Effective and Effective and Realistic Strategies in Realistic Strategies in

Working with Working with Families with Families with

Domestic ViolenceDomestic ViolenceIntervening/Engaging Batterers for Intervening/Engaging Batterers for

Effective Safety Planning Effective Safety Planning

Gina Vice-Hlavacek, Psy.D.Gina Vice-Hlavacek, Psy.D.

Domestic Violence Consultant/Trainer Domestic Violence Consultant/Trainer

NB DCFNB DCF

Goals of PresentationGoals of Presentation

As a result of this training, attorneys, judges, As a result of this training, attorneys, judges, court support staff, and workers will be able court support staff, and workers will be able to:to:– Identify the batterer’s pattern of coercive control Identify the batterer’s pattern of coercive control

in the family.in the family.– Identify effective and realistic interventions Identify effective and realistic interventions

(including identifying specific steps) to address (including identifying specific steps) to address batterers’ pattern of coercive control and batterers’ pattern of coercive control and support the non-offending parent’s safety support the non-offending parent’s safety planning.planning.

How many individuals have you represented How many individuals have you represented or worked with that have been affected by or worked with that have been affected by DV?DV?– Can you describe the patterns that you noticed in Can you describe the patterns that you noticed in

the family?the family?– Describe your interactions with the batterer?Describe your interactions with the batterer?

What is typically asked of the batterer in terms of What is typically asked of the batterer in terms of interventions/specific steps? interventions/specific steps?

How is the batterer’s control present in juvenile court How is the batterer’s control present in juvenile court proceedings?proceedings?

Why is it important to assess Why is it important to assess Domestic Violence?Domestic Violence?

50% of men who frequently batter their partners also frequently abuse 50% of men who frequently batter their partners also frequently abuse their children. their children. (Straus & Gelles, 1996)(Straus & Gelles, 1996)

Although many parents believe they can hide the domestic violence Although many parents believe they can hide the domestic violence from their children, children living in these homes report differently. from their children, children living in these homes report differently. Between 80% and 90% of these children are aware of the violence. Between 80% and 90% of these children are aware of the violence. ((Carlson, 1984) Carlson, 1984)

Children of abused mothers are 6 times more likely to attempt suicide, Children of abused mothers are 6 times more likely to attempt suicide, 50% more likely to use drugs and/or alcohol, and are at higher risk for 50% more likely to use drugs and/or alcohol, and are at higher risk for running away. running away. (Senate Hearing, 1990; Walker, 1984)(Senate Hearing, 1990; Walker, 1984)

Children raised in violent homes are 74% more likely to commit Children raised in violent homes are 74% more likely to commit assault. assault. (Senate Hearing 1990; Sedgwick, 1992)(Senate Hearing 1990; Sedgwick, 1992)

What is Domestic What is Domestic Violence?Violence?

Defining the Domestic ViolenceDefining the Domestic Violence

A A pattern of coercive controlpattern of coercive control perpetrated by one person against perpetrated by one person against another in an intimate relationship.another in an intimate relationship.

Pattern of Coercive Control involves:Pattern of Coercive Control involves:

ObviousObvious– Physical assaultPhysical assault– Threats to bodily harmThreats to bodily harm– Kidnapping Kidnapping – StalkingStalking– Sexual assault Sexual assault

Pattern of Coercive Control involves:Pattern of Coercive Control involves: Subtle: Subtle:

– Name callingName calling– Threatening to use the court and DCF to take away childrenThreatening to use the court and DCF to take away children– Threats to leave the relationship and stop financesThreats to leave the relationship and stop finances– Outing someone to their relativesOuting someone to their relatives– Telling liesTelling lies– Throwing out birth control pillsThrowing out birth control pills– Controlling financesControlling finances– InfidelityInfidelity– Keeping weapons in the houseKeeping weapons in the house– Hiding passportsHiding passports– Interfering with one’s ability to call upon supports, via telephone Interfering with one’s ability to call upon supports, via telephone

and car (smashing the cell phone, taking keys away, etc)and car (smashing the cell phone, taking keys away, etc)– Posturing when angryPosturing when angry– Disapproving of non-offending parent’s supports, thus making it Disapproving of non-offending parent’s supports, thus making it

less likely she/he will utilize them.less likely she/he will utilize them.

Safety Planning Strategies and Safety Planning Strategies and How the Batterer can InterfereHow the Batterer can Interfere

Temporary Restraining Orders and Protective OrdersTemporary Restraining Orders and Protective Orders Cell PhonesCell Phones Identify safe hiding places (DV or homeless shelter)Identify safe hiding places (DV or homeless shelter) Call 911Call 911 Remove child from abusive environment; Bring child to alternate, Remove child from abusive environment; Bring child to alternate,

safe, location (i.e.: friend, relative, different room within home)safe, location (i.e.: friend, relative, different room within home) Notify school officials, teachers, etc. of batterer’s potential Notify school officials, teachers, etc. of batterer’s potential

violence; safety plan; emergency contact, heighten awareness violence; safety plan; emergency contact, heighten awareness to and possible change in child’s behaviorto and possible change in child’s behavior

Sleep in same room with childrenSleep in same room with children Talk to children about how to respond to violence, i.e.: stay away Talk to children about how to respond to violence, i.e.: stay away

from abusive/violent environment; respond to code word; go to from abusive/violent environment; respond to code word; go to identified neighbor’s house, hiding place etc.identified neighbor’s house, hiding place etc.

Move out of home with/without childrenMove out of home with/without children

Safety Planning Strategies and Safety Planning Strategies and How the Batterer can InterfereHow the Batterer can Interfere

Sleep in car/streetSleep in car/street Identify person to assist with visitation to reduce potential for Identify person to assist with visitation to reduce potential for

violence during transfer of childrenviolence during transfer of children Keep children out of school/change schoolsKeep children out of school/change schools Make sure they attend schoolMake sure they attend school Normalize as much as possible by providing a safe structureNormalize as much as possible by providing a safe structure Meeting basic needs (feeding, bathing, spending quality time)Meeting basic needs (feeding, bathing, spending quality time) Keeping up to date medicallyKeeping up to date medically Maintaining a routine to avoid exposure to possible violenceMaintaining a routine to avoid exposure to possible violence Engaging children with outside activities and relationships Engaging children with outside activities and relationships

(formal and informal) (formal and informal) Attending school functions such as parent-teacher conferences, Attending school functions such as parent-teacher conferences,

fairs, etc.fairs, etc.

ScenarioScenario

Fiza and Muhammad are a traditional Pakistani couple who were married through an Fiza and Muhammad are a traditional Pakistani couple who were married through an arrangement and have been together for 8 years. They have 2 children, male age 4 arrangement and have been together for 8 years. They have 2 children, male age 4 and female age 6. An incident occurred that began with Muhammad looking through and female age 6. An incident occurred that began with Muhammad looking through Fiza’s cell phone to check her call log. An argument began and Muhammad followed Fiza’s cell phone to check her call log. An argument began and Muhammad followed Fiza throughout the house. He hit her in the head as the children were present. She ran Fiza throughout the house. He hit her in the head as the children were present. She ran into the bathroom and he ran after her. He had a “cake” knife in his hand and stabbed into the bathroom and he ran after her. He had a “cake” knife in his hand and stabbed her on the right side of her head and palms as she was trying to protect her body. She her on the right side of her head and palms as she was trying to protect her body. She eventually fell into the bathtub. eventually fell into the bathtub.

Fiza ran out of the home with her children. Muhammad followed her and grabbed their son Fiza ran out of the home with her children. Muhammad followed her and grabbed their son and stated, “if you call the police, I will kill your son.” and stated, “if you call the police, I will kill your son.”

She left the home with her daughter and proceeded to take the child to school. She realized She left the home with her daughter and proceeded to take the child to school. She realized she had blood coming from her head and turned around to go to her parents home. she had blood coming from her head and turned around to go to her parents home. When she arrived, she noticed what seemed to be Muhammad’s car in the driveway. When she arrived, she noticed what seemed to be Muhammad’s car in the driveway. She proceeded to drive around the block, park, and waited for 45 minutes.She proceeded to drive around the block, park, and waited for 45 minutes.

When she arrived to her parent’s home, her brother encouraged her to go to the hospital and When she arrived to her parent’s home, her brother encouraged her to go to the hospital and police station to make a report. police station to make a report.

How do you engage and intervene How do you engage and intervene with the Batterer?with the Batterer?

Common Problems:Common Problems:– Allowing the batterer’s behavior to be invisible.Allowing the batterer’s behavior to be invisible.

Focusing on treatment for the survivor.Focusing on treatment for the survivor. Focusing on the survivor leaving the batterer.Focusing on the survivor leaving the batterer. They may be a boyfriend, not the biological father.They may be a boyfriend, not the biological father. Batterers do not make themselves available for interviewing, Batterers do not make themselves available for interviewing,

treatment, and/or other community agencies.treatment, and/or other community agencies. Our own bias Our own bias

– Mother’s are often seen as the primary caretakers, thus the Mother’s are often seen as the primary caretakers, thus the responsibility for providing safety rests with her.responsibility for providing safety rests with her.

How to intervene with the Batterer:How to intervene with the Batterer:Aspects to considerAspects to consider

Cultural differencesCultural differences StatusStatus Financial statusFinancial status Social SupportsSocial Supports Human vulnerabilities (e.g., love for their Human vulnerabilities (e.g., love for their

children)children) Personality resiliencyPersonality resiliency

How to intervene with the Batterer:How to intervene with the Batterer:StrategiesStrategies

What behaviors are maladaptive to the family What behaviors are maladaptive to the family functioning? functioning? – Identifying these to the batterer can assist in identifying Identifying these to the batterer can assist in identifying

what he/she needs to change in order for the family to what he/she needs to change in order for the family to be safe and remain together.be safe and remain together.

– Appropriate programs can also be identified to assist in Appropriate programs can also be identified to assist in making these changes.making these changes.

– Goals of treatment programs, such as the Domestic Goals of treatment programs, such as the Domestic Violence Intervention Program (DOVE, EXPLORE, and Violence Intervention Program (DOVE, EXPLORE, and NOVA), can be used to develop specific steps for the NOVA), can be used to develop specific steps for the batterer.batterer.

Treatment Options for Batterers

Areas of Concern:

– Anger management – not useful for domestic violence.– Couples counseling – not useful for domestic violence

Under certain conditions couples counseling can be used by a counselor well-trained in power and control issues to focus on the abuser’s responsibility and not interactive issues like communication and intimacy. Cannot be used if the survivor is significantly afraid of their partner.

– Individual counseling – not useful for domestic violence.

Treatment Options

Group therapy

– Most effective treatment, intensive, 26 weeks.

– Deals primarily with cultural issues, internal and external consequences, and personal contradictions. Especially useful in accountability and responsibility in the abuser.

– Community Coordinated Response – necessary for effective treatment and survivor’s safety.

How to intervene with the Batterer:How to intervene with the Batterer:StrategiesStrategies

Set specific/concrete goals/steps/expectations.Set specific/concrete goals/steps/expectations.

– Will support a relationship between mother and children by the following:Will support a relationship between mother and children by the following: Will provide transportation to and from visitation with mother.Will provide transportation to and from visitation with mother. Will return the family vehicle to mother so that she can continue to take Will return the family vehicle to mother so that she can continue to take

children to and from activities, medical appointments, etc.children to and from activities, medical appointments, etc. Will support mother’s parenting by not speaking negatively about mother in Will support mother’s parenting by not speaking negatively about mother in

front of the children.front of the children. Will support mother’s parenting by supporting her limit setting (not overriding Will support mother’s parenting by supporting her limit setting (not overriding

these limits).these limits).

– Will cease all further physical violence towards any/all members of the Will cease all further physical violence towards any/all members of the household (includes pets).household (includes pets).

– Will cease all further intimidating behavior towards any member of Will cease all further intimidating behavior towards any member of household. This includes verbal threats, destruction of property, throwing household. This includes verbal threats, destruction of property, throwing objects, punching walls, invasion of privacy.objects, punching walls, invasion of privacy.

Specific steps/expectations continued:Specific steps/expectations continued:

– Will identify the impact of his/her pattern of coercive control and Will identify the impact of his/her pattern of coercive control and take responsibility for its impact on the family.take responsibility for its impact on the family. Responsibility for DCF involvement and legal involvement and the Responsibility for DCF involvement and legal involvement and the

ongoing intrusion in the family as a result.ongoing intrusion in the family as a result.

– Will participate in positive parenting of the children.Will participate in positive parenting of the children. If needed, will participate in a parenting program (if he is not living in If needed, will participate in a parenting program (if he is not living in

the home and continues to have contact with the children).the home and continues to have contact with the children). Will maintain contact with school, attend school meetings when Will maintain contact with school, attend school meetings when

necessary, etc.necessary, etc.

– Will discuss this impact both in treatment as well as with others, Will discuss this impact both in treatment as well as with others, taking responsibility for these behaviors and acknowledging the taking responsibility for these behaviors and acknowledging the destructive impact of them in the home.destructive impact of them in the home.

– Will cooperate with DCF and providers.Will cooperate with DCF and providers. As such, will sign necessary and requested releases of information.As such, will sign necessary and requested releases of information.

How to intervene: Survivor’s Safety How to intervene: Survivor’s Safety PlanningPlanning

It is important to note:It is important to note:

– Survivors actively assess risk, and their strategies to reduce risk Survivors actively assess risk, and their strategies to reduce risk and harm to their family may appear disorganized and and harm to their family may appear disorganized and unpredictable.unpredictable.

– Survivor’s safety planning is always subject to change dependent Survivor’s safety planning is always subject to change dependent on the batterer’s behavior and the changing circumstances these on the batterer’s behavior and the changing circumstances these behavior’s create.behavior’s create.

Intervening with the survivor:Intervening with the survivor:

Once the situation has been assessed and the batterer has Once the situation has been assessed and the batterer has been held responsible, the survivor should be assessed in been held responsible, the survivor should be assessed in terms of his/her needs.terms of his/her needs.– Based on symptoms, a survivor may be sent to mental health Based on symptoms, a survivor may be sent to mental health

counseling, trauma group, to address PTSD, depression, anxiety, counseling, trauma group, to address PTSD, depression, anxiety, and relationship issues.and relationship issues.

– Based on limited supports, lack of safety planning, and the level of Based on limited supports, lack of safety planning, and the level of risk the batterer may pose, the survivor may benefit from services risk the batterer may pose, the survivor may benefit from services at a domestic violence shelter.at a domestic violence shelter.

– However, the goals of treatment need to be made explicit, However, the goals of treatment need to be made explicit, otherwise, supporting her existing safety plan and holding the otherwise, supporting her existing safety plan and holding the batterer accountable may address the level of risk in the family.batterer accountable may address the level of risk in the family.

– Couples counseling is contraindicated until the batterer is able to Couples counseling is contraindicated until the batterer is able to take responsibility for his/her behaviors and the impact of them on take responsibility for his/her behaviors and the impact of them on the family.the family.

“ “Engaging and intervening with the Engaging and intervening with the batterer supports the non-offending batterer supports the non-offending parent’s safety plan and validates parent’s safety plan and validates their experience.” their experience.”

(Grijalba-Rodriguez & Vice-Hlavacek, 2007)(Grijalba-Rodriguez & Vice-Hlavacek, 2007)