evaluating our relationships severe – abusive, devastation – fear and intimidation serious –...
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Evaluating our relationships
Sever
e –
Abusiv
e,
Devas
tatio
n –
Fear
and
intim
idatio
n
Serio
us –
Damag
es e
mot
ions
Power
play
s, W
ithdr
awal
Strugglin
g – U
ncom
forta
ble, E
rode
s tru
st
Defen
siven
ess,
Super
ficial
com
mun
icatio
n
Normal
, Hea
lthy
– Lo
ve, J
oy, P
eace
,
Apolog
ies, c
onflic
ts re
solve
d, o
penn
ess
Perfe
ctio
n – Ju
st Je
sus.
Just
Heave
n!
Love and RespectLove and Respect Fear and Manipulation Fear and Manipulation
Knowing what to require of children
• (Colossians 3:20-21) Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
{21} Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
• (Ephesians 6:4) Fathers, do not exasperate (provoke to anger) your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Why God won’t hear our prayers
• (Isaiah 59:1-2) Surely the arm of the LORD is not too short to save, nor his ear too dull to hear. {2} But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear.
• (1 Peter 3:7) Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
God goodness in spite of bad leaders• Israel – God sovereignly does good things, even through unhealthy people around me.
• Jonathan – I am not doomed to repeat the character of leaders who have hurt or failed me.
• Me – With God’s help I can change the harmful/unhealthy ways I have treated the people I love.
Relationships that aren’t working
Sever
e
– Abu
sive
Serio
us
– Dam
aging
Strugglin
g
– Unc
omfo
rtable
Normal
, Hea
lthy
– Lo
ve, J
oy,
PeacePer
fect
ion
– Ju
st Hea
ven!
Love and RespectLove and Respect Fear and Manipulation Fear and Manipulation
Relationships that are working
Sever
e
– Abu
sive
Serio
us
– Dam
aging
Perfe
ctio
n
– Ju
st Hea
ven!
Love and RespectLove and Respect Fear and Manipulation Fear and Manipulation
Strugglin
g
– Unc
omfo
rtable
Normal
, Hea
lthy
– Lo
ve, J
oy,
Peace
•1 John 1:6-9 – Transparency – Don’t deny sin, Confess it•1 John 2:9-11 – New Attitudes – Stop hating and bitterness•1 John 4:16-21 – No emotional games – Don’t use fear or manipulation. God motivates with love not fear.
Sever
e
– Abu
sive
Serio
us
– Dam
aging
Perfe
ctio
n
– Ju
st Hea
ven!
Love and RespectLove and Respect Fear and Manipulation Fear and Manipulation
Relationships that are working
Strugglin
g
– Unc
omfo
rtable
Normal
, Hea
lthy
– Lo
ve, J
oy,
Peace