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KATHY MITCHELL MARCY SUGAR &Dear Annie: I am getting

married next year. One of the most stressful things for me is picking the attendants. I have my best man and two groomsmen. My fian-cée, “Sara,” suggested I add another friend, which I was happy to do.

Then, a good friend found out and was a little upset that I didn’t choose him, as well. He tried to joke about not being in the wedding, but I knew he was a little hurt, so I asked him to be a groomsman. He has been the most excited about every-thing since then. So Sara and I now have four attendants each.

The problem is, I have one additional friend, “Mark,” who I know will be upset if he is the only one of my close friends left out of the wedding party. I’d like to include Mark, but Sara doesn’t have many friends and would have trouble find-ing a matching partner as an attendant.

How should I go about this? I feel weird even talk-ing about my wedding with Mark because he isn’t included. — West Coast Dilemma

Dear Dilemma: First of all, while it’s nice for attendants to “match up,” it is not a requirement. One groomsman can escort two bridesmaids. Attendants also can walk separately, or two groomsmen (or brides-maids) can walk together. Discuss this with Sara, in case she has someone else she’d like to ask. Another option is to include Mark by giving him a different honor: He could be an usher, direct-ing guests to their seats and handing out programs if you have them. You also could ask him to read something during the ceremony or help in other ways. He would be treated the same as a groomsman and included in all planned events.

Dear Annie: My husband and I occasionally socialize with another couple our age. The problem is, at restau-rants, the husband is con-descending to the wait staff, repeatedly asks for substitu-tions and always sends some of his food back with a com-plaint. In addition, he is a stingy tipper.

His wife says nothing when these things happen.

But we are embarrassed by his behavior. We don’t want to humiliate them or cause a scene by being critical. What do you suggest? — A Friend of Waiters

Dear Friend: You can tell a lot about a person’s char-acter by the way he treats the wait staff at a restaurant. If you insist on socializing with this boorish man, we suggest you avoid places where he will cause embarrassment and ill will. Go to a movie or a play, and stop briefly for a drink after. Meet for coffee. Invite them to your home if you prefer to share a meal. We think his wife will know why you no longer eat out with them, and she will inform her husband. How they choose to deal with that is up to them.

Dear Annie: I cried when I read the letter from “Hurt and Alone,” whose husband goes out drinking with his cheating friends and leaves her at home.

I, too, have been hurt and alone for years. My hus-band’s alcohol intake, work schedule and need to be the social center of atten-tion have taken priority in our marriage for 20 years. My husband is the kind of guy who treats everyone to everything, so people think he’s the greatest. He’s not a raging, belligerent or violent alcoholic. He’s a successful functioning alcoholic who is an expert at excuses and turning the tables.

Tell “Hurt and Alone” that she is not the only one who has spent many a night wait-ing for her husband to come home. I was once a self-assured, confident woman, but I’ve lost myself coping with endless lies and loneli-ness while trying to raise three children. — Lonely in California

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REUNION HELD — The 58th reunion of the former Troy High School Class of 1955 was held recently at Boyette’s. Those attending were (front row, from left) Joe McEwen and Anne Caldwell McEwen, both of Troy; Betty Easterwood Calhoun of Union City; Wanda Hicks Bames of Troy;

(middle row) Wanda Wilkerson Sublett of Union City; (back row) Ed Roberson of Hornbeak; Barbara Johnson Buchanan of Troy; Mary Magness Ada of Jackson; Bar-bara Fitzgerald Caughron of Union City; Margaret Jones Gurien and Jackie Joyner, both of Troy; and Leon Bumpus of Paris.

The Class of 1955 of the former Troy High School met recently at Boyette’s for its 58th class reunion.

Leon Bumpus of Paris led the group in prayer. Classmates who have died were remembered. They include Jacque Sue White Griffin, Dale Freeman, Barbara Ann Hart Nash, Jimmy Wicker and Shirley Elizabeth Wright.

Class members, spouses and friends enjoyed a deli-cious meal of catfish, coun-try ham, French fries, onion rings, a choice of vege-

tables, twice baked pota-toes, rolls, hushpuppies, tea and water. Afterwards, they enjoyed an afternoon of fellowship, reminiscing and taking pictures.

Class of 1955 gradu-ates present were Leon Bumpus of Paris; Joe and Anne Caldwell McEwen, Barbara Johnson Buchanan and Wanda Hicks Barnes, all of Troy; Ed Roberson of Hornbeak; Mary Magness Ada of Jackson; and Barbara Fitzgerald Caughron, Wanda Wilkerson Sublett and Betty Easterwood

Calhoun, all of Union City. Other classmates attend-ing were Margaret Jones Gurien and Jackie Joyner, both of Troy.

Spouses attending were Carolyn Bumpus, Sue Roberson, Wayne Ada, John Cude Buchanan, Tommy Calhoun, Charles Barnes and Betty Joyner.

Members of the Class of 1955 unable to attend were Wilma Lois Reedy Slack of Winter Park, Fla., Bobby McConnell of South Fulton and Geneva Green Vaughn of Union City.

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Union City Duplicate Bridge Club members played a quarterly championship game Thursday afternoon at the Eddie Cox Senior Center in Union City. It is an open club and new members are welcome. North-South winners included first place in A, Sarah Ann Pentecost and Tom Beard, both of Dresden; second place in A, Freddye Oliver of Union City and Gene Fulks of Paris; and first place in B, Dianna Nerren of Hickman, Ky., and Betty Jo Wheeler of Union City. East-West winners included first place in A, Betty Field of Hickman and John Harbour of Union City; second place in A, Betty Amberg of Hickman and Lois Harbour of Union City; and first place in B, Jo Grissom of Hickman and Donna Carol Howell of Fulton.

By RYAN PEARSONAP Entertainment Writer

LOS ANGELES (AP) — Alex O’Loughlin says he’s signed up for two more seasons of “Hawaii Five-0” but is looking forward to a career beyond the hit TV series.

The 38-year-old actor plays policeman Steve McGarrett on the CBS series, now in its fourth season, and said the intense workload and shooting schedule had kept him out of other potential projects.

“Like I read Doug Liman’s script, ‘Everest,’ which he’s about to start directing — it’s amazing and it’s invigorating. But it’s also heartbreaking at the same time because it feels so far away from me at the moment,” O’Loughlin said at Australians in Film awards dinner Thursday night. “I’ve never played one character for this long. And it’s network TV, too, so it comes with its own

set of challenges from the artist’s perspective. But I’m very lucky. My kids will get to go to good schools, we all eat organic food, and I live in Hawaii.”

The actor noted that the show — a reimagining of the 1970s series starring Jack Lord — had overcome a number of hurdles to remain consistently highly rated.

“I mean, we’ve had cast troubles. I got really hurt and had to go and sort myself out in the second season. We’ve had inju-ries, we’ve had all sorts of things. It just keeps going,” he said. “We can’t seem to kill it. So I guess it’s going to stick around for a while.

As for how long he’ll stick around: “At the moment I can’t imagine working any longer than tomorrow. Because there’s just so much work. But we’ll see, we’ll see. I want to do other things sooner rather than later.”

O’Loughlin ponders future

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Crystal Family and Community Education Club members met recent-ly at Obion County Farm Bureau.

After the opening thought for the day, “Bless God for all that you have, trust God for all that you need,” Joyce Taylor led the group in repeating the 23rd Psalm.

President Nadine Killion opened the meeting with the roll call using a word asso-ciated with Thanksgiving. Upcoming events were announced. The Kitchen Divas will hold a workshop in Jackson on Nov. 5 from 8:30 until noon. The cost will be $5. The Christmas luncheon at Baptist Memorial Hospital-Union City will be Dec. 6 at 12:30 pm. Achievement luncheon for the county will be held at Mason Hall on April 28, 2014. Cultural Arts Day will be April 7, 2014, at the Farm Bureau build-ing and the county council meeting will follow in the afternoon. Leadership in Action Workshop will be Jan. 9, 2014, in Jackson. The Crystal and Mason Hall clubs will prepare a display of work the Obion County clubs have done for the community and county. The theme will be the County Fair 2013. The 2013 TAFCE Convention will be held in Franklin Nov. 11-13 at the Embassy Suites.

Folklore Day was to be held in Milan Oct. 19. Mrs. Killion, Nita Simpson, Sherri Hanna, Judi Dieiman and the Mason Hall quilt-ing group will demonstrate. Mary Lois Owens will rep-resent the club in the fash-ion revue at state conven-tion. Mrs. Simpson, Mrs.

Killion, Mrs. Owens, Jane Fisher and Lupita Berner will have craft items in the state event at convention.

A new category to allow professionally quilted quilts will be added to the Cultural Arts state rules. Also the specialty quilts categories, cathedral quilts, appliquéd quilts and embroidered quilts will be combined in to one category called quilts-specialty.

The November club meeting will be held Nov. 6. This change is due to state convention being held on the regular meeting date.

New officers were elect-ed for 2014. They include Mrs. Killion as president, Mrs. Simpson as vice president, Alice Fennel as secretary, Mrs. Fisher as treasurer, Mrs. Owens and Ms. Berner as voting del-egates to county council and Rochelle McClain and Mary Dunavant as alternate voting delegates.

Obion County University of Tennessee Extension agent Benita Giffin present-ed an educational program concerning breast cancer entitled “Better Health Through Awareness.” In addition to benefiting from new treatment methods, more and more woman are increasing their chances for recovery by learning the importance of having regu-lar mammograms and clini-cal exams and performing monthly breast self-exami-nation.

After a refreshing plate of cake and fruit was served by hostess Ms. Taylor, Master Gardeners John Abernathy and Jenny Courtright showed the club how to make a concrete leaf casting for their garden.

Crystal FCE meets