HUMAN RELATIONS

Program on Interpersonal Skills

Jc Pritam K Goswami CNT

JCI India

Why do we need relationships?

• For mental health• For productivity

Consequences of loneliness• Suicide, • Depression, • Stress, • Mental illness,• Heart trouble

Why do I want relationship with others?

• To feel that I am accepted• To feel that I matter• To feel loved by another person• To stop me being lonely• To stop me being bored• To be able to talk about my problems• To share experiences and happiness• To share problems and help another person• A reason of your own

Behaviours that keep relationships going

• Having common interests• Talking to each other• Being able to forgive and forget• Helping when someone in trouble• Backing each other up• Approval from a supervisor• Understanding each other• Living near each other• Trying to give as well as get

Behaviors that harm Relationships

• Talking about other people behind their backs

• Criticizing others• Complaining about others’ behavior• Telling lies• Opposite interests• Unreliability• Being secretive• Always trying to get one’s own way

Relationship Squares

Good Relationship Bad Relationship

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Women

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People at work/home/society

Tips to influence people

• Call by name & respect.• Talk of peoples’ interest.• Courtesy is a must.• Care & Concern.• Admit your mistake.• Be a good finder.• Take criticism positively.• Be simple & sober.

Give people more than they expectAnd expect less than what you give.

GIVE & TAKE

when you say ”I am sorrry", look into the eyes of that person

When You Say ‘Love You’, just mean it.

Do not let a small misunderstanding ruin a great friendship;

when you realise you made a mistake, correct it immediately.

ADMIT THE MISTAKE

Causes & Remedies

• What are the causes for Good and Bad relationships?

• What can you do to convert bad to good?

We are responsible for the quality of our relationships with others