Helping your sons Helping your sons Become MenBecome Men

Standing Standing CourageouslyCourageously in in a World of Compromisea World of Compromise

CompromiseCompromise

To adjust and settle a To adjust and settle a difference by mutual difference by mutual agreement. agreement. Webster’s 1828 dictionaryWebster’s 1828 dictionary

RelativismRelativism

a view that ethical truths a view that ethical truths depend on the individuals depend on the individuals and groups holding them. and groups holding them. Merriam-Webster dictionary, 2012.Merriam-Webster dictionary, 2012.

1865?1865?

So Whose Rules Anyways???So Whose Rules Anyways???

The TrendThe Trend87.7%

69.4%

The TrendThe Trend

Rate of imprisonment has increased Rate of imprisonment has increased by more than by more than 400%400%. .

More than half of those imprisoned More than half of those imprisoned are parents.are parents.

Approximately 1.5 million children Approximately 1.5 million children have a parent in prison. have a parent in prison.

FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National Fatherhood InitiativeFatherhood Initiative

The trendThe trend

•There is a higher risk for risky There is a higher risk for risky behaviors (alcohol, drugs, smoking), behaviors (alcohol, drugs, smoking), victimization and mental distress victimization and mental distress among adolescents in single-mother among adolescents in single-mother and single-father families than in and single-father families than in two-parent familiestwo-parent families

FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National Fatherhood InitiativeFatherhood Initiative

The trendThe trend

•boys from father-absent homes boys from father-absent homes were more likely than those from were more likely than those from father-present homes to use father-present homes to use drugs.drugs.

•41% of babies are born to unwed 41% of babies are born to unwed mothers in 2008. mothers in 2008.

FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National Fatherhood FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National Fatherhood InitiativeInitiative

Yet, we feel…Yet, we feel…

• 93 percent of Americans believe being a 93 percent of Americans believe being a good father is a very important quality good father is a very important quality for a partner to have. for a partner to have.

• 70 percent of Americans believe 70 percent of Americans believe putting family before anything else putting family before anything else is an important quality for a motheris an important quality for a mother

• compared to 82 percent who believe the compared to 82 percent who believe the same quality is important for fathers. same quality is important for fathers.

Source: Luscombe, B. (2010). Marriage: what’s it good for? Source: Luscombe, B. (2010). Marriage: what’s it good for? TimeTime, , 176, 48-54.176, 48-54.

We thinkWe think

• 91% of fathers agreed there is a father-91% of fathers agreed there is a father-absence crisis in the country.absence crisis in the country.

• ““work responsibilities” work responsibilities” was most was most frequently given as an obstacle to being a frequently given as an obstacle to being a good father.good father.

• Fathers who perceived the greatest obstacles Fathers who perceived the greatest obstacles to fathering were those not married to the to fathering were those not married to the mothers of their child, did not live with their mothers of their child, did not live with their child, had one or more stepchildren. child, had one or more stepchildren. FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National Fatherhood FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National Fatherhood InitiativeInitiative

We believeWe believe

““Seven in 10 Seven in 10 adults believe a adults believe a child needs a home with both a child needs a home with both a father and a mother to grow up father and a mother to grow up happy.”happy.”

FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National FATHER FACTS, 6TH EDITION • 2011 National Fatherhood InitiativeFatherhood Initiative

MoralMoral

• actions that are good or evil, virtuous or actions that are good or evil, virtuous or vicious, and has reference to the vicious, and has reference to the law of law of God God as the standard by which their as the standard by which their character is to be determined. character is to be determined. Webster’s 1828 dictionaryWebster’s 1828 dictionary..

• relating to principles of right and wrong relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior. It is in behavior. It is perceptualperceptual or or psychological rather than tangible or psychological rather than tangible or practical in nature or effect. practical in nature or effect. Merriam-Merriam-Webster dictionary, 2012Webster dictionary, 2012..

Can I really trust…? Can I really trust…?

Authority skitAuthority skit

Real menReal men

“…“…Reject passivity, Accept Reject passivity, Accept responsibility, Lead responsibility, Lead

courageously.” courageously.” Raising a Raising a

Modern Day Knight- Robert LewisModern Day Knight- Robert Lewis

•What are you passive in?What are you passive in?

•What are you aggressive in?What are you aggressive in?

Proverbs 29:18Proverbs 29:18aa

“ “Where there is no Where there is no vision, the people vision, the people perish…”perish…”

Brace yourself…Brace yourself…

Proverbs 4:20-27 Proverbs 4:20-27

•Listen Listen ––vs.20vs.20 give attention to give attention to mymy words. words.

•Look-vs.21Look-vs.21 don’t let this out of your don’t let this out of your sight. sight.

•Search-vs.22. Search-vs.22. gives you life if you gives you life if you find it. find it.

Proverbs 4:23-27Proverbs 4:23-27

•Heart-vs.23.Heart-vs.23. internalize and internalize and believe gives life.believe gives life.

•Mouth- vs.24 Mouth- vs.24 no no deceit/deviousnessdeceit/deviousness

•Eyes-vs.25 Eyes-vs.25 look straight aheadlook straight ahead

•Feet-vs.26-27 Feet-vs.26-27 watch path, watch path, don’t turn.don’t turn.

What does moral courage What does moral courage look like?look like?

The Challenge:The Challenge:

Be on the alert, Be on the alert,

stand firm in the faith, stand firm in the faith,

act like men, act like men,

be strong!be strong! www.TheReal3.com I I

Corinthians 16:13Corinthians 16:13