increasing your influence lisa slattery walker leadership unc charlotte january 15, 2014
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Increasing Your Influence
Lisa Slattery WalkerLeadership UNC CharlotteJanuary 15, 2014
OverviewInfluence and PersuasionNonverbal Negotiation
Influence and Persuasion
InfluencePressure to conform, especially
applied to newcomers and in cohesive groups
Attitude change versus compliance
Importance of appearance
Being liked versus being seen as competentTo be liked: show interest, smile,
nod, listen more than you talk, maintain eye contact, pay compliments, point out similarities
To be seen as competent:◦Be liked◦Make someone else seem competent
Other paths to influenceBe group-oriented, not self-
servingApologize when appropriateSelf-discloseAllow yourself to be influenced
PersuasionEffectiveness of persuasive
messages depends on:◦The source◦The message◦The target
Nonverbal Negotiation
The Power of Body LanguagePosture and Stance
◦Stand or sit up straight◦When seated, place both feet flat on
the floor◦Lean forward◦Don’t cross your arms
Hands◦Don’t touch your face◦Keep both hands out in the open◦Do not grip or clasp your hands
The Power of the EyesDO:
◦Make direct eye contact◦Smile with the eyes as well as the
mouth◦Watch the pupils of their eyes
DON’T:◦Stare or glare◦Look away when someone is talking
to you◦Roll or rapidly move your eyes◦Blink often
Internal and External PowerTo increase external power:
◦Keep the negotiating environment appropriate
◦Be dressed and groomed appropriately
◦Speak slowly and clearly◦Lower your voice tone◦Be courteous
Internal and External PowerTo increase internal power:
◦Practice several times◦Be thoroughly prepared. Think
through contingencies◦Have everything you need with you◦Truly believe in yourself