From the works of

Hippocrates – Father of Medicine Earl R. Curry – Minister of the Gospel

Fred & Florence Littauer – Family Ministry Dr. Tim Lahaye – Author – Minister - Counselor

2

House of the Lord

Kirtland, Ohio

When writing under inspiration in the House of the Lord,

Brother E.R. Curry emphasized the importance of learning

about our temperaments for a better utilization of them in the

redemption of Zion. He wrote:

“Inasmuch as your PERSONALITIES vary widely, making

each personality STRONG in some aspects of his life and

WEAK in others…Consequently, there is this imperative, that

you shall set out on a journey of understanding...

In this lies much of the hope and the possibility of the fuller

achievement of Zion.”

Complied by Jan Harrington

For the Women’s Retreat

September 16-18, 2005

3

The Importance of Personality Utilization

in Zionic Endeavors "The Endowment" by E. R. Curry

Question 2: - In a general sort of way,

how may we prepare ourselves for the time of

the Endow-ment?

All these will richly reward any who try. There are others, some of the greater and some of lesser moment, that you also need to know. Inasmuch as your PERSONALITIES vary widely, making each personality STRONG in some aspects of his life and WEAK in others, it therefore is wisdom that each striving minister shall build up a list of qualities such as apply to all, but particularly to him. Consequently, there is this imperative, that you shall set out on a journey of understanding. (p. 5)

Question 3: - Inasmuch as the church on

earth needs to widely share in the Endowment;

and, since the general level of Spiritual life

inevitably affects even the strongest and the least

of Thy spiritual servants; and because in unity

there is strength - how may the church, too,

advance in these ways?

Notwithstanding the boundless power of your great Creator, He will not, in the very nature of His personality, ever compel or force you to choose the higher ways of the Spirit. (p. 6)

Question 5 - Characteristic No. 3:

There shall be an endowment of special light on

difficult problems and projects.

How full of gratitude should be your hearts, that the Lord of Hosts, notwithstanding His majesty, His exaltation, His power, thus respects your personality and individuality. (p. 16)

Question 5 - Characteristic No. 4:

There will be an endowment resulting from His

servants and His people, under divine guidance,

finding the places where they may best work.

In this there is wisdom. In this lie fine possibilities of greater individual achievement. In this greater resources of personality and individual power shall be opened up. In this lies much of the hope and the possibility of the fuller achievement of Zion. In this, as well, lies much of the working out of the last great movement of prophetic warning ere the end shall come. (p. 17)

Outstanding achievements in the affairs of men are made possible, most of all, only as human personality and resources are organized. (ibid)

Now the great works, the high goals, the supremely worthwhile objectives of the Almighty Father must also be organized if they are to be realized, but in a far finer, nobler, selfless manner. They must be organized more intelligently, with a much better discernment and evaluation of personality resources and potential abilities of all who will co-labor with God to do great things. Manifestly all this is not the work of a moment.

How then may this endowment of inspired

placement of human personality be worked out?

Under the providence of the Almighty, men who see the realized possibilities of this kind of endowment. men who are coming increasingly closer to the great source of glowing, radiant, spiritual light, men whose gifts of personality either trained or potential, make it possible for them to serve in these ways - this kind of men must be brought to the fore. There must be pioneers. (p. 18)

As you thus outline what is needed, even difficult problems and projects will be found solvable and possible. Moreover, as you thus outline in detail, the gifts of intelligence, discernment and wisdom will suggest the characteristics of personality, the qualities of mind and spirit, as well as the training and skills which each detailed part of each project will need. (p. 19)

4

Ministry, local and otherwise, can be trained as pioneers, as counselors, as guides and as exemplars to push forward toward this endowment of inspired placement of human personality in the many projects which, added together, shall mean eventually the total establishment of the Kingdom. (ibid)

Question 6: - What shall Thy servants be,

do, and say who are endowed?

This means, in turn, that whatever field of endeavor shall be given to each, each will know what he ought to do, how he ought to try to do it, and how means or personality, or both, may be organized to do it. Therefore neither the work of Zionic achievement nor witnessing evangelism will languish. (p. 33)

This in turn means that the City of God, sacred communities of Zion, will steadily and even rapidly arise, for the processes, and wisdom and unity and resources of personality will all be deeply, deeply stimulated, because God shall now be working in great power. Before the eyes of all the world shall there be demonstrated that only with Him can there be wholeness, great goodness, nobility of purpose, and achievement, holiness of life, and resulting peace and highest of Christian brotherhood.

(Ibid)

Question 8: - Shall this endowment be

only for Thy servants of the Melchisedec

priesthood, or shall it spread out to Aaronic

priesthood and to good men and women, boys

and girls of the body of Christ?

The force and influence of this day of endowment must inevitably spread out. Just as no one can come under the influence of a great personality without being somewhat made over by that influence, even much more shall all who come within the circle of association of these spiritually radiant men of the endowment be transformed by the spiritual power, the glorious experiences, the Heavenly wisdom, the keen vision, the marvelous testimonies, the Christ-inspired grasp of issues, and all else that has come to these highly blessed servants of the Lord. (p. 35)

Question 9: - Are there any other ways

besides the arising of a generation of deeply

spiritual men, who by their spirituality, their

demonstration of the God-blessed power of

increasingly spiritual men, and their exaltation

of the prophecy of things to come in the day of

endowment - are there other ways that ministers

and members, men and women, boys and girls,

can be aroused to a compelling desire to move

toward this day of endowment?

In part, mighty prayer is prayer with the utmost of your personality in it. It is prayer about the issues of the moment, about high purpose and achievement of great ideals. (p.37)

Lord, grant me the Serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;

The Courage to change the things

I can; And the Wisdom

to know the difference.

5

Taught by the Greek Physician HIPPOCRATES

Known as the Father of Medicine (470-390 B. C.)

Sanguine-Popular: Extrovert mouth always moving, eyes sparkling, always agitated, always

wanting to get into something, wants to make everything fun,

never grow up

Choleric-Powerful: Extrovert

knows how to take charge from the beginning, controlling,

dynamic personality

Phlegmatic-Peaceful: Introvert not much enthusiasm or energy, content to let others do it, very

capable under pressure to dot it; peacemaker, low key

everything Melancholy-Perfect: Introvert deep thinker, analyzes everything n life perfectionist, easily

depressed

6

7

Do You Know How You

Are Designed?

Sanguine – a playful otter Phlegmatic--peaceful golden retriever Melancholy – a workaholic beaver Choleric – a take-charge lion

One of the gurus in knowledge of the

Temperaments, Gary Smalley, illustrates the

human temperaments using animals.

Four animals set out to build a dam--an

otter, a golden retriever, a beaver, and a lion.

The otter swam around in the pond and had

such a wonderful time playing that he forgot

why they were there. The beaver got angry

at the otter for being so lazy and playing all

the time while he was so busy cutting down

the trees. The lion took charge roaring that

he knew just how to solve their problems,

while the golden retriever busied himself

trying to keep the peace.

These are the four temperaments--the four

major differences in people. There are two

extroverts (Sanguine and Choleric), and two

introverts (Melancholy and Phlegmatic).

And there are 12 different combinations. No

one is exactly the same. See page 46 for

“You Are As Unique As Your Creator.”

Animal lovers know this intelligent design-

ing of the soul‟s personality is also evident

in the animals—such as the playful Shi Tzu

vs. the fighting Pit Bull.

One day I was grooming myself in the

mirror when the Holy Ghost said, “Your

children are a reflection of you. I hope you

will be pleased with your image.” I was

taken aback for a second. “That true,” I

thought. They come here innocent and

become what this life deals out in

conjunction with their temperaments, and

their ability to cope with it all. My

Patriarchal Blessing tells me that life is 10%

of what I make it, and 90% of how I take it.

We respond to life according to how we see

it through our temperaments.

I think back to our daughter Debbie‟s birth.

Premature by two months (2.5 lbs.), the

pediatrician came to my bedside and said,

“She‟ll survive. She‟s a fighter.” He could

see her Sanguine/Choleric temperament

when she was only twelve hours old. And

he was right; she‟s a warrior.

Love Can Make The Difference

Regardless of what Temperament we‟ve

been dealt by nature, love can make the

difference. Part of our personality is learned

patterns. Choleric temperaments have a hard

time saying, “I‟m sorry” and “I love you,”

but if properly guided, can change. Children

and animals can be taught to be loving, or

mean.

I watched a TV interview with Charles

Manson, the mass murderer in prison for

life, as he reflected on his childhood. He

recalled an incident when he had been

wronged (and I agreed with him), but when

he went to his father for comfort, his dad

rebuked him. He was told to stop whining

and take his licks like a man. He wasn‟t a

man, he was a little child with probably a

Choleric father, or one who had been hurt

and hardened himself. I thought, "It‟s no

wonder he set out to hurt others. This man

has received no love in his life." And if

Charles was born with a Melancholy

temperament, the hurt was intensified and

internalized to explode later.

8

This week a story appeared in the Kansas

City Star* of a teenage girl from Overland

Park. The title grabbed my attention,

“Murder charge doesn‟t fit the friend they

know,” and “My character doesn‟t fit my

nationality and its culture.” I knew

immediately where this was going, and

when I read it, my thoughts were confirmed.

Had these poor souls known of the

Temperament Theory, and believed it, they

would have recognized the danger signals;

and with applying the principles to self-

correct, this tragedy would have been

prevented. *September 7, 2005

The story is simple—a very brilliant

Melancholy daughter, an overachiever who

was never satisfied with her accomplish-

ments, had added to her psychological

weight, a complaining Choleric mother who

constantly pushed her to do more. The

Melancholy daughter internalized it all, and

one day exploded. She stabbed her mother

to death in one of their battles. Both lost,

plus all those around them. And they

wonder why this happened.

Statements that gave the clues were:

She could, “blink an eye and get an A.”

“She continually amazed them by excelling

in everything she tried.”

She “struggled with the expectations of her

parents.”

“I‟ve never been secure or comfortable with

who I am, and this summer it‟s finally really

starting to hit me.”

“I‟ve wasted my summer trying to fix

everything that‟s wrong with me, my

character, instead of just accepting that

people are okay with me not being

perfect…”

“On Mother‟s Day 2004 she wrote: „I‟m

your diary of blank pages onto which you

engrave your rage and tears and heart and

soul.‟”

“It‟s like she was living a double life…she

had a lot of pressures.”

“She didn‟t really have an angry side…”

“It‟s like she couldn‟t take it anymore…”

And then the Melancholy internalizing of

the pressure exploded, and she became a

murderer.

How many times we have heard about some

tragedy in the news, and people say, “I don‟t

know what happened; he was such a nice

guy.” It‟s not that hard to understand if you

know the Temperaments. “He” or “she”

was simply a Melancholy who internalized it

all, then a straw broke it, and their world

came crashing down.

Understanding the Temperaments can

help us cope with the stress of everyday

living. And with the love of God working in

us, we can lovingly, unconditionally, accept

and help one another.

When I was a young mother, the Still Small

Voice told me that if I gave my children

some form of love every day —whether it

was a “hug,” or a kind word, a pat on the

back—just some form of encouragement—

that my children would grow straight and

strong. And I wonder, “Have I hugged my

kids today?”

"He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” Pro. 25:28

9

Desire: to have fun

Emotional Needs: attention, affection,

approval, acceptance

Key Strengths: can talk about anything

at any time, at any place, with or without

information, has a bubbling personality,

optimism, sense of humor, storytelling

ability, likes people

Key Weaknesses: disorganized, can’t

remember details or names, exaggerates,

not serious about anything, trusts others

to do the work, too gullible and naive

Gets Depressed When: life is no fun and

no one seem to love him

Is Afraid Of: being unpopular or bored,

having to live by the clock or keep a

record of money spent

Like People Who: listen and laugh,

praise and approve

Dislikes People Who: criticize, don’t

respond to his humor, don’t think he is

cute

Is Valuable In Work: for colorful

creativity, optimism, light touch,

cheering up others, entertaining

Could Improve If: he got organized,

didn’t talk so much and learned to tell

time

Tends to Marry: Perfects who are

sensitive and serious, but Populars

quickly tire of having to cheer them up

all the time, and of being made to feel

inadequate and stupid

Reaction to Stress: leave the scene, go

shopping, find a fun group, create

excuses, blame others

Recognized By: constant talking, loud

volume, bright eyes, moving hands,

colorful expressions, enthusiasm, ability

to mix easily

10

Desire: to have control

Emotional Needs: sense of obedience,

appreciation for accomplishments, credit

for ability

Key Strengths: ability to take charge of

anything instantly, make quick, correct

judgment

Key Weaknesses: too bossy, domineer-

ing, autocratic, insensitive, impatient,

unwilling to delegate or give credit to

others

Gets Depressed When: life is out of

control and people won’t do things his

way

Is Afraid Of: losing control of anything,

such as losing job, not being promoted,

becoming seriously ill, having rebellious

child or unsupportive mate

Like People Who: are supportive and

submissive, see things his way, cooperate

quickly and let them take credit

Dislikes People Who: are lazy and not

interested in working constantly, who

buck his authority, get independent or

aren’t loyal

Is Valuable In Work: because he

accomplish more than anyone else in a

shorter time and is usually right, but may

stir up trouble

Could Improve If: he allowed others to

make decisions, delegated authority,

became more patient, didn’t expect

everyone to produce as he does

As A Leader He: has a natural feel for

being in charge, a quick sense of what

will work and a sincere belief in his

ability to achieve, but may overwhelm

less aggressive people

Tends to Marry: Peacefuls who will

quietly obey and not buck his authority,

but who never accomplish enough or get

excited over his projects

Reaction to Stress: tighten control,

work harder, exercise more, get rid of

offender

Recognized By: fast-moving approach,

quick grab for control, self-confidence,

restless and overpowering attitude

11

Desire: to have it right

Emotional Needs: sense of stability,

speace, silence, sensitivity and support

Key Strengths: ability to organize, set

long-range goals, have high standards

and ideals, analyze deeply

Key Weaknesses: easily depressed, too

much time on preparation, to focused on

details, remembers negatives, suspicious

of others

Gets Depressed When: life is out of

order, standards aren’t met and no one

seems to care

Is Afraid Of: no one understanding how

he really feels, making a mistake, having

to compromise standards

Like People Who: are serious,

intellectual, deep, and will carry on a

sensible conversation

Is Valuable In Work: for sense of

details, love of analysis, follow-through,

high standards of performance,

compassion for the hurting

Could Improve If: he didn’t take life

quite so seriously and didn’t insist others

be perfectionists became more patient,

didn’t expect everyone to produce as he

does

As A Leader He: organizes well, is

sensitive to peoples’ feelings, has deep

creativity, wants quality performance

Tends to Marry: Populars for their

personalities and social skills, but soon

tries to shut them up and get them on a

schedule, becoming depressed when they

don’t respond

Reaction to Stress: withdraws, gets lost

in a book, becomes depressed, gives up,

recounts the problems

Recognized By: serous, sensitive nature,

well-mannered approach, self-deprecat-

ing comments, meticulous and well-

groomed looks (exceptions are hippy-

type intellectuals, musician, poets, who

feel attention to clothes and looks is

worldly and detracts from their inner

strengths)

12

Desire: have no conflict, keep peace

Emotional Needs: sense of respect,

feeling of worth, understanding,

emotional support, harmony

Key Strengths: balance, even

disposition, dry sense of humor, pleasing

personality

Key Weaknesses: lack of decisiveness,

enthusiasm and energy, but has no

obvious flaws, and has a hidden will of

iron.

Gets Depressed When: life is full of

conflict, he has to face a personal

confrontation, non one wants to help, the

buck stops with him.

Is Afraid Of: having to deal with a major

personal problem, being left holding the

bag, making major changes

Like People Who: will make decisions

for him, will recognize his strengths, will

not ignore him

Dislikes People Who: Are too pushy,

expect to much of him

Is Valuable In Work: because he

cooperates and is a calming influence,

keeps peace, mediates between

contentious people, and objectively

solves problems

Could Improve If: he sets goals and

becomes self-motivated, he were willing

to do more and move faster than

expected, and could face his own

problems as well as he handles other

people’s

As A Leader He: keeps calm, cool and

collected, doesn’t make impulsive

decisions, is well-liked and inoffensive,

won’t cause trouble, but doesn’t come up

with brilliant new ideas

Tends to Marry: Powerfuls because

they respect the Powerful’s strength and

decisiveness, but later the Peacefuls get

tired of being pushed around and looked

down upon

Reaction to Stress: hide from it, watch

TV, eat

Recognized By: calm approach, relaxed

posture, sitting or leaning when possible

13

14

Notes

15

The following pages are notes taken from a

seminar by Florence Littauer. The 4 tapes

were distributed by Firefighters For Christ,

P.O. Box 1190, Redondo Beach, CA 90278

All italics in brackets are notations by the

transcriber, not Mrs. Littauer’s comments

on the tape.

Hippocrates, the Greek philosopher and physician, (460-370 B.C.) -

who was known as the Father of Medicine,

divided people into four categories:

Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic

--We innately want to shape up the other

person so we can be happy. [Jesus said

to take the mote out of our own eye.]

--God does not hold us accountable for

shaping up our brethren. We are

responsible for ourselves “first”.

--Let a man examine himself, for no-

where in the Bible does God tell us to

shape up the other person?

--Before the world was made, God chose

us. We are not insignificant. Each one of

us is unique with inherited traits and

talents. No one else is just like you. Each

one is a chosen special person to God.

Choleric

Extrovert, Born Leader

knows how to take charge from the

beginning - controlling, dynamic

personality

They have a God-complex, “Thus saith the Choleric!”

16

Melancholy

Introvert, Deep Thinker analyzes everything in life; perfectionist,

easily depressed. Wants everything

orderly and organized. Make plans.

Sanguine Extrovert, Loves People

mouth always moving, eyes sparkling,

always agitated; always wanting to get

into something wants to make

everything fun, never grow up

Phlegmatic Introvert, Easy Going

not much enthusiasm or energy;

content to let others do it; very

capable under pressure to do it;

peacemaker, low key everything

Most people tend to marry opposites, and

regret it thereafter.

[Because they don’t understand the

Temperaments. They are attracted to

someone who has strengths that they

would like to have: i.e. the quiet, moody

Melancholy is attracted to the bubbly,

happy Sanguine. They forget that person

has weaknesses also, then those

weaknesses become a source of constant

irritation.

When this is understood, the couple stops

trying to change each other, and each,

with the help of Christ, can develop into

their greatest potential, producing a

harmonious marriage, and a Christian

home.]

17

The purpose in understanding the

temperaments is not to get to know

about people to straighten them out, but

it is to analyze ourselves. As we do this,

we’ll find a pattern of nature in

ourselves, and will be able to understand

others. We will learn how to get along

better with them. We are not called to

straighten them out, but to accept them

as they are, and because they’re

different, doesn’t automatically make

them wrong.

Objectives Self Analysis:

Why am I the way I am?

What are my strengths, so

that I can work to amplify

them?

What are my weaknesses, so

that through the power of the

Spirit, I will be able to

eliminate them?

Understanding others: to

learn that just because they’re

different doesn’t make them

wrong.

Strengths of The Temperaments

Sanguine: Extrovert

Sanguines are the easiest to categorize

because they are the loudest.

You notice them in crowds because they

are always talking and their voice rings

above everybody else. They are always

running to grab people, hug people, get

related. They want to be out in front,

having a good time; they love people.

1. Talker, Optimist they want to talk

over everything, are not too concerned

with what they get done as long as they

have fun talking about it

2. Optimistic: whatever thing comes up

in life, they see what will be fun about it,

and how they can have a good time doing

it.

3. They are bubbly, bright, and

outgoing— their aim in life is whatever

they are doing, to have fun at it—a

compulsion for fun.

4. Never have "too much" fun—some

people feel that a Sanguine’s fun complex

is just too much, but a Sanguine thinks

“too much is never enough.” They want

more fun, more games, more laughs.

18

[Sanguines don’t want to grow up and face the

serious business of getting things done. They

don’t like work.]

5. Storytellers: They make every trivia

in life exciting—not necessarily

factual. They don’t repeat things in

the dull way they really were, but

will dress up the story to make it

interesting for others.

6. Sanguines have the ability to look

helpless and others come to their

rescue. Sanguines marry

Melancholies who don’t think they

are “cute.”

[The danger to a Sanguine is

adultery. They go out and find

someone who thinks they are cute

and funny. Melancholies have a

tendency to “put down” the

Sanguine humor.]

7. People oriented: always have crowds

around, laughing, thinks it fun to

amuse people.

8. Humor: They have a good sense of

humor and memory for the colorful

things of life. [They like flashy,

gaudy things. Sanguines buy red

cars.]

9. Statistical memory is not very good.

They don’t like details like the

analytical Melancholy. Sanguines

don’t know what a fact is.

10. Hold on to the listener: Why?

Doesn’t want them to get away, lose

his audience before he gets to the

punch line. It will cause psychological

damage to the Sanguine.

11. Emotional, demonstrative: hands

always going, jumping, moving

around, head nodding. If you tie their

hands, they would have to use their

head to make all of the expressions,

because they can’t talk without

movement.

12. Enthusiastic, cheerful

bubbling over: animated,

expressive, good on

stage. Sanguines are

always on stage, even

when they’re not. They

never have fun alone—

must talk to the dog or something.

13. Sanguines are wide-eyed and innocent

looking, attention-getters. Sanguines

are the extreme of the highs, and

Melancholies are the extreme of the

lows. Sanguines tell how “great” it is,

and Melancholies tell how “bad” it is.

14. Sincere at heart: always wants to be

a child. Why? Because if you grow up,

you have to get down to business—get

serious and do something. Sanguines

avoid getting pulled together.

15. A Worker: There is not too much

good to be said for Sanguines as

workers. They volunteer a lot, but

never intended to do it. They volunteer

to get attention

19

16. Creative: They are always thinking

up new activities for others to do to

make everything better.

17. Appearance to others: Sanguines

are always in the year book as the

ones to most likely to succeed, but

don’t necessarily get very far even

though it looks as if they’re going to.

People think that if a Sanguine gets

pulled together, they will really

amount to something great. That’s

true, but rarely do they ever get

pulled together and amount to

anything.

[This is possibly because they lack self-

discipline. Only Christ can help them

become organized.]

18. Affect others: They are great on

inspiring other people to do things—

charming others into doing their

work. If they are really good, they

can convince others that it was their

own idea. [The character of Tom

Sawyer is a good example of a

Choleric/Sanguine.]

19. Friendly: Sanguines make friends

easily, love people, and thrive on

compliments. If you want to get

along with a sanguine, find

something good to say about them

every ten minutes. They have an

enormous ego. If you say enough

good things about them, you may get

them to do some work; without

encouragement and compliments,

they won’t do anything.

20. Personality: exciting, envied by

others, don’t hold grudges. Why

doesn’t a Sanguine hold a grudge?

They can’t remember who it was that

said it. Melancholies who are hurt by

a Sanguine remark should remember

that Sanguines are not “out to get

you,” because Sanguines don’t think

that deeply. They just said it off the top

of their head.

21. Apologetic: They are very sorry when

they know they’ve said something to

hurt anyone. They apologize very

emphatically, are truly sorry, then

forget it in two minutes and do it

again.

A Classic Example

of a Sanguine

Whatever comes up, they say,

“Isn’t this fun?

Won’t we have a good time?”

20

Choleric: Extrovert Optimist, Likes People

Extrovert similarities: Sanguines want to have fun doing it.

Cholerics want to get it done—his

way—now!

1. Attitude: I’m wonderful. I can do

everything just great, and if the rest

of the world would just shape up and

do it my way, we could be happy.

To get along with a Choleric—just

do everything he tells you to do,

when he tells you to do it, and you’ll

get along just fine. You may not

have a personality left after a few

years, but you’ll get along just fine.

2. Born leaders: even from a baby—

they try to manipulate parents. A

choleric child throws a tantrum to get

his way IF he doesn’t get it from

asking nicely. Others then give in to

keep peace.

Must put things in order:

dynamic, compulsive need for

changing things that seem to be

wrong or out of order.

3. Opinionated: takes charge instantly,

strong willed and very decisive, Can

make decisions before the question is

totally asked—will have the answer

waiting for you.

4. Emotions: Emotionally undisturbed,

not easily discouraged

5. Independent, self-sufficient, exude

confidence: Cholerics make you

believe they know what they’re

doing—can run anything, any group,

no matter whether they ever went there

before or not—can instantly take over.

6. As workers: This is their strong area.

They see the whole picture, organize

everything, seek practical answers,

move quickly into action to get it done.

7. They mediate menial work, keep the

big or tough jobs for themselves.

Why? Because they think no one else

can do as good a job as they can.

If a Choleric child has been

allowed to take control,

there are three options:

1. Play the game: Pretend the child

isn’t in control, which teaches it that

it can get its way by throwing tant-

rums the rest of its life;

2. Stop playing the game: Announce to the family that the child

will control it;

3. Take control: Announce to the

family that the child will not be

allowed to control the family, and

take loving, but firm steps to correct

the child’s attitude. Learn to

discipline.

21

8. As a friend: Sanguines need friends

for an audience—Cholerics don’t

need friends because their goals are

on production—they don’t need

people like the Sanguine. They will

be glad to work for you, organize it,

straighten it out, lead your group.

9. They are usually right (which is hard

for others to accept) because they

don’t waste time on fluffy words like

the Sanguine. Half of what the

Sanguine says doesn’t amount to

anything, but Cholerics only make

statements if they know how it’s

going to turn out.

10. Excels In Emergencies

Sanguines say, “Oh, dear, what

should we do?”

The Melancholy says, “This is

terrible,” and goes into depression.

The Phlegmatic removes himself from

the activity because it looks too much

like work.

A Choleric charges forth and takes

care of the situation.

They stimulate activity

and thrive on opposition.

Melancholy: Introvert, Brilliant

Melancholy’s and Phlegmatics are

introverts and born innately pessimistic.

When you understand this, it helps you to

deal with a person who constantly is

seeing the negative, and that they are not

trying to be negative. That is just the way

their viewpoint goes.

1. Melancholy’s have the greatest and

deepest strengths of all four

temperaments,

How the Four Temperaments

View A Problem Sanguines:

will talk about it.

Melancholies:

will get depressed about it.

Phlegmatics:

will say: “Who cares anyway?”

Cholerics:

will be getting it done instantly.

If you say a certain job can’t be

done—Sanguines will say, “O,

good. We don’t want to get involved

in that [work] anyway.” Cholerics

will say, “I’ll show you” (And then

go do it.)

22

deep and thoughtful,

think everything through,

talented and creative—

genius prone.

Melancholy’s are in the top

group of people who have the

ability to be the geniuses of life.

2. Do it right: Melancholies believe if

you are going to do it, do it right.

Sanguines want to have fun

doing it. Cholerics want to do

their way, now! Phlegmatics

don’t want to do it at all.

3. Deep, analytical, thoughtful,

organized: These traits are

recognized even when they are a

child.

4. Talents: Melancholy’s are artistic,

musical, philosophical, -poetic, and

appreciative of beauty. Only

Melancholy’s can become extremely

accomplished because it takes hard,

dedicated dull work, day after day.

Sanguines don’t want to put out the

effort, but Cholerics, if gifted, can do

it, if it can be done fast.

5. Self-sacrificing: Melancholies will

give of themselves to help someone

else. Sanguines don’t know you need

help. Cholerics will only help if they

can see some good end come out of it.

Melancholies truly see the problems

of others, and are willing to sacrifice to

help them.

6. Conscientious, serious, purposeful--

When they tackle something, it’s going

to be done right.

7. Workers: Melancholy’s are excellent

workers. They are very schedule

oriented, and perfectionists. Will work

at it until it is done right, regardless of

how long it takes. The Mel/Choleric is

too disciplined, and they know they are

always right.

8. Detail conscious: Melancholies want

everything orderly and organized—

alphabetically, and correctly.

Melancholies love research—ALONE.

People who want to have fun cause

them problems. Melancholies don’t

want people to get in their way as they

charge forward.

9. Sensitive: They sense others needs—

can always see others’ problems, and

they love problems. They find creative

23

solutions by always analyzing how

to pull it together.

Sanguines don’t care if there are

solutions; Cholerics want instant

solutions; Melancholies want the

right solution, creatively thought out,

and analyzed, and it doesn’t matter

when. They must finish what they

start, or they will get depressed.

Sanguines hardly ever finish

anything--getting the supplies and

talking about doing it is half of all

the fun.

10.Map and Chart-Makers:

Melancholies have to plan out

everything.

11. As friends: They make friends

cautiously—are content to stay in the

background, and avoid causing

attention. When a Sanguine walks

into a room, they want attention.

When a Melancholy walks into a

room, they don’t want anyone to

notice them. Why? Because it makes

them feel insecure. They think

people are looking at them and,

“Maybe my slip is showing,” etc. It

makes them want to leave.

12. Marriage:

Melancholy/Cholerics marry San-

guines, then find they don’t like it.

They try to change them into

Melancholies.

We must understand that we need to accept

the other temperaments.

We waste time trying to change one another;

only God can do that effectively.

The photo above speaks to the feelings

of a Choleric no-nonsense-mom with a

Sanguine/Choleric-into-trouble child. A

perfect solution—and while the photo is

staged, probably many a mother could

relate to this scene.

24

How the Four Temperaments Look At Their Weaknesses

Sanguines thinks their weaknesses

are “cute and lovable”. . .that anybody

would be happy to have these

weaknesses.

Cholerics say, “What weaknesses?”

Melancholies really get into it,

analyzes it. “There’s nothing like a good

weakness!”

Phlegmatics says, “Who cares?

They’re not all that bad.”

God Can Change Us The Lord can take damaged vessels,

arrogant ones, conceited ones, self-

centered ones, and accomplished ones.

He can take people like that who are

really of no use to Him at all. He can, by

allowing circumstances to humble us,

and bring us to our knees. He can

cleanse us, patch us up, and send us out,

made ready for His service. So for those

of you who are discouraged over the

problems that you’ve got, God can

remake lives.

All He needs is not beauty or brains, just

availability. He just needs us to be there.

When we are available and emptied of

ourselves, He can do with us as He will,

and to God be the glory. That’s why we

have some weaknesses. If we were

perfect, there would be nothing for Him

to work on. Think about which of your

weaknesses are offensive to others, and

ask the Lord to work on those

weaknesses.

Phlegmatic

Unenthusiastic, Fearful, Worried, Indecisive

Phlegmatic have low-key strengths and

therefore, low key weaknesses.

Easy going: Phlegmatics think they

are nice, easygoing, agreeable people.

They show no appreciation or

enthusiasm for others’ accomplish-

ments. Phlegmatics don’t want to

appear phony, but it is better to receive

phony joy (fake it), than depression.

Decisions: Phlegmatics make one

decision: not to make decisions.

Phlegmatics do not want to be

responsible for making a wrong

decision, so they make none. Then

they can blame the other person when,

or if it goes wrong.

Store up their disapproval:…….

Phlegmatics have a strong will of iron;

are stubborn--will not do anything they

don’t want to.

Carnal Man

is of no use to God

"but to be carnally minded is death;

but to be spiritually minded is life

and peace. Because the carnal mind

is enmity against God;..."

Romans 8:6-7

25

Choleric women married to Phlegmatic men have problems.

A Choleric will tell a person what they

are going to do. If the Phlegmatics

doesn’t say “absolutely not,” that means

“yes” to a Choleric. Why? Because the

Choleric believes they are right anyway.

That’s when the Phlegmatic digs his feet

in.

Shy and reticent —too compro-

mising—they will go along with it so

as not to be bothered too much.

Don’t want trouble.

Self-righteous: Phlegmatics think

they are glad they’re not like

others—noisy, silly, bossy. They are

glad to be themselves —nice, unob-

noxious, quiet, peaceful, stirring no

waters. (Phlegmatics fail to realize

how dull and depressing they can be

by their lack in interest in others’

achievements, or life in general.)

Lack motivation—lack goals: Other

temperaments have to make them get

up and do something, then the

Phlegmatics resent being pushed; say

they would have done it without the

prodding, but others know they

wouldn’t.

Dampen others enthusiasm: They

want to be left alone, so will not

share in activities and experiences of

others with any amount of joy. They

don’t get excited about anything.

Not exciting, indifferent to plans of

others: always judging others

because they have plenty of time on

their hands, sarcastic, teasing, resist

change

Phlegmatics are easy-going,

inoffensive, pleasant, have many

subtle weaknesses. [Dr. Timothy

Lahaye describes them as being very

capable when pressed to do the job.

Jesus said blessed are the

peacemakers. Phlegmatics are

peacemakers.]

A Christ-centered

Phlegmatic can be as purr-fect a person as the world

could know—if they get motivated

26

Melancholy Moody, Depressed, Critical,

Persecution Complex, Revengeful

Get excited over negatives;

remember negatives from childhood

Moody and depressed easily; have

a built-in ability to be depressed,

imagines people are out to get them.

Manipulative: use moods to

manipulate others. Nobody wants to

spend time with someone who makes

them feel guilty, who enumerates the

negatives, who tells them what’s

wrong with them, or who drops into

a gloom if things don’t go their way.

Melancholies should ask themselves these questions:

Do I make it unpleasant for those

who show up to visit? Do I cause

gloom to fall upon certain groups?

Self-pity: Melancholies enjoy being

hurt, and to be able to prove that

everybody is against them.

False humility: they put themselves

down so they can obtain sympathy

by forcing people to compliment

them, and gratify their ego. This

shows people you are insecure.

Melancholies have a genuine low

self image [even though they really

are the most gifted and can

accomplish the most of the 4

temperaments —they can’t see it.

Melancholies feel they can never

accomplish enough, no matter how

hard, or how long they work.

A person can say forty good things

about a Melancholy, and one bad

thing. He will remember the bad one.

Self-centered: Melancholies always

hear statements which somehow

relate to them, whether intended or

not. They wonder, “What does he

mean by that? Is he laughing at me,

or talking about me?”

Introspective, always analyzing

themselves and others. Have guilt

feelings, so put guilt on others also.

Carry a persecution complex.

Hypochondria: Melancholies worry

about their health.

Melancholies are not good up front

with people. They get depressed with

others’ mistakes.

If a group in the center of the

room is whispering:

Melancholies think, “I wonder what’s

wrong with me,” and look to see if a slip

is showing or something is amiss.

Sanguines will think, “O boy they’re

talking about me.” Sanguines don’t care

what you say about them, just so you

give them the attention.

Compliment a Melancholy about her

hair or how good she looks, and she will

ask you what was wrong with her

yesterday?

You can insult a Sanguine, and they will

thank you.

27

Innately want to fail, so often

choose things too hard to do, and if

they fail, they say they knew they

couldn’t do it.

Details boggle down production: They spend too much time in

planning, often to the detriment of

production.

Melancholies think they are the

norm. They need to learn not to put

everyone else in a mold like them.

God doesn’t want us all to be alike.

[We are an example of the genius of

God, and He loves variety. That’s

why He made so many different

varieties in a given species.]

As a friend: Melancholies can act,

can put themselves into someone

else. They tend to latch on to a

Sanguine and live through their fun

life instead of changing the inner

gloomy person. They drain life out

of the other person, and make that

other person their idol. Melancholies

should never cling to Sanguines or

Cholerics. They need to ask Christ to

come into their life and give them

the uplift of spirit they need.

Introverted, withdrawn, remote,

critical of others: When

Melancholies are turned on, they are

the best of people. When turned off,

they are the worst. They span

emotionally from the best to the

worst, with the greatest strengths,

and the greatest weaknesses of the

four temperaments.

Choleric Bossy, Impatient

Strengths are loud and strong Weaknesses are loud and strong

Domineering: Cholerics don’t feel

they are being bossy, they think they

are just helping. They think no one

can make it on their own without

them.

Best way to get along with them is to

do what they say, when they say to

do it.

They have a God-complex, “Thus

saith the Choleric.”

Cholerics think they don’t have any

weaknesses. They are the only

temperament that will come up to the

speaker and give advice.

Sanguines don’t care what was said.

A Choleric will say that impatience

is not a problem with him, but just a

fault in others. [They leave notes to

the other temperaments.]

Leadership: When asking people to

be chairman of a group: Cholerics

say, “OK, if I don’t have to have a

committee of people.” Phlegmatics

say, “Yes, but do I have to do

anything?” Sanguines say, “Do I get

to be up front?”

28

Cholerics can’t relax: are always

busy organizing something.

Love to fight with people for sport;

don’t mean any harm.

Love to stir up controversy

Never give compliments— that

wastes too much time

Never gives up when losing

Comes on too strong, not flexible

Dislike tears and emotions, un-

sympathetic

As workers: They have little

tolerance for the mistakes of others

They don’t analyze directions. If you

have to read details, it’s not worth

doing at all. If all else fails, will

finally read directions.

Bored with trivia.

Cholerics make rash decisions

because they don’t want to waste

time thinking about it.

Rude and tactless; think they are

being honest, he says, “Everybody

knows where they stand with me.”

That’s true and they hate it.

Cholerics can’t comprehend this.

Manipulate people: demanding,

“My way, and now!” They feel that

if it turns out right, it doesn’t matter

how many people were killed along

the line. Most politicians are like

this—the end justifies the means.

THEY DOMINATE PEOPLE.

Workaholics: work becomes their

God. -Do it their way or leave. They

neglect -their families—their

priorities are mixed up. (Are away

from home a lot.)

Cholerics are born rescuers: When

Cholerics carry this to the extreme,

people resent it. They always try to

“mother, or father” the others, even

if they are older.

Cholerics bring up incompetent

children because the parents “can do

it better,” so the children step back.

Cholerics are too independent, and

are possessive of their companions.

They can’t apologize. The word is

not in their vocabulary. Pride gets in

the way.

Cholerics are usually right, but

although you are right, you may have

everybody hating you for it. A

Choleric’s strength and “know it all

attitude” can be very difficult to live

with.

Cholerics leave notes of instruction

laying around for people

29

Sanguine Compulsive Talker

Exaggerates, Elaborates

Exaggerations: Sanguines look at

their exaggeration and elaboration of

stories as being colorful, more

interesting for the listener. They

want to get people’s attention, so

make wild statements, such as: if one

cat is sick on the block, the Sanguine

may say that all the animals on the

entire block are sick and dying.

Dwell on trivia: Sanguines don’t

know what a fact is. They can’t make

a simple statement; they tell too

much trivia before getting to the

facts, and by that time they have

forgotten what it was they were

going to say.

Don’t listen: Sanguines don’t listen

when others are speaking; can’t

remember names; they don’t care—

only want people to remember them.

Sanguines scare people off by their

“too happy” attitude, too much

enthusiasm.

Too loud: They talk loudly and

laugh too much. Why? [To get

attention]

Complainers: Sanguines love to

complain.

Emotional roller coasters: If they

have a good day, they are thrilled; if

it was bad, they are dramatically

miser-able. They bounce up and

down—no middle for them. They get

angry easily, bang and scream, throw

tantrums if things don’t go their way.

Appearance to others: They seem

shallow and phony to others because

they are out in front so much; they

never seem to grow up.

As workers: Sanguines would rather

talk than work; they forget

obligation, don’t know exactly what

they are doing, and get mixed up if

you try to force them to get too

organized.

Confidence fades fast: [from

insecurity] If people don’t watch

them work, they will stop.

Undisciplined: Priorities are out of

order—if there’s work to be done,

they do what comes fun first. If

there’s any time left over they will

do the work part, but they hope the

world comes to an end before they

have to do the things they don’t like

to do.

30

Decisions: Sanguines make decis-

ions based on how they feel about it.

Easily distracted: [Short attention

span, don’t pay attention, so forget

what they were going to do.] If they

go from the kitchen to the garage and

get distracted by the dog, they forget

what they went there for.

Waste time talking; hate to be

alone: If a Sanguine decides to stay

home and clean the house, after ten

minutes they decide “This is too

lonely, I will call up someone to

come and watch me work.” When

they come, that isn’t good either, so

they both end up going out and

giving up the whole idea. [0r they

wait until the last minute to get it

done and have to run around

frantically to meet the deadline.]

Need attention constantly:

Anywhere they are, they manage to

be centerstage, draw attention to

themselves, even if they have to pull

it away from somebody. They want

to be popular, and are always

looking for credit. Inside they are

thinking, “Come and see how

wonderful I am; what great things

I’ve done.” Sanguines want people to

LOOK AT THEM, but they need to

realize that not everyone wants to

look at them.

Dominate conversation: Sanguines

interrupt a lot. Cholerics don’t think

they are being bossy. They think

they are helping you. Sanguines

don’t think they are interrupting you.

They think they are bailing you out

from a dull conversation.

Don’t listen: Sanguines think they

listen. When a Sanguine’s mouth is

shut for 2 or 3 seconds, they aren’t

listening, they are planning their next

verbal attack.

As a friend: Sanguines are your

friend today, and will forget you

tomorrow. [They are concerned

more with themselves.]

Excuses: Sanguines make excuses.

[They are quick to point the finger at

someone else; fail to accept

responsibility for their own actions.]

Repetitious: They repeat a story

until it’s boring. They think, “If it

played good on Sunday, we’ll play it

the rest of the week... It got a good

laugh then, let’s keep it going.”

Sanguines want people to

LOOK AT THEM

[Regardless of their temperament,

everyone wants to feel loved and be needed.]

31

It is impossible to change men by

changing their circumstances. The only

way that anyone of us can be changed is

when we realize the following:

Within me is no good thing—[I am a

carnal man without Christ: sinful by

nature; unable to change myself.]

I cannot do this on my own—Only

when I know I can’t, am I open to the

thought that God can.

When I am willing, then He is able.

[God created me a natural human

being, but He did not intend for me to

stay that way. That is why He sent Jesus

Christ. If I do not accept the ministry

that Christ offers, I am doomed to be

less that what God intended that I should

be. In Christ I can become perfect.]

God wants us to function the best we

can—to be a positive people to function

for Him.

Extremes In The Temperament Blends

Melancholy/Sanguine

o Extreme happiness / sadness;

o Can cause mood swings

without Christ to stabilize.

Choleric/Phlegmatic ambition

o Don’t want to get involved

Positive traits of the temperaments,

when carried to extremes, will

become negatives and offensive to

other temperaments.

Advice to the Temperaments

Advice to Sanguines

Be sensitive to other people’s

interests. Watch-out for boredom.

Everybody is not thrilled or fascinated

with your stories.

Signs of boredom: if the person (you

have grabbed) starts trying to get away; if

they start looking around the room, trying

to get another’s attention for them to come

over and rescue them.

Talk half as much as before.

It is possible for others to live without

your words.

Some people like to have silence.

Don’t think you have to fill in all the gaps,

or entertain them.

Learn to listen. When you are talking,

you aren’t learning anything because you

already know what you’re going to say.

Tone down your approach. Don’t

come on so strong and loud.

Condense your comments. Don’t give

six adjectives when one will do, nor repeat

the same thing six times because it played

good the first time.

Be a friend, not just friendly for the

moment.

Remember names by listening for

them when they are introduced.

32

Get your mind off of yourself and on

to others by sending them cards, phoning

them, visiting them in sickness, helping

them.

BE CONCERNED FOR OTHERS.

[Remember that Jesus said that he who

speaks (thinks) of himself is seeking his

own glory. And that is sin: PRIDE.]

Don’t accept more responsibility

than you can accomplish. Responsibility

carries with it the dull chores that are

depressing to Sanguines when they can’t

carry through.

Discipline yourself. [There is a time

to work, and a time to play; and for a

Sanguine, not necessarily in that order.]

Advice To Cholerics

Let other people make some

decisions, even if you are the

smartest, and they may be wrong.

Keep your advice until you are

asked. Even people who ask for

advice seldom really want it.

Tone down your approach. Aim for

quiet dignity.

Appreciate others: Try not to look

down on the rest of the .“dummies.”

Your looks convey your thoughts.

Keep quiet about your accomplish-

ments; people don’t care how

marvelous you are. If you need a pat

on the back, God will see that you

get one through someone else.

Don’t say, “I told you so, (you

dummy).”

Learn to give compliments. [It will

encourage others around you to rise

to higher achievements.]

Don’t feel you are indispensable.

[The world was alive and working

before you came on it, and will keep

spinning after you leave. LEARN

HUMILITY.]

Advice To Melancholies

Stop the gloom: No one likes a

gloomy person. Even if you have

legitimate reasons for being

depressed, no one likes to be around

depression. No one wants to hear

about your ailments.

Stop being super sensitive, self-

pitying. Don’t look for trouble.

Be positive: Get out of the corner and

go meet people; you might like them,

and they may surprise you by liking

you.

Take care of yourself: When you get

up, put yourself together as if you are

going out to meet others. When you

look bad in the mirror, it tends to make

you feel worse. Clean up for yourself.

33

Get rid of the perfectionist

syndrome: Don’t expect anyone to

be perfect. No one can measure up to

the standards of a Melancholy, not

even himself.

Melancholies think they are the

norm, and expect everyone to think

as they do.

Advice to Phlegmatics

Force yourself to get up and do

something.

Force yourself to make decisions.

You are not being congenial by

never giving an opinion.

Try to get enthused over what other

people do.

Open your mind to new ideas. Life

doesn’t have to be as dull as before.

Organize yourself. Keep things

orderly in your home. Don’t be lazy.

Care about your surroundings, and

you’ll feel better about yourself; and

if not for yourself, do it for those

who love you. They will feel better

about you, for you.

Don’t procrastinate your responsi-

bilities. Make a list of things you

have to do, and do them—now!

How To Live With a Phlegmatic

They need motivation; make rewards

for them.

Don’t let life get dull,

Help them to set goals.

Don’t expect enthusiasm.

Teach them how to make decisions.

Encourage them to accept responsi-

bilities,

Compliment them for their achieve-

ments. Above all, appreciate their

even temperament; it’s a gift!

How To Live With a Choleric

The best (easiest) way to live with a

choleric is to do exactly what they

tell you to do, when they tell you to

do it.

Recognize that they are born

leaders.

Divide the areas of responsibilities.

Insist on a two-way communi-

cation. Each must give their opinion

regardless of which way it goes.

Learn to communicate.

Accept the fact that Cholerics are

not compassionate. They will not sit

down and weep with you. They don’t

mean to hurt you; they are just

speaking straight.

Understand they deal with the

practicalities of life and be grateful

about what they are able to do to

help you.

34

How To Live With A Sanguine

Recognize their difficulty in

accomplishing tasks. Help them not

to accept more than they can do. It

will bog them down and cause

depression.

Realize they

like variety.

They never

want to do the

same thing every

day; it’s too dull

for them; they want something new

and different.

Don’t expect them to keep

appointments on time, but help them

to remember.

Remember they are circumstantial

people: when things are good, they

are happy. When things are bad, they

are terrible. They run on emotions,

highs are highs, and lows are lows—

very dramatically.

Praise them for accomplishments;

allow them flexibility. They don’t

like structure. Give them gifts; they

love toys.

Realize they mean well; they don’t

deliberately hurt people.

Melancholies think Sanguines are

plotting to get them, but Sanguines

don’t think that far ahead. They are

creatures of spontaneous reaction,

not action.

Be thankful that you have a happy

Sanguine in your midst, and enjoy

life with them.

Sanguines love gifts

How To Live With A Melancholy

This is the hardest temperament to live

with.

Be careful what you say. They are

very sensitive. Melancholies and

Phlegmatics are introverts and get

hurt very easily.

Realize they are programmed with a

negative attitude.

They are opposite of the Cholerics

and Sanguines who are programmed

with an insensitive, self-centered

ego, and an optimistic viewpoint.

They have a pessimistic attitude,

therefore see things negatively.

Encourage them to discuss what

they are thinking, and when they do,

never:

o “put them down’

o try to “jolly them up”

o laugh at them

or it will cause them to be depressed

all over again.

Apologize immediately when you

make an error with the tongue

35

Compliment them sincerely—they

discern phony plaudits.

Accept the fact that they love quiet.

Women: don’t become a slave to

the family, and be grateful that you

have a deeply emotional husband.

How the Four Temperaments View the Same Situation

If the barn caught on fire:

the Melancholy would ring their

hands and say, “I’m afraid it will

burn to the ground.”

the Phlegmatic would wonder what

we should do—

while the Choleric is immediately

organizing a bucket brigade—

and the Sanguine is saying, “Oh,

great, now we can toast

marshmallows.”

--End of Littaur Tapes--

Ref.

For a list of the Littauer’s books, send to Class Book

Service, 1645 S. Rancho Santa Fe Road #102, San

Marcos, CA 92069, (619) 471-0233 Business Office,

(800) 433-6633 Book orders only. …………………

The Four Temperaments’ Reaction To Pressure,

Depression, Anger from Your Temperament: Discover It’s Potential

by Dr. Tim LaHaye

Pressure / Sanguines:

Always around pressure because of

loving people; they help create that

pressure.

Their lack of discipline brings on

pressure—such as they wait to the

last minute to carry out their

responsibilities, or anything that

seems like work.

Use their vocal chords in self-

defense—weep to get out of it.

Will intimidate others, and not

accept their own blame (point the

finger at others).

Can’t endure the pressure of silence;

will tell a joke, or run away from the

problem by trying to cause a

distraction to the issue.

Give ulcers to others because they

will not face their problems.

Pressure / Cholerics:

Thrives on pressure—until body gets

broken with heart attacks, high blood

pressure, ulcers

They drive themselves. Get over-

involved

Refuse to give up under pressure

Thrive on opposition—are crafty—

not too worried about ethics

Tongue is cutting and sarcastic under

pressure

36

Rarely appreciates others achieve-

ments

Excellent productivity, but hurts

many in the process

Pressure /Melancholies:

All things are intensified with a

Melancholy— even pressure

They suffer the most of the four

temperaments

Mortality rate is 7 years lower than

others

Constantly pressured to perfection-

ism

Emotions are slow to react—can

build tension until murder

Pressure / Phlegmatics:

Detest pressure; are peacemakers

do nothing to excess

Gifted procrastinators

They blame others

Are stubborn

Can avoid pressure by turning to

day- dreaming

Depression

is caused from selfishness. The greater

the self-pity, the greater depression.

Depression / Sanguine:

Rarely gets depressed when he is

with others - loves people

Lives in the present —doesn’t look

back, and never worries about the

future

Lack of discipline causes obesity and

low self-esteem in the middle-aged

years (40’s-50’s) will cause

depression

Sanguines are unproductive and

without real substance, which can

cause them to be depressed

They become super sensitive,

defensive, blame parents (but not

themselves) for lack of productivity

in later years.

Depression / Choleric:

Rarely gets depressed - too busy

Happy when busy - no time for

depression

Thick-skinned, self sufficient—

doesn’t need others

When alone, is making new plans -

no time for depression

Depression comes only at the

incompetence of others

As a Christian he usually works by

flesh instead of the Spirit, and when

he runs into difficulty, is depressed

because of rejection of his work.

37

Depression / Melancholy:

Easily depressed because of

perfectionism

Standards are too high - none

measure up

Melancholies choose the most

difficult, martyr type vocations

Moody by nature

Need to recognize that mental

powers can control attitude—that a

positive attitude is power

Need to realize that griping,

criticizing, complaining always has a

negative effect on people, causing

depression.

Depression / Phlegmatic

Not easily depressed

They blame society or luck for their

failure to achieve by their 50’s and

60’s.

Phlegmatics are low key everything,

including depression.

Fear and Anger Grippers & Thankers

The first problem a family faces is

fear, but the number one problem is

anger.

There are two kinds of people:

grippers and thankers. Thankers are

not angry people.

Anger inhibits sound thinking.

Anger causes illness, from physical

to mental.

Introverts have the least anger—

Extroverts have the greatest problem.

Phlegmatics and Melancholies are

introverts

Melancholies take longer to

explode; are self-persecuting,

revengeful.

Sanguines instantly erupt, and are

forgiving;

Cholerics erupt and hold a grudge.

Cholerics and Sanguines are

extroverts, loud and uninhibited

Learn the Temperaments – then fly!

38

Notes

39

The Personality Tests

In this booklet are two different types of tests—a wheel and a checklist. They

both work toward the same results. An interesting exercise is for you to take the

test yourself, and ask your spouse or a friend to evaluate you on the other. It’s an

eye-opener to discover how others see us. And it’s always a lot of fun

discovering this new way of thinking about a one’s self.

40

Notes

41

42

Notes

43

44

45

The Bible says that if one sinner is saved, a multitude of sins will be prevented. The

following statistics of one man's posterity verifies this statement. If Max could have been

converted...

The Posterity of Max Jukes, Atheist Max, Jukes, the atheist lived a godless life. He married an ungodly girl and from this union

there were:

310 who died as paupers;

150 were criminals;

7 were murderers;

100 were drunkards and more than half the women were prostitutes.

His 540 descendants cost the state 1.25 million dollars.

The Posterity of Jonathan Edwards, Christian

But praise the Lord, it works both ways! There is a record of a great American man of God,

Jonathans Edwards. He lived at the same time as Max Jukes but he married a godly girl.

And investigation was made of 1,395 known descendants of Jonathan Edwards of which:

13 became college presidents

65 were college professors

3 United States Senators

30 judges

100 lawyers

60 physicians

75 Army and Navy officers

100 preachers and ministers

60 authors of prominence

1 Vice President of the US

80 became public officials in other capacities

295 college graduates among whom were governors of states and ministers to foreign

countries. He did not cost the state a penny.

"The memory of the just is blessed." Pro. 10:7

The sins of the fathers shall be answered upon the heads of the children to the third and fourth

generation. Our children are a reflection of us. They learn from our example. "America Is Too

Young To Die," by Leonard Ravenhill, Pub. Bethany Fellowship, pg. 112.

46

You Are As Unique As Your Creator

"Here is a simple illustration that may help us better see how incredible is the human body.

An appreciation of this temple of God should embrace our admiration of our Creator.

Let us suppose that we had before us a group of people that represented all the possible

genetic combinations between one man and woman, with no duplicates. Each one would be

slightly different than the next in some way. The number of people in the group would be

123,023,190, plus 900 zeros to make up the complete number! A scientific notation, it would

be written 1.2302319 X 10 908

(This number was calculated at Graceland College.)

To help us comprehend the quantity of people this number represents, let us suppose it was

possible to organize them in the following manner:

Arrange a line of people from the Earth to the Sun, a distance of 93 million miles. The line

would need to be made of rows a million people wide and only two feet of space allowed

between rows.

Now this is not all. In order to utilize the entire group of people, it would be necessary to line

up this quantity of people, dismiss them and line up another group of the same size every

second, of every hour, of every day, of every year for 112 million years to use up all the

possible genetic combinations! And just think, there are those who actually believe all life

and its delicate design happened just by accident." Elder David Campbell

The worth of a soul is great in the sight of God.

The Talker The Optimist The Leader The Optimist

Strengths Weaknesses Strengths WeaknessesBABY BABY

Bright and wide-eyed Screams for attention Adventuresome Strong-willed

Curious Knows he is cute Energetic Demanding

Gurgles and coos Outgoing Loud

Wants company Precocious Throws things

Shows off Born leader Not sleepy

Responsive

CHILD CHILD

Daring and eager No follow through Daring and eager Manipulative

Innocent Disorganized Productive worker Temper-tantrums

Inventive and imaginative Easily distracted Sees the goal Constantly going

Cheerful Short interest span Moves quickly Insistent

Enthusiastic Emotional ups and downs Self-sufficient Testing

Fun-loving Wants credit Competitive Arguing

Chatters constantly Tells fibs Assertive Stubborn

Bounces back Forgetful Trustworthy

Energized by people

TEEN TEEN

Cheerleader Deceptive Aggressive Too bossy

Charms others Creative Excuses Competent Controls parents

Gets daring Easily led astray Organizes well Knows everything

Joins clubs Craves attention Assumes leadership Looks down on dummies

Popular Needs peer approval Problem solver Unpopular

Life of the party Con-artist Self-confident May become a loner

Creative Won't study Stimulates others Insulting

Wants to please Immature Excels in emergencies Judgmental

Apologetic Gossips Great potential Unrepentant

Responsible

Avoids: rest, boredom, playing games he can't win

SANGUINE CHOLERIC

Emotional needs: appreciation for all achievements, opportunity for leadership,

participation in family decisions, something to control - own room, garage, backyard,

dog, etc.

Emotional needs: attention, approval, affection, acceptance, presence of people

and activity

Avoids: dull tasks, routines, criticism, details, lofty goals

The Popular Personality The Powerful Personality

The Extrovert The Extrovert

Strengths Weaknesses Strengths WeaknessesBABY BABY

Serious Looks sad Easy-going Slow

Quiet Cries easily Undemanding Shy

Likes a schedule Clings Happy Indifferent

Adjustable

CHILD CHILD

Thinks deeply Moody Watches others Selfish

Talented Whines Easily amused Teasing

Musical Self-conscious Little trouble Avoids work

Fantasizes Too sensitive Dependable Fearful

True friend Hears negatives Lovable Quietly stubborn

Perfectionist Avoids criticism Agreeable Lazy

Intense Sees problems Retreats to TV

Dutiful and responsible Won't communicate

TEEN TEEN

Good student Depressed and withdrawn Pleasing personality Quietly stubborn

Creative - likes research Inferiority complex Witty Indecisive

Organized and purposeful Inflexible Good listener Unenthusiastic

High standards Suspicious of people Mediates problems Too compromising

Conscientious and on time Critical Hides emotions Unmotivated

Neat and orderly Negative attitude Leads when pushed Sarcastic

Sensitive to others Poor self-image Casual attitude Uninvolved

Sweet spirit Revengeful Procrastinates

Thrifty Lives through friends

Needs approval

PHLEGMATIC

Emotional needs: peace and relaxation, attention, praise, self-worth, loving

motivation

Avoids: conflict, confrontation, initiative, decisions, extra work, responsibility,

tension, quarrels

The Perfect Personality The Peaceful Personality

MELANCHOLY

The Introvert The Thinker The Pessimist The Introvert The Follower The Pessimist

Emotional needs: sensitivity to deep desires, satisfaction from quality

achievement, space to call his own, security and stability, separation from noisy,

messy siblings, support from parents: "I believe in you."

Avoids: noise, confusion, trivial pursuits, being "jollied"

1 ____ Animated ____ Adventurous ____ Analytical ____ Adaptable

2 ____ Playful ____ Persuasive ____ Persistent ____ Peaceful

3 ____ Sociable ____ Strong-willed ____ Self-sacrificing ____ Submissive

4 ____ Convincing ____ Competitive ____ Considerate ____ Controlled

5 ____ Refreshing ____ Resourceful ____ Respectful ____ Reserved

6 ____ Spirited ____ Self-reliant ____ Sensitive ____ Satisfied

7 ____ Promoter ____ Positive ____ Planner ____ Patient

8 ____ Spontaneous ____ Sure ____ Scheduled ____ Shy

9 ____ Optimistic ____ Outspoken ____ Orderly ____ Obliging

10 ____ Funny ____ Forceful ____ Faithful ____ Friendly

11 ____ Delightful ____ Daring ____ Detailed ____ Diplomatic

12 ____ Cheerful ____ Confident ____ Cultured ____ Consistent

13 ____ Inspiring ____ Independent ____ Idealistic ____ Inoffensive

14 ____ Demonstrative ____ Decisive ____ Deep ____ Dry Humor

15 ____ Mixes easily ____ Mover ____ Musical ____ Mediator

16 ____ Talker ____ Tenacious ____ Thoughtful ____ Tolerant

17 ____ Lively ____ Leader ____ Loyal ____ Listener

18 ____ Cute ____ Chief ____ Chartmaker ____ Contented

19 ____ Popular ____ Productive ____ Perfectionist ____ Permissive

20 ____ Bouncy ____ Bold ____ Behaved ____ Balanced

Totals _____ _____ _____ _____

21 ____ Brassy ____ Bossy ____ Bashful ____ Blank

22 ____ Undisciplined ____ Unsympathetic ____ Unforgiving ____ Unenthusiastic

23 ____ Repetitious ____ Resistant ____ Resentful ____ Reticent

24 ____ Forgetful ____ Frank ____ Fussy ____ Fearful

25 ____ Interrupts ____ Impatient ____ Insecure ____ Indecisive

26 ____ Unpredictable ____ Unaffectionate ____ Unpopular ____ Uninvolved

27 ____ Haphazard ____ Headstrong ____ Hard-to-please ____ Hesitant

28 ____ Permissive ____ Proud ____ Pessimistic ____ Plain

29 ____ Angered easily ____ Argumentative ____ Alienated ____ Aimless

30 ____ Naïve ____ Nervy ____ Negative attitude ____ Nonchalant

31 ____ Wants credit ____ Workaholic ____ Withdrawn ____ Worrier

32 ____ Talkative ____ Tactless ____ Too sensitive ____ Timid

33 ____ Disorganized ____ Domineering ____ Depressed ____ Doubtful

34 ____ Inconsistent ____ Intolerant ____ Introvert ____ Indifferent

35 ____ Messy ____ Manipulative ____ Moody ____ Mumbles

36 ____ Show-off ____ Stubborn ____ Skeptical ____ Slow

37 ____ Loud ____ Lord-over-others ____ Loner ____ Lazy

38 ____ Scatterbrained ____ Short-tempered ____ Suspicious ____ Sluggish

39 ____ Restless ____ Rash ____ Revengeful ____ Reluctant

40 ____ Changeable ____ Crafty ____ Critical ____ Compromising

Totals _____ _____ _____ _____

SANGUINE CHOLERIC MELANCHOLY PHLEGMATIC

Personality Scoring SheetStrengths

SANGUINE CHOLERIC MELANCHOLY PHLEGMATIC

Weaknesses

Combined Totals: Sanguine _____ Choleric _____ Melancholy _____ Phlegmatic _____

30

29

28

27

26

25

24

23

22

21

20

19

18

17

16

15

14

13

12

11

10

9

8

7

6

5

4

3

2

1

S C M P

Phle

gm

atic

From your Combined Totals on the previous page,

fill in the number of traits for a visual of your temperament.

San

guin

e

Chole

ric

Mel

anch

oly

1 ANIMATED ~Full of life, lively use of hand, arm, and face gestures.

ADVENTUROUS ~One who will take on new and daring enterprises with a need to master them.

ANALYTICAL ~One who is constantly in the process of analyzing people, places, or things.

ADAPTABLE ~One who easily adapts to any situation.

2 PERSISTENT ~Refusing to let go, insistently repetitive or continuous, can't drop it.

PLAYFUL ~Full of fun and good humor.

PERSUASIVE ~One who persuades through logic and fact rather than charm.

PEACEFUL ~One who seems undisturbed and tranquil and who retreats from any form of strife.

3 SUBMISSIVE ~One who easily submits to any other's point of view or desire. This person has little need to

assert his own view or opinion.

SELF-SACRIFICING ~One who constantly sacrifices his/her own personal well being for the sake of or to meet

the needs of others.

SOCIABLE ~This sociable refers to one who sees being with others as an opportunity to be cute and

entertaining. If you are one who enjoys social gatherings as a challenge or business

opportunity then do not check this word.

STRONG-WILLED ~One who is determined to have his/her own way.

4 CONSIDERATE ~Having regard for the needs and feelings of others.

CONTROLLED ~One who has emotional feelings but doesn't display them.

COMPETITIVE ~One who turns every situation, happening, or game into an arena for competition. This

person always plays to win!

CONVINCING ~This person can convince you of anything through the sheer charm of his/her personality.

Facts are unimportant.

5 REFRESHING ~One who renews and stimulates or pleasantly lifts spirits.

RESPECTFUL ~One who treats others with deference, honor, and esteem.

RESERVED ~Self restraint in expression of emotion or enthusiasm.

RESOURCEFUL ~One who is able to act quickly and effectively in virtually all situations.

6 SATISFIED ~A person who easily accepts any circumstance or situation.

SENSITIVE ~This person is intensively sensitive to self and others.

SELF-RELIANT ~An independent person who can fully rely on his/her own capabilities, judgment, and

resources.

SPIRITED ~One who is full of life and excitement.

7 PLANNER ~One who prefers to work out a detailed arrangement beforehand, for the accomplishment

of project or goal. This person much prefers involvement with the planning stages and the

finished product rather than the carrying out of the task.

PATIENT ~One who is unmoved by delay - calm and tolerant.

POSITIVE ~Characterized by certainty and assurance.

PROMOTER ~One who can compel others to go along, join, or invest through the sheer charm of his/her

own personality.

8 SURE ~One who is confident, not hesitating or wavering.

SPONTANEOUS ~One who prefers all of life to be impulsive, unpremeditated activity. This person feels

restricted by plans.

Strengths

Personality Test Word Definitions

SCHEDULED ~This person is controlled by his/her schedule and gets very upset if that schedule is

interrupted. There is another type of person who uses a schedule to stay organized, but is

not controlled by the schedule. If the second description is you, do not check this word.

SHY ~Quiet, doesn't easily instigate a conversation.

9 ORDERLY ~A person who has a methodical, systematic arrangement of things. Can be obsessively tidy.

OBLIGING ~Accommodating. One who is quick to do it another's way.

OUTSPOKEN ~One who speaks frankly and without reserve.

OPTIMISTIC ~This optimist is an almost childlike, dreamer type of optimist.

10 FRIENDLY ~This person is a responder to friendliness rather than an initiator. While he/she seldom

starts a conversation, he/she responds with great warmth and enjoys the exchange.

FAITHFUL ~Consistently reliable. Steadfast, loyal, and devoted sometimes beyond reason.

FUNNY ~This person has an innate humor that can make virtually any story a funny one and is a

remarkable joke teller. If you have a dry humor, do not check this word.

FORCEFUL ~A commanding personality. One would hesitate to take a stand against this person.

11 DARING ~One who is willing to take risks; fearless, bold.

DELIGHTFUL ~A person who is greatly pleasing, fun to be with.

DIPLOMATIC ~One who deals with people both tactfully and sensitively.

DETAILED ~A person who prefers working with the minute or fields that require detail work such as

math, research, accounting, carving, art, graphics, etc.

12 CHEERFUL ~Consistently being in good spirits and promoting cheer.

CONSISTENT ~A person who is agreeable, compatible, not contradictory.

CULTURED ~One whose interests involve both intellectual and artistic pursuits, such as theatre,

symphony, ballet, etc.

CONFIDENT ~One who is self-assured and/or certain of success.

13 IDEALISTIC ~One who visualizes things in an ideal or perfect form, and has a need to measure up to that

standard.

INDEPENDENT ~One who is self-sufficient, self-supporting, self-confident and seems to have little need of

help.

INOFFENSIVE ~A person who never causes offense, pleasant, unobjectionable, harmless.

INSPIRING ~One who encourages others to work, join, or be involved. There is another personality that

is deeply inspirational and has a need to bring life-changing inspiration. If you are the latter,

do not check this word.

14 DEMONSTRATIVE ~One who openly expresses emotion, especially affection. This person doesn't hesitate to

touch others while speaking to them.

DECISIVE ~A person with quick, conclusive, decision-making ability.

DRY HUMOR ~One who exhibits dry wit, usually one-liners which can be sarcastic in nature, but very

humorous.

DEEP ~A person who is intense and often introspective with a distaste for surface conversation

and pursuits.

15 MEDIATOR ~A person who consistently finds him/herself in the role of reconciling differences in order

to avoid conflict.

MUSICAL ~One who either participates in or has an intense appreciation for music. This type of

musical would not include those who find it fun to sing or play. The latter would be a

different personality that enjoys being an entertainer rather than one who is deeply

committed to music as an art form.

MOVER ~One who is so driven by a need to be productive, that he/she finds it difficult to sit still.

MIXES EASILY ~One who loves a party and can't wait to meet everyone in the room, never meets a stranger.

16 THOUGHTFUL ~A considerate person who remembers special occasions and is quick to make a kind

gesture.

TENACIOUS ~One who holds on firmly, stubbornly, and won't let go till the goal is accomplished.

TALKER ~A person who is constantly talking, generally telling funny stories and entertaining

everyone around him/her. There is another compulsive talker who is a nervous talker and

feels the need to fill the silence in order to make others comfortable. This is not the

entertaining talker we are describing here.

TOLERANT ~One who easily accepts the thoughts and ways of others without the need to disagree with

or change them.

17 LISTENER ~One who always seems willing to listen.

LOYAL ~Faithful to a person, ideal, or job. This person is sometimes loyal beyond reason and to

his/her own detriment.

LEADER ~A person who is a born leader. This is not one who rises to the occasion because he/she

can lead, but one who is driven to lead and finds it very difficult to believe anyone else can

do the job.

LIVELY ~Full of life, vigorous, energetic.

18 CONTENTED ~One who is easily satisfied with what he/she has.

CHIEF ~A person who commands leadership.

CHARTMAKER ~One who enjoys either graphs, charts, or lists.

CUTE ~Bubbly-beauty, cutie, precious, diminutive.

19 PERFECTIONIST ~One who desires perfection but not necessarily in every area of life.

PERMISSIVE ~This person is permissive with employees, friends, and children in order to avoid conflict.

PRODUCTIVE ~One who must constantly be working and/or producing. This person finds it very difficult

to rest.

POPULAR ~One who is the life of the party and therefore is much desired as a party guest.

20 BOUNCY ~A bubbly, lively personality.

BOLD ~Fearless, daring, forward.

BEHAVED ~One who consistently desires to conduct him/herself within the realm of what is proper.

BALANCED ~Stable, middle of the road personality, without extremes.

21 BRASSY ~One who is showy, flashy, comes on strong.

BOSSY ~Commanding, domineering, overbearing. (Do not relate this to the raising of children. All

mothers seem bossy and domineering.) Think only of adult relationships.

BASHFUL ~One who shrinks from notice, resulting from self-consciousness.

BLANK ~A person who shows little facial expression or emotion.

22 UNDISCIPLINED ~A person whose lack of discipline permeates virtually every area of his/her life.

UNSYMPATHETIC ~One who finds it difficult to relate to the problems or hurts of others.

UNENTHUSIASTIC ~A person who finds it hard to get excited or feel enthusiasm.

UNFORGIVING ~One who has difficulty forgiving or forgetting a hurt or injustice done to them. This

individual may find it hard to release a grudge.

23 RETICENT ~One who is unwilling or struggles against getting involved.

RESENTFUL ~This person easily feels resentment as a result of real or imagined offenses.

Weaknesses

RESISTANT ~One who strives, works against, or resists accepting any other way but his/her own.

REPETITIOUS ~This person retells stories and incidents to entertain you without realizing he/she has

already told the story several times before. This is not a question so much of forgetfulness,

as it is of constantly needing something to say.

24 FUSSY ~One who is insistent over petty matters or details, calling for great attention to trivial

details.

FEARFUL ~One who often experiences feelings of fear, apprehension or anxiousness.

FORGETFUL ~This person is forgetful because it isn't fun to remember. His/her forgetfulness is tied to a

lack of discipline. There is another personality that is more like the absent-minded

professor. This person tends to be off in another world and only remembers what he/she

chooses to remember. If you are the latter, do not check this word.

FRANK ~One who is straightforward, outspoken, and doesn't mind telling you exactly what he/she

thinks.

25 IMPATIENT ~A person who finds it difficult to endure irritation or wait patiently.

INSECURE ~One who is apprehensive or lacks confidence.

INDECISIVE ~This person finds it difficult to make a decision at all. There is another personality that

labors long over each decision in order to make the perfect one. If you are the latter, do not

check this word.

INTERRUPTS ~This person interrupts because he/she if afraid of forgetting the wonderful thing he/she has

to say if another is allowed to finish. This person is more of a talker than a listener.

26 UNPOPULAR ~A person whose intensity and demand for perfection can push others away.

UNINVOLVED ~One who has no desire to become involved in clubs, groups, or people activities.

UNPREDICTABLE ~This person may be ecstatic one moment and blue the next, willing to help and then

disappear, promising to come and then forgetting to show up.

UNAFFECTIONATE ~One who finds it difficult to verbally or physically demonstrate affection openly.

27 HEADSTRONG ~One who insists on having his/her own way.

HAPHAZARD ~One who has no consistent way of doing things.

HARD TO PLEASE ~A person whose standards are set so high that it is difficult to ever please them.

HESITANT ~This person is slow to get moving and hard to get involved.

28 PLAIN ~A middle-of-the-road personality without highs or lows and showing little if any emotion.

PESSIMISTIC ~This person, while hoping for the best, generally sees the down side of the situation first.

PROUD ~One with great self-esteem who sees him/herself as always right and the best person for the

job.

PERMISSIVE ~This personality allows others (including children) to do as they please in order to keep

from being disliked.

29 ANGERED EASILY ~One who has a childlike flash-in-the-pan temper that expresses itself in a child's tantrum

style. It is over and forgotten almost instantly.

AIMLESS ~A person who is not a goal-setter and has little desire to be one.

ARGUMENTATIVE ~One who incites arguments generally because he/she is determined to be right no matter

what the situation may be.

ALIENATED ~A person who easily feels estranged from others often because of insecurity or fear that

others don't really enjoy his/her company.

30 NAÏVE ~A simple and childlike perspective, lacking sophistication or worldliness. This is not to be

confused with uninformed. There is another personality that is so consumed with his/her

own particular field of interest that he/she simply could not care less what is going on

outside of that sphere. If you are the latter, do not check this word.

NEGATIVE ~One whose attitude is seldom positive and is often able to see only the down or dark side

of each situation.

NERVY ~Full of confidence, fortitude, and sheer guts.

NONCHALANT ~Easy-going, unconcerned, indifferent.

31 WORRIER ~One who consistently feels uncertain or troubled.

WITHDRAWN ~A person who pulls back to him/herself and needs a great deal of alone or isolation time.

WORKAHOLIC ~This is one of two workaholic personalities. This particular one is an aggressive goal-setter

who must be constantly productive and feels very guilty when resting. This workaholic is

not driven by a need for perfection or completion but by a need for accomplishment and

reward.

WANTS CREDIT ~One who is almost dysfunctional without the credit or approval of others. As an entertainer

this person feeds on the applause, laughter, and/or acceptance of an audience.

32 TOO SENSITIVE ~One who is overly sensitive and introspective.

TACTLESS ~A person who can sometimes express him/herself in a somewhat offensive and

inconsiderate way.

TIMID ~One who shrinks from difficult situations.

TALKATIVE ~A compulsive talker who finds it difficult to listen. Again, this is an entertaining talker and

not a nervous talker.

33 DOUBTFUL ~A person who is full of doubts, uncertain.

DISORGANIZED ~One whose lack of organizational ability touches virtually every area of life.

DOMINEERING ~One who compulsively takes control of situations and/or people. Do not consider the

mothering role. All mothers are somewhat domineering.

DEPRESSED ~A person who struggles with bouts of depression on a fairly consistent basis.

34 INCONSISTENT ~Erratic, contradictory, illogical.

INTROVERT ~A person whose thoughts and interest are directed inward. One who lives within

him/herself.

INTOLERANT ~One who appears unable to withstand or accept another's attitudes, point of view or way of

doing things.

INDIFFERENT ~A person to whom most things don't matter one way or the other.

35 MESSY ~This person is messy because it isn't fun to discipline him/herself to clean. The mess is

hardly noticed. There is another personality that gets messy when depressed, and yet

another that is messy because it takes too much energy to do the cleaning. Be sure you are

the first one mentioned if you check this word.

MOODY ~One who easily slips into moods. This person doesn't get very high emotionally, but does

experience very low lows.

MUMBLES ~This person may mumble quietly under the breath when pushed. This is a passive display

of anger.

MANIPULATIVE ~One who influences or manages shrewdly or deviously for one's own advantage. One who

will find a way to get his/her own way.

36 SLOW ~One who is slow-moving, easy-going.

STUBBORN ~A person who is determined to exert his/her own will. Not easily persuaded; obstinate.

SHOW-OFF ~One who needs to be the center of attention.

SKEPTICAL ~Disbelieving, questioning the motive behind the words.

37 LONER ~One who requires a lot of alone time and tends to avoid other people.

LORD OVER ~A person who doesn't hesitate to let you know that he/she is right and has won.

LAZY ~One who evaluates work or activity in terms of how much energy it will take.

LOUD ~A person whose laugh or voice can be heard above others in the room.

38 SLUGGISH ~Slow to get started.

SUSPICIOUS ~One who tends to suspect or distrust.

SHORT-TEMPERED ~One who has a demanding impatience-based anger and a very short fuse. This type of

anger is expressed when others are not moving fast enough or have not completed what they

have been asked to do.

SCATTERBRAINED ~A person lacking the power of concentration or attention. Flighty.

39 REVENGEFUL ~One who knowingly or otherwise holds a grudge and punishes the offender, often by subtly

withholding friendship or affection.

RESTLESS ~A person who likes constant new activity because it isn't fun to do the same things all the

time.

RELUCTANT ~One who is unwilling or struggles against getting involved.

RASH ~One who may act hastily, without thinking things through, generally because of

impatience.

40 COMPROMISING ~A person who will often compromise, even when he/she is right, in order to avoid conflict.

CRITICAL ~One who constantly evaluates and makes judgments. Example: One who is critical might

see someone coming down the street and within seconds might try to evaluate their

cleanliness, look of intelligence or lack of it, style of clothing or lack of it, physical

attractiveness or lack of it, and the list goes on. This person constantly analyzes and

critiques, sometimes without realizing he/she is doing so.

CRAFTY ~Shrewd, one who can always find a way to get to the desired end.

CHANGEABLE ~A person with a childlike short attention span that needs a lot of change and variety to

keep from getting bored.