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Healing Hurting Hearts: Trauma-Informed Strategies to Transform Behaviors Keynote presentation by:

Dr. Becky Bailey Founder & Chief Knowledge Officer, Conscious Discipline

The unique individual experience of single event, series of events, or set of enduring conditions, in which: 1.Theindividual’sabilitytointegratehisorheremotionalexperiencesisoverwhelmed. or 2.Theindividualexperiencesathreattolife,bodilyintegrityorsanity.

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study •Thelargeststudyofitskindevertoexamineoverthelifespanthemedical,socialand

economicconsequencesinadultsofadversechildhoodexperiences

•AdverseChildhoodExperiencesaretheprimedeterminantofthehealth,socialandeconomicwell-beingofournation.

Trauma is Epidemic •70%=224millionpeople

•UrbanPovertyChildren70-100%

Exploring Disparities between States:State Ranking Map of the Proportion of Children with ≥ 2 ACEs


Healing Hurting Hearts: Trauma-Informed Strategies to Transform Behaviors

Team of Two is all it takes! Thesinglemostcommonfactorforchildrentodevelopresilienceisatleastonestableandcommittedrelationshipwithasupportiveparent,caregiverorotheradult.

Forms of Trauma 1. Sexual,physical,emotionalabuseorassault 2. Neglect 3. Seriousaccident,illnessormedicalprocedures 4. Witnesstodomesticand/orcommunityviolence 5. Schoolviolence 6. Naturaldisasters 7. Forceddisplacement(refugees) 8. War/terrorism/politicalviolence 9. Traumaticgrief/separation 10. System-inducedtrauma(removalfromhome,multiplefosterplacements,

siblingseparation)

Types of Trauma 1. Acuteshocktraumaresultsfromasingleincident. 2. Developmentaltraumaisexposuretovariedandmultipletraumaticevents,

oftenofaninvasiveandinterpersonalnature.

Symptoms in Adults:

•Anxiety/PanicAttacks •ExcessiveSelf-Blame •EatingDisorders •InnateBeliefinBadness •BlackandWhiteThinking •DifficultyMaintainingRelationships •Dissociation–Numbing •InabilitytoTolerateFeelings •RoleofVictim,Rescuer

•Addictions/Distractions•SexualActingOut•CrisisOrientation•Perfectionism•IntenseUnexplainedFears•Self-Harm•IntrusiveThoughts•SuicidalThoughts,Feelings•Persecutor

Conscious Discipline is Recognized by the NREPP. IncludedinSAMHSA’sNationalRegistryofEvidence-basedProgramsandPractices.

SubstanceAbuseandMentalHealthServicesAdministration.

The Dilemma Traumahappensofteninrelationshipsanditisalsotherelationshipthathealsusfromtrauma.

Recognized by the

Included in SAMHSA’s National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices



Parenting Characteristics under conditions of high stress and trauma: 1. Insensitivity 2. Lackofresponsiveness 3. Withdrawal 4. Reactivity 5. Lowwarmthandirritability 6. Harshness 7. Punitiveness



Key Points •Stressandtraumaareprimarilynon-cognitivephenomena.

•FieldofneurosciencetellsusthatstressandtraumaarehousedinthepartofthebraincalledtheAutonomicNervousSystem(ANS).

•ANSregulatesthefunctionsofourinternalorganssuchasheart,stomachandintestines.

80% of disease is caused by an imbalance.

ANS = AUTONOMIC NERVOUS

Regulating the Clacker

Clacker represents the Autonomic Nervous System

THE AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM= FELT SENSE OF SAFETY

THE AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM= FELT SENSE OF SAFETY



Relaxed AlertnessStressmobilizes:Fight/flight •HeartrateincreasesTrauma:PreparetoDIE •Heartratedecreases

Stress vs. Trauma •Whenthethreatincreasestothepointwherefightingorfleeingisn’tenough:

wehitanoverwhelmedpoint. •Theperceptionisthatwearenotgoingtomakeit. •Thistriggersamassiveparasympatheticresponse–thatcomesonlinewitharebound

effect–creatinggastrointestinaleffect.Childrenfreezeandbecomeinvisibleintotheirenvironment.

Nervesurgescreategutproblems.

ANS and the Conscious Discipline Clacker



Young Children •Theyoungerthechild,themorevulnerablehe/sheistotrauma. •Theycannotgetaway,mobilize,fightorflight. •Fragilebrains,changingrapidlytoenvironment.

Children’s Thresholds for Trauma •Frightenedorfrighteningcaregiving. •Neglect,separationorabandonment. •Witnessdomesticviolence. •Threateningwords,“I’llkillYOU!” •Accidents,medicalcrisisorsurgery. •Secondaryeffectsofparentmentalhealth.

Two Fundamental Takeaways: •Diaphragmfreezes –Getthediaphragmmoving •Immobilization=Terror –Helpmobilizewhileaskingchildtoimmobilize

Teach children S.T.A.R. breathing once you learn how to do it for yourself.

Symptoms in Children:

Be a S.T.A.R. Smile

Takeadeepbreath

And

Relax

•Shutdown,spaciness,daydreaming •Anger,rage,excessivetemper •Nightmares,sleepingproblems •Overlybossyandcontrolling •Difficultyfocusing/learning •Separationanxietyorclinginess •Statementsandquestionsabout

deathordying

•Gastrointestinalissues •Unreasonableornewfears •Heightenedstartleresponse •Stomachaches,headaches •Eatingproblems •Anxietyaboutsafetyofselfandothers •Increaseddistress

(whiny,irritable,moody)

DissociationCausesadisruptioninawarenessandthechildmaynotrememberwhathashappened. 1.Grounding:orientatetothepresent –T.E.E. = Touch,Eyes,Environment 2.Reassure:keepbreathing.You’resafenow 3.Check-in:noticewhathappened 4.Balanceclacker

Two Fundamental Takeaways: •Respondtodissociation –Ground:TEEthechildup •BalancetheClacker –Jointattentionthenlead



Resilience

Positive outcomes outweigh negative outcomes.

NEGATIVE Outside Forces Move the Fulcrum



POSITIVE Outside Forces Move the Fulcrum

POSITIVE Outside Forces Move the Fulcrum



Conscious DisciplineWidening the window of tolerance for all •CreationoftheSchoolFamily–Shiftfromfactorymodeltohealthyfamilymodel

ofeducation:weareallinthistogether.MOVEtheFulcrum.

•7PowersforConsciousAdults–Teachingadultstoself-regulate.Createsafety,resetAutonomicNervousSystem(ANS).

•7BasicSkillsofDiscipline–Empoweringadultswiththeskillstohandleanyconflictandupset.ResetattachmenttemplateandteachSocial-EmotionalLearning(SEL).

Inmypresence,youaresafe.Thismustbesaidnonverbally.

Uploading CalmS.T.A.R.= SmileTakeadeepbreathAndRelaxI’mSafe.KeepBreathing.

Icanhandlethis.

BREATHE!

Important Takeaways: •Yournon-verbalmustmatchyourverballanguage •Feltsenseofsafetycomesfromyourface

Important Takeaways: •Getdopaminethroughsuccess •Beginconnectingbyfindingsomethingincommon

DopamineDopamineisthe“FeelGood”brainchemical.Itproducesemotionalbalance,increasesattentionandcreatesafeelingofwell-being.

Notice all moments of success“You_________.Waytogo!”“You_________.Goodforyou!”“Wouldyoubewillingtohelp_________?”

Dopamine

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