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Discipline & Guidance
The keys to well-behaved children.
Positive Discipline http://
www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tBbL7VcNh0
GuidanceCONTINUAL long-
term influence on behavior
Guide through example, word, action
AdviceCan be positive or
negative
Discipline Behavior medication
when needed Teach/train behavior
by instruction and exercise
Punishment Penalty inflicted for
wrongdoing, a crime or offense
Verbal, withhold privileges negatively, hit, spank, hurt
Temporary and doesn’t teach self-discipline
Demeans child
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OAyuhfZ85nE
Why do they do it?Reasons for Misbehavior
1. Normal behavior for the child’s age The action is age and developmentally
appropriate Caregiver: Have appropriate
expectations for the child’s developmental age
2. Natural curiosity The child is curious to know what the
result or response would be for the action
Caregiver: Provide opportunities to experiment and satisfy curiosity
3. They do not know any better Inadequate or misunderstood
instructions They are trying something new and
don’t realize the consequences Caregiver: Have appropriate
expectations for the child’s developmental age. Make sure instructions are clearly said and understood
4. To get attention The child just wants the caregiver’s
attention – they prefer positive attention, but negative is attention too
Caregiver: Give attention only to that which you want to be repeated and ignore questionable or undesirable behavior.
5. To get power Children want some power and control
in their lives Caregiver: Refuse to engage in power
struggles. Give children choices for what they want to do, wear, ear, etc. Listen to their ideas.
6. For revenge Children want to do what they want
without anyone getting in the way Caregiver: Discuss the mistaken goal,
pay attention to appropriate choices, and provide love.
7. Feeling inadequate or incapable Constantly being corrected or being
given negative reinforcement might make a kid quit trying because they are afraid to fail
Caregiver: provide encouragement for their successes and attempts. Refrain from jumping in or fixing every task
8. The need to feel that they belong Wanting to find a place in a family or
peer group where they fit in. This place may be positive or negative, but the need is met.
Caregiver: Provide unconditional acceptance, concern, and interest in the child.
SpankingWhat do you think?
Spanking….Right or Wrong??? http://www.cnn.com/2012/07/07/health/s
panking-mental-illness-reaction/
Tough Love vs. Spanking Most of America’s population thinks it is
improper to spank children. I recently heard from a friend who has tried other methods to control their kids when they have one of “those moments”.
One that she found very effective was to just take the child for a car ride and talk.
They usually calmed down and stopped misbehaving after their little outing together.
Here is the photo of one of those sessions with my friend’s son in case you would like to try this technique.
Discipline TechniquesEach child is different and
different things will work for each child.
Positive Statements Clearly State what the child is expected
to do instead of telling them what not to do
Example: “Walk in the house” vs. “Don’t run in the house”
Get down on the child’s eye level to talk
Change these into Positive Statements:1. Don’t stand on the table!!!2. You are being very bad!3. Don’t chew with your mouth open, that’s disgusting!4. I can see your underwear. Put your dress down now!
Redirect Attention If a child is doing something you do not
want them to do….give them something else to do.
Distract them with another option Example: Have them jump on a
trampoline instead of a bed
Reverse Attention Ignore negative behavior when possible
and reinforce the positive POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT
Example – if their room is always messy, but one day they happen to have a really clean corner, then make a big deal out of the clean corner!
Time Out Remove child from situation causing heightened
emotion until they have calmed down Used sparingly, after other techniques have
been applied Use a place with NO distractions One minute for each year of age Make an effort to notice when child makes better choice after a time out
Time Out Video Clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFZIn
f15_QM
Loss of Privilege Remove a privilege if behavior is
inappropriate. Lots of different privileges can be
removed. Be consistent! Follow through.
Setting Limits Setting a guideline for behavior State limits clearly and firmly Use consequences as a form of
discipline when rules are broken Give your child the WHY for the limits.
Setting Limits - MORE Some parents struggle with setting
limits, but limits are GOOD for kids. Limits show children what to do and say and help them cope with their impulses and anxieties.
Limited Choices Give children
opportunities to make choices within caregiver’s limits
Limit the number of options provided
This gives a child practice making decisions and they feel in control of the situation
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SL8kcHlzem0
Natural & Logical Consequences
Natural: occur without interference – let nature take its course
Logical: occur with interference from caregiver Related to misbehavior Not done in anger Short duration Provide opportunities for child to learn
Super Nanny http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRfR
rP5ZeI8
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Authoritarian ParentingParent is in
control.Child is forced to
obey.Parents are strict,
no room for freedom.
Child may feel scared of parent or want to rebel.
Video Clip - Authoritarian http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QPpq
t8wA-MM
Permissive ParentingChild is in controlParent may
threaten but never follows through.
No consistency.Child may feel
that parents don’t care about them.
Video Clip - Permissive http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oknZ-
Hp5QEw
Authoritative (Democratic) Parenting
Balance of both types.
Parent sets rules, child expected to obey.
Child allowed more freedom as responsibility increases.
Child may not like the rules but they are fair & consistent.
Video Clip – Authoritative/Democratic http://
www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHRWZEnNvHA
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