Geraldine M. MortelSr. Maria Sylvia B. Salvan, MSLT

Ateneo de Manila UniversityMA in Religious Education

The Role of Parents in Faith Formation

Statement of the Problem

“The family is placed at the service of the building up of the Kingdom of God in history

by participating in the life and mission of the Church.”1

In today’s society, we are confronted with diversity in family forms and structures such

as: working parents, solo parents, absentee parents (working abroad/ domestic helpers) marriage

separation, etc. “Family time and shared family activities have suffered because of work

demands, busy schedules and a rise in individual activities.”2 “Majority of our parents has to deal

with many challenges such as: poverty, consumerism, technology, the media and many other

issues.”3

As church workers and religion educators, we are fully aware of the changes in today’s

family life, the decline in family religious practices at home and in the participation in the

church’s activities especially in the areas of values and faith formation. The writer’s believe that

education in the faith takes place primarily in the family in its different forms and structures. The

parent plays an important role in the moral and faith formation of the children. Grandparents and

other adult members of the family can influence the values and religious practices of the younger

1John Paul II,FamiliarisConsortio, Apostolic Exhortation to the Episcopate to the Clergy and to the Faithful of the whole Catholic Church regarding the Role of the Christian family in the Modern World; (PaulinesPublishing House,2005), 49.

2 JohnRoberto, Best Practices in Family Faith Formation, (Life Long Faith Spring 2012), 1.3 Maria Jose Mitsoulis (2010) The Role of Parent as Catechist, accessed May 4, 2014 from

http://www.newmiamiarch.org/ip.asp?op=Blog_109112754778

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members. At times they can take on the role of parents in influencing the development of the

children’s personal character during their formative years, though they cannot be the parents’

substitutes.4

However, many of our parents are unaware of their duties as teachers and models of faith

within their homes. “Some parents seem to think that their role in the faith formation of their

children is to take their children to church for the sacraments of initiation (Baptism, Communion

and Confirmation) and hand over their responsibility of nourishing the faith to the priests, the

religious sisters, and the catechists who instruct their children on basic doctrine.”5 Some faith

practices at home are different from what the children learned at school therefore it creates

confusion on the minds of the young members. “Many Catholic parents do not feel sufficiently

competent or knowledgeable of the faith so that they can adequately form their children.”6 “One

reason for the inadequacy of parents and adults to educate their children and the youth in the

faith is the lack of continuing faith formation for them.”7

This paper will address the problem: “What is the Role of Parents in Faith

Formation?” It aims to define the role of the parents in the faith formation through family faith

practices and values in order to enhance the faith of the family and to suggest some practical

strategies in nourishing the faith.

4 Roberto, Article on The Importance of Family Faith for Lifelong Faith Formation.5 Mitsoulis, http://www.newmiamiarch.org/ip.asp?op=Blog_1091127547786National Catechetical Directory for the Philippines; (2007), 81.7Ibid, 82.

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Scope and Limitation

This paper is designed for Church Leaders / Formators, Family Life Facilitators,

Religious Educators/ Campus Ministers, Catechists and those who are involved in the education

ministry. This paper on the role of parents in faith formation will be based on the context of rural

families where we the researchers are conducting values formation training towards building

Basic Ecclesial Communities and to parents and students in schools. In this paper the writers will

explain the meaning of Faith, the importance of faith Formation and the Role of Parents focusing

on the threefold mission of the baptized as members of a “Believing and Evangelizing Family

(prophet) a Worshiping Family (priest), and a Witnessing family (king)”8 through common

Filipino values and faith practices at home and in the community such as: family prayer and

devotion, respect for elders, openness in conversation “God-talk” or storytelling, and family

meal, correlating the family meal to the Eucharist.

The Family is a multi-faceted gem of society therefore we cannot exhaust its richness in

this paper. This paper will not discuss responsible parenthood, problems and issues that erode

family values and practices, the sacrament of marriage and other family practices and concerns.

Significance of the Problem

“Family, become what you are!”9

“The family is the basic cell of society. It is the cradle of life and love, the place in which

the individual is ‘born’ and grows.”10 They must truly become “an intimate community of life

and love.”11The Family as a “domestic church” is the basic foundation of “ecclesial community.”

8 John Paul, FamiliarisConsortio, 50.9 Ibid,1710 John Paul II, ChristifidelesLaici, Apostolic Exhortation of on the Vocation and Mission of the Lay

faithful in the Church and in the world, 96.11 John Paul II, FamiliarisConsortio,17.

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Family values and practices shape the kind of response to the mission that individuals make.

Hence, the faith formation of parents and children is integral to the mission of the family.

This material will be used in our family ministry for the parent formation in schools and

in the Basic Ecclesial Communities.

The paper will be of value to church leaders/ formators, family and life facilitators,

religious educators / catechists and those who are involved in the education ministry because this

will serve as their guide in the faith formation of parents.

Furthermore, this paper will be helpful to the parents and children in nourishing their

Christian faith, values and faith practices in homes, schools and in their community by fostering

Christian Filipino values and family faith practices.

Methodology

Based on our conviction that parents are crucial in their children’s faith formation and yet

they are “unaware” of their duties as teachers and models of faith we came up with the questions:

What is the role of parents in the faith formation? Then as a Religious educatorwhat can we do?

How can we catechize parents? How can they catechize their children?

To answer this questions we did the following: first, we identified practices of faith and

values within Filipino families such as; family meal, family devotion and prayer respect for

elders and openness in conversation “God-talk” or storytelling, correlating the family meal to the

Eucharist; second we organized these practices according to the threefold mission of all baptized

Christian (prophet, priest, king); third we develop and give how these practices manifest the

threefold mission in their daily lives, as parents of the family and members of the community

CONTENT:

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WHAT IS THE ROLE OF PARENTS IN FAITH FORMATION?

A. The Importance of Faith Formation

Faith is “a free gift from God”12 who has called us into communion with Him. It is “our

personal response to God who freely revealed himself to us and his saving will in different ways

but definitively and fully in Jesus Christ.”13 For us Christians, faith is held at the center of our

life experiences that cannot be taken for granted without compromising our self-actualization and

redemption.14

In the same vein, faith is never put aside in Christian families. Parents who grow in faith

realities endeavored to pass them on to their children. Even the so-called “unchurched” deemed

it necessary to have their children baptized and become members of the Church.

Indeed, our faith is formed gradually through our parents who shared and promote the

knowledge of the faith through their lived experience and events of everyday life. However, the

faith experiences need to be continually nourished towards a mature relationship with God more

so when the faith experiences of the parents are less than the ideal taking into consideration their

limited faith formation.

Hence, faith formation, that is, the formation of the heart and mind of every baptized

according to the teachings of Christ is a fundamental mission of the Church. It must always be at

the forefront of the Church’s life. The uninformed faith may dangerously rest on the level of

external religious practices and rituals. The Second Plenary Council of the Philippines sadly

notes that the faith experience of most Filipinos is not grounded firmly on the Word of God,

12 Episcopal Commission on Catechesis and Catholic Education, Catechism for Filipino Catholics; (CBCP, July 1,1997), 149

13 Walter M. Abbott, SJ, Rev. Msgr. Joseph Gallager, Documents of Vatican II, Dogmatic Constitution on Divine Revelation 2

14 CFC 119

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doctrines and sacramental worship thus resulting to a religiosity that has failed to transform the

society. This sad reality is triggered by insufficient knowledge of and formation in the faith.15

A renewed faith must necessarily begin at home where faith-life is initiated.16 The Church

must endeavor to strengthen and nourished the Christian family as the primary agent of renewal

in the Church.The Church must see to it that every home becomes a Church where every

member grows into living images and proclaimers of Christ. This will be made possible through

education and a faith formation program that stirs the Christian families towards the realization

of their innate mission in the life of the Church.

B. Parents as Faith Formator

John Paul II in His Apostolic exhortation on the Role of the Family categorically states

that the parents are the primary educators of their children. This obligation arises from the fact

that they have given life to their children and are called to give them a life that leads to full self-

actualization as human beings. It is the duty of the parents to make sure that their children grow

up animated by love of God and charity to others.17 It is incumbent upon parents to build their

homes as communities of faith where Christ is welcomed, His words is lived and His love is

shared.

However, the success of the parents as educators and first catechists of their children18

lies on their level of education and formation. Insufficiently instructed and less informed parents

15Acts and Decrees of the Second Plenary Council of the Philippines, Catholic Bishops Conference of the Philippines; (Paulines Publishing House, Pasay City, 1992),13.16 Ibid,421.

17 John Paul II, Familiaris Consortio, Apostolic Exhortation to the Episcopate to the Clergy and to the Faithful of the whole catholic Church regarding the Role of the Christian family in the Modern World, (Paulines Publishing House, 2005), 36.

18PCP II, 576.

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can only give us much. Here the assistance of the Church is indispensable. The Church has the

mission and the means to provide education to the parents.

1. Parents as Priests forming a Worshipping Community

Parents are to bring to God their whole family by authentic prayer life, Christian living

and witnessing. They have to endeavor to form their home into a praying community. Efforts

must be done by parents to instill among their children the importance of the basic prayers once

treasured in Filipino Catholic homes. Gone were the days when family members gather to pray

the Angelus and the Holy Rosary every evening. Parents must encourage in their homes the

devout praying of the grace before and after meals.It is important also to revive the family altars

in every Catholic home which reminds the family members of the abiding presence of God.

The sacraments of the Church are means of sanctification and parents must see to it that

their family is never deprived of their richness especially the Holy Eucharist. It rests upon the

parents to inculcate to their children the love for the Eucharist which must be at the center of a

worshipping community. One way to educate the children on the values of the Eucharist is to

have meaningful celebration of family meals in celebration of great family moments. Groome

explains:

When the family eats together, much more than food passes among its members. They can experience a sense of presence to and for each other, of love that bonds. This anticipates the Real presence they encounter in the Eucharist and how it bonds the community as the body of Christ in the world.19

However, it is not to be neglected that the parents share in the office of sanctifying by

ensuring the authentic Christian education of their children.20Again, family meals are great 19 Thomas H. Groome, Will There be Faith? A New Vision for Educating and Growing Disciples,

(HarperOne, 2011),206.20 Episcopal Commission on Catechesis and Catholic Education, Catechism for Filipino Catholics;

(CBCP, July 1,1997), 902.

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moments of sharing and imparting Christian values among children. Also, they must ensure that

their children avail of the catechism classes and other religious activities being offered by their

parishes. In rural parishes, the Flores de Mayo has been developed into an effective catechism

strategy where the children come to Church daily and are taught the basic prayers and doctrines

of the Church.

Lastly, the parents are called to holiness. By their holy life they provide good examples to

their children and offer their family as a sacrifice, living, holy and pleasing to God.21

2. Parents forming a Community of Prophets

Parents, as members of the Body of Christ, are called to evangelize their family,

“proclaiming Christ by word and their testimony of life.”22 Parents have to cultivate their love for

the Word of God and proclaim the story of Jesus to their children. It is noteworthy for the

parents, in every way possible, to retell the important works and events in the life of Jesus to

inspire their children to know more about Jesus. The parents have to ensure that their families are

formed by the Word of God.

Hence, it is important that every household must have its Bible reverently kept in a

suitable place.23 The reading of passages from the scripture before meals is one way of making

the Word of God an important part of the daily activities at home. The parents can always

proclaim the Word of God in everyday conversation and storytelling.”24

The program on Basic Ecclesial Communities highlights the importance of the Word of

God in building up the communities of faith. Parents must make sure that their families are 21 PCP II, 117.22 Catechism of the Catholic Church, ECCCE, (Manila: Word & Life Publications, 1994),905.23 Holy Father Benedict XVI, Verbum Domini Post Synodal Apostolic Exhortation to the Bishops, Clergy,

Consecrated Person and the Lay Faithful on the Word of God in the Life and Mission of the Church, (Pasay City: Paulines Publishing House, 2011), 85.24 Groome, 206.

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actively involved in this important program and ensure that they regularly participate as a family

in Bible Sharing activities. Pope Benedict XVI supports “the formation of small communities of

families, where common prayer and meditation on passages of Scripture can be cultivated.25

As Filipinos we are fond of telling and hearing short stories and events about life. Truly,

such a good practice becomes more meaningful if parents will give much weight on stories that

convey Christian values such as the lives and works of the saints and other significant aspects of

Filipino religiosity.

Over and above, there is no substitute for the living out of the Gospel message. The

children must be able to see their parents living according to the values of Christ in their day-to-

day life. Christian families are not only hearers of the Word; they must necessarily become

proclaimers of the Word. The parents, by virtue of their Baptism are always called to become

prophets giving witness to the Gospel every day.26 This is highlighted by Pope Benedict:

The word of God reaches men and women through an encounter with witnesses who make it present and alive. In a particular way, young people need to be introduced to the word of God through encounter and authentic witness by adults…27

More than words they proclaim,parents become authentic heralds of Christ by their daily

actions imbued with the Gospel values.

3. Parents forming a Community of Witness

Christian witnessing is overcoming sin and sinful structures in the world by living

according to the values of Christ. This is primarily accomplished by works of service and

charity. It is in doing good that Christians overcome the reign of evil around us.In the midst of

25 Verbum Domini, 85. 26 Ibid, 94.27Ibid, 97.

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the corruption of values, parents must seriously take the responsibility of inculcating the values

of love, forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service.”28

In the Filipino homes, there are strengths that promote charity and service. One of which

is our respect for the elderly. The use of Filipino courteous words like “po” and “opo”, ate,kuya,

manang at manong is one way of expressing our respect to the older members of the

community.The observations of Groome are not without basis:

Language we use at home shape the world we live in and thus who we become. We craft language that is life-giving rather than language that are deadly. “The life-givingkind includes words of faith in time of worry, words of encouragement in time of challenge, words of kindness and affirmation, words that complements achievements and work will done , words that are respectful and make people feel cherished.29

The charity and service that the spouses put into practice between themselves and with

their children serves as a solid foundation in response to the call to serve every people they meet

especially the poor.”30 Parents also are called to be collaborators of the Church in its kingly

office by rendering their personal services to the Church according to their talents and charism:

The laity can also feel called, or be in fact called, to cooperate with their pastors in the service of the ecclesial community, for the sake of its growth and life. This can be done through the exercise of different kinds of ministries according to the grace and charisms which the Lord has been pleased to bestow on them.31

It is necessary that parents promote to their children the importance of offering their

services for the advancement of the Church. Parents who serve the Church as lectors or Lay

Ministers of the Eucharist, or leaders in their respective Basic Ecclesial Communities bring about

28 CCC, 222329Groome, 215.30Donnell Kirchner, CSSR., Making Couples Missionary31CCC, 910.

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positive influence to their children with regard to the importance of giving themselves in service

for the good of the Church.

CONCLUSION:

Family faith matters most!

The faith practices of parents at home must be consistent with what they profess.

Evangelized parents become authentic evangelizers in their homes.

Parents, so as to become effective educators and agents of formation in the family, have

to be continuously taught and formed. And it rests upon the Church to ensure that the parents are

sufficiently instructed through a well-defined formation program. For this to be realized, the

Church/ Catholic School must come up with a comprehensive and practical program that focuses

on faith formation and education of the Christian families, a program that can be easily

implemented in the parishes/ School.

Implementation Plan on the Role of Parents in Faith Formation

Audience: Catholic Parents (School & BEC-Rural Area)

No. Of Participants: 50 parents

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Time Frame: 2 hours ( 1 Session)

Introduction: In School setting, Parent’s Formation is given quarterly. This module will be

given on the first quarter of the school year. This is also applicaple to the

parents in the parish or in Basic Ecclesial Communities.

Objective:

This formation will lead the parents to:

Doctrine: Undersatnd the Importance of Faith Formation and their Role as faith formator

focusing on the threefold mission the baptized catholic as Priest. Prophet and King.

Moral: We aim to motivate parents to be better faith-formator to their children by

exercising their threefold mission as Priest, Prophet and King through the

values and faith practices at home.

Worship: Have a deeper appreciation of their Christian values and faith practices at home that

nourishes the faith of the family.

Methodology

Part I – Assembly and Prayer

Animation Song: Welcome to the Family

Setting the Mood: Parent’s Prayer in Video Clip)

Part II- Activity ( Leaders lead the Way)

The facilitator will ask for volunteers to perform the activity. (at least 4 pairs).

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The first 2 pairs, one of them will be blind fold and their partner is not, then they will be

ask to walk guided by the one that is not blindfolded.

The last two pairs, both of them will be blindfolded, same will be ask to walk together.

The rest of the participants will observe the scene.

Feedbacking/ Processing

A. The facilitator will ask first two pairs- participant in the activity.

1. How do you feel walking with cover in your eyes but with someone guiding you?

2. What are your feelings while you are guiding your partner?

B. Then the Facilitator will ask the 2nd pairs, both are blindfolded:

1. How do you feel walking where both of you cannot see?

C. Next the facilitator will gather observation from the audience: What are your observation/

insights/ learning in this activity?

D. From those questions, the facilitator will gather and synthesize their answers.

After gathering their answers, we will introduce the topic on Faith and the

Importance of Faith Formation.

There will be follow-up questions that will lead them to identify their faith

practices and values at home.

1. What are your faith practices at home?

2. What is the effect of this faith practices in the family?

3. How it is being nourished at home?

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After gathering all their answers, the facilitator will explain the topic on the Role

of Parents as faith formator, exercising the threefold mission of Christ they

received in baptism through the faith practices at home.

1. Parents as Priest forming a Worshipping Community

a. Family prayers and devotion.

b. Family meals as Eucharistic celebration at home

2. Parent forming a Community of Prophets

a. Love for the Word of God “Bible reading or some passages in the Bible”.

b. Open conversation (“God-talk”)

c. “Story telling” – Stories that convey Christian values

3. Parents forming a Community of Witness

a. Respect for one another as Husband and Wife

b. Respect for elders.

c. Using courteous language “po” and "opo”, “Ate” and “Kuya”, etc.

d. Being involve in the community service or church activities.

In the concluding part of the session, the facilitator will pause a challenge to the parents that they

will realize the need for an ongoing faith formation in order to nourish the faith and become an

effective faith formator of the family.

Closing Prayer: The facilitator will invite all the participants to sing the “Lord’s Prayer” as one

big family of God.

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