弟 子 規Guidelines

for Being

a Good Person

Guidelines for Being a Good Person was written by ancient Chinese sages.

It teaches us the standards for being a good human being.

弟子規　聖人訓

First, it teaches us to respect and love our parents, and to be kind to our siblings.

Second, it teaches how to interact with people and engage in daily tasks. It also teaches us to be a trustworthy person.

首孝弟 次謹信

Furthermore, it

teaches us to

love all beings

and to be close

to kind,

virtuous

people.

泛愛眾而親仁

有餘力　則學文Having learned

how to do all

these, we can

expand our

horizons by

studying the arts

and literature.

Chapter 1

Respecting and Loving our Parents at Home

入 則 孝

When our parents

call us, we should

answer them right

away.

When they tell us

to do something,

we should do it

promptly.

父母呼

應勿緩

父母命

行勿懶

When our

parents instruct

us, we should

listen

respectfully.

When they scold

us, we should

sincerely accept

what they say.

父母教

須敬聽

父母責

須順承

We should

make sure that

our parents are

warm in the

winter and cool

in the summer. 夏則凊

冬則溫

晨則省

In the morning,

we should

greet them and

show them that

we care.

At night, we

should make

sure that they

are resting

comfortably.

昏則定

Before going

out, we should

let our parents

know.

When we

return, we

should tell

them that we

are back.

出必

告反必

面

居有常

業無變

We should lead a

routine life, and we

should not be

constantly changing

our mind in

whatever we do.

Even when a

matter is trivial, we

should not act

without permission

or just do as we

please.

If we do so, then

we are no longer a

dutiful child.

事雖

小勿擅

為苟擅

為子道

虧

We should not hide

any possession, no

matter how small,

from our parents.

If we do, they will

feel hurt.

　

物雖

小勿

私藏

苟私

藏　

親心

傷

When something pleases our parents [and is proper], we should try our best to provide it for them.

When something displeases them, we should remove it.

　

親所好

力為具

親所惡

謹為去

If we injure ourselves, we will make our parents worry.

If we do something unvirtuous, they will feel ashamed.

　

身有

傷貽親

憂德有

傷

貽親

羞

When our parents love us, it is easy to be respectful and loving.

When they do not love us, respecting and loving them means we have a noble heart.

親愛我

孝何難

親憎我

孝方賢

If our parents do something wrong, we should urge them to change.

Do so with a kind expression and caring voice.

親有過

諫使更

怡吾色

柔吾聲

諫不入

悅復諫

號泣隨

撻無怨

Should our parents not accept our advice, try again when they are in a better mood.

If they still do not listen, our sincere tears will show them how deeply we care. Should they get angry with us, do not hold it against them.

When our parents are ill, we should make sure that they take the right medicine.

Care for them night and day, and do not leave them alone.

親有疾

藥先嘗

晝夜侍

不離床

For three years after our parent’s passing, we should remember them in sadness.

We should live simply and not adorn our home. Avoid merry-making, meat, and alcohol.

喪三年

常悲咽

居處變

酒肉絕

喪盡禮祭

盡誠事死者如

事生

We should arrange our parent’s funeral in a proper manner.

We should always honor them as if they were still alive and, especially on the anniversary of their death, remember them with a sincere heart .

出 則 弟Chapter 2

Interacting with Others When Away from Home

Older siblings should love and care for the younger ones;

younger siblings should love and respect the older ones.

Getting along well with one’s siblings is a sign of respecting one’s parents and caring that they are happy.

兄道

友弟道

恭兄弟

睦孝在

中

財物輕

怨何生

言語忍

忿自泯

When siblings value family ties more than possessions, resentment will not arise.

When siblings are careful with their words, feelings of anger naturally dissolve.

或飲食

或坐走

長者先

幼者後When drinking, eating, walking, or sitting, let the elders do so first; younger ones follow.

長呼人

即代叫

人不在

己即到

When an elder is asking for someone, find that person right away.

If we cannot find that person, we should immediately report back and ask if we can help instead.

稱尊長

勿呼名

對尊長

勿見能

When addressing an elder, do not call him by his first name.

When in the presence of an elder, do not show off.

路遇長

疾趨揖

長無言

退恭立

When meeting an elder whom we know, greet him promptly and respectfully.

If he does not greet us in return, respectfully stand aside.

騎下

馬乘下

車過猶

待百步

餘

If we are in a vehicle and see an elder whom we know passing by, we should get out and greet him [if the situation safely allows].

We continue on our way only after the elder has left us.

長者立

幼勿坐

長者坐

命乃坐

When an elder is standing, do not sit.

After an elder sits down, sit only when invited to do so.

尊長前

聲要低

低不聞

卻非宜

Before an elder, speak softly.

But if our voice is too low and hard to hear, we are being improper.

進必趨退

必遲問起對視

勿移

When meeting an elder, walk briskly towards him;

when leaving, do not do so in haste.

When answering a question, look attentively at the person.

事諸父

如事父

事諸兄

如事兄

We should regard our aunts and uncles as if they were our parents,and our cousins as if they were our siblings.