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Roles & Responsibilities of Husbands and Wives
that Glorify God
Stuart W. ScottAssociate Professor of Biblical Counseling, Southern Seminary
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Roles & Responsibilities of
Husbands & Wives that Glorify God 2003-2010 by Stuart W. Scott
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Dr. Stuart W. Scott2825 Lexington Rd
Louisville, Kentucky 40280(800) 626-5525
Scripture quotations, except those noted otherwise are from the New American Standard Bible, 1960, 1962, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1988 by the Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.
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The BiblePhilosophy/Psychology
Hard ScienceIntuition
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Intuition - (mans own personal thoughts and feelings)
Science (Hard - Observational)
Philosophy & Psychology (a discipline or Soft Science)
Revelation: Absolute Divine Truth
Subjective
Objective
Adapted, Dr. Robert Thomas, TMS, Spring, 1998
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Daniel Doriani
Putting the Truth to Work, 64
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Daniel Doriani
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Daniel Doriani
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Does This Sound Familiar?
Joe and Susan come for counseling because of
their inability to resolve a major conflict in their
marriage. Joe begins by saying, God is leading
us to move to another state for a job change, but
Susan is unwilling to follow me. Now I know
that Ephesians 5 says Im the head and Susan is
supposed to submit to me Right?
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Does This Sound Familiar?
Susan interrupts, Joe doesnt have to move he
just wants a job change thats close to his
relatives but were settled here the kids dont
want to go anywhere they have their friends
and I have my church friends. He makes so
many foolish decisions without my input and
then expects me to reap the tragic
consequences.
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Does This Sound Familiar?
Susan continues, I know that Ephesians 5 also
says that he is supposed to love me like Christ
loves the church Right? Somewhere I believe
it says that he is supposed to live with me in an
understanding way. Well, Ive had it, enough is
enough!
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Does This Sound Familiar?
Joe replies, Im going! And if she doesnt
follow me, her God-ordained head, then I
guess you all at the church will just have to
church discipline her like Matthew 18 says to
do. They both stop talking and are now looking
you to say something.
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Preeminence of Christ(under the ultimate goal of bringing glory to God)
1. Biblical Commands and Principles
2. Ways to Acknowledge and Keep Christ
Preeminent in our marriages
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Biblical Purposes (under the ultimate goal of bringing glory to God)
1. Common Reasons why people get married
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2. Biblical Purposes (under the ultimate goal of bringing glory to God)
A. PURPOSE 1 - COMPANIONSHIP (Genesis 2:18a; Proverbs2:17; 1 Peter 3:7)
B. PURPOSE 2 - ASSISTANCE(Genesis 2:15, 18)
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Biblical Purposes
C. PURPOSE 3 - CHARACTERIZATION of
God's relationship to His people and Christ's
relationship to His church (Ephesians 5:2232)
D. PURPOSE 4 SEXUAL UNION (Genesis 1:27-28a; 2:24c; 1 Corinthians 7:3-5; Hebrews 13:4)
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Biblical Purposes
E. PURPOSE 5 MINISTRY/FRUIT(John 15:8; Ephesians 4:12; 2 Peter 1:8 same as one who is single)
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Introduction
Gods Glory is most important
Submission is not for women only
Were equal in personhood but
different in function
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Roles & Responsibilities
of the Husband
He is Glorifying and
Submissive to God,
and in many ways like
Christ, when:
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A. He is a Sacrificial LOVER
Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself up
for her (Eph. 5:25ff)
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1. Love Defined Popular View
2. Love Defined Biblical View
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Christlike Love
Christlike love a selfless and enduring
commitment of the redeemed heart (by faith in
Christ - in thoughts, affections and choices) to
intentionally care for and truly benefit the true
needs of another person by righteous, truthful,
and compassionate thoughts, words and
actions (sacrificial) by the enablement of the
Spirit and for the glory of God.
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2. Love Described
a. As Christ loved the church
i. In principle:
a) Initiatory
We love, because He first loved us. 1 John 4:19
b) Sacrificial
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also
loved the church and gave Himself up for her
Eph. 5:25
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2. Love Described [Cont.]
b. Humble
Do nothing from selfishness or empty
conceit, but with humility of mind let each
of your regard one another as more
important than himself; do not merely look
out for your own personal interests, but
also for the interests of others. Phil. 2:3-4
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2. Love Described [Cont.]
c. Volitional
You did not choose Me, but I chose you,
and appointed you, that you should go
and bear fruit, and that your fruit should
remain, that whatever you ask of the
Father in My name, He may give to you.
John 15:16
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2. Love Described [Cont.]
d. Contra-conditional
But God demonstrates His own love
toward us, in that while we were yet
sinners, Christ died for us. Rom. 5:8
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2. Love Described [Cont.]
e. Eternal and Committed
Nor height, nor depth, nor any other
created thing, shall be able to separate us
from the love of God, which is in Christ
Jesus our Lord. Rom. 8:39
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2. Love Described [Cont.]
f. Forgiving
Bearing with one another, and forgiving
each other, whoever has a complaint
against anyone; just as the Lord forgave
you, so also should you. Col. 3:13
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2. Love Described [Cont.]
g. Purifying and Constructive
That He might sanctify her, having
cleansed her by the washing of water with
the word, that He might present to Himself
the church in all her glory, having no spot
or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she
should be holy and blameless.
Eph. 5:2627
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2. Love Described [Cont.]
h. Practical
Little children, let us not love with word
or with tongue, but in deed and truth.
1 John 3:18
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Words
7%
Tone of voice
38%
Non-verbal
55%
Major Aspects of
CommunicationAlbert Mehrabian, Silent Messages (Belmont, CA: Wadsworth, 1971)
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B. He is a Servant LEADER
For the husband is the head of the
wife even as Christ is the head of
the church Eph 5:23
What godly leadership is NOT:
What godly leadership IS:
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Christlike Love & Humility
Phil 2:5-11
Submissive
Servant (bondslave)
Sacrifice
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C. He is a Patient LONG-
SUFFERER
Husbands love your wives, and do
not be harsh (embittered) with them
Col 3:19
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D. He is a Humble LEARNER
You husbands likewise, live with
your wives in an understanding way,
as with a weaker vessel, since she is
a woman; and grant her honor as a
fellow heir of the grace of life, so that
your prayers may not be hindered.
1 Pet. 3:7
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Roles & Responsibilities
of the Wife
She is Glorifying and
Submissive to God,
and in many ways like the
Church, when:
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A. She is loving and
HEEDING Her Husbands
Leadership (in non-sinful
Requests)
Now as the church submits to
Christ, so also wives should submit
in everything to their husbands.
Eph 5:24
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Submission Submission
38+ One-Anothers
Sister Brother
An UnmarriedMan & Woman
Equal in Essence Equal in Function
(except in Church Leadership)
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Submission Submission
38+ One-Anothers
Wife (& Sister) Husband (& Brother)
A MarriedMan & Woman
Equal in Essence Different in Function
(except in Church Leadership and in
the Home)
Submission
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B. She is HONORING Her
Husband (Reverential
Towards)
and let the wife see that she
respects her husband. Eph 5:33
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C. She is a HELPMATE to
Her Husband
It is not good that the man should
be alone; I will make him a helper
fit for him. Gen 2:18
Neither was man created for
woman, but women for man.
1 Cor 11:9
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D. She is HOME-ATTENTIVE
Prov 31:10-31 (for her husband and
children first than on to others)
to love their husbands and
children, to be self-controlled, pure,
working at home, kind,Titus 2:3-5
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Supplemental Material1. Jay Adams
a) Christian Living in the Home (Grand Rapids: Baker, 1972)b) From Forgiven to Forgiving (Wheaton: Victor, 1989)c) How to Overcome Evil (Phillipsburg: Presbyterian & Reformed, 1977)d) What Do You Do When Your Marriage Goes Sour (Pamphlet). Available on the
Internet at [http://www.ginesys.com/hbrpc/sourmarr.htm]2. R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man (Wheaton: Crossway, 1991).3. Wayne Mack
a) Homework Manual for Biblical Living, Volumes 1 & 2 (Phillipsburg: Presbyterian & Reformed, 19791980).
b) Strengthening Your Marriage (Phillipsburg: Presbyterian & Reformed, 1977).c) Your Family Gods Way (Phillipsburg: Presbyterian & Reformed, 1991).
4. John MacArthur, Jr., The Family (Chicago: Moody, 1982).5. John Piper and Wayne A. Grudem, eds., Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood:
A Response to Evangelical Feminism (Wheaton: Crossway, 1991).6. Lou Priolo, The Complete Husband7. Stuart W. Scott, The Exemplary Husband (Bemidji, MN: Focus Publishing, Inc., 2000).
The Exemplary Husband Study Guide (Bemidji, MN: Focus Publishing, Inc., 2000). The Exemplary Husband Teachers Guide (Bemidji, MN: Focus
Publishing, Inc., 2000). Biblical Manhood (Benidji, MN: Focus Publishing, Inc, 2009)
8. Donald S. Whitney, Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1991).