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RUDE MEAN
HARASS
BULLY
DEFINING BAD BEHAVIORS
We hear many concerns about bullying each year.
We need to make a clear distinction between:
• Behavior that is rude
• Behavior that is mean
• Behavior that is characteristic of bullying
How Rude!
RUDE = Adjective
Definitions:
• Not having or showing concern or respect for the
rights and feelings of others
• Offensive in manner or action
Synonyms: crude, rough, unrefined,
uncouth, uncivilized, vulgar
How Rude!
INADVERTENTLY saying or doing something that hurts
Someone else.
Examples of rude behavior:
• Burping in someone’s face
• Cutting in the lunch line
• Bragging about doing better than someone else
Rude behavior tends to be
spontaneous, unplanned, inconsiderate,
based on thoughtlessness,
poor manners or narcissism
THEY’RE JUST SO MEAN!
MEAN = Adjective
Definitions:
• Unkind, cruel, or inconsiderate of others
• Used to describe people who hurt others and
do not feel sorry about it
• Causing or helping to cause suffering
Synonyms: atrocious, barbaric,
barbarous, brutal, brute, butcherly,
fiendish, heartless, inhumane, sadistic,
savage, truculent, vicious, wanton
THEY’RE JUST SO MEAN!
Purposefully saying or doing something to hurt
someone once (or maybe twice).
The main difference between RUDE and MEAN
has to do with INTENTION!
• RUDE behavior is often unintentional
• MEAN behavior aims to hurt someone
Examples of MEAN behavior:
• Criticizing someone’s clothing,
appearance, intelligence, etc.
• Laughing at another’s expense
• Calling someone a name
MEANNESS
Mean Behavior is motivated by angry feelings and/or
the misguided goal of making oneself feel better by
putting someone else down.
Mean Behavior can hurt others; however, meanness
is different from bullying in important ways that need
to be understood.
PEER CONFLICT
• Rude and Mean behaviors often lead to Peer
Conflict.
• Peer conflicts tend to be minor incidents,
disagreements, no injuries involved, a balance of
power exists, no pattern of issues, can be quickly
resolved.
Examples of PEER CONFLICT:
• An argument over the ownership of
an item
• A heated discussion over differing
viewpoints
• Jokingly saying “Hey, stupid!” to
another student
HARASSMENT
Aggressive behavior focused on a student's race, national
origin, religion, color, disability, or sex. Behavior is severe,
persistent or pervasive enough to interfere with a student's
ability to participate in or benefit from school.
Harassment may only occur a single time, but due to the
serious nature it may interfere with a student’s ability to
concentrate in his/her classes.
Examples of HARASSMENT:
• Negative comments about a person’s
religious beliefs
• Teasing a student with a handicap
• Making a verbal assumption about a
person based on their race
BULLYING
BULLYING = Verb
Definitions:
• To treat abusively
• To affect by means of force or coercion
• To use browbeating language or behavior
Synonyms: brutalize, abuse, ill-
treat, ill-use, kick around, maltreat,
manhandle, mess with (slang),
mistreat, misuse
TYPES OF BULLYING
Physical Aggression – Hitting, kicking, punching, beating
people up, spitting, knocking item’s out of others’ hands,
slamming someone’s locker shut, defacing property
Verbal Aggression – Name-calling, making jokes, insults,
racist or sexist comments, put-downs, taunting, threats,
spreading rumors
Relational Aggression – Purposely ignoring, excluding,
embarrassing, humiliating, shunning, hazing, rejecting,
spreading rumors
Cyberbullying – “Willful and repeated harm inflicted through
the use of computers, cell phones, and other electronic
devices.” The likelihood of repeated harm is higher with
cyberbullying because electronic messages can be accessed
by multiple people, resulting in repeated exposure and harm.
BULLYING
BULLYING has three key elements:
• An intent to harm
• Repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior
• An imbalance of power
People who bully say or do something
to hurt someone on purpose, they
keep doing it with no sense of regret
or remorse, even if the victim shows
he/she is hurt and asks the bully to
stop.
SO WHY MAKE THIS DISTINCTION?
• More attention is being given to bullying like never before,
mostly due to our culture of social media.
• There are now anti-bullying laws in 49 states,
including IDAHO.
• This is significant and now more than ever students
have a voice!
However, we are seeing students and
parents improperly classifying rudeness
and mean behavior as BULLYING.
WHEN YOU REPORT BULLYING
• The information remains anonymous.
• The information goes to an
administrator/counselor.
• An administrator/counselor will follow up on the
report within two school days.
• This tool is not meant to be used for
emergencies.
HOW TO REPORT CONCERNS
• Go to the RHS Home Page.
• Find the “Safety Concern" icon and click on it.
• This will lead you to the reporting site.
• Click on the RHS Reporting Site link.