K-5 BullyingADVICE FOR KIDSBY: J E R RY SC O TT , K R I S T I N SC H RAD E R & J U L I E TA O N T I V E RO SK E I S E R U N I V E R S IT YE D U 5 1 1 – I N T E GRAT I V E I N S T R U C T I O N A L T E C H N O LO GYD R. R I C H AR D D I E T Z E LAP R I L 1 2 , 2 0 1 5

What is Bullying? Bullying is when an individual or group of people repeatedly and intentionally cause hurt or harm to another person or group of people who feel helpless to respond. Don’t be afraid to speak up or turn to an adult you trust for help. Talk to different people you trust until you get the help you need and the bullying STOPS. Letting the situation continue and repeat more than once can be dangerous.

Types of BullyingPhysical Bullying Verbal Bullying Covert or Hidden Bullying Cyberbullying

• Hitting, kicking, tripping, pinching , pushing and/or damaging property

• Name calling, insults, teasing, intimidation, homophobic, racist remarks and or verbal abuse.

• Lying and spreading rumors• Negative facial or physical

gestures, menacing or contemptuous looks

• Playing nasty jokes to embarrass and humiliate

• Mimicking unkindly• Encouraging others to socially

exclude someone• Damaging someone's social

reputation or social acceptance.

• Abusive or hurtful texts, emails, posts, images or videos

• Deliberately excluding others online

• Nasty gossip or rumors• Imitating others online

or using their log-in.

How to determine if you are being bullied

Bullies make you feel as if you …•Are afraid to go to school, feel unsafe•Can’t sleep or you have nightmares•Don’t want to be around family and friends•Can’t concentrate at school or on your homework•Get into trouble all the time•Are angry for no reason•Are not hungry •Have unexplained headaches or stomach aches•Are sad•Are guilty•Feel what’s happening is your fault (IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT)•Feel ashamed•Are not worth much (YOU ARE WORTH MUCH MORE)

How to STOP bullies NOBODY can determine or define who you are and how you feel. You have the power to having a good day, feeling confident and standing up for what is right…

•Tell someone, just talking about the situation will help and place things in a different perspective. Talk to someone you trust

like a friend, parent or teacher who will take what you say seriously.•Keep a log/record of each incident (include date and time)•Reach out to a kids helpline or website. There are so many

resources online. You are not alone!Don’t let Bullies win

• Act unimpressed. pretend not to notice if you’re excluded or say something like, “yeah”, “whatever” or “Oh, OK ”

•Walk away•Pretend to agree “yep, that’s what I’m like alright”, “Yeah, I’ve got

red hair, tried dyeing it but decided it was better red than green”…

•Look around for other friendship groups in or out of school.

How to STOP bullies To STOP Cyberbullies…

•Block senders. Don’t respond to provocations•To save evidence , send them to someone else, don’t look at them yourself•Change passwords regularly•Clean out your contact list•Don’t retaliate•Ask for help, talk to a trusted friend, parent or teacher•If you receive threats or calls to harm yourself, report abuse to the police and ISP or

website immediately. •Don’t post any personal information online (for example, your address

and think twice before posting a photo)

Be More Than a Bystander•Don’t give bullying an audience. Walk away, don’t encourage the behavior.•There are different ways to help the person being bullied get away. Just be sure you not to put yourself in harms way. •You can help someone being bullied by simply being nice to them at another time. Be their friend and let them know they are not alone.•Don’t Bully others. You can actively participate in anti-bulling activities and projects; set the •example.

Setting the Example…

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE!

References http://www.ncab.org.au/

http://www.stopbullying.gov/respond/be-more-than-a-bystander/index.html

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