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LOVE IN THE MEDIA
Love in the media portrays instant romance, instant connection, and instant gratification. Not to burst anyone’s bubble however love is not instantaneous. Love takes time, growth, pain and desire to get to know someone that you will potentially end up loving in the end.
Love is glamorized in the media whether it be television, film, or ads. America’s society wants to see love in the way that they wish their relationships love is.
LOVE IN THE MEDIA
“A real relationship is one where you take out the
garbage, pay the bills and talk about your kids. A lot
of it is really boring. What people don’t realize,
though, is that the best day of their lives includes all
that boring stuff…..” (Kircher, 2011)
Reid Daitzman Ph.D., practicing clinical psychologist and CEO of Foursight Game Systems stated:
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“You can’t trust the “connection” that two people have on
screen because you know that they are just acting.” –Lauren
(friend)
“Love is not real on TV.” –Cindy (mother)
“It seems like they have to hire real couples to show “real love”
in films.” –Lindsey (co-worker)
I asked some friends and family to tell me what they thought of love portrayal in the media and this is what they said….
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Clip from Sleepless in Seattle:
Meeting for the first time. http://
www.youtube.com/watch?v=qeY1mk
XqKgk This clip shows Annie and Same meeting for the very
first time. When they look into each other's eyes there is
an immediate sense that they already love each other.
Love is not instantaneous it is like a flower that needs to
be nurtured and fed to grow. I don’t think that love is
portrayed correctly based on reality.
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Clip from While
You Where
Sleeping: End http://
www.youtube.com/w
atch?v=s_1M-4lIfnA
After heartache from
telling the family the
truth about her lies.
Jack seems to still love
her and admits that he
wants to be with her.
After her lying…
everyone still loves
her?! Love is not
portrayed towards real
life because how can
you base your love on
lies?
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Clip from The Notebook: Where Noah asks Alli to go out with him.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9eACebMOtv8
Noah risks his safety and ego to ask Alli to go
on a date with him, let alone she is on a date
with a different man while he asks her. No man
would put his ego on the line and then go in
front of another guy and disrespect him by
asking his girl on a date. I can see a man going
above and beyond for a woman he maybe
interested but if she initially says no the first
time then she still means no the second time.
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Clip from The Notebook: Where Noah and Alli die
together. http://
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ielkiD8w-M8 As much as we want to be with our
significant other forever there is a point
and time where we must pass on. In the
portrayal of this clip the percentage is
very low when a couple dies together
however dying close in a timespan is
more believable.
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Clip from He Is Just Not That Into You. http://
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ym1HWuHJQTE
This clip portrays honesty. It is about two people that love
each other however are wanting different things in life that
are important to them and so they address it to one another
and re-evaluate if being with each other is right.
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Q: In the medium you viewed and recorded, are the portrayals
mostly companionate love or passionate love or some
combination of the two?
A: I believe that all of the films except for He Is Just Not That
Into You are all passionate love because they are all absorbed
into one another and there is nothing else in this world but you. I
believe that people can have these feelings for another person
however the passionate love lasts during the first stage of
dating.
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Q: Do you think your selected medium “clips”
portray a realistic view of love and partnership? Why
or why not?
A: All of them show some sort of reality dealing
with love where they have a connection and common
interest with one another however the way that
media addresses how love can always be some
glamorous and whimsical is not realistic it is a
fantasy. Love can be an amazing part of life however
the simplicity of love is more realistic.
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Q: What are the dangers of relying on media definitions of
love and relationships?
A: I think the dangers can be that expectations are going to
be so high and comparing your relationship to a media one
can really ruin a real relationship that you can have. Media
shows the fantasy of what everyone wants in love or a
relationship but with out own love story isn’t that enough to
live for without comparing ourselves to the media definitions?
WORKS CITED
Kircher, J. a. (2011, April 12). Does Media Distort Love? Retrieved
December 04, 2013, from Relevant: http://
www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationship/features/25275-distortin
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