High-Value Coaching for Leaders with Margie S Heiler, MS, MCC

Certified Executive Coach and Assessments Specialist

ICF CoP for Leadership Coaches – February 2014

roadtoresilience.com

“I’m passionate about helping people discover and live more fully into their core values. I have seen the positive difference it makes and am inspired by each experience, the results, and stories my leadership coaching clients and other coaches share.”

- Margie Heiler, MS, MCC

OBJECTIVESBring values into the coaching

conversationIdentify values gapsCo-create values awareness and

alignmentBuild pathways to happiness through

valuesUse a fun, versatile new values tool in

your coaching

3 KEY TAKE-AWAYSAdvanced techniques for values

work with leadership clientsInsights into the link between values

and happinessHow to use a fun new coaching tool:

The Road to Resilience Values Deck (it’s two decks in one!)

DISCUSSION QUESTIONSHow do you get to a deeper place

with clients more quickly?How do you help a client resolve a

sticky decision or situation when there don’t seem to be any good options?

What do you do when a client says, “I just don’t know? What do you think I should do?”

VALUESValues are qualities of intrinsic worth

Quality of life is determined by the extent to which we honor our own values

“Authentic values are those by which a life can be lived, which can form a people that produces great deeds and thoughts.”

- Allan Bloom (“Values” The Closing of the American Mind)

List of ValuesAccomplishment Adventure Authenticity Balance

Beauty Collaboration Compassion Competition

Connection Contribution Courage Creativity

Dependability Excellence Fairness Happiness

Health Inspiration Integrity Intimacy

Intuition Justice Learning Legacy

Loyalty Magic Nature Organization

Partnership Patience Peace Personal Growth

Planning Privacy Reflection Relationship

Resilience Responsibility Risk-taking Romance

Safety Security Self-expression Serenity

Service Spirituality Trust Thoughtfulness

Vitality Uniqueness

MOST COMMON MISTAKESStepping over clients’ valuesNot making the connections or going back

to revisit valuesDoing a typical Wheel of Life/Leadership

exercise in the initial Discovery session and not taking clients deeper

Not knowing what a powerful tool values are throughout the coaching process

Not recognizing values in discontent and conflict

EXERCISE #1Listen for and bring values

into the coaching conversation1. Using the Wheel of Values, discuss

how each of the client’s top values is being honored.

2. What insights / awareness does this reveal?

3. How does alignment with each value create happiness?

Wheel of Values  

Fun/Joy Health/ Well-Being

Trust

Family

RelationshipsCommunication

Respect

Learning

EXERCISE #2Resolve conflict between competing values

within yourself or with others1. Think of a situation that is causing concern,

discontent or unhappiness.2. What are the underlying values that are

being expressed through these feelings?3. What approach would best honor the

values?

USING THE VALUES DECK WITH LEADERS

1. Values SortHow do your top values show up in

your leadership?How do your values help others

flourish?

2. Values InquiryHow do values contribute to high

performance teamwork?What behaviors are associated with

your values?

POWERFUL VALUES QUESTIONSCoaching questions for leaders who are frustrated or angry about something:What is not OK for you in this

situation?What’s important to you that is not

being heard or respected?What are you learning about

yourself?What deeply held value(s) does this

situation (and others like it) point to?

Ideas and Actions

What new idea do you have about working with your leadership clients on values?

For information about the Values Deck:

Call Margie at 540.635.4843 Or visit valuesdeck.com