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Lack#1 CauseIs the

of communication

Of failed marriages.

In a recent poll of several dozen Law Firms, over

50%Of divorcesare a result of social media

(Facebook, Twitter, etc)

Proverbs 18:21“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.”

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Prerequisites for Good Communication

TimeEcclesiastes 3:1

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven

Trust1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love

TransparencyJames 5:16Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

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Words we must avoid

Words that Curse a

Relationship• Lying Words• Silent Words• Corrupt Words• Hurtful Words• Foolish Words• Joking Words

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Words we must adopt

Words that bless a

Relationship• Truthful Words• Edifying Words• Gracious Words• Kind Words• Tender Words• Forgiving Words• Thankful Words

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Keys to Good Communication

Keys to Good Communication• Seek to Understand, not to

be understood

Proverbs 18:2A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.

Keys to Good Communication• Seek to Understand, not to be

understood• Realize that you may not know

what you think you know

Keys to Good Communication• Seek to Understand, not to be

understood• Realize that you may not know

what you think you know• Don’t interruptProverbs 18:13He who answers before listening that is his folly and his shame.

Keys to Good Communication• Seek to Understand, not to be

understood• Realize that you may not know

what you think you know.• Don’t interrupt• Pay attention to non-verbal

communication

Keys to Good Communication• Disagree without being

disagreeableProverbs 15:1A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Keys to Good Communication• Disagree without being

disagreeable• Pray for each other and with

each other• When you’re wrong, admit it.• When you’re right, keep quiet• Yield your rights• Speak the truth in LOVE

Ephesians 4:29Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Proverbs 15:4The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.

Proverbs 16:24Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Romans 14:19Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.

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Rules of Engagement

Rules of Engagement

Two Assumption we MUST agree to:

• The person is more important than the issue.

• It’s more important to be reconciled than to be right.

Rule 1It’s ok to ask the question: “How did this conversation start?” or “Why are we talking about this?”

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Rule 2Call for a TIME-OUT

“What I’m hearing you say is...”

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Rule 3Who will run to the foot of the Cross first?

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Rule 4No significant, critical, or deep conversation after 10:30PM

Rules of Engagement

According to theAmerican Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers:

Lack #1 CauseIs the

of communication

Of failed marriages.

TOP 3Issues in marriage

MoneySEX

InLawsAs a Result of poor communication

Communication Takes...

Time, Trust, and

Transparency

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