONSNOTE PAD – WRITE THOUGHTSSET LIMITSGET UP AND BE POSITIVE

““Stupid is as Stupid is as stupid does!”stupid does!”

Forrest GumpForrest Gump

CHALLENGES WE CHALLENGES WE CREATECREATE

Things we do to ourselves!

CHOICES

WorryWorry

Challenge One

WORRY

Worry is like a rocking Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives you chair: It gives you something to do, but it something to do, but it doesn't get you doesn't get you anywhere.anywhere.

Erma BombeckErma Bombeck, , God's Little God's Little

Devotional Book for mothersDevotional Book for mothersUS author & humorist (1927 - 1996)US author & humorist (1927 - 1996)

The Nature of WorryThe Nature of WorryNon productive

thought

Same Concern

Morethought

Concern

Reoccurring thoughts

So what can you do?So what can you do?

SeekSeek

ActionAction

Be Clear worry is…Be Clear worry is…

Not productiveNot productiveNot rationalNot rationalEmotionally chargedEmotionally chargedMay have some truth in itMay have some truth in it

RE-DIRECT RE-DIRECT

YOUR YOUR THOUGHTS!THOUGHTS!

Seek ideas to improve upon the worst?

Act

Action Options Dale Carnegie

SEEK DIVERSIONSEXERCISE/ SPORTS HOBBIESESCAPES / MOVIES/

ENTERTAINMENT

CHALLENGE TWO

The UncontrollableSITAUTIONSAnd Worry

You have CONTROL and your

actions are evident

You have NO Control

and NO actions are evident

Action

Is

The Key

Acceptance can be an

Action

SITUATIONS MAY INCLUDE

ADDICTIONS

CHRONIC ILLNESS

FINANCIAL ISSUES

SPECIAL NEEDS CHILDREN

GENERAL ACTIONS YOU CAN SEEK

KNOWLEDGE AND LEARNINGSELF CAREBOUNDARIESSUPPORTSELF CARESTOP ENABLINGSTOP BEING A VICTUM

Acceptance is an action

IMAGES REALITIES

You have choices:You have choices:

+

YOUR LIFE IS MADE UP OF:

IF YOUR IMAGE OF LIFE AND YOUR IF YOUR IMAGE OF LIFE AND YOUR REALITY OF LIFE ARE REALITY OF LIFE ARE NOTNOT THE THE

SAME!SAME!

IMAGEIMAGE++REALITYREALITY==YOU YOU will be: will be:

YOURCHOICES

Change Your Reality!Change Your Reality! Image Image + + RealityReality == HAPPYHAPPY

Find the NEW dog YOU Find the NEW dog YOU REALLY WANT!REALLY WANT!

Change your image!Change your image!(New)(New)

Image + Reality =Image + Reality = HAPPY HAPPY

ACCEPT the dog you have!

IT’S YOUR LIFEIT’S YOUR LIFE

ACCEPTANCE IS A CHOICE

DO YOU HAVE ANY DOGS DO YOU HAVE ANY DOGS YOU DON’T WANT? YOU DON’T WANT?

OR OR

DO YOU HAVE ANY DO YOU HAVE ANY IMAGES/REALTIES YOU NEED IMAGES/REALTIES YOU NEED

TO CHANGE?TO CHANGE?

ACCEPTANCE IS A PROCESS!ACCEPTANCE IS A PROCESS!

Acceptance Is not complacency

Related actions may be: Reduce “Enabling”Denial does not work

CHALLENGE CHALLENGE THREETHREE

HOLDING ONHOLDING ON

Holding On Can be a Problem!Holding On Can be a Problem!

•Negative•Stuck in the past•Fatigued •Full of Resentment •Sarcastic•Angry

HOLDING-ON BEHAVIORS

Letting Go IS A Letting Go IS A Source of PowerSource of Power

Forgiveness

OPTIONSOPTIONSSeek helpSeek help

Talk to a friend or spouseTalk to a friend or spouseTalk to a clergyTalk to a clergySeek counselingSeek counselingGet on line and look for support Get on line and look for support

groupsgroups

““That is all I have to That is all I have to say about that.”say about that.”

Forrest GumpForrest Gump

So where do we go from hear?

CHALLENGE FOUR

CLEAR PRIORTIES

UnderstandingPriorities

OrderEnergySimplicity

What you focus on grows

Create PositiveMental Images

Setting Boundaries

“Good fences make good

neighbors”

Setting Boundaries

“Good Fences Make Good Neighbors”

Saying No!

++Sandwich Technique

Elements of saying “No”

Positive feeling messageNegative content message

Positive feeling message.

Positive Feeling Response:

Thank you for asking.

I can hear this is important to you!

I appreciate you thinking of me.

I can’t imagine the task that you have in front of you.

Negative Content I would be glad to help if ….

I would be glad to take you to the mall when…

If would be willing to help you if you will…

I am not available but feel free to ask me next week.

Positive Feeling Conclusion:

Thank you again for considering me.

I appreciate your thinking of me. Feel free to call me next year.

If you can give me a weeks notice I would be glad to help you out.

Refusal skillsFocus on what you will do not

on what they have to do.

You are welcome to … but I am going to stay.

Thank you for offering but I am not hungry.

Spend time daily reflecting on the life you

would like!

Grow yourself new Grow yourself new each day.each day.

Discover your potentialsDiscover your potentials

Rituals Rituals Daily activities that Daily activities that

rejuvenate and restore rejuvenate and restore you physically, you physically, mentally and mentally and

spiritually.spiritually.

““Life is 10% what happens Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% what I to me and 90% what I choose to do about it! All choose to do about it! All I can do is play on the I can do is play on the one string I have and one string I have and that is that is my attitudemy attitude!”!”

Charles SwindollCharles Swindoll

Attitude is Positively Attitude is Positively impacted byimpacted by

Our beliefsOur beliefsOur choicesOur choicesThe amount of power we give to The amount of power we give to

someone or something elsesomeone or something elseBy getting out of ourselvesBy getting out of ourselves

Create AnCreate An

Attitude Attitude ofof

GratitudeGratitude

Give BackGive Back

Get out of yourself!

If you want to be enthusiastic,

you have to act enthusiastic!

Carnegie

Quiet your often and consciously!Quiet your often and consciously!Qui

et

your

self

FrequentlyDeep

Breathing

HUMOR

“Laughter is the best medicine”

Muscular Strengthand

Muscular Endurance

CardiovascularExercise Flexibility

SEEK TO KNOW SEEK TO KNOW YOURSELF YOURSELF

PHYSICALLYPHYSICALLY

Eat to live…Eat to live…Eat consciouslyEat consciously

Seek Healthy Seek Healthy RelationshipsRelationships

Take time to keep your Take time to keep your relationships current.relationships current.

Leave no business Leave no business unfinishedunfinished

Pray and/or Pray and/or ReflectionReflection

Take time daily to be with yourself Take time daily to be with yourself and to listen to the voice inside.and to listen to the voice inside.

Prayer and Meditation are avenues Prayer and Meditation are avenues to finding peace and healing the to finding peace and healing the soulsoul

Be ExpressiveBe Expressive JOY IN THE CREATION YOURSELF IN ANDJOY IN THE CREATION YOURSELF IN AND LOOSE THE MOMENTLOOSE THE MOMENT

JOY IN THE JOY IN THE CREATIONCREATION

If you always do

What you always did,

You will always feel

What you always felt!

It’s your choiceIt’s your choice

Enjoy the ChocolateEnjoy the Chocolate

“Life is like a box of

chocolates”

Dr. Jim ScottFor more information:

Call 517-784-1332Website\contact: http://drjimscott.com

On line course: Managing Stress and Holistic Health HPF 283 Jackson Community College