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Harm or Harmony: How PMs can Effectively Deal with Conflict
Dr. Mary Sue Love
SIUE
School of Business
November 21, 2014
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Face it, it‟s a mess…
Conflict
Emotional Intelligence
Together, they can help us tackle difficult conversations without lasting harm
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Conflict
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Structural Factors • Specialization • Interdependence • Common resources • Goal differences • Authority relationships • Status inconsistencies • Jurisdictional ambiguities
Personal Factors • Skills & abilities • Personalities • Perceptions • Values & ethics • Emotions • Communication barriers • Cultural differences
Causes of Conflict in Organizations
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What is Emotional Intelligence?
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Dimensions of
Emotional Intelligence
Dimension Definition Aspects
Self-awareness
Ability to recognize &
understand emotions &
their effect on others
Self-confidence
Self-assessment
Attending to your
emotions
Self-management Ability to control impulses
or suspend judgment
Self-control
Adaptability
Trustworthiness
Optimism
Social awareness
Sensing others’ emotions,
reading political & social
cues, & recognizing needs
Empathy
Situational Awareness
Service
Display Rules
Relationship management
Ability to guide & motivate,
influence, develop others,
and collaborate
Influence
Teamwork
Developing others
Inspiration [Source: Goleman, 1998; Goleman et al, 2002]
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Mood is one aspect of what we are talking about
“Of all the elements affecting bottom-line performance, the importance of the leader‟s mood and its attendant behaviors are most surprising. That powerful pair set off a chain reaction: The leader‟s mood and behaviors drive the moods and behaviors of everyone else.” (Goleman, et al.)
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How to Manage Conflict Without Lasting Harm
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The What Happened Conversation
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The Feelings Conversation
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The Identity Conversation
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Where to Start:
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The Third Story
Describing the problem between the parties in a way that rings true for both sides simultaneously
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What to talk about
Explore where each story comes from
Share the impact on you
Take responsibility for your contribution
Describe feelings
Reflect on identity issues
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Some bad ones
If you contest Dad‟s will, it‟s going to tear the family apart.
I was very upset by what you said in front of our supervisor
You‟re selfish, ungrateful, and don‟t care
At worst, you betrayed me—at best you were stupid
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One More
Your son Nathan can be difficult in class—disruptive and argumentative. You‟ve said in the past that things at home are fine, but something must be troubling him.
Your son is a troublemaker, probably because you‟re a bad parent who‟s creative a lousy home environment. What are you hiding?
Slide 18 “Difficult Conversations”
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Let’s give it a try!
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Find the Third Story
Hannah, one of your computer experts, is responsible for backing up your network files each day. It‟s kind of boring, but necessary. You don‟t think she‟s doing it daily...and here‟s why….twice when you asked her, she said she‟d „get to it later,‟ and you never saw her get to it…once when you asked her if she‟s doing the job, she said, „sort of, but don‟t worry‟…and last week when she was sick, she didn‟t seem to have anyone to fill in for her.
Slide 20 Vital Smarts
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Find the Third Story
Your friend called you to help out on a brochure. He was behind and asked if you could finalize the design and printing. You are in a bit of a bind yourself, but anything for a friend. You send him the mock up, he gives the okay, and you have it printed. You return to your office to hear this voicemail: “You really screwed this up! I know you were busy, but…this is a disaster. I assume you will get this fixed right away!”
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Let‟s Break Into Groups and Work with Some Situations We are Struggling with Right NOW!
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TAKEAWAYS
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