SERVING WITH BALANCETERRY L. LEDFORD, PH.D.

Maintaining Balance

Scripture

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,

Ephesians 5:15

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33

I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

Philippians 4:13

Result of Imbalance

Burnout

Relationship Problems

Depression

Anxiety

Anger

BURNOUT

“an extended period of time where someone experiences exhaustion and a lack of interest in things, resulting in a decline in their job performance.” American Psychological Association

Signs of Burnout Exhaustion Lack of Motivation Frustration, cynicism and other negative emotions Cognitive Problems Slipping job performance Interpersonal problems at home and at work Not taking care of yourself Being preoccupied with work, even when you’re not at

work. Generally decreased satisfaction Health Problems

Relationship Problems

Depression

Anxiety

Anger

Reasons We Lose Our Balance

Wrong beliefs about God

Wrong beliefs about self

Wrong focus of attention

Wrong perception of time

Wrong choices

Wrong Beliefs About God

Wrong Beliefs About Self

Every human being has an area of enduring vulnerability.

PERSON PERFORMANCE

Wrong Beliefs About Self

Person I’m not important. I’ll be rejected. I’m not likeable. I’m not loveable. No one wants to spend

time with me.

Performance I’m a failure. I can’t do anything right. I’ll mess it up. Others judge me. I’m inadequate.

Wrong Focus of Attention Focusing on failure experiences, while ignoring successes.

Focusing on rejection experiences, while ignoring love/attention.

Focusing on negative events, while ignoring positives.

Focusing on what you can do, rather than on what God can do.

Focusing on work, while ignoring family.

Focusing on work, while ignoring self-care.

Wrong Perception of Time

“This won’t take me any time.

“I should be able to do this faster.”

“I should have made more progress by now.”

“I’ll just work on this about thirty minutes.”

Wrong Choices Choosing withdrawal and isolation.

Choosing escape.

Choosing blame.

Choosing more work.

Choosing to depend on self, rather than depending on God.

Choosing to work, rather than pray.

Wrong Choices

Choosing ……

Maintaining Balance

God is not your co-pilot.

Practice total dependence on God.

Practice relaxation as if fits you.

Engage in a non-productive pleasurable activity.

Set boundaries on work and technology.

Practice organization techniques.

Maintaining Balance Get enough sleep.

Ask for help.

Be assertive (non-assertive ----------assertive----------aggressive)

Know when it’s you and when it’s them.

Monitor yourself for symptoms of stress/imbalance.

Know when to quit and move on.

Scripture And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a

desolate place and rest a while.” For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat. Mark 6:31

And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed. Mark 1:35

Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

1 Peter 5:8

THANK YOU!QUESTIONS?

Terry L. Ledford, Ph.D.

www.TerryLedford.com

Psych-tl@.msn.com

(828) 287-7806