Download - Understanding Self
UNDERSTANDING SELF
KNOW YOURSELF
WHY????
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. - Aristotle
THE MODEL CAN BE LOOKED UPON AS A COMMUNICATION WINDOW THROUGH WHICH YOU GIVE AND RECEIVE INFORMATION ABOUT YOURSELF AND OTHERS
THE JOHARI WINDOW
The first pane - Open{Things I know, Things they know} The second pane - Blind{Things I Don’t know, Things they know}The third pane - Hidden{Things I know, Things they Don’t know}The fourth pane - Unknown{Things I Don’t know, Things they Don’t
know}
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
UNIQUE UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTSHUMAN ENDOWMENTS
1.1. Self-awarenessSelf-awareness2.2. ConscienceConscience3.3. ImaginationImagination4.4. WillpowerWillpower
and many more…..and many more…..
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
Self-awarenessAware of oneself, including one's traits, feelings, and behaviors
Self-actualization Realize all of one's potentialities
Self-confidence Sense of self-worth and capabilities
Self-conscious Paying attention to our self as a whole
Self-esteem How we feel about or value ourself
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE…..CONT
Self-efficacyBelief that one is capable of performing in a certain manner to attain certain goals
Self-control Able to manage one’s own disruptive
thinking, feeling and impulsive action. Self-regulation
Guidance of one’s own goal directed thinking, feeling and action
Self-monitoringOur ability to monitor our self
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE…..CONT
Self-transcendenceGoing beyond or above the limitations of one's self
Self-motivationWorking in a careful and consistent manner without giving up
Self-instruction You talk /instruct to your self
UrgentUrgent Not UrgentNot Urgent
. Crisis
. Pressing problems
. Deadline-driven projects, meetings, preparations
. Preparation
. Prevention
. Values clarification
. Planning
. Relationship building
. True re-creation
. Empowerment
. Interruptions, some phone calls
. Some mail, some reports
. Some meetings
. Many proximate,pressing matters
. Many popular activities
. Trivia, busywork
. Some phone calls
. Time wasters
. “Escape” activities
. Irrelevant mail
. Excessive TV
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Task & Time management tableTask & Time management table
Duplicity
Unkindness
Violatedexpectations
Outside stressand pressures
Time wasters
Interruptions
Pressingproblems
Crises
PERSONAL IMMUNE SYSTEMPERSONAL IMMUNE SYSTEM
Live these Habits
Spend timein Quadrant II
Follow correctprinciples
Control own life
Maintain highEmotional BankAccount with selfand others
Maintain reservecapacity
Be resilient
Empower andserve others
CommunicateEmpathically
Synergize withothers using awin-win approach
How Effective Are Your Communication Skills?
Teaching a class
Promotion Interview
Group discussion
At a Business Dinner/Meeting
Presenting your idea
Yearly Appraisal
Issue Instructions to your staff
Asking for a raise
Client interactionThank you Speeches
Team Meetings Brain storming sessions
WHEN IS EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IMPORTANT?
Sender ReceiverMessage
Feedback
Perception
DeliveryFormulating
Response
Understanding
Communication : The Flow
Channel
ASK YOURSELF !!
How do you communicate
How have you dressed?
Body language
WHICH ONE ARE YOU ? Submissive
Assertive
Aggressive
STYLES OF COMMUNICATION
Submissive Assertive Aggressive
Low levels of confidence Good level of confidence Over confident
Do not get what you want
Not Always Winning, But Always Understanding -- How You Play The Game
You think you get what you want.
Feel like you are being taken for granted
You are not taken for granted.
People around you feel like they are being taken
for granted
High Stress No stress – a sense of calmness and maturity
prevails
High stress
Take too much account of the other person's
rights
Recognize the other person's rights to be
heard
Other person's rights don't matter
Feeling of guilt Can say No without feeling guilty
Can say No without feeling guilty
IN YOUR COMMUNICATION…..
Keep it brief (K-I-S-S)
Keep your language simple
Slang or profanity is neither correct nor effective
plan your conversation
REMEMBER !!!
Only 7% of the impact you make comes from the words you speak.
DRESSING FOR SUCCESS
There are 3 sides to self image:
1. As you see yourself.
2. As others see you.
3. As you truly are.
DRESSING STYLE = FIRST PERCEPTION !!
Some of the perceptions people can formsolely from your appearance are:
Your professionalism
Your level of sophistication
Your intelligence
Your credibility
BUSINESS ATTIRE
Three basic things you need to consider :
1. Your Line of Work
2. Your Corporate Culture
3. Your Audience
BEFORE YOU BUY SOMETHING TO WEAR TO WORK, ASK YOURSELF:
Is it appropriate for the kind of job I have? Is it a fad or will it hold up as a basic
wardrobe foundation? Does it fit properly? Will I stand out (in a positive light) if I wear it
to work? Do I feel successful and confident wearing it? Would my boss wear it?
WHAT LOOK DOES THIS CONVEY??
Authoritative, Conservative, and Competent.
WHAT LOOK DOES THIS CONVEY??
Trustworthy, Approachable, and Knowledgeable.
FINAL THOUGHTS ON APPAREL
NEVER under estimate the power of first impressions..
Dress appropriately for your surroundings
Conservative colors are always safest.
Underwear stays UNDER your wears !!
NEVER GO EXTREME !!!
YOU NEVER get a second chance to
make a FIRST IMPRESSION
How Important is body language?
BODY LANGUAGE
Eye contactFacial expression Postures and gestures Personal biases and
prejudices Personal space Orientation
Listening skills !!!!
What is the basis of all communication???
Hearing- physical process; natural; passive
Listening- physical & mental process; active; learned process; a skill
You must CHOOSE to participate in the process of listening
Hearing V/s Listening
Listening – why is it important?
Writing
Reading
Speaking
Listening
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Research shows, communication is…
body language
55%
words7%
style
38%
QUICK TIPS !!
Smile first and always shake hands when you meet anyone.
Take your time during introductions!
Maintain eye contact in any conversation
Listen carefully
YOU WANT TO AVOID THESE LOOKS !!
Great minds…………….discuss ideas
Average minds…………discuss events
Small minds…………….discuss people