THE ENNEAGRAM

MADE EASY

NINE PERSONALITIES

THE PERFECTIONIST

Ones are motivated by the need to live their live the right way, including improving themselves and the world around them.

BESTethicalreliableproductivewiseidealisticfairhonestorderlyself-disciplined

Personality Type ONE

WORSTjudgmentalinflexibledogmaticobsessive-compulsivecritical of othersoverly seriouscontrollinganxiousjealous

1. How to Get Along with Me

• Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.

• Acknowledge my achievements. • I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I

am. • Tell me that you value my advice. • Be fair and considerate, as I am. • Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me

to forgive. • Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself

when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 1

Type 1 The ReformerExcessive use of diets, vitamins, and cleansing techniques (fasts, diet pills, enemas). Under-eating for self-control: in extreme cases anorexia and bulimia. Alcohol to relieve tension.

THE HELPER

Twos are motivated by the need to be loved and valued and to express their positive feelings toward others.

Personality Type TWO

BESTlovingcaringadaptableinsightfulgenerousenthusiastic tuned into how people feel

WORSTmartyrlikeindirectmanipulativepossessivehystericaloverly accommodatingoverly demonstrative(the more extroverted)

2. How to Get Along with Me

• Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific. • Share fun times with me. • Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus

on yours. • Let me know that I am important and special to you. • Be gentle if you decide to criticize me. • In Intimate Relationships • Reassure me that I am interesting to you. • Reassure me often that you love me. • Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 2

Type 2 The HelperAbusing food and over-the-counter medications. Bingeing, especially on sweets and carbohydrates. Over-eating from feeling "love-starved." Hypochondria to look for sympathy.

THE STATUS SEEKER

Threes are motivated by the need to be productive, achieve success, and avoid failure.

Personality Type THREE

BESToptimisticconfidentindustriousefficientself-propelledenergeticpractical

WORSTdeceptivenarcissisticpretentiousvainsuperficialvindictiveoverly competitive

3. How to Get Along with Me

• Leave me alone when I am doing my work. • Give me honest, but not unduly critical or

judgmental, feedback. • Help me keep my environment harmonious and

peaceful. • Don't burden me with negative emotions. • Tell me you like being around me. • Tell me when you're proud of me or my

accomplishments

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 3

Type 3 The AchieverOver-stressing the body for recognition. Working out to exhaustion. Starvation diets. Workaholism. Excessive intake of coffee, stimulants, amphetamines, cocaine, steroids or excessive surgery for cosmetic improvement.

THE ARTIST or INDIVIDUALIST

Fours are motivated by the need to experience their feelings and to be understood, to search for the meaning of life, and to avoid being ordinary.

Personality Type FOUR

BESTwarmcompassionateintrospectiveexpressivecreativeintuitivesupportiverefined

WORSTdepressedself-consciousguilt-riddenmoralisticwithdrawnstubbornmoodyself-absorbed

4. How to Get Along with Me

• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me. • Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love

and value myself. • Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision. • Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm

feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.

• Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 4

Type 4 The IndividualistOver-indulgence in rich foods, sweets, alcohol to alter mood, to socialize, and for emotional consolation. Lack of physical activity. Bulimia. Depressants. Tobacco, prescription drugs, or heroin for social anxiety. Cosmetic surgery to erase rejected features.

THE INTELLECTUAL

Fives are motivated by the need to know and understand everything, to be self sufficient , and to avoid looking foolish.

Personality Type FIVE

BESTanalyticperseveringsensitivewiseobjectiveperceptiveself-controlled

WORSTintellectually arrogantstingystubborndistantcritical of othersunassertivenegative

5. How to Get Along with Me

• Be independent, not clingy. • Speak in a straightforward and brief manner. • I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts. • Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am

feeling uncomfortable. • Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your

sincerity. • If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it

was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place. • don't come on like a bulldozer. • Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud

music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 5

Type 5 The InvestigatorPoor eating and sleeping habits due to minimizing needs. Neglecting hygiene and nutrition. Lack of physical activity. Psychotropic drugs for mental stimulation and escape, narcotics for anxiety.

THE LOYALIST

Sixes are motivated by the need for security.

Personality Type SIX

BESTloyallikeablecaringwarmcompassionatewittypracticalhelpfulresponsible

WORSThypervigilantcontrollingunpredictablejudgmentalparanoiddefensiverigidself-defeatingtesty

6. How to Get Along with Me

• Be direct and clear. • Listen to me carefully. • Don't judge me for my anxiety. • Work things through with me. • Reassure me that everything is OK between us. • Laugh and make jokes with me. • Gently push me toward new experiences. • Try not to overreact to my overreacting.

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 6

Type 6 The LoyalistRigidity in diet causes nutritional imbalances ("I don't like vegetables.") Working excessively. Caffeine and amphetamines for stamina, but also alcohol and depressants to deaden anxiety. Higher susceptibility to alcoholism than many types.

THE GENERALIST

Sevens are motivated by the need to be happy and plan enjoyable activities, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.

Personality Type SEVEN

BESTfun-lovingspontaneousimaginative productiveenthusiasticquickconfidentcharming curious

WORSTnarcissisticimpulsiveunfocusedrebelliousundisciplinedpossessivemanicself-destructiverestless

7. How to Get Along with Me

• Give me companionship, affection, and freedom. • Engage with me in stimulating conversation and

laughter. • Appreciate my grand visions and listen to my

stories. • Don't try to change my style. Accept me the way I

am. • Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or

needy people. • Don't tell me what to do.

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 7

Type 7 The EnthusiastThe type most prone to addictions: stimulants (caffeine, cocaine, and amphetamines), Ecstasy, psychotropics, narcotics, and alcohol but tend to avoid other depressants. Wear body out with effort to stay "up." Excessive cosmetic surgery, pain killers.

THE LEADER

Eights are motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent.

Personality Type EIGHT

BESTdirectauthoritativeloyalenergeticearthyprotectiveself-confident

WORSTcontrollingrebelliousinsensitivedomineeringself-centeredskepticalaggressive

8. How to Get Along with Me

• Stand up for yourself... and me. • Be confident, strong, and direct. • Don't gossip about me or betray my trust. • Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and

acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side. • Give me space to be alone. • Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter

me. • I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically

assume it's a personal attack. • When I scream, curses, and stomp around, try to remember

that's just the way I am.

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 8

Type 8 The ChallengerIgnore physical needs and problems: avoid medical visits and check-ups. Indulging in rich foods, alcohol, tobacco while pushing self too hard leads to high stress, strokes, and heart conditions. Control issues central, although alcoholism and narcotic addictions are possible.

THE PEACEMAKER

Nines are motivated by the need to keep the peace, to merge with others, and to avoid conflict.

Personality Type NINE

BESTpleasantpeacefulgenerouspatientreceptivediplomaticopen-mindedempathetic

WORSTspaced-outforgetfulstubbornobsessiveapatheticpassive-aggressivejudgmentalunassertive

9. How to Get Along with Me

• If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.

• I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this. • Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit. • Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me

gently and nonjudgmentally. • Ask me questions to help me get clear. • Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery. • Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings. • I like a good discussion but not a confrontation. • Let me know you like what I've done or said. • Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.

Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 9

Type 9 The PeacemakerOver-eating or under-eating due to lack of self-awareness and repressed anger. Lack of physical activity. Depressants and psychotropics, alcohol, marijuana, narcotics to deaden loneliness and anxiety.

   Level 1 

  The Level of Liberation

Healthy  Level 2 

  The Level of Psychological Capacity

   Level 3 

  The Level of Social Value

       

   Level 4 

  The Level of Imbalance/ Social Role

Average  Level 5 

  The Level of Interpersonal Control

   Level 6 

  The Level of Overcompensation

       

   Level 7 

  The Level of Violation

Unhealthy   Level 8 

  The Level of Obsession and Compulsion

   Level 9 

  The Level of Pathological Destructiveness

Disintegration - 142857...

Integration - 758241...

9369... 9639...

The Direction of Disintegration 1-4-2-8-5-7-1 9-6-3-9

The Direction of Integration 1-7-5-8-2-4-1 9-3-6-9

The Direction of Integration 1-7-5-8-2-4-1 9-3-6-9

Example of Integration and Disintegration

• Personality Type EIGHT: The Challenger• The Powerful, Dominating Type:

Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational • Generally, Eights are strong, assertive, resourceful, independent, determined, action-

oriented, pragmatic, competitive, straight-talking, shrewd, and insistent. • Eights get into conflicts by being blunt, willful, domineering, forceful, defiant,

confrontational, bad-tempered, rageful, cynical, and vengeful. • At their best, Eights are honorable, heroic, empowering, generous, gentle, constructive,

initiating, decisive, and inspiring.