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Leadership Basics 101:Leading a Cavalry Charge
Defying Gravity - Wonderful Ways to Worship
Saturday November 9, 2013
Mark J. BernsteinCERG Growth Development Consultant
Principles of Principles of LeadershipLeadership
Identifying a Identifying a LeaderLeader
Lack of Leaders Lack of Leaders in Our in Our
CongregationsCongregations
Searching for Searching for LeadersLeaders
What it takes to be What it takes to be a Leadera Leader
Listening WellListening Well
Creating Creating TrustTrust
So…what is leadership?
The only definition of a
leader is someone who has followers
Peter DruckerLeadership is
influence, nothing more, nothing less
John Maxwell
Leadership is a function of knowing yourself, having a vision that is well communicated, building trust among colleagues, and taking effective action to realize your own leadership potential.
Warren Bennis
“Who” LeadershipWe lead not by virtue of our title or position, but by virtue of who we are and what we
stand for.
Ways to Identify a Leader:
1. Evidence of leadership in the past2. Has a capacity to create vision3. Enjoys the thrill of the challenge4. Demonstrates a constructive spirit of discontent5. Offers practical ideas6. Takes responsibility and risks7. Is mentally tough8. Enjoys the respect of peers9. Has a quality that makes people listen
From Ten Ways to Identify a Promising Person. Fred Smith, 1996
10. Challenges the Status Quo
Again with the pondering??? Here’s what I’m pondering…I’m
pondering if there’s going to be an afternoon
snack.
1. Know and Commit
to Our Unitarian
Universalist Faith
2. Take Responsibility for Decisions
Made and Actions Taken
3. Understand and Respect Boundaries
Self-Differentiation
Extreme closeness creates emotional fusion. There is a need to think, feel or act alike. Perceived differences are
seen as threats.
Extreme separateness results in emotional cut-off. People avoid one another or protect their “turf”.
4. Give Yourself Permission to be Vulnerable
5. Live Your Values
Write Your Legacy:
How do you want to be remembered?
Gandhi spoke of absolute values or universal principles that guide our conduct. His were truth and nonviolence.
What are your absolute values?
Look to your legacy for the answers.
6. Empower Others
7. Embody the Mission of
Your Congregation
8. Listen Well; Instill Trust
A MAN IS AFRAID TO GO HOME
BECAUSE THERE IS A MAN WITH A MASK WAITING
FOR HIM
Deep Listening is miraculous for both listener and speaker. When someone receives us with open-hearted, non-judging, intensely interested listening, our spirits
expand.
Sue Patton Thoele
4 Cores of Credibility
1. Integrity:
It’s walking your talk. It’s being congruent, inside and out. It’s having the courage to act in accordance with your values and beliefs.
2. Intent: Our motives, our agendas and our resulting behavior. Trust grows when our motives are straightforward and based on mutual benefit, when we genuinely care not only for ourselves but also for the people we interact with, lead or serve.
4 Cores of Credibility
3. Capabilities: The abilities we have that inspire confidence: our talents, attitudes, skills, knowledge and style. They are the means we use to produce results. Capabilities also deal with our ability to establish, grow, extend and restore trust.
4. Results: Our track record, our performance, our getting the right things done. If we don’t accomplish what we are expected to do, it diminishes our credibility. On the other hand, when we achieve the results we promised, we establish a positive reputation of performing, of being a producer, and our reputation precedes us.
The 13 Behaviors for Cultivating Trust
Character
Talk Straight
Demonstrate Respect
Create Transparency
Right Wrongs
Show Loyalty
Competence
Deliver Results
Get Better
Confront Reality
Clarify Expectations
Practice Accountability
The 13 Behaviors for Cultivating Trust
Character and Competence
Listen First
Keep Commitments
Extend Trust
The quickest way to decrease trust is to violate a behavior of character, while the quickest way to increase trust is to demonstrate a behavior of
competence.