Emotional and Social Development, Ages 1-3

• Welcome back! April 21, 2014• Today’s Agenda:

• Emotional and Social Development between ages 1 and 3• Bell ringer• Video: Toddler Self Esteem• Notes: Emotional and Social Development

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Emotional patterns• Emotional development goes in __________ throughout a

child’s development. • Periods of negativism, rebellion, happiness, calmness,

stability. • Generally around certain ages, though all are different.

These are general guidelines. • ______________________________

18 months• _______________ – think only about their own needs and

wants, and not those of others. • Up until now, all needs have been met _______

___________. Starts to change around this age. • Favorite word: “______!”

Negativism• Doing the _____________ of what others want• Normal for a toddler• They want ____________ – say no because want to

decide for themselves• They are _____________ – bodies can’t always do what

they want, language skills aren’t developed enough to express what they want, so very frustrated! Ends up as “No!”

Battle of wills• Parents fight with child and it goes back and forth – no

one gives in• Strategies to help prevent this:

• Put things away you don’t want touched• ______________ guidance

• Give ____________ – give them some control• _____________the child – attention off the issue• Encourage ___________ – help them learn to say what they want or

feel

2 years (Terrible?)• More emotionally stable – speech and motor skills have

____________ = less frustration• ____________ more and can wait a bit longer for

__________ to be met• Express love and affection ________• Seek ________________________• Easier to ____________ with • Less _____________________

2 ½ years• Learning so much, often ____________• Comprehension and desires exceed their

_______________________ – blocks get knocked over• Know what they want to say – not always

_________________ by adults• Strongly want _______________ – do not want to

conform

2 ½ continued• Independence and immaturity clash • At this age, are stubborn, demanding, and domineering• Moods change _____________: from screaming to loving

in no time• Need _______________! Same routines, carried out the

same way, everyday. Way of coping with confusing world.

Giving Choices• How would you deal with the below situations in offering

this child a choice:• Luis wants to wear a new top while working in the garden• John wants to eat candy for breakfast• Bobby wants the toy that Matt is using• Katrina wants to take a plastic toy with her to bed

3 year old• Generally _________ and cooperative• Learning to be ______________• More physical ______________ – less frustration• More willing to take _____________• Will change behavior to get __________ – which they

want• Like to talk and better are at it• Can be reasoned with and controlled with words

3 ½ years• Become very ________________• ______________ are common• Afraid of the dark, lions and tigers, monsters, strangers, or

loud noises• May start new habits of _______________: thumb

sucking, nail biting of nose picking to release tension• Try to ensure security by ______________

________________

Compare/Contrast• What are the different ways a 2 year old and a 3 year old

might respond to these situations?• An adult who wants to help the child with everything• Starting a new child care situation• Visiting a parents workplace

Specific emotions• __________ – way of reacting to frustration• Expression changes over this stage:

• 18 months – kick and scream • 3 years – use words

• Target of anger• 18 months – no specific person or object• 3 years – likely to aim at person or object they see as responsible

for causing frustration

Anger• More frequent in ______________________ children

• Children who haven't learned self-control• Children whose parents are overly ____________• Whose parents are _________________

• Help them by:• Making sure demands are limited and reasonable• Respond in a controlled way

Fear• Have particular fears at each age• 1 year old: high places, strangers, loud noises• 3 year old: dark, animals and storms• Can be useful: keep them away from danger• Others will be overcome with development

Separation Anxiety• Fear of being away from parents or caregivers• Hard on parents – feel guilty leaving• Is a stage they will go through and grow out of

Coping with separation anxiety• Parents can:

• Offer support and understanding• Encourage child to talk and fears and listen to them• Sometimes accept it and avoid it for awhile, will go away• Read books together about a child who experiences fear• Make unfamiliar situations more secure – talk about it or go one

time to be familiar – know what to expect

Jealousy• Shows up sometime in the ________ year• Parents – may resent affection shown between• Siblings – _____________ develops

• New baby• Changes in routine or family dynamics

• Make sure all children know they are _________• Try to have time with each child ____________• Try not to _____________ children to each other

Love and affection• Relationships that children have with others in these years

form the basis of their capacity for _________ and affection _________ in life.

• Young children must learn to love• 1st – love of those who satisfy their needs• Then grows to siblings, pets, and people outside of their home

• Relationship should be strong but not smothering

Individual Differences• Remember! Each child is _____________!• Develop ______________ in different ways

• Partly due to ______________ – opportunities• Partly due to how many ______________• Partly due to _______________ (Intense, perceptive?)

• Knowing child’s temperament can help in dealing with ________________ (perceptive).

Developing positive self-concept• Self concept – how they _________________

• Different from self-esteem

• Formed in response to actions, attitudes and comments from _____________

• Believe what others _______ about them, which leads to how they behave – “good”, “bad”

• Help them by letting them ________________

Signs of healthy emotional relationship between parent and child

• Child seeks approval and praise from ________• Child turns to parents for __________and help• Child tells parents about significant events so they share

in joy or sorrow• Child accepts limits and discipline without unusual

_______________

Review• Emotional roller coaster – normal! • Many emotions are developing – know them, how to cope

with them, and how to help them through these• Positive self concept• Study guide

Let’s Discuss• Annie (2 years old) is in the toy store with her father.

From the way she is acting, he thinks she was about to have a temper tantrum. What might he do to prevent it? How should he handle the tantrum is she has one?

• What can caregivers/parents do to help a child develop a positive self-concept?