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Be the Lighthouse:
Mindfully Guiding Students
through the Storm
-Dr. Greg Hungerford
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MY STORY…..
At times, I am a “Hot Mess”.
A life full of emotions & experiences.
With Mindfulness:
Curiosity & Playfulness
Authenticity & Presence
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Our Current State
Challenges of trauma in schools are real.
High stress impacts our intentions & actions.
Dysregulation can occur.
Impacts morale & health.
Mindfulness:
• Stress management and self-care.
• Awareness & noticing.
• Resilience & compassion can co-exist.
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My offering:
1. Why Mindfulness? Benefits.
2. What is Mindfulness?
3. Mindful Self-Awareness & Self-Care
4. Building Trauma-Informed Relationships with
Students that “Challenge” Us
5. Mindfully Guiding Students Through the Storm
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Your commitment…..
1. What resonates with you?
2. What are some “next steps” that you can consider per your work around Trauma Informed Care?
There will be many moments to reflect & share.Go only as deep as you choose. This is an offering.
REMEMBER- YOU ARE ENOUGH!
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Your STORY…..
Why are you here today?
What are your seeking?
For building your lighthouse.
To guide your students through the
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WHY Mindfulness. HAVE YOU EVER….
Said something ….
Felt the emotions of irritation, fear, or anger…
Felt nervous or anxious…
Been in a foul mood …
Felt like you need time to yourself…
-Adapted from Mindful Schools- Mindfulness Curriculum for Adolescents
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What’s Your Number?
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WE MAY FEEL:
Happier
Healthier
*Calmer
---Less anxious
---Less stressed
*Dr. Sam Himelstein
AND IT IS EASIER FOR US TO:
Attention/Focus
Emotional Regulation
Adaptability
Compassion
Resilience
Benefits of MINDFULNESS: Research suggests…
www.mindfulschools.org
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Mindful Schools: Benefits
Calming
“Breathing and other mindfulness practices relax
the body and mind, giving access
to peace independent of external
circumstances.”
Retrieved from Mindful Schools site:
https://www.mindfulschools.org/about-mindfulness/mindfulness-in-education/#benefits
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Mindfulness & Research
ACTION RESEARCH. YES!
Baseline data
Variables
Dr. Willoughby Britton
Brown University
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-Visual From Mindfulschools.org
-Dr. Dan Siegel
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Model of Therapeutics- Dr. Bruce Perry
“In a child who has experienced
chronic threats, the result is a
brain that exists in a persisting state of fear.” Perry, Bruce D. & Hambrick, E. P. (2008). The Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics. In Reclaiming
children and youth. Fall 2008 volume 17, number 3/43.
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Interoception & Neuroception
Interoception allows us to answer the question, “How do I feel?”. And then take action.
-Mahler, K. (2019). What is Interoception? Retrieved from https://www.kelly-mahler.com/what-is-interoception/
Neuroception is how neural circuits distinguish whether situations or people are safe, dangerous, or life threatening.
- Dr. Stephen Porges in The Polyvagal Theory
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Model of Therapeutics- Dr. Bruce Perry
Dissociation & Hypervigilance can become core adaptions for the child who has experienced trauma.
These reactions become entrenched over time.
Maladaptive & HIGHLY influential preconscious memories form & shape a child's feelings, thoughts, and actions.
Repetitive interventions are vital to supporting the student.
Perry, Bruce D. & Hambrick, E. P. (2008). The Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics. In Reclaiming children and youth. Fall 2008 volume 17, number 3/43.
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Model of Therapeutics- Dr. Bruce Perry
“An example of a repetitive intervention is positive, nurturing interactions with trustworthy peers, teachers, and caregivers, especially for neglected children who have not had enough neural stimulation to develop the capacity to bond with others.”
Perry, Bruce D. & Hambrick, E. P. (2008). The Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics. In Reclaiming children and youth. Fall 2008 volume 17, number 3/43.
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Model of Therapeutics- Dr. Bruce Perry
“Ideally the care of the maltreated child must extend to every influential person the child encounters.”
Perry, Bruce D. & Hambrick, E. P. (2008). The Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics. In Reclaiming children and youth. Fall 2008 volume 17, number 3/43.
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Mindful Schools
“The Nervous System
is the Intervention.”
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Core Practices for Adults
Adults who are regulated.
Offering for Students
Students with tools for life.
Mindfulness
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What one or two words…or a phrase comes to mind about what you are thinking?
Key word/phrase
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What is Mindfulness…
EVENT (Activate) ˃˃˃EMOTION ˃˃˃THOUGHT ˃˃˃ACTION/WORDS
In between each, we have “space” to notice without judgement.
And BE SKILLFUL and WISE.
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Let’s Practice. GO EASY…. On yourself…
CONSIDER YOUR TRAUMA LENS/EXPERIENCES
1.What happens at work that is difficult?2.What does this struggle look like and
sound like? Feel like?3.What is your usual reaction?4.What could you do as an alternative?
Start small. Learn the skill…and then move to next step. (ATTENTION SIGNAL)
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Mindfulness…Let’s Practice.
First, there is an EVENT that activates our
brain and nervous system.
(Ex-Student makes a rude comment.)
How About you? Think/reflect.
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For your consideration…..Labeling/Naming
You can initiate awareness and noticing.
BRAIN SWITCH
• USEFUL/NOT USEFUL
• Types of Thoughts- Fear, Anger, Frustration,
Sadness
• Sensations in Mind/Body- Hot, Stomach,
Head, Heat
Scott, E. (2018). How to Use Labeling Thoughts as a Mindfulness Meditation Technique. Retrieved from
https://www.verywellmind.com/mindfulness-meditation-technique-labeling-thoughts-3144768
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Mindfulness…Let’s Practice.
Next, an EMOTION arises within us.
It builds up in our body/nervous system and in the brain.
(Ex-Anger or frustration towards this student)
How About you? Think/reflect.
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For your consideration…Grounding & Orientation (OUT)
Focus on physical attributes of
environment/setting.
This can be colors, shapes, objects, sounds,
and touch.
Roam your eyes across the horizon….
-Mindful Schools - Dr. David Treleaven in Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness. -Chris McKenna
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Mindfulness…Let’s Practice.
A conscious or unconscious THOUGHTthen results.
(Ex- “What the…..How dare that student!”)
How About you? Think/reflect.
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For your consideration…Deep Breathing.
Attuning your nervous system.
“Those things that happen when you are
stressed, such as increased heart rate, fast
breathing, and high blood pressure, all
decrease as you breathe deeply to relax.”
LET’S Practice- Three Tier BreathWebMd. (2016). Stress Management Health Center. Retrieved from http://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/stress-
management-breathing-exercises-for-relaxation
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Mindfulness…Let’s Practice.
From this thought, we quite often move into WORDS/ACTIONS.
(Ex-We may lash out, shut down or reprimand the student in anger or frustration.)
How About you? Think/reflect.
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Are You Aware?
How do your non-verbals and emotions impact what students may think about your intentions?
How does your tone and volume towards students impact their response to your directions/comments?
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For your consideration…LOW
LOW
Lower the volume and pitch of your
voice
Keep a matter of fact tone
regardless of the situation
Speak in short sentences without a
lot of questions
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For your consideration…SLOW
SLOW
Slow down your rate of speech and
make sure to pause between
sentences
Slow down your body movements
Slow down your “agenda” and take
your time
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For your consideration…LOW & SLOW
Remember Your KEY WORD(s)/Skills
Be Authentic
Listen
Be Kind to Yourself
Safety, Felt Connections,
& Managing Emotions Put out the Fire.
-Dr. Howard Bath Not Fuel It. PLEASE.
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-Mindful Schools
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What one or two
words…or a phrase
comes to mind about what
you are thinking?
Key word/phrase
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SELF-AWARENESS TO SELF-CARE
We can begin to simply notice/be aware.
We can then employ mindfulness
to make “changes” as needed.
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Celebrations- What’s Going Well?
Mindfulness is about noticing what is going well in our lives & our work in schools. We do our best to be:
Grateful
Thankful
For the BIG and SMALL stuff.
Reflect….
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SOAKING UP THE GOOD - Dr. Rick Hanson
Negativity Bias
* Heartfulness
* Noticing the “positives”.
AND Soak it up! Let’s Practice….
(Eyes Open or Closed-Take It Easy)
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Self-Care is Linked to Self-Awareness
Are you taking care of yourself ?The BIG 3:
Eating Sleeping Exercise
KEY factors that we can control.
Supports our ability to regulate our
brain and body (nervous system).
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Set Your Boundaries….
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What one or two
words…or a phrase
comes to mind about what
you are thinking?
Key word/phrase
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Building Trauma-Informed Relationships
with Students that “Challenge” Us.
“Children must have at least one person
who believes in them. It could be a
counselor, a teacher, a preacher, a friend.
It could be you. You never know when a
little love, a little support will plant a small
seed of hope.”
– Marian Wright Edelman
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Mindful Exercise
Reflect on your current state of mind or belief around how to create and nurture fulfilling student relationships.
1. What emotions and/or actions do you engage in that draw students to you?
2. What emotions and/or actions do you engage in that perhaps alienate you from building positive student relationships?
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Mindful Listening
Think about a conversation you had recently with
a student who is struggling…
• Were you really listening?
• Were you thinking of what you were going to
say next?
• Were you authentically present?
QUICK SHARE: WHAT does listening mean to you?
What has to happen with your mind and body to
really listen?
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Mindfulness and Trauma
THE MOMENT YOU WALK INTO THE SCHOOL AND THE CLASSROOM
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Mindfulness and Trauma
Your internal chatter impacts your thoughts,
moods and actions/words.
Stress ExhaustionReactive & Toxic
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Mindfulness and Trauma
We can choose to be present & set aside our
story/ego.
Listen Discovery Authentic
Presence
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Skillful Awareness and Mindful Actions/Words
We can be: patient instead of demanding. kind instead of angry. playful or humorous instead of sarcastic.
Students need us to be consistent and fair in our actions.
TRUST and SAFETY ARE KEY.
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What Are Your Intentions?
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SO….Check in VERSUS Checking out.
Mindful awareness allows us to check in with our internal state. We can then:
Be intentional about the values we are trying to model during difficult situations.
Tell students in our own way that we are concerned about them.
Let them know when they are stepping over the line and still humanize them while doing so. This is caring.
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Consistency and Caring: Our invitation
Share in a direct and decent manner.
These verbal & non-verbal messages can come from the heart.
We let students know that we can support them during difficult moments. We do so in different ways.
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High-Performance Staff & Student Relationships
“Teachers who forge high-performance
relationships care for their students while
simultaneously pressing them to excel….
These teachers provide their students with
strong guidance (both academically and
behaviourally), while also nurturing
personal responsibility and self-regulation.”
What Everyone Needs to Know About High-Performance, Teacher Student Relationships. (n.d.) Retrieved from http://www.evidencebasedteaching.org.au/crash-course-evidence-based-teaching/teacher-student-relationships/
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Putting Coins in the Relationship Bank
With patience and authenticity, our sharing and relationship building takes “hold”. We:
“catch” students doing the right thing.
spend time just getting to know students without conditions.
notice their hobbies, interests, and passions.
We do so without judgement. And…………..
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With LOVE. And More LOVE!
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Your commitment…..
1. What is resonating with you?
2. What are some “next steps”
that you are considering?
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Mindfully Guiding Students Through the Storm
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THANK YOU!!!!This Work YOU DO is NOT easy.
BUT it is SO IMPORTANT.
YOU DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
REMEMBER- YOU ARE ENOUGH!
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PRESENTATION BY…..
oDr. Greg Hungerford
o Social, Emotional & Behavioral Effective Practice Specialist (SEB-EPS)
o Special School District of St. Louis County