Healthy LimitsSigns and SymptomsBarriersCharacter Study – DanielSkills for Setting BoundariesTeam Time

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Page 39We must set healthy limits on our:

Body Feelings Attitudes Behaviors

Maturity is the process of properly realizing what our real limits are

Overly strict limits → never find true capacity Few limits → overextend ourselves

Fences let the good in and keep the bad out

Thoughts Abilities Choices Desires

Resentment Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Indirect resistance to demands for adequate performance in social or work settings

Codependency Putting the other person first, often to their own

detriment Victim Mentality and Blaming Feelings of Obligation For a complete list, see notes

Past Injury Injuries can make it more difficult to take

responsibility Distorted Thinking

Ourselves “I am bad for having boundaries”

Others “They will hate me for saying no”

God “God thinks I’m selfish when I say no to others”

For a complete list, see notes

Daniel 1:8-20 How were Daniel’s relationships?

With God With others With himself

How did Daniel set boundaries in captivity? Who else did the boundaries effect?

What was the outcome of the boundaries? Respect, freedom, personal growth, etc. Fiery Furnace trial Interpreting dream to spare lives

Skills for Setting Boundaries Gain awareness – know yourself, ownership Define who you are Define who you are not Develop the “no” muscle Stop blaming others and playing victim Set limits Choose values Challenge distorted thinking For a complete list, see notes

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In your teams, the goal is truth & grace Take turns speaking and listening If you need more time, work it out