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Help! I Have a Picky Eater! PRACTICAL STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO SUCCESS Liz Engelsen, MSOT, OTRL Melissa Czinski, MOT, OTRL Building Bridges Therapy Center

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Page 1: Help! I Have a PRACTICAL STRATEGIES TO GET Picky Eater

Help! I Have a Picky Eater!

PRACTICAL

STRATEGIES TO GET

YOU STARTED ON

THE PATH TO

SUCCESS

Liz Engelsen, MSOT, OTRL

Melissa Czinski, MOT, OTRL

Building Bridges Therapy Center

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Objectives

1. Identify who is in the audience and what learning needs are

2. Summarize oral motor, sensory, and miscellaneous factors that affect feeding/eating

3. Provide strategies that include:◦ Sensory Preparation

◦ Food Chaining

◦ Managing Food Jags

◦ Family Meals and Modeling

◦ Food Play

◦ Food Science

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Picky Eaters vs. Problem Feeders

Decreased range but will eat at least 30 different

foods

Severely restricted range; usually eat less than 20

different foods

Foods lost due to food jags are usually regained

after 2 week break

Foods lost due to food jags are usually not regained

after a break

Able to tolerate new foods on plate Cry or fall apart when new foods are presented

Eat at least 1 food from most food textures or

nutrition groups

Refuse entire categories of food textures or

nutrition groups

Frequently eat a different meal than the rest of the

family but will still participate in family meals

Always eat a different meal than the rest of the

family and usually do not participate in family

meals

Sometimes referred to as a "picky eater" by parents

at well-visit checkups

Persistently referred to as a "picky eater" by

parents across several well-visit checkups

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FACTORS AFFECTING FEEDING

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Oral MotorTongue-moves food around the mouth, holds food on gumline to chew (works with cheeks-both have to be strong enough), ejects food from mouth, moves food to be swallowed

Cheeks-hold food on the gumline to chew (works with tongue-both have to be strong enough), help with sucking/drinking, managing liquid in mouth

Jaw-Biting, chewing

Lips-retrieving food from utensils, drinking from cup/straw, keeping food in mouth

(Throat)-swallow

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Sensory Processing

We make SENSE of the world by

integrating these systems!

The 8 Sensory Systems:1. Visual: sense of sight

2. Auditory: sense of hearing

3. Olfactory: sense of smell

4. Gustatory: sense of taste

5. Tactile: sense of touch

6. Vestibular: sense of balance and spatial

orientation for the purpose of coordinating

motor movement

7. Proprioception: sense of one's body

position in space

8. Interoception: sense of what is going on

within one's body (ie. hunger/thirst,

temperature, pain, emotion, etc.)

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Sensory Integration

An innate neurobiological process that refers to the way we receive information from our senses, organize it, and use it to participate in daily activities

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How does this affect feeding?• ALL of the sensory systems are involved in the

feeding and eating process

• Eating is one of the only human occupations that involves every sensory system

• If our senses are not functioning together properly, we may not be able to tolerate the feeding and eating process

• Dysregulation --> trigger fight or flight/stress response --> turns off appetite

• We need optimal sensory processing for the feeding and eating process

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How does this affect feeding?• ALL of the sensory systems are involved in the

feeding and eating process

• Eating is one of the only human occupations that involves every sensory system

• If our senses are not functioning together properly, we may not be able to tolerate the feeding and eating process

• Dysregulation --> trigger fight or flight/stress response --> turns off appetite

• We need optimal sensory processing for the feeding and eating process

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Photo analysis – What is going on with this boy's sensory systems?

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Miscellaneous FactorsPostural strength and stability

◦ Seating-90-90-90

Hand-to-mouth coordination with finger foods and utensils

Environmental factors:

◦ distractions (SCREENS)

◦ who is eating at the meal

◦ the setup of the room, table, etc.

◦ plates, cups, utensils used

Medical Needs

Emotional Factors (Stress, Trauma)

Nutritional Needs (allergies, sensitivities, etc)

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STRATEGIES FOR THE HOME

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Sensory Preparation

Goal: achieve total body organization and

regulation prior to meal

PROPRIOCEPTIVE SYSTEM VESTIBULAR SYSTEM TACTILE SYSTEM

• Heavy work (i.e. pushing, pulling,

carrying, lifting) - tug of war, catch with a

heavy ball/bean bags, exercise)

• Chores (i.e. laundry, dishwasher, clean

up room/toys, carry groceries, shovel

snow, etc.)

• Animal walks, wheelbarrow walks, stomping,

skipping, or hopping

• Climbing activities (i.e. monkey bars,

climbing structures, rock wall)

• Jumping activities (i.e. trampoline, jump

rope, leap frog, hopskotch)

• Yoga

• Slow, linear swinging

• Slow, rotary swinging

• Rocking in a rocking chair

• Rocking in a hammock or lycra swing

• Roll over exercise ball on back or front

• Invert head for downward dog and

other yoga poses

• Peanut rock

• Deep pressure (i.e. bear hugs, massage, make

a "sandwich" or "burrito" by wrapping

child tightly in pillows/cushions, roll exercise

ball over front/back of child as they lay, etc.)

• Weighted materials (i.e. blankets, lap pads,

vests, or heavy comforters, couch cushions,

etc.)

• Tactile play with play-doh, putty, slime,

sensory bins (beans, rice, sand, etc.), shaving

cream, etc. (as long as these are not aversive

to the child)

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Food ChainingA child-friendly approach to expanding the food repertoire by

introducing new foods that are very similar to preferred foods

in appearance, taste, and/or texture one after the other

Easy to tailor to specific child's needs

Adds foods from start to finish

Especially great for: children who are very visual, children who

are rigid with specific brands or flavors of preferred foods, and

children who have limited play skills

Goal: create "chains" or "links" between foods already eaten and

foods that are slightly different, thus, growing the food

repertoire

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Food Chaining Example

From here, we can then try

adding a thin layer of butter,

toasting the bread more

heavily, keeping a very small

amount of crust on, etc. We

can also gradually progress to

thin layers of nut butters,

jams/jellies or put two pieces

of bread together to work

towards a sandwich, etc.

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Managing Food Jags

What is a "food jag"?When a child gets "burnt out" on a

food and stops eating it.

How does a food jag

happen?When a child eats the same food

very frequently, they get sick of it!

How can you prevent

this from happening?1. Decrease the frequency of presenting

a food, even if it is a favorite and highly

requested

2. Change the way you present the food

(color, shape, amount, prepare

differently)

3. Buy a different variation of the food

(I.e. flavor)

See the "Preventing Food Jags"

handout for more information

and tips to prevent food jags

Goal: decrease potential for lost foods; avoid

getting "stuck" on certain flavors, colors, or

textures; improve variability within food

repertoire

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Family Meals and Modeling• Eating together

• When you care about mealtime and spend quality

time here, engagement in food goes up.

• Family style, serving each person (child)

• Learning Plate

• New foods

• Talk about them

• Smell them

• Taste them

• Everyone learns about the food at their comfort

level-there is NO pressure and NO suggesting a

child do "X"

Goal: connect over foods as a family,

model positive food talk, encourage

learning and exploration of novel

foods

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Food Play

A child's main occupation is PLAY

Food play allows for learning

and creating positive experiences

Tolerates

• Peek-a-boo

• Make food pieces "rain" into bowl

• Slide food back and forth across table, using sounds and

noises to describe what is happening (i.e. pancake wheels

go "vroom vroom")

Interacts With

• Child and adult pass or throw container with food inside

back and forth

• Child uses a food chopper, cookie cutters, or knives to make

novel shapes

• Child uses preferred food (ex-veggie straw) to paint pictures

with non-preferred (ex-applesauce or yogurt)

Goal: utilize play to decrease

anxiety/fear associated with new

foods and replace with fun while

moving up the Steps to Eating

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Food Play

Smell

• Peek-a-boo opening container to let

smell out

• Therapist and child make a fan with

hand and use to fan food smell

towards nose

• Lean towards food to smell while

blowing it across table

Touch – Hands

• Squishing, smashing, breaking, etc.

• Draw or write in purees with fingertip

• Make silly faces on plate with

different foods for each part

Touch – Body & Face

• Hide and seek (i.e. down sleeve, down

shirt, etc.)

• Wear as clothing or jewelry (i.e.

necklaces, hats, etc.)

• Make silly faces (i.e. mustaches,

beards, eyebrows, etc.)

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Food PlayTouch – Lips & Mouth

• Use food as lipstick or chapstick

• Give kisses

• Use as toothbrush to brush teeth

Taste

• Hide and seek in mouth

• "Animal tongue" taste

• "Paint" tongue

Chew & Swallow

• Chew and spit

• Animal chewing

• Who can crunch faster, slower, etc.?

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Food ScienceDescribe characteristics of food

• Look (color, shape, size, what else it

looks like, etc)

• Feel (wet/dry, soft/hard, cold/hot,

smooth/bumpy, rough/sticky)

• Smell (small, medium, large, sweet,

sour, salty, spicy, bitter, bready)

• Taste (small, medium, large, sweet, sour,

salty, spicy, bitter, bready)

• Sounds (loud, quiet, crunchy, squeaky)

Attempt to make

connections between

foods.

• What else is orange that

we ate today?

• What else was bumpy?

• I'm thinking of a food

you always eat that's

also shaped like a

circle...

Goal: use the senses to learn about

new foods prior to eating them, thus

decreasing anxiety/fear

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When to Talk to Your Doctor About Feeding

Therapy

Your child is rapidly losing foods they used

to eat

Limited food selection is impacting your child's

nutrition/health/weight

Mealtimes are incredibly stressful

You are constantly worrying about your child's food intake

None of the strategies you have tried are

helping

Your child eats less than 20-30 foods or

no/limited fruits, vegetables, or proteins

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Questions?Contact:

Building Bridges Therapy Center

www.bridgestherapy.com

734-454-0866

[email protected]

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References

Beckman, D.A. (1988/2012) Oral motor interventions. Beckmanoralmotor.com.

Fraker, C. et al (2007). Food chaining: The proven 6-step

plan to stop picky eating, solve feeding problems, and

expand your child's diet. De Capo Press.

Toomey, et. al. (1990/2018). SOS: When children won't

eat, picky eaters vs. problem feeders, assessment and treatment using the SOS approach to feeding. (utilized multiple talking points from therapist training and handouts)

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Building Bridges offers a specialized feeding program to help.

Our Occupational Therapists take a fun, safe approach to feeding,

so kids enjoy eating.

INTENSIVE FEEDING PROGRAM

734.454.0866

www.BridgesTherapy.com

WHEN FOOD IS A CONSTANT

WORRY…. Let us help.

I can honestly say that it far

surpassed what I thought we

would accomplish. My son is far

more adventurous with his food.

I truly feel the feeding intensive

jump-started a new adventure in

food for him and for us.

- Robin M. (Jake’s Mom)

Only eats the same five foods

Makes eating together as a family nearly impossible

Is not gaining weight

Requires a separate meal

Creates chaotic and stressful meals for the entire family

Our occupational therapists havespecific training

to use techniques* designed to help your child feel safe while

exploring food.

*Therapists use the Toomey SOS & Beckman Oral Motor approach

We participate with most insurance carriers.

Questions/Scheduling: Contact [email protected]

ONE HOUR SESSIONS

4 DAYS/WEEK

For 3 WEEKS

Our intensive, customized

program is focused,

engaging, and fun!

If your daily life is impacted because your child:

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Copyright 2008/2010 Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.

FAMILY MEALS

The goal of Family Meals is for your Child to eat a volume of their preferred foods. However, a secondary goal is for your Child to be learning about other, non-preferred or new foods as well. Therefore, at EVERY meal AND snack, your Child should be offered at least one protein, one starch and one fruit/vegetable. At least one of these foods must be a preferred food. Do NOT restrict access to preferred foods until your therapist indicates that your Child has enough feeding skills for you to do so.

STEP 1 = give Child a verbal warning, “we will be eating in 5 minutes”. STEP 2 = if instructed by your therapist, have your Child engage in a Postural

Activation Exercise (see handout) or other Sensory Preparation exercise

STEP 3 = get your Child and say “it is time to WASH HANDS now” (not “it is

time to eat”) STEP 4 = bring Child to sink to wash hands (change the soap, washcloth or

sponge and water temperature etc. every other day for Sensory Preparation)

STEP 5 = bring to the Table and have sit into chair (can have one preferred food

already out on the table if needed to entice Child into their seat)

STEP 6 = begin Family Style serving (each person passes each food and takes a

small amount to put on their plate or the “Learning Plate”; Rule of Thumb

re: serving size = 1 tablespoon per year of age) STEP 7 = everyone eats, allowing your Child to self-feed for at least the first

10 minutes of the meal. Adults are to talk about the food and use over-exaggerated oral-motor movements to “show and tell” the Child about how to make the food work in the mouth.

STEP 8 = after at least 10-20 minutes, begin any special feeding programs or adult feeding of your Child that has been recommended by your therapist.

STEP 9 = when Child appears to be done eating, offer a drink in a cup (can

offer after the ½ way point in the meal if needs a drink sooner). Can try to re-offer a food after the drink, if Child appears to not have eaten enough at the meal. Do this in a playful manner; don’t push.

STEP 10 = when done eating and drinking, begin a “Clean Up” routine = Child blows or throws 1 piece of each food offered at that meal into the trash or a scraps bowl, then washes hands and/or table BEFORE getting down from the table.

If Child tries to get down too early, remind him/her “we haven’t done Clean Up yet. It’s not time to get down”, and then offer another food. Don’t forget to use your “Key Phrases”

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Copyright, 2002/2010 Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.

MANAGEMENT OF FOOD JAGS

What are Food Jags? Some children, especially those with feeding difficulties, prefer to eat the

same food prepared the same way every day or at every meal. This is known as a “Food Jag”. The main problem with food jags is that children will eventually get bored or burned out on these preferred foods. Once children with feeding difficulties shun the preferred foods they’ve been jagging on, these foods are typically lost out of that child’s food range - permanently. They may then continue this process of eliminating foods until they have very few foods left in their food repertoire.

Preventing Food Jags: These are the ways to prevent food jags and the loss of foods:

1. Offer any one particular food ONLY every OTHER day (i.e. NOT every day)

2. If the child does not have a wide enough food range to eat 3 different foods at each of 5 meals

across the course of 2 days, then you must change at least one sensory property within the preferred food EVERY time you serve that food; shape, color, taste, texture, temperature. Below

are some ideas about how to change the sensory properties (do each type of change for 2 weeks

before moving onto the other type of change – in order as listed below):

Changing Shape: cut the food into different forms than it is usually presented. Using cookie cutters is an excellent and fun way to do this.

Changing Color: add food coloring to the favorite foods

Changing Taste: add a new flavoring to the food, such as using spices (dill, lemon, garlic, salt, tarragon) or extra butter, flavored Pam, or parmesan cheese. Add flavored syrups or jellies,

soy sauce, tomato sauce, Jello powders, gravy or dried soup powders

Changing Texture: add a thickening agent such as corn starch, Thick-It; add an extra egg to cooking; add extra oil to cooking mixtures; cook the food into a different texture (e.g. making an

omelet vs. fried eggs)

An Example: Johnny likes pancakes and wants to eat them every morning (and only them) for

breakfast. If Johnny refuses all other foods and falls apart without his pancakes, his Mother would offer them BUT she would change something about them each day as follows: Week 1 - change the shape (have Johnny cut his pancakes with cookie cutters that are different every

day until he will allow the pancake to be presented by Mom already cut into a different shape) Week 2 - change the color each day (have Johnny help cook the pancakes and add a food

coloring. If he doesn’t understand that food coloring doesn’t change taste, you may have to have his experiment with changing the color of water with food coloring and

tasting that there is no flavor change) Week 3 - change the taste and the texture slightly by adding an extra egg one day, and extra

oil the next (alternating days until both are tolerated well)

Week 4 - change the flavor of the pancakes clearly by adding flavored syrups or different jelly on different days

Week 5 - change the taste and texture by adding real pieces of fruit to the pancakes

The Just Noticeable Difference: At first, a child may be quite resistant to any type of change in

their preferred food. They may notice even very small differences in any of the food properties. The goal is for you to change the food enough that a Just Noticeable Difference is noted by the child. This

Just Noticeable Difference should NOT be so large that your child has a meltdown and refuses to eat. The size of the Just Noticeable Difference that can be tolerated is different for every child. You will need

to experiment to find what your child can tolerate by first changing a property of the food in a small way

(in the order listed above). Your child should act like they noticed, BUT ARE OKAY, with the change. If they fall apart, you made too big of a change and you need to back down and change the food less next.

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FoodScienceTrackingSheet

AdaptedfromDr.KayToomey’sSequentialOralSensory(SOS)ApproachtoFeedingFoodScienceTrackingSheet

Food/Date Sight Touch Smell Taste Sound Rating

Color:

_______________

Shape:

_______________

Shiny/Matte

Wet/Dry

Soft/Hard

Cold/Hot/Warm

/RoomTemp

Smooth/Bumpy/

Slimy/Sticky

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

SmellsLike:

_______________

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

TastesLike:

_______________

Loud/Quiet/

Nosound

Crunchy/Squeaky

Score:

______/10

Color:

_______________

Shape:

_______________

Shiny/Matte

Wet/Dry

Soft/Hard

Cold/Hot/Warm

/RoomTemp

Smooth/Bumpy

Slimy/Sticky

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

SmellsLike:

_______________

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

TastesLike:

_______________

Loud/Quiet/

Nosound

Crunchy/Squeaky

Score:

______/10

Color:

_______________

Shape:

_______________

Shiny/Matte

Wet/Dry

Soft/Hard

Cold/Hot/Warm

/RoomTemp

Smooth/Bumpy

Slimy/Sticky

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

SmellsLike:

_______________

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

TastesLike:

_______________

Loud/Quiet/

Nosound

Crunchy/Squeaky

Score:

______/10

Color:

_______________

Shape:

_______________

Shiny/Matte

Wet/Dry

Soft/Hard

Cold/Hot/Warm

/RoomTemp

Smooth/Bumpy

Slimy/Sticky

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

SmellsLike:

_______________

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

TastesLike:

_______________

Loud/Quiet/

Nosound

Crunchy/Squeaky

Score:

______/10

Color:

_______________

Shape:

_______________

Shiny/Matte

Wet/Dry

Soft/Hard

Cold/Hot/Warm

/RoomTemp

Smooth/Bumpy

Slimy/Sticky

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

SmellsLike:

_______________

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

TastesLike:

_______________

Loud/Quiet/

Nosound

Crunchy/Squeaky

Score:

______/10

Color:

_______________

Shape:

_______________

Shiny/Matte

Wet/Dry

Soft/Hard

Cold/Hot/Warm

/RoomTemp

Smooth/Bumpy

Slimy/Sticky

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

SmellsLike:

_______________

Small/Med./Lrg.

Sweet/Sour/Salty

/Spicy/Bitter/

Bready

TastesLike:

_______________

Loud/Quiet/

Nosound

Crunchy/Squeaky

Score:

______/10

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Copyright, 2002/2010 Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.

[email protected]

KEY PHRASES FOR CREATING A POSITIVE FEEDING EXPERIENCE

How we talk to our children during meals is very critical. The words we use need to be teaching words, meant to help our children learn what it is that they need to be doing specifically at meals. OUR GOAL = to advance a child up the "Steps To Eating" without using ... Questions, or Negative Instructions, Demands or Commands

“YOU CAN” Replace as many of your questions with “YOU CAN” vs “can you?” 1 - the “you can” phrase implies confidence that our child can do the task being shown them; it avoids the interruption of asking a question because it is a statement instead; it avoids the power struggle you set yourself up for by asking a question 2 - if they reply with “no, I can’t”, you can just say “when you are ready, I believe you can!” And avoid that power struggle all together 3 - talk about others CAN too = “Joey can (describe action)”, “We can. (describe action)” 4 - ask ONLY choice questions (“do you want A or B”) and ONLY when the child is NOT already eating 5 - REMEMBER - if “no” is not an acceptable answer, don’t ask it as a question! QUESTIONS: need to be avoided because... - they interrupt children eating who know they are expected to answer our questions to them,

even if they chose not to respond. We never want to interrupt a child eating ! - they set us up to power struggle with our children. What do you do when they answer with a

“no”? If you let the “no” stand, they don’t eat. If you disregard the “no” and push them, not only are you going to power struggle, but you are also invalidating the opinion YOU JUST ASKED FOR with your question.

- “Can You....?” is the most frequent question parents use. This question, in particular, implies a lack of confidence on our part as to whether our child really can do this eating task. That lack of confidence is imparted to our child with this question.

_____________________________________________________________________

NEUTRAL OR POSITIVE EDUCATIONAL LANGUAGE: use language that is focused on teaching your child about the sensory properties of the food and the mechanics of how the food breaks apart/moves AND how this food is similar to a known food 1 - give the food a name and describe what it looks like (color, shape, size, texture) 2 - “Teach the Physics of Food” = explore the food with your hands and eyes. Can

you bang it on the table, or is it wiggly? Does it crush into powder, or squish into mush? Does it feel bumpy, or smooth? Does powder stick to your fingers, or is it sticky? All of these different types of foods are going to work differently once the food gets into the mouth. We want your children to understand as much about the food as possible, and what is going to happen to the food once it gets into the mouth, BEFORE it gets in your child’s mouth.

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[email protected]

3 - If it is too threatening to talk about the child’s food, talk about your own food and eating. Manipulate your own food with your hands and mouth. Teaching your child to eat is a SHOW AND TELL exercise. Remember, you are the Professor and every meal/snack is a classroom/teaching opportunity.

4 - If your child is struggling with a food (sensory or oral-motor wise), show them and tell them in explicit detail how to alternatively manage that food (e.g. “You look worried about that food. If it is making you worried, you can move it up here; you can cover it up”), (e.g. “Take a bite of that licorice from the side here with your strong back teeth. Hold it down tight in your teeth and then bite and pull”), (e.g. “See how I can take a bite of my chip and move my tongue sideways to put it on my big boy molars and now I can chew, chew, chew and then swallow it to my tummy”).

NEGATIVE DEMANDS OR COMMANDS: need to be avoided because... - a “do this or else” statement does little to create a postive mealtime atmosphere - demanding a child do something in a negative fashion or tone of voice, often upsets them - remember, your child’s negative emotions are connected to the Adrenaline neurotransmitter

system, which in turn directly suppresses appetite. We never want to do anything at a meal that is going to directly suppress appetite! - our demands and commands often times set us apart from our children at meals as the

authority figure rather than helping them feel like we are joining them in tackling this difficult task. They also may give our children a sense that we feel they are stupid or silly (e.g. ”take a bite already!”), or they may make our children feel as if we have no understanding of just how difficult a task eating is for them (e.g. “stop playing with your food and just eat it!”).

_____________________________________________________________________ “DO” LANGUAGE vs. Don’t Language: use language that is rule based and helps

your child understand the exact, correct behavior you expect. “Do language” tells the child the rule, rather than saying “stop”, “don’t”, “no”. It also then gives the appropriate behavior in specific terms.

1 - instead of “stop throwing” say, “food stays on the table. If you don’t want it, put it up

here” Or, “push it away” 2 - instead of “sit down!” say, “chairs are for sitting, not standing. We sit on our bottoms in the chair”. 3 - instead of “stop screaming” say, “we need to use an inside voice here. If something

is upsetting you, you can use your words in an inside voice” 4 - instead of “don’t spill that drink” say, “cups are for drinking. If you are going to spill, the cup will go over here until you are ready to actually take a drink” NEGATIVE INSTRUCTIONS: need to be avoided because... - they interrupt eating, they set you up for power struggles and they do not teach children WHAT TO DO. Negative instructions typically only teach children what NOT to do, WITHOUT providing a more appropriate alternative (eg. “stop screaming”; “don’t throw”, “stop that”, “don’t spill that drink”). - negative instructions usually deal with a maladaptive behavior after it has occurred and do not help to “set up” our children to be successful from the start.

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EATING

chews and swallows whole bolus independently

chews, swallows whole bolus with drink

chews, swallows some and spits some

bites, chews “x” times & spits out bites pieces, holds in mouth for “x” seconds & spits out

bites off piece & spits out immediately

full tongue lick

licks lips or teeth

STEPS TO EATING TASTE

tip of tongue, top of tongue

teeth

lips

nose, underneath nose

chin, cheek

top of head

chest, neck

arm, shoulder

whole hand

fingertips, fingerpads

one finger tip

TOUCH

leans down or picks up to smell

odor in child’s forward space

odor at table

odor in room

SMELLS

uses utensils or container to serve self onto own plate/space

uses utensils or a container to stir or pour food/drink outside of own space

uses utensils or a container to stir or pour food/drink for others

assists in preparation/set up with food

INTERACTS WITH

looks at food when directly in child’s space being at the table with the food just outside of child’s space

being at the table with the food ½ way across the table

being at the table with the food on the other side of the table

being in the same room

TOLERATES

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