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Personal Resilience TrainingPersonal Resilience Training
(How to Bounce not Break)(How to Bounce not Break)
With Mark Walsh
House KeepingHouse Keeping
PromisePromise
By the end of today you will have improved resilience
If you practice and review the work for 3 months you’ll have greatly improved resilience
Why Bother?Why Bother?
“AAAAAAhhhhhhhh”
your aims for todayyour aims for today
• be specific
• “by 5pm I...”
• link to what matters to you
LearningLearning(It’s not school)
This usually helps:This usually helps:Be open
Be focussedBe curious and have fun
Make practical and applicable to you
(ask questions)
StrengtStrength is...?h is...?
What What makes makes people people
resilient is...resilient is...
A time when I was A time when I was resilient was...resilient was...
Definitions?Definitions?Resilience is...
- Bouncing back from pressure, stress and adversity- Grace under fire
- Blossoming in the desert
Stress FactsStress Facts
Stress is the leading cause of work absence
Costs a silly amount - UK £26 billion annually (£1035 per person
Stress is the joint leading factor in divorces (Bodenmann, et al.,
2007).
The main killers in the West are stress related
Physical ResponsePhysical Response
Stress ResponseStress Response
Coping Mechanisms
Thinking
Trigger (Neutral)
Integral Resilience Integral Resilience ModelModel
Integral Resilience Integral Resilience ModelModel
- Psychologyhow I think
- The Body - Behaviourhow I react
- Communication- Social support
- Culturehow we interact
- Organisationalsystems and procedures
what we have in place
Stress CurveStress Curve
Boredom Burnout
““Natural Hardiness”Natural Hardiness”
Some Work Stress FactorsSome Work Stress Factors
•Role Clarity•Job Demands
•Control•Change Management
•Support •Relationships (e.g conflict and bullying)
Physical Well-Being FoundationPhysical Well-Being Foundation
The basic factors consistently shown to affect well-being are:
Diet and water intake
Exercise
Sleep and rest
Play/ recreation
Touch
Environment
Smoking, drinking and other drugs (-ve)
•Aware •Balanced•Centre-Line Relaxed
+ Connected (to what you care about and to other people)
+ Definitely Energised
ABC Centring Practice
BreakBreak
Current and Past Current and Past ChallengeChallenge
Resilient ThinkingResilient Thinking
·Acceptance of what can’t be changed·Creative problem solving of what can be·An internal “locus of control”- not being a victim·Flexibility·Realistic optimism·Maintaining reality-based self-esteem·Managing (but not repressing) emotions·Managing conflict·Humour
Growth vs Fixed Growth vs Fixed MindsetMindset
Locus of ControlLocus of Control
• Am I a victim?
• What can I do?
Thinking ErrorsThinking ErrorsBlack and White Thinking (All or Nothing Thinking)
Overgeneralisation
Catastrophising
Personalisation and Blame
Labelling
Mind Reading / Fortune Telling
Emotional Reasoning
Discounting the Positive
What ifs
Egocentric Thinking
Being Right Certainty
Control Error
Fairness Error
Heaven's Reward Thinking
Unrealistic Comparisons
Mind your thoughts...Mind your thoughts...
Activating event
Belief
Consequence
Images too
Cognitive ReframingFor any stress inducing thought ask yourself:
Is it really true?
Is it useful?
Imagery and Self-TalkImagery and Self-Talk
CommunicationCommunication
Observations, Observations, Feelings, Needs & Feelings, Needs &
RequestsRequests
vs Judgement, Blame vs Judgement, Blame & Demands& Demands
EIEI
EmpathyEmpathy
- The intention to connect in the present moment
Not sympathy, story telling, consoling, one-upping, data-gathering or problem solving
Saying no and asking Saying no and asking for helpfor help
LunchLunch
Physical predispositions for action (long-term moods)
Invisible...to youInvisible...to you...Very obvious to ...Very obvious to
everyone elseeveryone else
A Dispositions MapA Dispositions Map
Resentment /Frustration (Can’t Change ...Want to
Change)
Action/Ambition (Can Change ...Want to Change )
Acceptance/Peace (Can’t Change ...Don’t Want to
Change )
Resignation/ Apathy (Can Change ...Don’t Want to
Change )
NetworksNetworks
Group Culture and Group Culture and ConflictConflict
ModellingModelling
Feedback?Feedback?
Play, Lightness &Play, Lightness &
Your systems = Your systems = your sanityyour sanity
your productivityyour productivityyour trustworthinessyour trustworthiness
+ order creates space for creativity
Where’s your crumple Where’s your crumple zone?zone?
DecontaminatingDecontaminating
Planning is good ESPECIALLY when stuff happens.
Why your best excuse for not planning?
Switching OffSwitching Off
Depends upon reliable lists and systems
Careful of stimulants, chemical and electronic - have good work systems and “e-hygiene”
Centring, mindfulness and exercise
Happiness - QuizHappiness - Quiz• Social Support and relationships
• Meaningful work
• Sleep
• Exercise
• Altruism
• Nature
• Mindfulness
• Touch
• Not commuting/ not working nights
• Gratitude and forgiveness
• Small wealth differences
• Using Virtues/ Strengths
• Autonomy
• Flow states
Self EsteemSelf Esteem
BreakBreak
Resilience Quotes Resilience Quotes Dryness promotes the formation of flower buds...flowering is, after all, not an aesthetic contribution, but a survival mechanism - Ann Haymond Zwinger
If you learn something from a defeat it isn`t a loss - Autumn worcester
"Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found." - Pema Chodron
Successful people are prepared to fail more, and they are more persistent than others. - euglena
The bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you refuse to take the turn. - Unknown
Humor prevents one from becoming a tragic figure even though he / she is involved in tragic events. - E. T. Eberhart
I haven't failed. I've identified 10,000 ways this doesn’t work. - Thomas Edison
StrengthsStrengths- using them makes us - using them makes us
happyhappy
Mindfulness
PromisePromise
By the end of today you will have improved resilience
If you practice and review the work you’ll have greatly improved resilience
What are you going What are you going to do about it?to do about it?
- Diarise notes review- E-mail reminders
- Make a committed plan
Autobiography in Five Chapters By Portia Nelson
Chapter I
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.
Chapter II
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I'm in the same place, but it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter III
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in...it's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.
Chapter IV
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
Chapter V
I walk down another street.