it’s not only what you say, but how you say it
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Appreciative Advising & Nonverbal Communication. It’s Not Only What You Say, But How You Say It. Hello. Thanks for joining us this morning. JOYA KONIECZNY, Supervisor of Undergraduate Academic Advising. ARIN ELY, Supervisor of Enrollment and Academic Advising. Now it’s your turn. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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IT’S NOT ONLY WHAT YOU SAY, BUT HOW YOU SAY ITAppreciative Advising & Nonverbal Communication
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ARIN ELY,Supervisor of
Enrollment and Academic Advising
Hello. Thanks for joining us this morning.
JOYA KONIECZNY, Supervisor of
Undergraduate Academic Advising
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Now it’s your turn.
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I. Overview of Nonverbal Communication
II. Advising Theory III. Implementation & Examples
What to expect:
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PERCEPTIONS: WHAT DO YOU SEE?
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PERCEPTIONS: WHAT DO YOU SEE?
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PERCEPTIONS: WHAT DO YOU SEE?
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATIONSpoken Word
7%
Voice38%Body
Lan-guage55%
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communicati
on
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
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NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Nonverbal Communication
Appearance & Adornment
Use of Space (Proxemics)
Touch (Haptics)
Eye Contact & Facial
ExpressionsVocalics
Body Language (Kinesics)
Environment & Artifacts
Use of Time (Chronemics)
Word Choice
& Langua
ge Device
s
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MIRROR ACTIVITY
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SOCIAL CONSTRUCTIVISM People working together to construct
meaning Filters we choose to place over our
realities When information comes into contact
with existing knowledge / experiences
Appreciative Advising (AA) is a social-constructivist advising philosophy
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APPRECIATIVE ADVISING: 6 PHASES
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1DISARM
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DISARM
Chronemics (are you on time for the appointment?)
Proxemics (do you stand at the doorway or go up to the student to greet them?)
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DISARM Appearance & Adornment
(what you’re wearing says a lot about you)
“Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear what
you’re saying.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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DISARM Appearance & Adornment
Attention Advisors:Your boss notices how you
dress too!
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DISARM Facial Expressions & Eye Contact Kinesics (body language) Haptics (handshake)
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DISARM
Don’t forget to pay attention to the student’s nonverbal cues from the moment you greet them
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DISARM Environment & Artifacts (what
does your office say about you?)
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DISARM Environment & Artifacts (what
does your office say about you?)
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2 & 3DISCOVER & DREAM
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DISCOVER & DREAM Word Choice (open-ended questions)
How are you? Tell me about your day
Do you have any questions?
What questions do you have?
Have I answered all of your questions?
What else can I help with today?
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Proactive vs. Reactive
DISCOVER & DREAM Vocalics (tone, pitch, volume, etc.)
“There’s nothing we can do”
“I can’t”“I must”“If only”
“Let’s look at our alternatives”“I choose”“I prefer”
“I will”
Adapted from Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People program
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DISCOVER & DREAM
Kinesics & Facial Expressions (your body language should “match” your message)
Proxemics (face student, distance between you)
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DISCOVER & DREAM
Kinesics & Facial Expressions (your body language should “match” your message)
Proxemics (face student, distance between you)
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DISCOVER & DREAM Eye Contact
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4DESIGN
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DESIGN Environment & Artifacts (hands-on) Engage students with resources / tools
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DESIGN Kinesics & Facial Expressions
Don’t get swept up in what you’re doing and
forget about your
expressions, reactions, etc.
ANGER FEAR DISGUST
SADNESSHAPPINESSSUPRISE
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5DELIVER
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DELIVER How you say it: language devices
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DELIVER How you say it: language devices
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DELIVER How you say it: language devices
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DELIVER End on a positive note Follow-up after the appointment
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6DON’T SETTLE
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DON’T SETTLE Keep your cool
You did WHAT!‽!
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DON’T SETTLE Pay attention – is he/she not
telling you something?
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DON’T SETTLE Don’t give up in tough situations
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DON’T SETTLE Go above and beyond
“There are no shortcuts to anyplace worth
going.”- Beverly Sills
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TAKE WHAT YOU LEARNED, AND PUT IT INTO ACTION
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We hope you enjoyed our presentation.
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