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Copyright 2007, Kaarin Alisa All rights reserved 2 http://www.kaarinalisa.com

Welcome Phoenix!

Yes!

You are a phoenix, or rather, there is a phoenix inside you, and you canunleash your phoenix to help you make big and lasting changes in your life ifthat is your desire! This special report will concentrate on overcoming badhabits. More information about what your inner phoenix can do for you isavailable at http://www.kaarinalisa.com.

Everyone has habits. Some habits are good for you, like brushing your teethregularly. Other habits are not so good, like procrastinating paying your billsuntil they are overdue!

In this special report, I will reveal to you some simple strategies for kickingany habit you wish to eliminate by tapping into your inner phoenix and simply

paying attention.

These powerful techniques have been used by countless people to transform

their lives for the better. They can help you too!

P.S. Throughout this report I refer to your phoenix as she. Please do notbe offended if you are a man. Just substitute the word he for she and keepgoing! After all, you really do have both male and female aspects to yourbeing whether you know it yet or not! *smile*
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You and the Phoenix

You may have heard of the ancient Egyptian Phoenix; a magical, mythical birdthat regenerates itself from the ashes of its own funeral pyre. Or perhaps

you have heard of Feng Huang; the Chinese Phoenix that appears only intimes of prosperity and brings peace, longevity, and grace. Perhaps you haveheard of any of the other phoenixes mentioned in the folklore of almostevery ancient culture on earth. Even the wildly popular Harry Potter bookswritten by J. K. Rowling feature a phoenix whose tears can heal the mostsevere maladies.

The Phoenix that resides within you is none of these, but does share some oftheir characteristics. Among other things, your phoenix is a master of manyessential life traits, such as perseverance, gratitude, forgiveness, thought,action, intention, and observation. If you spend the time to find and unleash

your inner phoenix, you will have access to life tools that will help youtransform your life for the better.

So I challenge you. Right now, today, as you are reading this report,acknowledge your inner phoenix. Bow to her, ask for her help, and make

ready to pay attention to your life and, yes

to soar!


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Habits

Oh my!

We all have habits. Habits are very important to living a good and effectivelife. Many people think of habits only as bad things they need to overcome.But habits are simply the unconscious things we do without having to applyconscious thought to do them.

Here's an example :

Remember when you first learned to drive a car? You sat down in thedriver's seat and had no idea what to do first. Do you fasten yourseatbelt? Do you put the key in the ignition? Do you adjust themirrors? The list of things you could do first goes on and on. And thelist gets much longer as soon as you put your foot on the gas pedal andbegin to move the vehicle!

If you had to think about everything on that list every time you gotbehind the wheel, you would never get out of your driveway, let alonego anywhere else! But by the time you got your driver's license, mostof these things had become habits. I know when I sit down behind

the wheel, I put the key in the ignition, fasten my seatbelt, check themirrors, turn the ignition key, check the gas level, pop on the radio,adjust the environmental controls, and put the car in gear and I don'teven think about what I'm doing until I am ready to pull out intotraffic. I don't think about these things, they just all happen as aresult of sitting down in the driver's seat. My sub-conscious mind hasbeen programmed to do it all for me.

This is a good example of a set of habits that serve life. They make life

more efficient. Without good habits like this everything you do would beharder. And of course you really want things to be easier, not harder!

Celebrate habits for their ability to help you. Be grateful for your sub-conscious mind and its ability to learn and deploy actions for you. What amarvelous mechanism you have to create and sustain habits: good habits andbad habits!


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Bad Habits

While your sub-conscious mind is busy creating habits to make your life workbetter, it does not have the ability to distinguish between habits that serve you and habits that detract from the life you truly want. Your sub-consciouswill simply create a habit out of anything you do on a regular basis.

This is good news and bad news! The good news is that if you want toestablish a habit, all you have to do it perform the action associated withthe habit over and over until it becomes a pattern. The bad news is that if

you perform an action over and over again it will become a habit!

Simply performing an action over and over will create a subconscious patternto do it more often. The more you perform the action, the more ingrainedthe habit will become.

N OTICE : BAD HABITS ARE SIMPLY ACTIONS YOU HAVEPERFORMED TIME AND TIME AGAIN THAT NO LONGER

SERVE YOU.

Now, here is the rub! Once a habit is established, especially if that habithas been years in the making, it can take quite a lot of effort to abandon it.In fact, if all you are trying to do is abandon a long-standing habit, you mayindeed fail. The sub-conscious mind only deals with things in the positive. If

you concentrate on not doing a thing, the thing itself is all the sub-consciousmind will recognize and the habit will stay firmly entrenched in your life.What a sad fact!

This is where your inner phoenix comes into the picture. Your phoenix knows

how to take action. Your phoenix is a master of action. If you let your innerphoenix guide you, you will have the ability to supplant any habitual actionwith a new action that serves you better.

Your phoenix knows this by paying attention!


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Paying Attention

With some focused attention on any area of your life you can create goodhabits to support the life you desire.

With attention, you have choices. Without it, you are living life on autopilot.Sometimes that is okay. But more often than not, you are missing out on anopportunity to make conscious choices.

The majority of people I have worked with do not pay attention to most oftheir life. They may pay attention to one or two aspects of their life, butnot to their entire life. They let habits run most of their days and only payattention to their children or their jobs or their coveted desires.

But paying attention to your life is the only opportunity you have tounderstand what it is you are currently doing. It also helps you discern ifthe habits you have right now are helping or hindering your life.

Let's begin!

To begin the process of paying attention to your life just ask yourself

regularly throughout the day, 'What am I doing now?' Focus on the actions you are taking, including the actions of thought. Don't worry yet about why you are taking these actions, just observe yourself.

Remember, observation is neutral. Observation has no judgment. Your innerphoenix is a master at observation. Your phoenix always knows what she isdoing, even if what she is doing is nothing. I'm guessing, however, that if

you truly pay attention you will find that you are rarely, if ever, doingnothing!

Here's an example of doing nothing:

You come home from a hard day at the office. After changing out of your work clothes and greeting others who live with you, or checking your voice mail and e-mail, you plop down on the couch, grab theremote, and turn on the TV.


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Then the phone rings. It turns out to be your best friend and whenshe asks you what you are doing, you say, "Nothing."

Excuse me while I chuckle, but you were far from doing nothing.

Let me ask your phoenix here what were you doing? Ahhhh... I see Hereis what your phoenix said.

You were:

Watching TV Trying to relax

Worrying about work tomorrow Wondering if the plans you have for the weekend are the ones youwant

Wondering what is for dinner Realizing your feet hurt Trying to remember if you saw this program before Ignoring the chores you have to do Listening to the neighbor's dog bark again

See what I mean? Were you really doing nothing?

N OTICE : BECOMING AWARE OF WHAT YOU ARE DOING , GIVES YOU THE POWER TO CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE DOING !

It is too overwhelming to perform this exercise all day long. You would getnothing else done! But try it at intervals. Perhaps once every hour,whatever interval doesn't seem overwhelming to start. Most people find

this exercise fun and very, very enlightening!Once you learn how to pay attention to what you are currently doing, you canbegin to figure out if what you are currently doing is what you really want todo. Making these changes and creating new habits can only be accomplishedwith action.


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What You Want

Knowing what you want is not always clear. Knowing what you want is thebug-a-boo of many people I know. When you ask most people what they wantthey will give you a stock answer. Something like:

Lots of money A sexy body A soul-mate Happiness A new house

While these are all fine things to want, they are too general to be of anyreal use when trying to create change in your life.

The truth is, your inner phoenix always knows exactly what you want in finedetail. The trick is listening to what she has to say.

N OTICE : I F YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IT IS YOU WANT , YOUCAN FORMULATE THE ACTIONS TO MAKE IT HAPPEN !

I have one thing more to say about getting what you want before I revealhow to listen to what your phoenix is telling you.

Your desires have to be realistic. If you are a man, you will not succeed ifwhat you want is to be pregnant. If you are 50, you will not succeed if what

you want is to be 20 again. These are no-brainers that everyone can agreeare impossibilities.

However, where most people fail is to compare their desires not to reality,but to their judgment of who they currently are.

N OTICE : I F YOU WORK FOR CHANGE , WHO YOU ARE NOW ISGOING AWAY ! COMMON SENSE TELLS YOU TO USE YOUR VISIONOF THE FUTURE AS YOUR GUIDE , NOT YOUR PRESENTCIRCUMSTANCES !


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Here's an example:

You make a good income, enough to pay your rent and put food on thetable. You even make enough to have a few hundred dollars in your

pocket for fun stuff each month.

But it's not really the life you want. You desire to increase yourincome by $2,000 a month. This would give you that beautiful new car

you want and a good vacation; not to mention a new wardrobe, a newTV, and that sweet new stereo system you saw recently.

You look at your life and realize that given what you do for a living,and your education, as well as how much you have ever made in the

past, that extra $2,000 is out of the question. For the person you areright now, there is no way you will make that much money!

So you give up.

The reality is though, that even if it takes time and effort, you probably can boost your income by $2,000 a month. But to believe that fact you have tostop comparing your desire with who you currently are! Who you currentlyare has been formed by the sub-conscious habits you are about to change!

Your inner phoenix knows better. She knows you can get what you want.Listen to her and these concerns will vanish.

Okay, let's explore how you listen to your phoenix when she tells you what you want. It's very simple if you use The Want List.


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The Want List

The want list is a very simple exercise that takes about a week to complete.You spend 20 minutes a day for 7 days and then, on the 8 th day, you will beable to write a comprehensive list of exactly what it is you want.

Sound unbelievable? It's not, it's 100% doable. I have seen this workwonders for many people and it can work wonders for you too. *smile*

Here's the formula for The Want List:

What you need:

20 minutes a day of quiet time set aside. (Plan on Day 8 takingmore time.)

A pad of paper and pencil or- a computer with a word-processingprogram.

A willingness to explore your desires; including your physicaldesires, your mental/emotional desires, and your spiritual desires.

What you do:

Beginning steps for each session, each day:

Find your quiet place and close your eyes. Take several deep breathes to help relax yourself. Greet your inner phoenix and welcome her participation in

this exercise. Remind yourself to not judge anything you think or feel.

Ready yourself to start writing.


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Day 1:

Perform the beginning steps.

Write down everything you think you want: do not eliminateanything. And do not judge it. Just put down everythingthat comes to mind.

This should be pretty rapid and your list will be long! Set this list aside.

Day 2:

Same as day 1, but do not think about or look at your listfrom day 1. Start fresh! (Most people find that their listgets shorter with each iteration. But if yours doesn't that'sokay!)

Day 3:

Perform the beginning steps. Take the lists from day 1 and day 2 and compare them. Notice the similarities and differences. Consolidate them into one list, striking out things that are

redundant, consolidating things that are similar, andeliminating anything that stands out as no longer desired.

Set this list aside.

Day 4:

Same as day 1, but do not think about or look at any of yourprevious lists. Start fresh!

Day 5:

Same as day 1, but do not think about or look at any of yourprevious lists. Again, start fresh!


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Day 6:

Perform the beginning steps. Take the lists from day 4 and day 5 and compare them.

Notice the similarities and differences. Consolidate them into one list, striking out things that areredundant, consolidating things that are similar, andeliminating anything that stands out as no longer desired.


Day 7:

Perform the beginning steps.

Take the lists from day 3 and day 6 and compare them. Notice the similarities and differences. Consolidate them into one list, striking out things that are

redundant, consolidating things that are similar, andeliminating anything that stands out as no longer desired.


Day 8 (now for the real fun):

Perform the beginning steps. Take the list from day 7. Look it over carefully. Remember there is no judgment as to whether or not you

think you can do any of these. These are desires. Think about each line item. Rewrite that line to truly reflect this desire. Embellish this

item to include details about it. For example, if one of yourdesires is to remodel your kitchen, add to this item what youwant the kitchen to be like. Instead of "remodel thekitchen" you may write "remodel the kitchen by adding acenter island, making the room bigger, installing agreenhouse window, and bringing more natural materials intothe construction." Put in whatever matches the picture youhave in your mind of a remodeled kitchen.

Rejoice at finding your desires!


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Congratulations! If you have suspended your judgment, listened to yourphoenix, and have been honest with yourself, this will be a pretty accuratereflection of what you want in your life right now. You should feel a thrill

when you look at this list. Give yourself the gift of reading this list overseveral times and feel the feelings you would feel if all these things weretruly made manifest through action!


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Manifest through Action

So now what? Now you combine all of this good stuff and transform yourlife!

Each of these newly uncovered desires can become its own action plan. Isuggest you look at your list of desires and determine three things:

1. Where is the best place to start,2. What actions must you take to make this desire a reality, and3. Which of your current habits do not support these actions?

NOTICE : AS YOU MOVE CLOSER TO YOUR DESIRES , YOUR DESIRESWILL UNDOUBTEDLY CHANGE. T HIS IS A DYNAMIC PROCESS AND I URGE YOU TO REVISIT YOUR LIST OF DESIRES REGULARLY . EVERY 3 TO4 MONTHS IS A GOOD TIMEFRAME TO CONSIDER .

Where to Start?

Pick the low-hanging fruit to start with! If your list of desires is twentylong, surely you will notice that some of them look easier to accomplish thanothers, or that some of them must be accomplished before others.

For example:

If one of your desires is to spend 2 months in China, and anotherdesire is to make $2,000 more each month so you can afford to taketime off and travel, then you can easily see that the increasedearnings are necessary in order to pay for the travel. So you startwith the desire of earning extra money.

You may find that the assigning order to all your desires may not be as easyor clear as it is in this example, but if that is so, just pick one! You wantthem all so it doesn't really matter which one you start with!


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Avoid the Pitfalls?

How do you avoid the pitfalls? Well, unfortunately, the answer is you can't!You can overcome them in time, but falling short of the mark from time-to-time is probably inevitable.

What counts in changing your habits is:

1. Giving it your full attention, so that when you are tempted to returnto old behaviors you are aware of the choice you are making to do so.

Example: Remind yourself of the desire you are postponing bysuccumbing to your old habit. This is a good way to stay on track.

2. Give yourself short-term rewards for doing a good job. Nicely, yourdesires list now becomes your long-term rewards, but daily changerequires something much more immediate to be motivating in themoment.

Example: You may decide that when you have accomplished your newaction of going to karate class for 6 weeks that you will treat yourself

to a new outfit. Karate will continue, your long-term goal is not yetrealized, but you have a short-term goal to keep you motivated!

3. When the day comes and you do fail to uphold your new habit, employsome of your phoenix' other tools and forgive yourself, pick yourselfup, and persevere with your new action the next time.

Do this and before you know it, you will have new habits that support yourlife and bring you closer to your true desires each and every day.

I wish you and your phoenix supreme success!

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