Confirmation Parent Information Packet
2016-2017
Sacred Heart of Mary Catholic Church Confirmation Program
Sacred Heart of Mary
Confirmation Program
Welcome!
All of us Sacred Heart of Mary want to welcome you, your Confirmation candidate, and
your entire family to the Confirmation preparation process! This is an exciting time for your
Confirmation candidate within their faith journey! Your Confirmation candidate is now
embarking on the journey to own their faith and take the responsibilities of their own faith life
and to be a soldier for Christ!
With that being said we are here to help with that process as much as possible! We want
to make sure that we are providing all the necessary tools, experiences, and communication to
make this as meaningful of a process as possible. Please never hesitate to contact myself either
by phone call or email.
Within this packet, you will find various important pieces of information that you will
want to keep track of throughout the entire year. Please make sure you take the time to cover this
information with your Confirmation candidate and store it in a place where you both can locate
it. The following information will be covered:
- Confirmation Requirements Outlined
- Service Component Explained
- Retreats
- Saint presentation
- Confirmation Letter
- Confirmation Rehearsal
- How To Choose A Sponsor
- Celebration of Confirmation Information
- Forms
May the blessings of our loving Heavenly Father be poured out upon your candidate and
your entire family during this process. I am so excited to embark on this journey towards
Confirmation with each Candidate.
In Gratitude,
Lisa Oliver
Youth Director
303-499-7572, x209
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CONFIRMATION PREPARATION REQUIREMENTS
The Confirmation preparation process at Sacred Heart of Mary contains specific
elements in order to help the candidate experience as many aspects of faith as
possible. The elements of Confirmation preparation are as follows:
1. Attend Mass weekly
2. Substantial attendance in confirmation classes
3. 8 hours participation in group service project & complete Service Reflections
4. Attend 3 Parish Events at Sacred Heart of Mary
5. Attend a Sacred Heart of Mary sponsored retreat or youth conference
6. Write a Confirmation Letter of Intent
7. Choose a Confirmation Saint and prepare a short presentation about the Saint
8. Attend Confirmation Rehearsal
Please discuss these elements with your child in order to work together and plan
appropriately during the Confirmation process this year.
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MASS ATTENDANCE
What does it mean to “attend mass weekly”? As Catholics, we are to attend mass
every Sunday and holy days of obligation (CCC 2180). God created us for the
purpose to know, love and serve Him in this life and to be happy with Him forever
in the next. Because of this purpose which is written on our hearts, we are actually
only able to be satisfied by living it out.
In the Mass, God gives us the only thing that can truly “satisfy” us: His very self.
There are other ways we can encounter God such as prayer, reading the bible,
serving others. All of these, however, point to and enliven our reception of Jesus,
body, soul, and divinity, in the Eucharist. The Eucharist nourishes us spiritually by
uniting us with the risen Christ (CCC 1392).
Mass is the richest encounter we can have with God here on earth and helps fulfill
our core purpose: union with God. God also knows us and our needs better than
we even know ourselves and as such commands us to attend mass (3rd
Commandment).
No one will be taking attendance to make sure your son or daughter is attending
Mass. As a family, the parents set the example of how to live life as a Catholic.
The responsibility is on the parents to ensure that their child, God’s child,
understands the importance and blessing that Mass is for us.
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CONFIRMATION CLASS ATTENDANCE
WHAT IS “SUBSTANTIAL ATTENDANCE”:
• Confirmation class is held weekly. These classes are planned so that
the candidate receives basic instruction from the confirmation teacher.
Confirmation class is intended to assist the parents in their efforts to
catechize their child and help the parents prepare the candidate for
confirmation.
• “Substantial” means that the student with the parent’s assistance,
makes every effort to attend as many classes as possible. Of course
absences for illness, school sponsored events or a family emergency is
understandable. Homework, studying for tests and other school work
responsibilities are not a reason to miss class. Please plan ahead!
• If a class is missed, it is expected that the student and parent will
review all information and complete the workbook exercises prior to the
next class.
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COMMUNITY SERVICE & PARISH EVENTS
WHY COMMUNITY SERVICE WORK IS NECESSARY:
• Throughout Scripture we are called to love our neighbor and stand up for
justice as well as peace. Since service and justice are so important to
who we are as Catholic Christians, performing service work is essential
to our lives. Therefore, we ask that each candidate takes his/her service
projects seriously and as a priority.
• It is important to keep in mind that service to others isn’t something that
we do “to check it off our list”. Rather service is something we do
because we know that the presence of Jesus is in all persons and in all of
God’s creation. We literally serve Jesus!
HOW MUCH TIME IS NEEDED TO BE COMPLETED AND BY WHEN:
• Candidates are asked to perform 8 hours of service work and attend 3
parish events in the upcoming months.
o Within those 8 hours of service, candidates need to perform some of
the hours for the greater community that we live in and some of the
hours for the Sacred Heart of Mary parish community of which we
are a part.
o Candidates can choose to attend any 3 parish events. These events
can be found on our parish website, www.SacredHeartofMary.org,
on the homepage calendar. As specific parish events occur, you
can also find details under “Gather” on the website.
• Candidates are asked to complete their 8 hours of service work and
attend their 3 parish events by April 1, 2017. The Reflection journals
for both the service work and the parish events should be completed and
provided to the teacher by April 8, 2017.
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CONFIRMATION RETREAT
Confirmation Retreat Opportunities:
• There are 4 retreat options for candidates to participate in:
o NET Retreat
▪ January 2017 (date TBD)
o Mountain Madness (middle school students only)
▪ February 17-19, 2017
o Holy Week Retreat
▪ April 14-15, 2017
o Steubenville of the Rockies Youth Conference (high school
students only)
▪ June 23-25, 2017
Registration for Retreats:
When registration for a retreat opens, it will be online on the parish website,
www.SacredHeartofMary.org. I will also send out email reminders that registration
is open. Space is limited for each retreat. Timely registration is of the essence.
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CONFIRMATION LETTER OF INTENT
WHAT IS THE CONFIRMATION LETTER OF INTENT:
• Each candidate is asked to compose a letter at the end of the
Confirmation preparation journey to state their intent of wanting to be
confirmed in the Catholic Church. Within the letter, Confirmation
candidates should write what it is they have done to prepare for the
sacrament, why they want to receive the sacrament of Confirmation, and
what it is they are planning to do once they are confirmed to continue to
grow in their faith.
THE BASIC DETAILS:
• Candidates will address their letter to Fr. Cliff McMillan. The purpose
of the letter is to express their desire to be confirmed in the Catholic
Church.
• The Confirmation Letter of Intent will be due by March 15, 2017
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CONFIRMATION SAINT PRESENTATION
WHAT IS THE CONFIRMATION SAINT PRESENTATION:
• Each candidate is asked to prepare a short presentation about their
chosen Saint. For Confirmation, each student will choose a Saint of
which they will have their name as their Confirmation name (i.e. Saint
Teresa of Calcutta). Each student should give thoughtful consideration
in choosing their saint. A chosen Saint should be a person who the
student finds interesting and even inspirational. Someone to pray to and
to follow.
THE BASIC DETAILS:
• The Saint presentation needs 6 basic components:
o Name of the Saint
o Color photo of the Saint (nothing fancy - print from your
computer)
o Feast date
o Interesting information about the Saint’s life
o What they are the patron Saint of
o Why they chose their Saint and what lesson did they learn about
the Saint that they can follow.
• The Saint presentations will be January and February. Students will be
assigned the date of their presentation.
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CONFIRMATION REHEARSAL
Process of Scheduling the Confirmation Rehearsal Date:
• Once the Diocese assigns us our Confirmation date, we then schedule the
date for the Confirmation Rehearsal.
• Our goal is to have the Confirmation rehearsal the Saturday prior to
Confirmation (the day before). If Confirmation is on a Saturday, the
confirmation rehearsal will be that same morning.
• Sponsors are required to attend the Confirmation rehearsal so please plan
appropriately.
Who Needs To Attend The Rehearsal: • The Confirmation rehearsal will be held for candidates and their
sponsors. It is very important for both the candidates and their sponsor to
attend the rehearsal. A parent may stand in for the sponsor, only if the
sponsor is absolutely unable to attend the rehearsal. The parent or
sponsor must notify Lisa Oliver well in advance of the rehearsal if this is
the case.
What Will Happen At The Rehearsal: • The rehearsal will include: a reflection for candidates and sponsors, Rite
of Confirmation rehearsal, and confession for candidates. Sponsors may
also go to confession after all candidates have gone. We will be walking
through the Rite of Confirmation in order to familiarize the candidates
and sponsors with the roles they will play on the day of Confirmation.
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HOW TO CHOOSE A CONFIRMATION SPONSOR
The Confirmation sponsor must be chosen and the sponsor information form turned in by
December 1, 2016. The Eligibility certificate must then be turned in by January 24, 2017.
What Is A Sponsor:
• A sponsor is a person who encourages, assists, and walks the faith journey with a
Confirmation candidate to help them embrace, fall in love, and actively practice the
Catholic faith before and after Confirmation.
• The sponsor also presents the Candidate to the Bishop at the celebration of
Confirmation.
Who Can Be A Sponsor:
• Being a sponsor is a huge role and not just an honor or fancy name. The sponsor
must be an active, practicing Catholic who can be a role model for the Confirmation
Candidate. The ideal situation would be to choose one of your godparents from your
Baptism, providing that they meet all the guidelines. However, if your godparent is
someone you can’t choose to be your sponsor, then you want to ask someone who
you see as an example of a committed, practicing Catholic.
• If the sponsor cannot be at the Confirmation ceremony (i.e. they live in New York),
then a proxy will need to stand in for the sponsor. The proxy needs to meet all the
same requirements as the sponsor.
• The Catholic Church (per canon law) requires that a sponsor:
- May be either a man or woman. (Sponsor doesn’t have to be the same sex as
candidate.)
- May not be the parent of the candidate.
- Is a person who regularly comes to Sunday Mass & celebrates the sacraments.
- Must be at least 16 years old.
- If married, the marriage must be recognized by the Catholic church.
- Must be a fully initiated Roman Catholic (Baptized, has made First
Communion, and Confirmed).
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CELEBRATION OF THE SACRAMENT OF CONFIRMATION
Process of Scheduling A Date:
• Requested dates are submitted by Sacred Heart of Mary to the
Archdiocese in July.
• We then wait until the Archdiocese gives us our official date along with
the celebrant’s name (confirmation is not always performed by the
Archbishop).
• The requested dates for 2017 are as follows:
o April 22, 5:00 p.m. (rehearsal will be held the same morning)
o April 23, 11:00 a.m.
o April 30, 11:00 a.m.
o June 11, 11:00 a.m.
Celebration of Sacrament Date Notification:
• As soon as we receive information about our assigned date of
Confirmation, an email will be sent out notifying parents, candidates,
and sponsor of this date. Ensure that all contact forms are turned in to
avoid miscommunication due to missing email addresses (especially for
sponsors).
• This email will let the candidates and sponsors know what time they
need to meet in the Saint Bernard Hall to sign in, review duties, and
meet with the confirmation celebrant.
o The email will also contain information regarding the rehearsal.
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DRESS CODE FOR THE SACRAMENT OF CONFIRMATION
Ladies:
• Modest top with skirt or dress pants or modest dress
• Dress Shoes (please no flip-flops)
• Skirt/ dress must be below your fingertips or longer
o Tops/dresses must have sleeves- no strapless or spaghetti straps
please! If you have a sleeveless shirt or dress, you will need to
wear something over it to cover your shoulders such as a jacket,
sweater or shawl.
If you are unsure if an outfit is appropriate, either send Lisa
Oliver a picture of it or simply choose a different outfit.
Gentlemen:
• Dress pants
• Dress shirt with collar (tie preferred)
• Dress shoes
• No jeans, low riding pants, tennis shoes or t-shirts.
o If you are unsure if an outfit is appropriate, either send Lisa Oliver
a picture of it or simply choose a different outfit.
**We want to see you wearing your Sunday best!**
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FORMS
Deadlines:
Candidate Information Form – October 25, 2016
Sponsor Information Form – December 1, 2016
Sponsor Eligibility Certificate – January 24, 2017
Saint Presentation – February 28, 2017
Confirmation Letter of Intent – March 15, 2017
Service & Parish Event Reflections – April 8, 2017
Please review all the provided forms and return them by their
designated due date or earlier! All forms are available online,
www.SacredHeartofMary.org, under the Sacraments tab for
Confirmation.
Thanks so much!