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MGMA
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Allow me to Introduce Myself…
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And My Wife…Debbie
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“You’ve Been Upgraded”Paris! The Eiffel Tower! The Food!
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Giving You An Opportunity To:
1. Be Happier in 75 minutes & 21 Days2. Gain Insight Into Who You Are:
1. Choice Theory, 2. Internal Dialogue
3. Improve Communication…maybe even Coach the Boss.
4. Use simple QUANTUM TOOLS
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AN INSIGHT INTO MOTIVATION
CHOICE VERSUS CONTROL
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The Two PsychologiesUnderstanding Control
Consider: The seeds of almost all our unhappiness are planted when we encounter people who have discovered not only what is right for them…but what is, also, right for us. Corollary: Almost all “unsolvable” human
problems are relationship problems. The Operational Premise: Inject external
control, punish the people who are doing wrong, so they will do what we say is right: then reward them, so they keep doing what we want them to do.
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The Two PsychologiesDescriptions of Control
External Pressure & Demand “Naturally” Coercive “Trying to force me” Disapproval (a disapproving glance) “I feel threatened” Damages personal freedom “Bulldozes” personal boundaries
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The Two PsychologiesUnderstanding Choice
Consider: Choice explains that for all practical purposes, we choose everything we do including the misery we feel. Corollary: Other people can neither “make us”
miserable nor happy. They simply give us information that we process and then decide what to do.
The Operational Premise: Embrace internal control by understanding why and how we make choices that determine a course for our lives. (NGO)
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Psychology & The Addiction to Normal
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How do we make the Outlier…Normal?
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She Had Stopped Dreaming. Sent this to me the following day.
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This is your big tough intimidating “Boss”
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Met Kat at Barberitos…Last Year
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Kat wants to be a “success someday”…I think She is…NOW!What do you think?
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She wants to make her Dad proud.
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Our Internal Narrative, Language & Beliefs
Create Our Experience “Patternize” Our Responses Get us Stuck or Create
Adventure Open us to POSSIBILITIES
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Positive Psychology
External world does not predict happiness. How wealthy you are does not predict happiness.
Traditional Success Model: Have…Do…Be Successful Current Science of Success: BE HAPPY…Do…Have 75% of job success predicted by “how positive” we are.
(Hom & Arbuckle, 1988) We are more intelligent when we are happy (Estrada, Isen
& Young, 1997) When happy dopamine is released that sustains feelings of
happiness and “TURNS ON” learning centers of the brain.
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When we are happy…(Lyubomirsky, 2005; Losada 1999; Fredrickson, Branigan, Kaufman 2003)
Better at keeping our job Superior productivity by 31% 37% Better at sales 19% Increase in physician performance More resilient Less burnout Less turnover Increase in immune function
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When we are happy…(Lyubomirsky, 2005; Losada 1999; Fredrickson, Branigan, Kaufman 2003)
Enhanced creativity Expands ability to build competencies Primes cognitive flexibility, speed and
accuracy Improves Team Function (High functioning
teams had a 3 to 1 ratio positive to negative) Improves employee “bounce back” after
criticism Clarifies difference between “flourishing” and
“languishing” corporate teams
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Complete These Thoughts
Peanut Butter and _________. Scrambled Eggs and ________. Cookies and __________. Steak and __________.
Let’s go a step further.
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Mind Freak
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David Blaine…Street Magic
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Carnac the Magnificent… Knows All!
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Increasing the Level Of Difficulty
• I am going to predict your answers to two questions.
• I am going to recite a series of numbers that I want you to write down and then I am going to ask you a question.
• We will do this twice.
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The PossibilitiesHow many colors are there? • Unlimited
• Your computer displays 16.8 million colors.
• The human eye can distinguish about 10 million.
How many furniture items are there?• Limitless…
• How many types of trees are there?
• How many types of covering are there?
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You are the best STORYTELLER you know…You believe your own stories.
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We get Emotionally behind the stories we BELIEVE…whetherTrue or Not
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Willing Suspension of Disbelief: Emotionally Respond to What is Not True
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Animal Planet’s: Finding Bigfoot
“It’s A Squatch!”
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Remember the Stampede Scene from Lion King?
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What story will he tell himself as he grows up?
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“In Common” Patterns of Impoverishing Stories
• I’m not good enough.
• There’s not enough time.
• That’s unfair.
• I should be different.
• I don’t deserve a great life.
• Why bother? I never make it anyway.
• I have to control everything to make it work out.
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What if we thought…COMMUNICATION at work was like going to WAR?
• The demands made on me are indefensible.
• My ideas always get shot down.
• Those criticisms were right on target.
• Defend yourself if you want to win.
• I demolished that argument.
• You disagree.? Okay, shoot.
• If you use that strategy, he’ll wipe you out.
HOW DOES THIS FEEL?
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What if we thought…COMMUNICATION at work was like DANCE?
• What would we be trying to accomplish?
• Would there be a winner and a loser?
• Are we combatants or performers?
• Are we defeating the enemy or performing in a balanced and pleasing way?
• Are we demolishing arguments or learning to keep in step with one another?
HOW DOES THIS FEEL?
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10 Minutes A Day for 21 Days
1. Pythagorean Breathing
2. Go on vacation every morning for 1 minute.– Think about your most relaxing and/or fun vacation.
– Is it a beach? Then watch & listen to a You Tube video of a peaceful beach scene for 1 minute.
3. Find a picture of yourself smiling from when you were “little” and look at it.
4. Write 3 things for which you are grateful
5. Write and send an encouraging email to a friend, colleague, family… (NGO)
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Kevin McDaniel CPC, CPLM: 678-608-5416