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Grace: God’s Prescription for DisgraceUnderstanding and Ministering to
Victims of Sexual Abuse
2 Samuel 13
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Grace: God’s Prescription for DisgraceUnderstanding and Ministering to
Victims of Sexual Abuse
Presented by Robert W. Kellemen, Ph.D.RPM Ministries
Comprehensive, Compassionate, Culturally-Informed Biblical Counseling
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A Tale of Two Counselors
Pastoral Counselor: A Sermon on Sin Professional Counselor: Too Damaged to Love What is your assessment? What do you base your assessment upon?
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The Central Message of the Bible
God’s Mission Statement: “I Am Indispensable”
Central Message of Biblical Counseling: …we apply Christ’s grace to deal both with the evils we have suffered and the sins we have committed.
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Comprehensive Biblical Counseling
Dealing with Suffering: God is good even when life is bad.
Dealing with Sinning: God is gracious even when I am evil.
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Central Message of 2 Sam. 9-1 Kgs. 2
Man after God’s own heart . . . Is a maze of suffering and a mess of sin.
Davidic narrative points to our need for God’s indispensable grace!
Grace is God’s medicine of choice for our suffering and sin.
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Understanding the Damage Done
Why? We need a theology of suffering. We need a picture of Satan’s strategy.
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Stage One
The damage of the loss of trust The attempted Satanic destruction of faith
Exegetical Markers Shrewdness of Satan Conclusion of Victim: Disgrace/Desolate Image: Door of Heart Bolted Shut
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Stage Two
The damage of powerlessness The attempted Satanic destruction of hope
13:2 13:11—hazaq 13:12 13:14 Image: Death of Dreams
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Stage Three
The damage of being used and feeling useless The attempted Satanic destruction of love
Used 13:14 13:15
Useless Bolts Door 13:17 13:18-19
Image: Torn Robes
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Stage Four
The damage of shame The attempted Satanic destruction of peace/ shalom
Hebrew Shame Self Social
Modern Shame Self Social
Image: Downcast Eyes
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Summary of Biblical Sufferology
Loss of faith: Doors closed Loss of hope: Dreams killed Loss of love: Robes torn Loss of peace: Eyes downcast
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Ministering to Victims of Sexual Abuse
Soul Care for Suffering: Life is bad, but God is good Sustaining: It’s normal to hurt Healing: It’s possible to hope
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Stage One Sustaining Trust: Offering faith in the midst of doubt How NOT to Sustain Trust
Don’t Victimize the Victim… Don’t Communicate: “Be quiet!” Don’t Communicate: “Don’t take this to heart!”
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Stage One How to Sustain Trust: Biblical, Christlike Empathy Engage in Compassionate Listening
Give voice back Listen to actions Listen to tears
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Stage One
Share Sorrows Empathize with the external evil Empathize with the internal damage Counsel like the inspired narrator: Enter desolation
Trialogue The Image: Comforter…
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Stage Two Healing Powerlessness: Offering hope in the goodness of God in the midst of the badness of life Give their name back! Journey with them Explore God’s Good Purposes: Grace/Truth Provide Tastes of God’s Goodness: Grace/Love Trialogue Image: Champion
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Stage Three Reconciling the Soul to the Savior: Offering Christ’s grace for our disgrace Spiritual Direction for Sinning
Reconciling: It’s horrible to sin, but wonderful to be forgiven Guiding: It’s supernatural to mature
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Stage Three How NOT to Reconcile
Not like the father Not like the brother
How to Reconcile Call the abuse sin Work through forgiveness… Seek justice, not vengeance
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Stage Three
How to Reconcile Explore and Expose . . .
Fallen agenda Fallen pathways Idol of the heart Repentance Putting Off
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Stage Three
How to Reconcile Prescribe grace Defeat the lie of worldly shame The Image: Care-fronter
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Stage Four Guiding the Soul to Godly Service: Offering beauty for ashes Envision with spiritual eyes Empower to put on King’s robes
In Christ: Saint To Christ: Son/Daughter
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Stage Four Guiding the Soul to Godly Service: Offering beauty for ashes Enlighten to Mature Wisdom Image: Coach
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Send Them Out with GRACEGod’s Prescription for Disgrace
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Grace: God’s Prescription for DisgraceUnderstanding and Ministering to
Victims of Sexual Abuse
2 Samuel 13