online - everettfamilychurch.org | mail - 15317 73rd AVE SE #2, Snohomish, WA, 98296 | phone - 425 387-1975

ARE YOU FEELING LIKE AN IN-EE OR AN OUT-EE?

by Pastor Mike

This is not a question about belly buttons but a reference to that ongoing feeling that “you-are-an-insider-and-I’m-an-outsider!” We all know in-ees enjoy relationship utopia. In-ees have close friends - lots of them. In-ees matter to others deeply and frequently. In-ees are included and have more fun. Out-ees on the other hand are forgotten. Out-ees are neglected and never feel they quite fit in. Out-ees are lonely. Out-ees want to be in-ees but cannot seem to ever overcome the in-ee out-ee barrier. This barrier shows up with extended family, at school, at work, and anyplace where relationships exist. Where do you feel like an in-ee? Where do you feel like an out-ee? I know from experience that feeling like an out-ee STINKS!

This perceived obstacle to intimacy exists in church life. It exists at EFC. And in my years pastoring EFC I have discovered that every person at EFC has recently struggled with or is currenlty struggling with out-ee feelings. Ironically, the in-ees feel like out-ees and the out-ees are thought to be in-ees! (Confusing isn’t it?) Does the in-ee and out-ee barrier mean there is a problem with EFC? It is actually a sign of health. Let me explain.

The fundamental emotional need that every person has is intimacy. Everything we do is a drive to fulfill this sense of closeness. We long to live in deep, personal, and transparent relationships with one another. We want to openly reveal who we are to another and for the other to recipricate and essentially say, “I love and care about who you are and value who you truly are!” But we fear that if we do this we will hear, “Now that I know you I will not love you. You have little worth to me.” Fear of rejection drives us into isolation and propogates the in-ee out-ee barrier. This condition was first introduced in the Garden of Eden. Perfect, naked fellowship between Creator and His creation was broken through sin. Intimacy was gone. God’s work since then and His sending Jesus was to repair this broken intimacy with our Father by removing the cracked and distorted lens that says, “With God I’m an out-ee and can’t be an in-ee!” I would sum up the discipleship experience as one of learning to have a healthy (aka “intimate”) relationship with our heavenly Father by learning to have healthy (intimate) relationships with others.

My brothers and sisters at Everett Family Church: We all feel like out-ees. Others think we are the in-ees. They all want to be an in-ee with us. And no one wants to talk about it! If you are feeling like an out-ee everyone is thinking you are the in-ee. They are actually the ones who are right because, in Christ, we are all in-ees and no one need be an out-ee! Now are you ready to re-discover your special place IN EFC?

E F C F O C U S J U N E 2 0 1 3

Experiencing God in a Kid-Sized Way!

We are studying the life of David as a church. Our Family Gatherings are focused on helping the children

experience God in a kid-sized way. We have a music set to help them worship, a Bible teaching skit followed by a concise sermon from Pastor Mike after which he leads a

special breakout time for the kids. The Community Pastors lead a time for the adults during the elementary and youth breakouts. The evening will conclude with a simple meal

and fellowship.

Invite a friend or family who desire to grow kids in their relationship

with Jesus!!

FAMILY GATHERINGS A T U R D A Y S @ 5 P M

SCHEDULE:4:30pm, prayer time5pm, family worship

6pm, breakouts7pm, dinner and

fellowship

Ready for Family Camp?Friday, June 28th to Monday, July 1stWe are returning to Entiat River near Chelan for our annual Family Camp. Family worship, age-graded lessons, slide waters, camp cooks, are just a few of our favorite things. Camp starts Friday at 5pm and concludes on Monday morning after breakfast.Cost is $145/adult, $45/child 5-17 years, under 5 yrs free. Register online for Family Camp!

online - everettfamilychurch.org | mail - 15317 73rd AVE SE #2, Snohomish, WA, 98296 | phone - 425 387-1975

Family Gathering Makeover: We returned with fresh energy to leading our children to Jesus through our Family Gatherings. Our summer song set was released, the teaching skits returned and Pastor Mike joined the elementary team to lead the breakouts. A simple “EFC Dinner Pot” has taken the stress out of feeding our children after church and made for some extended time of fellowship.

Youth Gospel Journey: The youth began a series - a hike really! - through the Gospel message. There were quite a few youth who attended with their friends for this video series with Greg, Zane, and crew.

Praxis Youth Pastor: The Management Team decided to bring Perry Travis into the role as the Praxis Youth Pastor. He will have responsibility for leading the youth leadership team on Tuesday nights with the task of discipling our middle and high schoolers in their walk with Christ. He is a gifted and passionate pastor of youth with a very vested interest - three of the youth boys are his own! We are blessed to use the resources God has given to us to do the ministry He has called us to.

Father Son Retreat: This year we had three dads and sons attend the retreat hosted at Lakeside Bible Camp. BB guns, archery, model rockets, and a mother’s day gift (that mom will forever treasure!) filled the schedule. There is no greater privilege and joy than raising our sons to know and love God through our intentional relationship with them!

Community Groups in May: The Ripleys and Bells facilitated a time for the adults each Family Gathering following the family worship time in May. May 24th Community Groups met.

M A Y R E W I N D

E F C M a n a g e m e n t T e a mDan Bell, Janine Ripley, & Mike Wright

This month we adjusted our monthly goal to better reflect our actual commitments and expenses. Your continued

support is an important part of your ministry. Please do not forget or neglect your part in the EFC mission.

................Monthly operating budget $6,200.......................Total Joy Box gifts in April $7,620......................Total EFC spending in April $7,545........................ Community Ministry gifts $352.....................Total Joy Box gifts in May* $4,564...................Total EFC spending in May* $2,626...................... Community Ministry gifts* $400

*May’s numbers are current through 5/22/13

Everett Family Church is a non-profit, 501(c)3 organization. Tax Identification # 71-1025722

PRAXIS YOUTH MINISTRYEve r y Tue sda y, 6 : 30 - 8 :00pmThere is a space every week where youth gather with their fr iends in a safe, fun, and Christ-centered place. It is a vital part of the their spiritual week.

W e a r e g o i n g t h rough a v i deo series discovering the true gospel message.

Talk to Perry Travis for more information at webtravis@juno.com.

E F C B I R T H D A Y SLet me know if your birthday is missing!

.............................June 6 Abigail...........................June 23 Becky

Crosswalk & LIFE GroupJune 21st, 6:30-9:00pm

The Community Groups will be meeting on the fourth weekend of the month for a meal, fellowship, prayer, and a time of encouragement from God’s word. Pastors Steve and Janine and Dan and Jenn continue to challenge and shepherd us. There will be no Family Gathering this weekend. You may turn in Joy Box gifts to your Community Pastor or mail them in (see address to below).

YOUTH PROMOTION DAY!Our new youth are being promoted to the Praxis youth

ministry on Saturday, June 1st.