Shake it up!!

Adapted with much gratitude from Lessons From The Classroom by Hal Urban

What are social skills?

Any skill that makes it easier to effectively interact and

communicate with others.

When you meet someone…

• Eye contact• FIRM handshake (No dead fish)• Smile• Speak clearly

Be positive with people and you’ll get positive results.

-Ken Blanchard

The deepest urge in human nature is the desire to feel important.

-John Dewey

We all need to feel important, that we matter, that we are noticed.

-Marilyn Gootman and Larry WhippleThe Caring Teacher’s Guide to Discipline

When students feel welcome and connected, they feel more at home, more like they belong. This is critically important because everyone functions better in a comfortable environment.

-Professor Joseph Napier

High ExpectationsHigh Standards

“What you accept you teach.”

“What you permit, you promote.”

Everyone operates more effectively when their boundaries are clearly defined.

-Professor Joseph Napier

Proactive: not acne cream

Proactive- taking a positive step up front to head off trouble without waiting for something negative to happen and then reacting to it.

Reactive- waiting for something negative to happen and then reacting to it.

Choosing An Atmosphere

Respectful Inconsiderate

Offensive Disrespectful

Courteous Polite

Rude Considerate

“I need” vs. “May I please have”

3 Ways of Communicating

1- Words: about 10 – 15% of our message

2- Tone of voice: about 40% of our message

3- Body Language: about 45 - 50% of our message

The Golden Rule

Treat other people the way you would like them to treat you.

Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you.

Discussion Questions

1. Why have manners and civility* declined so much in recent years?

*civility (n) formal politeness and courtesy in behavior or speech

Discussion Questions

2. Is society better when people treat each other with respect?

Discussion Questions

3. Is a classroom better when both students and teacher show mutual respect?

Discussion Questions

4. Why does Henry Rodgers, a public relations expert say,“Good manners are one of the most important keys to success in life?”

Discussion Questions

5. If the Golden Rule is so easy to understand, why don’t more people practice it?